*A Cry for Our Children: A Wake-Up Call to Parents and a Return to Godly Parenting*

With a heavy heart, I watched a video making rounds - the SS3 students, young minds who just concluded their WAEC exams, engaging in shameful and immoral displays in the name of celebration. What should have been a moment of reflection has been turned into a festival of indecency and mockery of values.

This is not the generation our forefathers prayed for.

We are raising a generation that seems to have lost its way—where vulgarity is called expression, and shame is dismissed as old-fashioned. These are not just "children having fun." These are warning signs of a decaying moral foundation.

To every parent out there: do not assume your child knows better. Do not assume they are safe just because you provide, clothe, and send them to school. School can never ever do everything. The school can never be successful if a family foundation and culture are not already there. Cultivate moral principles at ages 1 and 12, then the school will build from there. Be close to your children. Talk to them. Know their friends. Know their struggles. Monitor their online habits. Most importantly—pray for them, and pray with them.

The truth is painful: many parents are present in the home but absent in the lives of their children.

We must return to the way of our grandparents—a way built on discipline, respect, fear of God, and community accountability. They didn’t need the internet to teach values. They taught it at dawn prayers, at family meals, with the rod of correction wrapped in deep love and concern.

"Spare the rod and spoil the child." This is not just a saying—it’s a divine imperative as well as principle. A generation not corrected will surely correct itself in the street, behind bars, or on a viral video for the world to scorn.

Dear parent, wake up. You are not just raising a child. You are shaping a future husband, a future wife, a future leader. Don’t leave that to chance. The enemy is not sleeping—why should you?

We must return to God. We must return to prayer. We must return to values, a return to character moulding. It takes time, it needs time. It is cumbersome, it is not an easy job as many modern day parents think. It is painstaking. May God have mercy on this generation. May He open our eyes before it is too late.

*Let this video not just make us shake our heads. Let it shake us back to responsibility.*

Rev. Fr. Francis UNEGBU (PhD)
Noble Mentor

A PASTOR'S BETRAYAL
PART 3
Grace stood in the kitchen, her hands shaking as she stared at the text on her phone. It was from Michael—short, cold, like always.
"Working late. Don’t wait up."
She had spent all afternoon preparing his favorite meal—peppered snail soup with fresh bread. The table was set, candles lit, the house smelling of spices and warmth. She had wanted to talk, to finally tell him how lonely she felt. How much she missed him.
But now, the food would go cold. Again.
Her fingers hovered over her phone. She wanted to type, "Please come home. We need to talk." But she knew what his response would be—silence. Or worse, annoyance.
She took a deep breath and called him instead.
The phone rang three times before Michael answered. In the background, she could hear laughter, glasses clinking. A restaurant.
"Grace, I said I’m working," he muttered, his voice tight with irritation.
Her heart pounded. "You’re not at the office."
A pause. Then a sigh. "I had a business dinner. I didn’t think I needed to explain every little thing to you."
Little thing. Those words cut deep. To her, it wasn’t little. It was another night alone. Another night where she felt invisible in her own marriage.
"Michael…" Her voice cracked. "I made dinner. I wanted us to talk. We—we can’t keep living like this."
Another pause. Then, "Grace, not now. I’ll be home late."
And just like that, he hung up.
Grace stood there, the phone still pressed to her ear, the dial tone buzzing like a taunt.
When Michael finally came home, hours later, Grace was waiting.
The candles had burned out. The food was untouched.
He walked in, loosening his tie, barely glancing at her as he headed for the stairs.
"Michael," she said, her voice trembling. "We need to talk."
He stopped, exhaling sharply. "Grace, it’s midnight. Can’t this wait?"
No. It couldn’t.
"Every time I try to talk to you, you push me away," she whispered, tears spilling over. "Do you even love me anymore?"
Michael turned, his face unreadable. "This again? Grace, I’m tired. I work all day, and I don’t need this drama when I come home."
Drama.
That word shattered something inside her.
"This isn’t drama!" she cried. "This is our marriage! You don’t talk to me, you don’t spend time with me—I feel like a ghost in my own house!"
Michael’s jaw tightened. "What do you want from me, Grace? I provide for you. You have everything!"
Everything except his love.
Grace wiped her tears, her breath coming in shaky gasps. "I want my husband back."
For a second, something flickered in Michael’s eyes—guilt? Regret? But then it was gone, replaced by cold indifference.
"I don’t have time for this," he said, turning away.
And just like that, he walked upstairs, leaving her standing there, broken.
Grace didn’t sleep that night.
By morning, her eyes were swollen, her heart raw. She needed someone to talk to. Someone who would listen.
So she went back to the only person who seemed to care—Pastor Gideon.
In his office, Grace cried as she told him what happened.
Pastor Gideon listened, nodding sympathetically. Then he leaned forward, his voice grave.
"Sister Grace… I fear for your life."
Grace froze. "What?"
He sighed, shaking his head. "A man who treats his wife this way… it’s not just neglect. It’s spiritual warfare. The devil is using him to destroy you."
Grace’s hands trembled. "But—but what do I do?"
Pastor Gideon placed a hand over hers. "God is telling me… if you stay, you will die in that house. Not just your heart—your life."
Grace gasped, her blood running cold.
"The Bible says, ‘Come out from among them and be separate.’ You must leave, Sister Grace. Before it’s too late."
Her mind spun. Leave Michael? After eighteen years?
But the pastor’s words sank deep, feeding her fears.
You will die if you stay.
That evening, Pastor Gideon "coincidentally" ran into Michael at a charity event.
"Brother Michael!" he greeted warmly, clapping him on the back. "How are you, my friend?"
Michael, unaware of the pastor’s conversations with Grace, smiled. "Doing well, Pastor. Keeping busy."
The pastor sighed sympathetically. "I actually wanted to speak with you. Your wife came to me recently… she’s been struggling."
Michael’s smile faded. "Grace?"
Pastor Gideon nodded. "She’s… very emotional. I’ve been counseling her to find peace in God’s word. Marriage is sacred, after all."
Michael relaxed, grateful. "I appreciate that, Pastor. She’s been… difficult lately."
The pastor smiled, hiding his deceit behind holy concern. "We’ll keep praying for you both."
Meanwhile, Grace sat at home, staring at her wedding ring, wondering if removing it would save her life—or destroy it.
TO BE CONTINUED...

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“I NEVER PLANNED TO DATE YOU.
I WAS TAUGHT NEVER TO EAT FROM ANOTHER MAN'S PLATE.

Look, Ade has always been like a brother to me. Back in the day—before all the fame, during his YBNL hustle—he’d casually say, ‘Senior bro, I dey eye that babe o.’ I knew he was talking about Simi. The way he said it, I could tell the feelings were real. So I respected that.

It's just bro code. You don’t go after a woman your guy already made his intentions clear about." – Falz opens up to Simi about their past.

*MARRY A MAN WITH COMMON SENSE.*

1: Marry a man that has sense enough to know that paying your bride price is not equal to buying you.

2: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that marrying you is not doing you a favour.

3: Marry a man that has sense enough to know that you pose to have cramps and mood swings during your monthly circle, and shouldn't use it against you.

4: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that as a woman you also have a right to say "NO" to sex at times and if he must have his way he should at least try to make you happy and put you in the mood.

5: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that after childbirth you are posed to have stretch marks, big stomach, sag ***** and not too good shape, and he shouldn't because of that compare you to a sweet 16,

Your sag ***** or stretch marks is a sign of motherhood. (Although you can work it out and be back to shape which is proper.)

6: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that there are times you are just too tired to cook, and him taking you to the eatery to eat dinner or him fixing the meal that day to save you the stress is not a taboo.

7: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that you have a right to voice out your frustration, a right to agree and disagree, a right to air your opinions.

8: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that you deserve to hear "sorry" from him and he's obliged to plead and ask for forgiveness when he errs and not use his headship as a means to escape saying "sorry"

9: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that hitting a lady is a crime against humanity.

10: Marry a man who loves your soul not just your body, marry a man who enjoys talking to you even without touching your body, not someone who cannot talk to you without touching you. May you not miss it in marriage.

"You’re leaving this house. And I don’t want you to come back."

That was all he heard.

There was no argument.
No shouting.
Just a dry sentence… and a door closing.

His grandmother.
The same woman who had raised him since he was a child… was now throwing him out as if he were a stranger.

His grandfather, witnessing the scene, was stunned.
“What are you doing? Why are you throwing him out like that? He’s your grandson!”

But she didn’t say another word.
She just turned around and disappeared into the house.

He didn’t understand.
Neither did the neighbors.
No one understood.

The boy, aimless, started walking.
He was wearing the same clothes he had on when he went to the store that afternoon.

No money. No phone. No keys.

First, he went to a friend.
“Do you have a place to stay?” the friend asked.
“No… they kicked me out.”
“Damn… I’m sorry. But my parents don’t let anyone stay over.
And honestly… I can’t do anything for you.”

He kept walking.
Another friend saw him coming.
“Everything okay? Something happen?”
“I have no place to go. Can I stay with you for a few days?”
“And what are you going to do here? You don’t have money? You can’t pay for anything?”
“No… nothing.”
“Then I’m sorry. You can’t stay at my place.”
The boy lowered his head.
And left.

He looked for his girlfriend.
He hugged her and explained what had happened.
She was worried, went to talk to her parents… and came back with a muted voice.
“They say you can’t stay. And I… I can’t do anything either.
I’m sorry, love… but this just isn’t going to work. Not like this.”

And he was left alone.
Completely alone.
He sat on a sidewalk bench and looked at the sky.
He had given everything for people who now gave him nothing.

Hours passed.
And when he thought no one was going to come looking for him…

His grandfather appeared.
“Let’s go home,” he said.
He didn’t want to.
“For what? So you can throw me out again?”
“Please, trust me. Just come.”

He got in the car.
Total silence the whole way.
When they arrived, his grandmother ran out to hug him.

He stepped back.
Then the grandfather sat him down and spoke calmly:
“Your grandmother didn’t do it out of cruelty. She did it out of love.
She wanted you to see with your own eyes… who stands by you only when you have something to offer.

You thought you were surrounded by friends.
You believed you had a solid relationship.
But she saw things you didn’t want to see.
People who used you, who took advantage of you… who were there only when you gave, but not when you needed.”

“And she had to make you see the truth.”
The boy began to cry.

The grandmother came closer.
“It broke my heart to do it… but I love you too much to let you keep believing a lie.”
He hugged her.

Tightly. Like he did when he was a child.
And he understood something that can’t be taught with words.

Moral:
Sometimes, the person who loves you most is the one brave enough to shake you… to open your eyes.
Because when you have something, everyone comes around.
But when you have nothing, you discover who’s truly worth it.
Who loves you… not for what you give, but for who you are.
And that truth, even if it hurts, makes you stronger.

Never Marry a Woman Who Thinks Duty Is Oppression

Let’s flip the script.

Modern women don’t mind love.

They mind responsibility.

They say they want a husband…

But act allergic to the weight that comes with being a wife.

Let’s break it down:

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1. She Wants Rights—But Hates Roles

She says she wants marriage.

But only if she can rewrite the terms.

No submission. No service. No sacrifice.

Just: – Her career – Her comfort – Her convenience

She wants you to pay the bills, protect the house, lead the vision…

But call her “wife”?

Suddenly she’s not your partner—she’s a prisoner.

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2. Duty Is a Trigger Word to the Modern Woman

Say: “A wife should cook.”

She’ll say: “What is this, 1950?”

Say: “A wife should support her husband’s mission.”

She’ll say: “I’m not losing myself for any man.”

Say: “Marriage is about sacrifice.”

She’ll say: “That sounds abusive.”

Everything that once built homes…

Now gets labeled toxic.

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3. Her Feminism Ends Where Her Comfort Begins

She quotes bell hooks on Instagram.

Reads self-help books about boundaries.

Talks about partnership and purpose…

But ask her to:

– Wake up early for the kids
– Submit to a decision she disagrees with
– Stretch her ego to save the marriage

She’ll say:

“This isn’t what I signed up for.”

Of course it isn’t.

Because modern women don’t sign up for responsibility.

They sign up for lifestyle perks.

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4. You Can’t Build a Home With a Woman Who Thinks She’s Doing You a Favor

She married you—but acts like she’s volunteering.

She gave vows—but still moves like she’s single.

She calls herself a wife…

But never shows up in the trenches.

And when you demand structure?

You’re “controlling.”

When you ask for peace?

You’re “emotionally abusive.”

Her entire identity is rooted in avoiding anything that feels like work.

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5. Love Without Duty Is Just Performance

She says she loves you.

But won’t clean, won’t compromise, won’t listen.

She says she’s loyal.

But only when it’s easy.

She thinks being present is enough.

But presence without contribution is just furniture.

You don’t need a woman who shows up.

You need one who shows up with purpose.

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Final Word: If She Thinks Duty Is Oppression—You’ll Spend Your Life Apologizing for Leadership

She’ll accuse your standards.

Resent your vision.

Sabotage your peace.

And when the marriage fails?

She’ll tell the world you “couldn’t handle a strong woman.”

But truth is:

You tried to build a kingdom…

With someone who didn’t want to hold a brick.

So here’s the rule:

Never marry a woman who thinks duty is slavery.

Because you’ll carry the whole mission alone—

While she posts about burnout from watching movies.

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JUST THINKING :

The way you perceive, process and respond to the successes of others is a major determining factor in your own success. Here are some pointers to help:

1. BE COMPASSIONATE: No one wants to be a Failure. So when others venture out to accomplish something, pray for them and wish them well. Help if you can.

2. DON'T HATE: Every Success comes at a price. Stop talking down on other people's progress, you have no idea how much preparation, hardwork, prayers and resilience they put in to make it happen. If you are at a loss about what to say when you see someone's success, Just say- CONGRATULATIONS!

3. CELEBRATE: The Bible says "Rejoice with those who rejoice..." This is the way to resist the spirit of jealousy and envy.

4. DETERMINE TO BE GREAT: Each of us has a call to greatness in some area. Never believe that you need someone to fail for you to succeed. That is a narrow minded view of life. There's enough for everyone. GOD is big like that. So, go be GREAT!

Hope this made sense ?

JUST THINKING :

The way you perceive, process and respond to the successes of others is a major determining factor in your own success. Here are some pointers to help:

1. BE COMPASSIONATE: No one wants to be a Failure. So when others venture out to accomplish something, pray for them and wish them well. Help if you can.

2. DON'T HATE: Every Success comes at a price. Stop talking down on other people's progress, you have no idea how much preparation, hardwork, prayers and resilience they put in to make it happen. If you are at a loss about what to say when you see someone's success, Just say- CONGRATULATIONS!

3. CELEBRATE: The Bible says "Rejoice with those who rejoice..." This is the way to resist the spirit of jealousy and envy.

4. DETERMINE TO BE GREAT: Each of us has a call to greatness in some area. Never believe that you need someone to fail for you to succeed. That is a narrow minded view of life. There's enough for everyone. GOD is big like that. So, go be GREAT!

Hope this made sense ?

JUST THINKING :

The way you perceive, process and respond to the successes of others is a major determining factor in your own success. Here are some pointers to help:

1. BE COMPASSIONATE: No one wants to be a Failure. So when others venture out to accomplish something, pray for them and wish them well. Help if you can.

2. DON'T HATE: Every Success comes at a price. Stop talking down on other people's progress, you have no idea how much preparation, hardwork, prayers and resilience they put in to make it happen. If you are at a loss about what to say when you see someone's success, Just say- CONGRATULATIONS!

3. CELEBRATE: The Bible says "Rejoice with those who rejoice..." This is the way to resist the spirit of jealousy and envy.

4. DETERMINE TO BE GREAT: Each of us has a call to greatness in some area. Never believe that you need someone to fail for you to succeed. That is a narrow minded view of life. There's enough for everyone. GOD is big like that. So, go be GREAT!

Hope this made sense ?

JUST THINKING :

The way you perceive, process and respond to the successes of others is a major determining factor in your own success. Here are some pointers to help:

1. BE COMPASSIONATE: No one wants to be a Failure. So when others venture out to accomplish something, pray for them and wish them well. Help if you can.

2. DON'T HATE: Every Success comes at a price. Stop talking down on other people's progress, you have no idea how much preparation, hardwork, prayers and resilience they put in to make it happen. If you are at a loss about what to say when you see someone's success, Just say- CONGRATULATIONS!

3. CELEBRATE: The Bible says "Rejoice with those who rejoice..." This is the way to resist the spirit of jealousy and envy.

4. DETERMINE TO BE GREAT: Each of us has a call to greatness in some area. Never believe that you need someone to fail for you to succeed. That is a narrow minded view of life. There's enough for everyone. GOD is big like that. So, go be GREAT!

Hope this made sense ?