A narcissist wants you to forgive and forget, to move on, and to let it go, so they can escape accountability and apologies, and keep treating you in the same manner. They don't want to do the work it takes to change their rude, hurtful, negative, controlling, bullying, or manipulative behaviors. They want to blame you, sweep it under the rug, and pretend the conflict never happened. They want to police your emotions and feelings, have power and control, be right, micromanage everyone around them, and feel superior. Acting like a mature, healthy adult, introspecting, self-reflecting, and taking accountability for how they treated you are not things they are capable of.
To a narcissist, your pain is an inconvenience, your boundaries are a threat, and your voice is something to silence. They aren't interested in building healthy relationships; they’re focused on maintaining dominance and image. When you try to address issues, they gaslight, deflect, or minimize your experience. They might offer hollow apologies, not out of remorse, but as a tactic to reset the cycle and regain control. Forgiveness, to them, is a license to continue hurting you. Their version of "moving on" is erasure—erasing your truth, your wounds, and your right to heal.
Healing from narcissistic abuse means resisting their narrative. It means holding onto your truth, your emotions, and your right to closure, even when they deny it. It means refusing to normalize disrespect just to keep the peace. Don’t let them convince you that your standards are the problem. You’re not too sensitive, too emotional, or too difficult. You’re a human being deserving of respect, safety, and authentic connection. Narcissists will never admit fault, because doing so would shatter the illusion they cling to. But you don’t need their validation to stand firm in your reality.
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A narcissist wants you to forgive and forget, to move on, and to let it go, so they can escape accountability and apologies, and keep treating you in the same manner. They don't want to do the work it takes to change their rude, hurtful, negative, controlling, bullying, or manipulative behaviors. They want to blame you, sweep it under the rug, and pretend the conflict never happened. They want to police your emotions and feelings, have power and control, be right, micromanage everyone around them, and feel superior. Acting like a mature, healthy adult, introspecting, self-reflecting, and taking accountability for how they treated you are not things they are capable of.
To a narcissist, your pain is an inconvenience, your boundaries are a threat, and your voice is something to silence. They aren't interested in building healthy relationships; they’re focused on maintaining dominance and image. When you try to address issues, they gaslight, deflect, or minimize your experience. They might offer hollow apologies, not out of remorse, but as a tactic to reset the cycle and regain control. Forgiveness, to them, is a license to continue hurting you. Their version of "moving on" is erasure—erasing your truth, your wounds, and your right to heal.
Healing from narcissistic abuse means resisting their narrative. It means holding onto your truth, your emotions, and your right to closure, even when they deny it. It means refusing to normalize disrespect just to keep the peace. Don’t let them convince you that your standards are the problem. You’re not too sensitive, too emotional, or too difficult. You’re a human being deserving of respect, safety, and authentic connection. Narcissists will never admit fault, because doing so would shatter the illusion they cling to. But you don’t need their validation to stand firm in your reality.
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