And Esabod Cried

Today, for the first time, I find myself writing about Mama Esabod (Madam Tokunbo Aboderin).

I saw her cry, and it moved me deeply. It brought tears to my own eyes.

Behind the bold, outspoken persona that many see is a woman who had to fight really hard to be heard.

Her tears peeled back the layers, revealing years of oppression, lack, and the struggle to find her voice in a world that often silences women like her.

I’m not a fan; just an observer. But what I take from this moment is a quiet truth: everyone has a story. Life hasn’t been fair to many, and people adopt different survival tactics just to rise from the rubble.

May God help us.

Esabod World News #esabod #highlights #everyone #women

The Marriage Advice .

1. **Choose Love, Always:** Even in moments when you find it hard to like each other, choose to love. Love is a commitment, not just a feeling.

2. **Be Present:** Always answer the phone when your spouse calls. When you're together, try to keep your phone off, giving each other your full attention.

3. **Prioritize Time Together:** Make time with your spouse a top priority. Budget for regular date nights because time is the currency of relationships, and investing in your marriage is key.

4. **Surround Yourself with Support:** Keep company with friends who strengthen your marriage. Distance yourself from those who might tempt you to compromise your character.

5. **Laugh Together:** Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share joyful moments, and even in tough times, find reasons to laugh together.

6. **Team Up in Arguments:** In every disagreement, remember that you’re on the same team. There’s no winner or loser; you either win together or lose together. Work as partners to find solutions.

7. **Be Each Other’s Strength:** A strong marriage isn’t about both being strong at the same time. It’s about taking turns being strong for each other when one of you feels weak.

8. **Value Intimacy:** Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. While a strong marriage takes more than s=x, it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. **Give 100%, Not 50/50:** Marriage isn’t about splitting everything down the middle. Divorce is 50/50; marriage is 100/100, with both partners giving their all.

10. **Give Your Best:** Offer your best self to each other, not just the leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

11. **Embrace Uniqueness:** Learn from others, but resist comparing your marriage to anyone else’s. Your life is uniquely yours.

12. **Don’t Put Marriage on Hold:** Don’t neglect your marriage while raising your kids, or you might end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

13. **Be Transparent:** Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

14. **Build Trust:** Never lie to each other. Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage, and lies will break it.

15. **Admit Mistakes:** When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and seek forgiveness humbly. Be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

16. **Forgive Quickly:** When trust is broken, be quick to forgive. This promotes healing and opens the door for trust to be rebuilt. Say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

17. **Practice Patience:** Your spouse is more important than your schedule. Be patient with each other.

18. **Model Love for Your Children:** Live the kind of marriage that inspires your sons to be good husbands and your daughters to be good wives.

19. **Protect Your Spouse:** Never speak badly about your spouse to others or vent about them online. Always protect them, in all places and at all times.

20. **Wear Your Ring:** Your wedding ring is a constant reminder that you’re connected to your spouse and that you’re off-limits to the rest of the world.

21. **Connect to Faith:** Being part of a faith community can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

22. **Pray Together:** A marriage is stronger with God at its center. Pray together regularly.

23. **Choose Kindness:** If you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, choose to say nothing every time.

24. **Stay Committed:** Never consider annulment as an option. A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

What no one told me about marriage before I enter that I want to tell you.

This is for those planning to marry or those who just got married.
If you are open-minded, you can still read.
Nobody knows it all.

1. Immediately you get married, even before having a baby, go and register your family for health insurance.
NHIS is one of the common ones and the most available in hospitals.
It will save you a lot.
There are some things the rich won’t tell you.
With NHIS, you can walk into any hospital and get treated cheap depending on the package.
A friend of mine once did an operation and all he paid was ₦10k something that would have cost ₦400k.

2. Have a family doctor very very important.
See, no church will tell you this.
Even if you don’t have money for a family doctor, have someone you can call in case of emergency.
Especially a pediatrician when you start having kids.

3. Also, have a family lawyer.
Recently, our family lawyer saved us over ₦500k in rent that I wanted to forfeit.
But because she stepped in and did her job, money was refunded seamlessly.

4. If you can afford it, have at least one domestic staff.
Someone that can at least help ease the work in the house for you and madam.
My brother, ejiro kwa afufu anya isi.
Get help if you can.

5. Buy things in bulk.
The reason I live like a wealthy man today is because I buy everything I need down to toothpaste in bulk.
You spend more buying in bits than when you buy in bulk.
That’s one of the reasons I created my sharing platform to enable family men and women with common goals.
There is nothing we don’t share. Some of you reading this are in that group.

6. Pay your children’s school fees before school resumes.
As I’m talking to you now, I’ve already sent SGM the kids’ school fees that’ll be paid in September.
I don’t have to worry about it again.
It helps me plan myself.
Do everything possible to pay school fees before resumption. You won’t know what you’re doing until money goes on leave from your side.

7. Strive to have passive income.
Something that can generate at least ₦3-5k every day.
No matter what try and get something like that.
It will save you from a lot of stress.

8. See the friends and circle your kids will have tomorrow everything depends on the school they attend.
This one is very, very important.
Even if you don’t have money, find a way to send your children to one of the best schools.
You won’t realise what you’re doing until they come of age.

9.I learnt this one from my dad always have family meetings.
You, your wife, and your kids no matter how small they are.
Discuss problems, solutions, and way forward.
Allow the kids air their opinions.

Ask the kids:
Is there something mummy and daddy are doing that they don’t like?

Same thing with your wife.
Talk about what you both can do to have a stable and loving family.
This helps in uniting the family.

Every month is fine or even every 6 months.
Just make it a habit and a culture.
It’ll become a memory that sticks for the kids, and for you and madam too.

Everyone’s opinion in the family matters.
And as the man, it’s your job to hear everybody’s opinion and choose the best way to run the family.

This isn’t just for the man alone madam can initiate it too. There’s no perfect formula, yes. But this one I listed? It works every time.
I repeat if you try it, you’ll save yourself a lot of unnecessary headache and stress.
You can add yours... enjoy your weekend.

*Pls, I want a very sincere answer to this puzzle: WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE?*

*A woman abandoned her husband & her four (4) year old son for her rich boyfriend & they both (woman & boy friend) eventually travelled to the U.S.A.*

*Out of frustration & desperation the husband went & married another woman.*

*Unfortunately the 2nd woman couldn't bear a child for the husband.*

*Despite her inability to bear a child, the 2nd woman took great care of the boy & treated him like her own son.*

*Few years later, the husband died in a car accident.*

*The 2nd wife did everything in her power to educate the boy, she engaged in petty trade such as pepper, Maggie, salt, palm oil, onion, tomatoes, etc. in the market square in order to sponsor the boy's schooling.*

*The boy only knew his step mother as his real mother & there4, he called her Mama.*

*The real mother in the U.S.A did not for once find out about the wellbeing of her son thoughtless of sending a penny for the boy, even after she heard that her x-husband (son's father) died in an accident.*

*Some years later, this boy grew up into a very intelligent young man waiting for his B.Eng. (Hons) degree in Petroleum Engineering from the University.*

*The real mother who also could not bear another child in the U.S since she eloped with her boyfriend, realized that she had made a terrible mistake by abandoning her own son.*

*She decided to return home to look for her son & present to him all her wealth acquired over the years in the States.*

*She eventually found her son battling between life & death in the hospital due to kidney failure.*

*The Doctors demanded huge amount of money for the operation & the step mother couldn't afford it.*

*The real mother stepped in & paid all the hospital bills & donated one of her own kidneys & the son was saved.*

*Shortly after, the final results were out the son got a distinction & also got a five year (5) scholarship to pursue his Masters and PhD degrees in the U.K.*

*At the presentation of the certificate, the Vice Chancellor gave the mic to the son to call his mother to come up stage & receive the certificate.*

*The moment the Vice Chancellor made the statement, the real mother got up & arranged herself waiting to be called upon whilst the step mother sat down & looked at the boy with tears running her chick.*

*The answer is suspended..........*

*Assuming you are the son, who would you call on up stage?*

A) *Real Mother*
B) *Step Mother*

*Remember only one person you should call. I need your answers and if you can't then pass it around for more answers......* *Step mother? or Real mother?*

A cheating husband wanted to find out if
his wife knew about his unfaithfulness to her.

One night he asked her

“Darling, can a woman know if her
husband is cheating on her?”

She replied

“Yes of course”

Surprised and with his heart fast beating in a most uncomfortable way he asked

“But how will she know?”

“Well” said his wife “There are many ways....

If she keep finding hotel receipts in his
pocket each time she take his clothes to the laundry and lipstick mark on his shirt, if he keep coming home late nights” etc

He breathed a sigh of relief because none of this applied to him.

The following morning, he was ready to go to work but couldn't find his car key where he normally kept it,

“Honey, did you please see my car key?”

“Yes” replied his wife “Junior was playing with it so I kept it in the drawer” he went to the drawer, open it and found the car key but something else were there too, many hotel receipts, same hotel he normally take his women to, he couldn't believe it,

“My wife has found all these hotel receipts in my pockets, how on earth have I been careless with this receipts?

I can't believe she knew about my unfaithfulness to her yet kept quiet, my God I am done”.

Hurriedly and shamefully without saying 'Bye' to his wife he left the house.

At the office he couldn't concentrate on his work,

“I have been fooling around thinking my wife never knew about my relationships with other women”.

He decided to text his wife and apologize but just then his phone rang, his wife was calling, as he picked up the phone, the worst happened.

END OF PART 1

Sadly there's no part 2 and nothing
happened, I was just bored and decided to write this🥹

What no one told me about marriage before I enter that I want to tell you.

This is for those planning to marry or those who just got married.
If you are open-minded, you can still read.
Nobody knows it all.

1. Immediately you get married, even before having a baby, go and register your family for health insurance.
NHIS is one of the common ones and the most available in hospitals.
It will save you a lot.
There are some things the rich won’t tell you.
With NHIS, you can walk into any hospital and get treated cheap depending on the package.
A friend of mine once did an operation and all he paid was ₦10k something that would have cost ₦400k.

2. Have a family doctor very very important.
See, no church will tell you this.
Even if you don’t have money for a family doctor, have someone you can call in case of emergency.
Especially a pediatrician when you start having kids.

3. Also, have a family lawyer.
Recently, our family lawyer saved us over ₦500k in rent that I wanted to forfeit.
But because she stepped in and did her job, money was refunded seamlessly.

4. If you can afford it, have at least one domestic staff.
Someone that can at least help ease the work in the house for you and madam.
My brother, ejiro kwa afufu anya isi.
Get help if you can.

5. Buy things in bulk.
The reason I live like a wealthy man today is because I buy everything I need down to toothpaste in bulk.
You spend more buying in bits than when you buy in bulk.
That’s one of the reasons I created my sharing platform to enable family men and women with common goals.
There is nothing we don’t share. Some of you reading this are in that group.

6. Pay your children’s school fees before school resumes.
As I’m talking to you now, I’ve already sent SGM the kids’ school fees that’ll be paid in September.
I don’t have to worry about it again.
It helps me plan myself.
Do everything possible to pay school fees before resumption. You won’t know what you’re doing until money goes on leave from your side.

7. Strive to have passive income.
Something that can generate at least ₦3-5k every day.
No matter what try and get something like that.
It will save you from a lot of stress.

8. See the friends and circle your kids will have tomorrow everything depends on the school they attend.
This one is very, very important.
Even if you don’t have money, find a way to send your children to one of the best schools.
You won’t realise what you’re doing until they come of age.

9.I learnt this one from my dad always have family meetings.
You, your wife, and your kids no matter how small they are.
Discuss problems, solutions, and way forward.
Allow the kids air their opinions.

Ask the kids:
Is there something mummy and daddy are doing that they don’t like?

Same thing with your wife.
Talk about what you both can do to have a stable and loving family.
This helps in uniting the family.

Every month is fine or even every 6 months.
Just make it a habit and a culture.
It’ll become a memory that sticks for the kids, and for you and madam too.

Everyone’s opinion in the family matters.
And as the man, it’s your job to hear everybody’s opinion and choose the best way to run the family.

This isn’t just for the man alone madam can initiate it too. There’s no perfect formula, yes. But this one I listed? It works every time.
I repeat if you try it, you’ll save yourself a lot of unnecessary headache and stress.
You can add yours... enjoy your weekend.

Where can I find those families that say,
“Take this $2m and stay away from our son”

To the Leadership of University of Calabar

For students who have invested 7-8 years of their lives, many now in their final year, this directive to withdraw is not just disheartening; it is deeply unjust.

Education is a contract built on trust: when a student commits time, effort, and money, the institution must keep its end of the bargain. These students did not over-admit themselves. They did not set the quotas. They did not create this crisis. These actions are of the school!

It is unfair and frankly unacceptable to push the burden of a broken system onto young people who have only done what they were told would secure their future.

I hope the University of Calabar rethinks this decision and finds a fair solution that doesn’t dump the weight on young people who’ve already given so much.

Let’s do better. These students and Nigeria deserve better.

Nigeria depends on the strength of its institutions.
~@aproko_doctor
#SurvivingDentistryInUNICAL

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