𝐄𝐈𝐆𝐇𝐓 (𝟖) 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐂𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐘 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐀 𝐂𝐑𝐀𝐓𝐄 𝐎𝐅 𝐄𝐆𝐆:

We have so many things in life that we can handle with strong hands & they can withstand pressure and force. There are things that are so fragile in nature & anyone who wants to handle them must do so with every carefulness and tenderness. I saw a truck loaded with cartons of Noddles. Two guys were asked to move the cartons of noddles from the truck into a shop. You need to see the throwing and catching prowess of this two guys. One was in the truck throwing the cartons to the one at the entrance of the shop and he was throwing it into the shop. The one in the truck can throw about 3 cartons at a go and the one in the shop will catch it so well. They can do it like that because the noodles in the cartons are not fragile.

They can't handle crates of egg like that when loading from a truck into a shop. It takes extra carefulness and tenderness, if I not ,it will break and that will amount to huge debt and wastages.

Friends, there are things we also must carry and handle with extra- carefulness because these things are fragile and once broken, it is not easy to put back together and once some of these things get broken, they can lead to huge damage and destiny wastage.
Let me mention 8 of those things you must carry /handle with carefulness as if you are carrying a crate of eggs.

1. 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐍𝐀𝐌𝐄: Your name is very important and fragile. There are names that stink in the ears of people simply because, those who bear those names spoilt the names. The way to handle your name with carefulness is to be careful of your doings. Your actions can rubbish your name. A good name can open doors for you & for your children and generations after you. The Bible says ' A good name is better than precious ointment...' ( Ecclesiastes 7:1). When your name is mentioned anywhere, like in your office, at home, church, on social media like Facebook, Twitter, IG, etc. What comes to people's minds? Carry your name with carefulness. It is a huge asset. Read one of the quotes written by Shakespeare. 'Who steals my purse steals trash; 'tis something, nothing; 'Twas mine, 'tis his, and has been slave to thousands;
But he that filches from me my good name
Robs me of that which not enriches him,
And makes me poor indeed'.

2: 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐑𝐓: Many hearts are broken, shattered, wounded and bitter today. One of the factors responsible for this is because many of this heart owners were careless with their hearts. You can guard your heart from being broken and bitter. Run away from people, and things that are bent on breaking your heart. Carry your heart like a crate of eggs. You need a whole heart before you can be said to be fully whole!

3. 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐖𝐈𝐅𝐄 : When you put too much pressure on your wife, you will 'break' her. ' Likewise ye husbands, dwell with your wife according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel...' ( I Peter 3:7)
Handle your wife with carefulness and tenderness. Let tenderness flow in your manliness. Don't be wicked to your wife. Carry her like a Queen. She's stron, powerful and wise, yet, she needs to be protected, cared for and handle like a crate of eggs. Treat her like that.

4: 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐏𝐔𝐑𝐏𝐎𝐒𝐄: Your purpose is your destiny. If you don't handle it with utmost carefulness, it can slip off your hands and gaze and get broken. So many things can come like pressure on this 'crate of egg of purpose'. Discouragement, lack of fund, delayed Breakthrough, etc. These are things that may want to come like pressure on your purpose to break it. Don't allow it! Carry it with care. Carry your purpose away from people and things that may want to put pressure on it and break it.

5: 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐓𝐇: You have only this body as a vehicle that will carry you throughout your journey of destiny in this life. Handle your health with carefulness. No matter how big your vision is, once you are dead, nobody can really run the vision like you!

Fight for your health. Avoid things that can destroy your health. Wealth is useless when your health becomes useless. Don't kill yourself before your time. Do your best to stay alive. We still need you here. Don't use your fork and your spoon to dig your grave. Watch what you eat. Always pray for divine immunization against sickness and diseases.

6. 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐀𝐆𝐄.: So many people handle their marriage like a carton of noddles. Let me remind you sir/ma. Your marriage is fragile. Handle it like a crate of egg. It must not break! A broken marriage is not easily put back together, because, when a marriage breaks, many things get broken with it. Husband and wife, please, carry your marriage like an egg. It must not break!

7: 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐖𝐎𝐑𝐃𝐒. : Your worth is attached to your words. Be careful with words. Once broken, you can't gather it up again. Many people are careless with their words. They speak violently. They make empty promises and break it. Some say things they later wish they never said. Guard your words. Be careful with it.

8: 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐄𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐍𝐈𝐓𝐘: Those who are running up and down to fulfill destiny here on earth without thinking of their eternity are not wise! Hear what the Bible says ' Oh that they were wise, that they understood this, they would have considered their latter end! ( Duet 32:29). Friends, the matter of eternity is not something you should handle with levity. Think about where you will spend eternity. You will die one day. I will also die one day. All that we are and have in this world are vanity upon vanity. Take the matter of your end very serious. Stop living carelessly as if you have extra life. Think about eternity. Don't live for the pleasure of this present moment alone. If you miss heaven, you will cry!

I believe someone here is blessed with this. You can share it to bless others. (don't plagiarize it )

Thanks for reading.

*27 WAYS TO BUILD A HAPPY AND LONG LASTING MARRIAGE *

Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship that requires commitment, love, and sacrifice.

No matter what culture you belong to, what religion you believe, what society, level of wealth, or era you live in – one thing common to all people is that they want to be "happy", especially in their marriages.

What Should you do?

1. Love the person you married, not the person you hoped you married. Accept your spouse totally. You cannot love a man/woman you do not accept. Stop comparing your spouse with anyone, he or she can never be somebody else. Until you accept your spouse, you can't get the best out of your marriage

2. Understand each other. No marriage succeeds without understanding. Learn to know one another as best as you can. Understand you are not the same and may never be. Respect that you are both individuals. Get to know each other strengths and weaknesses. Strengthen each other's weaknesses.

3. Be quick to forgive and quicker to apologize. Love forgives. Learn to accept apology. Freely forgive your spouse’s past, present and future offenses. Never refer to his/her past mistakes. Never go to bed with anger or unsettled quarrel. Marriage is two forgivers living together.

4. Ask your spouse, "What can I do for you today?" every single day.

5. Never talk bad about your spouse to other people. Protect him or her and always keep his or her name safe. Fight for each other, not with each other.

6. Have lots of s*x. Enjoy S*x with your spouse. Never withhold s*x as a punishment.

7. Keep the word "divorce" out of your vocabulary. Remember your vows. Review them on a regular basis.

8. Provide for the needs of your spouse and children. Never be stingy to your spouse. Care for his/her needs. Be generous to him/her. Pay your children’s school fees promptly and regularly. Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. Give yourself entirely, and don't hold back. Men, Be sensitive to your wife’s needs. Spend money to beautify her.

9. Be faithful to your spouse. Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills.

10. Understand and learn each other's love language. Either it can be words, gifts, touch, actions, etc. If it is words, then frequently tell your spouse you love and appreciate him/ her. If it is action: regularly do things that they appreciate: either take the garbage out, wash the dishes, cook the food, wash the car, etc
Spoil each other. Keep track of the things your spouse loves and buy them for him or her.

11. Communication is the key to a relationship. Talk like friends and lovers. Don’t make your spouse guess what you are thinking or feeling. Don't expect him/her to read your mind. You should feel free to discuss all things without fear.

12. Always listen attentively to your spouse. Switch off your phone or television, shut down your computer or iPad and newspapers, books and magazine should be closed. The greatest communication skill you can develop is the listening skill. Be quiet and patient while he/she is speaking, when he/she is done, you can express your opinion. Look straight into his/her eyes when he is talking to you or when you’re talking to him. This will make him/her feel that you are interested in what he/she wants to say.

13. Love, respect and courtesy are basic ingredients of happy married life. Give them generously to your spouse. Show your spouse how much you love, care and appreciate him/her regularly. Say, "I love you," every single day.

14. Be honest and show sincere appreciation. Appreciate each other. Show your spouse appreciation for the little things. Be thankful and say so!!! Find something that you appreciate about your spouse and say thank you.

15. Surprise each other with lovely gifts, kiss and s*x.
Kiss passionately. Hold hands. Cuddle. Make physical affection a priority in your marriage.

16. Make quality time for each other. Keep dating each other. Put your marriage and spouse before your children. Play together. Never lose your sense of humor. Make your spouse your best friend.

17. Share everything...no secrets between you. Be open with your spouse.

18. Be polite and courteous to each other. Saying thank you, please and I am sorry.

19. Get rid of bad habits. Don’t do those things your spouse hates. Don’t do things that hurt him/her. Develop a godly character. Don’t create a hostile environment for your spouse. Focus on making your spouse happy. The best way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself.

20. Always be honest to your partner. Lying never gets you anywhere

21. Aim to do something at least once per week together. It does not matter what, even if it is to eat together, bath together, watch movies together, read books together and share light conversation

22. Do NOT look at other marriages and covet. No marriage is prefect. Remember, the grass is not greener on the other side. You will still have to maintain, mow and weed that side too!

23. Work at your marriage. If you ever lack motivation for your marriage and feel like the flame has gone dead. Just try to imagine yourself without your spouse. Talk to anyone who has lost their soul mate and they'll tell you that they will give anything to have back that special someone.

Remember, it is your marriage and you have come this far. Make the best of it. Pledge to yourself that you will do your part and try your best. Remember that you chose your spouse for forever.

24. All issues need to have a solution and be resolved at the time of the conversation. Finish what you start otherwise things just hang in the balance,which leads to future problems.

25. Don't make mountains out of mole hills. Don't waste your time fighting over little things. It's not worth it. Let small things go.

26. Don't broadcast your problems to everyone else. If you need to talk to someone about it, other than your spouse, get a therapist.

27. Above all: Serve God together, Pray together & Pray for one another. Pray for your spouse daily in your personal prayers. Be specific. Talk to God about his or her challenges and trials, and ask Him what you can do to be a better spouse.

You will not fail in your marriage in Jesus name

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*What to Have Before You Become a Wife *

Dear Single Lady, i know you're Preparing for a beautiful future, and marriage is one of those beautiful journey of life you desire.

But before stepping into it, it's important you prepare— not just with wedding plans, but with the right mindset, habits, and heart. Wedding is not marriage, and marriage is not a day experience.

So before you become a wife; Have

1. A Strong Relationship with Yourself

Know who you are. Understand your values, your dreams, and your emotions.

Self-love and self-respect lay the foundation for a healthy relationship with someone else.

Don't expect a man to fully love and respect you when you don't love and respect yourself or you're still confused about yourself.

Know what you can do and what you can't do. The flaws you can manage in a man, and the toxic habits you can't endure.

2. Emotional Maturity

Can you handle disagreements without losing control? Can you forgive, communicate, and listen to your man with love?

In as much as you're willing to be a submissive wife, understand that You won't always agree with your husband.
There will be days of misunderstanding. There will days where you don't feel like talking to him. And there will be days when you'll look at him with a bombastic side eyes and feel like shouting ontop of your voice— at him. So start learning Conflict Resolution Skills.

Learn Good Communication Skills too.

Marriage requires honest, gentle, and respectful conversations. So you must Learn how to address a man.

Start Practicing how to express yourself clearly and calmly, even when things get tough.

Develop good manner of approach and speech. Learn how to resolve issues with calmness and respect instead of anger or silence.

A peaceful home is not a home without problems, it's a home where problems are handled with wisdom.

3. Financial Wisdom

You don't need to be rich, but it's wise you learn how to manage money, budget, save, and spend wisely. Marriage involves sharing responsibilities, and finances are a big part of that.

You may not have money in your pocket now, but have a brain that can generate millions. Don't be empty physically and mentally.

Imagine you meet a man who's ready to help you grow, what do you have that he can use to establish you

Don't wait for a man to come into your life and start building your from scratch. Have something— physically or mentally, or both.

Don't sit down lazying around— believing you'll get any man or thing you want because you're beautiful. Your power doesn't lie in your beauty/body— it lies in your BRAIN. Feed your brain!

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4. A Clear Vision and Purpose for Life

What kind of life do you want to build? What are your priorities— faith, career, children, purpose?

Do you want to raise worldly children or Godly children? Do you want a marriage centered in Christ or Crisis? Do you want to be a career wife or a house wife?

It's very important to know where you're headed in life so you can choose a man who shares and supports that vision.

Don't be the type of lady who just want to want to birth kid, eat and sleep.

If all you're concerned about as a lady is trending things and fashion, you may get frustrated when you enter marriage and your expectations are not been met.

Luxuries are good, but have a vision and a purpose that can birth impacts. Impacts generates money, and money brings comfort.


5. Sound Marital Knowledge

You want to get married without knowing anything about marriage?

In as much as there will be some shocking discoveries you'll experience inside marriage, you still have to equip yourself well to some extent.

You don't prepare for battle in the battlefield, you prepare ahead of it.

You want marriage. You want to answer a 'wife' . You want to be a mother. But you haven't read upto 5 positive books that teaches about healthy marriage, becoming a wife of value, and a fulfilled mother. You don't even study God's standard for marriage— your bible.

All you do is to go on dates, then come back home and watch movies. Keep playing

Even when you prepare yourself, the practical aspect of marriage will still give you some shocks. Now imagine what will happen if you don't equip yourself at all ?

Show me a man who is going for war without arming himself, and I'll show you a man who has made up his mind to be k!!led even before he gets to the warfront.

Marriage is not a play. Get the right Knowledge as much as you can.

6. Healing from Past Wounds

Unresolved pain from your past relationships or childhood can cause problems later in your marriage.

Please Take time to heal, forgive, and let go of your past relationship hurts before planning of getting married.

Don't carry what your Ex did to you into marriage and start pun!shing your husband with it. You may de$tɍoy your marriage.

Find peace first. A peaceful heart makes room for love to grow.

7. The Right Community

Surround yourself with wise women— married, single, and older— who can guide you, pray with you, and give sound advice. You'll need them before and after marriage.

Stay away from feminist if you truly want to enjoy your marriage.

Anyone who advises you to equal yourself to your man doesn't mean well for you. Avoid them.


8. A Lifestyle of Responsibility

Can you take care of your home, your health, your work, and your spiritual life without being pushed?

Marriage doesn't magically make people responsible, you carry your habits into it and it amplifies them.
Start building them now— the right habits.

Start learning how to cook, keep the home neat, take care of kids.

9. Hobbies and Passions

In preparing to become a wife, You have to learn to trust God's timing. But while you wait, grow.

Don't lose yourself because you're waiting for marriage. Explore your talents, pursue passions, build a meaningful life outside of your relationship. Work on yourself, build your dreams, and enjoy your season.

When you're a well-rounded woman, you'll bring joy, depth, and beauty into your home.

10. A Prayer Life

Marriage will challenge your emotions, your faith, your patience, and your strength— and that's why you must start now to build your relationship with God.

A praying woman builds her home in wisdom. So Start now! Make prayer your anchor, not your backup plan.

A kneeling woman is a winning woman!


Dear unmarried lady, Marriage won't fix your life, it will add to it. So build a life you love— then share it with a man who truly values it.

Building yourself means you don't expect your man to complete you— you're already whole.

So as a single lady, you must understand that becoming a wife is not just about finding the right man, it's about becoming the right woman.

A wife is not just a title, it's a calling, and preparation is key.

Don't just sit and be waiting to be chosen— Prepare yourself too to choose wisely, to love deeply, and to thrive in your marriage, not just survive in it.

Marriage is meant to be ENJOYED , not to be ENDURED .

You are worth the wait. PEACE!

Let every Igbo read and pass this educational piece to our children. Culled from Chike Ofilli.

ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS ON THE IGBO:
Clearing the Basic Confusions Honestly

*Question: Is Southeast and Igboland the same thing?*

*Answer* : Not at all. Southeast is only about 3/5th of Igboland. Igboland covers the whole of Southeast, parts of Rivers, Delta, Edo, Cross river, Benue, Kogi, and Akwa Ibom states.

*Question: Why were we taught in school that Igbo people are easterners?*

*Answer* : It is both an unfortunate parroting by teachers and careless adoption by Igbo educated class. Igbo people come from Southern Nigeria and not Eastern Nigeria. It may be correct to say that the Igbo are found predominantly in eastern Nigeria. However, by saying that the Igbo are easterners, the implication is that the Igbo in western Nigeria, numbering about 2.5 million (Agbor, Ogwashi Ukwu, Ibuzo, Okpanam, Asaba, Orimili, Ndokwa, Anioma, etc) are not Igbos. The best-known Igbo anthropologist Professor Mike Onwuejeogwu is from the western part of Nigeria, Chukwuma Nzeogwu, Dennis Osadebe, Okonkwo Adibe (the famous musician), Sony Odogwu, etc. are all from the western part of Nigeria. They are no less Igbo than those who live in the eastern part of Nigeria. The correct answer to your question is “the Igbo come from Southern Nigeria.”

*Question: Why do some Igbo refer to themselves as “core Igbo?”*

*Answer:* That is clearly arrant nonsense. Nobody is core and others peripheral. All Igbo are the same. It is both arrogant, thoughtless, and insensitive for anybody to regard others as marginal.

*Question: Is Igboland landlocked?*

*Answer:* Not at all. Igboland stretches from Port Harcourt to Agbor. The Atlantic ocean washes the shores of Igboland at the islands Opobo and Bonny, Africa’s second largest river – River Niger, traverses Igboland with one part of Igboland in the east and another part in the west of Nigeria. Oguta Lake has the potential to accommodate large ships and could be made a navigable port. If Igboland is landlocked, then all Nigeria is landlocked.

*Question: Is there oil in Igboland?*

*Answer:* Yes, indeed. There is a lot of oil & and gas in Imo, Abia, and currently in Anambra states and Igbo areas in Rivers and Delta States. Besides, Igboland has many other natural resources, including coal, iron ore, limestone, lead, zinc, brine, glass, etc.

*Question: Are the Igbo a nation or a tribe?*

*Answer:* The Igbo is a nation and a very large one. There are many dialects or tribes in Igbo nation, just like you have many tribes within Israel.

*Question: Why do some Ikwerre people and other non southeastern Igbo say they are not Igbo?*

*Answer:* First, it is not up to them to say what they are and what they are not. When God created them, He did not ask them who they wanted to be. He just created them Igbo. The only way you’ll know who belongs to what ethnic group in Nigeria is the name and what language the name comes from. Anybody whose name is Amadi or Onyeri, or Eke, or Odili, Wanodi (Nwanodi) does not need to tell you who he is. He is Igbo, notwithstanding their politics.

*Question: But they claim that their language is Ikwerre, not Igbo.*

*Answer:* That is politics. Ikwerre is a dialect of Igbo language. Just like an Ngwa man speaks Ngwa Igbo, Arochukwu speaks Arochukwu Igbo, Ika speaks Ika Igbo, Ibani speak Ibani Igbo etc.

*Question: Some people say that Igbo language is not complete, is it true?*

*Answer:* No language is complete. All languages borrow from each other. Igbo language is very rich. It has inexhaustible and rich linguistic features like idioms, proverbs, aphorisms, sayings, anecdotes, riddles, folklores, etc. Igbo language is one of the major languages of the world, being spoken by millions of people.

*Question: How many are the Igbo?*

*Answer:* The Igbo are very numerous. There is an educated guess that if Nigeria’s census is properly enumerated, the Igbo could easily be the largest ethnic group in the country. They may number up to 40 million. Everything right now is speculation. Nobody knows the true stratification or ethnic populations in Nigeria. The Igbo are the only ethnic group found in large numbers everywhere in Nigeria and foreign countries more than any other ethnic group in Africa.

*Question: Do the Igbo have a culture of their own?*

*Answer:* Yes, indeed. Igbo culture is perhaps one of the richest and all-encompassing cultures in this world. Igbo culture always observes the temporal and the spiritual aspects of cosmology. The study of Igbo culture reveals that it is extremely deep and original.

*Question: Why do the Igbo wear Yoruba Agbada and Hausa babban riga, but the Yoruba and the Hausa do not ever wear Igbo national dress?*

*Answer* : Unfortunately, this is the case. The Igbo have very attractive and resplendent national dresses. And they come in assortments that are extremely dignifying. The Igbo take up foreign cultures more readily than other Nigerians, and they seem not to care that nobody reciprocates their carefree attitude to life. Most ethnics promote their cultures and show off what makes them unique. Actually, it is still the same so-called educated Igbo class who behave in such disgraceful and devil-may-care attitudes.

*Question: Why do the Igbo call themselves Biafrans?*

*Answer:* Great question. Some people have the idea that Biafra originates from the Bight of Biafra. But that is wrong. Biafra was the National name of Igboland given to Igbo by the Portuguese, just as Nigeria was named by the English of Britain. There was the Kingdom of Biafra that ruled most of the ancient subtropical Africa about 50,000 years ago. Unfortunately, nobody talks about it, for whatever reason (maybe because Portugal lost the colony right of Biafra to Britain who buried it, in other to promote Nigeria amalgamation), "I do not know". But, it is in the ancient maps of the world. If you wish, search it in Google.

*Question: Were the Igbo also taken into slavery during the slave trade?*

*Answer:* Yes. The Igbo slaves themselves gave account of their travails in slavery. Olauda Ekwuano, an Igbo ex-slave who bought his freedom in Britain, was the first slave to write about his experience in slavery. His book has become a classic. You ought to find it and read it. Also, other Igbos who were brought to America revolted, and some walked back on water and were said to have returned to Africa. Several books have been written about them. One of such books is “Ibo Landing.” It is available in bookstores like Barnes & Noble. In Haiti, the Igbo settled there and refused to be colonized by anybody. There are many places where the Igbo left their mark or their signature.

*Question: How did the Igbo know days and years?*

*Answer:* The Igbo invented an accurate, if not the most accurate, calendar called “Iguafo Igbo (Igbo Calendar).” In Igbo calendar, there are four market days – Eke, Afor, Nkwo, Orie that make one week. Four days make one week, seven weeks make one month, and thirteen months make one year. There are 28 days for each month, with the last month having 29 days. Each month starts the same day as the previous. Igbo calendar forms the perfect astronomical alignment with the cosmos and regulates the seasons, agriculture, navigation, astrology, geography, mathematics, travel, etc.

*Question: Did the Igbo have their own alphabet?*

*Answer:* Yes, indeed. It is called “Nsibidi.”

*Question: How about mathematics; did the Igbo know mathematics?*

*Answer:* Yes, indeed. There are such inventions as “Okwe” and “Mkpisi” which the Igbo used to resolve figures.

*Question: Did the Igbo know anything about banking?*

*Answer:* Yes. Igbo banking was more in the nature of savings and loans. The authentic Igbo savings and loans invention is called “Isusu’ in which contributions are pooled each week, and one person who has the need, collects, is still in practice. Igbo slaves took this invention to the Caribbean Islands, where they still practice it and call it “Sue Sue.”

*Question: Some people say that Igboland is too small for the Igbo, that they have no alternative than to live as Nigerians: is this true?*

*Answer:* False. Igboland is a large country. Do every Igbo need to stay and work in Igboland? No. Everywhere in the world, some will stay home while others venture abroad in search of opportunities. Igboland is large enough for the Igbo. It is a very rich and hospitable part of the world. It has rich soil for agriculture, abundant rainfall, good sunshine, and table land in many parts. Its land space and population are more than that of over half of the present countries in the world.

*Question: Where did the Igbo come from?*

*Answer:* That question is still being asked. There are very intriguing theories or histories now being studied. You may have heard of the Jewish angle & the Egypt angle which are connected, and the Origin of man angle. This twenty-first century, hopefully, will resolve the mystery.

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12 SECRETS TO HAVING A STRONG RELATIONSHIP

If you desire a loving and lasting relationship with your partner, you and your partner need to adopt the following habits below:

1. COMMITMENT:

Commitment is very important if you desire to have a strong relationship with your partner. You have to decide to stick with your partner and make the relationship work irrespective of the flaws your partner might have. Couples who renew their commitments everyday, in words and deed, are on their way to having a strong relationship.

2. KEEP YOUR PRIVATE LIFE PRIVATE

When you put your relationship on social media, you invite the public to your relationship. Keep your private matters private. It’s a relationship between you and your partner and not between you, your partner and the public. You can share your fun dates with your partner or some nice photos together on your Facebook or Instagram app but make sure you draw the line where necessary.

3. KNOW WHEN TO LET THINGS SLIDE AND LEARN HOW TO MANAGE CONFLICTS

Finding ways to reduce the frequency of conflict in your relationship by letting go of the little things will help you build a strong relationship with your partner. Arguments are normal in a relationship but you should make sure you never insult your partner during an argument. Always listen to what your partner has to say during an argument.

4. LEARN TO LISTEN

Speaking less and listening more is important if you want to build a strong relationship with your partner. It’s important you always pay close attention to what your partner has to say. Ask your partner how his/her day went and listen to him/her talk about their day.
12 Secrets Of Having A Strong Relationship
12 Secrets Of Having A Strong Relationship

5. MAKE TIME TO DATE

Spending quality time with your partner is important if you desire to build a strong relationship. Nothing substitutes for time together. No matter how busy you are, always create time to go out on dates with your partner.

6. BE TOTALLY TRANSPARENT

Partners in strong relationships have no secrets. If you desire to build a strong relationship with your partner, you have to be completely transparent with your partner. You don’t need privacy in your relationship if you want a strong relationship.

7. TRY NEW THINGS TOGETHER

Whether it be something as simple as watching a movie neither of you has seen, or something as extreme as skydiving, trying new things together as a couple is important if you want to have a strong relationship. Trying new things together keeps the excitement and passion going in your relationship.

8. COMPLIMENT YOUR PARTNER

You shouldn’t save the compliments for big events alone, make complimenting your partner a regular occurrence. You make your partner feel special and noticed when you compliment him/her and this helps build a strong relationship

9. NEVER PUT EACH OTHER DOWN IN PUBLIC

How you treat your partner in front of others matter if you desire to build a strong relationship with your partner. Never ever put each other down or say anything negative about your partner in public. Only say supportive and kind things to each other in public and save disagreements for when you both are alone.

10. NEVER GET TIRED OF SAYING “I LOVE YOU”

These three little words “I love you” are important if you want to build a strong relationship with your partner. No matter how long or hard your day was, always end your day by telling your partner how much you love him/her. End your day with the words “I love you”.

11. LEARN HOW TO COMPROMISE

You have to understand the value of compromise if you want to build a strong relationship. You may not always want to do what your partner wants but if it’s important to your partner, do it with a smile on your face.

Lastly.....

12. Pray and Play Together:

Couples that pray and play together stay together. Hand in hand each morning before you face the vicissitude of life, read a devotional and pray together.

Take turns to pray for your marriage, your challenges &your children. If its your turn to pray, lift your spouse's burdens to The Lord and thank God for the wonderful spouse He gave you.

Never miss an opportunity to celebrate life's milestones together. Celebrate anniversaries and birthdays. Make it simple and sweet. Play and laugh together. Be merry with the person you married and watch your love for each other grow from strength to strength.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name.

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*Be a classy woman*

1. A classy woman does not go to every event in town.

2. A classy woman does not snap every food she eats and upload on Facebook on her WhatsApp status.

3. A classy woman does not brag about how much she has in her account

4. As a classy woman, you shouldn't trust anyone with your top secret, especially your girlfriend, because once you girls have issues, she'll expose it to the world.

5. As a classy woman, you must know how to cook.
As a woman, it is a necessity that u should learn how to cook.

6. As a classy woman, you must dress neat, smell good, learn to buy your own stuffs, do not borrow every time.

7. As a classy woman, ignore gossips.
Be busy doing positive things that you don't even have time to talk about others.

8. Find ways of making money on your own without sleeping around.

9. Don't say yes to every guy that comes to you no matter how cute and rich they are.

10. Men are scared of rich girls because they know they can't use money to get them, so they become loyal.
As a classy woman, work hard, make money and no guy will use you.

11. As a classy woman, you shouldn't rush to cook, sweep or wash for every guy you are going out with.
Give it time before you start doing those things. If not, he'll use you.

12. As a classy woman, you must fear God and live a good life.

13. Finally, don't give your time and attention to everyone that talks ill about you.

Ignore them like the first slice of bread.
NOTE LADIES

Above all you have to be a righteous person , If we read all the scriptures from the Book of Job ......Job was not a prayerful person or someone who pray ....... there's no verse which says Job prayed
But what amaze me is that , God love him though he did not pray .And you know why He loved him? Coz he was a righteous personOooooh Myyy GOD
From Job Chapter 1: Satan was asked by God where are you coming from and he said from roaming around the world and God said did you come across with the man Job who is so righteous and nothing can make him forsake me and Satan had to go after Job
But wowww I wanna be like Job also coz Job was very righteous even God could count on Him
Satan cam through his children and he remained righteous
Satan cam through his wealth and he remained righteous
Satan can through his wife and he remain righteous..............
A wife....of the people Job's wife had to say to: Job you shld not worship your God can't u see he is destroying you ,His partner .....Pray to God for God partners

Be RIGHTEOUS LIKE JOB AND GOD WILL BLESS YOU ABUNDANTLY Job was blessed twice