Ten ways to respect your self
1)stop looking for Who is not looking for u
2) stop being an attention, love and support seeker
3)stop saying more than necessary, silent Is powerful
4)set clear boundaries and stick to them even when it's hard
5) trust your instincts instead of constantly seeking others approval
6)walk away from anything that doesn't bring u peace
7) value ur time and energy, don't waste them on people or situations that drain you
8) forgive urself for the past mistakes and allow urself to grow
9) listen first, then speak
10) surrounds urself with people who uplift and inspire you .
Be wise best advice is
the one which you meditate
and give to urself

As you go out today, Every thing shall work out for your good Romans 8:28
Your blessings shall multiply, Your Health shall improve, Your family beloved, Your loved ones shall be blessed,Pain lessen, Your worries disappear and this new week bring you closer to your dream and aspirations said the Lord God of Host. I wish you a new week of Happiness, Success, Peace, Prosperity, Good Health and wealth in Jesus mighty name Amen. Happy New week.

*5 SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS TOXIC*
1. *You feel anxious more than safe.*
Your nervous system is in fight or flight, not rest and trust. Love should regulate you, not rattle you.

*100 reactions to unlock the rest🫶🏼🫢*

PLEASE FAITHFULLY MAKE THESE SEVEN POWERFUL DECLARATION FOR YOUR CHILDREN BEFORE YOU SHARE IT TO SEVEN PARENTS.

1. NO MATTER
HOW LONG I
STAY ON
EARTH, I WILL
NEVER
EXPERIENCE
THE AGONY
AND TEARS
OF LOSING MY
CHILDREN TO
DEATH.

2. I WILL NEVER
KNOW THE
GRAVE OF MY
CHILDREN.

3. SICKNESS OF
CHILDREN WILL
NOT DRY ME
FINANCIALLY.

4. A CAR THAT IS
ACCOMPANIED
WITH PALM
FRONDS
WILL NEVER
ENTER MY
COMPOUND.

5. THE SAME
HAND I USED
TO BUY BOOKS
PEN AND
CLOTHES FOR
MY CHILDREN,
WILL NEVER BE
USED TO BUY
THEIR
CASKETS.

6. THE STAR OF
MY GLORIOUS
CHILDREN WILL
NOT FALL
SUDDENLY.

7. MY GLORIOUS
CHILDREN
WILL NOT BE
KIDNAPPED.

8. AS I USE MY
HANDS TO
SHARE THESE
DECLARATIONS
TO MY LOVED
ONES, I WILL
NOT USE THE
SAME HANDS
TO COLLECT
THE DEAD
BODY OF MY
CHILDREN
FROM THE
MORTUARY.,
AMEN

*PLEASE SHARE THESE PRAYERS WITH SEVEN PARENTS OR GROUPS

At a mechanic’s workshop, I noticed a particular car that had been parked there for nearly four years. It was quite expensive and still looked in good shape the first time I saw it. But with time, it began to deteriorate. One of the windows got broken, the tyres deflated and wore out completely, and rust slowly crept over what was once a beautiful machine.

Curious, I asked the mechanic why such an expensive vehicle had been left to rot.

He confirmed that the car had indeed been in perfect condition when I first saw it. But even he had become helpless as to what to do. The vehicle belonged to someone from the Republic of Tchad. The man’s driver had been the one bringing it into Nigeria for repairs. On that last occasion, the driver dropped it off, paid for the repairs, and returned to Tchad, saying he would come back to collect the car once the required part being sourced from Lagos was fixed.

The mechanic bought the part, fixed the car, and waited. He had already been paid. But the driver never came back. It turned out he had been on his way to pick up the car when he was attacked by insurgents and killed. The mechanic didn’t know much about him, only his name, and had no idea where exactly in Tchad he was from. So the car remained there, abandoned. The owner likely has no idea where it is or how to recover it.

At a certain car wash, there was another case. Another expensive vehicle. This one had been brought in by a customer who patronised them occasionally. They didn’t know much about him either. He lived in another city but always came for business, and each time, he brought the car to be washed.

On his last visit, he dropped it off as usual and said he was going into town and would return later that evening. He never did. That was three years ago. Still, no sign of him. The car wash owner continues to wash and maintain the vehicle daily, keeping it spotless. But no one has come for it. They didn’t even know his name, and a search of the vehicle turned up no documents that could trace it to anyone. So, it remains abandoned.

Just last week, a friend of mine died after a brief illness. Before falling sick, he had taken some clothes to the laundry. He never returned to collect them. Thankfully, the laundryman knew his family and brought the clothes to his wife last night. She had no idea he had even taken anything to be laundered.

These situations made me think deeply.

Do our families and friends know the people we deal with, our mechanics, our laundrymen, or the businesses we patronise? Do we tell them about the errands we run or the transactions we make? Or do we go about our lives with no one aware of the little details that might matter in the end?

Shouldn’t someone at least know?

One day, you will take your car to the mechanic but you will not be the one to bring it back.
Your clothes will be at the laundry but you will not return to pick them up.
Do you have some pieces or parcels of land? Does your family know about them?
Do you have house or houses any where? Does your family know about it or them?
How many banks do you
have accounts in?
Does your family know about all of them?

Sometimes, the things you worked hard for, the things you loved and valued, will be left lying somewhere, useless and out of reach, because no one knew where you kept them or how to find them. That should be enough to give one the creeps and make one think deeply. Today, tomorrow, it shall come for you.

One day......

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I've been in an emotionally difficult relationship for over 15 years, 5 kids. My husband is highly critical, screams at me, screams at the kids, spanks them constantly over minutia, anything I question I'm an argumentative c***, feminism has seeped its poison into me, ect. I kept trying and reaching out, if I just did better, if he would just trust me, its pain and fear talking, all the things.

Well, I finally left last week. I've left before for a couple weeks, but I always end up back because I know God hates a broken marriage, your to sacrifice for your spouse and so on. So I leave, take a breather, he gets nicer, I keep trying, classic cycle.

Well, after almost 2 decades, I said screw it, I'm out, my kids are messed up, they flinch when you try to hug them and are non stop angry, Their dad just keeps trying to beat it out of them, I got to go.

So I walked. I stopped responding to him, anything. When I told the kids we weren't living with Daddy anymore, they cheered.

Well, now God's Got ahold of him. He's seen the light. He sees now that I was never the one abusing him and he's destroyed his family. He stole our joy, he never loved me, ext, and now apparently he's going to. He gave an in depth heartfelt apology to all the kids, to me, and promised to be different. Disney Dad. Its been a week, so far he's been exemplary.

I am not running back into that. I believe he's sincere, but I'm not sure he's going to stick and I'm ready to bounce. My mom is very mad at me because I am thinking that a 4 months is around when I'll go back, IF it sticks. She says thats not enough and my kids need to heal and I should take 2 years, if he really loves us, he will wait.

Am I crazy to think 2 years is unreasonable? If it were me and I'd really made a true change or shift, 2 years seems a long time. Whats a reasonable time line?

Edit- I'm not asking is he can change, I know its unlikely. I'm saying if he is a unicorn who DOES change, how long does it make sense to stay away? The kids are super excited they have a "new dad."

Question, I exude masculine energy because my husband put me there. He has pleaded a few times now that he wants me to be “submissive” hate that word with a passion now. He has asked me to allow him to lead. Our marriage, our family you name it. This is very hard for me. I have had to pick us up many times that this is now my norm. Honestly, I DONT want it! Im exhausted. I have taken the step back and have opened the door wide open to have him take the lead. He has noticed and now has a problem with things… in some things he claims everything that comes out of my mouth is “disrespectful” all im doing is speaking my half and he cant stand it. No more “safe space” to share what im thinking? We actually used to communicate well, he understood me before I even tried… wants the title but not do the work? I’m at a loss. What advice for the love of Pete…. It’s like the whole cake and eat it to thing? We are like magnets and not facing the right way. He feeds off my energy of me opening the door for him to lead, takes it negatively and reacts reactively. Im left with my shoulders up going LEAD! Wide open… this is already difficult for me to even open the door I’m trying… so when I get there and being met with disappointment? Is that the right word I feel like it’s more damaging than what was even going on in the first place….

Chelsea vs PSG Lineups

Reece James into midfield is a tactical spanner.. for those who love analysis, watch he does keenly in that midfield region—a move against Dembele ? Or just midfield overload.

Gusto inverting to form a box midfield or Gusto pinning and creating width for Palmer to drop into midfield?

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