• At a mechanic’s workshop, I noticed a particular car that had been parked there for nearly four years. It was quite expensive and still looked in good shape the first time I saw it. But with time, it began to deteriorate. One of the windows got broken, the tyres deflated and wore out completely, and rust slowly crept over what was once a beautiful machine.

    Curious, I asked the mechanic why such an expensive vehicle had been left to rot.

    He confirmed that the car had indeed been in perfect condition when I first saw it. But even he had become helpless as to what to do. The vehicle belonged to someone from the Republic of Tchad. The man’s driver had been the one bringing it into Nigeria for repairs. On that last occasion, the driver dropped it off, paid for the repairs, and returned to Tchad, saying he would come back to collect the car once the required part being sourced from Lagos was fixed.

    The mechanic bought the part, fixed the car, and waited. He had already been paid. But the driver never came back. It turned out he had been on his way to pick up the car when he was attacked by insurgents and killed. The mechanic didn’t know much about him, only his name, and had no idea where exactly in Tchad he was from. So the car remained there, abandoned. The owner likely has no idea where it is or how to recover it.

    At a certain car wash, there was another case. Another expensive vehicle. This one had been brought in by a customer who patronised them occasionally. They didn’t know much about him either. He lived in another city but always came for business, and each time, he brought the car to be washed.

    On his last visit, he dropped it off as usual and said he was going into town and would return later that evening. He never did. That was three years ago. Still, no sign of him. The car wash owner continues to wash and maintain the vehicle daily, keeping it spotless. But no one has come for it. They didn’t even know his name, and a search of the vehicle turned up no documents that could trace it to anyone. So, it remains abandoned.

    Just last week, a friend of mine died after a brief illness. Before falling sick, he had taken some clothes to the laundry. He never returned to collect them. Thankfully, the laundryman knew his family and brought the clothes to his wife last night. She had no idea he had even taken anything to be laundered.

    These situations made me think deeply.

    Do our families and friends know the people we deal with, our mechanics, our laundrymen, or the businesses we patronise? Do we tell them about the errands we run or the transactions we make? Or do we go about our lives with no one aware of the little details that might matter in the end?

    Shouldn’t someone at least know?

    One day, you will take your car to the mechanic but you will not be the one to bring it back.
    Your clothes will be at the laundry but you will not return to pick them up.
    Do you have some pieces or parcels of land? Does your family know about them?
    Do you have house or houses any where? Does your family know about it or them?
    How many banks do you
    have accounts in?
    Does your family know about all of them?

    Sometimes, the things you worked hard for, the things you loved and valued, will be left lying somewhere, useless and out of reach, because no one knew where you kept them or how to find them. That should be enough to give one the creeps and make one think deeply. Today, tomorrow, it shall come for you.

    One day......

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    At a mechanic’s workshop, I noticed a particular car that had been parked there for nearly four years. It was quite expensive and still looked in good shape the first time I saw it. But with time, it began to deteriorate. One of the windows got broken, the tyres deflated and wore out completely, and rust slowly crept over what was once a beautiful machine. Curious, I asked the mechanic why such an expensive vehicle had been left to rot. He confirmed that the car had indeed been in perfect condition when I first saw it. But even he had become helpless as to what to do. The vehicle belonged to someone from the Republic of Tchad. The man’s driver had been the one bringing it into Nigeria for repairs. On that last occasion, the driver dropped it off, paid for the repairs, and returned to Tchad, saying he would come back to collect the car once the required part being sourced from Lagos was fixed. The mechanic bought the part, fixed the car, and waited. He had already been paid. But the driver never came back. It turned out he had been on his way to pick up the car when he was attacked by insurgents and killed. The mechanic didn’t know much about him, only his name, and had no idea where exactly in Tchad he was from. So the car remained there, abandoned. The owner likely has no idea where it is or how to recover it. At a certain car wash, there was another case. Another expensive vehicle. This one had been brought in by a customer who patronised them occasionally. They didn’t know much about him either. He lived in another city but always came for business, and each time, he brought the car to be washed. On his last visit, he dropped it off as usual and said he was going into town and would return later that evening. He never did. That was three years ago. Still, no sign of him. The car wash owner continues to wash and maintain the vehicle daily, keeping it spotless. But no one has come for it. They didn’t even know his name, and a search of the vehicle turned up no documents that could trace it to anyone. So, it remains abandoned. Just last week, a friend of mine died after a brief illness. Before falling sick, he had taken some clothes to the laundry. He never returned to collect them. Thankfully, the laundryman knew his family and brought the clothes to his wife last night. She had no idea he had even taken anything to be laundered. These situations made me think deeply. Do our families and friends know the people we deal with, our mechanics, our laundrymen, or the businesses we patronise? Do we tell them about the errands we run or the transactions we make? Or do we go about our lives with no one aware of the little details that might matter in the end? Shouldn’t someone at least know? One day, you will take your car to the mechanic but you will not be the one to bring it back. Your clothes will be at the laundry but you will not return to pick them up. Do you have some pieces or parcels of land? Does your family know about them? Do you have house or houses any where? Does your family know about it or them? How many banks do you have accounts in? Does your family know about all of them? Sometimes, the things you worked hard for, the things you loved and valued, will be left lying somewhere, useless and out of reach, because no one knew where you kept them or how to find them. That should be enough to give one the creeps and make one think deeply. Today, tomorrow, it shall come for you. One day...... Copied
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  • I really don’t like a private relationship. I find it strange to not love your partner out loud. No posts, no flirting in the comments, you don’t like or repost their stuff. Little stuff like that. I don’t know, I just don’t like that.
    I really don’t like a private relationship. I find it strange to not love your partner out loud. No posts, no flirting in the comments, you don’t like or repost their stuff. Little stuff like that. I don’t know, I just don’t like that.
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  • SUNDAY 13TH JULY 2025
    PST NINA BRIGGS
    TITLE: IS YOUR LIGHT STILL ON

    Gen 1:1-5
    Verse 3 And God said let there be light. When light came, order and structure came.

    Matt 5:13-16
    Verse 14
    Three levels of responsibility.

    Reality
    Role
    Revelation.

    Light as a reality- we become new creations in Him. We begin to display Christ in us.
    Light is my reality. Every other thing is fiction.
    Whenever I am functioning in darkness, I am defrauding myself.

    Role:
    2nd level is responsibility to my fellow man.
    When you fail at the 2nd level, you are denying God the glory that us due him.

    Revelation:
    Light as a Revelation. Gen 39:8-12
    Verse 9 - and sin against my God.
    Light as a responsibility to God.
    I'm our daily life, we need to be at the level of not sinning against God.
    We must have a why (A reason) in everything we do.
    Light is very important.
    We all go into unsupervised spaces. Who you are in secret is who you really are.
    At any point of challenges, your responsibility is to God.
    Everything you do at the core of it is God.
    Your primary audience is am I pleasing God.
    If God be God then let God be God in your life.
    How can I do this wicked thing and sin against my God.
    Light applies to everyone. It has nothing to do with segregated generations. It applies to all young and old.
    If you do not have a why, you light will die.
    The spirit reveals to you when you are about to cross the line.
    Close with
    Gen 1:3and 4
    Matt 5:13 - You are the light of the World. I am the light of the World.
    Wherever you find yourself, let there be Light (Abdul-Nasser ) put your name.

    May God bless his Servant Pst Nina Briggs.
    SUNDAY 13TH JULY 2025 PST NINA BRIGGS TITLE: IS YOUR LIGHT STILL ON Gen 1:1-5 Verse 3 And God said let there be light. When light came, order and structure came. Matt 5:13-16 Verse 14 Three levels of responsibility. Reality Role Revelation. Light as a reality- we become new creations in Him. We begin to display Christ in us. Light is my reality. Every other thing is fiction. Whenever I am functioning in darkness, I am defrauding myself. Role: 2nd level is responsibility to my fellow man. When you fail at the 2nd level, you are denying God the glory that us due him. Revelation: Light as a Revelation. Gen 39:8-12 Verse 9 - and sin against my God. Light as a responsibility to God. I'm our daily life, we need to be at the level of not sinning against God. We must have a why (A reason) in everything we do. Light is very important. We all go into unsupervised spaces. Who you are in secret is who you really are. At any point of challenges, your responsibility is to God. Everything you do at the core of it is God. Your primary audience is am I pleasing God. If God be God then let God be God in your life. How can I do this wicked thing and sin against my God. Light applies to everyone. It has nothing to do with segregated generations. It applies to all young and old. If you do not have a why, you light will die. The spirit reveals to you when you are about to cross the line. Close with Gen 1:3and 4 Matt 5:13 - You are the light of the World. I am the light of the World. Wherever you find yourself, let there be Light (Abdul-Nasser ) put your name. May God bless his Servant Pst Nina Briggs.
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  • **Smith Wigglesworth – “Apostle of Faith”**

    **Early Transformation & First Miracle**

    Now, there was a time when Smith Wigglesworth was quite busy with his plumbing tools in Leeds, where the pipes would creak and leak, just like the conversations in the neighborhood. But amidst all that hustle, he found himself drawn to healing meetings. It was a curious affair indeed! One day, his dear wife Polly, who had been struggling with a chronic ailment, experienced what can only be described as a miraculous healing. This unexpected turn of events set Smith on a path of faith that would change everything, leading him directly into the heart of healing ministry.

    Imagine this: during a meeting one evening, the regular pastor was absent, and our dear Smith thought it fitting to take the stage. With a nervous heart and a stuttered sermon, he somehow found his voice and—lo and behold!—fifteen people were healed right then and there. You could say it fanned the flames of his passion for this miraculous work!

    **Baptism in the Spirit**

    Now, fast forward to 1907, where Smith, with wide eyes and an eager spirit, stumbled into a peculiar Pentecostal gathering in Sunderland. With a few enthusiastic questions about “tongues” (not the type you find in a good meal, mind you), he was promptly shown the door. But did that stop him? Not at all! After a heartfelt prayer in the speaker’s wife’s living room, he found himself speaking in tongues—a thrilling escapade back to that meeting, where fifty souls were filled with the Spirit. Quite the show, I’d say!

    **Miraculous Healings & Spiritual Confrontations**

    Now, there are stories, and then there are stories! One particularly remarkable episode involved a young woman on the brink of death from consumption. Smith, full of determination and perhaps a dash of desperation, prayed over her for four whole hours. Suddenly, a vision of Jesus appeared to him, and wouldn’t you know it? The young lady sprang back to life, resuming her piano playing that very morning as if nothing had happened!

    And then there was Mitchell, a man at death’s door. Sadly, when Smith arrived, it seemed Mitchell had taken the ultimate plunge. But Smith wasn’t one to take a loss quietly; he boldly commanded death to release him. To everyone’s surprise, Mitchell revived and went on to recover as well! Talk about a scene straight out of a play!

    Now, Smith had an unconventional approach—he believed in hitting the afflicted parts of the body, claiming he was “hitting the devil, not them.” Well, if you ask me, it’s quite a daring way to send sickness packing!

    **Trials of Faith & Physical Ailments**

    In a rather self-assured manner, our Smith vowed never to take medicine. But life had other plans, and when appendicitis struck with a vengeance, doctors considered his case hopeless. With a commanding spirit, he once again told the “devil” to leave, and lo! He was healed instantly, returning to work the very next day, tools in hand.

    Smith faced a long battle with kidney stones, sciatica, and eventually a stroke. Despite the pain, he believed these trials were like fine clay molding him for greater things. And you know, he didn’t let a little discomfort keep him from ministering across the globe!

    **Public Campaigns & Legacy**

    From the bustling streets of the U.K. to the wide-open skies of Australia, Smith took his ministry far and wide. Stories of blind eyes opening, crippled legs walking, and cancers disappearing became the tales that traveled with him. In 1937, while in South Africa, he even prophesied a grand revival, telling David du Plessis, “the day I pass away, then you can begin to think about it.” Such confidence!

    **Final Moments & Death**

    On the 12th of March, 1947, while attending the funeral of his friend Wilf Richardson, Smith had an unexpected final act—he collapsed and bid goodbye to the earthly stage, continuing to preach until the very end! A grand finale, one might say.

    At his funeral, he left behind four guiding principles for those who remained:

    1. Read God’s Word.
    2. Let it consume you.
    3. Believe it.
    4. Act on it.

    His voice still echoes in the hearts of many within the Pentecostal and charismatic communities.

    ---

    **Summary of Key Exploits**

    Smith's legacy is dotted with miraculous healings—tumors, tuberculosis, and even those pesky appendicitis troubles. Some even say he managed to resurrect loved ones, a claim that made more than a few heads turn.

    His spirit-led and confrontational approach—casting out tricky spirits through audacious prayer—stands as a testament to his unwavering faith. Despite battling illness, he thrived in service and inspired many. And let’s not forget his prophecies of future revivals, which many credit in shaping the charismatic movements.
    **Smith Wigglesworth – “Apostle of Faith”** 🎯 **Early Transformation & First Miracle** Now, there was a time when Smith Wigglesworth was quite busy with his plumbing tools in Leeds, where the pipes would creak and leak, just like the conversations in the neighborhood. But amidst all that hustle, he found himself drawn to healing meetings. It was a curious affair indeed! One day, his dear wife Polly, who had been struggling with a chronic ailment, experienced what can only be described as a miraculous healing. This unexpected turn of events set Smith on a path of faith that would change everything, leading him directly into the heart of healing ministry. Imagine this: during a meeting one evening, the regular pastor was absent, and our dear Smith thought it fitting to take the stage. With a nervous heart and a stuttered sermon, he somehow found his voice and—lo and behold!—fifteen people were healed right then and there. You could say it fanned the flames of his passion for this miraculous work! 🔥 **Baptism in the Spirit** Now, fast forward to 1907, where Smith, with wide eyes and an eager spirit, stumbled into a peculiar Pentecostal gathering in Sunderland. With a few enthusiastic questions about “tongues” (not the type you find in a good meal, mind you), he was promptly shown the door. But did that stop him? Not at all! After a heartfelt prayer in the speaker’s wife’s living room, he found himself speaking in tongues—a thrilling escapade back to that meeting, where fifty souls were filled with the Spirit. Quite the show, I’d say! 💥 **Miraculous Healings & Spiritual Confrontations** Now, there are stories, and then there are stories! One particularly remarkable episode involved a young woman on the brink of death from consumption. Smith, full of determination and perhaps a dash of desperation, prayed over her for four whole hours. Suddenly, a vision of Jesus appeared to him, and wouldn’t you know it? The young lady sprang back to life, resuming her piano playing that very morning as if nothing had happened! And then there was Mitchell, a man at death’s door. Sadly, when Smith arrived, it seemed Mitchell had taken the ultimate plunge. But Smith wasn’t one to take a loss quietly; he boldly commanded death to release him. To everyone’s surprise, Mitchell revived and went on to recover as well! Talk about a scene straight out of a play! Now, Smith had an unconventional approach—he believed in hitting the afflicted parts of the body, claiming he was “hitting the devil, not them.” Well, if you ask me, it’s quite a daring way to send sickness packing! 🧩 **Trials of Faith & Physical Ailments** In a rather self-assured manner, our Smith vowed never to take medicine. But life had other plans, and when appendicitis struck with a vengeance, doctors considered his case hopeless. With a commanding spirit, he once again told the “devil” to leave, and lo! He was healed instantly, returning to work the very next day, tools in hand. Smith faced a long battle with kidney stones, sciatica, and eventually a stroke. Despite the pain, he believed these trials were like fine clay molding him for greater things. And you know, he didn’t let a little discomfort keep him from ministering across the globe! 🎤 **Public Campaigns & Legacy** From the bustling streets of the U.K. to the wide-open skies of Australia, Smith took his ministry far and wide. Stories of blind eyes opening, crippled legs walking, and cancers disappearing became the tales that traveled with him. In 1937, while in South Africa, he even prophesied a grand revival, telling David du Plessis, “the day I pass away, then you can begin to think about it.” Such confidence! 💀 **Final Moments & Death** On the 12th of March, 1947, while attending the funeral of his friend Wilf Richardson, Smith had an unexpected final act—he collapsed and bid goodbye to the earthly stage, continuing to preach until the very end! A grand finale, one might say. At his funeral, he left behind four guiding principles for those who remained: 1. Read God’s Word. 2. Let it consume you. 3. Believe it. 4. Act on it. His voice still echoes in the hearts of many within the Pentecostal and charismatic communities. --- ✨ **Summary of Key Exploits** Smith's legacy is dotted with miraculous healings—tumors, tuberculosis, and even those pesky appendicitis troubles. Some even say he managed to resurrect loved ones, a claim that made more than a few heads turn. His spirit-led and confrontational approach—casting out tricky spirits through audacious prayer—stands as a testament to his unwavering faith. Despite battling illness, he thrived in service and inspired many. And let’s not forget his prophecies of future revivals, which many credit in shaping the charismatic movements.
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  • Title: Alice in Borderland. Arisu, a listless, jobless and video-game-obsessed young man suddenly finds himself in a strange place in which him and his friends must compete in dangerous games in order to survive.
    Title: Alice in Borderland. Arisu, a listless, jobless and video-game-obsessed young man suddenly finds himself in a strange place in which him and his friends must compete in dangerous games in order to survive.
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  • ‎I know you've find it difficult to change that situations of yours.
    ‎I know you've find it difficult to change that situations of yours.
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  • Title: Final Destination: Bloodline. Plagued by a recurring violent nightmare, a college student returns home to find the one the one person who can break the cycle and save her family from the horrific fate. Starring: Kaitlyn Juana, Teo Briones
    Title: Final Destination: Bloodline. Plagued by a recurring violent nightmare, a college student returns home to find the one the one person who can break the cycle and save her family from the horrific fate. Starring: Kaitlyn Juana, Teo Briones
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  • Title: Final Destination: Bloodline. Plagued by a recurring violent nightmare, a college student returns home to find the one the one person who can break the cycle and save her family from the horrific fate. Starring: Kaitlyn Juana, Teo Briones
    Title: Final Destination: Bloodline. Plagued by a recurring violent nightmare, a college student returns home to find the one the one person who can break the cycle and save her family from the horrific fate. Starring: Kaitlyn Juana, Teo Briones
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  • HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

    1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

    2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

    3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

    4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

    5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

    Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

    6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

    7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

    8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

    9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

    10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

    11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

    12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

    13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

    14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

    15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

    16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

    17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

    18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

    19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

    20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

    21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.
    HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾 1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other. 2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm. 3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still. 4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations. 5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long. 6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem. 7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally. 8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself. 9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back. 10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse. 11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other. 12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children. 13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring. 14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced. 15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt. 16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children. 17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows. 18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged. 19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future. 20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love. 21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.
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  • HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

    1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

    2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

    3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

    4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

    5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

    Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

    6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

    7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

    8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

    9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

    10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

    11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

    12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

    13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

    14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

    15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

    16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

    17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

    18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

    19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

    20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

    21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.
    HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾 1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other. 2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm. 3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still. 4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations. 5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long. 6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem. 7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally. 8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself. 9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back. 10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse. 11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other. 12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children. 13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring. 14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced. 15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt. 16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children. 17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows. 18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged. 19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future. 20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love. 21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.
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  • That person who mistreated you will one day understand your value — but you may have already moved on. Life has a way of reversing tables. One who once took you for granted will find themselves at times missing your presence, your warmth, your love. But you’ll have healed, learned, grown and moved forward. That moment will never come. Let their lack be your peace. No reaction at all can be the best way to close something out sometimes. Live your life for you, not to prove to them that they’re wrong, but simply to show them that they’re loss will become their regret, your lesson and in no way your loss.
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    That person who mistreated you will one day understand your value — but you may have already moved on. Life has a way of reversing tables. One who once took you for granted will find themselves at times missing your presence, your warmth, your love. But you’ll have healed, learned, grown and moved forward. That moment will never come. Let their lack be your peace. No reaction at all can be the best way to close something out sometimes. Live your life for you, not to prove to them that they’re wrong, but simply to show them that they’re loss will become their regret, your lesson and in no way your loss. Neena Gupta. ⓒ Love Is An Emotion of Strong Affection
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