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Burna Boy relationship with Wizkid is something most entertainers are questioning themselves how Wizkid got too close to Burna Boy instead of Davido.

Wizkid & Davido have a throw back video together during the time they were even struggling for studio seasons without Burna Boy presence.

Now they are all superstars, making them to decide who they should affiliate with or not.

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Sometimes your husband may come back home late and give you one reason you cannot find in any book.

Let love and trust prevail.

Imagine Jonah coming back after 3 days of absence, no phone call, no message, nothing , only to tell his wife he was swallowed by a fish , and vomited after 3 days, just imagine how that sounded.

The wife will feel like breaking his head.
Swallowed by fish, really?
Are you talking to a baby?
What an insult, lying to me as if I don't have any brains? Which fish, Mackerel or Tilapia?

Even if Jonah reported the issue to a religious leader, the religious leader will call him aside and say brother Jonah, why not pray against lying spirit.

Neighbors will shout ahhhh! Madam, you don't understand, the fish is another woman.

But between you and I
Jonah was telling the truth.

To Every Wife and Husband out there..
TRUST IS POWERFUL!

It is a necessary tool for sustaining all relationships.

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*The unseen crisis facing Nigerian men (moment Otunba Kunle Akinyele collapsed)*

5th May 2025.

Ganiyu Olowu


*When Otunba Kunle Akinyele, a respected hotelier in Lagos, slumped and died at his wife’s 60th birthday thanksgiving, the nation gasped in disbelief. One moment, he was celebrating life and love; the next, he lay lifeless at the altar of joy*. The video is haunting — *a man gesturing, gasping, reaching for help in a sacred space, surrounded by those he loved but alone in his final battle.*

This was not just a death. It was a metaphor of silent suffering, buried exhaustion, and what men have come to normalise in the name of strength.

Akinyele’s case is not isolated. It is one of many chilling examples of how Nigerian men, particularly in their mid- to late years, are collapsing under the weight of responsibilities, unspoken pain, and undiagnosed illnesses.

According to the World Health Organisation, men in sub-Saharan Africa, including Nigeria, are 2.4 times more likely to die prematurely from preventable causes than women. This alarming disparity is fuelled by cultural and behavioural factors: men are less likely to seek medical help, more likely to suppress emotional turmoil, and often glorify suffering in silence. In Nigeria, cardiovascular diseases, hypertension, and untreated mental health conditions are among the leading causes of sudden deaths in men.

So This Happened (215) Reviews Death Of Lagos...

In 2019, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya—admired for his strength and spiritual leadership—passed away quietly after years of enduring deep emotional losses and reportedly ongoing health complications. His resilience was legendary, but it masked what many now see as untreated grief, intense stress, and likely silent medical conditions.

Then came the sudden death of veteran broadcaster Ayo Oduleye, better known as MC Loyo, who slumped while compering an event in Ibadan. His charm and humour lit up stages, but in the blink of an eye, the microphone fell silent. Just like that.

Similarly, the passing of Mr Ibu (John Okafor) in early 2024, after months of battling illness, reminded the country of how many male entertainers struggle financially and physically behind the scenes, putting on a show while their bodies deteriorate.

Masculinity, when warped, can become a silent weapon—not just against others, but against oneself.

Globally, the story remains the same. In 2014, beloved comedian Robin Williams died by suicide, a victim of masked depression. And in 2022, cricket legend Shane Warne died suddenly of a heart attack, a casualty of silent coronary disease and an overstretched lifestyle.

Yet while statistics shock and headlines haunt, the everyday grind of the average Nigerian man tells an even sadder tale.

Take Lagos, Nigeria’s commercial capital—the city that never sleeps, and where many men now barely do. A significant number of working-class men reside on the mainland or in Ogun border towns like Mowe, Ikorodu, Sango Ota, or Ibafo but must commute to the Island for work—a journey that often begins by 4:00 a.m. and ends by 9:00 p.m. on return.

This is no exaggeration. Studies from the Lagos Metropolitan Area Transport Authority reveal that Lagosians spend an average of four to six hours daily in traffic—with many men doing these five to six times a week. That is over 1,400 hours a year lost in gridlock—time stolen from rest, from family, from reflection.

For these men, the day begins before the rooster crows. They rush into overcrowded buses, endure fumes of frustration, only to return home when their children are already asleep. There is no room for hobbies, hardly any time for checkups, no outlet for pain. Sleep is a luxury. Rest is a myth. And joy is rationed, like fuel in a scarcity season.

This modern man is constantly running on empty—physically present but emotionally absent, financially committed but spiritually depleted. And society applauds his hustle, without asking at what cost.

The idiom says, “Heavy is the head that wears the crown,” but what if the crown is invisible, made not of gold but of expectations, bills, unspoken grief, and sacrificial silence?

Men are praised for providing, for showing up, for being “rocks”. But even rocks erode—silently, slowly, and then all at once. The greatest tragedy is not that they die, but that they are dying unseen.

Consider the tragic case of a 42 year old engineer in Port Harcourt who collapsed at his workstation after weeks of working overtime to meet project deadlines. His colleagues described him as “dedicated to a fault”, but his sudden death revealed the dangers of ignoring signs of burnout and hypertension.

Another heartbreaking example is the story of a young entrepreneur in Enugu who passed away in his sleep after complaining of chest pains for weeks. Despite his family’s pleas, he refused to visit a doctor, citing his busy schedule and financial obligations. His autopsy later revealed undiagnosed cardiovascular disease—a silent killer that could have been managed with timely intervention.

One unforgettable story is that of Samuel Okwaraji, the gifted footballer and patriot who gave everything to his country on the football pitch. In 1989, during a World Cup qualifier against Angola in Lagos, Okwaraji collapsed and tragically died of congestive heart failure at just 25 years old. His life, so full of promises, was cut short under the intense demands of national expectation. The harsh conditions of the game that day, combined with the immense physical and psychological pressures he faced, ultimately proved too much.

These stories compel us to ask: What are we doing to ourselves in the name of strength? Why does the world celebrate silent suffering but frown upon seeking help?

Dr Salawu Abiola, a psychiatrist at the Federal Neuro Psychiatric Hospital in Yaba, offers critical advice for men navigating these pressures. He emphasises the importance of prioritising rest, adequate sleep, and regular health checkups. “If you work and die today, someone will replace you at the workplace, but no one replaces you in the family,” he warns.

Abiola advocates setting realistic goals, managing time effectively, and creating moments of joy and relaxation amid life’s challenges. He also highlights the need for men to engage in positive activities, such as exercise, hobbies, and socialising with supportive people, to release built-up tension and foster mental well-being.

Check your vitals before you check your wallet. Monthly profit means nothing if your heart gives out unexpectedly. Your strength is not in how much you carry but in how well you manage your load. Therapy is not weakness. It is a repair. Just like a car needs servicing, your mind and soul need realignment.

Build relationships where you are more than a provider—where you are allowed to cry, collapse, confess. A good name is better than riches, but good health is the foundation of both.

As Chinua Achebe once said, “When the drumbeat changes, the dance must also change.” The drumbeat of life today is faster, louder, and less forgiving. Men must adjust their rhythm. Health is the new wealth. Silence is no longer golden; it is dangerous.

*Ganiyu Olowu, a public affairs analyst, writes from Lagos*.



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A man only corrects the woman he loves.

Here’s a truth many won’t admit: Men only correct the women they love. If you’re sitting back, watching a woman spiral into chaos without stepping in, you don’t love her—you’re just there for convenience. Real love isn’t about passive acceptance. It’s about stepping up, holding her accountable, and guiding her toward becoming her best self. If you’re not doing that, it’s because you either don’t care about her future or you’re too afraid to face the backlash.

A man with no long-term plans for a woman will let her “do anyhow.” He’ll sit quietly while she dresses half-naked, drinks recklessly, smokes, or acts wild because he’s not invested in her future—he’s just there for the short-term thrill. He doesn’t see her as a partner; he sees her as a temporary distraction. The sad part? Many women prefer this. They mistake his silence for love, thinking his lack of guidance is acceptance. But here’s the harsh reality: a man who doesn’t correct you doesn’t respect you.

Contrast this with a man who truly loves a woman. He won’t sit back and let her ruin herself. He’ll confront her, even if the truth stings. If she’s engaging in destructive habits or presenting herself in ways that diminish her value, he’ll speak up—not because he’s controlling her, but because he cares. Real love involves discipline and correction. He sees her potential and wants to build something meaningful.

But here’s where things fall apart: many women can’t handle being corrected. They’d rather drown in their emotions, run to their friends for validation, and hear comforting lies like, “You deserve better.” They confuse guidance with control, rejecting the very men who care enough to hold them accountable. And instead, they cling to men who let them do whatever they want—men who couldn’t care less about their future.

Men, stop enabling chaos. If a woman rejects correction, walk away. She’s not ready for accountability, and without accountability, there’s no foundation for a real relationship. A woman worth your time will respect your guidance and value your leadership. She’ll understand that correction isn’t criticism—it’s love in action.

And women, hear this: a man who corrects you isn’t your enemy—he’s your ally. A silent man doesn’t care about you. The one who speaks up is the one investing in your future. Stop confusing discipline with disrespect. Real men don’t tear you down; they build you up by demanding better.

The bottom line? Love isn’t about letting someone “do whatever they want.” It’s about setting standards, holding each other accountable, and building a future together. Men, if you’re not willing to correct the woman you’re with, you don’t love her. And women, if you can’t handle correction, you don’t love or respect him either.

Stay strong, stay sharp, and demand accountability in every relationship. A woman worth keeping will value your guidance. Anything less is a waste of your time.

Influence of Culture on Health

Culture and health are intricately linked, influencing one another in complex ways.

What is Culture?
Culture refers to the shared patterns of ideas, customs, and behaviors of a particular group or society. It's dynamic, evolving, and learned through generations. Culture encompasses various aspects, including:

• Ethnicity: Shared heritage, traditions, and values
• Language: Verbal and non-verbal communication
• Religion and Spiritual Beliefs: Faith, rituals, and practices
• Socio-economic Class: Economic status, education, and occupation
• Age: Generational differences and experiences
• Sexual Orientation: Identity, community, and relationships
• Geographic Origin: Regional customs, climate, and environment
• Group History: Collective experiences, memories, and narratives
• Education: Formal and informal learning, knowledge, and skills
• Upbringing: Family, community, and socialization

How Culture Influences Health

Culture affects health in numerous ways¹:
• Perceptions of Health and Illness: Cultural beliefs shape understanding of health, disease, and wellness
• Health-seeking Behavior: Cultural factors influence when and how patients seek medical help
• Treatment Adherence: Cultural values impact patients' willingness to follow treatment plans
• Communication: Cultural differences affect patient-provider interactions and understanding
• Health Outcomes: Cultural factors contribute to health disparities and inequities

MANAGEMENT

Management is the process of planning, organizing, leading, and controlling the resources of an organization in order to achieve specific goals efficiently and effectively. It is about making the best use of people, time, money, and materials to accomplish tasks and reach targets.

DISCUSSION OF MANAGEMENT

Management is essential in every human setting, whether in a home, school, church, government, or business. Without good management, even abundant resources can be wasted. Management involves directing efforts toward a common goal by coordinating people and activities. The four key functions of management are: planning (deciding what to do), organizing (arranging resources and tasks), leading (guiding and motivating people), and controlling (checking performance and correcting deviations). A good manager ensures that the organization works smoothly, resources are not wasted, people are motivated, and goals are achieved.

100 FUNDAMENTALS OF MANAGEMENT EXPLAINED

1. SET CLEAR GOALS – A manager must define what the team or organization wants to achieve. Clear goals guide actions and measure progress.

2. PLAN BEFORE ACTING – Good management involves thinking ahead and preparing for the future instead of acting carelessly.

3. ORGANIZE RESOURCES WISELY – Resources like people, money, and tools must be arranged in the best way to avoid waste and delays.

4. DELEGATE TASKS PROPERLY – A manager should share duties with others according to their strengths to ensure work is done efficiently.

5. COMMUNICATE CLEARLY – Effective communication helps everyone understand their role, tasks, and expectations.

6. LEAD BY EXAMPLE – Managers should act the way they expect others to act. Their behavior sets the tone for the team.

7. CONTROL PROGRESS REGULARLY – A good manager checks the progress of work regularly to ensure things are going well.

8. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY – Managers must take the blame when things go wrong and not pass it to others unfairly.

9. MAKE DECISIONS PROMPTLY – Delayed decisions can cause confusion and missed opportunities.

10. SOLVE PROBLEMS QUICKLY – Problems should not be ignored. A manager must act fast to fix them before they grow.

11. AVOID WASTAGE – Wasting time, money, or materials reduces the success of any organization.

12. USE TIME WISELY – Time is a valuable resource and should be managed properly to increase productivity.

13. SET PRIORITIES – Not all tasks are equally important. Managers should focus on the most important tasks first.

14. MOTIVATE TEAM MEMBERS – Managers should encourage and inspire workers to do their best at all times.

15. BE CONSISTENT – Changing rules and decisions too often confuses workers and weakens trust.

16. BE FAIR AND JUST – Treating people equally builds unity and avoids conflict.

17. BUILD TRUST – Trust is earned through honesty, integrity, and reliability in leadership.

18. ENCOURAGE TEAMWORK – A manager must help workers to cooperate and not compete against each other negatively.

19. LISTEN ACTIVELY – Listening to workers helps managers to understand problems and improve decision-making.

20. BE OPEN TO FEEDBACK – Managers must welcome suggestions and corrections from others to improve performance.

21. EVALUATE PERFORMANCE – Managers must regularly check how well individuals and teams are doing their jobs.

22. REWARD GOOD WORK – Recognizing and rewarding good performance encourages others to work harder.

23. CORRECT MISTAKES KINDLY – Corrections should be firm but done with respect and not humiliation.

24. AVOID FAVORITISM – Treating some people better than others without reason weakens morale and teamwork.

25. DEVELOP YOURSELF – A manager must keep learning to improve their leadership and technical skills.

26. TRAIN OTHERS – Managers must help others grow by sharing knowledge and giving learning opportunities.

27. HANDLE CONFLICT PEACEFULLY – Disagreements should be settled with wisdom and respect, not anger.

28. BE FLEXIBLE – A manager must adjust to changes and new situations without becoming frustrated.

29. ADAPT TO CHANGE – The world is constantly changing, and managers must learn to move with it.

30. MANAGE STRESS – Managers should remain calm under pressure to lead others effectively.

31. KEEP RECORDS – Proper documentation helps in planning, accountability, and legal protection.

32. MAINTAIN DISCIPLINE – Rules and guidelines must be followed to avoid disorder and delay.

33. USE TECHNOLOGY – Technology improves speed, accuracy, and communication in management.

34. RESPECT OTHERS – Respect builds healthy working relationships and increases team cooperation.

35. MAINTAIN ETHICS – Managers must always do what is morally right, even if no one is watching.

36. ENCOURAGE INNOVATION – Managers should allow and support new ideas that can improve work.

37. BE RESULT-ORIENTED – The focus should always be on achieving results, not just doing activities.

38. BALANCE WORK AND LIFE – A healthy manager balances professional duties and personal life to stay effective.

39. PREVENT RISKS – Managers should look ahead to avoid possible dangers and prepare safety plans.

40. LEARN FROM FAILURE – Mistakes should not bring shame but should teach lessons for the future.

41. THINK AHEAD – Managers should always look forward and plan for the future, not just the present.

42. STAY FOCUSED – A manager must avoid distractions and concentrate on key objectives.

43. BUILD STRONG RELATIONSHIPS – Good relations with staff, clients, and partners improve teamwork and loyalty.

44. SHARE INFORMATION – Hiding important information can lead to errors and distrust.

45. RESPECT DEADLINES – Keeping to time shows seriousness and respect for others.

46. MONITOR PROGRESS – Regular checks help to keep the team on track and identify areas for improvement.

47. IMPROVE PROCESSES – Systems should always be reviewed and improved for better results.

48. PROMOTE QUALITY – Managers must ensure that work is not just fast but also of high quality.

49. AVOID SHORTCUTS – Taking shortcuts can lead to poor results and future problems.

50. ENCOURAGE LOYALTY – Loyal workers are more committed and trustworthy.

51. PROTECT RESOURCES – Resources must be used carefully and protected from damage or theft.

52. AVOID LAZINESS – A lazy manager sets a bad example and weakens team energy.

53. KEEP PROMISES – Fulfilling promises builds credibility and respect.

54. ENSURE ACCOUNTABILITY – Everyone should take responsibility for their actions and results.

55. VALUE EVERY WORKER – Every worker, no matter their level, deserves respect and fair treatment.

56. BE TRANSPARENT – Transparency builds trust and avoids suspicion.

57. SHOW APPRECIATION – Saying thank you encourages repeated good behavior.

58. SET A GOOD EXAMPLE – Managers are role models; their actions speak louder than words.

59. WORK HARD – A hardworking manager inspires others to also work hard.

60. USE FEEDBACK WISELY – Not all feedback is correct, but a good manager uses it to improve.

61. SET CLEAR ROLES – Workers must know their duties to avoid confusion.

62. ENCOURAGE GROWTH – A manager should create chances for others to develop their skills and careers.

63. USE MONEY WISELY – Money must be budgeted, tracked, and spent carefully.

64. REVIEW REGULARLY – Managers should always evaluate methods and results to improve.

65. AVOID CONFLICT OF INTEREST – Personal interests should not affect work decisions.

66. AVOID MICROMANAGEMENT – Managers should trust their team and not control every small detail.

67. PROMOTE HONESTY – Telling the truth, even when hard, builds a culture of trust.

68. USE AUTHORITY GENTLY – Authority must be used to serve, not to intimidate.

69. CONTROL EXPENSES – Cutting unnecessary spending helps the organization grow stronger.

70. VALUE TIME – Time wasted is opportunity lost. A manager must plan every minute.

71. HANDLE PRESSURE WELL – Under pressure, managers must stay calm and make wise decisions.

72. FOLLOW POLICIES – Rules and procedures should be obeyed to ensure fairness and order.

73. IMPROVE DAILY – Every day is a chance to do better than yesterday.

74. THINK CRITICALLY – Managers should question ideas and make decisions based on facts.

75. BE PROACTIVE – Act early, don’t wait until problems appear.

76. SEEK KNOWLEDGE – A good manager is always learning new things.

77. EMBRACE DIVERSITY – Different people bring different strengths that improve teamwork.

78. BE INCLUSIVE – Everyone should feel valued and included in the team.

79. EMPOWER OTHERS – Give others the chance to make decisions and grow.

80. AVOID GOSSIP – Gossip damages trust and relationships.

81. PROTECT THE IMAGE OF THE ORGANIZATION – Always act in a way that brings respect to the organization.

82. RESPECT RULES – Rules provide order and should be obeyed.

83. DO THE RIGHT THING – Even when it’s hard, doing right brings long-term success.

84. BE FIRM AND KIND – A manager must correct with authority but not with cruelty.

85. AVOID CONFUSION – Clarity in words and actions prevents misunderstanding.

86. KEEP LEARNING – There is always room to grow and know more.

87. ENCOURAGE SUGGESTIONS – Workers often have good ideas; allow them to share.

88. USE DATA IN DECISION-MAKING – Decisions should be based on facts, not feelings.

89. REVIEW STRATEGIES – What worked yesterday may not work today; plans must be updated.

90. THINK LONG-TERM – Don’t only focus on today; prepare for tomorrow.

91. ENCOURAGE RESPONSIBILITY – Everyone should take ownership of their duties.

92. SUPPORT WEAK MEMBERS – Help struggling team members improve instead of condemning them.

93. BALANCE AUTHORITY AND HUMILITY – A great manager uses power with humility and respect.

94. PROMOTE RESPECT AMONG WORKERS – Make sure people treat each other with dignity.

95. REDUCE NOISE AND DISTRACTION – Create a work environment that supports focus.

96. WATCH YOUR WORDS – Words can build or destroy; speak wisely.

97. BE RELIABLE – People must be able to count on you.

98. RESPECT HIGHER AUTHORITIES – A good manager also submits to those above him.

99. STAY HUMBLE – Success should not lead to pride. Stay grounded.

100. KEEP IMPROVING – Management is a journey. Never stop growing.

She went with her son to pick wild strawberries... and accidentally overheard something she would have been better off not knowing"

Marina and Fyodor were doctors at the same hospital, loving parents of five-year-old Yuri. It seemed like their family was strong, and their relationship stable. But fate had other plans.

Fyodor became interested in a young woman—the daughter of the chief doctor. Beautiful, noble, with an influential father... And as it turned out, with a direct path to career advancement for ambitious employees. Youth and beauty might not have played a decisive role, but it was this combination that became an irresistible temptation for Fyodor.

He didn’t hide his intentions from his wife. He honestly declared:
— I’m in love. We’re no longer together.

Marina was crushed, but she didn’t fight for her husband. She silently accepted his decision, swallowed the bitterness of betrayal, and simply quit her job at the hospital. She couldn’t bear seeing the person who had become a stranger every day.

But her trials didn’t end there. Fyodor declared that he would stay in their shared apartment and take it for himself completely.

— Did I pull you out of your mother’s house? Then go back to her, — he said coldly.

And Marina’s mother lived in a tiny one-room apartment, where there was barely enough space for herself. Returning there with her child was impossible. And then there were the rumors, spread by Fyodor and his new patrons. No clinic in the city wanted to hire this "married" female doctor.

The city became unbearable. Staying any longer would mean losing herself. Marina made a desperate decision: with her last savings, she bought a small house in the countryside. There, it seemed, she could start anew.

And she was right. In the village, where there were hardly any specialists, she was welcomed with joy, and the locals even helped her settle in. The house was very simple, but the locals—kind and helpful—fixed the roof, warmed the stove, and helped her adjust to her new life.

Marina found a job at a health post, and a neighbor, a lonely woman in her sixties, was happy to watch Yuri while she was on calls.

Gradually, Marina began to feel almost happy. She had work, the respect of those around her, warmth, and a home. Yuri also adapted, although he sometimes got sad—there were no children his age in the village, and the local boys teased him: "City softy," "clumsy," "mama's boy."

But Marina believed: with time, her son would find friends. For now, he had his mother, and around them was the beautiful nature. There was a forest nearby, full of berries and mushrooms, and a wide river, where they said there were plenty of fish.

— And we have wild strawberries in summer—up to our knees! — the villagers told them. — You walk into the forest, and it’s like walking on a red carpet!

Since spring, Yuri had been asking to go into the forest:

— Mom, let’s go already! They say they taste better than strawberries, and it’s free! Please!

— It’s too early, son, — Marina gently held him back. — The snowdrops are just blooming now. Wait a little longer—soon we’ll wander through these forests. We’ll pick berries, mushrooms, maybe even find some nuts!

And then the long-awaited summer arrived. Sunny, generous. Yuri remembered his wish:

— Mom, let’s go to the forest today? Grandma Nyusha says the berries are already ripe. She would go herself, but her back hurts. Let’s pick some and bring them to her!

— Okay, — Marina smiled. — Only on the weekend. I promise—lots of berries, lots of impressions.

At the appointed time, they went to the forest. They got so caught up in gathering and playing that they almost reached the river.

— Should we go fishing here? — Yuri asked.

— You can’t catch fish so easily, — Marina laughed. — You need tackle, knowledge... Maybe we should ask someone to take us along?

But at that moment, her gaze fell on two men standing at the water’s edge. By their looks and behavior, it was immediately clear—they were not locals. One of them held a thick bag, from which something was faintly moving.

— Looks like it’s still alive, — one of them mumbled.

— So what? It will be alive now, then drown—who cares, — the other replied harshly.

— We should put some metal in there... Like bricks.

— Go find bricks, if you’ve got nothing better to do! — the first one snapped irritably. — Hurry up, I’m tired of this.

Marina’s heart froze. Something was clearly breathing in the bag. It wasn’t a human—too small—but an animal. And definitely alive...

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HOW TO FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE


1. When your spouse entertains another person, don't attack or confront the other person, address the matter with your spouse and get to the root of the matter. Is there a lust issue, an unmet need, or a misunderstanding?

2. Don't wait for problems to come in your marriage to start praying for your marriage. The best time to cover your marriage is when things are good

3. When your in-laws don't like you, don't focus so much on pushing back on them; focus more on improving the quality of bond you have with your spouse - that is the most important relationship

4. When your spouse makes a mistake, separate the mistake from the person. Don't end up hating or pushing away the same person you would like to build marriage with. Hate the sin, not the sinner

5. When people are gossiping or talking ill about your marriage, don't lose sleep over it. What matters most is what do you both think about your marriage

6. When your marriage is under spiritual attack, remember your spouse is not your enemy. "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." ~ Ephesians 6:12

7. When your spouse no longer spends much time with you, don't complain, order, give an ultimatum or threaten; be peaceful, warm, kind and your spouse will be attracted back to you

8. When you think counselling might help your marriage, don't tell your spouse he/she needs to go for therapy because they are the problem, suggest counselling so you both can understand each other and improve your marriage. It will make your spouse feel less judged

9. When you realize you two are suddenly fighting or arguing frequently, change strategies. Lose the arguments, tell your spouse "I hear you" and go on appreciation mode, praising your spouse. It will restore back peace and you two will have less reasons to quarrel. Focus on the bigger picture

10. When you notice your spouse is spending a lot of time using the phone. Send your spouse flirtatious messages, you two get to chat even if it is in the same house. Be fun, naughty, conversational, use the phone to your advantage

It’s know as reverse way of dealing with things to make the best of it

Many difficult truths, while initially painful to confront, can lead to significant personal growth and a more fulfilling life once accepted. Here are a few:
Impermanence: Everything changes. Relationships end, jobs are lost, bodies age, and nothing stays the same. Accepting this doesn't mean embracing nihilism, but rather appreciating the present moment and living fully in it. It frees you from clinging to things that are beyond your control.
You Can't Control Others: You can influence others, but you can't control their thoughts, feelings, or actions. Accepting this allows you to focus on what you *can* control – your own responses and behaviors. It reduces frustration and resentment.
You Will Make Mistakes: Everyone makes mistakes. Accepting this removes the pressure to be perfect and allows you to learn from your errors. It fosters self-compassion and resilience.
Happiness Isn't a Destination: Happiness isn't a permanent state to be achieved; it's a journey with its ups and downs. Accepting this helps manage expectations and appreciate the good times more fully. It reduces the pressure to constantly chase fleeting feelings.
You Can't Please Everyone: Trying to please everyone is a recipe for exhaustion and resentment. Accepting that you can't please everyone allows you to prioritize your own values and needs. It frees you from the burden of seeking external validation.
Life Isn't Always Fair: Life isn't always fair, and sometimes bad things happen to good people. Accepting this doesn't mean becoming cynical, but rather developing resilience and the ability to cope with adversity. It helps you focus on what you *can* do in the face of unfairness.
You Are Responsible for Your Happiness: Ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness. Blaming external factors for your unhappiness keeps you stuck. Accepting responsibility empowers you to take action and make positive changes.
Growth Requires Discomfort: Personal growth often requires stepping outside of your comfort zone and facing difficult emotions. Accepting this allows you to embrace challenges and see them as opportunities for learning and development.
You Will Experience Loss: Loss is an inevitable part of life. Accepting this doesn't lessen the pain, but it allows you to grieve healthily and move forward with greater understanding and compassion.
These hard truths, when accepted, can lead to a more realistic, resilient, and ultimately more fulfilling life. They help to build self-awareness, foster self-compassion, and empower you to take control of your own well-being.

Nobody talks about this.

Nobody talks about what happens after you finally heal from a traumatizing relationship. When you've taken the time to focus on yourself and are ready to step back into the dating world, it feels nearly impossible to find someone because you recognize the red flags in everybody.

You notice so many things you're unwilling to compromise on because you actually trust your intuition now. You can see potential issues in people and know you won't be able to overlook them later in the relationship. So, you don't let your feelings cloud your judgment and cut things off before they even begin.

Then, you realize how many people aren't actually working on themselves. They're just seeking shallow connections and think they're perfectly fine the way they are. There's no room to grow together because they're already set in their ways.
It's exhausting at times, and the loneliness can take a toll on you. But you have to remember one thing: it's better to be single with high standards than to be in a relationship settling for less.

~ Cody Bret

POLICE RAID ALLEGED GAY SAFEHOUSE IN LEKKI, LEADERS ON THE RUN

On Friday, 2 May 2025, security operatives stormed an apartment in the Lekki area of Lagos State, reportedly occupied by men suspected of engaging in same-sex relationships. The building, which community members had reportedly flagged for suspicious activity, was described as a base for a group allegedly involved in promoting homosexual activity under the guise of a non-governmental organisation.

The occupants of the apartment, identified as Asare George and Attah Dominc, who are said to be the founders of a so-called Peace Coalition Group, remain at large following the raid that led to multiple arrests.

According to local reports, residents raised concerns over what they described as illegal activities taking place within the premises. These suspicions were reportedly tied to the group’s perceived contravention of the Same Sex Marriage Prohibition Act (SSMPA), signed into law in 2014.

The SSMPA prescribes a prison term of up to 10 years for individuals who directly or indirectly engage in or support same-sex relationships or organisations promoting such relationships in Nigeria.

Mr James Olaiya, Chief Security Officer of the local neighbourhood, stated that suspicions had been growing for months following intelligence received from Ondo State. He explained that one of the group’s alleged leaders, Attah Dominic, based in Ondo state, had been the subject of previous reports accusing him of harbouring homosexual men while fronting as a peace and development advocate.

“Attah Dominic, who operates out of Ondo State, had been reported to us for engaging in same-sex activities and running a group that masked itself as a peace forum,” Olaiya said. “We began monitoring them closely and eventually caught them in the act.”

The raid, carried out jointly by local vigilante forces and the police, led to the arrest of several members believed to be part of the organisation. Authorities confirmed that those detained are currently in custody and assisting with ongoing investigations.

However, the group’s alleged leaders, Attah and Asare, escaped during the operation and remain on the run. Police have launched a manhunt to locate and apprehend the duo. A reward has also been announced for anyone who can provide credible information that leads to their arrest.

Security officials reiterated their commitment to enforcing the law and tracking down individuals who, in their view, operate in violation of national legislation.

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