THE BETRAYAL
© Grace O.O
Part 10
They spent the day talking about the future; their expectations and other plans. James took her home when it was getting late.

"Take care of yourself my love". He said fondly.

"I will try. Call me when you get home".

He watched as she retreated into the compound and entered the house before he left. When he got home, he called her and informed her about his safe ride. After talking for almost an hour, the lovers baded each other goodnight.

***
James took her to see his parents the following weekend. They boarded a flight from Ibadan to Abuja where the family residence was.

When they arrived at the Bakare's residence, Serena was awed although she wasn't surprised based on the magnitude of their wealth. Servants approached the duo and helped with the luggage.

"Gosh, I'm so nervous right now. What do I do when I see your parents?". James chuckled and pulled her into an embrace.

"You will be fine, sweetie. I'd be there beside you holding your hands. You have nothing to fear". He assured her.

James led her into the mansion, his hand on her back. He asked for his parents from the workers and was told that they were upstairs.

"Let's wait for them. I'm sure they're having their usual afternoon nap". He wanted to continue but stopped when he heard footsteps. Serena rose to her feet when she sighted James's parents descending the staircase.

"Who do we have here?". His mother said excitedly. James walked up to her and prostrated before his parents.

"Good afternoon Dad and Mom".

"How are you, son?". His father raised him and patted him on the back.

"I've been well, Dad. Trust you're doing great?".

"Yes". His gaze shifted to Serena who quickly went on her knees.

"Good afternoon sir. Good afternoon ma'am".

"My dear, how are you?". Mrs Bakare asked.

"I'm good ma'am. Trust you're doing well ma?".

"I am very good my dear". She looked at James who understood the message being conveyed.

"Dad, Mom, here's Serena Johnson. She's my fiancee". He introduced her.

"Wow! She's very beautiful. You did well, son". Chief Bakare turned to Serena and helped her to her feet.

"You're welcome to the family, Serena".

"Thank you sir. I got you a gift sir and ma". She brought out two packages from her bag and gave them each to the older couple.

"Wow! How did you know my favorite wine?". Chief Bakare grinned.

"Well, it's one of the best quality of wine so I just bought it. I never knew it was your favorite and I'm glad you like it sir".

"This gown is really giving the African vibes. To think that it's from one of my favorite clothing brand". Mrs Bakare said as she checked out the dress.

"It's classy and has good quality. You do have a good taste for quality". Chief Bakare complimented Serena.

"Coming from you sir, I take it as a compliment". She said, smiling nervously.

"I'm sure you both are famished. I already asked the maids to prepare your room so you can go and freshen up". Mrs Bakare said and winked at James.

"Thank you Mom. That's so thoughtful of you". He winked back and led Serena upstairs to the room.

"What do you think?". Chief Bakare faced his wife when they were out of sight.

"They're an excellent match. She looks smart and intelligent. She's also beautiful. I like her already".

"I like her too. I just hope she's not in the relationship for his money. I can't watch my son have another heartbreak".

"Well, I think they're good. He's already proposed to her, I saw the ring on her finger". Mrs Bakare said.

"If you say so. We need to start making preparations then".

After an hour, the young couple came downstairs for lunch. Serena was surprised at the magnitude of food served. There was different kinds of food like jollof rice, spaghetti and drinks. She wondered if there was a feast.

"Princess, feel at home. You can choose any kind of food you want". Mrs Bakare said.

"Thank you Mommy".

The older couple dined on pounded yam and vegetable soup while the young couple feasted on jollof rice.

"How about your parents? When do we get to meet them?". Chief Bakare asked.

"They're doing well sir. Both of them reside at Ikeja. They wanted to know when you would be ready". Serena replied.

"That's fine. James, make sure you see her parents next weekend. We need to start making preparations for your wedding. Just tell us how you want it to be; extravagant, moderate or low-key". Chief Bakare told them.

"Oh Dad, thanks a lot. We'd get back to you soon". James replied.

"Serena, what do you do for a living?". Mrs Bakare asked.

"I work as a lawyer at a private firm".

"Oh, so you're a lawyer?".

"Yes ma'am".

"That's good, princess".

They continued their discussion after lunch. Serena liked their joviality and the bond between the older couple. One look at them and one would see the love in their eyes.

"I wish for the kind of love between your parents. It's so pure. I love that they are happy together". Serena told James when they were alone.

"I would give you more, my princess". He replied.

They went to the garden in the mansion and sat down on a swing, watching the twilight. They remained there till late in the night, watching the twinkling stars in the sky.
______________

To be continued...

Parents, you are role models to your children. Therefore, keep in mind that your children are watching everything you do.

Planning committee, hope you've picked the wedding date and dress code?

#_pen_of_grace

Bimbo Oshin, a popular Yoruba Nollywood actress, met her late husband, Dudu Heritage, whose real name was Ola Ibironke, many years ago in the Nigerian entertainment circle. Dudu Heritage was a well-known music promoter and socialite, especially active in the U.S. and Nigeria. Their paths crossed during industry events and social gatherings, and from there, they grew close. Their relationship blossomed and led to marriage, though they mostly kept their family life private.

They were blessed with children together, including a daughter. Bimbo Oshin always spoke fondly of her husband, often referring to him as a great support system and a loving father.

Sadly, Dudu Heritage d!ed suddenly on Sunday, September 12, 2021. He reportedly slumped and passed away, which shocked many in the entertainment industry and left Bimbo devastated. His d£ath came unexpectedly and was a major blow to her and the family.

Since the passing of her husband, Bimbo Oshin has focused on her children and career. As of now, there’s no confirmed report that she has remarried or is dating anyone publicly. She continues to keep her personal life away from public drama and focuses on living quietly while maintaining her relevance in Nollywood.
Follow My Nolly Movies for more updates.

#fblifestyle

Pretending in a relationship courses nothing but future damage.
#relashionshipgoals #funny #fun #datenight
#fashion #style #storyteller

RESPONSIBILITIES OF A FATHER IN A FAMILY:

PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITIES:

1. Providing financial support
2. Emotional guidance and support
3. Disciplining and setting boundaries
4. Role-modeling values and behavior
5. Protecting and ensuring family safety

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT:

1. Listening and validating feelings
2. Offering comfort and reassurance
3. Encouraging open communication
4. Supporting partner's emotional needs
5. Modeling healthy emotional expression

DISCIPLINE AND GUIDANCE:

1. Setting clear expectations and rules
2. Teaching life skills and values
3. Encouraging responsibility and independence
4. Modeling respectful communication
5. Providing constructive feedback

FINANCIAL PROVISION:

1. Managing household finances
2. Providing for family's basic needs
3. Planning for future financial security
4. Saving for children's education
5. Ensuring family's economic stability

ROLE-MODELING:

1. Demonstrating integrity and honesty
2. Modeling respectful relationships
3. Teaching respect for authority
4. Encouraging physical and mental well-being
5. Embodying values and principles

PARENTING PARTNERSHIP:

1. Co-parenting with mother
2. Sharing childcare responsibilities
3. Collaborating on discipline and guidance
4. Supporting partner's parenting style
5. Maintaining united front in parenting

COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT:

1. Participating in children's activities
2. Volunteering in community or school
3. Building relationships with neighbors
4. Role-modeling social responsibility
5. Fostering community connections

PERSONAL GROWTH:

1. Pursuing personal interests and hobbies
2. Continuing education and self-improvement
3. Maintaining physical and mental health
4. Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care
5. Seeking support and resources when needed

INFLUENCING CHILDREN'S DEVELOPMENT:

1. Shaping moral and ethical values
2. Encouraging educational and career goals
3. Modeling healthy relationships
4. Teaching life skills and independence
5. Fostering emotional intelligence.

Edith Paul

First thing I don’t have much experience in dating and starting new relationships i am divorcing my partner of 28 years and i am in my 40’s. I met a guy a month or so ago, he’s been nothing but amazing and we are so similar it’s scary. We both told eachother we weren’t ready for a full commitment yet but was willing to take things slow and build a friendship. He tells me he adores me. He would text me often and we would neveree wanna sleep at night to talk, not a lot at work but that’s expected. He’s going through some things with his co parent and has been in a slump and is having a hard time. I have reassured him I’m here when he needs me. I have a bit of an anxious attachment and I’ve told him this and that i am attached more than i should be. He said he doesn’t wanna hurt me and it’s not his intentions he’s just struggling….he def has distanced himself and doesn’t text me as often and doesn’t seem as happy with me as he once was. It went from 10 to like 3. What do I do? I’m hurting but at the same time realistically i know he’s hurting too. Now i just send random texts letting him know im here and asking if he’s ok….he won’t text me back all the time. Please some guidance and please be gentle this dating stuff is foreign to me and dating back in the late 90’s is so different compared to now. What would u all do?

First thing I don’t have much experience in dating and starting new relationships i am divorcing my partner of 28 years and i am in my 40’s. I met a guy a month or so ago, he’s been nothing but amazing and we are so similar it’s scary. We both told eachother we weren’t ready for a full commitment yet but was willing to take things slow and build a friendship. He tells me he adores me. He would text me often and we would neveree wanna sleep at night to talk, not a lot at work but that’s expected. He’s going through some things with his co parent and has been in a slump and is having a hard time. I have reassured him I’m here when he needs me. I have a bit of an anxious attachment and I’ve told him this and that i am attached more than i should be. He said he doesn’t wanna hurt me and it’s not his intentions he’s just struggling….he def has distanced himself and doesn’t text me as often and doesn’t seem as happy with me as he once was. It went from 10 to like 3. What do I do? I’m hurting but at the same time realistically i know he’s hurting too. Now i just send random texts letting him know im here and asking if he’s ok….he won’t text me back all the time. Please some guidance and please be gentle this dating stuff is foreign to me and dating back in the late 90’s is so different compared to now. What would u all do?

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

WATCH YOUR TONE
When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

TIMING
Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

WATCH YOUR EYES
Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

SOOTHE HIM
If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

NO INSULTS
Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

DON'T BOY HIM
Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

DON'T TALK AT HIM
Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

TAKE HIM ON A DATE
Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

DON'T PUSH HIM
Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

BE FLEXIBLE
Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
Read less.

Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>

The love language we don't talk about.
It's the quiet act of someone choosing to work on themselves.
Not just for their own sake, but for the health of the relationship.
It’s easy to say, “That’s just how I am,” and expect others to accept our flaws and triggers as unchangeable parts of us.
But real love ..... deep, mature love, looks different.
It’s someone who recognizes their wounds and patterns, and instead of making them your burden, takes responsibility for their healing.
It’s the partner who notices when their words cut too deep, or when old habits threaten new happiness, and chooses to do the work to grow.
You deserve someone who doesn’t expect you to simply tolerate the parts of them that hurt you.
You deserve someone who sees the impact of their actions and is willing to change, not because you demand it, but because they care about your peace, your safety, and your heart.
Love isn’t just about grand gestures or sweet words.
Sometimes, it’s about accountability.
It’s about someone who looks at their own reflection and says, “I want to be better for me, for you, for us.”
That’s the kind of love that builds trust, deepens connection, and heals old wounds.
Always remember .... you are worthy of a love that grows.
Of a partner who chooses healing over excuses, effort over complacency.
Don’t settle for less than someone who’s willing to do the work, because that’s a love language that will last a lifetime.

You don't need to bother to know what the future hold, if you know and in relationship with the one who holds the future.
Dr. Pst. Paul Enenche.

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

WATCH YOUR TONE
When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

TIMING
Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

WATCH YOUR EYES
Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

SOOTHE HIM
If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

NO INSULTS
Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

DON'T BOY HIM
Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

DON'T TALK AT HIM
Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

TAKE HIM ON A DATE
Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

DON'T PUSH HIM
Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

BE FLEXIBLE
Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
Read less.

Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

WATCH YOUR TONE
When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

TIMING
Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

WATCH YOUR EYES
Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

SOOTHE HIM
If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

NO INSULTS
Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

DON'T BOY HIM
Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

DON'T TALK AT HIM
Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

TAKE HIM ON A DATE
Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

DON'T PUSH HIM
Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

BE FLEXIBLE
Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
Read less.

Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>