Relationships and Social Media. Temptation is all over our phones these days and we have been programmed to “swipe left” because we believe there is always someone better. The constant need to look elsewhere will leave people in a never ending circle of unhappiness with their significant other. I honestly think the opposite gender is way to accessible in the 21st century to each other within our mobile devices and men and women talk way too freely where boundaries are crossed blurring the lines of inappropriateness. So unfortunately, the inappropriate conversations lead to affairs, and they cheat on the one they supposedly love. People need to take a step back, put their phones down and focus on what’s in front of them, because some people don’t realize how lucky they truly are, to have what they currently have in a relationship. We should stop giving people the attention who don't deserve it and start focusing on the ones that do. Do me a favor, and appreciate what you have before it becomes what you had.

I think social media has ruined healthy relationships. Let me explain why. Temptation is all over our phones these days and we have been programmed to “swipe left” because we believe there is always someone better. The constant need to look elsewhere will leave people in a never-ending circle of unhappiness with their significant other. I honestly think the opposite gender is way too accessible in the 21st century to each other within our mobile devices and men and women talk way too freely where boundaries are crossed blurring the lines of inappropriateness. So unfortunately, the inappropriate conversations lead to affairs, and they cheat on the one they supposedly love. People need to take a step back, put their phones down and focus on what’s in front of them, because some people don’t realize how lucky they truly are, to have what they currently have in a relationship. We should stop giving people the attention who don't deserve it and start focusing on the ones that do. Do me a favor and appreciate what you have before it becomes what you had. ~ Cody Bret

EFFECTIVE WAYS TO CONTROL ANGER IN MARRIAGE WITHOUT DESTR0YING THE LOVE 🥰 Anger is a normal and healthy emotion that provides insight into how we perceive events. However, it’s essential to manage it positively, as uncontrolled anger can negatively impact your health and relationships. If you're serious about enjoying peace in your home, here are 14 practical and proven ways to manage anger in your marriage without ruining the bond between you and your spouse: 1. 📍Think Before You Speak and Act: Take a deep breath and count to ten. Do whatever it takes to avoid lashing out and saying or doing something you’ll regret. Consider the consequences of your actions: will they be productive or only make the situation worse? 2. 📍Communicate Calmly: Once you’re calm, express what upset you. Resolve issues quickly by scheduling a time and place for a candid conversation, no matter how painful it may be. 3. 📍Avoid Hurting Your Spouse: Just because you feel hurt doesn’t mean you should retaliate. Revenge leads to more chaos, hurt, and deterioration in the relationship. Choose to be the bigger person. 4. 📍Avoid D€structive Behavior: Do not destr0y property, throw things, or become physically vi0lent. Mature individuals do not resort to physical harm. 5. 📍Sleep in the Same Bedroom: Always choose to sleep in the same room and on the same bed. Avoiding each other by sleeping on the sofa or in separate rooms can lead to drifting apart. Maintain an attitude of "I am not going anywhere; we must work things out." 6. 📍Use Silence Wisely: When you or your spouse are angry, learn to keep quiet or walk away. Refrain from speaking, as you may say something you’ll later regret. 7. 📍Keep Communication Open: Even if you walk away, keep lines of communication open. Don’t turn off your phone or isolate yourself without a way for your spouse to reach you. 8. 📍Learn to Apologize: If you want a peaceful and lasting marriage, learn to say “I’m sorry.” This simple phrase can save your marriage more often than saying “I love you.” Acknowledge when you are wrong, and avoid being defensive. Remember, your home is not a courtroom. 9. 📍Let Go of Grudges: Forgiveness is a powerful tool. Holding onto others' offenses only affects you. Find it in your heart to forgive and to ask for forgiveness. The sooner you do so, the better your life will be. 10. 📍Affirm Your Love: In moments of anger, tell your spouse, “I love you,” even if they don’t say it back. Assurances of love are needed during tense times. Remember that love is based on commitment and truth, not just feelings. 11. 📍Reconsider Decisions Made in Anger: Take the time to double and triple-check decisions made in anger. It’s best to refrain from making any decisions when you’re upset, as angry decisions often lead to regret. 12. 📍Show Acts of Affection: Go out of your way to please your spouse. Consider gestures that show care and affection, such as cooking for them, serving them, giving a thoughtful gift, doing chores, or leaving a loving note. 13. 📍Pray Together: In moments of anger, take a moment to pray, both for yourself and your spouse. Prayer can bring about understanding and healing. 14. 📍Seek Help When Needed If anger is ruining your peace, affecting your health, or thr€atening your marriage, don’t suffer in silence. Talk to a licensed therapist or marriage counselor. Getting help is a sign of strength, not failure. Learning to control anger can be challenging, but if these strategies don’t help, consider reaching out to a mental health specialist for support. If your anger feels unmanageable or leads to regrettable actions, it’s important to seek help. May God give you the grace to control your anger

10 COMPATIBILITY TESTS TO TAKE BEFORE SAYING "YES" IN A RELATIONSHIP Too many people enter relationships without doing the necessary background checks or asking the right questions—only to end up hurt, frustrated, or broken. Don’t be in love with someone who is not aligned with your future. Before emotions carry you away, take these 10 compatibility tests seriously. 1. 📍Spiritual Compatibility Can you both walk together spiritually? (Amos 3:3) Are you on the same page in your beliefs, convictions, and spiritual goals? If one is on fi-re for God and the other is lukewarm or carnal, it’s a red flag. Look beyond church attendance—check their fruit and character. Watch out: Pretenders exist—those who fake spiritual fervor to win your heart. Ask: Do they honor God genuinely? Do your convictions align? 2. 📍Purpose Compatibility Do your life purposes complement each other? If you’re called to missions and they dislike outreach, it won’t work. If you dream of writing books and they believe it's a waste of time, your visions will clash. Purpose-driven couples encourage each other to thrive. Know your calling first before attaching your heart. 3. 📍Genotype Compatibility Love is not enough—wisdom saves lives. Before emotions go deep, check your genotype. AA is safe with anyone, but AS + AS is a no-go. Don’t wait until love blinds you before finding out the facts. Faith is not a replacement for sense. Let God guide you and also apply your God-given wisdom 4. 📍Intellectual Compatibility Can you have deep, meaningful conversations? If you can’t discuss life issues, faith, purpose, or current affairs without getting lost, marriage will be dull. You need a thinking partner, not just a pretty face. Talk about values, parenting, $-ex, marriage roles, life goals. 5. 📍Emotional Compatibility Do your emotions align or clash? If your moods are always in conflict, or one is highly sensitive while the other is emotionally unavailable, expect frequent misunderstandings. Check: Do you feel emotionally safe? Does your temperament complement theirs? Do you feel heard and valued? 6. 📍Financial Compatibility Money doesn’t sustain love, but its mismanagement can destr0y it. If you’re both spenders with no saving culture, the future will be rough. One must either be financially wise or both must grow together in money management. Talk about saving, budgeting, giving, and long-term financial goals. 7. 📍Physical Compatibility Yes, physical attraction matters—but don’t make it the only thing that matters. You’ll be waking up to that face for decades. Are you genuinely attracted to them? Are you proud of their look or always wishing they looked different? Reminder: Looks fade. Character stays. Don't trade a future for a figure. 8. 📍Communication Compatibility Can you both talk things through calmly and respectfully? Some people fight dirty. Others shut down completely. In marriage, communication is your lifeline. Compatibility here determines how you resolve conflicts. Ask: Can we express our thoughts without shouting or walking away? 9. 📍Family and Cultural Compatibility Do your backgrounds clash or blend well? Different upbringing, tribe, or family expectations can create friction. Love them, but don’t ignore family pressure or cultural values. Talk about in-laws, traditions, roles, and expectations. Will they allow you to thrive or force you into a mold? 10. 📍$-exual and Moral Compatibility Do your values on $ex, purity, and morality align? If one wants to keep things pure before marriage and the other pushes boundaries, there's a major mismatch. Don’t assume they’ll change later. Discuss expectations around $ex, fidelity, and moral standards. Finally, don’t ignore red flags because of butterflies. Don’t assume love will fix what compatibility can't. Marriage is long; don't start wrong. Pray. Think. Discern. Talk. Investigate. 🙏 May your relationship be a blessing, not a burden. May your marriage bring heaven to earth.

The Beautiful Truths About Being Horny — A Human, Romantic, and Sensual Reflection Being horny isn’t dirty. It’s not evil. It’s not a sin. It’s one of the most natural, deeply human experiences—an ache that whispers, “Touch me, love me, see me.” It’s the body’s way of saying, “I’m alive, I’m open, I want to connect.” And when you have someone who sees you in that moment—someone who responds to that fire in your eyes, that heat in your touch—it’s a blessing beyond words. There’s something so tender, so intoxicating, about being desired often by your spouse. When you’re married to someone who stays horny for you, it’s a love story that lives in the skin. A touch can lead to a kiss, a kiss to a slow undress of each other’s day. But when constant arguments pile up, that sensual rhythm gets lost. Conflict can drain the desire, making passion feel distant even if you’re sleeping in the same bed. And let’s clear something up: horniness doesn’t belong to men alone. Women feel it too—strongly. Some get especially turned on during ovulation, when their body becomes extra sensitive, extra wet, and craves touch like air. This isn’t shameful. It’s powerful. It’s beautiful. It’s natural. Many men wake up with arousal—a physical sign of longing. And dear wife, that morning erection isn’t just about sex. It’s his way of saying, “I want to be close to you.” Don’t ignore that silent invitation. There are days when horniness can be overwhelming—when your mind is foggy, your patience thin, and your body aches for intimacy. That’s one reason marriage is such a gift—it gives your love a place to release, to exhale, to let go and give in. But what about when you’re far apart? In long-distance marriages, the craving doesn’t stop just because your partner isn’t near. In those moments, don’t suffer in silence. Call each other. Whisper your thoughts. Flirt with your words. Build anticipation. Because when you reunite, all that bottled-up desire is ready to explode and dance across each other’s skin. Rejection in moments of desire can cut deep. It’s not just about sex—it’s about feeling wanted. Being turned down when you’re yearning for your spouse can hurt more than words can explain. So be gentle. Be understanding. And when you can, say “yes” with your body. Interestingly, as women approach menopause, many feel a surprising sexual surge. Desire returns with force, and they become more confident in claiming what they want. That chapter can be fiery and fierce—savor it. Let it teach you that horniness doesn’t fade with age; it evolves. Horniness is more than biology. It’s a reminder that sex is about more than making babies—it’s about making memories, closeness, laughter, intimacy. It’s holy in its own way. You can be deeply spiritual and deeply sensual. You can love God and love sex. Being horny doesn’t disqualify you from faith—it humanizes it. There’s no shame in that hunger, only invitation. The answer isn’t to ignore your horniness. It’s to honor it, to talk about it, to find healthy and loving ways to respond to it within your marriage. When couples feel desire but never act on it, tension builds. Resentment simmers. Even small things can turn into big arguments. Be mindful, too, of how contraception and hormones can affect a woman’s desire. Talk openly and find what keeps your connection alive. And remember—how you see your partner affects how much you want them. If you’re filled with negativity or resentment, desire will shrink. But if you see them with love, that flame stays lit. Horniness is not a license to flirt or text people outside your marriage. It’s not an excuse to entertain thoughts of others. Desire needs direction—and that direction should point home. Don’t let age trick you into thinking you need to “experiment” with someone younger. That kind of curiosity comes with a cost. In the end, horniness is a beautiful force—but it needs maturity, love, and self-control. If you don’t guide it, it will guide you—often into places you never meant to go. So feel it. Embrace it. Share it. But always protect the love it was meant to serve.

Throughout life you will come to realize. Throughout life you will come to realize there are a rare breed of people out in this world and we give it our all. We always put ourselves last when it comes to the ones we care about. We rarely receive the same compassion and effort in return but we still continue to give our warm heart away freely on a daily basis. We are considered a giver because our hearts are larger than our wounds we have unfortunately endured in our past. We travel through life hoping that maybe one day our efforts will be returned and reciprocated. But let me tell you something .... If you are someone who continues to give your tenderness to the people that you care about and they dont believe in reciprocation .... It's time for you to know your worth and most importantly have limits, because takers ..... they don't have any.

If you're single. If you’re single in this generation, don’t let anyone pressure you into lowering your standards when it comes to choosing a partner. There is nothing wrong with waiting for a man who is spiritually mature and grounded in his beliefs. Stand firm in your convictions, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for doing so. Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. As the head of your future home, he will have a profound spiritual influence on you and your children. It is far better to be criticized for having high standards than to rush into a decision ....... you may regret for a lifetime.

Loving a woman. Loving a woman isn’t about grand gestures or trying to impress her with materialistic things. It’s about the quiet, consistent, daily effort. It’s about making her feel seen, safe, and deeply valued. To love a woman means to respect her not just as a partner, but as a person. To honor her thoughts, her feelings, her boundaries, and her strength. It’s understanding that love isn’t control. It’s freedom, trust, and mutual growth. It means protecting her not just physically, but emotionally. Creating a space where she can be vulnerable without fear. Where she never has to question her worth or her place in someone’s life. Loving her means choosing her every day. Not just in words, but in actions. Not just when it’s easy, but especially when it’s not. It means putting her above distractions, temptations, and pride. There’s no room for lies in real love. No half-truths, no silent treatments, no emotional games. A woman deserves honesty, she deserves to be loved with clarity, not confusion. And it’s the little things that truly matter most. The way she’s spoken to. The way she’s listened to. The small acts of kindness that remind her she’s special. Because real love doesn’t wait for a vacation to show up. When a woman is genuinely loved, she thrives. She becomes softer, stronger, more at peace. And in return, she loves with a depth that transforms everything around her. She becomes a source of calm, of purpose, of unwavering loyalty. Because when a woman feels truly loved… she will give back a kind of love that no money, no status, no outside validation could ever replace in this lifetime. ~ Cody Bret

Imagine you sleeping with every man you went on a first date with. Some of you ladies need therapy. I can understand why a man would want to smash on the first date but I will never understand why a woman thinks it's okay for a man to penetrate her on the first date. You're the receiver of this man's demons 😈. He pours 🫗 his million spirits into you. Imagine you've been on 50 dates and you slept with all the men. I'm heartbroken 💔 with the way you ladies think. It's shameful that you people have no boundaries and some sense of self-love. If you never knew, now you know. You're the collector, the reservoir of the man's spirit. Caution ⚠️ should be your ultimate goal with those who deposit in you. Don't be so reckless with your sex life. Just because a man pushes doesn't mean you should condone it. Sex is a trophy 🏆 for most men. Men see you as a territory to acquire. Guard your promises land. Your territory should be difficult for invaders. Be guided, ladies. The same men would say it doesn't matter but question your body count. They will even argue with money that body count matters. If body count matters, so should sex on the first date. The funniest of it all is, I'm a man. Telling you not to sleep with me on the first date. That your respect will drop, your value will drop and yet you're arguing with me. No, it doesn't matter if I sleep with you. If this isn't self-hate or self-sabotage then I don't know. Take care of yourself, ladies. If you need a high-value man. These things matter. Be disciplined with your sex life. Sleeping with men you barely know isn't a flex no matter how charming and charismatic he is. Be guided

Loving the wrong person. So many people are suffering in today's relationships because they refuse to let go of the person they are currently in a relationship with. They know the relationship isn't working, but they refuse to leave because they feel they might be able to change the person. They believe they are willing to go to any length to ensure that the person continues to "love them". The hardest aspect is that they are doing everything in the hopes that the person would change, even when the person has no intention of changing in the first place. If you're in a relationship right now where the person is causing you more grief than happiness, then it's time to let them go. Accepting that things aren't working is the best approach to avoid getting hurt more in this type of relationship. It's crucial to admit to yourself that the relationship is in disrepair. I see so many people that are suffering in their current relationships because they refuse to face the reality of its true nature. If your current relationship isn't working, do me a favor and don't force it, the more you force it, the more you will end up hurting yourself in the long run. Nobody can take your happiness away if you don't want it taken away. Your happiness is in your hands; your happiness is dependent on you. If you don't want others to continue to mistreat you......you have the power to stop them. Take my advice and have the courage to leave the table when respect is no longer being served.

If you can take the person I'm in a relationship with, please take them. If you can ruin my friendships with a rumor, do me a favor and please ruin them. If you can shake anything against me in my life, please do it. I don't have the time and energy to fight for things that are easily persuaded. If it doesn't bring me peace, fulfillment and love, I didn't have any room for it in my life to begin with.

I'm going to be honest with you. In today's generation ... social media has everyone thinking there's so many options. Do me a favor and pay attention to the people in front of you, who value you and genuinely love you for who you are as a person. The internet might make it look like there's plenty of fish in the sea but trust me.... most of them aren't worth catching.

Never do this. Never teach your partner .... how to be your partner. Never ask them to text you throughout the day to check on your mental health. Never ask them to make a reservation at your favorite restaurant unannounced. Never ask them to make you a warm bubble bath after you had a long day after work. Never beg them to acknowledge your existence. The right person will do all this and more. Find someone who has has always dreamt about having someone like you .... ever since they were a child. Find someone that shows you how much you truly mean to them with every day that passes. Find someone who not only says "I love you" but proves it to you with their actions. Find someone who hurts other people's feelings to protect yours. Find someone who supports your dreams and life goals. Find someone who knows it's not about giving you the world, but to only make you a priority in theirs. Find someone who chases you long after .... they already have you. Find someone who traces the valleys and crevices of your body with their fingertips to remember every detail about you when they miss you. Take my advice and wait for this person ... because the longer you entertain what's not meant for you ..... the longer you postpone what is.

If you're single. If you’re single in this generation, don’t let anyone pressure you into lowering your standards when it comes to choosing a partner. There is nothing wrong with waiting for a man who is spiritually mature and grounded in his beliefs. Stand firm in your convictions, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for doing so. Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. As the head of your future home, he will have a profound spiritual influence on you and your children. It is far better to be criticized for having high standards than to rush into a decision ....... you may regret for a lifetime.

Do you remember how beautiful she was. Do you remember how beautiful she was when you took her out for your first date? Well .... she is still the same woman you laid your eyes upon that particular night, many years ago. The only difference now, is she has given you children, she has given you a life, and she has blessed you with a family. As a man you should appreciate every stretch mark and scar that comes with motherhood. The beautiful striatons symbolize the journey of motherhood and are a tattoo of that precious moment in time. They not only represent the pain she went through for countless months on end, but are a beautiful reminder of her undying love for you. So always remember how blessed you truly are to have a woman in your life that has given you something that is more precious than anything in existence. ~ Cody Bret . Photo ~ Sara Emilie

I'm going to say this once. Never get into a serious relationship until you're finished being single. Never invite someone into your life if you don't have the space for them in your life to begin with. Never open up a person's heart with no intention on catching them when they fall in love with you. There are good genuine people in the dating world right now willing to give everything they are to have a stable and healthy relationship with someone they have longed for ever since they can remember. Take my advice and if you're not ready to step up to the plate, take your hands off another person's future. ~ Cody Bret

The secret you hide. The secret you hide will eventually surface, no matter how deep you bury it, truth has a way of finding the light. It may not happen today or tomorrow, but silence has cracks, and guilt leaves traces. Secrets are heavy, and the longer you carry them, the more they weigh down your soul. And when they finally come out, it’s rarely gentle. So be careful what you conceal, because the truth doesn’t stay hidden forever. ~ Cody Bret

*DO NOT BE UNFAIR TO YOUR SPOUSE* 1. Your biggest client calls you but you missed their phone call, you quickly return the call. But when you see a missed call from your spouse, you do not even bother 2. You get a new boss at work, you go out of your way to make a good impression by buying that new boss a gift. But when was the last time you even bothered to make a good impression on your spouse? 3. You take a selfie with the President, a celebrity, you are quick to post it on social media. But you cannot even post a photo to celebrate your spouse, you don't want to be associated with your spouse 4. You cheer on other children who do great things on TV and in the community. But you have little kind words for the children you have with your spouse 5. When you win an award in your profession, you are full of gratitude. But when your spouse compliments you, you say no "Thank you", you rubbish the praises from your spouse 6. When you are talking with your pastor, you display a peaceful and warm demeanor. But when you talk with your spouse your countenance is unwelcoming 7. When you see other people well dressed, you compliment them, even strangers; whether with your eyes or words. But when your spouse makes effort to look good, you give no attention 8. When you are having a meeting with a client, you meet the client in a luxurious restaurant. But you can't even take your spouse out on a date 9. When you're out with your friends, you talk so highly about a politician, a footballer, an actor or actress, a musician who doesn't even know you. But you have no warm words to say about the spouse who has been with you through thick and thin 10. When a public figure asks to meet you, you stop everything you are doing and make it for the meeting on time. But your spouse has to beg you for your audience 11. When your opinion is asked at work, you willingly give it. But when your spouse asks for your advice, you disengage letting your spouse walk alone 12. When your friends ask for money, when you're making public contributions, you give willingly and put up a show; you even buy alcohol for others. But when your spouse asks for money or your children ask for something, you are mean, making excuses why you can't give, declining the request, asking what is the justification for the request 13. At work, you are a team player because you seek the growth of the company. But in your marriage, you do not exhibit teamwork, you don't build your love 14. When you write official emails you are courteous, using the words please, yours faithfully and hoping you are well. But when texting or talking with your spouse you are cold, making orders and speaking in a demeaning tone *Why?* Why do we choose to be mean to the one person we claim to love, we married, we live with, we have vowed to? The one person who gives us his/her all daily. It is time to set our priorities straight, time to treat our spouse as special

Types of Behaviors That Can Push a Faithful Man Away React before you read👏 A faithful, committed man is a blessing, but even the strongest man can grow distant if he’s constantly met with disrespect, manipulation, or emotional neglect. Here are some types of behavior that can damage a good relationship: 1. The Constant Critic If you never acknowledge his efforts and always find fault, it wears him down. No one thrives under constant negativity. 2. The Manipulator Using guilt, silence, or emotional games to control him breaks trust. Faithfulness needs emotional safety, not power plays. 3. The Self-Absorbed Partner A relationship is about mutual care. If it’s always about your needs, your feelings, your drama, he’ll feel invisible. 4. The Disrespectful One Speaking down to him, mocking him in public, or belittling his efforts can kill a man’s spirit. Respect is the foundation of love. 5. The Flirtatious Teaser Constantly entertaining attention from other men, especially to provoke jealousy, undermines the trust you expect from him. 6. The Emotionally Distant If you shut him out, don’t open up, or act like you don’t need him, he may stop trying to connect at all. Bottom Line: No one’s perfect, but lasting love takes effort from both sides. A faithful man deserves a woman who values that loyalty and nurtures it in return, with honesty, love, and respect.

27 WAYS TO BUILD A HAPPY AND LONG-LASTING MARRIAGE 👩🧑💖 Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship that requires commitment, love, and sacrifice. No matter what culture you belong to, what religion you believe, what society, level of wealth, or era you live in – one thing common to all people is that they want to be "happy", especially in their marriages. What Should you do? 1. Love the person you married, not the person you hoped you married. Accept your spouse totally. You cannot love a man/woman you do not accept. Stop comparing your spouse with anyone, he or she can never be somebody else. Until you accept your spouse, you can't get the best out of your marriage 2. Understand each other. No marriage succeeds without understanding. Learn to know one another as best as you can. Understand you are not the same and may never be. Respect that you are both individuals. Get to know each other strengths and weaknesses. Strengthen each other's weaknesses. 3. Be quick to forgive and quicker to apologize. Love forgives. Learn to accept apology. Freely forgive your spouse’s past, present and future offenses. Never refer to his/her past mistakes. Never go to bed with anger or unsettled quarrel. Marriage is two forgivers living together. 4. Ask your spouse, "What can I do for you today?" every single day. 5. Never talk bad about your spouse to other people. Protect him or her and always keep his or her name safe. Fight for each other, not with each other. 6. Have lots of s*x. Enjoy S*x with your spouse. Never withhold s*x as a punishment. 7. Keep the word "divorce" out of your vocabulary. Remember your vows. Review them on a regular basis. 8. Provide for the needs of your spouse and children. Never be stingy to your spouse. Care for his/her needs. Be generous to him/her. Pay your children’s school fees promptly and regularly. Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. Give yourself entirely, and don't hold back. Men, Be sensitive to your wife’s needs. Spend money to beautify her. 9. Be faithful to your spouse. Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills. 10. Understand and learn each other's love language. Either it can be words, gifts, touch, actions, etc. If it is words, then frequently tell your spouse you love and appreciate him/ her. If it is action: regularly do things that they appreciate: either take the garbage out, wash the dishes, cook the food, wash the car, etc. Spoil each other. Keep track of the things your spouse loves and buy them for him or her. 11. Communication is the key to a relationship. Talk like friends and lovers. Don’t make your spouse guess what you are thinking or feeling. Don't expect him/her to read your mind. You should feel free to discuss all things without fear. 12. Always listen attentively to your spouse. Switch off your phone or television, shut down your computer or iPad and newspapers, books and magazine should be closed. The greatest communication skill you can develop is the listening skill. Be quiet and patient while he/she is speaking, when he/she is done, you can express your opinion. Look straight into his/her eyes when he is talking to you or when you’re talking to him. This will make him/her feel that you are interested in what he/she wants to say. 13. Love, respect and courtesy are basic ingredients of happy married life. Give them generously to your spouse. Show your spouse how much you love, care and appreciate him/her regularly. Say, "I love you," every single day. 14. Be honest and show sincere appreciation. Appreciate each other. Show your spouse appreciation for the little things. Be thankful and say so!!! Find something that you appreciate about your spouse and say thank you. 15. Surprise each other with lovely gifts, kiss and s*x. Kiss passionately. Hold hands. Cuddle. Make physical affection a priority in your marriage. 16. Make quality time for each other. Keep dating each other. Put your marriage and spouse before your children. Play together. Never lose your sense of humor. Make your spouse your best friend. 17. Share everything...no secrets between you. Be open with your spouse. 18. Be polite and courteous to each other. Saying thank you, please and I am sorry. 19. Get rid of bad habits. Don’t do those things your spouse hates. Don’t do things that hurt him/her. Develop a godly character. Don’t create a hostile environment for your spouse. Focus on making your spouse happy. The best way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself. 20. Always be honest to your partner. Lying never gets you anywhere 21. Aim to do something at least once per week together. It does not matter what, even if it is to eat together, bath together, watch movies together, read books together and share light conversation 22. Do NOT look at other marriages and covet. No marriage is prefect. Remember, the grass is not greener on the other side. You will still have to maintain, mow and weed that side too! 23. Work at your marriage. If you ever lack motivation for your marriage and feel like the flame has gone dead. Just try to imagine yourself without your spouse. Talk to anyone who has lost their soul mate, and they'll tell you that they will give anything to have back that special someone. Remember, it is your marriage, and you have come this far. Make the best of it. Pledge to yourself that you will do your part and try your best. Remember that you chose your spouse for forever. 24. All issues need to have a solution and be resolved at the time of the conversation. Finish what you start otherwise things just hang in the balance, which leads to future problems. 25. Don't make mountains out of mole hills. Don't waste your time fighting over little things. It's not worth it. Let small things go. 26. Don't broadcast your problems to everyone else. If you need to talk to someone about it, other than your spouse, get a therapist. 27. Above all: Serve God together, pray together & pray for one another. Pray for your spouse daily in your personal prayers. Be specific. Talk to God about his or her challenges and trials and ask Him what you can do to be a better spouse. You will not fail in your marriage in Jesus' name

CHILD DISCIPLINE There is a big lie going around today.Some parents say, “I don’t want my child to suffer like I did.”They say it with pride.They think it sounds like love.But they don’t know they are slowly destroying that child. Because of that mindset, they refuse to correct the child.They don’t give the child chores.They don’t say “No.”They don’t allow the child to face consequences. They say, “Let him rest, he’s just a child.”They say, “Let her enjoy life, she’s still young.”But they are not helping that child. They are damaging the child. If your child cannot sweep the house, how will they keep their own home clean tomorrow?If your child cannot wash plate, how will they survive when they leave your house?If your child cannot say “Good morning” to elders, how will they work with people in the office? If your child cannot accept correction, how will they handle marriage or leadership? The world is tough.Life is not always sweet.You will not always get what you want. There will be days of pain. There will be days of rejection.There will be moments of “No.” So if your child cannot hear “No” now, what will happen when life says “No” to them tomorrow?They will break.They will fall.They will run away.Some will even commit suicide because they were never taught how to handle pressure. Discipline is not wickedness.Correction is not hate.Chores are not punishment.They are training.They are tools. They are preparation for life. Your child must know how to clean, how to greet, how to wait, how to apologize, how to handle anger, how to respect people, and how to do hard things without complaining. Don't make your child soft in the name of love. Don't make your child lazy in the name of protection. Don't remove discipline and expect them to succeed. Don't raise them like kings and queens with no wisdom. One day, you will grow old. You will need your child to stand strong. But if you didn’t train them, they will fall. And both of you will suffer for it. So stop saying, “I don’t want my child to suffer like I did.” Let your new statement be, “I want my child to be stronger than I was.” And that strength must start with discipline. It must start with training. It must start with responsibility. It must start with you.

12 COMMANDMENTS OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE🔥 Marriage is a journey, not a sprint. These timeless principles, if practiced sincerely, can make your love life rich, fulfilling, and long-lasting. 1. 🌹Never Stop Communicating 🗣️ A relationship d!es the moment communication breaks down. Talk often. Talk openly. Talk honestly. Whether it’s laughter, serious talks, or simply checking in during the day—keep the conversation flowing. Silence builds walls. 💡Action Tip: Have daily "heart-to-heart" moments, even if it’s just 10 minutes before bed. 2. 🌹Pray Together 🙏 Couples that kneel together, stand stronger together. Prayer invites God into your relationship as a counselor, protector, and teacher. Submitting to God helps you submit in love to one another. 💡Action Tip: Create a shared prayer list and pray over it together weekly. 3. 🌹Don't W€aponize $ex ❌🍑 $ex is not a reward or a punishment—it's a covenant bond. Using it to manipulate your partner causes deep emotional wounds. Keep $ex sacred, frequent, and full of mutual affection. 💡Action Tip: Talk about your $exual needs openly without judgment. 4. 🌹No Secrets, No Lies 🚫🤐 Hiding things destr0ys trust. Lies may feel small today, but they erode intimacy tomorrow. Transparency builds safety. 💡Action Tip: Commit to “full disclosure” zones—times when you speak openly with no fear of judgment. 5. 🌹Grow Together, Not Apart 📈💑 Compatibility is not just about shared interests—it's about growing side-by-side spiritually, emotionally, financially, and professionally. Don’t let one partner evolve while the other stagnates. 💡Action Tip: Take a course, budget together, join a group, or set shared goals every quarter. 6. 🌹Make Decisions Together 🤝 Marriage is not a solo career. Major decisions must be mutual. When one person leads without the other, resentment builds. 💡Action Tip: Have a “couples board meeting” monthly to discuss finances, plans, and life decisions. 7. 🌹Keep Emotional Intimacy Reserved for Each Other 💞 Let no one be closer to you emotionally than your partner. Don’t let a friend, colleague, or even family member take your spouse’s emotional seat. 💡Action Tip: Share your deepest thoughts, fears, and joys with your spouse before anyone else. 8. 🌹Don’t Stop Being the Lover You Were at the Start 💐 Keep the charm, compliments, and sweet gestures alive. Familiarity should not breed laziness. Keep watering the plant of love. 💡Action Tip: Bring back “dating days”—even if it’s just a walk, movie night, or surprise text. 9. 🌹Don’t Sleep Angry 😠💤 Bittern€ss multiplies overnight. Don’t give anger a place to sleep in your bed. Resolve issues before you rest. 💡Action Tip: Use this phrase often: “I value us more than this fight. Let’s talk.” 10. 🌹Do Not Cheat, Flirt, or Entertain Infidelity 🚫💔 Even the strongest love will collapse under the weight of betrayal. Faithfulness is not just physical—it’s emotional, digital, and mental. 💡Action Tip: Avoid private, flirty conversations with the opposite $ex, and set clear boundaries. 11. 🌹Support Each Other’s Dreams and Purpose 🌱✨ Your partner is not just a spouse—they are a person with dreams, goals, and a divine calling. When one pursues purpose and the other doesn’t care, frustration sets in. Be their cheerleader, not their critic. 💡Action Tip: Ask, “How can I help you get closer to your dream this year?” and follow through. 12. 🌹Forgive Quickly and Completely 💔➡️❤️ Every relationship will experience hurt. The difference between a lasting marriage and a broken one is how quickly and sincerely you forgive. Holding grudges pois0ns your connection. 💡Action Tip: Practice saying, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” And be quick to extend grace when your spouse says the same. Which of these do you think couples struggle with the most? Share your thoughts 👇 ❤️ FINAL THOUGHT: A thriving relationship takes intention, prayer, humility, and consistency. Love isn’t built in a day, but it can be broken in a moment. Guard it, nurture it, and grow in it together. Which of these commandments speaks to you most today? You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

FATHERHOOD: MORE THAN A TITLE — IT’S A LIFELONG RESPONSIBILITY 💪👨‍👧‍👦 Dear Men, Being a father is not just about biology — it’s about responsibility. Anyone can father a child, but it takes commitment, sacrifice, and intentional presence to truly be a Dad. Here’s what responsible fatherhood really looks like: 📌 1. Fatherhood Is Not Fertility Getting a woman pregnant is fertility. Fatherhood begins when you step into the responsibility of raising, loving, and guiding that child. Being a sperm donor is biology — being a father is purpose. 📌 2. You’re Your Son’s First Hero & Your Daughter’s First Love The way you show up in your child's life will shape their confidence, identity, and how they relate with others. Be present, intentional, and nurturing. 📌 3. A Father Is a Protector Children feel safer when Dad is around. Your presence builds security. Your voice brings comfort. Your discipline gives direction. Don’t be absent — be involved. 📌 4. Fatherhood Is Sacrifice It means saying no to some things so you can say yes to your children. Sacrificing personal pleasure, ego, and sometimes comfort — for your children’s future. 📌 5. Fatherhood Is Service, Not Privilege True fatherhood means: Loving unconditionally ❤️ Providing diligently 💼 Disciplining wisely 🧠 Guiding spiritually 🙏 Being emotionally available 🤝 📌 6. Time Is the Currency of Fatherhood Money is great. Gifts are lovely. But your time is the most valuable gift you can give. Kids spell love as T-I-M-E. 📌 7. Irresponsible Fatherhood Damages Generations Many of the problems in society — addiction, cr!me, emotional instability — often stem from fathers who were absent, passive, or abus!ve. Your role matters more than you think. 📌 8. Be a Teacher and Value-Giver Instill godly values. Teach integrity, respect, and hard work. Model love in your home. Your children are watching and learning from you. 📌 9. Raise Them in the Way of the Lord Scripture says, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6) Let Christ be the foundation of your parenting. 📌 10. Fatherhood Is Legacy Your impact should outlive you — through your children, your wisdom, your values, and the love you planted in their hearts. This is the greatest joy of all. 🙏 A Prayer for Fathers: May God help us not to fail in our fatherly calling. May our children rise and call us blessed. May our homes be full of joy and peace. In Jesus' Name, Amen. 👑 Fathers, You Are Heroes Your role is divine. Your presence is powerful. Your love is life-changing. Let’s raise kings and queens for the Kingdom. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name

May you attract someone who treats you like they've been waiting their whole life to find you. Someone who looks at you like you're a dream they’ve held in their heart for years. Someone who understands your silence, respects your space, and still chooses to stay close. They won't play games with your emotions or make you beg for the bare minimum. May this person notice the little things about you, the way your voice changes when you’re excited, the way you always try to be strong even when you're breaking inside, the way you care more than you admit. And instead of taking those things for granted, may they treasure them. May they protect your heart like it's something rare and sacred, not something to use and toss away. I hope you find a love that feels like peace. A love that doesn't confuse you, doesn't make you shrink, doesn't make you chase. A love that’s calm and real. The kind that holds your hand in public and holds your heart in private. The kind that makes the world feel less heavy just because they’re around. Someone who listens to your dreams and encourages you to chase them. Someone who becomes your home in a world that’s always rushing. Because you deserve a love that doesn’t make you question if you're enough, you are. You deserve someone who shows up for you in all the ways others didn’t. And when they come, I hope you feel the difference. I hope it feels like healing. Like everything you waited for was worth it. Like you were never asking for too much, you were just waiting for the right heart to match your own. 🤍 — Dorothea.

Be with someone who has a provider mindset. It's not just about money; it's about showing effort, care, and making sure you're okay. When a man loves you, he won't wait for you to ask. He'll take action because your happiness matters to him. You'll notice it in the small things. He'll check on you, show up when you need him, and make your life easier, not harder. It's not about control; it's about caring and being there for you. 📌 Real love feels safe and generous. You deserve someone who loves seeing you happy.🥰 Don't settle for less, you deserve better.👌❤️

10 WAYS TO AVOID CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER Over the past week, issues about cheating has been on discus. People are discussing and arguing about the best way to treat their cheating partners. Some said, to divorce, others said, to cheat back and some are of the opinion that forgiveness is the best option. There's a saying that, "Prevention is better and cheaper than cure". So, it's better to avoid and prevent cheating on your partner than to start looking for a way to handle cheating. Many people have cheated on their partners unintentionally. They don't want to cheat but they fell into it unintentionally because they were careless and failed to be on the lookout. 1. Decide That You Will Not Cheat Until you decide to do or not do something, you haven't started. Decision is the starting point of all achievements. Without decision nothing can be done. So, you must make this decision. Even before you marry, you will have to make this decision that you are not going to cheat on your partner no matter what. Daniel in the land of Babylon purposed in his heart, he decided that he won't defile himself with the king's food. So, you too must decide not to cheat on your partner(Daniel 1:8). 2. Shut Your Eyes After you got married or entered a relationship, you will keep seeing people more beautiful, handsome, richer, endowed and romantic than your partner and if your eyes are still open, the chances are high that you will cheat. As a guy, shut your eyes against any other lady than your woman. As a lady, shut your eyes off every other man. King David saw a man's wife bathing and he lost all his senses. He slept with the woman and even kill the woman's husband! Close your eyes and look away(see 2 Sam 11:1-12; Job 31:1) 3. Avoid Sharing Your Problems With The Opposite Sex For Pity And Sympathy. When I was in the village, there was this woman that was an expert in sharing her problems with the aim of securing pity and sympathy from people and as well as cash. Whenever you see her, expect one complain or another. So, avoid sharing your problems with others especially the opposite sex for pity or sympathy. If it's not solution you're looking for, avoid the sharing stuff. Problems have a way of bonding people. You will become emotionally entangled. 4. Avoid Too Much Play With The Opposite Sex Cheating doesn't just happen, it starts little by little. Little play here and little play with the opposite sex and before you know it, emotions are developing to the point it becomes uncontrollable. Playing with the opposite sex while you're married or have a partner that you are in a relationship with is like when a lion and a goat is playing. You know what that means. Oga, that girl that whenever you see her, chemical reaction begins to take place in your body, the early you avoid her the better, the same is applicable to you, madam. You can't walk on fire and won't get burnt! 5. Limit Communication With The Opposite Sex Communication is the blood of relationship, without communication relationship suffers. Communication fosters intimacy and understanding in a relationship. It keeps the fire burning. So, limit communication with the opposite sex. When you don't have something really important to discus, avoid all those unnecessary discussions. It will lead to something else. 6. Be Committed And Devoted To Your Partner When you're committed and devoted to something, you will have little or no time for something else, it will take your time, energy and resources. So, be committed and devoted to your partner. When you're committed and devoted to your partner, you will have little or no time for someone else, you'll have time for your partner. Be Committed and devoted. 7. Think About The Consequences As a married woman, what do you think will happen if your husband should catch you while you're sleeping with another man? Ask yourself the same question as a man, what will happen if your woman should catch you cheating on her? Think about it. Also, think about the effect your cheating will have on your partner. Think about how heartbroken, devastated and traumatized your partner will be. Think about the lost of trust and confidence your partner will have for you. Cheating can end your marriage. It can make your partner to commit suicide. You will lose the trust, love and confidence of your partner. Does cheating really worth all these? Think about it. 8. Avoid The Company Of Those That Don't Value Fidelity. Proverbs 13:20 says that, when you follow the wise, you'll become wise and when you will follow fools, you shall be destroyed. Who you follow determines what follows you. Who you company with determines what accompanies you. So, avoid the company of those that are not faithful to their partners, avoid those that don't respect their marital vows and and the sacredness of marriage. It's just a matter of time before you join them. Bad company corrupts good character. 9. Value What You Have When you don't value what you have, you will treat and abuse it. When you don't have value and respect for your partner, you will cheat on the person. What you value, you cherish, guide, protect and care for. If you value your partner, you will cherish him or her, you will care about his or her feelings. Place a premium value on your partner. 10. Love Your Partner Love is a strong force that can either compel you to do or not to do something. When you truly love your partner, you won't like to cheat on him or her. The love will constrain you from doing such(see 2 Corinthians 5:14-15). Remember : Let me stop here. If really you are serious about being a faithful partner, with these 10 points you are good to go. God bless us all.

The Marriage Advice . 1. **Choose Love, Always:** Even in moments when you find it hard to like each other, choose to love. Love is a commitment, not just a feeling. 2. **Be Present:** Always answer the phone when your spouse calls. When you're together, try to keep your phone off, giving each other your full attention. 3. **Prioritize Time Together:** Make time with your spouse a top priority. Budget for regular date nights because time is the currency of relationships, and investing in your marriage is key. 4. **Surround Yourself with Support:** Keep company with friends who strengthen your marriage. Distance yourself from those who might tempt you to compromise your character. 5. **Laugh Together:** Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share joyful moments, and even in tough times, find reasons to laugh together. 6. **Team Up in Arguments:** In every disagreement, remember that you’re on the same team. There’s no winner or loser; you either win together or lose together. Work as partners to find solutions. 7. **Be Each Other’s Strength:** A strong marriage isn’t about both being strong at the same time. It’s about taking turns being strong for each other when one of you feels weak. 8. **Value Intimacy:** Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. While a strong marriage takes more than s=x, it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it. 9. **Give 100%, Not 50/50:** Marriage isn’t about splitting everything down the middle. Divorce is 50/50; marriage is 100/100, with both partners giving their all. 10. **Give Your Best:** Offer your best self to each other, not just the leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else. 11. **Embrace Uniqueness:** Learn from others, but resist comparing your marriage to anyone else’s. Your life is uniquely yours. 12. **Don’t Put Marriage on Hold:** Don’t neglect your marriage while raising your kids, or you might end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage. 13. **Be Transparent:** Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. 14. **Build Trust:** Never lie to each other. Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage, and lies will break it. 15. **Admit Mistakes:** When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and seek forgiveness humbly. Be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” 16. **Forgive Quickly:** When trust is broken, be quick to forgive. This promotes healing and opens the door for trust to be rebuilt. Say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.” 17. **Practice Patience:** Your spouse is more important than your schedule. Be patient with each other. 18. **Model Love for Your Children:** Live the kind of marriage that inspires your sons to be good husbands and your daughters to be good wives. 19. **Protect Your Spouse:** Never speak badly about your spouse to others or vent about them online. Always protect them, in all places and at all times. 20. **Wear Your Ring:** Your wedding ring is a constant reminder that you’re connected to your spouse and that you’re off-limits to the rest of the world. 21. **Connect to Faith:** Being part of a faith community can make a world of difference in your marriage and family. 22. **Pray Together:** A marriage is stronger with God at its center. Pray together regularly. 23. **Choose Kindness:** If you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, choose to say nothing every time. 24. **Stay Committed:** Never consider annulment as an option. A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

> Let's Forward this Post Everywhere ❕ KILLERS OF MARRIAGE React before you read👏 1 Laziness kills Marriage. 2 Suspicion kills Marriage 3 Lack of trust kills marriage. 4 Lack of mutual respect kills marriage. 5 Unforgiveness, Bitterness, Hatred, Malice and anger kill marriage. 6 Unnecessary Arguments kills marriage. 7 Keeping Secrets from your Spouse kills marriage. 8 Every form of Infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc). 9 Poor Communication kills marriage. 10 Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect. 11 Relating more with your parents/family members than your spouse kills marriage. 12 Lack of inadequate or unenjoyable s€x kills marriage. 13 Nagging kills marriage. 14 Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage . 15 Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage. 16 Being too independent minded kills marriage. 17 LOVE for party, money, impulse buying and spending/partying, financial indiscipline kills marriage. 18 Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or Siblings kills marriage. 19 Not being steadfast/fervent in the spirit, not praying together kills not only marriage but your life. 20 Spurning correction and reprimand kills marriage. 21 Always wearing a sad face and being Moody kills marriage. 22 FEMINISM ADVOCACY kills marriage. 23 MALE CHAUVINISM kills marriage. 24 Uncontrolled or hot Temperament, Anger kills marriage. 25 Not understanding your role and position , not taking responsibilty in marriage as instituted by God kills marriage. 26 Not being sensitive to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of your spouse kills marriage. 27 When anything threatens the position/security of a wife or husband, his or her reaction(s) will be detrimental to the marriage. 28 Lack of the Knowledge of & Obedience to the word of God kills marriage.

Being in a relationship with a hardworking man requires emotional maturity and patience. He may not always be available or expressive, not because he doesn't care, but because he's focused on building a secure future. His long hours, exhaustion, and silence at times are signs of commitment, not distance. Unlike men without ambition, hardworking men prioritize progress over constant presence. Their love is shown through consistency, responsibility, and sacrifice not just words. They may not be polished, but their loyalty runs deep. Don’t take that effort for granted, supporting such a man means standing beside a vision, not just a person. 💙

9 SEX YOU MUST NEVER HAVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE S*x is lawful in marriage; it’s one of the rights of married couples in the family. But I need to let you know that there are some forms of sex you must never have in your family. They are: 9 SEX YOU MUST NEVER HAVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE 1.BROWN S*X: S*x is called brown if you have it with anyone that is not your spouse. It’s known as adultery, affairs or infidelity. It easily destroys marriage, avoid it. 2.YELLOW S*X: This is the kind of sex that happens between a couple who always struggle to sleep together. They fight often fight about sex and it has turn to a bone of contention in their marriage instead of being a tool of intimacy and love. 3.RED S*X: This a sexless marriage. Couples in it hardly make love because bitterness in marriage has taken over to the level of war. So, they hardly sleep together. 4. NECESSITY S*X: I met a couple recently, who have not been in talking term for months, but they still sleep together regularly because they need Children. They will just sleep together inside darkness, roll to the other side and sleep off but continue their fight the second day, this is a necessity Sex. 5. GRUDGE MATCH: This is the kind of sex where couple sleep together without love or affection, they do it without any affection or desire. They only have sex as a responsibility in marriage or to give peace a chance. This is very common among wives. 6.BABY S*X: This is when couples sleep together only when they need sex. They believe sex is not for love or pleasure, it should only happen when baby is needed, this is very wrong. Sex should bring couple together and should be done regularly and joyfully. 7.FRIDGE S*X: This is also known as “No Action sex”. This involves husband and wife sleeping together but cold or when a “Fridge” action is displayed by the wife. That is, she is never involve; only lie down like a log of wood. It’s a bad example of sex in Marriage. Wives should be involve when their husbands sleep with them. 8.BARTER S*X: This involves “trade by barter” “Money for hands, back for ground”. In this kind of sex, the woman is fond of giving conditions before she will allow her husband to sleep with her, this is terrible. 9.CALENDAR S*X: This involves picking a day in the week or Month when sex can only take place. Some women are fond of telling their husbands the day in the week or month they will be ready for sex. This is also wrong in Marriage. Sex should be spontaneous, it can happen any day and any time behind the four walls, that is how sex in Marriage should be. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name. Amen.

A great relationship is built on two hearts choosing to love each other deeply and intentionally. It’s waking up each day with the desire to pour into one another’s needs—not out of obligation, but out of love. It’s holding hands through the highs and the lows, building dreams side by side, and being each other’s peace in a chaotic world. Its teamwork wrapped in romance, where both people feel seen, valued, and safe in each other’s arms.

You'll long for this. You’ll ache for her at 3 a.m., waking from a nightmare, reaching for her—but she’s not there. You’ll ache for the absence of those unexpected “I love you” texts that used to light up your day. You’ll ache for her when your day has gone south, and there’s no one who listens the way she did—fully, patiently, and with love. You’ll ache when you see her laughing with friends, knowing you’re no longer the reason behind her smile. You’ll ache on cold nights, with only tangled sheets and a glowing phone screen to keep you company. You’ll ache to cry in her arms again—but she’ll walk right past you, eyes forward, heart no longer yours. You’ll ache watching her dance, remembering all the times she asked you to join her—and you didn’t. You’ll ache when you realize how often you still talk about her, while she no longer speaks your name. You’ll ache when even alcohol can’t blur the image of her smiling in the moonlight. You’ll ache when your messages go unread, your calls unanswered. You’ll ache when you understand—too late—that no one ever cared for you the way she did. You’ll reach for her hand, but it won’t be there. You’ll miss the goofy selfies, the random videos, the sweet “just thinking about you” moments. You’ll ache when it’s late, and you’re lying alone, with no one to talk to. You’ll ache for her little laugh—the one that used to brighten your darkest hours. You’ll ache for everything. And by the time you realize what you had—and what you lost—it’ll be too late. She’ll be in someone else’s arms, giving them the love she once gave you. She’ll be sharing laughs, secrets, memories… building a life you once had the chance to build with her. That’s when it will hit you the hardest: That extraordinary, once-in-a-lifetime woman with the heart of gold? She’s no longer yours. So cherish her while you still can—because life doesn’t often give you a second chance with a good woman.

WHAT INSPIRES FAITHFULNESS IN MARRIAGE? 1. VISION Vision gives one a reason to stay committed. When you have a vision of the kind of marriage you want to have and the kind of spouse you are working to become, you stay true even when it gets tough 2. FEAR When you value what you have with your spouse and all you two have built and invested in all these years, you will fear doing something that might destroy it 3. LOVE When you love your spouse, you will be careful not to do an anything to hurt your spouse, but also, your greatest desire will be to enjoy special moments with no other but your spouse 4. HUMILITY Humility will remind you not to be too confident in yourself that you play with temptation. Humility will also allow you to be receptive to warnings when your spouse cautions you about someone you are getting close to 5. FREQUENT WARM COMMUNICATION When you both take time to have silly, deep, serious, difficult and naughty conversations with each other, be it face to face, online, on phone calls or video calls even when you are in a long distance marriage; it will make faithulness easier to practice. The danger is when you get used to communicating frequently with another. Frequent communication keeps you both connected. Emotional faithfulness leads to sexual faithfulness 6. VALUES Your values determine your lifestyle and this determines what you give time to, who you give time to, the environments you take yourself to and what consumes your thoughts. If you don't have nurtured values as an individual, you will easily fall 7. RIGHT COMPANY When you surround yourself with friends who encourage and celebrate your faithfulness and who are also faithful to their spouses, you will challenge each other to focus on your marriage. Check your circle, are you surrounded by cheats? 8. A HEALTHY CONSCIENCE Don't numb your conscience, your conscience is what flags you when you are doing wrong. It is your link to God to remind you of your actions and consequences. If you numb your conscience, you will do wrong with no remorse 9. GOOD TREATMENT AT HOME When you both treat each other well at home, it is so easy to be faithful. You are happy at home, why mess it? When the home is full of fights, arguments, coldness and drama; it gives temptations power 10. TRANSPARENCY Telling your spouse who you are with and where you are without being asked will make you accountable and prevent you from slipping. Affairs thrive in secrecy 11. OBJECTIVITY When you start to see yourself enjoying another person's company not your spouse and be rational about it, you will realize it is not worth it. So you will have a wonderful time with this new person, and then what? Your future is still with your spouse, and that temporary good time is not worth risking it all for 12. SOBERNESS Alcohol tends to make many married people misbehave, sometimes to the point they don't remember their bad behaviour. When you remain sober you will make better judgements 13. PURITY OF MIND When you are mindful of what you feed your mind, you will guard your ways. Sex starts in the mind 14. BOUNDARIES When you make it clear to colleagues, friends and even online contacts that you have boundaries because you respect your marriage, others will respect your marriage too 15. SELF-CONTROL When you have the strength to stop yourself when you notice you are getting too attached to another person or getting turned on by them; you will take yourself out of danger 16. GREAT SEX AT HOME When you are being made love to well at home, why go anywhere else? A sexually satisfied spouse tends to remain faithful

SPICE UP YOUR MARRIAGE- TYPES OF DATES EVERY COUPLE SHOULD TRY: 1. PICNIC DATE There is something special and free about the outdoors. Pack up some food and drinks, find a spot and have fun. 2. WALK DATE Make time to just take a walk as you bond. Walk for long as you hold hands, laugh, bump shoulder to shoulder. You need no money for this 3. ELEGANT DATE Go all out. Gentleman, ask her out to an expensive, classy venue. Give her a chance to dress up. She will feel special, smiling as you romance her; she is wearing her fashionable dress 4. DANCE DATE Find a place where good music is played or dance is taught and go there as a couple. Salsa, lingala, afro, twist, benga; go to a place where you will sweat, groove and get down 5. IMPROMPTU DATE Dates don't have to be pre-planned. Be spontaneous sometimes, drop everything and go somewhere as a couple for some quality time 6. MOVIE DATE Go to the cinema. Movies bring out emotions 7. DOUBLE DATE Go out on a date with another couple close to you. This will give you a chance to celebrate love and talk couple to couple. Your love will grow stronger 8. COMPASSION DATE There are many people in society to bless. You and your partner, find a children's home, an elderly home, a hospital or someone in need and together go spend time with them. God will bless your love 9. CANDLE-LIGHT DINNER DATE There is something romantic about looking into each other's eyes in dim candle light. Make it special. Romance is sweet 10. SPECIAL MOMENT DATE This is when you celebrate big as a couple a special moment like Birthday, Anniversary, Graduation or Promotion. Never forget these moments 11. MAKE-UP DATE If things between you two haven't been going well. Make effort to save your love by planning a good date. A date provides a good setting to allow you two to talk and get back to deep love 12. LUNCH DATE Since you work at different jobs, sometimes meet up and have a couple's lunch for an hour or so 13. OLD LOVE DATE Dates are not for young love only. Sadly, as lovers stay in a relationship/marriage, the dates become fewer as they go through the motions. No matter how long you've been together, step outside your everyday responsibilities and go for a date to rekindle and sustain the excitement 14. SPORTS DATE Is your favorite football club, rugby team, basketball team, golfer playing? Is it the safari rally, athletics? Go out for dates as a couple where you can scream, cheer and go wild. You two will connect more 15. FRIENDS DATE Have a barbeque, hook up with friends, throw a party. Organize something as a couple where your love will be celebrated in the presence of close friends 16. TRAVEL DATE Pack your bags and travel. Break the monotony and as a couple drive, fly, sail to a place you've never been. Experience new attractions together. Your love will never be boring this way 16. STAY AT HOME DATE Or lock yourself in the house. Not to work or do chores. But to switch off everything and concentrate on each other. Cook together, eat together, make memories for two

WAYS TO SHOW YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU CARE AND LOVE HIM PRACTICALLY 📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍 1. 📌Ask How His Day Was—and Really Listen. Show genuine interest in what’s happening in his life. Let him know you care about both the big and small things. 2. 📌Give Him Your Undivided Attention. Put your phone down when you're talking. Eye contact and presence matter more than people often realize. 3. 📌Respect His Opinions. Even if you disagree, value his perspective. Letting him be heard shows you care about who he is—not just what he does. 4. 📌Tell him "I love you" regularly—and genuinely. Words carry power, especially when they're sincere. 5. 📌Compliment Him Sincerely. Notice the good—his looks, his effort, his sense of humor, how he parents, or how he treats others—and say it aloud. 6. 📌Covering him in prayer. No one knows him better than you do. Speak a blessing to him. Declare his greatness. To break a home, the head of the family gets attacked; he needs you to watch his back 7. 📌Speak Well of Him to Others. Show respect when he’s not around. Uplifting him in front of family, friends, or coworkers builds trust and honor. 8. 📌Cook His Favorite Meal. Food is love for many people. Surprise him with something he loves—even better if it’s homemade. 9. 📌Initiate Regular love making with him. Affection and desire are powerful ways to connect. Let him know you still want and love him. S€xual activity communicates love and connection to a man. 10. 📌Be faithful. Don't let him worry about the thought of you in the arms of another man. Responsible men value faithfulness; faithfulness to a man communicates loyalty 11. 📌Initiate Physical Affection. Hold hands, hug him unexpectedly, or cuddle. Touch is a powerful expression of love and reassurance. 12. 📌Surprise Him. A small gift, a random act of kindness, or an impromptu date night can brighten his whole week. 13. 📌Appreciating him more than you complain. Notice and thank him for the everyday things he does—whether it's fixing something, going to work, or making you laugh. Say “Thank You” Often. Gratitude is one of the clearest ways to show care. Don't let the little things go unnoticed.Be the woman who sees his growth and effort as he strives to be better; not the woman keeping a score of the few times he falls and who makes him never forget his mistakes 14. 📌Support His Goals. Encourage his dreams and interests, even if they’re different from yours. Be his cheerleader in public and private. Lift him up when he doubts himself. Let him hear that you believe in him and his potential. 15. 📌Make sure he comes home to peace, not drama or quarrels or harsh questions the moment he enters the house. Does your man feel at home at home? 16. 📌Add value financially. Whether by contributing to the financial earnings of the family or helping in managing the family finances well if he is the sole bread winner 17. 📌Warn him with love when he is walking into fire. Problem is, some wives don't warn with love, they judge with bitterness. Speak to him with respect 18. 📌Be His Safe Place. Offer comfort and understanding when he’s stressed or struggling. Let him be vulnerable without fear of judgement 19. 📌Celebrate His Wins. Whether it’s a promotion, finishing a project, or just getting through a tough week—recognize his victories. 20. 📌Speak His Love Language. Whether it’s acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, or gifts—speak in the way he feels love most. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name

If you’re married or not married yet but you want to be a good husband and a great dad someday read this. This isn’t hearsay. It’s my personal experience talking 1. Don’t keep late nights. One of the things that earned me serious respect in my house is simple: I come home by 7pm. I learned it from my dad. No late-night hanging around. You avoid a lot of unnecessary wahala that way. If you must stay late. Let your wife know who you are with where you are. 2. Listen to your wife. I told a newly married friend: If your wife is a good woman—listen to her. Women have strong instincts. From experience, 99% of what my wife says turns out right. Two old men in their 80s even told me the same thing peace starts from listening. Her opinion really matters bro. Don’t take it for granted. 3. Don’t be an absent father. My kids no dey joke with me. I bath them. I play with them. I take them out. And guess what? Children don’t forget. The little things hold big memory when they grow up. Make out time to always be presents. This is very important ooo. So you won’t come to say your kids love your wife more than you. 4. Do house chores. Yes. As a man. I sweep, I clean, I help. It doesn’t make you less of a man. It teaches your sons that housework isn’t “woman work.” It creates bonding with your wife. If I can do it and still have peace-you can too. My kids know I can cook because I do it sometimes. They don’t see it as a big deal anymore. 5. Stick with one woman your wife. Let me tell you the plain truth: There is no trophy for sleeping with everything in skirt. Mekwe is mekwe. If you want to spice things, spice it with your wife. Men who stay faithful grow faster mentally, spiritually, and financially. Real men have one woman while boys sleep with anything under skirt anyways choose where you belong. 6. Say “I love you” to your wife and kids. Even if you’re showing it, still say it. Some of us never heard it growing up. Now I say it to my wife and kids daily. And they say it back. It makes them expressive, open, and confident. Teach them to your kids early. 7. Don’t take advice from everybody. Only learn from people whose homes you respect. People can advise you how to run your home but they won’t let you advise them. If washing your wife’s bra brings peace, my brother wash it well. At the end of the day, what you need is peace, not public opinion. 8. Never raise your hand on your wife. No matter what. Don’t do it. The day you raise your hand even once you’ve damaged something in that home. Even if you stop, the scar remains. Your kids will see it and think it’s normal. The best punishment is silence or just leave the house when you feel like you’re losing control. 9. Last but not the least: It is your duty as a man to provide for your home. Do it with pride, no matter the hustle. Whether you’re pushing wheelbarrow or sitting in office own it. But also share responsibility, so you don’t break down early trying to carry everything alone. And as you build yourself, build your wife too. Nobody knows tomorrow. How you treat your wife and kids today will determine how they treat you in old age. What I just wrote is for intentional men Men who want to be present. Men who want to build. Men who are called simps or finished men just because they love and lead their homes with sense. If you’re not one of them, skip the post. No need to argue or feel triggered. Those I’m speaking to already know themselves. Because at the end of the day The kind of man you are at home matters more than the one you act like outside. Copied.

Dear Parents and Teachers: A Heartfelt Plea on Behalf of Our Daughters…. By Esomnofu Chidiebube Ifechukwu If you are a parent—especially of a girl child—please, I beg you, take special care. I am not in any way suggesting that boys don’t deserve our attention; they absolutely do. But let’s be honest: female children mature faster—emotionally, physically, and mentally. And because of that, they often face unique vulnerabilities at a much earlier age. I’ve been teaching for over a decade now, and from my earliest years in the classroom, especially in senior secondary school, I observed something deeply troubling. You walk into a class, full of passion and commitment, ready to teach mathematics or any subject—and then, midway into your explanation on indices or algebra, a hand goes up. But instead of a question related to the topic, you hear: “Sir, I like your trousers.” “You look handsome today.” “Are you married?” “How old are you?” These are not academic questions. They are signs. Signs that these children are at a sensitive stage of self-discovery. Their minds are searching for validation, attention, affection—even if they don’t understand it fully. And without the right guidance, they may seek it in the wrong places. That is why parents must be vigilant—not overbearing, but intentionally present. Don’t just buy clothes, pay fees, and think your job is done. Talk to your daughters. Guide them. Warn them. Watch them. Be their safe space. And to my fellow male teachers, I speak with a heavy heart: not every compliment is an invitation. Not every glance is a green light. You are not just a teacher of subjects—you are a teacher of values. Be disciplined. Be responsible. These girls are not temptations; they are someone’s daughter, someone’s hope, someone’s entire world. Please, don’t be the one who ruins that world. If we fail to mentor these girls with integrity, we risk handing them over to a world that will not be as merciful. Let us raise them with wisdom, not leave them to figure life out through regret. Because when a girl child stumbles—especially due to the silence or failure of the adults around her—the scars often last a lifetime. Please, let’s do better. For our daughters. For our conscience. For the future.

MUST READ: Phone Rules For Couples PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES: 1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something 2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweetie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone 3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", and "Hey honey". How a conversation starts determines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on the phone 4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile 5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner 6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply to texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored 7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner 8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you, and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken 9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in the future as you look back MUST READ: Phone Rules For Couples MUST READ: Phone Rules For Couples 10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, and minimize phone use so that you focus on each other 11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception 12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time 13. Unless it's an emergency when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text 14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease 15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted in case something happens to you and your phone is locked 16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face 17. When your partner offends you or you two aggravate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse. Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand 18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying 19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your love life. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other 20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts 21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post it online 22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someone calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhance trust 23. Remember it is your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two 24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smartphone.

Ladies… stop trying to impress boys who don’t even know who they are. Start learning how to awaken a man who’s met his soul—one who’s ready for yours. The Divine Masculine isn’t moved by lashes, fake curves, or filtered illusions. He’s not searching for a showgirl. He’s longing for a woman whose presence melts him. He wants the kind of woman whose energy wraps around him like warmth after a long winter. A woman who doesn’t have to try so hard… because her essence already speaks volumes. It’s not your lip gloss that keeps him—it’s the way your silence feels like safety. Not your designer heels—but the soft grace in your walk. Not how loud you are in a room—but how your energy lingers when you leave it. You see, a real man—one who’s been broken, rebuilt, and reborn—isn’t chasing perfection. He’s magnetized by the woman who is deeply in love with herself. He wants the curve of your vulnerability, The stretch of your soul, The sweet contradiction of your wildness wrapped in grace. He watches you when you don’t realize it. How you treat strangers. How your laughter bubbles up, unfiltered and free. How you close your eyes when you talk about something that sets your spirit on fire. He doesn’t crave your independence—he respects it. But what calls him is your surrender. Not weakness. Not submission. But that kind of raw trust only a strong woman knows how to give. He’s not excited by your armor. He’s aroused by your truth. By the softness in your sigh. By the curve of your emotional honesty. By the way you let your soul show without apology. You don’t need to shrink for him. You don’t need to morph into someone else’s fantasy. Because a man who has awakened isn’t seeking plastic. He’s seeking presence. He desires the kind of feminine that makes him feel seen, safe, and stirred. The kind that awakens his mission, humbles his ego, and honors his heart. So breathe, goddess. Let your sweetness return. Let your softness speak. Let your spirit drip with all the sensual, sacred magic you were born with. Because the man who’s worthy of your womb? He’s not chasing the girl who looks like everyone else. He’s falling—hard—for the woman who feels like no one else. Every. Damn. Time.

DEAR SINGLE KING, WHEN LAST DID YOU MAKE A PRAYER LIKE THIS: Lord, send me a wife—not just any wife, but a woman after Your own heart. A woman who knows how to fight battles on her knees, who walks with grace and speaks with wisdom. One who will anoint my head with oil, not just as a ritual, but as an act of love, protection, and spiritual authority. Let her hands be gentle but powerful—so when she touches me, healing flows. May she see beyond my flaws and cover me in prayer, especially when I’m asleep and unaware. Let her whisper blessings over my future, declare peace over my mind, and invite Your presence into our home daily. Give me a wife who understands the weight of purpose, who will encourage my calling, speak life into my dry seasons, and remind me who I am in You. Let her be a safe place, a warrior in the Spirit, and a woman who finds her strength not in the world, but in You. And Lord, when You send her—prepare me to be the husband she deserves. Let me be her protector, her provider, her priest, and her peace. Together, may we be a kingdom couple—fueled by love, anchored in faith, and destined for purpose. Amen. May you find "THE ONE".

Maybe you’re not just horny—you’re starved for human touch, affection, intimacy, passion, and fluid communication, followed by an orgasmic release. Your soul craves more than physical connection; it’s hungry for mental stimulation, non-sexual affection, comforting conversations, and pure transparency. What you truly desire is a soulful bond where masculine and feminine energy intertwine seamlessly. It’s not just about someone penetrating your body; it’s about someone who touches your soul, ignites your spirit, and sees you completely. The soul always knows what it wants—and it won’t settle for less than the depth and fulfillment it deserves. ✨

Nobody gives up on something they truly want, so if someone isn’t making the effort to keep you, accept it with grace and choose to vibe alone until you find someone who genuinely values and cherishes you for exactly who you are.✨

A man who truly loves you will naturally want to care for you, call you, take you out, bring flowers and put in effort. No excuses — you shouldn’t have to keep asking for the basics of love.🖤

FORGIVE Forgive even if they’re not sorry. Forgive even if their words still play over and over in your head. Forgive even if they haven’t changed. Forgive even if they don’t deserve it. Forgive even if the apology never comes. Forgive because you owe it to yourself. Forgiveness doesn’t mean offering them access back into your life. …and it doesn’t mean giving them permission to break your heart again. Forgiveness allows YOU to heal. Being the bigger person isn’t saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It’s saying, ”I’m no longer giving you the power to control my emotions.” Even if it’s the hardest thing in the world to do… Forgive them anyway. 🩷

I want to make this clear: never enter a serious relationship until you're truly ready to leave singleness behind. Don't invite someone into your life if you haven't made space for them. Never open someone's heart if you have no intention of catching them when they fall in love with you. There are genuine people in the dating world right now, ready to give their all for a stable and healthy relationship with someone they've longed for their whole lives. If you're not ready to commit, don't interfere with someone else's future.

SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, IS IT REALLY A THING? I know this is one topic many avoid, but it’s one we need to talk about. Sex before marriage is becoming so common that it’s now seen as “normal.” Some even believe it’s how you prove love. But just because something is common doesn’t make it right. Let me ask you: Have you ever stopped to think about what sex really does? It’s not just about the body. It connects your soul, your emotions, your heart. That’s why after sleeping with someone, it’s hard to just walk away. Something deeper has been exchanged. When you give your body before giving your commitment, things get complicated. Feelings get mixed. Expectations rise. Trust can break easily. And sometimes, heartbreak becomes the result. Now, I’m not here to judge you. We all have a past, we've all made mistakes. But I’m here to remind you that waiting is not foolish. It’s wisdom. It’s protection. It’s saying, “I value you and I value us, enough to build a strong foundation first.” If you’ve already had sex, listen, God is not done with you. You’re not damaged. You can start again. You can choose a fresh path. Purity is not about a perfect past; it’s about a decision you make today. Love that waits are love that honors. Love that respects boundaries are love that lasts. You don’t need sex to prove love. The right person will wait, and work on building a future with you, not using your body before making a commitment to your soul. So yes, sex before marriage is really a thing. But you have a choice. A wise one. Let’s build love the right way. Let’s do it God’s way. Let’s protect our hearts.

It is a sign of immaturity when you say yes to a man immediately after he asks you out. But do you know what's even more immature? Saying no, not because you don’t like him, not because he's not your type, and not because you're uncertain but because someone somewhere on the internet told you, “Never say yes too soon.” We now live in a generation where relationships are sabotaged before they even begin not by incompatibility or lack of love, but by the fear of looking too available. Too many women have been fed the idea that being “hard to get” is the only way to protect their worth. You hear things like: “Don’t pick up his calls too fast,” “Don’t reply to his messages quickly,” “Make him chase you for months,” “You’re the prize let him suffer for you.” And somehow, this has become a badge of maturity. But here's the truth that you don't like to hear... There is a huge difference between being valuable and being emotionally manipulative. You are not expensive because you are hard to reach. You are valuable because of who you are, your mindset, your growth, your character, your peace, your purpose, and your vision. Maturity is not about delaying the obvious. It’s knowing when something good has come to you and being confident enough to embrace it. If you’ve met someone you connect with, someone whose values align with yours, someone you can build with... why punish them for showing up right? Why make them chase you for months just to prove you're “not easy”? Some ladies have lost the love of their lives to unnecessary delays and performance-based dating. They knew the man was right. They had peace. But the fear of looking “too available” made them miss out on something beautiful. Who gave us this mindset? Who told us that a woman is only valuable when she plays hard to get? Let’s tell ourselves the truth. Emotional maturity is knowing what you want and having the courage to walk toward it, not run from it hoping the other person will chase you to prove something. You are not the prize because you say no. You are the prize because of what you bring into a relationship... Love, growth, stability, vision, purpose, peace, and more. Ladies, your worth is not proven by how long you make a man suffer. You don’t need to pretend you’re uninterested just to appear powerful. If you like him and he likes you, and you both are emotionally, spiritually, and mentally ready, then be honest with yourself. Be wise, but don’t be manipulative. There’s a difference between discernment and delay tactics. There’s a difference between guarding your heart and hiding your heart out of fear. Stop letting other people’s failed stories shape your success story. You are not “just another lady.” But remember, you don’t prove that by withholding affection, you prove it by showing up fully, intentionally, and maturely when love finds you. You are not weak because you say yes. You are wise because you say yes with clarity. Let’s normalize healthy, emotionally intelligent relationships not games that end up with both people confused and heartbroken. I hope this helps you make the right decision.

MODERN LOVE ISN’T BUILT ON LOVE ANYMORE Bro, Let’s be honest. Dating today isn’t about love. It’s about leverage. It’s about “who has more options?” It’s about “who needs who less?” It’s about “who can hurt who and still walk away like a boss?” We’ve entered an era where: * Vulnerability = weakness. * Effort = desperation. * Commitment = stupidity. Men are not dating with their hearts anymore. They’re dating with survival in mind. Because they’ve seen: 💔 The man who loved deeply… got chéãted on. 💔 The man who provided endlessly… got replaced quickly. 💔 The man who stayed loyal… ended up forgotten. So now? Men are cold. Women are calculative. Everyone is scared. We’re chasing “talking stages” and “vibes”, not soul ties. We sleep with each other before we ever speak our fears. We call “healthy love” boring and “toxic love” exciting. It’s sickening! Men are now afraid to love — not because they don’t want to — but because the price of being a lover in this generation is too damn high. They don’t want to be used. They don’t want to be laughed at in group chats. They don’t want to build with someone who’s secretly looking for someone else. So they choose silence over softness. Detachment over devotion. Segx over soul. And it’s killing connection. Let’s be honest again: * Many men are in relationships where they can’t be soft or safe. * Many women are dating men they don’t even like — they just like what he brings. * And many people are trying to heal from love… while still in love. Modern love is no longer love. It’s marketing. It’s manípulation. It’s wär disguised as romance. 💔 We have trust issues from people who said “I love you.” 💔 We have brokën hearts in healed bodies. 💔 We have relationships with no friendship, no direction, and no dämñ peace. No one’s fighting for love. Everyone’s protecting their ego. And until we heal our fears and re-learn love — we’ll keep dating with masks… and crying behind closed doors. This is the brùtãl truth. 📌

MARRIAGE WILL TEST YOU 1. IT WILL TEST YOUR MATURITY Especially during conflicts. Will you be mature enough to solve them, or will you be childish, dramatic and selfish? 2. IT WILL TEST YOUR LOVE It is easy to tell someone "I love you", but your commitment will be tested especially when you disagree, offense is done or challenges show up 3. IT WILL TEST YOUR FRUIT Do you bear the Fruit of the Spirit: Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility and self control? Marriage will reveal this 4. IT WILL TEST YOUR PATIENCE There will be moments your spouse or children don’t get it right as quickly as you want them to, how will you handle it? 5. IT WILL TEST YOUR HUMILITY Will you be humble enough to apologize when wrong, humble enough to ask for help from your spouse? When you are better at something more than your spouse, will be full of yourself telling your spouse why can't he/she be like you? Or will you be humble enough to acknowledge you are the person that you are, not because of your sole effort or you are better than, but because God has been working on you? 6. IT WILL TEST YOUR WORDS It is easy to speak words and give promises. In marriage you will be held to account. It will be revealed whether you mean what you say 7. IT WILL TEST YOUR CHARACTER To outsiders you may pretend, but most often, your true character will be seen at home, outside of the public 8. IT WILL TEST YOUR SPIRIT Do you claim to believe in God? Well, how you treat your spouse will reveal whether you are led by the flesh: full of rudeness, revenge, treachery, conceited and insults; or by the Spirit 9. IT WILL TEST YOUR FAITH Many times as a couple or alone you will believe in God for something and it takes long to materialize. There will be moments when it will be questioned whether you believe the prayers you made for your marriage in the past