“You are not matured if you have not allowed a man to press your breast as a lady.”

These were the exact words you used that day.
And at that moment, I realized…

I wasn’t having a conversation with a bad person, I was having a conversation with someone who had been badly taught.

Because somewhere along the line, We started confusing exposure with maturity. We started dressing wounds like they were trophies.

We started calling pain 'experience' and bondage 'freedom'.

How did we get here?...

Where girls are told that sex equals power,

And boys are told that control equals manhood?

We live in a time where if you haven’t lost your virginity by a certain age, they say you’re either lying or lacking.

Where if you’re still “clean,”
They ask you, “What are you waiting for?"

They say...

“If you don’t sleep with him, he’ll leave you.”

“If you don’t show your skin, no one will notice you.”

“If you don’t bend your values, you’ll never rise.”

“If you don’t join them, you’ll be left behind.”

“If you haven’t had a heartbreak, you’re still a baby.”

“If you don’t have a sugar daddy, you’re wasting your beauty.”

Lies.

Beautifully packaged, widely accepted lies.

Maturity is not in the loss of innocence. It is in the preservation of purpose. It is in knowing who you are, and having the strength to protect it.

Being mature is not about how much of your body someone has touched. It’s about how much of your soul you’ve refused to sell.

It’s about boundaries. It’s about self-respect. It’s about not needing to test fire to know that it burns.

You’re not more mature because you’ve had sex.
You’re not more respected because you’ve “done what grown-ups do.” You’re not more of a woman because someone has “pressed your breast.”
And you’re definitely not more of a man because you’ve broken hearts.

Real maturity is when you can say no and still walk away with your head high. When you know what you’re worth and refuse to let your value be measured in bedroom statistics.

Let this be clear...
You don’t have to experience shame to prove your strength. You don’t have to taste regret to understand your worth. You don’t have to be broken to become beautiful.

To every girl reading this:
You are enough even if you’ve never been touched.
You are mature even if you’ve never compromised.
And to the one who has made mistakes, You are not your past.

So next time they tell you, “You’re not mature if you haven’t...” Smile.
And tell them, “I’m not in a rush to ruin what I was called to protect.”

Your value is not defined by what the world claps for. It’s defined by what you refuse to lose even when no one is watching.

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When you understand your purpose, you won't be swayed by anyone in the name of "Maturity". Join us for the purpose Discovery Conference. Link in the comment section.
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AS A MAN, YOU NEED TO KNOW THESE
1. Everyone has a voice but money is the volume. Work hard, have assets in your name as a man, acquire wealth.

2. At 25+, your circle should be discussing about open business, investing, fitness, escaping 8-5 jobs, self development and financial freedom.

3. Life is a ruthless battle, the earlier you sweat, the less you will bleed in this battle. The world is cruel, brutal, nasty and short.

4. Conquer your lust. This is a golden handshake with your future.

5. Very few people truly care about you. Society will leave you on the road to rot. Almost all of your friends will ditch you the moment your situation turning into something chaotic that lies beyond their expectations.

6. Hard times and moments will pass. It is always very dark just before dawn. Keep it cool and never lose your optimism. Don't loosen the grip.

7. Life is a MARATHON, not a sprint. Therefore, be patient, patience is not the ability to wait, its how you react while waiting. Be Consistent. Be Persistent. One day all those late nights and early mornings will pay off.

8. Nobody cares about you. Nobody owes you anything. Most will be Jealous when you Succeed. You’ll be Shocked at who Abandons you when you Fail.

9. Don't chase sex, food and entertainment. You will succumb to them and end up miserable and depressed.

10. Happiness and fun are a femicentric construct. They don't exist in the dictionary of MEN. Chase meaningful purpose NOT "happiness and fun".

11. If you meet a man talking to himself while gesticulating, Don't interfere, he is: - aligning his MISSION with his VISION, organizing his WISDOM to build his KINGDOM, chiselling his MINDSET to improve his SKILLET, tuning his SOUL with his GOAL.

12. Gambling is addictive and destructive. Don't accept to be a slave.

13. Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times.

14. If you impregnate a woman, take responsibilities. You knew the consequences of raw sex. No matter your age, take responsibility. If you're not ready, use a condom.

15. The world will ask you who you are, and if you don't know, the world will tell you.

16. If you are sitting in a high table and have access to opportunities, help those who have capability but lack access to opportunity. We're all fighting the battle to success and the path can be rough and frustrating. Be a Pillar not an Obstacle.

17. Nobody cares about your pitfalls! The journey to GREATNESS is long, windy and rough.

18. Nobody cares about you. Nobody owes you anything. Most will be Jealous when you Succeed. You’ll be Shocked at who Abandons you when you Fail.

19. People WILL Let you down. Accept and Embrace these Maxims. Turn your Mind into a ruthless Weapon.

20. PROTECT yourself. No one will do it for you. It's on you. No one is coming to save you.

21. Time is non refundable, use it with intention

22. Have a vision. Starve your distractions, feed your focus. Set goals. Read every day. Live inspired

23. If you don't go after it, you won't have it

24. Make mistakes and pursue failure

25. Take mistakes as lessons
Focus is the key

26. Study hard what interests you the most

27. Don't worry about what other people think. Don't pay attention to what others think of you.

28. Skills are more valuable than your grades

29. Excuses make today easy, but tomorrow harder. Discipline make today hard, but tomorrow easy. Choice is yours.

30. You cannot climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets.

31. Hungry stomach,an empty pocket and a broken heart can teach the best lessons of life.

32. If your mind is weak, your body and soul will suffer

Men, your value increase as you become more dangerous

Here are 15 rules DANGEROUS MEN must obey.

Masculinity thread:

1. Stop Helping Everyone
Reality is you cannot help everyone.

You can bring horse to the water, but you can never make the horse drink.

2. BE RADICALLY HONEST

Everyone can be honest.

But can you be if you are facing risk of humiliation, embarrassment and shame?

Or if it offends others?

Dangerous men DO NOT give a f*ck.

3. BE EXTREMELY MASCULINE

The world is having too many demasculinized men.

Being extremely masculine today is like half the masculine 5000 years ago.

4. SAY NO TO WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY NO

Life is not about pleasing everyone you know.

You are in full responsibility of your life.

Take care of yourself first.

6. STAY 100% TRUE TO YOUR BELIEFS AND VALUES.

If you care about something, fight for it.

Don't be afraid.

Live with full of integrity

7. BE RUTHLESS IN THE PURSUIT OF YOUR GOALS AND PURPOSE.

Your purpose makes you a valuable man.

It's meant to make you driven and powerful.

8. STOP WASTING TIME ON BS

There's too much bs going on like how the will smith smacked the sh*t out of chris rock.

Stop wasting your time on non-sensical drama.

9. FORM POWERFUL CONNECTIONS.

Learn to be confident and develop massive social skills.

The lone wolf dies.

The pack lives. I don't make the rules.

10. PICK A SKILL AND BE VERY GOOD AT IT

There's a famous restaurant in Italy that only serves macaroni.

But it's the best restaurant in town. Why?

Because they are specialised in making the best macaroni.

12. BE GOOD TO YOURSELF

If there's anything you won't do to your own child, don't do it to yourself.

Don't say bad things to yourself because you won't do it to your child

13. DON'T DO ANYTHING IN SECRET

Losers think their purpose in cringe.

Dangerous men don't give a f*ck

They know what they want, and they are proud of it.

14. NEVER PUT ALL HOPE ON ONE WOMAN

Stop texting her all day like she's the only one.

You are better than that.

15. STOP TRYING TO CONTROL EVERYTHING

Life is life. Stop trying to make it the way you wanted 100% of the time.

Sh*t happens, and it will keep on happening.

Let go, let life happen.

Do what's right diplomatically,because sometimes you may be wrong.
Always spend some time with yourself. Especially before sleeping, just close your eyes and think about what you've done in the past and what your goals are in the future, not being stressed, but calmly think about yourself.

1 Egg Chocolate Cake (No Oven)

Ingredients:
- 1 egg
- 1/3 cup sugar (add gradually)
- 1/4 cup oil
- 1/3 cup all-purpose flour
- 2 tbsp cocoa powder
- 1/2 tsp baking powder
- 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
- Chocolate chips (for topping)

Instructions:
1. Beat the egg and gradually add sugar.
2. Continue beating until stiff peaks form.
3. Add oil and beat for 1 more minute.
4. Sift in flour, cocoa powder, and baking powder.
5. Add vanilla extract and mix well.
6. Pour the batter into a greased 5-inch mould.
7. Sprinkle chocolate chips on top.
8. Preheat a heavy pan with a lid on medium flame for 5 minutes.
9. Place the mould inside, cover, and cook on low flame for 20–30 minutes. OR
Bake in a preheated oven at 160°C for 20–30 minutes.

10. Let it cool, slice, and eat

"One thing that has really helped me enjoy my marriage is this, I don’t check my husband’s messages. I married a very charming man with a noble job that takes him around the world like a bird. Every single day, he meets beautiful, smart, educated, and hot women.

And yes, I know those young girls who love fine zaddies are not smiling, they will definitely try to get his attention. But honestly, I don’t even act like they exist. I don’t imagine things, I don’t check his phone, I don’t go through his private messages. He’s my man. I’m his wife. And my purpose is simple, to give him peace, that’s my power.”

From
- Omotola Jalade Ekeinde

Moral lesson: why then agreeing to become one if you don't or can't go through your partners phone

"One thing that has really helped me enjoy my marriage is this, I don’t check my husband’s messages. I married a very charming man with a noble job that takes him around the world like a bird. Every single day, he meets beautiful, smart, educated, and hot women.

And yes, I know those young girls who love fine zaddies are not smiling, they will definitely try to get his attention. But honestly, I don’t even act like they exist. I don’t imagine things, I don’t check his phone, I don’t go through his private messages. He’s my man. I’m his wife. And my purpose is simple, to give him peace, that’s my power.”

- Omotola Jalade Ekeinde

10 TYPES OF WOMEN A MALE FARMER MUST AVOID
Brutal Truths Every Focused Man Needs in 2025

You don’t need witchcraft to fail — just the wrong woman in your space.
Your farm, peace, and future can be destroyed silently… if you're not discerning.

Here’s the harsh truth no one tells male farmers:

1. The Beauty Without Brains – Fine face, empty mind. Can’t support your vision.
2. The “Soft Life Only” Babe – No hustle. Just vibes and expensive taste.
3. The Forever Victim – She’ll drain your emotions, not water your dreams.
4. The Seductress – Knows your weakness, weaponizes it.
5. The Classy Gold-Digger – She’s not in love — she’s in business.
6. The Spiritually Dead – You’re sowing seeds, she’s sowing confusion.
7. Miss Entitled – Wants queen treatment, won’t lift a finger.
8. The Modern Rebel – Can’t build legacy with someone who hates structure.
9. The Ex You Won’t Delete – If she still controls your heart, your hands can’t build.
10. The Destiny Assassin – Sent to waste your time, money, and mind.

Bro, protect your purpose.
Some women aren’t partners… they’re spiritual potholes.

Think legacy. Think vision. Choose wisely.

#MaleFarmerWisdom #FarmWithFocus #AvoidDestinyKillers #AfricanFarmers #DoxaonFarmResort #FarmingAndPurpose #RealTalkForMen #GoatFarmerAfrica #AgropreneurLife

WOMEN ONLY PRAISE YOU WHEN THEY ARE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU
Dear Young Man,

Be careful when Women are praising you in large numbers, just know you are perhaps doing something wrong.

When you start hearing ..

"Awwn, your wife will enjoy you.”
“You’re not like other men, you’re so different.”
“You’re so sensible. So intelligent.”
“You always know the right thing to say.”
“You’re such a gentleman. So nice.”
"You have a heart of Gold"
"You such a darling " and the list goes on.

At this point , you will think you are doing well and your head will be swollen while your shoulders will be up thinking that you have arrived. Big guy. Some guys (efulefu) even go about bragging about this

Listen up! The moment you start prioritizing yourself, caring less, stop being always available, stop spending recklessly on them, the moment you start saying NO to her manipulative tricks. Everything will change. The same mouth that praises you will rain causes on you.

Then you will start hearing
HE is “stingy,
"too proud.”
“You’ve changed, you’re no longer the sweet guy I used to know.”
“I pity the girl that will marry you.”
You will no longer be intelligent.
You will become “idiot with no sense that doesn't know how to take care of a woman”

The same “nice guy” who was once their dream man is now the villain. Don't be a nice guy.

The praises of women are like sweet poison. It tastes nice, but it can kill your purpose if you continue to simp too low to drink it.

Women don’t just love you for who you are, They love what you’re offering. They love the ride, not the rider. They love the Poverty alleviating scheme you have made available not you the provider.

Take away the gifts, the money, the attention, and suddenly, the “love” starts to look more like customer service.

Let your worth not be tied to how many women are clapping for you. Some are clapping because you’re dancing to their tune. Once you stop, they’ll boo you off the stage.

You are the PRIZE ,they won’t teach you that in school. They won’t teach you that in church. Society won’t even allow you believe it. But it’s the truth.

Young Man, Build yourself. Respect yourself. Be kind, yes, but don’t be foolish. Don’t trade your crown for validation.

Her “I love you” will be loudest when your pocket is full and your standards are low.

But when you start walking like a king, talk like a king, and live like a man who knows his worth, They will say: “he’s proud.”

Let them talk.

Get used to their hate.
You’re not here to be liked.

Stay dangerous.

*EAT HEALTHY. STAY IN CONTROL.*

This isn’t just food—it’s warfare on your plate.

Refuse the nonsense.
Rebuke the sugar. Reject the trash.
Sanitize your kitchen like a temple—
Your stomach is a sacred ground.
If it doesn’t serve the purpose,
Throw. It. Out.

No room for junks.
This is the gospel of health.
We don't compromise. We don’t negotiate with poisons.

Maggi? All MSG's?
Out.
All Spice. Natural herbs.
Flavor with purpose, not problems.

Wheat?
NEVER!
Not for a cheat day, not for a birthday, not even on a last supper.
Plantain amala.
Ancestral grain. Real gain.

Soda? That syrupy sin?
Trade it for Zobo—deep, rich, alive.
Not that fizzy death in disguise.

Bread?
Oh ye adults of habit—
Flush it.
Yes, I said it—flush it down the drain.
Your gut deserves better.

Don’t get it twisted.
This isn’t a restriction—it’s elevation.

It’s not lack—it’s selection.

We pick life on purpose, not death by default.

Health is a strategy.

And without discipline? You’re losing the game.

Life and death are in your hands.

Every bite a seed. Every seed a harvest.

Choose life!
Because, what you do daily compounds.

And one day—It cashes out.

God desire that our heart become good grounds,only then will His purpose be fulfilled in our lives. Your heart is a good soil where either God or Satan plants their seed, depending on who you yield yourself to. Remember, every harvest is a multiplied portion of the seed that was sown.

We weren’t allowed to tell them’: Worker quits job at bank. Then she reveals how you’re probably using Apple Cash in a way that could get you banned for life

A former bank worker reveals how some common Apple Cash habits can actually get you banned for life.

Dom (@damnndomm) posted a TikTok video with her advice on April 8. While comments on the video are disabled, it amassed 265,000 views before seemingly being deleted. “Things that you’re doing with Apple Cash that’s gonna bite you in the ssa,” she wrote in an on-screen caption.

“I used to work for the bank that processes your Apple Cash transactions, and I just feel like there’s some things now that I don’t work there that you guys should know,” she began. “Because a lot of people didn’t know these things, and we weren’t allowed to tell them either.”

What should you stop doing with Apple Cash?
Using fake names: Dom said that after you’ve received or sent $500, it will verify your identity. If your name isn’t correct, you can’t get verified and may even get restricted.
Adding your partner’s debit card to your Apple Pay when your name isn’t on the account: Dom said that can result in your account being flagged for fraud and restricted.
Setting up accounts with a fake birth date if you’re a minor: Dom said Apple Cash is only for legal adults. Minors can only have an account if their parents set it up for them via the Apple Cash Family feature. “You’re not bypassing. You’re not tricking anybody,” she added.
Using it for business purposes: Dom said Apple Cash is intended to be a person-to-person payment service. It is not intended for business owners to use to conduct sales.
Sending money to people you don’t know: Dom said many users would unknowingly send money to scammers, and the bank would not allow them to dispute the transaction because they willingly sent the money. She added that the only way the bank would accept the dispute was if you purchased something from the business and it agreed to issue you a credit, but never did.

How will Apple know you’re doing these things?

Apple Cash is Apple’s Venmo and PayPal competitor, which is serviced by Green Dot Bank. Late last year, the company announced it would start verifying the identities of anyone who sends out more than $500. Importantly, this applies not only to future transactions but also to funds you’ve already sent.

This change came along with the new Tap to Cash feature, which allows you to transfer funds to another person by holding your iPhone or Apple Watch up to theirs.

According to the terms of service, you must be 18 years or older and a legal resident of the United States to use Apple Cash. It stands to reason that Apple and Green Dot Bank would need to know your real name in order to confirm these details.

Dom said in her video that most people don’t realize Apple has processes to determine whether people are following its rules.

Apple encourages Apple Cash account holders to confirm their identities as soon as possible. That’s because the money you keep in it isn’t eligible for FDIC insurance if you don’t, and that’s what protects your money in the case a bank or financial institution holding it goes bust.


Of course, Apple is able to suspend or terminate your use of the service for pretty much any reason. That list includes security reasons, suspected fraud, and unauthorized use.

Giant Tomato Tree in China Yields 3,000 KG Annually from a Single Plant | Earth Day 2025 Observation

A towering tomato plant showcased at the Vegetable Expo in Shouguang, Shandong, has become a focal point of public and media interest due to its impressive size and production capacity on Apr 20th 2025. According to the OceanWetlands’ latest report, this plant, often referred to as a “tomato tree,” stands over two meters tall and covers a canopy area of approximately 150 square meters. According to expo organizers, this single plant is capable of yielding up to 6,000 jin (around 3,000 kilograms) of tomatoes annually.
Despite its extraordinary appearance, the tomato tree was cultivated from regular tomato seeds. The transformation into a tree-like structure was achieved through advanced agricultural techniques, including pruning, nutrient regulation, and environmental control. These methods stimulate continuous growth, resulting in a large and long-living plant structure.

Expo staff emphasized that the tomatoes produced by this plant are similar in taste and quality to standard tomatoes. However, due to the plant’s high space and maintenance demands, the cultivation model is currently limited to exhibition and research purposes. The structure requires significant vertical and horizontal space, as well as controlled conditions that are not easily replicable on regular farms.

For now, the tomato tree is not considered viable for commercial-scale farming. Agricultural experts note that while a typical farmer can afford minor losses in conventional tomato cultivation, the high input costs and space requirements of a single tomato tree mean that any failure could result in substantial financial loss. As a result, this model is primarily adopted in agricultural parks and controlled environments rather than in widespread farming practice.

Interestingly, this type of cultivation is not entirely new. Reports from previous years indicate that similar tomato trees in the region have been in development since at least 2018. One such plant was recognized by the Shanghai Great World Guinness Records for its high yield from a single vine.

Tomatoes, also known as fanqie in Chinese, originated in the Andes region of South America as small, sour wild fruits. Brought to Europe by Spanish colonizers in the 16th century, they were initially grown as ornamental plants due to their vibrant color. It wasn’t until the 18th century that Italians began using tomatoes in cooking, sparking their culinary popularity across Europe. Introduced to China during the Ming Dynasty, tomatoes were first seen as decorative, but gradually became a staple ingredient. Today, valued for their rich nutrition and sweet-tart flavor, tomatoes are one of the most widely cultivated and consumed fruits worldwide.

China’s agriculture is undergoing a crucial phase of modernization. The focus is shifting from food quantity to quality, sustainability, and efficiency. Innovative cultivation methods—like the high-yield, space-saving tomato tree—reflect this change. Such techniques not only boost productivity and reduce labor but also support industrial growth and rural revitalization. Though not yet mainstream, the tomato tree exemplifies how agricultural science is exploring new frontiers, offering fresh possibilities for the future of farming.