"Thank you, Mr. Tunji Malomo, for your bold and well-articulated piece. Only those who truly know our political history and are not blinded by loyalty to individuals over the truth will understand the weight of your words.

When people accuse His Excellency Rauf Aregbesola of betrayal, one wonders: "*How long must a man be loyal before he is allowed to have a mind of his own?"* l Is loyalty slavery? Or is it mutual respect?

*Let’s take a journey through the forgotten pages of history:*

1. *Tinubu's Betrayal of Afenifere:*
The Yoruba elders of Afenifere gave Tinubu a platform when he was a political nobody. But what happened after he tasted power? He threw them aside like yesterday’s newspaper and built his personal empire. That was the first great betrayal.

2. *The Abacha Chapter* :
Many may not remember, but Tinubu once sought favour from the same Abacha he later pretended to fight against. His exile was not born of sacrifice but of disappointment when Abacha refused him. He didn’t run because of democracy; he ran because his expectations were cut short.

3. *The June 12 Deceit:*
Even the late MKO Abiola’s family can not forget how Tinubu traded the June 12 struggle for personal gain. Kola Abiola himself exposed these betrayals. While some bled for the cause, others bargained for personal survival.

4. *Oyetola vs Aregbesola - Family Over Party:*
Aregbesola built Osun APC with sweat and sacrifice. But when it was time for succession, Tinubu chose blood over merit. Oyetola, his cousin, was handed the ticket. Even the one-term gentleman’s agreement was broken. If this isn’t betrayal, then what is?

5. *Alpha Beta and the Empire of Greed:*
How many bright minds brought ideas to the Lagos political table, only for Tinubu to pocket them and claim them as his own? Alpha Beta is just one of the many examples where brains were stolen, and loyalty was betrayed for profit.

6. *Aregbesola's Years of Service:*
For almost 30 years, Aregbesola served Tinubu with unquestionable loyalty. From the trenches of NADECO to the corridors of Lagos State, from Osun’s political storms to APC’s national battles. Yet, when he asked for fairness, he was branded a traitor...."

The Marriage Advice .

1. **Choose Love, Always:** Even in moments when you find it hard to like each other, choose to love. Love is a commitment, not just a feeling.

2. **Be Present:** Always answer the phone when your spouse calls. When you're together, try to keep your phone off, giving each other your full attention.

3. **Prioritize Time Together:** Make time with your spouse a top priority. Budget for regular date nights because time is the currency of relationships, and investing in your marriage is key.

4. **Surround Yourself with Support:** Keep company with friends who strengthen your marriage. Distance yourself from those who might tempt you to compromise your character.

5. **Laugh Together:** Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share joyful moments, and even in tough times, find reasons to laugh together.

6. **Team Up in Arguments:** In every disagreement, remember that you’re on the same team. There’s no winner or loser; you either win together or lose together. Work as partners to find solutions.

7. **Be Each Other’s Strength:** A strong marriage isn’t about both being strong at the same time. It’s about taking turns being strong for each other when one of you feels weak.

8. **Value Intimacy:** Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. While a strong marriage takes more than s=x, it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. **Give 100%, Not 50/50:** Marriage isn’t about splitting everything down the middle. Divorce is 50/50; marriage is 100/100, with both partners giving their all.

10. **Give Your Best:** Offer your best self to each other, not just the leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

11. **Embrace Uniqueness:** Learn from others, but resist comparing your marriage to anyone else’s. Your life is uniquely yours.

12. **Don’t Put Marriage on Hold:** Don’t neglect your marriage while raising your kids, or you might end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

13. **Be Transparent:** Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

14. **Build Trust:** Never lie to each other. Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage, and lies will break it.

15. **Admit Mistakes:** When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and seek forgiveness humbly. Be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

16. **Forgive Quickly:** When trust is broken, be quick to forgive. This promotes healing and opens the door for trust to be rebuilt. Say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

17. **Practice Patience:** Your spouse is more important than your schedule. Be patient with each other.

18. **Model Love for Your Children:** Live the kind of marriage that inspires your sons to be good husbands and your daughters to be good wives.

19. **Protect Your Spouse:** Never speak badly about your spouse to others or vent about them online. Always protect them, in all places and at all times.

20. **Wear Your Ring:** Your wedding ring is a constant reminder that you’re connected to your spouse and that you’re off-limits to the rest of the world.

21. **Connect to Faith:** Being part of a faith community can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

22. **Pray Together:** A marriage is stronger with God at its center. Pray together regularly.

23. **Choose Kindness:** If you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, choose to say nothing every time.

24. **Stay Committed:** Never consider annulment as an option. A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

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KILLERS OF MARRIAGE

React before you read

1 Laziness kills Marriage.

2 Suspicion kills Marriage

3 Lack of trust kills marriage.

4 Lack of mutual respect kills marriage.

5 Unforgiveness, Bitterness, Hatred, Malice and anger kill marriage.

6 Unnecessary Arguments kills marriage.

7 Keeping Secrets from your Spouse kills marriage.

8 Every form of Infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc).

9 Poor Communication kills marriage.

10 Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect.

11 Relating more with your parents/family members than your spouse kills marriage.

12 Lack of inadequate or unenjoyable s€x kills marriage.

13 Nagging kills marriage.

14 Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage .

15 Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage.

16 Being too independent minded kills marriage.

17 LOVE for party, money, impulse buying and spending/partying, financial indiscipline kills marriage.

18 Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or Siblings kills marriage.

19 Not being steadfast/fervent in the spirit, not praying together kills not only marriage but your life.

20 Spurning correction and reprimand kills marriage.

21 Always wearing a sad face and being Moody kills marriage.

22 FEMINISM ADVOCACY kills marriage.

23 MALE CHAUVINISM kills marriage.

24 Uncontrolled or hot Temperament, Anger kills marriage.

25 Not understanding your role and position , not taking responsibilty in marriage as instituted by God kills marriage.

26 Not being sensitive to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of your spouse kills marriage.

27 When anything threatens the position/security of a wife or husband, his or her reaction(s) will be detrimental to the marriage.

28 Lack of the Knowledge of & Obedience to the word of God kills marriage.

Good afternoon all Gada.chat family

I welcome us all into the family of GADA.CHAT. where you post, comment, like, share, view, report, follow and make money .

Why It Sucks to Be Born as a Hyena?

You’re born into a warzone… and your first enemy is your own twin.

Welcome to the hyena clan — where life begins not with a lullaby, but a deathmatch.

Hyena cubs are born with their eyes open and teeth already in place. No waiting. No bonding. Just violence. If you’re one of two, your first instinct isn’t to cuddle — it’s to kill your sibling before they kill you. Because in this family, the nursery is a gladiator pit.

And even if you win? Congratulations — you're still born female. Which sounds cute until you learn that female hyenas are more aggressive, more dominant, and more terrifying than the males. They rule the clan. They eat first. They get the best of everything… except one thing.

Birth.

Because hyena girls are born with something horrifying: a pseudo-penis. It’s not just for show — it’s what they give birth through. You read that right. They give birth through a long, narrow, penis-like birth canal that often tears apart their own bodies. Up to 60% of first-time hyena moms die giving birth.

You finally escape your mother’s death canal of doom, and now what? Now you have to fight for milk. There’s no sharing. If your mom has two cubs and not enough to go around? One dies. Usually the weaker one. Or the slightly smaller one. Or the one that blinked first.

Then you grow up — and the cycle doesn’t stop. You’ll hunt in packs, rip apart prey while it’s still screaming, and scavenge what lions leave behind. You’re smart. Tactical. Fearless. But everyone still calls you “ugly,” “evil,” or “nature’s villain.”

People say you're a joke. A dirty scavenger.

But you're not laughing.

You're surviving.

Not every predator gets glamorized. Some just get judged. But if you were born into a world where your first challenge was surviving your sister, you wouldn’t be laughing either.

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#HyenaTruth #BornToSurvive #natureisbrutal

What no one told me about marriage before I enter that I want to tell you.

This is for those planning to marry or those who just got married.
If you are open-minded, you can still read.
Nobody knows it all.

1. Immediately you get married, even before having a baby, go and register your family for health insurance.
NHIS is one of the common ones and the most available in hospitals.
It will save you a lot.
There are some things the rich won’t tell you.
With NHIS, you can walk into any hospital and get treated cheap depending on the package.
A friend of mine once did an operation and all he paid was ₦10k something that would have cost ₦400k.

2. Have a family doctor very very important.
See, no church will tell you this.
Even if you don’t have money for a family doctor, have someone you can call in case of emergency.
Especially a pediatrician when you start having kids.

3. Also, have a family lawyer.
Recently, our family lawyer saved us over ₦500k in rent that I wanted to forfeit.
But because she stepped in and did her job, money was refunded seamlessly.

4. If you can afford it, have at least one domestic staff.
Someone that can at least help ease the work in the house for you and madam.
My brother, ejiro kwa afufu anya isi.
Get help if you can.

5. Buy things in bulk.
The reason I live like a wealthy man today is because I buy everything I need down to toothpaste in bulk.
You spend more buying in bits than when you buy in bulk.
That’s one of the reasons I created my sharing platform to enable family men and women with common goals.
There is nothing we don’t share. Some of you reading this are in that group.

6. Pay your children’s school fees before school resumes.
As I’m talking to you now, I’ve already sent SGM the kids’ school fees that’ll be paid in September.
I don’t have to worry about it again.
It helps me plan myself.
Do everything possible to pay school fees before resumption. You won’t know what you’re doing until money goes on leave from your side.

7. Strive to have passive income.
Something that can generate at least ₦3-5k every day.
No matter what try and get something like that.
It will save you from a lot of stress.

8. See the friends and circle your kids will have tomorrow everything depends on the school they attend.
This one is very, very important.
Even if you don’t have money, find a way to send your children to one of the best schools.
You won’t realise what you’re doing until they come of age.

9.I learnt this one from my dad always have family meetings.
You, your wife, and your kids no matter how small they are.
Discuss problems, solutions, and way forward.
Allow the kids air their opinions.

Ask the kids:
Is there something mummy and daddy are doing that they don’t like?

Same thing with your wife.
Talk about what you both can do to have a stable and loving family.
This helps in uniting the family.

Every month is fine or even every 6 months.
Just make it a habit and a culture.
It’ll become a memory that sticks for the kids, and for you and madam too.

Everyone’s opinion in the family matters.
And as the man, it’s your job to hear everybody’s opinion and choose the best way to run the family.

This isn’t just for the man alone madam can initiate it too. There’s no perfect formula, yes. But this one I listed? It works every time.
I repeat if you try it, you’ll save yourself a lot of unnecessary headache and stress.
You can add yours... enjoy your weekend.

IAM proud to be a member of gada family

All gada family make Una well-done

*''I will make you into a great nation and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing"*
_Genesis 12:2_

Glory be to God Almighty for giving us the opportunity to see another day. The Lord will handsomely bless you and make your name exceedingly great forever in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ. The Favour and Grace of God will announce your Name for Greatness and Victory anywhere your name is mention in Jesus' Name. You will never be rejected nor put to shame. I speak peace into your life. With the anointing from above, you will trample upon your enemies. God Almighty will overthrow every strong man or strong woman monitoring the affairs of your life and your family. By the special grace of God, you shall be elevated to the best level of your life in Jesus' Name. Amen.
Every loophole through which the devil and his agents are operating against you shall be permanently blocked. God's incinerating fire will consume all demonic objects the enemy is using to attack you. The power of God Almighty will destroy every seed of sorrow and bitterness the devil is planning to plant in your life and family in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ. You will continue to be the main focus of God's favour and the key recipient of His blessings. The Lord God Almighty will speedily fulfil and accomplish all His outstanding promises for your life and your entire family in Jesus' Mighty Name. Amen.

*Have A Pleasant And Relaxing Saturday And Weekend.*

_Good Morning_

Happy weekend to all my friends and family