WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR WIFE REFUSES TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU
I hope am talking to mature people here.

1. PREPARE HER
Sometimes it is not that she does not want to make love to you but that all you have to do is prepare her with foreplay to get her in the mood

2. DO NOT FORCE HER
Do not force yourself on her in the name of demanding for your conjugal rights. Forcing an adult to have sex is demeaning and disrespectful

3. CHECK IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURTING HER EMOTIONS
If you have been hurting or ignoring her emotions, she will struggle to be sexually attracted to you. Women make love with their heart. If her heart is bruised, she will struggle to give you her body

4. CHECK IF LAST TIME YOU WERE TOO ROUGH ON HER
If last time you were too rough on her leaving her vagina, clitoris or nipples sore; she might be uncomfortable about letting you have her. Learn to be gentle

5. CHECK IF YOU HAVE UNADDRESSED ISSUES
If there are matters in your marriage that are not being concluded, intimacy will suffer. Stop ignoring the issues. The sooner you solve them the better

6. CHECK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU OF CHEATING
If she knows of or suspects you are cheating, it will be a barrier between you two. If you have been cheating, stop it and win back her trust. If she suspects but it is not true, allay her fears and make her secure

7. CUDDLE HER
Sometimes this means more to her than love making. This goes a long way to show her she is not a sex object. This secures her and in doing so, she will enjoy making love with you

8. GAUGE HER MENSTRUATION CYCLE
Know your wife's monthly period cycle. Not every wife lies they are on their periods

9. FIND OUT IF SOMETHING IS STRESSING HER
Maybe there is something outside of your marriage that is disturbing her, maybe it is work issues, financial issues, her health, the children, her parents, a past trauma. Hear her out and show her that you are on her side.

Men, unfortunately, do not always understand a very simple truth: the woman, when she loves... is intensely reciprocal.

Female nature is like an echo, an emotional reflection.
Let's absorb man's attitude towards us on an intuitive and energetic level — his words, his actions, his intentions... and if these match each other.

And then, just... we give it back.
What goes around — comes around.
Sometimes like tenderness, care, peace and a home to rest from the world.
Other times... like coldness, distance and a closed door forever.

Because a woman is not a grudge
It's not vindictive.
It's a mirror.
And it reflects exactly what you have put into it.

Do you want a garden? Take care of it.
Do you want love? Love her.
Do you want loyalty? Be worthy of trust.

If you have a calm, warm, loyal and loving woman by your side — it's not a coincidence. It is the result of your actions.
And if next to you there is coldness and emptiness, it's not a coincidence either. You are a reflection of what you sow.

Look at your woman... and you will see who you really are.
Because she is your mirror.

Gen Musa Waarns: Stop Using Social Media to Promote IPOB—It’s Threatening Nigeria

The Chief of Defence Staff (CDS), General Christopher Musa, has issued a strong warning to residents of the South East against supporting or promoting the activities of the proscribed Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) and its armed wing, the Eastern Security Network (ESN), especially through social media platforms.

Speaking during a community engagement visit in Omor, Anambra East LGA, Anambra State, General Musa—represented by Group Captain Ibrahim Bukar, Deputy Director of Defence Media Operations—highlighted the dangers of spreading unverified and misleading information online. He noted that such actions not only endanger the region but also threaten Nigeria’s unity and national peace.

As part of a people-focused outreach within the Operation Udoka Area of Responsibility, the Defence Chief met with the Obi Eze Ana-Uku, Eze Igulube of Omor, emphasizing the military’s commitment to restoring lasting peace and security in the South East.

General Musa made it clear that IPOB’s activities are harmful to both the region and the country at large, and should be firmly rejected. He condemned the growing trend of spreading false narratives pushed by outlawed groups, urging citizens to be vigilant and responsible.

“People need to have trust in their military,” he said. “The military belongs to the people. We rely on you to give us credible information—when you see something, say something. Together, we can overcome insecurity and bring peace back to our communities.”

He assured the people that the military remains neutral in all conflicts and is solely focused on protecting law-abiding citizens.

“Our mission is not to take sides,” he added. “We are only after criminal elements. Our job is to ensure peace and safeguard the lives and properties of innocent Nigerians.”

General Musa also reaffirmed the Armed Forces’ dedication to fulfilling their constitutional duty to protect the nation, adding that peace and security are vital foundations for national development and economic growth.

In his response, the traditional ruler of Omor, Eze Igulube, praised the military’s consistent efforts in maintaining peace in the area. He expressed gratitude for the improved security situation, saying the presence of the Armed Forces has brought relief to the community.

“Our people are farmers, peace-loving and hospitable,” the monarch said. “We deeply appreciate the courage and dedication of your personnel. We are ready to provide accurate intelligence to help your operations and keep our land safe.”

He pledged the full support of the community in the ongoing efforts to restore peace and security across the South East.

25 THINGS TO DO WHEN ARRESTED AND ACCUSED OF A CRIME IN A NIGERIAN POLICE STATION

1. Stay calm and composed – Panic can make you say or do the wrong thing.

2. Ask for the reason for your arrest – The police must inform you why you're being arrested.

3. Request to see the arrest warrant if applicable – Especially for non-immediate arrests.

4. Identify the police officers involved – Take note of their names, ranks, and stations.

5. Inform someone you trust immediately – Let a relative, friend, or lawyer know where you are.

6. Insist on your right to remain silent – You are not obligated to answer questions without a lawyer.

7. Request to call your lawyer – You have the right to legal representation.

8. Be polite and respectful to officers – It reduces tension and avoids escalation.

9. Observe everything around you – Take mental note of the station, time, people, and treatment.

10. Demand to be charged or released within 24–48 hours – As per the Nigerian Constitution.

11. Ask for bail if the offence is bailable – Most offences are. Bail is a constitutional right.

12. Keep your personal items safe – Secure your phone, wallet, and other belongings.

13. Insist on a medical check-up if injured or sick – You have the right to medical care.

14. Record or write down your experience if possible – Especially any abuse or illegality.

15. Request a copy of any statement you make – It’s your right. Don't sign what you didn’t say.

16. Complain to the Divisional Police Officer (DPO) if maltreated – You can escalate within the station.

17. Contact a human rights or legal aid organization – Especially if your rights are being violated.

18. Be observant about any potential witnesses around – They might be helpful later.

19. Ask for the name and details of your case officer – For follow-up and accountability.

20. Stay truthful and consistent in what you say – Lies can complicate your case.

21. Request to know your offence classification (bailable or non-bailable) – This determines your next step.

22. Stay mentally strong and prayerful – It helps you stay alert and resilient.

23. Report any demand for bribes to higher authorities – You can also report anonymously later.

24. Request proper documentation for your detention or bail – Never leave without it.

25. Remain hopeful and proactive about your defence – Being accused isn’t the end.

25 THINGS NOT TO DO WHEN ARRESTED AND ACCUSED OF A CRIME IN A NIGERIAN POLICE STATION

1. Do not resist arrest violently – This could lead to additional charges or harm.

2. Do not argue aggressively with police officers – It could provoke abuse or further trouble.

3. Do not attempt to bribe a police officer – It’s a criminal offence and can be used against you.

4. Do not speak without thinking – Anything you say can be used against you.

5. Do not admit to a crime you didn’t commit – Even under pressure or threat.

6. Do not sign any statement you didn’t write or understand – Insist your lawyer is present.

7. Do not threaten the police or other detainees – It worsens your case.

8. Do not run or attempt escape – It could get you shot or lead to additional charges.

9. Do not disclose too much personal information – Especially to unknown people in custody.

10. Do not cry or beg excessively – It can make you appear guilty or weak.

11. Do not lie unnecessarily – Contradictions can destroy your defence.

12. Do not provoke others in the cell – Stay out of trouble with fellow detainees.

13. Do not destroy any documents or evidence – It’s a criminal offence.

14. Do not call too many people randomly – Call someone you trust, not everyone in your contact list.

15. Do not accept legal advice from just anyone – Only rely on a qualified lawyer.

16. Do not volunteer to settle “in-house” without legal advice – It could be a trap.

17. Do not post about your arrest on social media immediately – It can affect your case.

18. Do not insult or mock the police station or officers – It’s risky and unnecessary.

19. Do not carry drugs or weapons to the station – Even unintentionally, it’s a serious offence.

20. Do not try to run your mouth to show you “know people” – It can backfire.

21. Do not refuse bail terms without understanding them – Ask your lawyer to review first.

22. Do not let fear control you – Fear leads to poor decisions.

23. Do not allow unknown persons to stand as surety – Always use credible and known people.

24. Do not exaggerate or fabricate stories – Stick to the facts.

25. Do not forget to follow up on your case after release – Unattended cases can turn against you later.

THOUGHTFULNESS IS GODLINESS IN ACTION.

1. When you walk into a public building, do not turn the fan to face only you, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Philippians 2:4 – “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
Wisdom: True love is thoughtful. Consideration makes shared spaces more peaceful and comfortable for everyone.

2. When you sit inside a public transport, do not spread your legs to occupy more space, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:10 – “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
Wisdom: Honor in action looks like giving room for others to feel respected.

3. When you’re at a public tap, do not waste water, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 21:20 – “The wise store up choice food and olive oil, but fools gulp theirs down.”
Wisdom: Stewardship honors God. Use resources wisely with others in mind.

4. When you speak in a quiet space, do not shout, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Ecclesiastes 3:7 – “A time to be silent and a time to speak.”
Wisdom: Wisdom is knowing when to speak gently and quietly, respecting your environment.

5. When you're listening to music, do not blast it in public, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Corinthians 10:24 – “No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.”
Wisdom: Your joy should not become another’s discomfort.

6. When you're on a queue, do not jump ahead, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 11:1 – “Dishonest scales are an abomination to the Lord, but a just weight is His delight.”
Wisdom: Fairness is a form of righteousness. Respect order.

7. When you finish using the restroom, do not leave it dirty, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Corinthians 14:40 – “Let all things be done decently and in order.”
Wisdom: Cleanliness is a reflection of orderliness and care for others.

8. When you eat in public, do not litter the area, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Genesis 2:15 – “...to tend and keep it.”
Wisdom: Caring for the environment is part of our God-given responsibility.

9. When you use shared power, do not overload it, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Matthew 7:12 – “Do to others what you would have them do to you.”
Wisdom: Shared resources require shared responsibility.

10. When you walk on a narrow path, do not block the way, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 14:13 – “...make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.”
Wisdom: Create room for others to pass with ease.

11. When you speak in a group, do not dominate the conversation, consider others as well

Biblical Value: James 1:19 – “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak...”
Wisdom: Listening is a higher form of love.

12. When you’re in traffic, do not drive recklessly, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Titus 3:2 – “...be peaceable and considerate, and always gentle toward everyone.”
Wisdom: Drive with caution and courtesy—lives are involved.

13. When you visit someone’s home, do not overstay, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 25:17 – “Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house—too much of you, and they will hate you.”
Wisdom: Be a blessing, not a burden.

14. When you borrow something, do not return it damaged, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Psalm 37:21 – “The wicked borrow and do not repay...”
Wisdom: Integrity includes returning things better than you received them.

15. When you cook in a shared space, do not leave a mess, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Luke 16:10 – “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much...”
Wisdom: Cleanliness reflects responsibility and care.

16. When you cough or sneeze, do not leave your mouth uncovered, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Leviticus 13:45-46 – Even in ancient times, containment of illness was seen as social responsibility.
Wisdom: Protect others as you would want to be protected.

17. When you enjoy free services, do not abuse them, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 28:20 – “A faithful man will abound with blessings, but whoever hastens to be rich will not go unpunished.”
Wisdom: Respect and preserve what others provide generously.

18. When you sit in a waiting area, do not take more seats than you need, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:3 – “...do not think of yourself more highly than you ought.”
Wisdom: Leave space for others—humility in action.

19. When you're in a discussion, do not speak rudely, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Colossians 4:6 – “Let your conversation be always full of grace...”
Wisdom: Politeness reveals godliness.

20. When you earn more, do not look down on others, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Timothy 6:17 – “...do not be arrogant nor put your hope in wealth.”
Wisdom: Your success is not a license for pride but a platform for generosity.

21. When you get promoted, do not forget those who helped you, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 3:27 – “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due...”
Wisdom: Gratitude builds bridges, not walls.

22. When you laugh, do not mock others, consider their feelings as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 17:5 – “Whoever mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker...”
Wisdom: Joy is not meant to humiliate others.

23. When you pass by someone struggling, do not ignore them, consider helping

Biblical Value: Luke 10:33-34 – The Good Samaritan cared deeply.
Wisdom: Compassion is evidence of a godly heart.

24. When you’re using public Wi-Fi, do not download excessively, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Philippians 2:3 – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition...”
Wisdom: Fairness applies even in unseen things like internet use.

25. When you eat in shared spaces, do not take others’ food, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Exodus 20:15 – “You shall not steal.”
Wisdom: Respect boundaries and others' property.

26. When you serve food, do not serve yourself excessively, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 23:1-2 – “...put a knife to your throat if you are given to gluttony.”
Wisdom: Moderation honors the community.

27. When you are privileged, do not boast, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Jeremiah 9:23-24 – “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom... but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they know Me...”
Wisdom: Humility reveals maturity.

28. When you win, do not belittle those who lost, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:15 – “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”
Wisdom: Celebrate without pride. Winning with grace is noble.

29. When you’re strong, do not oppress the weak, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 31:8-9 – “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves...”
Wisdom: Strength is given to support, not suppress.

30. When you speak, do not forget kindness, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer turns away wrath...”
Wisdom: Kind words soften hearts and open doors.

ENCOURAGEMENT

A better world doesn’t start with grand gestures—it begins with small decisions rooted in love and respect. The Bible teaches us that love “does not insist on its own way” (1 Corinthians 13:5). When we choose to consider others as well, we reflect the heart of Christ, who laid down His comfort for our sake. Thoughtfulness is godliness in action.
So let’s carry this truth daily: "Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God" (1 Corinthians 10:31)—and that includes how we treat one another.

In Tokyo, safety isn't just a policy—it's a way of life. Even young children confidently navigate the city streets alone, reflecting the trust and harmony of Japanese society.

#TokyoLife
#independentkids
#UrbanHarmony
#japaneseculture

Arsenal 2-2 palace.
Congratulations to Liverpool.
Arsenal can't be trusted, I wanted them to win tonight

Delta Governor’s aide, Winifred, reportedly k iII ed by husband, Pastor Favour, who's in police custody now

The Special Adviser to the Governor of Delta State on Trade and Export, Chief Mrs Shimite Winifred, has passed away. The renowned Trade and Economic expert allegedly d!ed due to domestic viol ence. She had a confrontation with her husband, Pastor David Favour, which led to her de@th.

Late Shimitte was the Coordinator of the Delta State UNIDO Centre. She was the focal person for the implementation of the Federal Government’s Social Investment Programme in Delta State. She produced and presented “African Pot”, a TV documentary that promoted traditional African cuisine, tourism and culture.

The deceased was a member of the Steering Committee of USAID/NEXTT (Nigerian Expanded Trade and Transport) - Lakaji Trade Corridor. She was a member of the Board of Directors of FESECA - Foundation for Economic Change in Africa. She served as Contributing Editor on Travel and Tourism with Daily Trust, Leadership

Men, unfortunately, do not always understand a very simple truth: the woman, when she loves... is intensely reciprocal.

Female nature is like an echo, an emotional reflection.
Let's absorb man's attitude towards us on an intuitive and energetic level — his words, his actions, his intentions... and if these match each other.

And then, just... we give it back.
What goes around — comes around.
Sometimes like tenderness, care, peace and a home to rest from the world.
Other times... like coldness, distance and a closed door forever.

Because a woman is not a grudge
It's not vindictive.
It's a mirror.
And it reflects exactly what you have put into it.

Do you want a garden? Take care of it.
Do you want love? Love her.
Do you want loyalty? Be worthy of trust.

If you have a calm, warm, loyal and loving woman by your side — it's not a coincidence. It is the result of your actions.
And if next to you there is coldness and emptiness, it's not a coincidence either. You are a reflection of what you sow.

Look at your woman... and you will see who you really are.
Because she is your mirror.

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Her Stepmother Forced Her to Eat from the Dog’s Bowl, But One Day the Tables Turned

Amina’s once peaceful life had already begun to unravel the moment her father, Ayuba, brought Miriam into their home. At first, she was hopeful. Miriam had seemed so kind, so charming, as though she would be the mother figure Amina had always longed for after the death of her beloved mother. But soon, Amina began to notice the cracks in the façade. Miriam’s smile was as cold as the winter winds that swept through their village, and the warmth Amina had hoped to find in her new stepmother quickly faded into something far darker.

As the days passed, Amina realized that Miriam wasn’t just a new face in the household—she was a force, a suffocating presence that was slowly taking over every corner of her life. Miriam insisted that Amina wake up before the sun, demanding that she fetch water from the farthest well, scrub the floors until they shone, and wash the dishes, all while the rest of the family—Miriam included—slept soundly. Amina was expected to take on every chore imaginable, and no matter how hard she worked, it was never enough.

Ayuba, her father, was oblivious to the cruelty that unfolded every day. He trusted Miriam, believing her harshness was simply the way of discipline. Miriam had convinced him that Amina was lazy and unruly, needing a firm hand to learn how to be a proper woman and help run the home. He never suspected that his daughter, the girl he had once doted on, was silently suffering under the weight of his new wife’s commands.

Miriam’s words were sharp and cutting, each insult a wound that slowly but surely chipped away at Amina’s spirit. "You’ll never amount to anything if you keep being this lazy," she would sneer as Amina struggled with the tasks Miriam had piled on her. "I’m not here to raise someone who is weak and useless." Amina could only nod, stifling her tears, knowing better than to speak up. Any protest would only earn her further punishment, and she had already learned how quickly Miriam could turn the smallest infraction into something far more painful.

But it wasn’t just the words that left scars. Miriam’s actions were far worse. One afternoon, after Amina had spent the day cleaning the house, Miriam decided it was time for a lesson. The family was gathered around the table for dinner, and Amina, as usual, was not invited to join them. She had grown used to sitting on the edge of the room, watching them eat, her stomach growling with hunger, yet always denied the luxury of sitting with her family.

Miriam, in a fit of cruelty, ordered Amina to kneel on the dirt floor next to the dog’s bowl, the same bowl that their large, mangy dog ate from every day. "If you’re not going to act like part of this family," Miriam hissed, "then you will eat like the dog you are."

Amina’s heart shattered as she looked up at her father, silently pleading with her eyes. But Ayuba, oblivious to the humiliation unfolding right before him, sat at the table with his head down, focused on his meal, unaware of the terrible injustice his daughter was enduring. She had never felt so small, so invisible. With trembling hands, Amina lowered her head, trying to hide the hot tears that streamed down her face as she took a bite from the filthy bowl, the food tasting like ash in her mouth. Her stomach churned, and her heart ached, but she swallowed the shame.

She wanted to scream, to cry out, but something deep inside her kept her silent. She was alone in this. No one would help her, and if she spoke out, it would only make things worse. So, she remained silent, the tears slipping down her cheeks as she ate from the dog’s bowl, the stench of the meal mixing with the deep despair in her heart.

Her mind raced with thoughts of escape, of freedom, of a life where she didn’t have to crawl on her knees to gain the smallest measure of respect. But for now, all she could do was endure.

The following days became a blur of endless chores, insults, and the growing realization that her father’s love for her was slowly being replaced with blind devotion to Miriam. Amina felt like a ghost in her own home—present, but invisible, her pain unnoticed. She had become nothing more than a servant, a shadow in the house that had once been filled with laughter and love.

And yet, in the quiet moments when Miriam was away or when Amina worked alone in the garden, she would dream. Amina dreamed of a life where she was valued, where her efforts were acknowledged, where she wasn’t forced to kneel at the feet of a cruel stepmother and eat from the dog’s bowl. In those fleeting moments, she found solace, a small hope that one day, she would rise above this life of suffering.

But for now, she could only endure. For now, she was trapped in the silent betrayal of a home that was supposed to protect her, but instead had become a prison.

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"I secretly did a DNA test for all our kids because I never for trusted Cardi B. Once a strîpper always a strîpper." ___ Offset

"Cardi B needs to understand that I'm always a step ahead of her. Anytime Cardi gave birth, I always secretly did a DNA test because I know that you can never turn a strîpper to a wife. I was cheatîng on Cardi because I knew she was cheatîng too. I'm unbothered about our dîvorce, I've got my kids and that's all that matters. Cardi's for the strēēts."

___ Offset

Offset claps back at Cardi B for telling him that he's not even sure he's the father of all their 3 kids

A critical defect affecting over 4 million vehicles has triggered one of the biggest recall-level fixes in EV history — and it’s not a minor glitch.

The issue reportedly affects core vehicle functionality and could dent Tesla’s reputation for innovation and reliability. With regulatory pressure mounting and customer trust on the line, this fix could redefine how the company moves forward.

And with rivals like BYD and Lucid rapidly gaining ground, the timing couldn’t be worse. Tesla’s dominance is under pressure — and how it handles this crisis may shape its future in the EV race.