BOOKMARK FOR WHEN YOU OVER-THINK. Over thinking is a shame response. We over-think when we feel the shame of being exposed— as not perfect, not good enough, or as being defective in some way. All of us have a go to coping response. For some it’s self isolation, replaying the conversation over and over again, social media scrolling, or binge eating. All of this is an attempt to numb the shame and soothe the dysregulation in the body. Here’s what you can do when you get caught in the shame cycle from a comment: 1. Breathe and Move: If you’re at work go into the bathroom. Shake your arms and legs out. Take "slow" deep breaths as you do it. If you have an urge to cry, let yourself. Tears bring the body back to a parasympathetic state. 2. Open your Notepad or a Journal: Write down all the feelings that are coming up, what you wish you would have said as a “comeback” or anything else you’re thinking of that person. Don’t censor yourself or judge yourself. Being accepting of where you’re at instead of resisting the emotions will help to calm them. 3. Note the Messenger: Passive aggressive comments, attempting to making you look incompetent, or anyone engaging in a power dynamic reveals they’re struggling with their own communication. Typically, we think we "made" them react that way. Or they reacted because of what we did. In reality, this reveals how they feel about themselves. Don’t engage in an ego battle. Remind yourself you’re safe and that the "only" thing you’re responsible is responding as your highest self (this will help to break through shame and build confidence. DO YOU OVERTHINK? How can we help you? Comment "LIGHT to get 1 free therapy session". Keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you 💕 #stellaeyabi #youareenough #therapy