MARRY YOUR MATE 6 MATES YOU MUST MARRY! One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate! You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on seven dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate. 1. #MARRY_YOUR_SPEAKING_MATE: Marry someone you can speak together and understand each other. Communication is very crucial in marriage. Don't marry someone that, when you are saying 'A' he or she will be saying ' Z' Once their is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can't enjoy that marriage. So many men go to bar to hang out with friends and gist till 11pm because they know their wives can't engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. So many women too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their husbands mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Marry your speaking Mate. 2. #MARRY_YOUR_SCHOOL_MATE: By this I mean, marry someone you can learn together and improve together. Don't marry ' Mr Know all' or 'Miss Know all'. Don't marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your 'school' mate; someone who is ready to learn with you. 3. #MARRY_YOUR_SPIRITUAL_MATE: Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Marry someone who knows the same God you know. Don't marry someone who's believe of God is different from yours. Two can't work together except they be agreed ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to marry. 4. #MARRY_YOUR_SPENDING_MATE: Don't marry someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in marriage. A stingy guy in courtship won't suddenly become a generous husband in marriage. Don't marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ' My husband's money is our money, but my money is my money'. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labour , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the family. 5. #MARRY_YOUR_SEX_MATE: Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the success of any marriage. Any man you don't have emotional feelings for, don't marry the person. If you don't have emotional feelings for that lady, leave her alone. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your marriage, you won't be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won't be reading the Bible or worshipping God 24/7. You will have sex! You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your marriage so much! 6. #MARRY_YOUR_SOCIAL_MATE: Don't marry someone you won't be proud to go out with. Don't marry someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness. Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are socially compatible with. Don't marry an anti- social person. You might be wondering if your can find all the 'mates' in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don't need to marry 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be all that for the guy/lady that will marry you. The promise of God for you is this : 'Seek and read from the book of the LORD: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the LORD has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.' (Isaiah 34:16). Say it loud and clear 'I shall not lack a mate!' I hope this blessed someone reading?

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾 1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other. 2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm. 3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still. 4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations. 5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long. 6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem. 7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally. 8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself. 9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back. 10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse. 11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other. 12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children. 13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring. 14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced. 15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt. 16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children. 17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows. 18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged. 19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future. 20. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.

BE PATIENT AND NEVER GIVE UP IN LIFE. Both fruits are hanging together on the same branch of the same tree. One of them is already ripe, while the other one may need more time to ripe. Nature is teaching us an important lesson through these guavas. When we see others around us achieving success while we have not, it does not mean we are unsuccessful. It simply means that the right time for us has not yet come. So, we must hold on, be patient, and not give up out of frustration. We might just be a few days away from reaching our ripened state. Remember, our time will come as well , but it requires patience and perseverance and prayers! Thank you for reading ❤

The way you treat your mother is the way life will treat you. A mother is the heart of love and life itself. She embodies unconditional love—a love like no other. Do not judge her. Have you ever taken the time to sit with her, to truly listen to her stories, to understand the life she lived before you came along? Perhaps she never told you about the struggles she endured, the silent battles she fought, or the scars she carries—scars that reopen every time memories resurface. She may have faced a painful childhood, a difficult youth, moments of loneliness, mistreatment, and hardship. Yet, she chose to keep her pain hidden, not wanting to burden you, not wanting you to see the shadows of her past. Out of love, she remained silent. Maybe silence became her refuge, her way of protecting herself from reliving the suffering. Honor her. Treasure her. Treat her with kindness, for she is a gift beyond measure. In doing so, you will invite blessings, peace, joy, stability, and a long, fulfilling life. And remember, how you treat your mother will reflect in the way others treat you. The love and respect you show will shape the way the world responds to you. There is only one mother. If you fail to cherish her now, regret may follow you in the years to come. And when sleepless nights come, it won’t be her presence keeping you awake—it will be the weight of your own neglect, the echoes of words unspoken, and the pain of missed chances that refuse to let you rest.

WHEN YOU ARE 40 YEARS OLD OR ABOVE A. Two things to check as often as you can: (1) Your blood pressure (2) Your blood sugar. B. Six things to reduce to the minimum on your foods: (1) Salt (2) sugar (3) preserved meat and foods (4) red meat especially roasted (5) diary products (6) starchy products C. Four things to increase in your foods: (1) Greens/vegetables (2) beans (3) fruits (4) nuts D. Three things you need to forget: (1) Your age (2) your past (3) your grievances E. Four things you must have, no matter how weak or how strong you are: (1) Friends who truly love you (2) caring family (3) positive thoughts (4) a warm home. F. Four things you need to do to stay healthy: (1) fasting (2) smiling / laughing (3) trek / exercise (4) reduce your weight. G. Six things you don't have to do: (1) Don't wait till you are hungry to eat (2) don't wait till you are thirsty to drink (3) don't wait till you are sleepy to sleep (4) don't wait till you feel tired to rest (5) don't wait till you get sick to go for health check-ups otherwise you will only regret later in life. (6) don’t wait till you have problem before you pray to your God.

HEAR THIS: BEING AVERAGE IN LIFE IS NOT GOD'S STANDARD FOR OUR LIVES, IS AN INSULT TO GOD, WE WERE CREATED FOR EXCELLENCE, GREATNESS, AND IMPACT. "Average" is not a badge of honor. It's an insult to the God who created you for greatness. As children of God, we're called to excel, not settle for mediocrity. Average is not God's standard; excellence is. Why Average is an Insult: 1. It disregards God's unique plan for our lives. 2. It wastes the talents and gifts God has given us. 3. It lacks passion and dedication to God's kingdom. Consequences of Being Average: 1. Missed opportunities for impact. 2. Unfulfilled potential. 3. Lack of personal growth. The Problem with Average: 1. Settling for mediocrity 2. Ignoring God-given talents 3. Lack of passion and purpose 4. Missing opportunities for impact Rising Above Average: 1. Set God-honoring goals. 2. Cultivate a growth mindset. 3. Surround yourself with positive influences. 4. Seek mentorship and accountability. 5. Pray for wisdom and guidance. Breaking Free from Average: 1. Seek God's vision for your life 2. Identify and develop your strengths 3. Take risks and step out in faith 4. Surround yourself with positive influences God's Design for Excellence: 1. Created in His image (Genesis 1:26) 2. Empowered by the Holy Spirit (Acts 1:8) 3. Called to greatness (2 Peter 1:3-4) 4. Equipped for good works (Ephesians 2:10) You were created for more than average. Embrace God's extraordinary purpose and become the best version of yourself.