SHOULD YOU DO A COURT WEDDING? (PART 1) Dear Anonymous Brother, There are three recognized types of marriages in Nigeria: 1. Statutory Marriage (or marriage Under the Act) • Conducted under the Marriage Act in a government-approved registry (not court) or church licensed for statutory weddings. (Some churches have government licenses to conduct this however, most churches don’t have license for this). 2. Customary Marriage • Conducted according to the traditions and customs of the ethnic groups involved. • Typically includes the payment of bride price and traditional rites. 3. Islamic Marriage • Performed according to Islamic (Sharia) law. • Requires a bride price (Sadaq) and a Nikah (marriage contract). I want to believe that the reason you’re having reservations about statutory wedding or marriage under the act (not court wedding as people call it) is because of the consequences and rigors of divorce. Most men are scared of statutory wedding because, in the case of divorce, properties are bound to be split, child custody laws may not favour them, and the consequence of polygamy (because the law prohibits that). If this is the case, I can boldly tell you that you’re entering marriage with the wrong mentality. You’re most likely going to end in divorce when conflict arises because you created room for it before entering the marriage. (Don’t forget that conflict must arise whether you like it or not). Note: Statutory weddings are not legally called court weddings. They are conducted in a marriage registry, a place of worship or any place of your choice by an authorized marriage registrar or licensed minister of a church. However, divorce can only take place in a high court or court with a higher jurisdiction. To be continued……… #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers

A Nigerian PhD student who wedded an American woman said she brings her salary to him and they use it for their expenses, adding that he knows her bank pin. He shared other interesting things about how they run their marriage, and some people criticized him.

7 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE (PART 1) The short story in between should teach you a lesson. Trust is the backbone of any strong relationship. It’s what makes love safe, secure, and long-lasting. But trust isn’t automatic—it is built through consistent actions, honesty, and reliability. Here are seven powerful ways to build trust in your relationship or marriage: 1. BE HONEST, EVEN ABOUT THE SMALL THINGS Let me tell you a short story🤔 Chijioke and Ada had been married for three years when Chijioke suddenly started acting restless. He was distant, easily irritated, and always on his phone. Ada noticed but assumed it was work stress. One evening, a strange number called his phone while he was in the shower. Out of curiosity, Ada answered. “Mr. Chijioke, this is our final warning. Pay back the ₦2 million loan or face legal action.” Ada’s heart dropped. A loan? For ₦2 million? She had no idea her husband had borrowed money. When he came out, she confronted him. He sighed and said, “I didn’t want to stress you, so I didn’t tell you.” Ada felt betrayed. Not because of the debt, but because he had kept it a secret. That night, she lay awake thinking, “If he can hide this, what else is he hiding?” And that was the foundation of distrust she developed towards her husband. She started doubting most of the things he says☹️ Here’s the truth: Hiding the truth, even with good intentions, damages trust. Ada wasn’t upset about the loan itself—she was upset about the secrecy. When you are honest, even about small things, your partner feels safe and secure. When you start keeping secrets, doubt creeps in. How do you achieve this? ✅ Speak the truth, even if it’s uncomfortable. ✅ If you make a mistake, own up to it instead of covering it up. ✅ Never assume small lies won’t matter—they always do in the long run. Biblical Wisdom: “The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy.” — Proverbs 12:22 To be continued……..🤩 Your #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers

Oh! no, am calling this marriage a quit. How can my husband expect me to come back from work, cook and still wash mine menstrual pants that have been soaked for 4 days now while he cross his legs and wash football all day long. PLEASE HELP ME🙏🙏, I'AM GOING NUT....🤯🤯😇

Fine girl: Why must you show your bre*st to the world? Like whyyyy???? Only dogs follow a food that is uncovered and left open to the public. Exposing them to the world explains that you have a low self esteem and you are opening it to gain approval, acceptance and the desire to be loved. I tell you: a Godly, futuristic and responsible man will not fall for that gimmicks. You will only attract men who are sex mongers and irresponsible. Their useless comments and hypes will tell you what exactly they’re after. Your bre*st is part of your private organs. Please keep it private and stop disgracing your family. Your #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebanker

Who is that woman holding your breakthrough and said nothing good will come your way. I raise up my hand to heaven to make a prophetic declaration into your life, Everything that belongs to you your Glory, Star, Virtues, progress, Wealth Children, Business, promotion, Marriage, pregnancy, etc that the wicked one has swallowed, before sunset tomorrow I repeat before sunset tommorow you shall recover all back in Jesus name

Marriages are becoming so bitter

"My wife and I don’t do red carpet. It is the same people that harass you for not takin' your wife to red carpet event that will sit back and point fingers at how you both look." — Ramsey Noah My wife and I have an understanding. And this is one of the reasons our marriage is still standing strong. We avoid the public eye because the public has a way of messing up relationships. Sometimes, my wife goes ahead of me into the event, so we don’t do red carpet. It is the same people that harass you for not taking your wife to red carpet event that will sit back and point fingers at how you both look. ~ Ramsey Noah

One of the noticeable flaws about some successful ladies is pride and arrogance. Money itself is not bad; it's not the root of evíl. It becomes evíl in the wrong hands. It's the Lord's desire that we prosper as our souls prosper. Your success and wealth shouldn't be a ticket to disrespect people, look down on others, and belittle men. Arrogance doesn't look good on anyone. Your success as a woman is more evident and soothing when you maintain your feminine charms. Bragging shouldn't be part of your approach. Queens are not loud. If you are a family oriented lady, pray for the grace to sustain success and wealth without it negatively impacting your marriage and home. Don't let success turn you into someone you are not or make you feel like you're in competition with men. Maintain your femininity; it's not inferiority, it's your power. Being feminine is a blessing. We are not in competition with men. The goal is to have a good life, and to propagate the gospel of God. #Lekwa princess ijeoma ✍🏾 #TheVoice

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband 2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband 3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances 4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meetings 5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend 6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood 7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband 8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him 9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly 10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time 11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids 12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments 13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband 14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves 15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband 16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty 17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her 18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage. Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own. Greetings to all submissive Women A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN MARRIAGE - Proverbs 31:10 - 31

Listen up, Men! Never Joke with Your Source of Income—Get Money at All Costs Let me tell you this personally: If you don’t have your money right, you’re going to suffer. The world is brutal to broke men. You don’t get sympathy, handouts, or free passes. You’re not a woman who gets free stuff just by existing. Women are born with their value. A beautiful woman can walk into any room and instantly get attention, validation, and resources. But as a man, you have to EARN your value. Here’s Why You Must Never Joke with Your Source of Income: 1. Respect Comes from Power, and Power Comes from Money A broke man has no power, no authority, and no say. If you want people to respect your presence, you need money. 2. Nobody Feeds a Broke Man If you’re down and out, nobody’s coming to save you. There are no safety nets, no sympathy, and no handouts. You’re either grinding or you’re invisible. 3. You Can’t Protect or Provide Without Resources As a man, your value is tied to your ability to provide, protect, and lead. Without money, you’re a liability, not an asset. 4. Financial Independence Is True Freedom Without your own income, you are a slave to your job, your boss, and even the opinions of others. Money gives you choices, freedom, and control over your own destiny. 5. Broke Men Are Easy Targets for Manipulation A man with no money is an easy mark for manipulation. People use, discard, and disrespect broke men because they know they have no leverage. 6. Women Lose Interest Quickly in Broke Men No matter how nice or loving you are, if you’re broke, she’s going to lose interest. Women are wired to seek security and stability—if you can’t provide that, you’re done. 7. You Have No Voice Without Resources In this world, money talks. You can’t make moves, take risks, or have influence if you’re broke. 8. Survival Demands It There’s no dignity in poverty. You must get money at all costs because your survival, your dignity, and your future depend on it. Final Warning Don’t let anyone distract you from your grind. Don’t let relationships, drama, or laziness stop you from getting your money right. Chase the bag, secure your income, and build your empire. A man without money is a man without options. Make sure you always have options. #motivation #preciousandfamily #Marriage #follower #Relationship

WHETHER YOU ARE MARRIED OR NOT, READ THIS AND LEARN. "Dad, can you loan me Five Hundred Thousand Naira?" Kola asked his father. "What for son?", his father asked. "For my wedding. By our calculations, we're falling short meeting the cost". Kola had come to meet his parents with his fiancé. "Your wedding? How much is the total cost of the wedding?", his father asked. "N3.6 million. We're thinking of starting the committee next week. We can together give about eight hundred thousand and expect our friends to help us raise about two million. I remember you told me if ever I need help I can come to you" Kola answered. His father held him by the shoulder and said "Go get your wife and come meet me at my study room". "Yes dad", Kola obliged. Minutes later, Kola and his fiancé,Tomilayo walked into his father's study room. "Having a good time my daughter?" Kola's father asked. "Yes I am. You and your wife are so hospitable. I pray that Kola and I can emulate your marriage. You are an admirable couple" answered Kola's fiance. "Thank you. I am delighted to have you as my daughter. This is your home, you're welcome anytime", said father. They sat down. "Thank you dad" "So, I hear you want to spend N3.6 million for your wedding and you need me to help with five hundred thousand?", asked father. "Yes, we will greatly appreciate" said the fiancé. "The wedding will be at the Total Garden Ibadan in about six months time", said Kola. "Why do you want to have a big wedding?", father asked. "Well, it's our big day. She's always dreamt of a big wedding", Kola replied. "Have you dreamt of a big wedding or a strong marriage?", The father asked the fiancé. "When you put it that way, it's more of a strong marriage" said the fiancé. "Good. You've answered wisely. So who do you expect to come for your wedding?", asked the father. "Friends and relatives. About seven hundred people", answered Kola. "How many true friends do you really have?", I mean friends who have been tried and tested to be there for you through thick and thin?, asked the father. Kola and Tomilayo looked at each other. "Countable", the fiancé answered. "So who are these other people who will come to your wedding?", asked the father. Silence. "OK. Let's go to the relatives. I know you love your relatives, but how many are really close to you? You barely talk with the many relatives you have", said the father. "What are you trying to say dad?" asked Kola. "My son, my daughter; why do you want to spend N3.6 million on a wedding, a one day event yet you need the money in your marriage? Look, you are actually coming to ask me for money, you will form a committee to ask people for money; all to show off and please people who will not even matter in your marriage" Silence. The father continued, "Let me share with you my experience. When I married your mother, we spent about a million for the wedding. That was a lot of money then. We fed people, got stressed by service providers, just so that we put up a wedding that will win the applause of a crowd. But as soon as we got married, the crowd disappeared. All the issues that your mother and I went through, no one cared, even family couldn't do much. Every one is busy living their life. When things got tough, the crowd gossiped about us, some even seemed happy that our marriage was in trouble" Silence. "I have seen this script repeated over and over. Brides get stressed on their wedding day, they can't even enjoy, couples being angry at friends who don't support them financially, the worst part is starting marriage in debt or struggling financially. Do you know a wedding doesn't have to cost so much, it doesn't have to be stressful, it doesn't have to be full of people who perhaps will never talk to you again?" added the father. "But dad, what will people think if we do a small wedding or we don't invite them?"asked the fiancé. "Are you getting married for people? If you have a small wedding with only the witnesses who matter, will you two not be married? What is all this competition of who has a grand wedding for? People are competing on Facebook, in weddings; why this need to show off? You know that money you are about to blow in one day, you can use it to invest in your marriage, you can start the process of buying or building a home, you can save up for the needs of the children you will have because you need money to raise a family. Why not start your marriage financially healthy and not in debt? Marriage is what is more important than a wedding", continued the father. "Dad, if you don't want to support us it's okay", said Kola. The fiancé stopped him saying, "No my love, dad has a point. I actually find the idea of a small wedding not just wise and economical, but also intimate. Marriage is just you and me, not people". The father spoke, "My son, in all the years you have been a man, you have never come to me asking for money, but now you are asking for money to put up a show? I look further, I look at your marriage. I admire how people come together in a wedding committee to raise money and I wonder, what if couples and people use that same energy to put up a business that will uplift families. Those members who will be part of your wedding committee, imagine if they become your investors, imagine if you build a company where you can make profit and feed your homes. Something sustainable." Kola and his fiancé nodded. "My son, I have longed for the day you would come and ask me to invest in your business idea. But today I will make the first move", the father said taking his cheque book from his drawer. He wrote on the cheque then gave it to the fiancé. "Here my son, this is a cheque of five million naira, not for your wedding but as start up capital for a business of your choice. I am giving the cheque to your wife because as the Proverbs 31 woman said, she is to walk with you in building an empire for your family. Focus on your family, give your family the best; forget about the public and opinions of people who don't matter. Build a future for your family. Build your family on a foundation of surplus not debt". "Thank you so much" said the fiancé. Kola stood up with tears in his eyes. His father stood up too. The father and son hugged. "Thank you dad for being a great figure and your counsel. I don't know what to say. You have challenged me not to merely get married but to have a vision, a vision for my family. I don't know what to say" he spoke. The father held his shoulder, "You will make a great husband and father. I wish I had the same counsel when I was getting married, all those people I fed on my wedding day didn't add value to my marriage. In fact, if I was to organize an event and feed multitudes, I would do so for the less fortunate and those in need. Marriage is not for show. Pls follow Eunice home of fashion &hair Don’t forget to share to enlighten more people #highlightseveryone #fbreels23 #fypシ゚viralシ #fbyシvideo #highlightseveryonefollowers #highlightsシ゚ #fbyシviral #fbreelsvideo #reelsfypシ