12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE. HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1. 📌Never say a word you may later regret. Never let your emotions control you. No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue. Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues. Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight. 2. 📌Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry. One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful. Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage- There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home. Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage. 3. 📌Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce. Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there. So fight for your marriage. 4. 📌Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away. 5. 📌Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue. Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret. 6. 📌NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage 7. 📌Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath. 8. 📌Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things 9. 📌NEVER raise your hand on your spouse. Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse. 10. 📌Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue 11. 📌Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength. Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses. Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them. Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s. Invest in your marriage, 12. 📌NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue. Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

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*LEAVE YOUR FEMALE STUDENTS ALONE!* This is not just a warn!ng—this is a cry. A cry for the girl child. A cry for our schools. A cry for sanity. Dear young male teacher, You are gifted. You are admired. Your presence alone makes the girls sit up, eager to learn. You speak with passion, you dress smart, you explain well—and you may not know this—but many of those girls in your class are secretly cru$h!ng on you. But listen carefully: Their admiration is not permission. Their smiles are not an invitation. Their boldness is not maturity. They are still children. Tender. VulnerabI3. Still figuring out their emotions. What they feel is not love—it is confusion dressed in admiration. They trust you. They believe in you. And when you cross that sacred line… you k!II something in them. You kiIIher confidence. You kiII her future. You kiII her right to grow up whole and safe. Let me tell you what many don’t talk about. There are girls walking around today—empty, br0ken, hiding pa!n under their makeup—because a teacher who was supposed to protect them u$ed them. Some dropped out of school with swollen bellies. Some ended up in danger0u$ relationships they didn’t deserve. Some can no longer focus in class. Some lost their voice. Some have never healed. And what’s worse? Many of them still blame themselves. You were supposed to be her mentor. Her light. Her guide. Instead, you became her first heartbreak£ her first betrayal, her first $hame. Let me say this loud and clear: If a girl student ever gets bold enough to come close, it is because you have already given her the signal. Yes—you may not have touched her yet, but your boundary is already weak. And weak boundaries are a silent invitation to destruct!on. Don’t tell yourself “it’s love.” It’s not. Don’t say “she started it.” She didn’t. Don’t say “others have done it.” That’s no excuse. The truth is: many male teachers have ru!ned the destiny of the girl child in the name of love. And nobody talks about it enough. Be different. Don’t become another reason why a girl can’t look a male teacher in the eye without f£ar. Don’t become the face she remembers every time the word “trust” is mentioned. Don’t destr0y a child to satisfy your weakness. You are not just teaching a subject—you are shaping a soul. So protect her. Guard your role. Be disciplined. Be a real man. Be the teacher she’ll write about with pride—not pa!n. Let this be the end of this madn€$$. Let the classroom be a place of growth, not trau.ma. If this message touched your heart, share it like fire. We must shout it louder until every teacher hears it: Leave the girl child alone. Let her grow. Let her breathe. Let her be safe.

I need some advice please… ****Edititing***** to add, i do not bring this all up to her. She knows how i feel about that's that. I dont make her feel bad all the time. We dont talk about It. I come from a family of addicts and lost a sibling to addiction. I know this Isnt the same. I am more so asking for help with myself. To help ME stop obsessing over It and how i can work on letting it go******* I’ve been with my girlfriend for 16 months now. When we first met I had told her I wasn’t ok with smoking or vaping. She vaped and she said she was planning on quitting. I guess it’s my fault for getting into it knowing she did it. I have 3 kids. I have asked her not to do it in front of my children. She actually stopped doing it in front of me as well all together. We do not live together. However, I have found new vapes around often so I know she’s still doing it and I feel like every time she leaves a room that is why. I understand this isn’t the worst issue to have in a relationship, but I can’t let it go. I obsessed about it and fixate on her not quitting. How do I let it go? I just have a strong hatred for nicotine 😔, addiction all together really. I just can’t help but wonder if I’m self sabotaging by constantly thinking about it and getting upset over it. We have a great relationship otherwise. We are 40 and she also does have asthma as well. Does anyone have any advice for me? Thank you in advance

*IDIOTS, TRIBESMEN OR CITIZENS* 1. Unless you understand your role in society, you can never make any meaningful contribution. *According to the Greeks there are three types of people on earth, the idiots, the tribesmen and the citizens*. Studies show only 10% of Nigerians are citizens. The remaining 90% are either tribesmen or idiots! 2. When the Greeks used the word idiots, _they did not use it as a curse or abusive word_. Idiots are people who just don’t care. If they write exams they will cheat, if they are in government they will steal, an idiot does not care at all, if he eats banana he throws the peels anywhere instead of putting it in trash, according to the Greeks, some societies have more idiots than tribesmen and citizens. 3. The next set of people are Tribesmen.. these are people that look at everything from the point of view of the tribe. These are people that believe in you only if you are part of the tribe. It can be terrible to have a tribesman as a leader, he will alienate the rest. When the Greeks talk about tribes, it’s not just about ethnicity, they also consider religion as a tribe, a great percentage of Nigerians are tribesmen, because they view everything from the point of view of the tribe, they trust only tribesmen. 4. The last group are Citizens. These are people that like to do things the right way. They will respect traffic light even if no one is watching them, they drive within speed limit, they respect the laws, they won’t cheat in exams, in government they won’t steal, they are compassionate and give to others to promote their wellbeing. Citizens often promote projects that benefit everyone. The Greeks called this group the citizens. Some countries have more citizens than tribesmen and idiots, some countries have so many idiots. A tribesman can become a citizen through orientation and an idiot can become a citizen by training and constant enforcement of the law. But things fall apart if you elect an idiot or tribesman to lead you if he has not been reformed. *Where do you belong?* Are you an idiot, a tribesman or a citizen. Reflect about your life, reflect about our country and Africa in general. In our position as Professionals, Civil Servants and other vocations, let's be citizens and not idiots or tribesmen.. Thanks, for reading. *#AmbPrinceAwhotu*🧡🔥

Loving a Hard-Working Man Isn’t Always Easy, But It’s Worth It Being in a relationship with a hard-working man is not for every woman. Some women today are drawn to men who don’t have clear goals, Because they are always around, always free, and always available. But just because someone has free time doesn't mean they have a plan. A hard-working man may not always be available. He might not be able to talk all day, go out every night, or text back right away. But that doesn’t mean he loves you any less. In fact, it means he’s out there trying to build a future for both of you. There will be days where he comes home completely worn out. He may barely have the energy to eat, shower, or even talk much. And you might feel like he’s distant. But what he’s really doing is showing his love through action, not just words. This man is fighting silent battles every day. He’s pushing through tired mornings and long nights, Just so you can one day live a life of peace and comfort. He isn’t trying to ignore you , he’s trying to provide for you. He may not be dressed in fancy clothes, His hands may be rough, and his shirt may have stains. But his heart is gold. And his love is deep, loyal, and steady. So don’t take him for granted. Don’t compare him to others who have time but no purpose. Because when life gets hard, this is the kind of man you want by your side One who works hard, stays loyal, and never stops trying for the people he loves. Here’s to the men who show their love through effort, not just words. The men who wake up early, stay out late, and keep going even when they’re tired. The men who may not say “I love you” every minute, But show it every single day with all they do. Respect that kind of man. Support him. Appreciate him. Because one day, you’ll realize He was building the life you always dreamed of. > ➥𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐤𝐮𝐦𝐛𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐰𝐨 𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐰𝐞𝐲𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐌𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐢 𝐮𝐧𝐠𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐲𝐚𝐰𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐳𝐯𝐚𝐫𝐨😭🙏❤‍🩹

*16 Texts Every Man Wishes His Lady Would Send Him* 1. "You are looking good today" Yes, lady, men need compliments too 2. "Yesterday was amazing" Tell him how much you enjoyed spending time with him yesterday. If you two made love, tell your husband how great he was in bed last night. It boosts his ego 3. "I am blessed to have you" Show him you appreciate how fortunate you are to have him. It makes him feel valued 4. "Please pray for me" This shows you need him and his prayers. Involving God in your love shows how serious and sacred your love is 5. "What do I cook for you tonight?" Men love to eat. That you would ask him what he wants, makes him excited 6. "I love you" No matter how macho men try to be, they love being told this by the woman they love 7. "Can I take you out?" Surprise him. Treat him. A Queen can also plan a date for her King. Men love women who take charge sometimes. It's not every time things should be left to him 8. "I am so wet" Men love it when the woman they are faithful to reveals she is sexually aroused. Lady, show him that when you think of sex you think of him and are not shy about it. A man who loves you enjoys receiving breaking news of your sexuality 9. "Thank you for the phone call" The moment after he gives you a phone-call that makes you laugh, smile, or shows care; send him a text that demonstrates your gratitude 10. "I will be late, I'll make it up to you" Some women tend to delay when going on a date or event. Don't keep him waiting and expect him to undersrand because he is your man. Inform him you will be late 11. "I am wearing your favourite underwear" Tell him when you are wearing his favourite underwear, that black thong that he likes, that bra he likes to unstrap. Let him know when you are not wearing any underwear, no bra, when your nipples get hard. This playful and intimate info makes his blood run 12. "Are you OK?" Many women want the man to care and ask how she is but don't do the same for the man. Find out how your man is, how his day has gone. Many men are stresssed in need of their woman/wife to show concern. So many men have issues and need a safe place to vent 13. "You are a good man" In a world where women talk badly about men and have given up on men, this is the greatest compliment. If you have a good man, appreciate him. Him being a good man doesn't mean he is perfect, but the more you praise him, the better he will become, and the more effort he will put 14. "I can't wait for us to leave this place and be alone with you" When you are both in the same venue full of people, send him this text. He will read it, smile, look at you and your eyes meet with intense passion. Show him you look forward to private moments with him 15. "God bless your day, you are blessed" As his woman/wife, even without him asking; bless his day. Send him a message when he is at work; blessing him, calling him blessed. Your words are powerful and shape him 16. "You are an amazing father" He is there, doing the best he can for your child/children; thank him and constantly recognize his greatness, and greatness will never leave him Have a wonderful and blessed day!

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*ALL COUPLES SHOULD BE PATIENT TO READ THIS WRITEUP TO THE END* Susan attended a funeral service of her friend who lost her husband at Langata Cemetery. Susan held her wailing friend strongly as the casket was lowered into the freshly dug grave. Susan's friend was screaming "My husband don't leave me, please, don't leave me!" as people looked on feeling sad for her. The children were screaming too. Losing a father is not an easy thing. If not for Susan, the friend would have thrown herself into the grave to be buried with her husband who died of suicide. Because, the husband found no meaning in life and he killed himself. Susan remembered the many times the friend would say she is tired of her good for nothing husband and here she is screaming and feeling lost because the husband is no more. The friend cried till she fainted. Susan and others there carried the devasted woman to an ambulance for first aid. As Susan watched the spectacle of broken hearts crying for a man who will never ever come back, Susan remembered her husband. Susan remembered how much she takes her husband for granted. How she talks to him however she pleases. How she gives him prolonged silent treatment over issues they can easily resolve. How she denied him sex many times. And she asked herself "What if it my husband that is buried today how would I feel?" Susan thought. Susan remembered that she argued with her husband and he left the house with tension between them just because after all these years, he still leaves his plate in the living room instead of taking it to the sink after eating. "God forbid that my husband die, but what if as my husband went out in anger and never returns and passes on, is this the last memory I would like my husband and I to have?" She thought again. Susan began to remember all the wonderful things her husband has done in the past, which she never taught of before except complaining. Now, in her heart, she began to appreciate him for all his efforts no matter how small it was. At that moment, she realise her areas of improvement, and said to herself "there is no other man I would rather share my life with than my loving husband." She thought of life without him and it scared her. And said, "I would rather have disagreements with my loving husband than to lose him to death. I prefer his sense of humour and laughter than to cry for losing him." That evening, after Susan took her widowed friend to a safe place, she passed by at the supermarket and bought her husband a card saying "Thank you for being in my life" And when she got home, she cooked her husband's favourite meal and asked her children to join her in celebrating her husband. That night, her husband came home expecting a fight from Susan, but instead, he got greeting and hugs from Susan and the children. He was welcomed with songs, dancing and laughter, cute drawings of him with warm messages from the children, a home cooked meal, pleasant conversations. And Susan's husband bust into tears when Susan and the children told him how much they love him and then surrounded him to pray for him. A grown man cried like a baby because of love. He felt needed and he asked them "Is today father's day?" Susan looked into his eyes and said, "No, it is lovers day. Because, everyday is special with you around me from now on, we will do nothing but love each other. I don't know how long we have to live together, but it will not be wasted by fights, misunderstanding, complains and lack of appreciation. In case you have forgotten, "I love you" "I love you too" said Susan's husband as he kissed and hugged Susan, the children dancing and cheering on. Children long for a home where mom and dad give each other warmth. Since then, both Susan and her husband have been a stronger and more loving couple after realizing that tomorrow is not guaranteed. ~ Sometimes the death of someone wakes us up to the reality of life. ~ Don't let the death of your spouse wake you up to the reality of life, it will be too late. ~ God forbid, if your spouse die today, will you regret how you have been treating him/her? ~ Do you think living alone without your spouse will be joyful to you? ~ Will you be able to transfer your children to another man or woman whom they have not grown to know? ~ If you decide to be a single father or mother, will you be able to do the job alone? ~ Can you stand the pain of your kids asking why they don't have a father or mother like others? ~ What is it that you cannot mend in your marriage? ~ No doubt its not easy, but prayerfully love your spouse while he/she lives. It rubs on the children as well. So mend your home, don't destroy it.

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12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE. HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1. 📌Never say a word you may later regret. Never let your emotions control you. No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue. Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues. Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight. 2. 📌Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry. One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful. Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage- There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home. Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage. 3. 📌Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce. Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there. So fight for your marriage. 4. 📌Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away. 5. 📌Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue. Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret. 6. 📌NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage 7. 📌Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath. 8. 📌Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things 9. 📌NEVER raise your hand on your spouse. Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse. 10. 📌Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue 11. 📌Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength. Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses. Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them. Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s. Invest in your marriage, 12. 📌NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue. Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name Kindly share this message with your loved ones 🙏

*A Cry for Our Children: A Wake-Up Call to Parents and a Return to Godly Parenting* With a heavy heart, I watched a video making rounds - the SS3 students, young minds who just concluded their WAEC exams, engaging in shameful and immoral displays in the name of celebration. What should have been a moment of reflection has been turned into a festival of indecency and mockery of values. This is not the generation our forefathers prayed for. We are raising a generation that seems to have lost its way—where vulgarity is called expression, and shame is dismissed as old-fashioned. These are not just "children having fun." These are warning signs of a decaying moral foundation. To every parent out there: do not assume your child knows better. Do not assume they are safe just because you provide, clothe, and send them to school. School can never ever do everything. The school can never be successful if a family foundation and culture are not already there. Cultivate moral principles at ages 1 and 12, then the school will build from there. Be close to your children. Talk to them. Know their friends. Know their struggles. Monitor their online habits. Most importantly—pray for them, and pray with them. The truth is painful: many parents are present in the home but absent in the lives of their children. We must return to the way of our grandparents—a way built on discipline, respect, fear of God, and community accountability. They didn’t need the internet to teach values. They taught it at dawn prayers, at family meals, with the rod of correction wrapped in deep love and concern. "Spare the rod and spoil the child." This is not just a saying—it’s a divine imperative as well as principle. A generation not corrected will surely correct itself in the street, behind bars, or on a viral video for the world to scorn. Dear parent, wake up. You are not just raising a child. You are shaping a future husband, a future wife, a future leader. Don’t leave that to chance. The enemy is not sleeping—why should you? We must return to God. We must return to prayer. We must return to values, a return to character moulding. It takes time, it needs time. It is cumbersome, it is not an easy job as many modern day parents think. It is painstaking. May God have mercy on this generation. May He open our eyes before it is too late. *Let this video not just make us shake our heads. Let it shake us back to responsibility.* Rev. Fr. Francis UNEGBU (PhD) Noble Mentor