If You Marry for Love—You Lose. Marriage Is Not Romance. It’s a Strategic Investment.

Let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

Love is not enough.

Romance won’t sustain you.

And marriage built on feelings will collapse under pressure.

Because marriage isn’t an emotional experiment.

It’s a power move.

1. Feelings Fade—Structure Stays

You’re happy today. Great.

But what happens when money gets tight?

What happens when you lose your job?

What happens when she wakes up and says, “I’m not in love anymore”?

If your marriage was built on butterflies, expect it to collapse once the wind changes.

Love is a spark. But marriage needs fuel.

Vision. Structure. Alignment. Sacrifice. Strategy.

2. If You’re 70 and You Marry 30—Your Household Is 50

Let’s talk logic.

You’re wise. She’s fresh.

But instead of raising your stock, she drops the average.

You’re thinking legacy—she’s thinking TikTok.

You’re building wealth—she’s building “influencer reels.”

(She’s not even ready to build it into a media business.)

You’ve seen war—she’s crying because you forgot to comment on her new selfie.

And now you’re stuck in a marriage that drags you backward.

Because you married vibes—not vision.

3. Marriage Is a Merger—Not a Movie

When two become one, it’s not about hugs and kisses.

It’s about merging empires. Consolidating influence.

Combining assets. Multiplying momentum.

Even the Bible said:

“One will chase a thousand, two will chase ten thousand.”

But what if the “two” is a liability?

What if she’s chasing dopamine instead of purpose?

What if she’s more obsessed with matching pajamas than matching values?

Now, you’re running with dead weight.

Fighting alone. Providing alone. Planning alone.

And she’s somewhere saying,
“I don’t like forcing things.”

4. Modern Girls Don’t Grind—They Ghost

Let’s be real.

Many modern women want:

• Love with no labor
• Comfort with no contribution
• Leadership with no loyalty

She wants a soft life—but won’t lift a finger.

She’s jobless, but has high taste.

She’s broke, but her demands come in six figures.

She says you’re stressing her mental health—because you asked about her career goals.

Try to build with her, and she’ll say,
“This isn’t flowing naturally. I need space.”

5.Her Submission Is a “Maybe”

Her obligations are “Optional”

Today’s woman wants:

• To reply when she feels like
• To submit if the vibe is right
• To bear children only when convenient
• To pause the relationship if she’s “not in the mood”

Any hint of hardship, she’s gone.

Any serious talk, she’s “emotionally unavailable.”

Any call for accountability, she’s “being controlled.”

And if you dare lead with firmness?

She’ll tell Twitter you’re a narcissist.

6. Dysfunction Is the New Normal

Many modern girls were raised in chaos.

Divorced parents. Absent fathers.

Traumatized mothers.

And instead of healing, they brought that chaos into dating.

So when you show up with purpose and structure?

She calls it “too much.”

She wants a soft man who’s strong.

A rich man who’s humble.

A loyal man who doesn’t ask questions.

She wants everything—but gives almost nothing.

So Here’s the Brutal Truth:

Marriage is a system.

If you don’t build it with strategy, it will collapse in drama.

Stop marrying for butterflies.

Start marrying for alignment.

For values. For vision.

Pick a partner who multiplies your purpose—not one who multiplies your pain.

Because at the end of the day…

It’s not who makes your heart skip.

It’s who helps you finish the race.

Marry wisely.

Remember—when it finally comes to a divorce, obligations are enforceable by law, but no one can compel her to keep loving you and riding your joystick that’s insisting she’s the best rider it has ever seen.

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Ful'ani Terror and the Sultan's Silence: Hausa people never expect something good from you

Yesterday, the Sultan of Sokoto called those who speak out against the unending violence of Fulani bandits “social media terrorists.” Let that sink in.

We, the Hausa people, are being slaug'htered. And instead of condemning the killers, the Sultan attacks those demanding justice. This is not new — your silence has always been loud. And your hatred for the Hausa people is not recent either. History remembers.

In 1804, Ful'ani under danfodiyo attacked and k'illed the Muslim ruler of Kano Muhammadu Alwali. In 1805, they attacked the Emir of Zaria during prayer. All the Hausa emirs then were Muslims — still, they were slain or attacked. That legacy of betrayal continues today.

You did not condemn the Ful'ani who:

Burned a bus filled with 42 Hausa travelers in Sabon Birni.

Kidnapped 279 Hausa schoolgirls in Jangebe, Zamfara (2021).

Abducted over 300 Hausa Muslim students in Kankara (Dec 2020).

Kidnapped nearly 100 schoolchildren in Kuriga, Kaduna (March 2024).

Abducted 80 girls from Yauri and sold them as slaves.

Shot at worshippers during Jumu’ah in Sabon Birni.

Opened fire on Muslims praying Taraweeh in Zamfara.

Burned a mosque and hospital in Zamfara — just this week.

Slaughtered the Emir of Gobir and left his body to rot in the wild.

You never spoke. You never condemned. Not once.

Even when the Sultan of Gobir was killed after leaving a meeting you convened, you said nothing. No condolences. No outrage. Just silence.

Now, you have the audacity to label grieving voices — our voices — as “terrorists”? The only thing you protect is your legacy of hypocrisy and your tribe’s impunity.

Wallahi kowa ya sani
No ethnic group in the world has benefited more from Hausa generosity than the Fulani.
And no ethnic group has brought more suf'fering, bloo'd, and suffering to the Hausa than the Fulani.

We, the Hausa people, will not forget.
And we will not be silenced.
This is just the beginning.
In Ka ga dama ka mutu.

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In a remarkable display of compassion and generosity, billionaire son and philanthropist, Kiddwaya, paid a surprise visit to the Benue State University Teaching Hospital (BSUTH) two days ago, bringing hope and relief to countless families in need.

On April 15, 2025, Kiddwaya, accompanied by his team, cleared medical bills for thousands of patients who had been struggling to afford their treatment. The unexpected gesture sent waves of gratitude across the hospital as patients and their families, many of whom had lost hope, finally found relief.

But his kindness didn’t stop there.

Kiddwaya also extended his generosity to the educational sector by offering to pay school fees for several underprivileged students at Benue State University. This move not only eased the financial burden on these students but also served as a powerful motivation for them to continue pursuing their academic goals.

Many residents and well-wishers have since praised the initiative, describing it as an inspiring act of service and a testament to Kiddwaya’s deep connection to his roots. For years, the philanthropist had spoken about putting Benue on the map, and through this selfless act, he demonstrated his commitment not just in words, but in action.

The visit has sparked renewed conversations about the importance of giving back to one’s community, especially among those with the means to do so.

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IPOB Slams Sultan of Sokoto: You Ignore Killer Herdsmen but Fear Social Media for Exposing Them

The Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) has strongly condemned the recent statement by the Sultan of Sokoto, Alhaji Sa’ad Abubakar, in which he described social media in Nigeria as a "terrorist organisation" and called for its criminalisation.

In a statement released by IPOB's Media and Publicity Secretary, Comrade Emma Powerful, the group labelled the Sultan’s remarks as absurd and a clear sign of fear among the northern elite, who are allegedly panicking over the continued exposure of atrocities committed by killer herdsmen.

Referencing proverbs like “a clear conscience fears no accusation” and “the wicked flee when no one pursues,” IPOB accused the Sultan — a key Fulani leader and Islamic spiritual figure — of trying to silence victims and whistleblowers who rely on social media to expose acts of terror, kidnappings, and land grabs allegedly carried out by Fulani militants.

“Instead of condemning the widespread violence and displacement caused by Fulani terrorists, the Sultan is more concerned with silencing the platforms revealing these crimes,” the statement said.

IPOB also criticised both the Sultan and the Nigerian government for consistently failing to acknowledge the true scale of Fulani-linked violence, accusing them of using mainstream media to distort the facts, labeling these attacks as mere “banditry” or “farmer-herder clashes.”

The group praised social media as a powerful tool for Nigerian youth, a source of economic empowerment, and a platform for the oppressed. They believe any attempt to silence social media is a move to suppress the truth and restrict freedom of speech.

“The Sultan can ignore the truth all he wants, but Nigerians and the international community are becoming increasingly aware of the threats posed by Fulani terrorist groups. Social media is helping to unmask these dangers,” Powerful said.

IPOB concluded by warning that any attempt to shut down social media would ultimately fail.

“If the Sultan is afraid of exposure, then he should tell the terrorists to drop their weapons. IPOB and other indigenous groups will continue to use every legal means — including social media — to resist oppression and shine light on the real causes of insecurity in Nigeria.”

The backlash comes after the Sultan made the controversial remarks during a meeting of Northern Traditional Rulers in Maiduguri, Borno State, where he described social media as a “terrorist organisation” used to spread falsehood and unrest.

His comments have since sparked outrage among Nigerians.

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3. SPENDING LESS THAN YOU EARN

Living below your means allows you to save and invest the excess for future needs.

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Short-term and long-term goals give direction to your finances and help prioritize spending.

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Saving 3-6 months’ worth of expenses cushions you during unforeseen circumstances like job loss or medical emergencies.

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Regular saving, no matter how small, builds wealth over time.

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Delaying purchases helps you differentiate between needs and wants.

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Relying on one income source is risky. Side hustles, investments, and passive income sources add financial security.

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Compound interest works best over time; the earlier you start, the better.

11. UNDERSTANDING INTEREST RATES

Knowing how interest works helps in choosing loans and investments wisely.

12. MINIMIZING DEBT

Avoid accumulating bad debt like credit card debt. Focus on paying off existing debt.

13. LEARNING FINANCIAL LITERACY

Reading books, listening to podcasts, or taking courses increases financial understanding.

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Avoid the pressure to “keep up with the Joneses.” Contentment brings stability.

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The One Who Wears Big Caps for Little Children.

These are my final thoughts before I hand over my phone to management. The team says I need to sleep.
But before the world goes quiet around me, allow me say a few things…

It’s my second time doing this insane thing of trying to break a world record.
You’d think it would be easier now,after all I’ve done it before. But that’s the thing about impossible things:
The first time, you survive them because you don’t yet understand the cost.
Now that I’m fully aware of the exertion it takes both physically and mentally, I’m equal parts excited and terrified. I embrace both.

Today I’ll tell you why I always wear a cap…

The night before I left Nigeria for this journey, something happened.

It was 9pm on a Tuesday night.
I was at the mall picking up some last-minute items.
Two boys, scruffy and barefoot approached me at the car park.
They were hungry and hadn’t eaten all day.
I asked their names.
“Yusuff,” said one. “Ayomide,” said the other.  Both young teenagers.
As I turned to check for cash in the car, the light hit my face and Yusuff immediately recognized me and blurted out “Chess players observe,”
I was stunned.
That was our mantra at Chess in Slums, it was what we taught the kids. I asked how he knew this, he explained that he had seen me months prior at their ghetto.
This made sense as we had spent the entire month of December teaching chess and maths to street children in that ghetto. Yusuff wasn’t part of the training but on the day of the final tournament, he watched from a distance as the other kids chanted “chess players observe”. It stayed with him ever since.

He told me his story.
His mother died during childbirth. His father disappeared.
He lived with his ailing grandmother for sometime but had to leave for the streets to fend for himself. It’s been five years of trying to survive in his own
Five years of growing up too fast…He is 15 years old now.

Then, something surreal happened.

A white Range Rover pulled up beside us.
A woman rolled down the window, “Chess master!” she called out.
She stepped out with her son Jayden.
Impeccably dressed. British accent.
She wanted a photo. Jayden loves chess.
She’s a fan.

So there they stood, Jayden and Yusuff.
Both teenagers.
One in branded sneakers. The other barefoot.
One polished by privilege. The other hardened by survival.

As I asked them to introduce themselves,
Yusuff’s confidence crumbled.
He looked down. His voice faltered.

I took a selfie with Jayden and his Mum, and as they drove off I had my epiphany….

And in that moment, I saw it:
The cruel reality of the world we live in
where a boy like Jayden and a boy like Yusuff would never meet
except by accident or because I happened to stand between them.

But what separated them wasn’t merit or character, It was birth. The arbitrary lottery that decides who gets to dream,
and who must survive.

Jayden will likely go on to attend the best schools, see the world, and live fully. While
Yusuff probably ends up doing the bidding of whoever can promise him his next meal.
An Area boy.

I have met thousands of bright eyed children like Yusuffs in this life, whose pain is invisible, and by no fault of theirs live in a world where their suffering doesn’t matter.
Sometimes, we save them.
Sometimes, we fail.
But I will never stop carrying this burden in my heart.

This is why I wear big caps for little children and wear one my self.
So the world may see them in all their colors, not for the suffering they bear,
but for what I know they can truly become.

I hope have shared this burden with you as honestly as I could.
If you ever believed in me, believe in them.
Cheer for them. Donate. Share. Amplify.
We are trying to build the largest free school in Africa.
A sanctuary for every child like Yusuff
where their dreams won’t die quietly.

I do this so their dreams may find validation in my sacrifice.

I have to go now, big day ahead. Gotta make it count.

"Nemo Judex In Causa Sua; No one should be made a judge in their cause.

50 LIES NIGERIAN WOMEN TELL MEN

1. "I’m fine." – When she’s actually upset and wants you to figure out why.

2. "I’ve never been with anyone like you." – She says this every time, and you think you’re special.

3. "I don’t need money, I’m okay." – Until the next shopping spree.

4. "I’m not interested in your friend." – But she’s been flirting with him on social media.

5. "I love surprises." – She only loves them if they’re the right kind of surprises.

6. "I don’t know how to cook." – Until you see her preparing a full course meal for her friends.

7. "It’s not a big deal." – When it’s actually a huge deal, and she’s really mad.

8. "I don’t want anything for my birthday." – But she’s secretly expecting an expensive gift.

9. "I’m not like the others." – A line she uses to make herself seem different, but... really?

10. "I’m busy." – She’s actually busy chatting with her friends or browsing Instagram.

11. "I’m not hungry." – Until you start eating, then she suddenly wants your food.

12. "I don’t mind if you’re friends with your ex." – But she’s side-eyeing you every time you talk about her.

13. "I’m not jealous." – But she’s checking your phone every five minutes.

14. "I’m not a materialistic person." – She’s just waiting for the designer bag.

15. "I’ll be ready in 5 minutes." – Which turns into an hour.

16. "I love your friends." – But deep down, she can’t stand them.

17. "I don’t care what you do for a living." – But she’s judging your career based on your earnings.

18. "I’ve never lied to you." – Even though she’s been caught in a few fibs.

19. "You’re the only one I’m talking to." – But you’ve seen the countless other guys texting her.

20. "I’m not materialistic." – But she only dates guys with the latest cars and phones.

21. "I can pay for it myself." – Until the bill arrives, and she expects you to cover it.

22. "I don’t need help with anything." – But she’s waiting for you to volunteer.

23. "I’m just being friendly." – When she’s actually flirting with every guy in sight.

24. "I’m not ready for a relationship." – But she’s already planning your wedding in her mind.

25. "I don’t like drama." – But she creates it every chance she gets.

26. "I’ve been single for so long." – While she’s had a string of ex-boyfriends.

27. "I’m not checking up on you." – But she knows exactly where you were last night.

28. "I’ll come to your place anytime." – But there’s always a “good reason” why she can’t make it.

29. "I don’t want to rush into anything." – But she’s secretly pushing for commitment.

30. "I’m not looking for anything serious." – But she’s planning your life together.

31. "You’re perfect just the way you are." – But she’s constantly suggesting you change your style or habits.

32. "I’ve never been married." – Even though there’s a divorcee label she’s hiding.

33. "I’m not interested in your money." – But she’s always asking for gifts and financial support.

34. "I don’t mind if you’re busy." – But she’s getting upset that you’re not prioritizing her.

35. "I’m cool with your friends." – But she’s criticizing them behind their backs.

36. "It’s okay, I’m not offended." – When she’s actually deeply hurt by something you did or said.

37. "I’ve never been in a toxic relationship." – But her past relationships were a mess.

38. "I love simple dates." – Until you suggest a low-budget one, then she’s unimpressed.

39. "I can’t do anything for you right now." – When she’s fully capable but just doesn’t want to.

40. "I’m not interested in your hobbies." – But she’s asking you a thousand questions about them.

41. "I like it when you’re quiet." – But she won’t stop talking.

42. "I don’t mind sharing you with other people." – But you can tell she’s possessive.

43. "I’m happy for you." – But she’s secretly jealous.

44. "I’m not keeping track of your mistakes." – But she’s quick to bring them up every chance she gets.

45. "I’m not the jealous type." – But she checks your social media obsessively.

46. "I’ll forgive you, it’s okay." – But she holds grudges for months.

47. "I just want peace." – But she knows how to stir things up just to get attention.

48. "I can live without you." – But she keeps calling and texting, hoping for reassurance.

49. "I don’t like surprises." – Until you show up with flowers and she melts.

50. "I’ve never done anything like this before." – Yet she’s been through this routine multiple times.

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Isaiah 45:3 "And I will give thee the treasures of darkness, and hidden riches of secret places, that thou mayest know that I, the LORD, which call thee by thy name, am the God of Israel"(KJV).
I pray that the spirit of the living God shall dwell with you in Jesus' name. His divine blessing and good treasures shall be yours in Jesus' name. His shield shall be upon you, and His Angels shall surround you always in Jesus' name. As the North is far from the South, so shall failure, sickness, poverty, and misfortune be far from you and your family in Jesus' name. As the walls surround Jerusalem, so shall God surround you with all the great treasures of life from today and evermore, in Jesus Mighty Name.
Good morning. Have a great and blessed day.

Divine Dose for today:


*[DO IT, AFRAID!]*
The feeling of fear is human and normal, but the refusal to act because you're afraid is the evil challenge..
*[NLT- Ezra 3:3 Even though the people were afraid of the local residents, they rebuilt the altar at its old site. Then, they began to sacrifice burnt offerings on the altar to the Lord each morning and evening.]*
Doing the needful is not often without fear, but we must choose to do it anyway. The fear of possible attack did not stop these people from
rebuilding the altar of the Lord as it ought to be built.
What is that project you're scared of venturing? Pray, be led, and do it while afraid. You'll discover it isn't as scary afteral!
Have a pleasantly restful midweek ahead.
God bless you richly.