• A LONG READ

    How do we choose the people we fall in love with?

    The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us.

    Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives.

    In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage.

    Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy.

    The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own.

    Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories.

    Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet.

    So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy.

    The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth.

    We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care.

    The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes.

    How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned.

    We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play.

    Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds.

    Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances.

    However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone.

    Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on.

    To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off.

    Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening.

    And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches.

    We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment.

    Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone.

    We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work.

    For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following:
    • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will…
    • When someone tells me they really need me, I…
    • If someone can’t cope, I…
    • When someone tells me to get my act together, I …
    • If I were to be frank about my anxieties …
    • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d…
    • When someone blames me unfairly, I …

    Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness.

    Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples.

    We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar.

    Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from.

    The Counsellor
    A LONG READ How do we choose the people we fall in love with? The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us. Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives. In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage. Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy. The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories. Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet. So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy. The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth. We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes. How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned. We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play. Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds. Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances. However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone. Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on. To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off. Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening. And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches. We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment. Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone. We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work. For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following: • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will… • When someone tells me they really need me, I… • If someone can’t cope, I… • When someone tells me to get my act together, I … • If I were to be frank about my anxieties … • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d… • When someone blames me unfairly, I … Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness. Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples. We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar. Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from. ©️The Counsellor
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    Bradley Barcola - €45M
    Corentin Tolisso - €41.3M
    Rayan Cherki - €40M
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  • RED FLAGS: How to Shift From Low-Value to High-Value Activities That Leads to Money & Influence

    Many people are not broke because they are lazy, they are stuck because their daily actions are low-value.
    Low value actions or activities daily cannot lead to influence and high income.

    Here is how (10 strategies to apply) to shift from low value activities to high value, money making, influence building moves starting today.

    Most people wake up into distraction and hustle into nothingness.

    They stay “busy” doing what keeps them broke, obscure, and overworked.

    In this quick strategy content, I’ll show you how to restructure your daily life around high-value activities that actually lead to influence and income.

    This is not theory. I use this, and I have restructure the lives of hundreds of clients through this and more.

    Let's get started.


    1. Audit Your Day Like an Investor
    Write down what you did for the last 3 days.
    Categorize every activity into the following:

    $0 activity
    $10/hr task
    $100/hr move
    $1,000/hr decision

    Then ask: Why am I doing what’s keeping me small?

    Clarity before strategy.

    This will help you see where you are dedicating most of your time and energy that is either leading to zero impact or high impact.


    3. Identify Your Income-Triggering Activities
    Many people are clueless about this.

    There are only 3 that matter:

    1. Value Creation (what you produce, teach, or offer)

    2. Offer Placement (where/how you sell it)

    3. Relationship Building (clients, partners, mentors) Everything else must serve these three.

    Note: I am currently hosting Gentlemen of Impact, Influence & Income Summit.

    Day 1 was yesterday.

    Day 2 is today at 8pm GMT+1.

    Here is link for day 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vidm_X-6YWE&t=3s
    Zoom details to join for day 2 and day 3 at 8pm GMT+1

    Meeting ID: 883 5775 0906 Passcode: 0000

    Join the Gentlemen WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/HEH7vZ35YHO5nwnCJl66VY

    4. Combine “To-Do” Lists with “Power Blocks”

    I don't just have a to-do list. I have times within the day I block to focus on these core things. I put my phone on flight mode. I am writing this content during my block time.
    Stop reacting all day.

    Let's say you are in business...
    Design 3 Power Blocks per day:

    - Creation (content, product, value)
    - Conversion (DMs, calls, offers)
    - Connection (follow-up, networking)
    You’ll get more done in 3 blocks than most do in a week.
    Try it and come share your testimony (smiles).


    7. Put Your Value in Circulation Daily

    Post your value.

    Pitch your value.

    Publish your value.

    DM people about your value.

    Do something daily that puts your value in front of people.

    No circulation, no money.

    Visibility is a money magnet. You can’t get paid in silence.
    Comment "I hear you Sir."

    Free: If you want to elevate your value, download my free value ascension course for free here: https://stan.store/Joybert


    10. Make Boldness a Daily Practice
    Boldness is a skill and it’s profitable. One of my mentor taught me this.

    - Make the uncomfortable ask.
    - Show up when it’s inconvenient.
    - Sell before you feel “ready.”

    Your money will never grow beyond your courage.

    To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value

    Comment “High Value” if this challenged you.

    Dr. Joybert Javnyuy
    I Help Experts & Institutions to Extract, Package & Monetize Specialized Value | Book Me to Train, Coach & Speak |

    To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value
    RED FLAGS: How to Shift From Low-Value to High-Value Activities That Leads to Money & Influence Many people are not broke because they are lazy, they are stuck because their daily actions are low-value. Low value actions or activities daily cannot lead to influence and high income. Here is how (10 strategies to apply) to shift from low value activities to high value, money making, influence building moves starting today. Most people wake up into distraction and hustle into nothingness. They stay “busy” doing what keeps them broke, obscure, and overworked. In this quick strategy content, I’ll show you how to restructure your daily life around high-value activities that actually lead to influence and income. This is not theory. I use this, and I have restructure the lives of hundreds of clients through this and more. Let's get started. ✅ 1. Audit Your Day Like an Investor Write down what you did for the last 3 days. Categorize every activity into the following: $0 activity $10/hr task $100/hr move $1,000/hr decision Then ask: Why am I doing what’s keeping me small? Clarity before strategy. This will help you see where you are dedicating most of your time and energy that is either leading to zero impact or high impact. ✅ 3. Identify Your Income-Triggering Activities Many people are clueless about this. There are only 3 that matter: 1. Value Creation (what you produce, teach, or offer) 2. Offer Placement (where/how you sell it) 3. Relationship Building (clients, partners, mentors) Everything else must serve these three. Note: I am currently hosting Gentlemen of Impact, Influence & Income Summit. Day 1 was yesterday. Day 2 is today at 8pm GMT+1. Here is link for day 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vidm_X-6YWE&t=3s Zoom details to join for day 2 and day 3 at 8pm GMT+1 Meeting ID: 883 5775 0906 Passcode: 0000 Join the Gentlemen WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/HEH7vZ35YHO5nwnCJl66VY ✅ 4. Combine “To-Do” Lists with “Power Blocks” I don't just have a to-do list. I have times within the day I block to focus on these core things. I put my phone on flight mode. I am writing this content during my block time. Stop reacting all day. Let's say you are in business... Design 3 Power Blocks per day: - Creation (content, product, value) - Conversion (DMs, calls, offers) - Connection (follow-up, networking) You’ll get more done in 3 blocks than most do in a week. Try it and come share your testimony (smiles). ✅ 7. Put Your Value in Circulation Daily Post your value. Pitch your value. Publish your value. DM people about your value. Do something daily that puts your value in front of people. No circulation, no money. Visibility is a money magnet. You can’t get paid in silence. Comment "I hear you Sir." Free: If you want to elevate your value, download my free value ascension course for free here: https://stan.store/Joybert ✅ 10. Make Boldness a Daily Practice Boldness is a skill and it’s profitable. One of my mentor taught me this. - Make the uncomfortable ask. - Show up when it’s inconvenient. - Sell before you feel “ready.” Your money will never grow beyond your courage. To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value Comment “High Value” if this challenged you. Dr. Joybert Javnyuy I Help Experts & Institutions to Extract, Package & Monetize Specialized Value | Book Me to Train, Coach & Speak | To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value
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  • "Why can't Tinubu take bold action to stop exporting crude oil for refining abroad when he has already demonstrated willingness to make tough decisions, such as removing fuel subsidies? - " Omirhobo
    "Why can't Tinubu take bold action to stop exporting crude oil for refining abroad when he has already demonstrated willingness to make tough decisions, such as removing fuel subsidies? - " Omirhobo
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  • Have you noticed something peculiar about the release of most hit songs by the popular twin musicians P-Square?

    Did you observe that Peter and Paul Okoye (Mr P and Rudeboy) are releasing their songs around the same time?

    This pattern, evident since their split as P-Square in 2017, appears to me as a strategic move with multiple implications.

    Is it strategic timing or mere coincidence?

    Running a scan on their solo careers reveals a recurring pattern: when one brother releases a song, the other follows suit shortly after.

    For instance, in 2017, Mr P released "Cool It Down" on October 20. Rudeboy replied with "Nkenji Keke" on November 16.

    Mr P cried out, "For My Head" on November 17 and Rudeboy seemed to be adding insult to injury when he responded with "Fire Fire" two days later. Go and verify.

    They are always f!ghting, and releasing tracks that always sell after their conflicts.

    Such timing suggests a deliberate strategy to maintain individual relevance while capitalizing on shared fan bases.

    Releasing music in close succession could ensure continuous engagement and comparison. I said COULD!

    They could just be in the background laughing as they fuel discussions especially online, which keeps both artists in the public eye.

    I may be wrong, totally wrong, but this approach taps into the psychology of rivalry, nostalgia and negativity bias.

    Fans are unsuspectingly casted into their drama of competition and rivalry, reminiscing their days as a duo.

    The proximity of releases invites comparisons, debates, and heightened interest, effectively doubling their visibility without a collabo.

    From the lenses of a social media marketing strategist, this appears to me like a calculated move intended to engineer increased streaming numbers, media coverage, and social media engagement.

    The perceived rivalry seemingly becomes a marketing tool, driving traffic to their respective platforms and sustaining their careers independently.

    Note: This is not a conclusion. Che is just thinking loud. What do you think?

    #mrlitetv
    Have you noticed something peculiar about the release of most hit songs by the popular twin musicians P-Square? Did you observe that Peter and Paul Okoye (Mr P and Rudeboy) are releasing their songs around the same time? This pattern, evident since their split as P-Square in 2017, appears to me as a strategic move with multiple implications. Is it strategic timing or mere coincidence? Running a scan on their solo careers reveals a recurring pattern: when one brother releases a song, the other follows suit shortly after. For instance, in 2017, Mr P released "Cool It Down" on October 20. Rudeboy replied with "Nkenji Keke" on November 16. Mr P cried out, "For My Head" on November 17 and Rudeboy seemed to be adding insult to injury when he responded with "Fire Fire" two days later. Go and verify. They are always f!ghting, and releasing tracks that always sell after their conflicts. Such timing suggests a deliberate strategy to maintain individual relevance while capitalizing on shared fan bases. Releasing music in close succession could ensure continuous engagement and comparison. I said COULD! They could just be in the background laughing as they fuel discussions especially online, which keeps both artists in the public eye. 😭😭 I may be wrong, totally wrong, but this approach taps into the psychology of rivalry, nostalgia and negativity bias. 😭😭😭😭 Fans are unsuspectingly casted into their drama of competition and rivalry, reminiscing their days as a duo. ✍️✍️ The proximity of releases invites comparisons, debates, and heightened interest, effectively doubling their visibility without a collabo. From the lenses of a social media marketing strategist, this appears to me like a calculated move intended to engineer increased streaming numbers, media coverage, and social media engagement. The perceived rivalry seemingly becomes a marketing tool, driving traffic to their respective platforms and sustaining their careers independently. Note: This is not a conclusion. Che is just thinking loud. What do you think?😔😔😔 #mrlitetv
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  • "You’re leaving this house. And I don’t want you to come back."

    That was all he heard.

    There was no argument.
    No shouting.
    Just a dry sentence… and a door closing.

    His grandmother.
    The same woman who had raised him since he was a child… was now throwing him out as if he were a stranger.

    His grandfather, witnessing the scene, was stunned.
    “What are you doing? Why are you throwing him out like that? He’s your grandson!”

    But she didn’t say another word.
    She just turned around and disappeared into the house.

    He didn’t understand.
    Neither did the neighbors.
    No one understood.

    The boy, aimless, started walking.
    He was wearing the same clothes he had on when he went to the store that afternoon.

    No money. No phone. No keys.

    First, he went to a friend.
    “Do you have a place to stay?” the friend asked.
    “No… they kicked me out.”
    “Damn… I’m sorry. But my parents don’t let anyone stay over.
    And honestly… I can’t do anything for you.”

    He kept walking.
    Another friend saw him coming.
    “Everything okay? Something happen?”
    “I have no place to go. Can I stay with you for a few days?”
    “And what are you going to do here? You don’t have money? You can’t pay for anything?”
    “No… nothing.”
    “Then I’m sorry. You can’t stay at my place.”
    The boy lowered his head.
    And left.

    He looked for his girlfriend.
    He hugged her and explained what had happened.
    She was worried, went to talk to her parents… and came back with a muted voice.
    “They say you can’t stay. And I… I can’t do anything either.
    I’m sorry, love… but this just isn’t going to work. Not like this.”

    And he was left alone.
    Completely alone.
    He sat on a sidewalk bench and looked at the sky.
    He had given everything for people who now gave him nothing.

    Hours passed.
    And when he thought no one was going to come looking for him…

    His grandfather appeared.
    “Let’s go home,” he said.
    He didn’t want to.
    “For what? So you can throw me out again?”
    “Please, trust me. Just come.”

    He got in the car.
    Total silence the whole way.
    When they arrived, his grandmother ran out to hug him.

    He stepped back.
    Then the grandfather sat him down and spoke calmly:
    “Your grandmother didn’t do it out of cruelty. She did it out of love.
    She wanted you to see with your own eyes… who stands by you only when you have something to offer.

    You thought you were surrounded by friends.
    You believed you had a solid relationship.
    But she saw things you didn’t want to see.
    People who used you, who took advantage of you… who were there only when you gave, but not when you needed.”

    “And she had to make you see the truth.”
    The boy began to cry.

    The grandmother came closer.
    “It broke my heart to do it… but I love you too much to let you keep believing a lie.”
    He hugged her.

    Tightly. Like he did when he was a child.
    And he understood something that can’t be taught with words.

    Moral:
    Sometimes, the person who loves you most is the one brave enough to shake you… to open your eyes.
    Because when you have something, everyone comes around.
    But when you have nothing, you discover who’s truly worth it.
    Who loves you… not for what you give, but for who you are.
    And that truth, even if it hurts, makes you stronger.
    "You’re leaving this house. And I don’t want you to come back." That was all he heard. There was no argument. No shouting. Just a dry sentence… and a door closing. His grandmother. The same woman who had raised him since he was a child… was now throwing him out as if he were a stranger. His grandfather, witnessing the scene, was stunned. “What are you doing? Why are you throwing him out like that? He’s your grandson!” But she didn’t say another word. She just turned around and disappeared into the house. He didn’t understand. Neither did the neighbors. No one understood. The boy, aimless, started walking. He was wearing the same clothes he had on when he went to the store that afternoon. No money. No phone. No keys. First, he went to a friend. “Do you have a place to stay?” the friend asked. “No… they kicked me out.” “Damn… I’m sorry. But my parents don’t let anyone stay over. And honestly… I can’t do anything for you.” He kept walking. Another friend saw him coming. “Everything okay? Something happen?” “I have no place to go. Can I stay with you for a few days?” “And what are you going to do here? You don’t have money? You can’t pay for anything?” “No… nothing.” “Then I’m sorry. You can’t stay at my place.” The boy lowered his head. And left. He looked for his girlfriend. He hugged her and explained what had happened. She was worried, went to talk to her parents… and came back with a muted voice. “They say you can’t stay. And I… I can’t do anything either. I’m sorry, love… but this just isn’t going to work. Not like this.” And he was left alone. Completely alone. He sat on a sidewalk bench and looked at the sky. He had given everything for people who now gave him nothing. Hours passed. And when he thought no one was going to come looking for him… His grandfather appeared. “Let’s go home,” he said. He didn’t want to. “For what? So you can throw me out again?” “Please, trust me. Just come.” He got in the car. Total silence the whole way. When they arrived, his grandmother ran out to hug him. He stepped back. Then the grandfather sat him down and spoke calmly: “Your grandmother didn’t do it out of cruelty. She did it out of love. She wanted you to see with your own eyes… who stands by you only when you have something to offer. You thought you were surrounded by friends. You believed you had a solid relationship. But she saw things you didn’t want to see. People who used you, who took advantage of you… who were there only when you gave, but not when you needed.” “And she had to make you see the truth.” The boy began to cry. The grandmother came closer. “It broke my heart to do it… but I love you too much to let you keep believing a lie.” He hugged her. Tightly. Like he did when he was a child. And he understood something that can’t be taught with words. Moral: Sometimes, the person who loves you most is the one brave enough to shake you… to open your eyes. Because when you have something, everyone comes around. But when you have nothing, you discover who’s truly worth it. Who loves you… not for what you give, but for who you are. And that truth, even if it hurts, makes you stronger.
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  • STOP calling this "breakfast" — it’s a SABOTAGE MISSION.

    Akara? Great!
    But fried in seed oils?
    That's pouring gasoline on inflammation.
    Hidden in every bite.

    Pap? Empty calories.
    Then drowning it in milk + honey?
    Blood sugar rollercoaster unlocked.

    Bread? Gut-wrecker.
    Feeds bloat, not energy.

    Milk? Brain-fog potion.
    Steals your focus by noon.

    Together?
    A recipe for disaster:
    crashes, cravings, chaos.

    This isn’t fuel — it’s FOOL’S GOLD.
    You deserve better.

    SWAP THE SABOTAGE:
    Protein (eggs, fish, meat) + good fats (avocado, butter, coconut) + fiber (soaked nuts) = steady energy, clear mind.

    Your body whispers before it screams. LISTEN to it.
    STOP calling this "breakfast" — it’s a SABOTAGE MISSION. Akara? Great! But fried in seed oils? That's pouring gasoline on inflammation. Hidden in every bite. Pap? Empty calories. Then drowning it in milk + honey? Blood sugar rollercoaster unlocked. Bread? Gut-wrecker. Feeds bloat, not energy. Milk? Brain-fog potion. Steals your focus by noon. Together? A recipe for disaster: crashes, cravings, chaos. This isn’t fuel — it’s FOOL’S GOLD. You deserve better. SWAP THE SABOTAGE: Protein (eggs, fish, meat) + good fats (avocado, butter, coconut) + fiber (soaked nuts) = steady energy, clear mind. Your body whispers before it screams. LISTEN to it.
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  • Acid Rain and Its Formation

    What is Acid Rain?
    Acid rain refers to any form of precipitation (rain, snow, fog, or dust) that has been made acidic due to the presence of certain pollutants in the atmosphere. It typically has a pH below 5.6 and can harm ecosystems, buildings, and human health.

    Formation of Acid Rain:

    1. Emission of Pollutants:

    Sulfur Dioxide (SO₂) and Nitrogen Oxides (NOₓ) are released into the atmosphere mainly from:

    -Burning of fossil fuels in power plants and factories.
    -Emissions from vehicles.
    -Industrial processes such as smelting.

    2. Chemical Reactions in the Atmosphere:

    Once in the atmosphere, SO₂ and NOₓ react with water vapor (H₂O), oxygen (O₂), and other chemicals.

    These reactions form:

    -Sulfuric acid (H₂SO₄)
    -Nitric acid (HNO₃)

    3. Acid Precipitation:

    These acids mix with cloud moisture and fall to the ground as acid rain (or snow, fog, etc.).

    Chemical Equations (Simplified):

    -SO₂ + H₂O → H₂SO₃ (sulfurous acid)
    -2SO₂ + O₂ → 2SO₃; then SO₃ + H₂O → H₂SO₄ (sulfuric acid)
    -2NO₂ + H₂O → HNO₂ + HNO₃ (nitrous and nitric acids)

    Environmental Effects:

    - Soil and Water: Reduces pH, harming aquatic life and leaching nutrients from soil.
    - Plants: Damages leaves, limits nutrient uptake.
    - Buildings: Corrodes metal and erodes stone structures.
    - Human Health: Can worsen respiratory problems when inhaled as fine particles.

    Controlling acid rain involves reducing emissions of SO₂ and NOₓ through clean energy sources, emission filters (like scrubbers), and regulations such as the Clean Air Act.

    Source~ NGA Geography
    Credits to the rightful owner

    Regards,
    Dr. Adarsha Gowda
    Food Expert
    Chairperson/Dean/Head (Former)
    Entrepreneurship, Startup & Consultancy
    Dept of Food Science
    Dept of Food Processing & Engineering.
    Acid Rain and Its Formation What is Acid Rain? Acid rain refers to any form of precipitation (rain, snow, fog, or dust) that has been made acidic due to the presence of certain pollutants in the atmosphere. It typically has a pH below 5.6 and can harm ecosystems, buildings, and human health. Formation of Acid Rain: 1. Emission of Pollutants: Sulfur Dioxide (SO₂) and Nitrogen Oxides (NOₓ) are released into the atmosphere mainly from: -Burning of fossil fuels in power plants and factories. -Emissions from vehicles. -Industrial processes such as smelting. 2. Chemical Reactions in the Atmosphere: Once in the atmosphere, SO₂ and NOₓ react with water vapor (H₂O), oxygen (O₂), and other chemicals. These reactions form: -Sulfuric acid (H₂SO₄) -Nitric acid (HNO₃) 3. Acid Precipitation: These acids mix with cloud moisture and fall to the ground as acid rain (or snow, fog, etc.). Chemical Equations (Simplified): -SO₂ + H₂O → H₂SO₃ (sulfurous acid) -2SO₂ + O₂ → 2SO₃; then SO₃ + H₂O → H₂SO₄ (sulfuric acid) -2NO₂ + H₂O → HNO₂ + HNO₃ (nitrous and nitric acids) Environmental Effects: - Soil and Water: Reduces pH, harming aquatic life and leaching nutrients from soil. - Plants: Damages leaves, limits nutrient uptake. - Buildings: Corrodes metal and erodes stone structures. - Human Health: Can worsen respiratory problems when inhaled as fine particles. Controlling acid rain involves reducing emissions of SO₂ and NOₓ through clean energy sources, emission filters (like scrubbers), and regulations such as the Clean Air Act. Source~ NGA Geography Credits to the rightful owner Regards, Dr. Adarsha Gowda Food Expert Chairperson/Dean/Head (Former) Entrepreneurship, Startup & Consultancy Dept of Food Science Dept of Food Processing & Engineering. 💫
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