• *SOME NIGERIAN NEWSPAPER HEADLINES+, 13/06/2025*

    One survives, 241 die in Air India crash: Tinubu condoles with Modi, victims

    Knocks, kudos as Tinubu honours June 12 heroes

    Governors: Nigeria has made measurable progress

    BOI to unveil impact fund, youth bank

    Petrol imports drop by N2tn as domestic production improves

    Producers export N12.96tn crude as local refiners starve

    Tanker explosion: Stranded motorists lament 24-hour gridlock on Lagos-Ibadan Expressway

    Nigeria opens camp ahead of African Fencing Championships

    Netanyahu survives opposition attempt to dissolve Israeli parliament

    Trump vows to bring together India, Pakistan to ‘solve anything’

    US senator forcibly removed from Trump official’s press conference

    China offers Nigeria, others duty-free market access

    19-yr-old Nigerian innovator, Ifeoluwa Afolayan wins London college award

    Nigerian arrested for trafficking 15 students in Australia


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    *DID YOU KNOW?*

    * At 1708 metres wide, Victoria Falls in Zambia is the largest curtain of falling water in the world. Its local name is “Mosi-oa-tunya” means “the smoke that thunders”.

    * Hydrogen makes up about 75% of matter in the universe. It’s the fundamental building block from which stars and galaxies are formed.
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    I don’t view one-party state as good for Nigeria —Tinubu

    ‘Call me names, I’ll still defend your right,’ Tinubu tells Nigerians

    Tinubu celebrates journalism icon, Sam Amuka at 90, confers national honours on him

    June 12: Tinubu carries Abiola’s democratic torch – Shettima

    NASS to Tinubu: Make State of Nation Address to Nigerians from parliament yearly

    Reps considered 2,263 bills in 2 years – Speaker

    10 suspected herders remanded over Benue killings

    Ekiti court orders suspended deity priest to vacate official residence

    Troops kill wanted terrorist leader Auta, 14 others in Zamfara

    FG to revoke dormant oil licences with new policy

    Nigeria produces 97% of OPEC quota – NUPRC

    NNPCL begins monthly report, recorded N748bn profit in April

    NNPCL remits N4.2tn to govt, continues refinery upgrade

    NESREA shuts 25 facilities in four states

    NCDC reports 142 deaths, 747 confirmed cases of Lassa fever in 18 states

    Nigerians urged to gear up for 6G revolution

    11 inmates undergo hernia surgeries at Kuje prison

    Over 3,300 house owners, embassies to lose properties in FCT

    FCTA shuts Apo-Wasa road for project inauguration

    AKTH treats, discharges 15 maggot therapy patients

    UNN best graduate wins £33,000 Commonwealth scholarship

    2026 target for CBT-based WAEC, NECO unrealistic — NAPTAN

    Obasanjo, Osinbajo for Taiwo Odukoya Memorial Lecture

    Ohanaeze lauds Tinubu for honouring Nwosu, wants INEC HQ named after him

    MOSOP hails Tinubu’s pardon of Ogoni nine, seeks exoneration

    Protesters, APC supporters hold parallel rallies in Lagos, Abuja

    Full state pardon for Saro-Wiwa, eight others sparks jubilation in Niger Delta

    Wrongs done to our parents now corrected, says MKO’s son Jamiu

    Alpha-Beta Consulting denounces online medium report as malicious

    Sterling Bank launches N2b private varsity scholarship

    Manufacturers blame high interest rates as exports crash by N746bn

    Two banks have met N500bn recapitalisation target – Report

    Oil production shrinks again, threatens 2mbpd target

    70% of Nigerian households lack water loans – LAPO

    Kano fintech initiative targets 5,000 women, youths

    Commissioning: Apo mechanic traders close shops Friday to honour Tinubu

    Nigeria no longer true democracy, say Atiku, Obi

    Nigeria yet to fulfil democratic promise – Utomi

    One-party state: We’re not obligated to solve your self-inflicted crisis, APC tells opposition

    Gombe gov receives Emir, lists agro-livestock among priority projects

    Sanwo-Olu, Abiodun: Don’t let the Wole Soyinka Prize for Literature die

    Mutfwang inaugurates 15 buses to boost transport sector

    Benue gov blames clerics for worsening insecurity

    Yobe gov appoints UK lecturer as Special Adviser

    Zulum commutes death sentences, pardons 66

    Gombe police clamp down on motorcycle use, weapon display

    Ekiti aids 30 storm-hit businesses with recovery funds

    CREDICORP begins Kano campaign

    Taraba sets LG elections for Nov 15

    Kano targets 3.9 million children for polio vaccination in June

    3 Inspectors Detained Over Extortion In Anambra

    June 12: Thugs attack, disrupt democracy protest in Ondo

    Igbokuta community to Sanwo-Olu: stop planned installation of monarch

    Panic as fuel-laden tanker somersaults in Oyo

    Niger man dies in dispute over girlfriend

    Tension in Onitsha as ‘Udo Ga-Achi’ operatives allegedly kill 12-yr-old boy

    Osun Amotekun operative slumps, dies while preparing for work

    Cult killings: Police arrest 46 suspected cultists in Ondo

    Naked man found hanging from tree in Ogun

    Teenage daughter fakes own kidnapping

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    *TODAY IN HISTORY*

    * On this day in 1950, South Africa implemented the Group Areas Act. The law assigned geographically separate residential and business areas for different racial groups, forcing non-whites from the most developed areas.

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    Of course I talk to myself. I like a good speaker, and I appreciate an intelligent audience. – Dorothy Parker

    Good morning


    *Compiled by Hon. Osuji George [email protected], +234-8122200446*
    *SOME NIGERIAN NEWSPAPER HEADLINES+, 13/06/2025* One survives, 241 die in Air India crash: Tinubu condoles with Modi, victims Knocks, kudos as Tinubu honours June 12 heroes Governors: Nigeria has made measurable progress BOI to unveil impact fund, youth bank Petrol imports drop by N2tn as domestic production improves Producers export N12.96tn crude as local refiners starve Tanker explosion: Stranded motorists lament 24-hour gridlock on Lagos-Ibadan Expressway Nigeria opens camp ahead of African Fencing Championships Netanyahu survives opposition attempt to dissolve Israeli parliament Trump vows to bring together India, Pakistan to ‘solve anything’ US senator forcibly removed from Trump official’s press conference China offers Nigeria, others duty-free market access 19-yr-old Nigerian innovator, Ifeoluwa Afolayan wins London college award Nigerian arrested for trafficking 15 students in Australia ---------------------------- *DID YOU KNOW?* * At 1708 metres wide, Victoria Falls in Zambia is the largest curtain of falling water in the world. Its local name is “Mosi-oa-tunya” means “the smoke that thunders”. * Hydrogen makes up about 75% of matter in the universe. It’s the fundamental building block from which stars and galaxies are formed. ---------------------------- I don’t view one-party state as good for Nigeria —Tinubu ‘Call me names, I’ll still defend your right,’ Tinubu tells Nigerians Tinubu celebrates journalism icon, Sam Amuka at 90, confers national honours on him June 12: Tinubu carries Abiola’s democratic torch – Shettima NASS to Tinubu: Make State of Nation Address to Nigerians from parliament yearly Reps considered 2,263 bills in 2 years – Speaker 10 suspected herders remanded over Benue killings Ekiti court orders suspended deity priest to vacate official residence Troops kill wanted terrorist leader Auta, 14 others in Zamfara FG to revoke dormant oil licences with new policy Nigeria produces 97% of OPEC quota – NUPRC NNPCL begins monthly report, recorded N748bn profit in April NNPCL remits N4.2tn to govt, continues refinery upgrade NESREA shuts 25 facilities in four states NCDC reports 142 deaths, 747 confirmed cases of Lassa fever in 18 states Nigerians urged to gear up for 6G revolution 11 inmates undergo hernia surgeries at Kuje prison Over 3,300 house owners, embassies to lose properties in FCT FCTA shuts Apo-Wasa road for project inauguration AKTH treats, discharges 15 maggot therapy patients UNN best graduate wins £33,000 Commonwealth scholarship 2026 target for CBT-based WAEC, NECO unrealistic — NAPTAN Obasanjo, Osinbajo for Taiwo Odukoya Memorial Lecture Ohanaeze lauds Tinubu for honouring Nwosu, wants INEC HQ named after him MOSOP hails Tinubu’s pardon of Ogoni nine, seeks exoneration Protesters, APC supporters hold parallel rallies in Lagos, Abuja Full state pardon for Saro-Wiwa, eight others sparks jubilation in Niger Delta Wrongs done to our parents now corrected, says MKO’s son Jamiu Alpha-Beta Consulting denounces online medium report as malicious Sterling Bank launches N2b private varsity scholarship Manufacturers blame high interest rates as exports crash by N746bn Two banks have met N500bn recapitalisation target – Report Oil production shrinks again, threatens 2mbpd target 70% of Nigerian households lack water loans – LAPO Kano fintech initiative targets 5,000 women, youths Commissioning: Apo mechanic traders close shops Friday to honour Tinubu Nigeria no longer true democracy, say Atiku, Obi Nigeria yet to fulfil democratic promise – Utomi One-party state: We’re not obligated to solve your self-inflicted crisis, APC tells opposition Gombe gov receives Emir, lists agro-livestock among priority projects Sanwo-Olu, Abiodun: Don’t let the Wole Soyinka Prize for Literature die Mutfwang inaugurates 15 buses to boost transport sector Benue gov blames clerics for worsening insecurity Yobe gov appoints UK lecturer as Special Adviser Zulum commutes death sentences, pardons 66 Gombe police clamp down on motorcycle use, weapon display Ekiti aids 30 storm-hit businesses with recovery funds CREDICORP begins Kano campaign Taraba sets LG elections for Nov 15 Kano targets 3.9 million children for polio vaccination in June 3 Inspectors Detained Over Extortion In Anambra June 12: Thugs attack, disrupt democracy protest in Ondo Igbokuta community to Sanwo-Olu: stop planned installation of monarch Panic as fuel-laden tanker somersaults in Oyo Niger man dies in dispute over girlfriend Tension in Onitsha as ‘Udo Ga-Achi’ operatives allegedly kill 12-yr-old boy Osun Amotekun operative slumps, dies while preparing for work Cult killings: Police arrest 46 suspected cultists in Ondo Naked man found hanging from tree in Ogun Teenage daughter fakes own kidnapping ---------------------------- *TODAY IN HISTORY* * On this day in 1950, South Africa implemented the Group Areas Act. The law assigned geographically separate residential and business areas for different racial groups, forcing non-whites from the most developed areas. ---------------------------- Of course I talk to myself. I like a good speaker, and I appreciate an intelligent audience. – Dorothy Parker Good morning *Compiled by Hon. Osuji George [email protected], +234-8122200446*
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  • I was at the fueling station earlier today. While on the queue, the Napep man beside me also on queue to the same pump was on call with his wife.

    His phone had rang twice before he eventually picked. His wife mentioned that he didn’t drop any money for the children to eat, and in response, he said reminded her that he already told her he wanted to use the money left with him to buy fuel into his Keke so that he can work and send money. The call was audible as it was on speaker.

    The worried wife kept mentioning that the children were already crying. But he kept telling his wife that he would send money immediately he works.

    After the call, he was speaking with himself and talking how people weren’t going out as the normal days. With his eyes fixed at a particular spot of the keke.

    I was so bothered for him, his wife and the hungry children.

    When we got to the pump, the attendant could either sell to me or him as we were beside each other due to the position of our fuel tanks.

    And he told the pump attendant to sell for me. I immediately told the attendant to sell for him.

    “Oya, sell One thousand two hundred own”

    While he stretched his hand to give the attendant the money.

    Then I said young lady, Pls fill the tank of his keke”

    He looked at me like, No, she shouldn’t as he doesn’t have that money to pay.

    I told him not to worry, and that I will pay.

    And he said, since I started driving this keke, I have never bought full tank.

    With tears on his eyes, he went down and I carried him up.

    After I bought mine and as I was driving out of the staton, I didn’t know he was waiting for me just outside the gate.

    When I saw him, I stopped he couldn’t stop thanking me.

    I simply told him, I overheard the call with his wife wish caught my emotions.

    My parents taught me how to be kind to people. My dad would say, a help you render today is coming for you tomorrow.

    One thousand two hundred can not feed husband and wife, let alone with the children.

    I requested for his account details and sent him money. I equally asked him to call his wife and I spoke with her. When she sent her details, I sent her money to buy some food stuffs.

    He was literally in tears as I drove off, and I prayed for them that God eases their affairs.

    And the one reason why I share this— If life is kind to you, Pls extend it and be kind to people.

    Oluwanishola Akeju
    I was at the fueling station earlier today. While on the queue, the Napep man beside me also on queue to the same pump was on call with his wife. His phone had rang twice before he eventually picked. His wife mentioned that he didn’t drop any money for the children to eat, and in response, he said reminded her that he already told her he wanted to use the money left with him to buy fuel into his Keke so that he can work and send money. The call was audible as it was on speaker. The worried wife kept mentioning that the children were already crying. But he kept telling his wife that he would send money immediately he works. After the call, he was speaking with himself and talking how people weren’t going out as the normal days. With his eyes fixed at a particular spot of the keke. I was so bothered for him, his wife and the hungry children. When we got to the pump, the attendant could either sell to me or him as we were beside each other due to the position of our fuel tanks. And he told the pump attendant to sell for me. I immediately told the attendant to sell for him. “Oya, sell One thousand two hundred own” While he stretched his hand to give the attendant the money. Then I said young lady, Pls fill the tank of his keke” He looked at me like, No, she shouldn’t as he doesn’t have that money to pay. I told him not to worry, and that I will pay. And he said, since I started driving this keke, I have never bought full tank. With tears on his eyes, he went down and I carried him up. After I bought mine and as I was driving out of the staton, I didn’t know he was waiting for me just outside the gate. When I saw him, I stopped he couldn’t stop thanking me. I simply told him, I overheard the call with his wife wish caught my emotions. My parents taught me how to be kind to people. My dad would say, a help you render today is coming for you tomorrow. One thousand two hundred can not feed husband and wife, let alone with the children. I requested for his account details and sent him money. I equally asked him to call his wife and I spoke with her. When she sent her details, I sent her money to buy some food stuffs. He was literally in tears as I drove off, and I prayed for them that God eases their affairs. And the one reason why I share this— If life is kind to you, Pls extend it and be kind to people. Oluwanishola Akeju
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    Be thou my strong habitation, whereunto I may continually resort: thou hast given commandment to save me; for thou art my rock and my fortress.Deliver me, O my God, out of the hand of the wicked, out of the hand of the unrighteous and cruel man.
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  • Samuel Eto'o shows respect for Ronaldo, who continues to perform at a high level despite his age.

    “Cristiano Ronaldo is the perfect player in Europe for me right now. He is still playing like someone who’s just starting his football career. When I was his age, I was already thinking about retirement — in fact, I don’t think I was even playing anymore. Ronaldo doesn’t take his football career as a joke; he takes it very seriously. Watching him stay so active, I honestly believe he could keep playing until he’s 50 without any problem.”
    Samuel Eto'o shows respect for Ronaldo, who continues to perform at a high level despite his age. 🗣️🗣️ “Cristiano Ronaldo is the perfect player in Europe for me right now. He is still playing like someone who’s just starting his football career. When I was his age, I was already thinking about retirement — in fact, I don’t think I was even playing anymore. Ronaldo doesn’t take his football career as a joke; he takes it very seriously. Watching him stay so active, I honestly believe he could keep playing until he’s 50 without any problem.”
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    A Mumbai man was booked for animal cruelty after a viral video showed him throwing a cat to its death from the ninth floor of his building.
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  • PLS MADAM NO DEY ASK ME WHERE OUR RELATIONSHIP DEY HEAD TO I'M NOT A DRIVER ANYWHERE OUR FUEL FINISH WE PARK. LOBATAN
    PLS MADAM NO DEY ASK ME WHERE OUR RELATIONSHIP DEY HEAD TO I'M NOT A DRIVER ANYWHERE OUR FUEL FINISH WE PARK. LOBATAN
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  • *The Myth About Soulmates!*

    Many people erroneously believe that there's ONE person out there who is their soulmate, someone God had predestined for them to marry, and until they find that ONE person, they will never enjoy true love.

    Some people call it "missing rib," someone that was divinely created for them alone.

    But that is not true!

    There is no ONE person in the entire universe that is your soulmate or missing rib.

    You can choose your soulmate.

    You can choose who to fall in love with, and eventually marry.

    If I didn't marry my wife, there are more than 1 million women I could still marry, and the marriage will work, and if she didn't marry me, there are many other men she could have married.

    But I chose her, and she chose me.
    And we both became each other's soulmates!

    Yes, God helped us to make the choice, because of his plan and purpose for our lives.

    If you believe there's ONE person in the world that is your soulmate, what if that person dies, even before you meet him/her?
    Will you remain single for life?

    Some people are still single today, because they are waiting for a magical soulmate, and they have missed an opportunity with many amazing men and women.

    If you're a believer, the instruction is to never marry an unbeliever or a believer who isn't focused on serving God and pursuing the plan and purpose of God.

    Sister Adetola, brother Timothy is not your soulmate, if he doesn't marry you, another brother can marry you.
    Stop being frustrated because someone you love isn't interested in marrying you.

    Open up your heart, and you will find love in places you least expect.

    And when you meet that man or woman that truly deserves you, you can make them your SOULMATE!

    I hope this helps!


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    *The Myth About Soulmates!* Many people erroneously believe that there's ONE person out there who is their soulmate, someone God had predestined for them to marry, and until they find that ONE person, they will never enjoy true love. Some people call it "missing rib," someone that was divinely created for them alone. But that is not true! There is no ONE person in the entire universe that is your soulmate or missing rib. You can choose your soulmate. You can choose who to fall in love with, and eventually marry. If I didn't marry my wife, there are more than 1 million women I could still marry, and the marriage will work, and if she didn't marry me, there are many other men she could have married. But I chose her, and she chose me. And we both became each other's soulmates! Yes, God helped us to make the choice, because of his plan and purpose for our lives. If you believe there's ONE person in the world that is your soulmate, what if that person dies, even before you meet him/her? Will you remain single for life? Some people are still single today, because they are waiting for a magical soulmate, and they have missed an opportunity with many amazing men and women. If you're a believer, the instruction is to never marry an unbeliever or a believer who isn't focused on serving God and pursuing the plan and purpose of God. Sister Adetola, brother Timothy is not your soulmate, if he doesn't marry you, another brother can marry you. Stop being frustrated because someone you love isn't interested in marrying you. Open up your heart, and you will find love in places you least expect. And when you meet that man or woman that truly deserves you, you can make them your SOULMATE! I hope this helps! #truelove #soulmate #relationship #happiness #Marriage Tips
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  • A LONG READ

    How do we choose the people we fall in love with?

    The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us.

    Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives.

    In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage.

    Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy.

    The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own.

    Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories.

    Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet.

    So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy.

    The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth.

    We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care.

    The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes.

    How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned.

    We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play.

    Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds.

    Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances.

    However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone.

    Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on.

    To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off.

    Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening.

    And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches.

    We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment.

    Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone.

    We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work.

    For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following:
    • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will…
    • When someone tells me they really need me, I…
    • If someone can’t cope, I…
    • When someone tells me to get my act together, I …
    • If I were to be frank about my anxieties …
    • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d…
    • When someone blames me unfairly, I …

    Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness.

    Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples.

    We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar.

    Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from.

    The Counsellor
    A LONG READ How do we choose the people we fall in love with? The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us. Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives. In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage. Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy. The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories. Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet. So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy. The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth. We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes. How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned. We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play. Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds. Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances. However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone. Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on. To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off. Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening. And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches. We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment. Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone. We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work. For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following: • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will… • When someone tells me they really need me, I… • If someone can’t cope, I… • When someone tells me to get my act together, I … • If I were to be frank about my anxieties … • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d… • When someone blames me unfairly, I … Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness. Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples. We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar. Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from. ©️The Counsellor
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  • RED FLAGS: How to Shift From Low-Value to High-Value Activities That Leads to Money & Influence

    Many people are not broke because they are lazy, they are stuck because their daily actions are low-value.
    Low value actions or activities daily cannot lead to influence and high income.

    Here is how (10 strategies to apply) to shift from low value activities to high value, money making, influence building moves starting today.

    Most people wake up into distraction and hustle into nothingness.

    They stay “busy” doing what keeps them broke, obscure, and overworked.

    In this quick strategy content, I’ll show you how to restructure your daily life around high-value activities that actually lead to influence and income.

    This is not theory. I use this, and I have restructure the lives of hundreds of clients through this and more.

    Let's get started.


    1. Audit Your Day Like an Investor
    Write down what you did for the last 3 days.
    Categorize every activity into the following:

    $0 activity
    $10/hr task
    $100/hr move
    $1,000/hr decision

    Then ask: Why am I doing what’s keeping me small?

    Clarity before strategy.

    This will help you see where you are dedicating most of your time and energy that is either leading to zero impact or high impact.


    3. Identify Your Income-Triggering Activities
    Many people are clueless about this.

    There are only 3 that matter:

    1. Value Creation (what you produce, teach, or offer)

    2. Offer Placement (where/how you sell it)

    3. Relationship Building (clients, partners, mentors) Everything else must serve these three.

    Note: I am currently hosting Gentlemen of Impact, Influence & Income Summit.

    Day 1 was yesterday.

    Day 2 is today at 8pm GMT+1.

    Here is link for day 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vidm_X-6YWE&t=3s
    Zoom details to join for day 2 and day 3 at 8pm GMT+1

    Meeting ID: 883 5775 0906 Passcode: 0000

    Join the Gentlemen WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/HEH7vZ35YHO5nwnCJl66VY

    4. Combine “To-Do” Lists with “Power Blocks”

    I don't just have a to-do list. I have times within the day I block to focus on these core things. I put my phone on flight mode. I am writing this content during my block time.
    Stop reacting all day.

    Let's say you are in business...
    Design 3 Power Blocks per day:

    - Creation (content, product, value)
    - Conversion (DMs, calls, offers)
    - Connection (follow-up, networking)
    You’ll get more done in 3 blocks than most do in a week.
    Try it and come share your testimony (smiles).


    7. Put Your Value in Circulation Daily

    Post your value.

    Pitch your value.

    Publish your value.

    DM people about your value.

    Do something daily that puts your value in front of people.

    No circulation, no money.

    Visibility is a money magnet. You can’t get paid in silence.
    Comment "I hear you Sir."

    Free: If you want to elevate your value, download my free value ascension course for free here: https://stan.store/Joybert


    10. Make Boldness a Daily Practice
    Boldness is a skill and it’s profitable. One of my mentor taught me this.

    - Make the uncomfortable ask.
    - Show up when it’s inconvenient.
    - Sell before you feel “ready.”

    Your money will never grow beyond your courage.

    To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value

    Comment “High Value” if this challenged you.

    Dr. Joybert Javnyuy
    I Help Experts & Institutions to Extract, Package & Monetize Specialized Value | Book Me to Train, Coach & Speak |

    To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value
    RED FLAGS: How to Shift From Low-Value to High-Value Activities That Leads to Money & Influence Many people are not broke because they are lazy, they are stuck because their daily actions are low-value. Low value actions or activities daily cannot lead to influence and high income. Here is how (10 strategies to apply) to shift from low value activities to high value, money making, influence building moves starting today. Most people wake up into distraction and hustle into nothingness. They stay “busy” doing what keeps them broke, obscure, and overworked. In this quick strategy content, I’ll show you how to restructure your daily life around high-value activities that actually lead to influence and income. This is not theory. I use this, and I have restructure the lives of hundreds of clients through this and more. Let's get started. ✅ 1. Audit Your Day Like an Investor Write down what you did for the last 3 days. Categorize every activity into the following: $0 activity $10/hr task $100/hr move $1,000/hr decision Then ask: Why am I doing what’s keeping me small? Clarity before strategy. This will help you see where you are dedicating most of your time and energy that is either leading to zero impact or high impact. ✅ 3. Identify Your Income-Triggering Activities Many people are clueless about this. There are only 3 that matter: 1. Value Creation (what you produce, teach, or offer) 2. Offer Placement (where/how you sell it) 3. Relationship Building (clients, partners, mentors) Everything else must serve these three. Note: I am currently hosting Gentlemen of Impact, Influence & Income Summit. Day 1 was yesterday. Day 2 is today at 8pm GMT+1. Here is link for day 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vidm_X-6YWE&t=3s Zoom details to join for day 2 and day 3 at 8pm GMT+1 Meeting ID: 883 5775 0906 Passcode: 0000 Join the Gentlemen WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/HEH7vZ35YHO5nwnCJl66VY ✅ 4. Combine “To-Do” Lists with “Power Blocks” I don't just have a to-do list. I have times within the day I block to focus on these core things. I put my phone on flight mode. I am writing this content during my block time. Stop reacting all day. Let's say you are in business... Design 3 Power Blocks per day: - Creation (content, product, value) - Conversion (DMs, calls, offers) - Connection (follow-up, networking) You’ll get more done in 3 blocks than most do in a week. Try it and come share your testimony (smiles). ✅ 7. Put Your Value in Circulation Daily Post your value. Pitch your value. Publish your value. DM people about your value. Do something daily that puts your value in front of people. No circulation, no money. Visibility is a money magnet. You can’t get paid in silence. Comment "I hear you Sir." Free: If you want to elevate your value, download my free value ascension course for free here: https://stan.store/Joybert ✅ 10. Make Boldness a Daily Practice Boldness is a skill and it’s profitable. One of my mentor taught me this. - Make the uncomfortable ask. - Show up when it’s inconvenient. - Sell before you feel “ready.” Your money will never grow beyond your courage. To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value Comment “High Value” if this challenged you. Dr. Joybert Javnyuy I Help Experts & Institutions to Extract, Package & Monetize Specialized Value | Book Me to Train, Coach & Speak | To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value
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  • "Why can't Tinubu take bold action to stop exporting crude oil for refining abroad when he has already demonstrated willingness to make tough decisions, such as removing fuel subsidies? - " Omirhobo
    "Why can't Tinubu take bold action to stop exporting crude oil for refining abroad when he has already demonstrated willingness to make tough decisions, such as removing fuel subsidies? - " Omirhobo
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  • Have you noticed something peculiar about the release of most hit songs by the popular twin musicians P-Square?

    Did you observe that Peter and Paul Okoye (Mr P and Rudeboy) are releasing their songs around the same time?

    This pattern, evident since their split as P-Square in 2017, appears to me as a strategic move with multiple implications.

    Is it strategic timing or mere coincidence?

    Running a scan on their solo careers reveals a recurring pattern: when one brother releases a song, the other follows suit shortly after.

    For instance, in 2017, Mr P released "Cool It Down" on October 20. Rudeboy replied with "Nkenji Keke" on November 16.

    Mr P cried out, "For My Head" on November 17 and Rudeboy seemed to be adding insult to injury when he responded with "Fire Fire" two days later. Go and verify.

    They are always f!ghting, and releasing tracks that always sell after their conflicts.

    Such timing suggests a deliberate strategy to maintain individual relevance while capitalizing on shared fan bases.

    Releasing music in close succession could ensure continuous engagement and comparison. I said COULD!

    They could just be in the background laughing as they fuel discussions especially online, which keeps both artists in the public eye.

    I may be wrong, totally wrong, but this approach taps into the psychology of rivalry, nostalgia and negativity bias.

    Fans are unsuspectingly casted into their drama of competition and rivalry, reminiscing their days as a duo.

    The proximity of releases invites comparisons, debates, and heightened interest, effectively doubling their visibility without a collabo.

    From the lenses of a social media marketing strategist, this appears to me like a calculated move intended to engineer increased streaming numbers, media coverage, and social media engagement.

    The perceived rivalry seemingly becomes a marketing tool, driving traffic to their respective platforms and sustaining their careers independently.

    Note: This is not a conclusion. Che is just thinking loud. What do you think?

    #mrlitetv
    Have you noticed something peculiar about the release of most hit songs by the popular twin musicians P-Square? Did you observe that Peter and Paul Okoye (Mr P and Rudeboy) are releasing their songs around the same time? This pattern, evident since their split as P-Square in 2017, appears to me as a strategic move with multiple implications. Is it strategic timing or mere coincidence? Running a scan on their solo careers reveals a recurring pattern: when one brother releases a song, the other follows suit shortly after. For instance, in 2017, Mr P released "Cool It Down" on October 20. Rudeboy replied with "Nkenji Keke" on November 16. Mr P cried out, "For My Head" on November 17 and Rudeboy seemed to be adding insult to injury when he responded with "Fire Fire" two days later. Go and verify. They are always f!ghting, and releasing tracks that always sell after their conflicts. Such timing suggests a deliberate strategy to maintain individual relevance while capitalizing on shared fan bases. Releasing music in close succession could ensure continuous engagement and comparison. I said COULD! They could just be in the background laughing as they fuel discussions especially online, which keeps both artists in the public eye. 😭😭 I may be wrong, totally wrong, but this approach taps into the psychology of rivalry, nostalgia and negativity bias. 😭😭😭😭 Fans are unsuspectingly casted into their drama of competition and rivalry, reminiscing their days as a duo. ✍️✍️ The proximity of releases invites comparisons, debates, and heightened interest, effectively doubling their visibility without a collabo. From the lenses of a social media marketing strategist, this appears to me like a calculated move intended to engineer increased streaming numbers, media coverage, and social media engagement. The perceived rivalry seemingly becomes a marketing tool, driving traffic to their respective platforms and sustaining their careers independently. Note: This is not a conclusion. Che is just thinking loud. What do you think?😔😔😔 #mrlitetv
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