YOU WILL NEVER HAVE A VOICE UNTIL YOU'RE PROSPEROUS AND YOU'LL NEVER BE PROSPEROUS UNTIL YOU'RE A GIVER.

-Pastor David Ibiyeomie

During the Second Sunday Service of Salvation Ministries - Home Of Success, Pastor David Ibiyeomie speaking on the Message: “Living A Life Of Influence” mentioned that financial prosperity is essential for having influence and being heard. He also stated that withholding tithes stops favor and encouraged the congregation to give generously to God so as to be prosperous. He said: “If you like, get all the principles and you don't have money, nobody will hear your voice; that's the Bible. He says the poor man's wisdom is despised, that means he has no voice. Say I hear! Are you hearing what the Bible is saying? Church Gist. So you have to know about Kingdom prosperity, you have to have a revelation of Kingdom prosperity because after all is said and done, if you're broke, you will have no voice. Say I hear! And how can you make it in the Kingdom of God? The foundation is: Be A faithful tither and then give quality offerings. Malachi 3:10.

- May the Lord open your own windows. Proverbs 11:24.

Tithing is the biblical practice of returning 10 percent of your income back to God after you have earned it. That's what tithing is. Tithing is holy unto God, when you tamper with what is holy, you will have a hole in your life. Leviticus 27:30. Hear this, favour stops when the tithe is withheld from God.

The reason why many of you are not enjoying favour? Because no tithe. Now hear this and hear me well, you hear people say well, I'm being marginalized because I'm a black person, that's why they didn't talk to me, it's a lie. Many of you in the Western World; you think that the reason why they don't give you a job is because you're black, it's because you're stingy. "Oh! Because I'm not white!" It's a lie! Church Gist. When you're a tither, He said I will rebuke the devourer for your sake. So when you go, they hate you because you're not tithing. When you tithe, you become a delightsome land, black or white, everybody loves you. Say I hear!

God is not a racist, stop hiding under the guise of ignorance. "Oh! If I was white", it's a lie. If you are a tither. Favour stops when you withhold your tithe. Tithing is a proof you have conquered greed and mastered faith. Tithing is a proof you have conquered greed and mastered what? (Faith). And you believe that what God says, He will do. And you have mastered faith. Give quality offerings, don't give trash and expect treasures. Giving is living, stop being stingy! You will never have a voice until you're prosperous and you'll never be prosperous until you're a giver.”

7 THINGS THAT CAN MAKE YOU BROKE FASTER THAN VILLAGE PEOPLE

Forget jazz, forget enemies from the village—some of you are going broke at lightning speed, and it’s not because of witchcraft. Your own lifestyle is the real problem!

If you're always wondering "Who is eating my money?"—relax, Oga. The answer is you.

BRUTAL THREAD:

1. CHASING EVERY WOMAN YOU SEE

You think you're James Bond, moving from one fine girl to another, sponsoring their hair, nails, and data? Brother, you are your own Yahoo boy.

One babe says “I need urgent 2K”—you send.

Another one says “My rent is due”—you pay.

Next thing, your account balance is calling for GoFundMe.

Meanwhile, the same girls are in group chats laughing at you: “This guy dey try sha.”

Solution: Stop being an ATM with no PIN code. Focus on one woman or yourself first.

2. LIVING LIKE A BIG BOY WHEN YOUR ACCOUNT BALANCE IS SHOUTING HELP

Your salary is 50K, but you're in clubs ordering Hennessy like Davido. You don’t even have a car, but you're buying drinks for strangers—WHO SENT YOU?

Rich men are saving, you are spraying money.

Dangote is investing, you are doing “Odogwu” at the bar.

Elon Musk is buying companies, you are buying bottles for slay queens who don’t know your surname.

When the landlord comes for rent, you’ll start saying “Boss, abeg, things hard.”

Solution: Cut down on fake luxury. Even Jeff Bezos wears simple T-shirts. Be wise.

3. SENDING MONEY TO FAMILY LIKE CBN

Your uncle calls: “We need money for burial.”
Your aunt calls: “No food in the house.”
Your younger brother: “School fees.”

Now your account is empty, but when you need help? Nobody picks your call.

Oga, you are not the Minister of Finance. Even government doesn’t share free money like you do!

Solution: Learn to say NO sometimes! Help when you can, but don’t let family turn you into their personal budget.

4. ALWAYS BUYING THE LATEST PHONE TO IMPRESS WHO?

Last month, you were using iPhone 12.
This month, you saw iPhone 15 Pro Max and sold your kidney to buy it.
Next month, iPhone 16 Ultra Mega Max will drop—what will you sell next? Your destiny?

Meanwhile, the person you’re trying to impress is using Tecno Pop 5 and doesn’t care.

Solution: If your current phone is working, rest. Your future is more important than “Dynamic Island.”

5. FALLING FOR EVERY FAKE INVESTMENT SCHEME

They told you "Invest 50K, get 500K in 2 days."

You ran like Bolt, deposited your money.

Now, they’ve blocked you, and you’re writing epistles on Facebook: “Dear Nigerians, beware of fraudsters!”

Oga, they didn’t scam you, you scammed yourself!

Any investment that sounds like magic money is a Ponzi scheme in disguise.

Solution: If you don’t understand the business, don’t put your money there. Learn to invest wisely!

6. GOING BROKE JUST TO IMPRESS SOCIAL MEDIA

Your house rent is due, but you're buying designer shoes to take pictures for Instagram. Who told you “likes and comments” can pay rent?

You posted “Soft life only.”

But in real life, you’re trekking and borrowing money for food.

If your phone falls, you’ll cry because you can’t afford to fix it.

Solution: Stop forming fake rich life. Invest first, flex later.

7. BEING TOO LAZY TO MAKE MORE MONEY

You sit at home, scrolling Facebook from morning till night, complaining: “No job, Nigeria is hard.”

Meanwhile, opportunities are passing you by! Are you expecting an angel to drop money from the sky?

People are making money online—you are watching TikTok videos all day.

People are learning skills—you are arguing about football.

People are opening businesses—you are waiting for your rich uncle to die so you can inherit land.

Solution: Get up and hustle! Even the Bible says “A lazy man shall not eat.”

BOTTOM LINE:

If you're always broke, stop blaming village people. Your habits are the real witchcraft!

Live within your means.

Invest before you flex.

Stop impressing people who don’t care.

Make smart financial decisions.

If this post hit you hard, don’t cry. Just change your ways!

Follow Abasiodu Ekpenyong for more brutal truths that will save your life!

The Bible isn't a book of myths.

It's real history you can touch and see.

Here are 8 Biblical places that still exist today

I Met Him in Church… But I Didn't Know the Devil Also Wore Suits."

I thought the safest place to meet a good man was the house of God.
I thought wrong.

When I met Samuel, I was 25 and deeply broken.

I had just come out of a toxic relationship — the kind that leaves you doubting your own worth, your own beauty, your own intelligence.

I needed healing.
I needed God.

So when Samuel found me crying quietly after service one evening, and offered me his handkerchief, I thought:

> "Maybe this is how God gives second chances."

He was everything a "church man" should be.

Well-dressed.

Well-spoken.

Bible study leader.

Quoting scriptures like breathing air.

He never missed midweek service.
He always led prayer sessions with fire.
People respected him.
Pastor adored him.

And somehow... he adored me.

He courted me “the godly way.”

No kissing.
No touching.
No secret sleepovers.

Just prayers, fasting, long conversations about our future.

He would say:

> "Let’s make heaven together, baby."

I believed him.

I introduced him to my family.

He knelt down before my parents and said:

> "I will honor her. I will cherish her. I will protect her in Christ."

My father cried that day.

My mother started sewing Aso-Ebi for a wedding that hadn’t even been proposed yet.

Everyone said I was lucky.

That I had found a rare gem.

Three months to our introduction, things started changing.

Little things.

He started picking on my dressing.

> "That skirt is too tight. Godly women are modest."

He started controlling who I could talk to.

> "Your best friend is too worldly. She’s a distraction."

He started monitoring my social media.

> "Why are men liking your posts? Delete it."

I thought it was love.
I thought it was protection.

I didn’t know it was the first signs of a cage.

Then came the financial requests.

First, it was ₦20,000 to “sow a seed” into a new church project.

Then ₦50,000 because his car broke down on the way to evangelism.

Then ₦100,000 because his younger brother needed urgent school fees — "and as his future wife," he said, "our burdens are shared."

I drained my savings without blinking.

Because isn't that what Proverbs 31 women do?
Support their men in times of need?

Besides, he always said:

> "God will bless you double."

I was sowing into my future, I thought.

I was watering the garden of marriage, I thought.

One night, two weeks to our traditional wedding, I visited him unannounced.

I just wanted to surprise him.

Bring him some food.
Maybe wash his clothes.
Be a good fiancée.

The door was locked.
I knocked.

He came out half-naked.

Another woman was inside.
Wearing my favorite Ankara wrapper.

Cooking in his kitchen.

She looked me dead in the eyes and said:

> "Who are you?"

I couldn’t speak.
My tongue glued itself to my grief.

Samuel pulled me outside roughly and whispered:

> "Don't embarrass me. She's my real fiancée. You were just... spiritual support."

Just.
Spiritual.
Support.

Six months of prayers.
Six months of fasting.
Six months of giving.

For what?

For another woman to wear my wrapper?
For another woman to sleep in the bed I helped pay rent for?

He blocked me the next day.

Changed churches.

Moved on.

I found out later he had three other women from three other churches he was "courting" at the same time.

Different rings.
Different promises.
Same lies.

I thought the pain would kill me.

I thought my chest would split open from heartbreak.

I questioned God:

> "Was I not faithful enough?
Was I not prayerful enough?
Was I not good enough?"

But the more I wept, the clearer it became:

It wasn't about me.
It was about him.

Some men use the name of God as camouflage.
They speak in tongues, but their hearts speak in manipulation.
They sing worship songs, but their souls are tuned to destruction.

Today, I am healing.

Slowly.

Learning that God is good, even when people are wicked.

Learning that real love doesn't control, it cherishes.
Real love doesn't use, it protects.
Real love doesn’t need a stage and a microphone — it’s humble, it’s patient, it’s kind.

Life Lesson:

Don’t confuse spirituality with character.

Don’t let your love for God blind you to red flags waving like banners.

And never, ever surrender your mind just because someone carries a Bible louder than you.

Love should feel like peace — not war.
Not confusion.
Not fear.

Today, I still believe in love.
I still believe in God.

But now, I know better:

> Even the devil can wear suits.
Even the devil can preach sermons.

Test spirits.
Test hearts.
Test character.

Before you hand over your heart.

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#HealingIsAMiracle #ChurchGirlDiaries #LoveAndLessons #RealLifeStories #GuardYourHeart

The pastor wives 3️⃣

Written by Oluchi M. Okike

How can the smallest voice in the room end the loudest war?
While three women battle for power, one quiet usher holds the truth that could tear down everything—and raise something unexpected in its place.

Joy Benson was the kind of woman no one noticed. She moved with the grace of someone used to staying in the background. A soft-spoken usher. A single mother. A face often hidden behind white gloves and church protocol. But on that Tuesday morning, she became the headline.

The Press Conference
The church gates were flooded again, but this time not with fighting wives or chanting members. Joy stood alone, flanked by two women from the legal aid clinic and a file of documents.

No makeup. No drama. Just quiet pain.

She held up a photograph—an old, blurry image of her and Pastor Gideon at a beachside retreat.

She didn’t cry. She didn’t shout. She simply said,
“He promised to protect us. But when I got pregnant, he begged me to keep it secret. Said it would destroy everything. So I did… for eight years.”

In the photograph, a small child could be seen playing in the background. Her daughter.

The media had questions. Too many. But Joy didn’t stay long.
She handed over the DNA report—signed, verified, and stamped.

And just like that, everything changed.

The Silence That Followed
Mama Glo refused to speak to the press.
Chinaza went completely off-grid.
Stella collapsed at a pharmacy later that day and was taken to the hospital.

Inside Fire River Ministries, the congregation began to murmur.
Some felt betrayed. Others confused. But the board had to act quickly.

By the following Sunday, a church bulletin was released:
“Pending further verification, the burial of Pastor Gideon is on hold.”

Chinaza’s Secrets Surface
Just when things seemed to settle, something unexpected broke online.

A clip.
Grainy, uncut, but chilling.

It showed a deliverance session from five years earlier. A private, behind-the-scenes moment somehow leaked to the internet.

In it, Pastor Gideon was praying over a woman possessed by a "marine spirit."
That woman… was Chinaza.

The video showed her writhing, screaming, speaking in a voice not her own.

And at the end, Pastor Gideon whispered something into her ear—words the microphone barely picked up.

But someone enhanced the audio and shared it again.

It sounded like he said:
“Your secrets are safe with me… as long as you stay mine.”

People were stunned.
Was Chinaza delivered—or marked?
Was she a wife—or something darker?

And if so… why would he marry her?

Stella’s Test Results Arrive
Meanwhile, Stella was discharged from the hospital.
Her test results came in.

The truth?

The child in her womb was not Pastor Gideon’s.

The betrayal cut deep. Not just for the church, but for Stella herself.
She had loved him. Or maybe… she had loved the platform.

In an emotional online video, she confessed:
“We were already drifting. I didn’t know I was pregnant until after his death. I thought… I could still belong.”

It went viral.

People wept. People mocked. People debated. But one thing was certain: Stella had nothing to gain anymore.

The Unexpected Shift
Then came the twist no one could have predicted.

Instead of hiding or fighting, Mama Glo did something no one expected.

She went live on Facebook.
She told her story—not with anger, but with grace.

How she met Gideon in the early days, when he was a young boy preaching with cracked lips and torn Bibles.

How she fed him, clothed him, prayed for him.

How she sold her wrappers to help him print flyers.

And how, after all the fame, he stopped calling her “wife” and started calling her “burden.”

But she ended with a smile.

“I don’t need his name to prove my worth. I knew who he was before the world knew. I only came to give him a proper burial. Now… let the truth rest with him.”

That video reached over 2 million views in two days.

And Then Came Joy
As the church leaders deliberated over what to do, the members quietly began to do something else.

They visited Joy.

Bags of food. School supplies. Little envelopes tucked with handwritten prayers.

A hashtag was born:
#WeChooseJoy

And for the first time since the chaos began, the church found unity—not through titles or tradition—but through compassion.

The Board decided to honor Pastor Gideon with a private burial.

No wife would lead.
No cameras.
Just peace.

And standing beside the casket, holding the hand of her daughter, was the woman no one had noticed… but who had always carried the truth.

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THOUGHTFULNESS IS GODLINESS IN ACTION.

1. When you walk into a public building, do not turn the fan to face only you, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Philippians 2:4 – “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
Wisdom: True love is thoughtful. Consideration makes shared spaces more peaceful and comfortable for everyone.

2. When you sit inside a public transport, do not spread your legs to occupy more space, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:10 – “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
Wisdom: Honor in action looks like giving room for others to feel respected.

3. When you’re at a public tap, do not waste water, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 21:20 – “The wise store up choice food and olive oil, but fools gulp theirs down.”
Wisdom: Stewardship honors God. Use resources wisely with others in mind.

4. When you speak in a quiet space, do not shout, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Ecclesiastes 3:7 – “A time to be silent and a time to speak.”
Wisdom: Wisdom is knowing when to speak gently and quietly, respecting your environment.

5. When you're listening to music, do not blast it in public, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Corinthians 10:24 – “No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.”
Wisdom: Your joy should not become another’s discomfort.

6. When you're on a queue, do not jump ahead, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 11:1 – “Dishonest scales are an abomination to the Lord, but a just weight is His delight.”
Wisdom: Fairness is a form of righteousness. Respect order.

7. When you finish using the restroom, do not leave it dirty, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Corinthians 14:40 – “Let all things be done decently and in order.”
Wisdom: Cleanliness is a reflection of orderliness and care for others.

8. When you eat in public, do not litter the area, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Genesis 2:15 – “...to tend and keep it.”
Wisdom: Caring for the environment is part of our God-given responsibility.

9. When you use shared power, do not overload it, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Matthew 7:12 – “Do to others what you would have them do to you.”
Wisdom: Shared resources require shared responsibility.

10. When you walk on a narrow path, do not block the way, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 14:13 – “...make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.”
Wisdom: Create room for others to pass with ease.

11. When you speak in a group, do not dominate the conversation, consider others as well

Biblical Value: James 1:19 – “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak...”
Wisdom: Listening is a higher form of love.

12. When you’re in traffic, do not drive recklessly, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Titus 3:2 – “...be peaceable and considerate, and always gentle toward everyone.”
Wisdom: Drive with caution and courtesy—lives are involved.

13. When you visit someone’s home, do not overstay, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 25:17 – “Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house—too much of you, and they will hate you.”
Wisdom: Be a blessing, not a burden.

14. When you borrow something, do not return it damaged, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Psalm 37:21 – “The wicked borrow and do not repay...”
Wisdom: Integrity includes returning things better than you received them.

15. When you cook in a shared space, do not leave a mess, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Luke 16:10 – “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much...”
Wisdom: Cleanliness reflects responsibility and care.

16. When you cough or sneeze, do not leave your mouth uncovered, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Leviticus 13:45-46 – Even in ancient times, containment of illness was seen as social responsibility.
Wisdom: Protect others as you would want to be protected.

17. When you enjoy free services, do not abuse them, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 28:20 – “A faithful man will abound with blessings, but whoever hastens to be rich will not go unpunished.”
Wisdom: Respect and preserve what others provide generously.

18. When you sit in a waiting area, do not take more seats than you need, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:3 – “...do not think of yourself more highly than you ought.”
Wisdom: Leave space for others—humility in action.

19. When you're in a discussion, do not speak rudely, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Colossians 4:6 – “Let your conversation be always full of grace...”
Wisdom: Politeness reveals godliness.

20. When you earn more, do not look down on others, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Timothy 6:17 – “...do not be arrogant nor put your hope in wealth.”
Wisdom: Your success is not a license for pride but a platform for generosity.

21. When you get promoted, do not forget those who helped you, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 3:27 – “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due...”
Wisdom: Gratitude builds bridges, not walls.

22. When you laugh, do not mock others, consider their feelings as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 17:5 – “Whoever mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker...”
Wisdom: Joy is not meant to humiliate others.

23. When you pass by someone struggling, do not ignore them, consider helping

Biblical Value: Luke 10:33-34 – The Good Samaritan cared deeply.
Wisdom: Compassion is evidence of a godly heart.

24. When you’re using public Wi-Fi, do not download excessively, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Philippians 2:3 – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition...”
Wisdom: Fairness applies even in unseen things like internet use.

25. When you eat in shared spaces, do not take others’ food, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Exodus 20:15 – “You shall not steal.”
Wisdom: Respect boundaries and others' property.

26. When you serve food, do not serve yourself excessively, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 23:1-2 – “...put a knife to your throat if you are given to gluttony.”
Wisdom: Moderation honors the community.

27. When you are privileged, do not boast, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Jeremiah 9:23-24 – “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom... but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they know Me...”
Wisdom: Humility reveals maturity.

28. When you win, do not belittle those who lost, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:15 – “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”
Wisdom: Celebrate without pride. Winning with grace is noble.

29. When you’re strong, do not oppress the weak, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 31:8-9 – “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves...”
Wisdom: Strength is given to support, not suppress.

30. When you speak, do not forget kindness, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer turns away wrath...”
Wisdom: Kind words soften hearts and open doors.

ENCOURAGEMENT

A better world doesn’t start with grand gestures—it begins with small decisions rooted in love and respect. The Bible teaches us that love “does not insist on its own way” (1 Corinthians 13:5). When we choose to consider others as well, we reflect the heart of Christ, who laid down His comfort for our sake. Thoughtfulness is godliness in action.
So let’s carry this truth daily: "Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God" (1 Corinthians 10:31)—and that includes how we treat one another.

DON'T GO AWAY!

MANY ARE NOT READY TO STUDY THE WORD BUT CAN WAKE UP VERY EARLY TO CHAT OR WATCH CNN

EVERY GIFT OF GOD NOT SERVICED WILL DIE A NATURAL DEATH

- Bishop David Oyedepo

Bishop Oyedepo has charged all believers to beware of distractions that prevent them from their spiritual disciplines. While admonishing the congregation during the second service of the Special Easter Celebration Service at Faith Tabernacle Canaanland, he said "Some will take the Bible and in two minutes, they have slept. Church Gist. When they are watching TV, they can stay awake for two hours without blinking. Two solid hours with junk, no lesson. He is awake. But let us pray, he is dozing off in one minute. "let us chat", he is excited even early in the morning. They are traps of the devil."

He further said "You may not like my approach but I know what I am doing, I bought my last newspaper in 1993. They talk about me a lot, that's good. They are for people to read. I can't be reading what you are saying about me, I know me more than you know me. I have one TV in my house and office and it has never seen power. Church Gist. You can't mistakenly turn it on, it was never connected. Whether it is still working or not, nobody knows. Warranty has gone. Can I leave my house and go and be watching in the office? No! But you know how many of you do that. The business is dying and you are in front of CNN. They say "don't go away" and you are there. What are you looking for? To take time out and seek the way forward, you don't have. I said to you before, those who make news don't watch news. They are busy making news for watchers to keep watching. I see you enlisted among newsmakers. Every gift of God that is unserviced will die a natural death."

Ethiopian Bible is the oldest, original and complete bible on earth. Written in Ge’ez an ancient language of Ethiopia, it’s nearly 800 years older than the King James Version and contains 81-88 books compared to 66. It includes the Book of ENOCH, Esdras, Buruch and all 3 Books of MACCABEE, and a host of others that was excommunicated from the KJV.

7 THINGS THAT CAN MAKE YOU BROKE FASTER THAN VILLAGE PEOPLE

Forget jazz, forget enemies from the village—some of you are going broke at lightning speed, and it’s not because of witchcraft. Your own lifestyle is the real problem!

If you're always wondering "Who is eating my money?"—relax, Oga. The answer is you.

BRUTAL THREAD:

1. CHASING EVERY WOMAN YOU SEE

You think you're James Bond, moving from one fine girl to another, sponsoring their hair, nails, and data? Brother, you are your own Yahoo boy.

One babe says “I need urgent 2K”—you send.

Another one says “My rent is due”—you pay.

Next thing, your account balance is calling for GoFundMe.

Meanwhile, the same girls are in group chats laughing at you: “This guy dey try sha.”

Solution: Stop being an ATM with no PIN code. Focus on one woman or yourself first.

2. LIVING LIKE A BIG BOY WHEN YOUR ACCOUNT BALANCE IS SHOUTING HELP

Your salary is 50K, but you're in clubs ordering Hennessy like Davido. You don’t even have a car, but you're buying drinks for strangers—WHO SENT YOU?

Rich men are saving, you are spraying money.

Dangote is investing, you are doing “Odogwu” at the bar.

Elon Musk is buying companies, you are buying bottles for slay queens who don’t know your surname.

When the landlord comes for rent, you’ll start saying “Boss, abeg, things hard.”

Solution: Cut down on fake luxury. Even Jeff Bezos wears simple T-shirts. Be wise.

3. SENDING MONEY TO FAMILY LIKE CBN

Your uncle calls: “We need money for burial.”
Your aunt calls: “No food in the house.”
Your younger brother: “School fees.”

Now your account is empty, but when you need help? Nobody picks your call.

Oga, you are not the Minister of Finance. Even government doesn’t share free money like you do!

Solution: Learn to say NO sometimes! Help when you can, but don’t let family turn you into their personal budget.

4. ALWAYS BUYING THE LATEST PHONE TO IMPRESS WHO?

Last month, you were using iPhone 12.
This month, you saw iPhone 15 Pro Max and sold your kidney to buy it.
Next month, iPhone 16 Ultra Mega Max will drop—what will you sell next? Your destiny?

Meanwhile, the person you’re trying to impress is using Tecno Pop 5 and doesn’t care.

Solution: If your current phone is working, rest. Your future is more important than “Dynamic Island.”

5. FALLING FOR EVERY FAKE INVESTMENT SCHEME

They told you "Invest 50K, get 500K in 2 days."

You ran like Bolt, deposited your money.

Now, they’ve blocked you, and you’re writing epistles on Facebook: “Dear Nigerians, beware of fraudsters!”

Oga, they didn’t scam you, you scammed yourself!

Any investment that sounds like magic money is a Ponzi scheme in disguise.

Solution: If you don’t understand the business, don’t put your money there. Learn to invest wisely!

6. GOING BROKE JUST TO IMPRESS SOCIAL MEDIA

Your house rent is due, but you're buying designer shoes to take pictures for Instagram. Who told you “likes and comments” can pay rent?

You posted “Soft life only.”

But in real life, you’re trekking and borrowing money for food.

If your phone falls, you’ll cry because you can’t afford to fix it.

Solution: Stop forming fake rich life. Invest first, flex later.

7. BEING TOO LAZY TO MAKE MORE MONEY

You sit at home, scrolling Facebook from morning till night, complaining: “No job, Nigeria is hard.”

Meanwhile, opportunities are passing you by! Are you expecting an angel to drop money from the sky?

People are making money online—you are watching TikTok videos all day.

People are learning skills—you are arguing about football.

People are opening businesses—you are waiting for your rich uncle to die so you can inherit land.

Solution: Get up and hustle! Even the Bible says “A lazy man shall not eat.”

BOTTOM LINE:

If you're always broke, stop blaming village people. Your habits are the real witchcraft!

Live within your means.

Invest before you flex.

Stop impressing people who don’t care.

Make smart financial decisions.

If this post hit you hard, don’t cry. Just change your ways!

DON'T MARRY FOR LOVE, IT'S A SCAM, YOU WILL LOOSE

If You Marry for Love—You Are A Loser.

Marriage is not romance. It’s a strategic investment.

Let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

Love is not enough.

Romance won’t sustain you.

And marriage built on feelings will collapse under pressure.

Because marriage isn’t an emotional experiment.

It’s a power move.

1. Feelings Fade—Structure Stays

You’re happy today. Great.

But what happens when money gets tight?

What happens when you lose your job?

What happens when she wakes up and says, “I’m not in love anymore”?

If your marriage was built on butterflies, expect it to collapse once the wind changes.

Love is a spark. But marriage needs fuel.

Vision. Structure. Alignment. Sacrifice. Strategy.

2. If You’re 70 and You Marry 30—Your Household Is 50

Let’s talk logic.

You’re wise. She’s fresh.

But instead of raising your stock, she drops the average.

You’re thinking legacy—she’s thinking TikTok.

You’re building wealth—she’s building “influencer reels.”

(She’s not even ready to build it into a media business.)

You’ve seen war—she’s crying because you forgot to comment on her new selfie.

And now you’re stuck in a marriage that drags you backward.

Because you married vibes—not vision.

3. Marriage Is a Merger—Not a Movie

When two become one, it’s not about hugs and kisses.

It’s about merging empires. Consolidating influence.

Combining assets. Multiplying momentum.

Even the Bible said:

“One will chase a thousand, two will chase ten thousand.”

But what if the “two” is a liability?

What if she’s chasing dopamine instead of purpose?

What if she’s more obsessed with matching pajamas than matching values?

Now, you’re running with dead weight.

Fighting alone. Providing alone. Planning alone.

And she’s somewhere saying,
“I don’t like forcing things.”

4. Modern Girls Don’t Grind—They Ghost

Let’s be real.

Many modern women want:

• Love with no labor
• Comfort with no contribution
• Leadership with no loyalty

She wants a soft life—but won’t lift a finger.

She’s jobless, but has high taste.

She’s broke, but her demands come in six figures.

She says you’re stressing her mental health—because you asked about her career goals.

Try to build with her, and she’ll say,
“This isn’t flowing naturally. I need space.”

5.Her Submission Is a “Maybe”

Her obligations are “Optional”

Today’s woman wants:

• To reply when she feels like
• To submit if the vibe is right
• To bear children only when convenient
• To pause the relationship if she’s “not in the mood”

Any hint of hardship, she’s gone.

Any serious talk, she’s “emotionally unavailable.”

Any call for accountability, she’s “being controlled.”

And if you dare lead with firmness?

She’ll tell Twitter you’re a narcissist.

6. Dysfunction Is the New Normal

Many modern girls were raised in chaos.

Divorced parents. Absent fathers.

Traumatized mothers.

And instead of healing, they brought that chaos into dating.

So when you show up with purpose and structure?

She calls it “too much.”

She wants a soft man who’s strong.

A rich man who’s humble.

A loyal man who doesn’t ask questions.

She wants everything—but gives almost nothing.

So Here’s the Brutal Truth:

Marriage is a system.

If you don’t build it with strategy, it will collapse in drama.

Stop marrying for butterflies.

Start marrying for alignment.

For values. For vision.

Pick a partner who multiplies your purpose—not one who multiplies your pain.

Because at the end of the day…

It’s not who makes your heart skip.

It’s who helps you finish the race.

Marry wisely.

Remember—when it finally comes to a divorce, obligations are enforceable by law, but no one can compel her to keep loving you and riding your joystick that’s insisting she’s the best rider it has ever seen.

Speak with wisdom in the comments, I will like to have your opinions.

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#modernrelationships
#masculinity

3 Battles Every Lady Must Win to Succeed in Relationships

There are 3 core battles every lady must conquer if she’s going to win in love. Not just any kind of love, but intentional, godly, healthy kind of love that leads to peace, not pain.

1. The Battle Against Low Self-Esteem

It starts with you. Not with a man. Not with a proposal. Not even with relationship. YOU.

The way you see yourself determines the love you think you deserve. We choose the love we think we deserve.

A lady with low self-esteem will overlook red flags just to be chosen. She’ll keep quiet when she should speak up. She’ll tolerate the bare minimum and be so grateful that it was given.

And the scary part?
She’ll think it’s her fault when things go wrong and try to fix relationships that isn't good for her.

Loving yourself means learning to receive love that matches your value, not your w0unds. It’s looking in the mirror and saying, “I am enough, with or without a man.”

And most of all, it’s knowing that being single is better than being mistreated.

2. The Battle Against Comparison

You scroll through Facebook and IG and see her. The soft life girl. The ring. The candlelight dinner. The captions: “My peace.” “The Odogwu of my life.” “The one that spoils me s!lly.”

And just like that, you feel behind. You start questioning your worth. You wonder if there’s something wrong with you.

You wonder why your own husband can't take you on vacation. You wonder why your own man doesn't pamper you like the other lady’s man.

Always remember that for every post that you see, you are not seeing the full picture of things. You only see what the person wants you to see.

Comparison is the stealer of joy. It forces you not to be content, and makes you underappreciate what you have because your eyes are on what you don't have.

Many ladies compare themselves with others. There is this hidden competition that makes you want to compare your man, possessions, marriage, and even life with others.

Even the Bible says that people who compare themselves with others are not wise. Your story and journey is different. Stop comparing.

3. The Battle Against Deception

The d£vil doesn’t come in red horns. He comes in fine suits, sweet words, and deep scriptures.

Deception is one of the biggest traps in modern dating. Many ladies fall, not because they’re weak, but because they want to believe the best. They are also driven by fantasy and this makes the lady an easy targ£t.

You meet a man who says all the right things:
“I’ve been praying for a woman like you…”
“I’m not like those other guys…”
“I’m ready for marriage…”

But talk is cheap. Character is not. Deception often hides behind charm, but if you will pay attention to character, you will be saved.

That’s why emotional intelligence and spiritual discernment are non-negotiable. You must test the spirit, not just the vibe you feel. You must question the patterns, not just the potential.

So sis, win these three battles not for a man, but for you. Because when you win within, the external will match up.