RESPECT THE INVISIBLE

A car ahead was moving like a turtle and not giving me way inspite of my continuous honking!

I was on brink of losing my cool when I noticed the small sticker on the cars rear.

It reads...
"Physically challenged; Please be patient.”

And that changed everything!! I immediately went calm and slowed down!!

In fact I got a little protective of the car and the driver.

I reached work a few minutes late, but it was ok!

And then it struck me. Would I have been patient if there was no sticker!?

Why do we need stickers to be patient with people!?

Will we be more patient and kind with others if people had labels pasted on their foreheads?

Labels like:
~ Lost my job
~ Fighting cancer
~ Going through a bad divorce
~ Suffering Emotional abuse
~ Lost a loved one
~ Feeling worthless
~ Financially messed up
.....and more like these.

Everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about.

The least we can do is be patient and kind.

We don't have to put people through the pressures of explaining over times before we understand their pains and offer our little best.

As you go through each passing day always remember there's an invisible label on everyone.

A simple virtue of patience may just be the respect you're according that invisible label. ~ Dr M. A. Chaudhary

PATIENCE is a priceless virtue! we all need to exercise a considerable amount of it. I am never so much in a hurry as to cause unkindness to anyone. A few seconds or minutes will not make that much difference!

Have you been patient with yourself lately? If not, join our wellness retreat beginning June 05, for a worry and stress detox. I'm rooting for you Royal Leader.

Never forget to keep unveiling your uniqueness because it is within you that BLISS is found. I love you


#stellaeyabi #perspective #kindness #love #patience

“And rend your heart, and not your garments, and turn unto the LORD your God: for he is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and of great kindness, and repenteth him of the evil.”

Joel 2:13

How to Show Love Without Words

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Love is a language that goes beyond words. While verbal expressions are important, the most profound ways of showing love often lie in our actions. Sometimes, your gestures, attention, and thoughtfulness can speak volumes about your feelings, building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s how you can express love without saying a single word.

1. Be Present and Attentive

One of the greatest gifts you can give your partner is your undivided attention. In a world filled with distractions, being present in the moment is a powerful act of love. Put down your phone, look into their eyes, and truly listen. When you show that you value their thoughts and emotions, it communicates care and respect more effectively than words ever could.

2. Perform Small Acts of Kindness

It’s the little things that count. Bringing them their favourite coffee, cooking a meal, or simply doing a chore they dislike can brighten their day. These acts of kindness show that you pay attention to their needs and want to make their life easier.

3. Physical Touch

Non-verbal communication through physical touch is a cornerstone of expressing love. A warm hug, holding hands, or a gentle pat on the back can convey comfort, security, and affection. These simple gestures remind your partner that you are there for them, offering support and love.

4. Quality Time

Spending quality time together strengthens the bond between you and your partner. Plan activities they enjoy, go for a walk or watch a movie together. By dedicating time to shared experiences, you show that their presence is a priority in your life.

5. Thoughtful Surprises

Surprises, big or small, are wonderful ways to express love. It could be as simple as leaving a handwritten note or as elaborate as planning a surprise date. These thoughtful gestures show that you’ve been thinking about them and want to make them feel special.

6. Body Language

Your body language speaks volumes. A loving glance, a soft smile, or even sitting close during a quiet moment can express feelings of love and comfort. Non-verbal cues are subtle but powerful ways to show how much you care.

7. Support Their Dreams

Encourage your partner’s passions and goals. Being their cheerleader and offering your support, whether it’s attending their events, helping them prepare, or simply showing interest, is a profound way to demonstrate your love. Your belief in their abilities can inspire confidence and strengthen your connection.

8. Be Thoughtful and Observant

Noticing the little things about your partner shows how much you care. Remember their preferences, pay attention to their mood, and anticipate their needs. For example, offering comfort when they’re stressed or celebrating their small achievements shows that you’re attuned to their life.

9. Acts of Service

Actions often speak louder than words, especially when it comes to love. Help them with a task, run an errand, or fix something around the house. These acts of service show your partner that you’re willing to put in the effort to make their life easier and happier.

10. Respect Their Space

Sometimes, love means giving space. Respect their boundaries and allow them time to recharge when needed. This shows that you value their individuality and understand their need for balance in the relationship.

11. Express Gratitude

Showing appreciation is a beautiful way to convey love. A genuine smile, a nod of acknowledgment, or a small token of gratitude can mean the world to your partner. Gratitude fosters positivity and strengthens emotional intimacy.

12. Be Consistent

Love is not just about grand gestures but also about consistent efforts. Small, daily acts of love build a foundation of trust and affection. Whether it’s making them a morning coffee or simply being there when they need you, consistency reassures your partner of your unwavering love.

Final Thoughts

Love is an art that doesn’t always require words. Through actions, attentiveness, and thoughtfulness, you can create a relationship that thrives on mutual respect and understanding.

At the end of the day, love is about making your partner feel cherished, secure, and valued. Speak through your actions, and you’ll discover that the language of love is truly universal.

It's easy for someone to joke about scars if they've never been cut." (William Shakespeare)
Not everyone will understand the weight you carry—and that’s okay. Some will laugh at what they’ve never lived through, dismiss what they cannot see, or speak carelessly about wounds they’ve never had to tend.
It’s easy to minimize someone else's pain when you’ve never sat awake with your own. True empathy doesn’t come from observation; it rises from experience—those quiet, raw places where life has broken us open and taught us how fragile the human heart can be. Only then do we learn to approach others not with judgment, but with gentleness. To see someone's scars and not flinch. To offer kindness, not critique.
Because once you’ve been there, you don’t forget how much it meant when someone offered you understanding instead of advice.

*NATIVE WISDOM*

1. Burial rice tastes nice until it’s cooked in your compound.

2. ⁠When the axe came to the forest, the trees said the handle is one of us. Until they felt its cuts; *BETRAYAL IS MOSTLY* within.

3. ⁠When a kid grows up, a pencil is replaced by a pen, just to make the kid realize that now it is not easy to erase the mistakes.

4. ⁠One day, the ground we walk on will be our roof.

5. ⁠If loyalty was absolute, water is not supposed to cook the fish.

6. ⁠People don’t abandon people they love. They abandon people they are using.

7. ⁠How I wish RIP means *"Return If Possible"*

8. ⁠One Sad Truth about life is that you may not even be part of the future you’re stressed about.

9. ⁠The day you lose your father is the day you will realize that you have lost the only man who wanted to see you better than him.

10. ⁠The sheep lived all her life, fearing the wolf, but it was the shepherd that finally ate it.

11. ⁠When we were kids, we cried loudly to be noticed. But now we cry silently because we don’t want anyone to know.

12. ⁠Just because you have a good mom, doesn’t mean your dad has a good wife.

13. Just because you’re a good person, doesn’t mean the world owes you kindness.

14. ⁠When the blind man's sight is restored, the first thing he does is throw away the stick that has been helping him for years.

15. ⁠FAMILY is like a FOREST from a distance. They are all close until you get closer to see how DISTANT/SEPARATED trees are.

*Your dream is not that which you see in your sleep, it's actually that which does not allow you to sleep.*

Dear Parents

One of the best gifts you can give to your children is a good home. Creating a positive environment involves supporting their physical, emotional, and psychological development. Nothing stresses a child more than a home where parents are in turmoil.

Provide your child with a safe haven.
Ensure the home is safe and free from hazards, addressing both physical safety (like childproofing) and emotional safety (offering a non-judgmental space for self-expression).

Parent together as a couple to model teamwork. Children learn by observing, so demonstrate values you want them to adopt, such as honesty, kindness, and responsibility.

The woman you were when you had to survive was a force of nature. She did what needed to be done—no matter the cost. She built walls, armored her heart, and carried burdens no one even guessed she was holding. She learned how to hide her pain behind a smile, how to steady her voice when the world tried to shake her, and how to keep putting one foot in front of the other when the ground felt like it was crumbling.

You were the storm and the shelter at the same time. You found strength in places you didn’t know existed. You became tough, sharp, unbreakable—because you had to be. No one else saw the battles you fought in the dark, the times you cried in silence, the nights you wondered if you could keep going.

That woman was a survivor, and she deserves your deepest respect. She is the reason you’re here today. She is the reason you made it through. But survival is not the same as living. Those days required a certain kind of grit, a toughness that got you through the worst, but also left you exhausted, wary, and always bracing for the next blow.

You were always on guard, scanning every room for danger, expecting every kindness to disappear, and believing peace was just a pause before the next storm. Your heart became a fortress, your mind a battlefield, your soul a soldier. You survived because you had no other choice.

But hear this truth: you are not in that place anymore. You have crossed the rough seas and made it to new shores. The air is different now, the sky is clearer, the world is not as cold and hostile as it once felt. You are not the hunted anymore. You are the leader, the creator, the woman who owns her story.

You don’t have to live in survival mode any longer. You don’t have to flinch at every sound, tense up at every touch, or question every moment of peace. You are allowed to let your shoulders drop, to unclench your fists, to breathe deeply and freely, and to believe in safety.

You have earned the right to rest. Rest is not weakness. Gentleness is not surrender. You can let your heart soften now. You can let your guard down—not because the world has stopped spinning, but because you have become wise enough to choose who gets close, strong enough to walk away from what hurts, and brave enough to trust yourself.

You are smarter now, not just because you survived, but because you learned. Survival taught you resilience, but healing will teach you joy. You are allowed to step out of the armor that once saved you, and into the light that now calls you forward.

You are not that scared girl anymore. You are a woman who knows her power. You are a woman who can stand in a room and hold her own, not out of fear, but out of confidence. You are a woman who leads with both heart and mind, who knows when to be fierce and when to be gentle.

You are allowed to love again, to trust again, to hope again. The world may never be perfect, but you are not here to be small or afraid. You are here to live fiercely, to love boldly, and to lead without apology.

Let go of the need to control every outcome. Let go of the belief that you always have to be tough. Let the world see your softness, your laughter, your vulnerability. These are not weaknesses—they are the marks of a woman who has survived and chosen to thrive.

The version of you that survived was a masterpiece of strength. But the version of you that leads is a masterpiece of wisdom. She knows when to fight and when to rest, when to speak and when to listen, when to hold on and when to let go.

You are allowed to change. You are allowed to become more than what your past demanded. You are allowed to shape your life, not out of fear, but out of possibility. You are allowed to rise.

Do not be afraid of your own growth. Do not apologize for your healing. Do not shrink to fit an old story. The world is waiting for the woman who is not just a survivor, but a creator, a leader, a light for others still finding their way.

It’s time to step into your new power. It’s time to lead with the lessons you’ve earned, to love with the depth you’ve discovered, and to live with the freedom you’ve fought for.

You are not bound to the woman who only knew how to survive. She is part of your story, but she is not the whole story. You are allowed to outgrow her, to thank her, and to let her rest.

This is your season to live. To lead. To become the woman, you always dreamed you could be—not just a survivor, but a force. Not just a fighter, but a builder. Not just a protector, but a creator of a life worth living.

You are not just here; you are fully alive. And that, after everything, is your greatest victory."

Deep Feelings
credit to the artist via Pinterest

*_See Jesus’ Grace and He Will See Your Faith!_*

_*“I don’t think I have enough faith to be healed.”*_

_*My friend, it’s not for you to see how much faith you have. That’s God’s department. All you need to do is simply see how gracious God is toward you.*_

_*The woman with the issue of blood didn’t go around saying, “I must have faith. I must have faith…” No, she wasn’t conscious of her faith (or lack of it). She was conscious of Jesus and His goodness. How? She heard about Jesus. She must have heard all about His kindness toward the sick and oppressed, and how He healed and delivered them ALL.*_

_*She simply saw Jesus in His grace, and Jesus saw her faith and affirmed it—“Daughter, your faith has made you well.” Beloved, just focus on Jesus’ grace. See how He healed ALL without qualification and keep hearing of His goodness!*_🙏🏾

*Road to remembrance* !!!

*As Nigeria is collapsing around us let us remember how we got here.*

*ROLL CALL OF THE PROMOTERS OF FAILURE IN NIGERIA*

Here are some of the prominent names that helped send BUHARI to Aso Rock:

1. Dr. Oby Ezekwesili
2. Fela Durotoye
3. Atiku Abubakar
4. Omoyele Sowore
5. Izala Muslim clerics and Christians clerics.
6. Chief Olusegun Obasanjo
7. Professor Charles Soludo
8. Pastor Tunde Bakare
9. Pastor Sunday Adelaja
10. Father Ejike Mbaka
11. Professor Pastor Yemi Osibanjo
12. Professor Tam David West
13. Professor Wole Soyinka
14. Rev. Chris Okotie
15. Professor Pat Utomi
16. Nasir El-Rufai
17. Dino Melaye
18. Lai Mohammed
19. Rochas Okorocha
20. Rotimi Amaechi
21. Adams Oshiomhole
22. Dr. Bukola Saraki
23. Aminu Tambuwal
24. Bola Ahmed Tinubu
25. Raji Fashola
26. Dr. Chris Ngige
27. Rabiu Kwankwaso
28. Ibikunle Amosun
29. Rauf Aregbesola
30. Kayode Fayemi
31. Sanusi Lamido
32. Deacon Femi Adesina
33. Pastor E.A Adeboye
34. Pastor Kumuyi
35. Dr. Ogbonnaya Onu
36. Kenny Ogungbe
37. Dato Adeneye
38. Magnus Abbey
39. Dakuku Peterside
40. 9ice
41. Kenny St. Ogungbe Brown
42. Tunde Disu
43. John Momoh
44. Maupe Ogun
45. Chamberlain Usoh
46. Suleiman Aleide
47. Monday Onyekachi Ubani
48. Iffy Ubani
49. Labourous Osuoma
50. Citizen Useni Jones (Radio continental 102.3FM).
51. Joe Igbokwe
52. Dele Momodu
53. Abike Dabiri
54. Professor Attahiru Muhammadu Jega
55. Muazu
56. Emeka Ojukwu Jnr.
57. Egenti E Raymond (Ogudo)
58. Victor Umeh
59. Wasiu Ayinde (Kwam 1)
60. TY Danjuma
61. Lauretta Onochie
62. Jide Kosoko
63. Jonah David Jang
64. MC Oluomo and his NURTW thugs
65. Solomon Dalung
66. Naja'atu Mohammed
67. Buba Galadima
68. Oba of lagos, Oba Akiolu
69. Shehu Sanni
70. Desmond Eliott
71. Femi Kuti
72. George Udom

These people and the entire RCCG actually believed that Buhari had what it takes to lead Nigeria into a first world.

These people went to school. Many are professors. Some claimed to have direct access to God.

Some are gifted with "prophesies."

They read history. They understood international relations. They understood how societies work or so we thought.

They were more than 20 years old in 1983 when Buhari shot himself to power.

They saw Buhari murder innocent Nigerians in 1983.

They saw Buhari destroy the economy in 1983.

They saw the role Buhari played in Abacha's government.

They read all the threats of violence by Buhari against the nation.

They saw Buhari harass Lam Adesina the Oyo State Governor due to Fulani herdsmen conflicts with locals in Oyo State.

They saw Buhari lead the sharia protest that claimed the lives of innocent Nigerians in 2001.

They saw Buhari and his minions open the gate of hell on innocent Nigerians when he lost the presidential election in 2011.

If Buhari was not speaking and defending his Fulani heritage he would be fighting to defend his religious heritage.

Never for once did he defend Nigeria or gave interview on how to rebuild the economy, education, power, health, etc.

They saw everything this man did. They knew him too well to miss the little details of his violent life.

But they were united in hatred.

Hatred for Goodluck Ebele Jonathan. One among the few Nigeria leaders that actually wanted Nigeria to work.

Hatred became a unifying force to push forward a false narrative.

They exploited his humility.

They exploited his kindness.

They exploited his humanity

They danced and made merry in Ojota. They ate, drank and danced away the destiny of a nation.

Saints Tinubu, Amaechi, Fashola, etc., led the chorus against ‘corrupt’ Goodluck Jonathan.

Tinubu a private jet owner and owner of Lagos, Amaechi a private jet owner and funder of Buhari campaign, Atiku a University owner paid with his civil service allowance etc wanted ‘corrupt’ Goodluck Jonathan out.

But the people did not see the moral paradox because you see - hate is a unifying factor.

They mobilised thugs to stone a sitting President.

They harassed his family wherever they went.

Because they are from the hated minority who must NOT be king.

For Kings must come from the Fulani lineage. Jonathan is Ijaw. Ijaws should not be Kings.

Jonathan must not loot also.

For looters must come from enablers of evil.

These are intellectuals.

Amongst whom are Pastors and Prophets.

Wisdom failed.

Prophesies failed.

WAEC issued a fake WAEC attestation to Buhari.

It is possible many Nigerian "intellectuals" are working with fake certificates.

A nation without conscience is a curse to its people.

We all are standing on the podium of history.

Humanity beckons.

Surely our children will read the roles we played in the salvation or annihilation of humanity.

Why not share for all Nigerians to read!!!

NATIVE INTELLIGENCE!
(Let's reflects on these word's of wisdom ).

1. Burial rice tastes nice until it’s cooked in your compound.

2. ⁠When the axe came to the forest, the trees said the handle is one of us. Until they felt its cuts; BETRAYAL IS within.

3. ⁠When a kid grows up, a pencil is replaced by a pen just to make the kid realize that now it is not easy to erase the mistake.

4. ⁠One day, the ground we walk on will be our roof.

5. ⁠If loyalty was real, water is not supposed to cook the fish.

6. ⁠People don’t abandon people they love. They abandon people they are using.

7. ⁠How I wish RIP means "Return If Possible";

8. ⁠One Sad Truth about life is that you may not even be part of the future you’re stressed about.

9. ⁠The day you lose your father is the day you will realize that you have lost the only man who wanted to see you better than him.

10. ⁠The sheep lived all her life, fearing the wolf, but it was the shepherd that finally ate it.

11. ⁠When we were kids, we cried loudly to be noticed. But now we cry silently because we don’t want anyone to know.

12. ⁠My mom always said, "don’t talk while eating." I never knew she was talking about life.

13. ⁠Just because you have a good mom, doesn’t mean your dad has a good wife.

14. ⁠Is this the life we were kicking our mothers' stomachs for?

15. ⁠Just because you’re a good person, doesn’t mean the world owes you kindness.

16. ⁠When the blind man sees, he throws away the stick that has been helping him for years.

17. ⁠Nowadays you need money to become a member of your own family.

18. ⁠FAMILY is like a FOREST from a distance. They are all close until you get closer to see how SEPARATED trees are:

19. ⁠Just play along.....

YOUR MOM MAKES ME HAPPY*

*Episode 4: A Family Affair*

Omar decided it was time for Sarah to meet his family. He was excited to introduce her to the people he loved, and he hoped they would love her just as much.

As they arrived at his parents' house, Omar's mom, Fatima, greeted them with a warm smile. "It's so nice to finally meet you, Sarah!" she exclaimed, hugging her tightly.

Sarah was charmed by Fatima's warmth and hospitality. She felt at ease as they sat down for dinner, surrounded by Omar's family. Ahmed, Omar's dad, asked Sarah questions about her interests and hobbies, and she impressed him with her intelligence and kindness.

As the evening progressed, Omar watched Sarah laugh and joke with his family, feeling grateful that they seemed to get along so well. He knew that his family was important to him, and it meant a lot that they liked Sarah.

After dinner, Fatima pulled Omar aside and whispered, "She's lovely, beta (son). You two seem perfect for each other."

Omar smiled, feeling happy that his mom approved. "Thanks, Mom. I'm really falling for her."

Fatima smiled back. "I can see that. Just remember, relationships take work, but if you both are committed, you can build a beautiful life together."

Omar nodded, taking his mom's words to heart. He knew that he wanted to spend the rest of his life making Sarah happy, and he hoped she felt the same way...

(To be continued...)

Even the name of the LORD is under His word.


(Psalm 138:2 kjv):-

I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name.

Don't get it twisted!

We know what we are saying.

So when you are calling His name, Lord Lord without His word in you...,
How can you enter...!?

Shalom Israel of God