When you choose alignment over approval, you stop shrinking yourself

Not every day will feel fast or exciting. Just don’t stop. Keep going. You’re doing better than you think.

If the weight of the world is too heavy today, let it go for a moment.
Lay it down, if only for a minute or two; like a walker laying down their rucksack at the edge of a stream.
Lay it down and listen.
The world has its own rhythm; it's own pulse. It's own breath. Take time to listen, and to notice it. Notice the sounds of the wind and the smell of the earth after it's rained. Notice the colour of the sky and the texture of the grass and the shape of the clouds. Notice the light. And let it all soften the weight of the world around you.
Notice your own breath, your own rhythm, your own pulse. Lay down your rucksack and unpack what is not yours; and then find things that lighten the load even more. Find the things that bring you joy and let them grow: let them crack the weight of those burdens,
and allow light to filter in through the cracks.
You are not expected to hold the world, but to live within it.
And even if you cannot lift it all, you can always choose how to carry what is yours. You are strong enough to bear it.
But if you ever feel like you might crack under the weight...
Lay it down and listen.
Lay it down.
Breathe.
And notice your light.
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Becky Hemsley 2025
Artwork by Vijay Kumar via Pinterest

Be careful what you put out there.

STOP TRYING TO PROVE LOVE WITHOUT RESOURCES

Listen, King — this world doesn’t honor your pure intentions.
It honors results.
And in a world run by survival, security, and social proof…
Love without provision is a liability.

Let’s unpack this painful truth:

1. A Woman May Appreciate Your Heart — But She Respects Your Hustle.
You can give her attention, affection, poetry, and prayers.
But when rent’s due, when emergencies hit, when her friends flex their soft life…
Your pure love won’t keep her loyal.
Resources sustain relationships — not sweet words.

2. Love Without Money Turns a Man into a Burden.
If you keep showing up broke, unavailable, or dependent,
You stop being a lover and start being another problem.
And trust me — no woman wants to babysit a man she can’t lean on.

3. Provision Isn’t About Luxury — It’s About Stability.
She’s not asking you to buy mansions and Bentleys.
She needs to know you can handle life.
That you can protect, provide, and lead when the storm comes.
Without that?
Your love is a beautiful poem in a sinking boat.

4. The Harsh Reality: Broke Men Are Easily Disrespected.
Even if she loves you today…
Pressure will test her.
Her family, friends, society — all will ask:
"Why are you wasting time with a man who can’t even sustain himself?"
And slowly, the disrespect creeps in.

5. Love Is a Seed — Money Is the Water.
Without resources to build, travel, grow, and secure the future,
Even the deepest love will wither.
Not because it wasn’t real —
But because it wasn’t protected.

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FINAL WORD

Stop chasing women with empty pockets and full hearts.
In this game of life, love without provision is vulnerability.
You can’t give a woman a future if you’re still fighting for survival.

Build your kingdom first.
Then invite a worthy queen in.

Because a broke king is just another man in line for rejection.

Legacy first. Love later.

*INFERTILITY*
Infertility is a medical condition where a couple or individual is unable to conceive after having regular, unprotected sex for a certain period, typically a year or more.

*Causes of infertility in male*
Here are the causes.
Medical Conditions
1. *Low sperm count (oligospermia)*: Reduced sperm production.

2. *Poor sperm motility (asthenospermia)*: Sperm have difficulty moving.

3. *Abnormal sperm morphology*: Sperm have abnormal shape or structure.

4. *Varicocele*: Enlarged veins in the scrotum.

5. *Infections*: Epididymitis, orchitis, or prostatitis.

Lifestyle Factors
1. *Smoking*: Damages sperm DNA and reduces sperm quality.

2. *Excessive alcohol consumption*: Affects hormone production and sperm quality.

3. *Obesity*: Linked to reduced sperm count and motility.

4. *Stress*: Chronic stress can affect hormone production.

5. *Exposure to toxins*: Certain chemicals, pesticides, or heavy metals.

Hormonal Imbalances
1. *Testosterone deficiency*: Low testosterone levels.

2. *Thyroid disorders*: Hypothyroidism or hyperthyroidism.

Anatomical Issues
1. *Blockages*: Blockages in the epididymis, vas deferens, or ejaculatory ducts.

2. *Injury or trauma*: Damage to the reproductive organs.

Other Factors
1. *Genetic factors*: Certain genetic conditions.

2. *Medications*: Certain medications can affect sperm production or quality.

3. *Age*: Advanced age can affect sperm quality.

*#What Causes Infertility in female ?*

1. **Hormonal Imbalance**: If your hormones are not functioning properly, it can lead to difficulties in conceiving. Irregular periods, mood swings, and low libido can all be signs of hormonal issues.

2. **Ovarian Cysts**: These are fluid-filled sacs on the ovaries that can interfere with ovulation, making it harder to conceive.

3. **Fibroids**: These are non-cancerous growths in the uterus that can grow large enough to mimic pregnancy symptoms and affect fertility.

4. **Infections**: Conditions like Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) can cause pain and lead to infertility, especially if you've previously had sexually transmitted infections.

5. **Uterine Issues**: Conditions such as a retroverted uterus or a prolapsed uterus can affect your ability to carry a pregnancy.

6. **Toxins**: Exposure to harmful substances in the reproductive system can also impact fertilities.

3. *Unexplained infertility*: No identifiable cause.


Treatment Options
1. *Medications*: Fertility medications to stimulate ovulation or improve sperm quality.

2. *Intrauterine insemination (IUI)*: Placing sperm directly into the uterus.

3. *In vitro fertilization (IVF)*: Fertilizing eggs with sperm outside the body and transferring the embryo to the uterus.

4. *Surgery*: Correcting underlying anatomical issues.

Emotional Support
1. *Counseling*: Emotional support and guidance throughout the treatment process.

2. *Support groups*: Connecting with others experiencing similar challenges.

Lifestyle Changes
1. *Healthy diet*: Maintaining a balanced diet and healthy weight.

2. *Stress management*: Reducing stress through relaxation techniques.

3. *Avoiding toxins*: Minimizing exposure to environmental toxins.

The medical procedure before treatment,,
Advice both of them to do necessary medical check up.


For men.(Husband)
Before semen analysis test
He must follow this important information below
stay away from sex for at least for 4 days

No any antibiotics

No alcohol
Before the test
Semen analysis and culture...

For women
Abdominal pelvic scan
Hvs
Hormonal profiles


1. *Fertility treatment herbal*:

Women treatment
Before treatment of infertility in female.

Deworm come first it's very important
Secondly treat infection with this herbs
Baka
Bara small
Eru awoka
Eru Alamo.
Cook it with ordinary water and drink it before menstruation.
Or
Buy nri products
D3 orignic
Cuminus oil
Nourish
Naturegifts

When you are in love, you forget your own happiness: you only wish to make the loved one happy!

Nice People Don’t Win. They Get Eaten.
You’re not a good person.
You’re just scared.
Scared they’ll leave.
Scared they’ll think you’re mean.
Scared you’ll look selfish.
So you shrink. You smile. You serve.
And then you break.
Let me be clear:
Kindness without boundaries is self-harm.
You say “yes” to everyone because you’re too afraid to say “yes” to yourself.
You want to be the “bigger person”?
Okay. But even Jesus flipped tables when nonsense passed the limit.
Stop hiding under “I’m just being nice.”
You’re not nice.
You’re convenient.
And guess what the world does with convenient people?
It drains them. Ditches them. Then replaces them with someone louder.
Try this instead:
—Say NO without blinking.
—Walk away without guilt.
—Be the villain in their story if it means being the hero in yours.
You don’t owe anyone peace at your own expense.
Let them talk. Let them hate. Let them wonder.
You’re not here to be liked.
You’re here to be free.
Nice people finish last because they never start the damn race.

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
-Matthew 6:33
As you start your day today, have in mind that without God, all our struggles are in vain. Make him the centre of your life and decisions and he will always come through for you.
Your day is blessed. Amen

Arya is always so lit