Hmmmmm chaiii
I did not do open marriage with Natasha because of security reason.
I marry her secret and quietly because I don t want any one to put sand on my garri

Now Natasha is officially my beloved wife .
I can do any thing to make her happy so any body that don't accept her should go to hell .
She is my world and she will deliver me a set of twins..
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God bless your marriage dear

Having caught her husband with a young beauty, the wife didn’t start a brawl; instead, five days later she presented him with an unexpected surprise.

Marina could never have imagined that she would find herself in such a situation. “Beluga” – the restaurant where Viktor once proposed to her three decades ago – had now become the venue for his secret rendezvous. She stood by the panoramic window, watching as her husband tenderly intertwined his fingers with a young blonde barely twenty-five years old.

“You are special,” the words reached Marina, and the once familiar voice suddenly seemed alien.

The girl smiled playfully, revealing flawless teeth and charming dimples. Her well-groomed fingers with perfect manicure caressed Viktor’s wrist tenderly.

“What about the wife?” squeaked the brunette, puffing out her lips.

“Marina?” Viktor waved his hand nonchalantly. “She’s busy with flowers and TV series. You know, at our age…” he trailed off, laden with meaning.

Marina was overwhelmed by a feeling of suffocation, and her hands betrayed her with trembling. Thirty years of life together, three grown-up children, countless evenings shared – all of it was nullified by one dismissive gesture.

Her first impulse was to burst in, create a scandal, and pour wine on the couple. But something restrained her – perhaps years of cultivated composure or natural reason.

Upon returning home, Marina mechanically brewed tea and sank into her favorite armchair. Her gaze fell upon a folder of documents in the cabinet – papers she had signed at her husband’s request over the past five years.

“Darling, it’s just a formality,” his words echoed in her mind. “It’s necessary for tax optimization.”

Now, as she reviewed the documents with trembling hands, she began to realize the true state of affairs. The house, the country residence, three car dealerships, a chain of restaurants – everything officially belonged to her.

Fearing inspections, Viktor had been gradually transferring assets to his wife, believing her to be loyal and spineless.

Marina smiled bitterly. How wrong he was. Over the years of their marriage, she had not only learned to cultivate orchids and bake cakes – she had been carefully monitoring the development of the family business, even though she had remained in the background.

By midnight, her tears had dried up. In place of despair came cold determination. Marina took out her diary and began to plan. Five days – that was all that was needed.

Day One:
The day began with an early call to a lawyer. Elena Sergeyevna, an authoritative family law specialist, carefully examined the documents as Marina nervously tapped her fingers.

“Congratulations,” the lawyer pronounced while adjusting her glasses. “Legally, you are the sole owner of the entire business.”

“What about the power of attorney I gave him?”

“It can be annulled immediately.”

Marina looked at the swirling autumn leaves outside the office window. For thirty years, she had been an exemplary wife – supportive, inspiring, forgiving. Now it was time to think about herself.

“Let’s start acting,” she declared firmly.

Day One Continued:
That same evening, Viktor returned late, exuding the scent of expensive perfume. Marina, as usual, served dinner.

“Today you seem different,” noted her husband, dabbing his lips with a napkin.

“Just tired,” she smiled. “By the way, don’t cook dinner tomorrow. I have a meeting with friends.”

Viktor nodded absentmindedly, absorbed in his phone. Marina saw him hide a smile as he read messages.

Day Two:
The next day, she visited all the banks with their joint accounts. The process took several hours – Viktor was busy shifting their finances across various institutions. By the evening, a significant portion of the funds had been transferred to new accounts opened exclusively in her name.

“Ms. Sokolova, maybe leave a small reserve?” cautiously suggested the manager of the last bank.

“No,” Marina shook her head. “Transfer everything.”

At home, she found a bouquet of roses – Viktor sometimes gave them, especially when he felt guilty. In the past, they would have moved her, but now the flowers elicited only a bitter smile.

Day Three:
A meeting took place with Mikhail Petrovich, a long-time partner in their family business.

“To part with the car dealerships?” Mikhail Petrovich exclaimed in astonishment. “But they consistently generate income!”

“That’s precisely why now is the perfect time,” Marina replied calmly. “The market is on the rise.”

By the evening, preliminary agreements had been sealed with signatures. Now she had reliable financial protection.

Day Four:
The fourth day was the most emotionally intense. Her hand trembled betraying her as she signed documents.

“Are you sure about your decision?” inquired the notary sympathetically, a woman around her age.

“Absolutely,” Marina replied, straightening her shoulders.

Next, she met with a real estate agency. The family mansion, built fifteen years ago, was now entirely in her possession.

“I want to prepare the eviction documents,” she declared, looking straight into the eyes of the young lawyer.

“But that’s your husband…” the lawyer began uncertainly.

“Ex-husband,” corrected Marina. “And he has exactly seven days to vacate the house.”

Day Five:
The fifth day began with a visit... Continued in the comments

7 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE (PART 2)

The short story in between should teach you a lesson.

In Part 1, I spoke about “Being honest, Even about the small things” and in Part 2, it will be:

2. FOLLOW THROUGH, ON YOUR PROMISES

Esther had learned to lower her expectations. Phil, her husband, had a pattern—big words, little follow-through or zero action. He promised to visit her parents. Months passed. Nothing. He said they’d attend their son’s graduation together. He went to watch football match that day.

So, when he promised to pick her up from Abuja airport after her trip, she was cautiously hopeful. “Don’t worry, babe. I’ve set a reminder,” he assured her.

But as she wheeled her luggage out at 7 p.m., there was no sign of him. No call. No message. Just silence. She waited. Tried his lines severally, to no avail. After an hour, she got a cab and went home.

When she walked in, he said with a laugh, “Ah! Esther, I completely forgot. Something came up.”

She smiled faintly, but inside, something broke. It wasn’t about the airport—it was everything else. One forgotten promise after another.

Let’s be factual here

Trust erodes over time when words stop matching actions.
It’s not just about one event—it’s the accumulation of disappointments that makes a partner feel unseen, unvalued, and emotionally unsafe.

It is totally wrong to consistently break your promise to people (especially your partner)

Simple guide on how to keep your promise:

Don’t promise what you know will be impossible or hard for you to deliver.
If your plans change or you sense you cannot meet up, communicate clearly and respectfully to your partner.
Consistency over time is what builds real trust, so be consistent.

Scripture puts it this way:

“Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘or Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’.” — Matthew 5:37

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Today, 2021, Don Jazzy shocked Nigerians when he revealed that he was once married when he was 20 years old.

He further revealed that the marriage ended 2 years later because he fvckěd it up paying more attention to his music career than the marriage.

He said he doesn't want to marry soon because he's still so much in love with music and he doesn't want his next marriage to end the way the first one ended.

10 REASONS NOT TO DATE AN OLDER WOMAN.

1. SHE IS DISRESPECTFUL

An older woman won't respect you because she sees you as her junior or a boy not mature enough to guide her. She is probably funding your lifestyle and this makes her disrespect you even more.

2. SHE IS ANGRY

Since she is older, she will not plug into your masculine energy. This leaves her empty, deprived and frustrated. What follows is a series of drama and chaos including alcoholism. She hates her life, she is angry at herself and therefore she will project this anger towards you.

3. SHE IS REBELLIOUS

An older woman believes she is more mature and experienced than you in the marriage. She will openly refuse your instructions and order. She will ridicule your actions and defy you both in public and private.

4. SHE IS MANIPULATIVE

An older woman will manipulate you for her own egocentric needs. She will trick you to make wrong decisions that fulfil her temporary desires then when things backfire she will blame you and call you out this will again make you make further wrong decisions to appease her.

5. SHE SUFFERS SEXUAL NUMBNESS

An older woman has seen more ceiling boards than a painter. Her sensory areas that excite her sex experience are numb. She will therefore resort to masturbation or using dildos to jump-start her dead erotic zones.- When having sex with her, she will be rubbing her clitoral end or use a dildo to excite her.

6. SHE IS INFERTILE.

An older woman is probably a retired war veteran. She has a history of abortions or prolonged use of hormonal contraceptives and other clandestine gynaecological procedures or hormonal therapies. Her chances of conception are very narrow or even zero.

7. SHE WILL CHEAT.

An older woman will openly cheat on you and there is nothing you will do. She is deprived of solid masculine power and therefore she will be looking for a man older than her to fulfil the deprivation.

8. SHE IS A BABY MAMA

She has a baby and therefore she is looking for a 'father figure' to her child. She knows that no serious man will accept her with the baby therefore her surest bet is a younger man she can pocket and manipulate. If you don't see her baby, probably the baby is with her mother. The one she calls 'my niece' or 'my nephew'.

9. SHE WILL ISOLATE YOU

An older woman will isolate you from your parents, siblings, relatives and friends. She will not allow them near you because they will pump sense into you head.

10. SHE WILL DUMP YOU

Eventually, after sucking every value from you, she will dump you. She will leave you devastated and shattered. Your life will be on a downward spiral and consequently, you will be depressed or commit suicide.

Avoid dating a woman who is older than you. Look for a younger woman and shape her to your preference.

They Love and get married , after they will become enemies, no one thinks about the children, they are just tired of each other and marriages just finished,what are we teaching our children?

Story of many broken marriages, marriages are no more for better for worst

SHOULD YOU DO A COURT WEDDING? (PART 1)

Dear Anonymous Brother,

There are three recognized types of marriages in Nigeria:

1. Statutory Marriage (or marriage Under the Act)
• Conducted under the Marriage Act in a government-approved registry (not court) or church licensed for statutory weddings.
(Some churches have government licenses to conduct this however, most churches don’t have license for this).

2. Customary Marriage
• Conducted according to the traditions and customs of the ethnic groups involved.
• Typically includes the payment of bride price and traditional rites.

3. Islamic Marriage
• Performed according to Islamic (Sharia) law.
• Requires a bride price (Sadaq) and a Nikah (marriage contract).

I want to believe that the reason you’re having reservations about statutory wedding or marriage under the act (not court wedding as people call it) is because of the consequences and rigors of divorce.

Most men are scared of statutory wedding because, in the case of divorce, properties are bound to be split, child custody laws may not favour them, and the consequence of polygamy (because the law prohibits that).

If this is the case, I can boldly tell you that you’re entering marriage with the wrong mentality. You’re most likely going to end in divorce when conflict arises because you created room for it before entering the marriage. (Don’t forget that conflict must arise whether you like it or not).

Note: Statutory weddings are not legally called court weddings. They are conducted in a marriage registry, a place of worship or any place of your choice by an authorized marriage registrar or licensed minister of a church.
However, divorce can only take place in a high court or court with a higher jurisdiction.

To be continued………

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A Nigerian PhD student who wedded an American woman said she brings her salary to him and they use it for their expenses, adding that he knows her bank pin. He shared other interesting things about how they run their marriage, and some people criticized him.

7 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE (PART 1)

The short story in between should teach you a lesson.

Trust is the backbone of any strong relationship.

It’s what makes love safe, secure, and long-lasting. But trust isn’t automatic—it is built through consistent actions, honesty, and reliability.

Here are seven powerful ways to build trust in your relationship or marriage:

1. BE HONEST, EVEN ABOUT THE SMALL THINGS

Let me tell you a short story

Chijioke and Ada had been married for three years when Chijioke suddenly started acting restless. He was distant, easily irritated, and always on his phone. Ada noticed but assumed it was work stress.

One evening, a strange number called his phone while he was in the shower. Out of curiosity, Ada answered.

“Mr. Chijioke, this is our final warning. Pay back the ₦2 million loan or face legal action.”

Ada’s heart dropped. A loan? For ₦2 million? She had no idea her husband had borrowed money.

When he came out, she confronted him. He sighed and said, “I didn’t want to stress you, so I didn’t tell you.”

Ada felt betrayed. Not because of the debt, but because he had kept it a secret.

That night, she lay awake thinking, “If he can hide this, what else is he hiding?”

And that was the foundation of distrust she developed towards her husband. She started doubting most of the things he says

Here’s the truth:

Hiding the truth, even with good intentions, damages trust. Ada wasn’t upset about the loan itself—she was upset about the secrecy.

When you are honest, even about small things, your partner feels safe and secure. When you start keeping secrets, doubt creeps in.

How do you achieve this?

Speak the truth, even if it’s uncomfortable.
If you make a mistake, own up to it instead of covering it up.
Never assume small lies won’t matter—they always do in the long run.

Biblical Wisdom: “The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy.” — Proverbs 12:22

To be continued……..


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Oh! no, am calling this marriage a quit. How can my husband expect me to come back from work, cook and still wash mine menstrual pants that have been soaked for 4 days now while he cross his legs and wash football all day long.

PLEASE HELP ME, I'AM GOING NUT....