Get you a woman, not a little girl.

A real woman will pour into you when life gets overwhelming. She’ll speak life into you when you’re feeling drained. If your money is low, she won’t shame you—she’ll step in where she can. When your mind is heavy, she’ll be your safe place, not your stress.

You need a partner, not a burden. Someone who pushes you to be better, stands beside you when life gets tough, and builds with you, not against you. She won’t be perfect, but she’ll be real, she’ll be willing, and she’ll be down for you in ways you didn’t even know you needed.

They exist, fellas… choose wisely.

True love goes beyond physical appearances; it’s not the body that captures your heart, but the soul.
When you genuinely fall for someone, it’s their spirit, their kindness, their laughter, and the way they understand you that draws you in.
Looks may attract, but it’s the depth of someone’s soul that makes you stay. Beauty fades with time, but a beautiful soul remains timeless.
It’s in the silent understanding, the shared moments, and the emotional connection where real love lives. The body is just a vessel—what truly matters is the soul that shines from within and touches yours deeply.

When love finds you again, I hope it brings you someone gentle, someone kind. I hope it brings you a human being who introduces you to a softer version of your life — someone who helps you find a way back into your tenderness, someone who helps you find a way back into your heart.
When love finds you again, I hope it chooses you completely. I hope it brings you the kind of person who doesn’t make you perform for their attention, who doesn’t make you beg for their heart. I hope it feels secure, I hope it feels like something you can trust, like something that cannot be threatened or taken from you, like something you can believe in, like something that will stay.
When love finds you again, I hope it magnifies your spirit. I hope it brings the hidden parts of you to the surface, I hope it helps you to expand.
When love finds you again, I hope it brings you the kind of human being who has done the work to heal themselves, so they can love you how you deserve to be loved. I hope it brings you the kind of person who knows that they cannot save you, but who holds your hand while you save yourself — who anchors you and roots you and cracks light into your life.
When love finds you again, I hope it gifts you the kind of human being who is not afraid of being responsible for your heart, who is not afraid of the effort it would require to care for someone with a soul like yours.
When love finds you again, I hope it brings you the kind of human being who sees you clearly. The kind of person who considers you, who borders your solitude; the kind of person who listens, who makes the effort, who connects.
When love finds you again, I hope it enters your life with ease. I hope it feels like peace, like safety, like a return to what is whole. I hope it feels like something certain, like something steady, like a deep exhale, like a homecoming, like an answered prayer — like all of the love you have put into this world coming back to you at last.

A real man respects you even when he’s angry not just when things are easy. True character shows in how he treats you during conflict, not just when you agree. Emotional maturity means staying gentle when it’s hard. Self-control means expressing anger without disrespect. Love means saying, “I’m upset, but I won’t belittle you.”
A real man doesn’t weaponize silence, call you names, or tear you down to “win.” He sees you as his partner, not his opponent. Respect isn’t a favor it’s the foundation of love. If he’s only kind when happy, that’s not love its immaturity.
Watch how he acts when things go wrong. A real man stays respectful even when hurt. He pauses, cools off, and communicates: “I’m mad, but I’m still on your side.” That’s lasting love. If he can’t do that, he’s not ready for the love you deserve.

Look for this.
Look for someone who wants to authentically learn who you are as a person.
Look for someone who lets you know from the very beginning, if they have genuine intentions.
Look for someone who isn't just a " lover ", but a friend, a partner, a mentor, someone who you can come to when life is so hard, and you feel like giving up and they are there to pick you back up on your feet.
Look for someone who respects you and your children.
Look for someone who shows you the definition of effort.
Look for someone who takes a day off work when you're sick to make sure you're taken of.
Look for someone who motivates you to do better in life because relationships are more than just falling in love. It's about inspiring each other to become better versions of yourselves day in and day out.
Look for someone who is patient with you and are guided by morals and reasoning.
Look for someone not only to love, but someone to grow with, learn from and to share new experiences with.
Look for someone who's willing to understand you.
Look for someone who admits when they are wrong.
Look for someone who understands it's not about giving you the world, it's about making you feel like you're the only one in it.
Take my advice and look for someone who touches your heart in ways you never thought were imaginable.

Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer thanks for all the troubles we don't have.

The beauty of life is in the small details not the big events.

How's your day going dearest?

Very beautiful

When a Father Walks Away—Everyone Pays the Price
Let’s say it loud:
The greatest crisis a child can face isn’t poverty.
It’s not bullying.
It’s not the cost of college.
It’s a father who left.
Whether he left through cheating, cowardice, or being pushed out—
the result is the same:
A child with no compass.
A future with no blueprint.
A legacy with no foundation.
Let’s talk about it.
—
1. Fathers Who Cheat Don’t Just Betray Their Wives—They Break Their Children.
That affair you had.
It didn’t just destroy trust.
It disrupted an entire bloodline.
Because the day you became a father, you weren’t just a lover.
You became a leader.
And when the leader abandons the structure?
The whole kingdom collapses.
—
2. Women Who Weaponize the Law Are No Better
Let’s not pretend:
The law is on your side.
The courts favor you.
The world will call you brave—even if you’re petty.
But just because you can destroy a man legally doesn’t mean you should.
Pushing a father out because your emotions changed isn’t power.
It’s generational sabotage.
Children don’t care about your ego.
They care about consistency.
—
3. Science Confirms It—Kids Do Better With Fathers Present
You can’t rewrite this.
Studies show: – Boys raised without fathers are more likely to be violent.
– Girls raised without fathers are more likely to be exploited.
– And all children suffer emotionally when dad becomes a ghost.
Single motherhood may be normalized.
But it’s not ideal.
And if you’re offended?
Check the prison stats.
Check the dropout stats.
Check the depression stats.
Father absence is not just a wound.
It’s a curse.
—
4. Men: Stop Starting Families You’re Not Ready to Lead
You want to be a father?
Then stop acting like a frat boy with responsibilities.
– You don’t get to cheat because “she let herself go.”
– You don’t get to start over and pretend your first family doesn’t exist.
– You don’t get to “heal” by disappearing from your children’s lives.
Leadership isn’t convenience.
It’s covenant.
And a man who can’t keep his vows shouldn’t expect loyalty from his children later in life.
—
5. Women: Stop Removing the Father Just Because the Marriage Died
You fell out of love?
Cool.
But that doesn’t cancel his role.
You moved on?
Great.
But that doesn’t mean he disappears.
When you turn your child against their father, you’re not protecting them.
You’re punishing them.
And they’ll resent you for it when they grow up.
—
6. Children Aren’t Resilient—They’re Just Quiet
Don’t be fooled.
That smile is covering confusion.
That silence is hiding trauma.
That “I’m fine” is rehearsed.
They notice: – When your new partner gets more attention.
– When they stop being invited to things.
– When love starts feeling like a competition.
They’re not “adapting.”
They’re breaking quietly.
—
7. Masculinity Must Be Modeled—Not Just Taught
Boys don’t become men through lectures.
They become men by watching one.
And if you’re not around?
They’ll find masculinity in the streets, the screen, or the chaos.
And none of those places build men you’d be proud of.
—
Final Word: You Don’t Stop Being a Father Because You Failed as a Husband
Men:
You may have lost the marriage.
But don’t lose your mission.
Women:
You may be hurt.
But don’t hijack your child’s future to soothe your ego.
Because when a father walks away—
Or is pushed out—
Everyone pays.
The kids.
The legacy.
The soul of the next generation.
So whether you're the man who strayed,
Or the woman who shut the door…
Fix it.
Because children don’t care who was right.
They just want both parents to stay in the fight.

It’s easy for a man to make promises.
Telling her you’ll always be there, that you’ll never lie, cheat, or walk away — those words come easy, especially in the beginning when everything feels new and exciting.
In those early stages, it’s simple to say the right things, to paint pictures of forever, to swear loyalty and love. But the truth is, saying it is one thing ... living it is another.
Keeping a promise requires consistency, even when the feelings aren’t as intense, even when you’re tired, angry, or dealing with your own battles. It means choosing her not just when it's easy, but especially when it’s hard.
Any man can be romantic when things are going well. But what about when she’s going through something heavy, when she needs patience more than passion? What about when life gets stressful, when you don’t see eye to eye, or when you're tempted to give up and walk away?
That’s when your promises are put to the test. And that’s where a man shows what he’s really made of.
Being a man in a relationship isn’t about controlling her, fixing everything, or always having the answers. It’s about being solid — emotionally available, reliable, honest even when it’s uncomfortable.
It’s about showing up when you say you will, being faithful when no one’s watching, and handling conflict without disrespect. It’s about growing with her, not against her.
You don’t earn her trust just by saying you love her. You earn it by showing up for her, day in and day out — especially when it’s not easy. Anyone can promise forever. But not everyone is willing to put in the work to make it real.
In the end, your actions will always speak louder than your words. Be the kind of man whose promises don’t need reminders — because your behavior makes them impossible to doubt.

Hey’ll tell you that you broke the family.
But here’s the truth, you broke the silence.
You stopped smiling through the pain,
Stopped staying quiet just to keep a fragile peace…
That wasn’t peace, it was pretense.
For years, you watched their toxic cycles spin.
The guilt trips, the gaslighting, the endless games.
You swallowed your words until they burned,
Kept your head down, let it slide again and again.
But then it reached your kids.
And something inside you shattered wide open.
When their poison touched your babies,
The silence became a scream.
You stood tall. You spoke up.
And suddenly, you’re the villain?
No. Let’s set the record straight:
You didn’t destroy the family.
You dismantled the dysfunction.
You refused to let the same wounds scar another generation.
You broke the pattern.
Chose truth over tradition, healing over hiding.
Let them whisper. Let them blame.
Your peace was never meant to live in their shame.
This isn’t loss, it’s liberation.
You didn’t lose your voice; you found it.
And you used it, for the ones who matter most.

Repeat after me:

"I am capable and confident in all that I do."
"Today is a new opportunity to make progress and achieve my goals."
"I am strong and resilient, and I can handle whatever comes my way."
"I trust myself and my abilities to make wise decisions."
"I am worthy of success, happiness, and fulfillment."

Repeat again and Reflect

Repeat these affirmations to yourself throughout the day, especially when you need a boost of confidence or motivation. Reflect on what you're grateful for and what you're looking forward to achieving.

Happy Moniday My Darlings!

Today is a new beginning, a fresh start, and a chance to make your mark. Rise and shine, take a deep breath, and tackle this Monday with confidence, enthusiasm, and purpose. You've got this!
- Say to yourself, "I am capable and strong."
- Set a daily goal or intention to focus on.
- Take a few minutes to stretch, move your body, and get energized.

Have a Great Day!

Risk takers are world changers.

You need deal with these completely else, they break you.

*ROMANTIC THINGS TO DO THAT DON'T INVOLVE S*X...✍🏾*

When romance is often mentioned, many think it is all about s*x. But romance is actually anything you do to your partner that communicate and show that him/her is special to you. Here are a few examples.

1. Calling your partner a special name that you wouldn't call any other person such "Honey", "Sweetheart"

2. Cooking together. This activity actually gives you two a chance to bond closer

3. Going out on dates to intimate places (not clubs) where you can look into each other's eyes and have heart to heart conversations

4. Pulling up her seat or holding her hand when she climbs up a stair case. Even though she can do this on her own, this makes her feel like you are mindful of her

5. Singing love songs together. This warms the heart

6. Covering each other in prayer. The most romantic thing is taking care of each other's spirit

7. Holding each other's hand as you walk.

8. Going out for walks, picnics and plays

9. If you have children, planning dates just for you two as you make plans for someone to take care of the kids. Children tend to kill romance if you are not deliberate about maintaining the fire

10. Talking on the phone till late about heart matters if you two are far from each other. If all you talk about till late is s*x then you are missing out on depth

11. Writing each other love letters. Yes, there is something special about reading each other's handwriting in this digital age. Leave a note for your partner on the pillow or post a letter if your partner is far away

12. Making him a warm drink as he works or going to see him with packed lunch. This shows that you have him in mind

13. Sending a parcel. There is something special about opening up a physical gift from the one you love

14. Praising each other publicly, whether in front of your friends, on social media or in social gatherings. But do this only when you love your partner well in private, otherwise it is just pretense

15. Writing each other poems, love songs or warm messages of how much you mean to each other

16. Sitting next to each other in church services as you read from the same Bible

17. Talking with your child/children about how you two met. Children love those stories of mom and dad. This reminds you two of how far your love has come

18. Wishing each other a good night and a good morning. Simple words but they mean alot

19. Having pillow talks on your marriage bed as you cuddle and be vulnerable with each other

Remember that is your life partner. Do and say things that communicate love. If you two are dating and your coming together is because of sex, then you are missing out on a chance to build on a strong foundation on which your future will be built.

If you two are married and you stopped making each other feel special especially since the children came, or the only time you pay attention to each other is when you want sex then you are weakening your marriage.

Bring true romance back.

Dear Odogwus!

New Mercies Every Morning

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness" - Lamentations 3:22-23.


Take a moment to reflect on this verse today. Ask God to guide your thoughts, words, and actions, and trust in His faithfulness and mercy.

A word for you today.

"Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer" - Psalm 19:14.

This verse beautifully captures the essence of starting our day with God. It's a heartfelt prayer that asks God to guide our thoughts, words, and actions, ensuring they align with His will. By prioritizing God's presence in our mornings, we can navigate the day with wisdom, confidence, and peace.

People who seek genuine connection are less interested in sex. Asking for it too early can be a turn-off, especially for grown women.

Fewer men have mastered this, and are interested in genuine connection. A man who is interested in building with you won't just be interested in Szx, especially in the early phase of dating.
You will go on dates, spend time together and get to know each other. The funniest thing is that sex is always going to be here or there.

As I get older, I have really crave connection. The one that we can put our phones down and just talk. It's the weekend; here's what I truly want to do. Get into the car with her and drive to Germany for about 3 hours, stop in one steak house and just eat while we drive back to Switzerland.

Don't get me wrong, I love sex, and I think I'm good at it, too,, but if sex is going to ruin my connection with a grown, decent woman, I don't want sex. It can wait until we both are ready for it.

Don't rush into sex without knowing that person, especially if you seek a genuine connection. Invest time in deep talk with them. This is how deep connection is built.

Sex is not love. Conversation is love.

Be guided.

To the Parent Thinking of Walking Away.
Before you cheat, leave, or build a new family from scratch, take a hard look at what you’re leaving behind.
Your children aren’t blind. They notice when you're suddenly too busy. They hear the excuses. They feel the shift in your attention. And they’re hurting more than they’ll ever say out loud.
You might think they’re “resilient” or that “kids adapt.” Maybe you tell yourself they’ll be fine. But
here’s the truth:
They’re confused. They’re hurt. And they’re wondering why your new life seems to matter more than they do.
They see the family outings with your new partner. They see the smiles and the affection you give to someone else’s children. And they wonder why not me.
They shouldn’t have to compete for your love. They shouldn’t have to wonder where they stand in your life.
Don’t make your child feel like a leftover from your past. You may be moving on, but they’re still standing in the wreckage.
So, if you’re going to leave, be honest. Be present. Be consistent. Because disappearing from their world, emotionally or physically, leaves scars that last far longer than any breakup ever will.
You don’t stop being a parent because you started over.
Show up ...... Always.
~ Cody Bret

20 WAYS TO BEFRIEND YOUR PARTNER:
I decided to write this list because someone asked " How can I be a friend to my Lover?"
A friend is someone who understands you and adds value to your life.
The popular saying says," Marry your friend or befriend anyone you marry".
1. Speak to her softly instead of shouting.
2. ‍Always make her smile and crack jokes for her. Stare at her face and Smile, if she asks why smiling. Tell her she's beautiful; laugh when she cracks jokes or says something funny. Frowning always is not spiritual.
3. Walk a distance together.
4. Hang out together at eateries.
5. Watch movies (wrestling, football, and Christian films) and play games together.
6. Fulfill purpose by going into ministration together.
7. Write love letters to each other.
8. Read books together.
9. Read the Bible together.
10. Pray together.
11. Sing praises and worship together.
12. Shop for her.
13. Speak your dialect.
15. Call her sweet names (Honey, Gem, Gold, my heartbeat, my sugar...)
16. Coauthor a book.
17. Cook for her.
18. Seek her advice and follow it as the spirit leads.
19. Discuss your plans with her.
20. Keep your money with her. Support him financially.
Above all thy getting, befriend her, and watch things work for you in your relationship.
Marriage is too long for you to journey with your boss, not a friend.
It's absurd for you to be in a relationship and still have opposite sex Bestie somewhere else.
A relationship thrives when you start with friendship!
Marry your friend!
Befriend your Lover!
Marry your talking mate!
Marry your purpose mate!
Marry your spiritual mate!
Marry your genotype mate! (You should marry someone your genotype is compatible with. AA should marry AS. AA should marry SS)
Marry your academic mate!
Marry your playmate!

The older I get, the more I appreciate people who are straightforward and clear about their intentions. I don't have time for games.

The human body can withstand up to 45 units of pain. Yet, during childbirth, a woman can experience up to 57 units of pain. That's the equivalent of having 20 broken bones... all at the same time. Never tell a woman she can't do it. Remember that only she can dance with two hearts inside her. Only she has known how to breathe with four lungs. Only she has carried the weight of two worlds in her womb... and given birth to a new life. Don't you dare tell her she's not up to it. Because she was born to overcome the impossible. She can do everything.

IF I DON'T PRAY, SATAN WILL MAKE MESS OF ME.