Listen up, Men! This “I Owe Nobody” Mentality Is Why Modern Women Are Broken—Here’s the Harsh Truth

Women today love to scream, “I owe nobody this, I owe nobody that,” like it’s some badge of honor. That’s how we got to this level of irresponsibility, broken relationships, broken marriages, and a society full of reckless women who hit 35 without a man and a body count that makes a calculator sweat. Let’s be real—this mentality is pure poison.

Here’s the truth they don’t want to hear: you owe people plenty. Respect, empathy, compassion, good character, and accountability aren’t optional—they’re the bare minimum for being a decent human. But let’s not stop there. You owe your husband virginity, submission, and obedience—period. That’s not oppression—that’s order. Society crumbles without it.

1. “I Owe Nobody Respect” Is Why No Man Wants You

Respect isn’t something you give based on your mood—it’s the foundation of any relationship. Women who refuse to respect men wonder why they keep getting ghosted. When a woman thinks she’s above showing respect, what she’s really saying is, “I’m entitled to everything without earning anything.” Men see that mentality from a mile away and run. And they should. No man should have to beg for basic respect.

2. “I Owe Nobody Empathy” Is Why Your Friendships Are Trash

Empathy is about understanding the other person’s point of view—not about making everything about you. Women who scream about not owing anyone empathy are the same ones who can’t keep friends for longer than six months because every conversation turns into “me, me, me.”

That’s why they spend their nights on TikTok live streams instead of having meaningful conversations. No empathy, no real connections—simple.

3. “I Owe Nobody My Virginity”—And That’s Why You’re Single at 35

Here’s the hard truth—a woman’s virginity is a gift, not a given. A man who works his entire life to build a legacy deserves a woman who has the discipline to save herself. You owe your husband

TARABA GOVERNMENT TO PARTNER WITH NIGERIA ARMY ON PROPOSED STATE RESOURCE CENTRE

In order to ensure that the workforce in Taraba State has access to relevant knowledge and capacity-enhanced activities, the Taraba State government is on the move to set up the Taraba State Resource Centre.

The Governor of the state, Dr. Agbu Kefas , disclosed this on Tuesday when he hosted a delegation from the Nigerian Army Resource Centre Abuja, at the Exco Chamber, TY Danjuma House Jalingo, the state capital.

The Nigeria Army Resource Centre is a hub set up to find solutions through research on the issues affecting security.

The delegation from the Centre is in the state for a study tour with a focus on the role of Small and Medium Enterprises and how to create jobs and increase productivity.

Receiving the delegation, Gov. Agbu Kefas recalled that his administration's relationship with the Army Resource Centre dates back to the beginning of his administration when he held a retreat for government officials at the centre.

The Governor noted that he has liaised with the centre to see how they are running their programmes, and the Taraba State Resource Centre is in the formative stage.

He enjoined the delegation to also give the state a copy of their findings as well as come up with suggestions that will enable the government to give the people the best.

The leader of the delegation, Major General Sanusi Dahiru, said they were in the state on a study tour and that the state was chosen because of Gov Agbu Kefas' developmental strides.

According to him, the focus of the study tour is on small and medium enterprises to find out how to enhance job creation, which is an aspect of enhancing national security.

The Governor later presented souvenirs to the visitors.

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I got married at 25, finished my PhD at 27 and became a Professor at 40.

So fast you see! Yes, everything around me worked fast. It is now that I realise that it was a misplaced priority.

My ambition blindfolded me and I got it all wrong, that is why I am sharing my experience through this medium to warn and encourage our young mothers not to be careless as I was back then.

I worked very hard as a lecturer and as an administrator, always so busy that it became my language to my children...."I'm busy"

My mum was around to nurse the children for me for some time. The moment they clocked ten, I sent them to boarding schools, though my husband was not in support of this. I always found my way.

I had no warm relationship with my children, 2 boys and a girl.

I never knew it was a bad idea not to have time for my husband, children and the household, until 5 years ago, when guilt, loneliness and restlessness filled my heart.

I sent for my children to rejoice with me on my 60th birthday.

The two boys, living in Canada said they are "busy" and that their sister will come down from South Africa.

Two days to my birthday, my daughter sent this message to me, "Mum, I am very sorry not to be around over there, there is no time to squeeze out, my husband needs my attention at his newly established clinic and presently, I'm pregnant. "I'm very very busy,
I'm also lonely in a strange land. Please pray for us mum. Happy birthday". I could not recover from the meaning I got from the message.. "First-things-First". When they needed me for warmth and discussion, I was not available, now I needed them for warmth and discussion I could not get them, rather they returned my slogan back to me, "I'm busy"

To worsen the matter, my dear husband died in his sleep a month after. ...Only one of the children came without his family to the burial ceremony.

I was dumbfounded!!! Considered Opinion: it is good to work and be a hard working fellow.
But hear this important and salient truth:

Parenting is sacrificial work, give it all it takes. Avoid any work that will take away your attention too much from your home - Avoid it and be careful!

SOLIDIFY YOUR HOME FIRST, CREATE TIME FOR YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN.

ESTABLISH THE FEAR OF GOD IN THEIR HEARTS THROUGH YOUR ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOUR.

THOUGH IT IS COSTLY NOW, THE FUTURE REWARD IS WORTH IT.

THIS IS AN EYE OPENER FOR BOTH MEN & WOMEN.

LET'S BE SELFLESSLY AVAILABLE WHEN OUR CHILDREN NEED US.

I got married at 25, finished my PhD at 27 and became a Professor at 40.

So fast you see! Yes, everything around me worked fast. It is now that I realise that it was a misplaced priority.

My ambition blindfolded me and I got it all wrong, that is why I am sharing my experience through this medium to warn and encourage our young mothers not to be careless as I was back then.

I worked very hard as a lecturer and as an administrator, always so busy that it became my language to my children...."I'm busy"

My mum was around to nurse the children for me for some time. The moment they clocked ten, I sent them to boarding schools, though my husband was not in support of this. I always found my way.

I had no warm relationship with my children, 2 boys and a girl.

I never knew it was a bad idea not to have time for my husband, children and the household, until 5 years ago, when guilt, loneliness and restlessness filled my heart.

I sent for my children to rejoice with me on my 60th birthday.

The two boys, living in Canada said they are "busy" and that their sister will come down from South Africa.

Two days to my birthday, my daughter sent this message to me, "Mum, I am very sorry not to be around over there, there is no time to squeeze out, my husband needs my attention at his newly established clinic and presently, I'm pregnant. "I'm very very busy,
I'm also lonely in a strange land. Please pray for us mum. Happy birthday". I could not recover from the meaning I got from the message.. "First-things-First". When they needed me for warmth and discussion, I was not available, now I needed them for warmth and discussion I could not get them, rather they returned my slogan back to me, "I'm busy"

To worsen the matter, my dear husband died in his sleep a month after. ...Only one of the children came without his family to the burial ceremony.

I was dumbfounded!!! Considered Opinion: it is good to work and be a hard working fellow.
But hear this important and salient truth:

Parenting is sacrificial work, give it all it takes. Avoid any work that will take away your attention too much from your home - Avoid it and be careful!

SOLIDIFY YOUR HOME FIRST, CREATE TIME FOR YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN.

ESTABLISH THE FEAR OF GOD IN THEIR HEARTS THROUGH YOUR ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOUR.

THOUGH IT IS COSTLY NOW, THE FUTURE REWARD IS WORTH IT.

THIS IS AN EYE OPENER FOR BOTH MEN & WOMEN.

LET'S BE SELFLESSLY AVAILABLE WHEN OUR CHILDREN NEED US.

Responsibilities of a Father in a Family:

_Primary Responsibilities:_

1. Providing financial support
2. Emotional guidance and support
3. Disciplining and setting boundaries
4. Role-modeling values and behavior
5. Protecting and ensuring family safety

_Emotional Support:_

1. Listening and validating feelings
2. Offering comfort and reassurance
3. Encouraging open communication
4. Supporting partner's emotional needs
5. Modeling healthy emotional expression

_Discipline and Guidance:_

1. Setting clear expectations and rules
2. Teaching life skills and values
3. Encouraging responsibility and independence
4. Modeling respectful communication
5. Providing constructive feedback

_Financial Provision:_

1. Managing household finances
2. Providing for family's basic needs
3. Planning for future financial security
4. Saving for children's education
5. Ensuring family's economic stability

_Role-Modeling:_

1. Demonstrating integrity and honesty
2. Modeling respectful relationships
3. Teaching respect for authority
4. Encouraging physical and mental well-being
5. Embodying values and principles

_Parenting Partnership:_

1. Co-parenting with mother
2. Sharing childcare responsibilities
3. Collaborating on discipline and guidance
4. Supporting partner's parenting style
5. Maintaining united front in parenting

_Community Involvement:_

1. Participating in children's activities
2. Volunteering in community or school
3. Building relationships with neighbors
4. Role-modeling social responsibility
5. Fostering community connections

_Personal Growth:_

1. Pursuing personal interests and hobbies
2. Continuing education and self-improvement
3. Maintaining physical and mental health
4. Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care
5. Seeking support and resources when needed

_Influencing Children's Development:_

1. Shaping moral and ethical values
2. Encouraging educational and career goals
3. Modeling healthy relationships
4. Teaching life skills and independence
5. Fostering emotional intelligence

Remember:

1. Fatherhood is a unique and vital role.
2. Emotional support is crucial for family well-being.
3. Partnership with your spouse is essential.
4. Role-modeling values and behavior shapes children's development.
5. Seeking support is a sign of strength.

10 SIGNS YOU NEED TO WORK ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

A strong and healthy relationship requires continuous effort, understanding, and mutual respect. However, even the most loving partnerships can hit a rough patch. Recognizing the signs that your relationship needs attention is the first step toward making things better. Let’s explore the key indicators and how to address them with positivity and determination.

1. Communication Has Become Difficult

One of the most common signs that a relationship needs work is when communication breaks down. Do you find it hard to express your feelings or share your thoughts without fear of being judged? Misunderstandings, frequent arguments, or a lack of meaningful conversations can create distance.

Motivational Tip: Open and honest communication is the backbone of any relationship. Start by practicing active listening. Set aside time daily to talk openly with your partner, without distractions. Remember, it's okay to agree to disagree as long as respect is maintained.

2. You Feel Emotionally Distant

If you or your partner feel emotionally disconnected, it’s a clear sign that something needs attention. Emotional distance can manifest as indifference, lack of intimacy, or feeling unimportant in the relationship.

Motivational Tip: Rebuild emotional intimacy by spending quality time together. Simple acts like holding hands, sharing a laugh, or reminiscing about happy memories can help reignite the bond.

3. Frequent Arguments Over Small Issues

Disagreements are normal, but constant bickering over trivial matters can indicate underlying unresolved issues. These recurring conflicts can lead to frustration and resentment if not addressed.

Motivational Tip: When disagreements arise, take a step back and reflect on the root cause. Approach the discussion calmly, focusing on finding solutions rather than assigning blame. Remember, you’re a team, not opponents.
4. Lack of Appreciation or Gratitude

When was the last time you genuinely appreciated your partner? Taking each other for granted is a subtle but harmful sign of neglect in a relationship. Feeling unacknowledged can erode the foundation of love and trust.

Motivational Tip: Start noticing and appreciating the little things your partner does. A heartfelt "thank you" or a kind gesture can go a long way in strengthening your bond.

5. You Avoid Spending Time Together

If you find yourself preferring to spend time apart rather than together, it’s a red flag. This avoidance might stem from unresolved conflicts, boredom, or a lack of shared interests.

Motivational Tip: Reignite the joy of being together by exploring new activities or revisiting old hobbies that you both enjoy. Shared experiences create lasting memories and help reconnect.

6. There’s No Longer a Sense of Partnership

A relationship thrives on teamwork. If one person is carrying most of the emotional or practical load, it can lead to feelings of imbalance and resentment.

Motivational Tip: Work together to share responsibilities and make decisions as a team. A balanced partnership fosters mutual respect and strengthens the connection.

7. Physical Intimacy Has Declined

Physical intimacy is an important aspect of a romantic relationship. A noticeable decline in affection, such as hugs, kisses, or sexual intimacy, can signal emotional or physical distance.

Motivational Tip: Talk openly about your feelings and desires with your partner. Rekindling physical intimacy starts with emotional closeness, so focus on rebuilding trust and comfort.

8. You Feel More Negative Than Positive

If negative emotions like frustration, anger, or sadness outweigh the positive feelings in your relationship, it’s time to take action. A relationship should be a source of joy and support, not stress.

Motivational Tip: Focus on the positives. Recall the reasons you fell in love and remind yourself of your partner’s good qualities. Cultivate gratitude and positivity to shift the emotional balance.

9. You’re Not Working Towards Shared Goals

Couples grow stronger when they have shared dreams and goals. If you find that your priorities and future plans no longer align, it’s a sign that you need to work on reconnecting.

Motivational Tip: Have an open discussion about your aspirations and find common ground. Setting goals together can strengthen your sense of purpose and partnership.

10. You Feel Stuck

Feeling stuck or stagnant in a relationship can be discouraging. It often happens when couples stop putting in the effort to grow together.

Motivational Tip: Relationships evolve over time, and it’s important to adapt. Invest in self-improvement and encourage your partner to do the same. Growth as individuals often translates to growth as a couple.

Final Thoughts

Recognizing these signs is not a reason to lose hope but an opportunity to rebuild and strengthen your relationship. Every relationship goes through ups and downs, but with effort, understanding, and mutual commitment .

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10 SIGNS YOU NEED TO WORK ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

A strong and healthy relationship requires continuous effort, understanding, and mutual respect. However, even the most loving partnerships can hit a rough patch. Recognizing the signs that your relationship needs attention is the first step toward making things better. Let’s explore the key indicators and how to address them with positivity and determination.

1. Communication Has Become Difficult

One of the most common signs that a relationship needs work is when communication breaks down. Do you find it hard to express your feelings or share your thoughts without fear of being judged? Misunderstandings, frequent arguments, or a lack of meaningful conversations can create distance.

Motivational Tip: Open and honest communication is the backbone of any relationship. Start by practicing active listening. Set aside time daily to talk openly with your partner, without distractions. Remember, it's okay to agree to disagree as long as respect is maintained.

2. You Feel Emotionally Distant

If you or your partner feel emotionally disconnected, it’s a clear sign that something needs attention. Emotional distance can manifest as indifference, lack of intimacy, or feeling unimportant in the relationship.

Motivational Tip: Rebuild emotional intimacy by spending quality time together. Simple acts like holding hands, sharing a laugh, or reminiscing about happy memories can help reignite the bond.

3. Frequent Arguments Over Small Issues

Disagreements are normal, but constant bickering over trivial matters can indicate underlying unresolved issues. These recurring conflicts can lead to frustration and resentment if not addressed.

Motivational Tip: When disagreements arise, take a step back and reflect on the root cause. Approach the discussion calmly, focusing on finding solutions rather than assigning blame. Remember, you’re a team, not opponents.
4. Lack of Appreciation or Gratitude

When was the last time you genuinely appreciated your partner? Taking each other for granted is a subtle but harmful sign of neglect in a relationship. Feeling unacknowledged can erode the foundation of love and trust.

Motivational Tip: Start noticing and appreciating the little things your partner does. A heartfelt "thank you" or a kind gesture can go a long way in strengthening your bond.

5. You Avoid Spending Time Together

If you find yourself preferring to spend time apart rather than together, it’s a red flag. This avoidance might stem from unresolved conflicts, boredom, or a lack of shared interests.

Motivational Tip: Reignite the joy of being together by exploring new activities or revisiting old hobbies that you both enjoy. Shared experiences create lasting memories and help reconnect.

6. There’s No Longer a Sense of Partnership

A relationship thrives on teamwork. If one person is carrying most of the emotional or practical load, it can lead to feelings of imbalance and resentment.

Motivational Tip: Work together to share responsibilities and make decisions as a team. A balanced partnership fosters mutual respect and strengthens the connection.

7. Physical Intimacy Has Declined

Physical intimacy is an important aspect of a romantic relationship. A noticeable decline in affection, such as hugs, kisses, or sexual intimacy, can signal emotional or physical distance.

Motivational Tip: Talk openly about your feelings and desires with your partner. Rekindling physical intimacy starts with emotional closeness, so focus on rebuilding trust and comfort.

8. You Feel More Negative Than Positive

If negative emotions like frustration, anger, or sadness outweigh the positive feelings in your relationship, it’s time to take action. A relationship should be a source of joy and support, not stress.

Motivational Tip: Focus on the positives. Recall the reasons you fell in love and remind yourself of your partner’s good qualities. Cultivate gratitude and positivity to shift the emotional balance.

9. You’re Not Working Towards Shared Goals

Couples grow stronger when they have shared dreams and goals. If you find that your priorities and future plans no longer align, it’s a sign that you need to work on reconnecting.

Motivational Tip: Have an open discussion about your aspirations and find common ground. Setting goals together can strengthen your sense of purpose and partnership.

10. You Feel Stuck

Feeling stuck or stagnant in a relationship can be discouraging. It often happens when couples stop putting in the effort to grow together.

Motivational Tip: Relationships evolve over time, and it’s important to adapt. Invest in self-improvement and encourage your partner to do the same. Growth as individuals often translates to growth as a couple.

Final Thoughts

Recognizing these signs is not a reason to lose hope but an opportunity to rebuild and strengthen your relationship. Every relationship goes through ups and downs, but with effort, understanding, and mutual commitment .

1. Never shake hand while sitting.

2. Never talk bad about the food when you are the guest.

3. Don't eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

4. Protect who is behind you and respect who is beside you.

5. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.

6. Don't take credit for the work you didn't do.

7. Dress well, no matter what the occasion.

8. Speak honestly: say what you think and mean what you say.

9. Ask more than you answer.

10. Leave the profane language for the less educated.

11. Avoid placing your phone on the table when eating with someone.

12. Listen, smile and most of all make eye contact.

13. If you're not invited, don't ask to go.

14. Never be ashamed of where you come from.

15. Don't beg for a relationship.
#sbusiso_sbu_mkhalipi

THOSE WHO CROWN KINGS DO NOT LOOK LIKE KINGS ; BEWARE !!!

There was this poor man who *wrote a book at the age of 40* and decided to launch it on his Birthday.

He had no money to fund the launching and so, *he decided to seek help from a millionaire* in his community.

He made a visit to the Millionaires home and after they exchanged pleasantries, he told his host what brought him.

The Millionaire told him to take out a piece of paper and pen.
He said, " I will give you a test. If you pass it, I will give you the money you need and if you fail, I will still give you the money"

He then told him to write down the names of 10 people who could give him 10k each for his book during the launch.

Surprisingly, the man could not write even 3 names.

Now, take a glass of water and let me tell you something..

It is not enough to have talent and skills. You must understand the power of building valuable relationship.

It was a wise man that said, *your network is directly proportional to your net worth.*

*_Relationship is a currency_*

Relationship is a stream of income. Everything in this life actually reproduces on the basis of relationship.

See eh, *Who likes you in this life matters.*

Men are lifted through men.

*Many of us are talented but we lack a cup bearer* to tell the King that there is a Joseph that can interpret dreams.

*Who you know matters a lot in this life.* Don't say it doesn't matter. It does.

There are heights and opportunities you will never attain if you don't understand *the power of Keeping Valuable Relationships* .

When they say, *turn and greet your neighbour at times, you don't even know who you are talking to* .

That might be the CEO of a company. But sometimes, *we despise people based on their outward looks and judge them wrongly.*

Have this wisdom am sharing with you.

That person you sit with, or the colleagues at work that you look down on, may be the ones that will lead you to your destiny helper because you have no idea who they know.

Sometimes, it takes just a recommendation to change your story.

*Don't despise men in Life.* You will need them one day.

Sometimes *those who crown Kings don't look like kings* and may never become kings but they can help you wear the crown.
Again,
Shut the door of relationship gently; you may need to use it tomorrow.

Please value even the least person, because, that person might be the one to wear you the crown !

*Your full participation in any group or environment you meet yourself will speak volume when you need the group in future*

LETS NOT FORGET
EVERY ONE IS A PLUS!!

SEN. NEWAEBONYI REVEALS THAT SEN NATASHA HAS SIX CHILDREN WITH DIFFERENT MEN. SAYS AKPABIO NEVER TOUCHED HER.
The Deputy Chief Whip, Senator Onyekachi Nwaebonyi, has accused Senator Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan of having six children with different men and equally dismissed the sexual harassment allegation Senator Natasha levied against the President of the Senate, Godswill Akpabio.
The senator representing Kogi Central had recently accused the Senate President of sexually harassing her when she and other senators visited his house to celebrate his birthday in December 2023.
While appearing on Arise TV’s The Morning Show on Friday, February 28, 2025, Senator Natasha recounted how Akpabio allegedly requested an intimate relationship while showing her the interior of his Ikot-Ekpene residence.
She said the Senate President made the same request again when she went to his office to ask him why her move to raise a motion about Ajaokuta Steel Company was not being considered.
However, the Deputy Chief Whip has rejected Senator Natasha’s claim, saying the Senate President did not move close to her on his birthday.
Speaking on Arise TV on Monday, March 3, 2025, Senator Nwaebonyi said he was among the lawmakers who attended Akpabio’s birthday ceremony, saying the Senate President did not sexually harass Senator Natasha that day.
“On the issue of sexual harassment as alleged by Natasha, as God would have it, I am an eyewitness, and as I posted on social media, I narrated what transpired. On that fateful day of December 8, 2023, I was among the Senators that attended the birthday ceremony of the Senate President
“Right from Senator Attah Airport, I drove in the same vehicle with the Senator and her husband. In fact, I was in the front seat while the senator and her husband were in the back seat. We attended a series of programmes with the Senate President within Uyo town. At the end of the day, we moved to Ikot-Ekpene, the hometown of the Senate President.
“I remember very well, as we were coming down from the vehicle, she was complaining about her shoes paining her, and she and her husband (had) to stay back while I rushed inside to join other senators to inspect the building of the Senate President,” the lawmaker said.
Nwaebonyi maintained that Senator Natasha did not join her colleagues when Akpabio was taking them around the house, adding that the Senate President did not touch Natasha, let alone ask her to come and have a good time at his residence.
“I must tell you for free, and that’s the truth, that Senator Natasha never joined us inspecting the building of the Senate President. She was seated at the parlour with her husband. The Senate President took us around, took us to the chapel, and called those who were Catholic Senators to join him in a Holy Mass.
We celebrated the Holy Mass and, at the end of the day, ended up in the garden as he hosted us. There was never a time when the Senate President touched Senator Natasha.
“There was never a time the Senate President told Senator Natasha do you like my house? We will come back to have a good time. That never happened, Senator Natasha knows that very well,” Nwaebonyi said.
He claimed that Senator Natasha came up with the sexual harassment allegation against Akpabio because the Senate President moved her to another seat.
“It is disheartening and unbelievable for a Senator of the Federal republic to, out of mere provocation — simply because you were given a new seat and probably your committee was changed — get up to lay a false allegation against a man that is old enough to be your father,” the Senator alleged.
When asked what step the Senate is taking on the matter, Nwaebonyi said, “The Senate can’t act on hearsay. Senator Natasha has never presented any issue before us.”

You can marry the right person and not marry the person right.

Having the right partner doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage if you don’t work on yourself and the relationship.

Some people have direct revelation/ convictions that their spouse is perfect for them, yet they are struggling in their marriage to understand themselves.

God can show you that someone is destined for you, but he won't come down to treat them well for you. God provides guidance, not control.

He has given you the key to a successful marriage. Men love your wives, and women submit to your husband.

You also need to understand that submission and love don't just happen if you don't give room for it.

Stop blaming God for your own mistakes. Take responsibility of your shortcomings.

Find what works for you and your partner to foster a healthy, and loving relationship.

It takes commitment from both partners to make healthy and loving marriage.

Can two work together unless they agree?

#Lekwa princess ijeoma ✍🏾
#TheVoice

Relationship of 3 days u don run save your partner name as *pillar of my life* u no even allow the cement dry. Next u go cry say them break ur heart