The Marriage Advice .

1. **Choose Love, Always:** Even in moments when you find it hard to like each other, choose to love. Love is a commitment, not just a feeling.

2. **Be Present:** Always answer the phone when your spouse calls. When you're together, try to keep your phone off, giving each other your full attention.

3. **Prioritize Time Together:** Make time with your spouse a top priority. Budget for regular date nights because time is the currency of relationships, and investing in your marriage is key.

4. **Surround Yourself with Support:** Keep company with friends who strengthen your marriage. Distance yourself from those who might tempt you to compromise your character.

5. **Laugh Together:** Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share joyful moments, and even in tough times, find reasons to laugh together.

6. **Team Up in Arguments:** In every disagreement, remember that you’re on the same team. There’s no winner or loser; you either win together or lose together. Work as partners to find solutions.

7. **Be Each Other’s Strength:** A strong marriage isn’t about both being strong at the same time. It’s about taking turns being strong for each other when one of you feels weak.

8. **Value Intimacy:** Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. While a strong marriage takes more than s=x, it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. **Give 100%, Not 50/50:** Marriage isn’t about splitting everything down the middle. Divorce is 50/50; marriage is 100/100, with both partners giving their all.

10. **Give Your Best:** Offer your best self to each other, not just the leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

11. **Embrace Uniqueness:** Learn from others, but resist comparing your marriage to anyone else’s. Your life is uniquely yours.

12. **Don’t Put Marriage on Hold:** Don’t neglect your marriage while raising your kids, or you might end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

13. **Be Transparent:** Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

14. **Build Trust:** Never lie to each other. Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage, and lies will break it.

15. **Admit Mistakes:** When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and seek forgiveness humbly. Be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

16. **Forgive Quickly:** When trust is broken, be quick to forgive. This promotes healing and opens the door for trust to be rebuilt. Say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

17. **Practice Patience:** Your spouse is more important than your schedule. Be patient with each other.

18. **Model Love for Your Children:** Live the kind of marriage that inspires your sons to be good husbands and your daughters to be good wives.

19. **Protect Your Spouse:** Never speak badly about your spouse to others or vent about them online. Always protect them, in all places and at all times.

20. **Wear Your Ring:** Your wedding ring is a constant reminder that you’re connected to your spouse and that you’re off-limits to the rest of the world.

21. **Connect to Faith:** Being part of a faith community can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

22. **Pray Together:** A marriage is stronger with God at its center. Pray together regularly.

23. **Choose Kindness:** If you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, choose to say nothing every time.

24. **Stay Committed:** Never consider annulment as an option. A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

There is a oneness in the existence and a uniqueness in all human beings. The essence of spirituality is to recognize and enjoy this.

*The Marriage Advice ..*


1. **Choose Love, Always:** Even in moments when you find it hard to like each other, choose to love. Love is a commitment, not just a feeling.

2. **Be Present:** Always answer the phone when your spouse calls. When you're together, try to keep your phone off, giving each other your full attention.

3. **Prioritize Time Together:** Make time with your spouse a top priority. Budget for regular date nights because time is the currency of relationships, and investing in your marriage is key.

4. **Surround Yourself with Support:** Keep company with friends who strengthen your marriage. Distance yourself from those who might tempt you to compromise your character.

5. **Laugh Together:** Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share joyful moments, and even in tough times, find reasons to laugh together.

6. **Team Up in Arguments:** In every disagreement, remember that you’re on the same team. There’s no winner or loser; you either win together or lose together. Work as partners to find solutions.

7. **Be Each Other’s Strength:** A strong marriage isn’t about both being strong at the same time. It’s about taking turns being strong for each other when one of you feels weak.

8. **Value Intimacy:** Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. While a strong marriage takes more than s=x, it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. **Give 100%, Not 50/50:** Marriage isn’t about splitting everything down the middle. Divorce is 50/50; marriage is 100/100, with both partners giving their all.

10. **Give Your Best:** Offer your best self to each other, not just the leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

11. **Embrace Uniqueness:** Learn from others, but resist comparing your marriage to anyone else’s. Your life is uniquely yours.

12. **Don’t Put Marriage on Hold:** Don’t neglect your marriage while raising your kids, or you might end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

13. **Be Transparent:** Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

14. **Build Trust:** Never lie to each other. Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage, and lies will break it.

15. **Admit Mistakes:** When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and seek forgiveness humbly. Be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

16. **Forgive Quickly:** When trust is broken, be quick to forgive. This promotes healing and opens the door for trust to be rebuilt. Say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

17. **Practice Patience:** Your spouse is more important than your schedule. Be patient with each other.

18. **Model Love for Your Children:** Live the kind of marriage that inspires your sons to be good husbands and your daughters to be good wives.

19. **Protect Your Spouse:** Never speak badly about your spouse to others or vent about them online. Always protect them, in all places and at all times.

20. **Wear Your Ring:** Your wedding ring is a constant reminder that you’re connected to your spouse and that you’re off-limits to the rest of the world.

21. **Connect to Faith:** Being part of a faith community can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

22. **Pray Together:** A marriage is stronger with God at its center. Pray together regularly.

23. **Choose Kindness:** If you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, choose to say nothing every time.

24. **Stay Committed:** Never consider annulment as an option. A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

RESPECT THE INVISIBLE

A car ahead was moving like a turtle and not giving me way inspite of my continuous honking!

I was on brink of losing my cool when I noticed the small sticker on the cars rear.

It reads...
"Physically challenged; Please be patient.”

And that changed everything!! I immediately went calm and slowed down!!

In fact I got a little protective of the car and the driver.

I reached work a few minutes late, but it was ok!

And then it struck me. Would I have been patient if there was no sticker!?

Why do we need stickers to be patient with people!?

Will we be more patient and kind with others if people had labels pasted on their foreheads?

Labels like:
~ Lost my job
~ Fighting cancer
~ Going through a bad divorce
~ Suffering Emotional abuse
~ Lost a loved one
~ Feeling worthless
~ Financially messed up
.....and more like these.

Everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about.

The least we can do is be patient and kind.

We don't have to put people through the pressures of explaining over times before we understand their pains and offer our little best.

As you go through each passing day always remember there's an invisible label on everyone.

A simple virtue of patience may just be the respect you're according that invisible label. ~ Dr M. A. Chaudhary

PATIENCE is a priceless virtue! we all need to exercise a considerable amount of it. I am never so much in a hurry as to cause unkindness to anyone. A few seconds or minutes will not make that much difference!

Have you been patient with yourself lately? If not, join our wellness retreat beginning June 05, for a worry and stress detox. I'm rooting for you Royal Leader.

Never forget to keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you


#stellaeyabi #perspective #kindness #love #patience

Good morning Royalties

Let's do some gratitude journaling today.

Sometimes we feel unfulfilled but when we're able to write down the things we're grateful for, we'll definitely find a sense of fulfillment. Journaling is a form of expressive therapy.

A gratitude journal is a diary of things for which someone is grateful. Keeping a gratitude journal is a popular practice in the field of positive psychology. It is also referred to as “counting one's blessings” or “three good things”.

Keeping a gratitude journal can enhance your overall wellbeing, helping you nurture your mental, emotional, and physical health. Researchers have found that people who regularly write in a gratitude journal tend to feel happier, self-aware and experience fewer feelings of loneliness and isolation.

*Gratitude Journal prompts for this week*
What is one thing that you love and why should other people love it?

What do you wish someone had told you about love?

Write about someone you've
never met but who has enriched your life in some way.

What is your favorite time of day to be outside? What do you like about it?

What is something that you can do today that people 30 years ago couldn't?

Choose 3 people to say thanks today. Write about why you are thankful

What three things could you let go of that would give you more time, energy, and peace?

How to begin;
When you choose which prompt to use, begin writing with, 'I am grateful ....'

I wish you the best of connection with yourself and its endless abilities. Feel free to reach out, if you need some support with getting started.

Gratitude journaling is one of the beautiful therapeutic techniques we'll have during our Wellness Retreat beginning July 5 in Buea, Cameroon. Feel free to sponsor a loved one to attend.

Never forget to keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you

#stellaeyabi

A family is a system. There are roles, ways of thinking, relating, and unspoken expectations. Typically, people aren’t consciously aware of these roles.

When people awaken and begin to heal, they start becoming more themselves and less willing to play a role.

By setting boundaries, asserting themselves, or having their own desires beyond the family system they can be labeled as “difficult.”

This can be a positive sign that you’re getting healthier and connecting back to your authentic self
~ The Holistic Psychologist

Never forget to keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you

#stellaeyabi #growthmindset #selfhealers

Healing can be passed down too!

You don't have to be the bully because you were bullied or shamed.

I remember in secondary school my classmates had annoying nick names for everyone in class and to deal with the hurts it brought, I had to see another's problems as bigger than mine to feel better about myself.

I was called 'tolambo' apparently to them I had the biggest big toes amongst everyone in class. Others had names like 'anaki, trapee' and the list goes on.

This is just to tell you that, people may smile at some very irritating joke but it sickens them. Try to be sensitive and please don't find comfort by comparing others' woes to yours in a bid to feel good.

Find comfort in embracing yourself, it's perfect perfections and it's perfect imperfections.
I choose to spread this healing I've gotten to everyone.

There's no need to be the great CEO with people pleasing or autocratic tendencies all soaked in gross fear or need to prove that you're the boss. Doesn't it get tiring?

Healing and holistic wellness is available, if you would just reach out.

Just knowing that I'm able to pass down healing instead of hurts to my siblings makes my heart glow.

Many people are dealing with traumas that have become inter-generational. But it is within you that Bliss is found and you have the part to change the trajectory of your life if you're intentional to put in the work.

We can make healing a part of our legacy.

In what ways are you going to make healing your legacy today?

Go for therapy?
Pick a new hobby?

Keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you

#stellaeyabi
#useyourvoice #godsloveneverfails #findyourvoice
#findyourself

BOOKMARK FOR WHEN YOU OVER-THINK.

Over thinking is a shame response.

We over-think when we feel the shame of being exposed— as not perfect, not good enough, or as being defective in some way.

All of us have a go to coping response. For some it’s self isolation, replaying the conversation over and over again, social media scrolling, or binge eating. All of this is an attempt to numb the shame and soothe the dysregulation in the body.

Here’s what you can do when you get caught in the shame cycle from a comment:

1. Breathe and Move:

If you’re at work go into the bathroom. Shake your arms and legs out. Take "slow" deep breaths as you do it. If you have an urge to cry, let yourself. Tears bring the body back to a parasympathetic state.

2. Open your Notepad or a Journal:

Write down all the feelings that are coming up, what you wish you would have said as a “comeback” or anything else you’re thinking of that person. Don’t censor yourself or judge yourself. Being accepting of where you’re at instead of resisting the emotions will help to calm them.

3. Note the Messenger:

Passive aggressive comments, attempting to making you look incompetent, or anyone engaging in a power dynamic reveals they’re struggling with their own communication. Typically, we think we "made" them react that way. Or they reacted because of what we did.

In reality, this reveals how they feel about themselves. Don’t engage in an ego battle. Remind yourself you’re safe and that the "only" thing you’re responsible is responding as your highest self (this will help to break through shame and build confidence.

DO YOU OVERTHINK? How can we help you?

Comment "LIGHT to get 1 free therapy session".

Keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you

#stellaeyabi
#youareenough
#therapy

Helping people is good, but when it becomes frequent, that's dependency right there and it can form codependency patterns. Help people but much more:

Empower people to help themselves, that helps them evolve and break patterns and they can stand apart.
This could look like,
Getting them a job instead of sending them money always
It could be teaching them or paying for them to learn a trade
It could be supporting them to start their own business until it picks speed
It could be cutting off hand downs and teaching them to create
It could be telling the truth to them in love about their flaws
It could be paying for therapy or counseling sessions for them, to help them gain clarity, work out healthy coping skills and strategies to deal to everyday life's stresses and challenges etc ...

How have you empowered someone to help themselves?

Keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you

#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #stellaeyabi

Taking care of yourself is important, seeing yourself as God sees you is "important-er."

When we understand ourselves we get to own our power and live unafraid.

Here's what this is about:
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1. Divørced: She can’t keep a man

2. Råpëd: What was she wearing??

3. Childless Marriage: She is bårrën 🤰🏿

4. Doesn't give birth to a male child: it's all her fault, there's no son in her wømb

5. Rich and Independent: she's a prøstïtutë 💃🏿

6. A båd child: It's all the mother’s fault because she spøilt him

7. She wants to play some sports: You're a girl!! It's too difficult for you, that's not your purpose in life

8. She is single and drives a car: she would drive away all potential suitors.

9. She speaks her mind: She is bøssy.🙎🏿

10. Unmarried in her /30s/40s: She is irrespønsible. 🤦🏿

11. Married: Becomes her husband's property.

12. Chëâting spouse: Its her fāult, She made him do it, she should be prayerful

13. Widøwëd: She kïlléd her husband to take over his properties.

14. Remarries: She didn’t Møürn her lâte husband enough

15. Dømëstìc Abüse: What did the woman do?.

It ain't easy being a woman in this part of the world..

Respect to Every women out there!!!! -The Love Doctor Ken.

Choose your mental wellness every single time else you'll spiral into darkness. I love you and welcome to a blissful week.

Keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you
Stella E. Eyabi

#stellaeyabi #contentment #emotionalintelligence #contentmentishappiness #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #mentalhealthmatters

*THE RESTORER'S DAILY GUIDE*

DATE: FRIDAY 23RD MAY 2025

THEME: *TRAVEL AT YOUR PACE*

MEMORIZE
2 Corinthians 10:12
For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.

READ
John 21:20-22
Then Peter, turning about, seeth the disciple whom Jesus loved following; which also leaned on his breast at supper, and said, Lord, which is he that betrayeth thee?
Peter seeing him saith to Jesus, Lord, and what shall this man do?
Jesus saith unto him, If I will that he tarry till I come, what is that to thee? follow thou me.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
*We are called differently for different reasons, hence our uniqueness in everything*

MESSAGE
Life is a journey and we all travel differently, many times in different directions and with different assignments from God.

However, if we all follow God's plans for our lives individually and particularly, there will always be a converging point though we may be traveling in different directions.

As our capacities vary so also is our destinies. God built every person's capacity based on his or her destiny.

We are not the same, neither are we wired the same way this is because our purposes and destinies are not the same either. Each of us is uniquely different from others.

In today's text, Jesus reprimanded Peter for busybody instead of minding his own calling and assignment. *We are called differently for different reasons hence our uniqueness in everything.*

The donkey for instance is not as fast as the horse, it doesn't travel as fast as the horse, but it's a very unique beast of burden and transport. For instance, it covers an average distance of about 20km a day. It is not as smart as the horse, sometimes, we call people who are not smart donkeys; but the donkey is a very clever beast, it can memorise and remember any route it travels, the horse may not and must needs be guided always.

So even if you can't travel as fast as a horse, be glad if you can move like a donkey, after all, it is said that slow and steady wins the race.

Consider also that our Lord chose to use a donkey to enter Jerusalem. The king of Kings travelled on a donkey. The Holy family travelled from Nazareth to Bethlehem the birth place of our Lord and savior Jesus Christ, it took about 9days for them to get there in those days, (a journey of about 180km) however, the important thing was that they arrived on schedule for the birth of the Savior!

If you will focus all your energy on your goal and destination in life and keep on moving according to your strength and pace, you also will arrive on schedule.

Avoid the rat race of comparing yourself with other people, envying and competing with others. You will never be like them no matter how you try because you were created differently for different reasons.

Appreciate your uniqueness and celebrate it.

Shalom!

ACTION STEPS
1. Discover your uniqueness and celebrate it.
2. Avoid emulations and seditions.
3. Stay within the boundaries of your grace and mercy from God.

REMEMBER
*We are called differently for different reasons, hence our uniqueness in everything*

AUTHOR: JEDIDIAH DAVID

DAILY READING: 1Samuel 17; Psalms 20; Proverbs 12; Matthew 13; Acts 13;

*REMEMBER TO ATTEND PRAYERS IN CHURCH TODAY BY 5PM.*


HYMN
Just as I am------without one plea,
But that Thy blood was shed for me,
And that Thou bidd'st me come to Thee,
O Lamb of God, I come !

2
Just as I am---poor, wretched, blind,
Sight, riches, healing of the mind ;
Yea, all I need, in Thee to find,
O Lamb of God, 1 come !

3
Just as I am-----Thou wilt receive,
Wilt welcome, pardon, cleanse, relieve :
Because thy promise I believe,
O Lamb of God, I come !

4
Just as I am----Thy love unknown
Has broken every barrier down :
Now to be Thine, yea, Thine alone,
O Lamb of God, I come !

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Do Not Judge a Pain You Do Not Feel
In life, it is easy to observe from the
outside and believe we understand
what others are going through.
But in reality, every pain is unique,
every burden shaped by the experiences,
wounds, and emotions specific to the one carrying it.
Judging creates a wall between you and others. We sometimes forget that behind the silence, behind a forced smile, lies a story...!
A story we do not fully know,
a pain we have never truly felt...
What if, instead of judging, we chose empathy?
What if we extended a helping hand,
a gentle gaze, an unconditional ear?
Because, in the end, it is not our role to fully understand, but to offer a space where others feel seen, heard, and accepted in their uniqueness.
Compassion begins with respect for another's path, even if that path seems unfamiliar or incomprehensible to us.
Let us be, then, that breath of love that accompanies rather than the gaze that condemns.
Remember: what you do not feel, you cannot judge. But you can choose to honor it with humility and humanity. !