So happy for you both! Wishing you a beautiful journey ahead filled with love , and lots of laughter cheers to your adventure together

Common Mistakes People Make When Choosing a Life Partner

DESPERATION– Some people rush into marriage without learning enough about it.

They think, “I’ll figure it out along the way,” but this mindset leads to regret.

The right knowledge helps you prepare, notice warning signs early, and make better choices.

TRYING TO PROVE A POINT– Some get married just to show others they can. They don’t want people saying, “With all your beauty and money, you’re still single?”

But in the end, when problems come, they realize no one really cared that much and they have to face the consequences of their choices and decisions all alone

PEER PRESSURE – Seeing friends get married makes some feel left out.

So, they rush to pick anyone just to fit in, without thinking long-term.

FEAR OF TIME PASSING – Some believe they are getting too old and must marry quickly, even if the person doesn’t match their values and purpose in life.

They forget that everyone’s journey(time) is different, and rushing can lead to regret.

MARRYING FOR MONEY OR STATUS– Some choose a partner just for wealth or social position, ignoring their bad character.

Later, they realize that money is useless when there is no peace and they have no say in the marriage.

BLINDLY FOLLOWING RECOMMENDATIONS– Some marry people recommended by parents, pastors, or others without checking if they are truly compatible.

But what others see as “good” may not be right for you. Good intentions doesn’t equate compatibility.

Marriage is a lifelong journey. Don't rush into it for the wrong reasons.

Take your time, learn, and choose wisely.

The Man Who Powered His Daughters To Greatness Against All Odds!

In 1980, a man named Richard turned on his television and saw a female player from Romania receiving a check for $40,000 after winning a tennis tournament.

The whole scene was enough to shock Richard. This was more than his annual salary.

Within a few years, he would decide that his daughters would also play tennis.

After turning off the television, he sat down and wrote a 78-page document outlining a plan for his two young daughters to flee their hometown of Compton, California, an area known for notorious black gangster violence. Now there was also a problem in that Richard didn't know anything about tennis, he didn't have the money to pay for his daughters to train for this expensive sport, and maybe it's incredible to you that his daughters weren't even born yet at that time.

Over the next five years, he collected tennis-related magazines and video cassettes. He also taught himself to play tennis. Five years later, according to his plan, Richard had a tennis racquet in the hands of his two daughters, as well as the same magazines and videos and what he had learned from them. He was both the father and coach of these little girls and he began to teach them the game of tennis.

Unable to afford the basics of playing the game, Richard would go to local country clubs to collect used tennis balls from bins and load them into a shopping cart, so that his daughters could practice with these used balls on public tennis courts.

Richard was overprotective and physically strong as a father, and was often beaten by local gang bullies while trying to protect his daughters from harassment during tennis training.

On one occasion when he refused to leave the practice court with his daughters, they broke his nose, jaw and fingers, and knocked out several of his teeth.

Richard wrote in his diary, "After today, history will remember the 'toothless' man as a monument of courage."

Since tennis was a predominantly white sport at the time, people would stare and shout at the black family as Richard and his daughters traveled to various tennis courts for junior tournaments. Once the girls asked, "Daddy, why do people stare at us so badly," to which he replied, "Because they are not used to seeing such beautiful people before."

The wheel of time turned quickly and the calendar page turned sharply to the year 2000, when a tall, lean black girl set out on a journey to play the Wimbledon tournament final, and thousands of miles away from her native ghetto, Richard watched his eldest daughter play in the grass fields in front of London's elite, celebrities and royalty.

No one had ever seen a tennis player with such a powerful serve and fast footwork, nor had they ever heard shots so loud. It was like every ball was being beaten and every ball was crying out in pain.
When the girl reached a stage where victory was ahead of fear, the girl looked at her father standing in the stands who was encouraging her to achieve victory by shouting loudly. Richard always told his daughters, "One day, we're going to win Wimbledon, and it's not going to be for us. It will be for the helpless and poor people of America." Richard's 20-year-long struggle plan had now reached a critical point in history.
As the opponent's ball hit the net, cameras caught a teary-eyed Richard dancing wildly as he watched his daughter, Venus Williams, win the first of her seven Grand Slam titles. Over the next several years, Richard also watched his youngest daughter, Serena, win 23 major tournaments and become one of the greatest tennis players of all time.

For all their success on the tennis court, what Venus and Serena endured off the court is the most impressive part of their journey. From spectators, who were given the nickname the "Williams Brothers" because of their physique, to comments in the media calling Serena's mixed-race daughter "chocolate milk," the two sisters' resilient and kind personalities helped them stand up to racism and bigotry their father said. The best way to avenge is to answer with her racquet inside the tennis court. This inspiring struggle of these two sisters inspired black people and athletes around the world.

When I got married, I was so emotional about everything. I consistently look at other people's marriage and I want that replicated in my own. Little did I know that all those things are just for the public to see, but what goes on within is more than terrible.

Dear young couples, don’t compare your marriage to others. Seriously, it’s so easy to look at someone else’s relationship on social media or even in your circle and think, “Wow, they have it all together.” But the truth is, you’re only seeing the highlight reel. Every marriage has its behind-the-scenes moments, real, raw, and sometimes messy.

Your journey is unique. Nurture your own connection. Focus on your growth, your love, your rhythm. Comparison will rob you of joy, but gratitude, that’s what strengthens the bond.

- Mercy Johnson

Still I Rise.....- A Note to Me

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I am allowed to feel deeply, but I will not let pain define me.

I am worthy of love and support that comes without conditions.

My presence is powerful. My spirit is resilient. My journey is sacred.

Even when I'm misunderstood, I will not dim my light to fit in.

What I give to others, I also deserve—kindness, care, and grace.

I am not alone, even when the room feels empty. My strength is with me.

I choose to rise above the noise and reclaim my peace.

My tears are not weakness. They are healing. They are release.

I walk through fire and still carry the scent of hope.

No matter how many times I fall, I will always rise—stronger, wiser, braver.

“It wasn't easy convincing Iyabo to allow a big time Tanzanian artist date her only daughter. Chioma Goodhair opened up about the emotional journey it took to get actress Iyabo Ojo’s blessing for her daughter, Priscilla Ojo's relationship with Tanzanian singer, Juma Jux.

She wrote:
It was one thing encouraging @its.priscy and @juma_jux on their love at first site quest but it was a whole other thing convincing Queen Mother to allow a big time Tanzanian Artist date her only daughter and prized possession priscy. At the time we didn’t have any Tanzanian ties, nor had we been there. It all just seemed so far fetched. But the little time I spent around Juma in Rwanda was enough for me to know that he was a good man with a good heart that was ABSOLUTELY smitten by Priscy from the jump. It wasn’t easy convincing iyabo.

I remember walking all the way from Oxford circus to the end of Knightsbridge ( almost 2 hours ) tryna convince her. And after that she would call every other hour saying “but Chioma this blog said this and that blog said that” & I’d say “but you and I Know most gossip blogs are inaccurate and unfounded”, plus I had grilled Juma enough in Rwanda when he expressed his profound interest in my little sis so as God would have it I had solid answers for every single one of Iyabo’s concerns. Shortly after that she said well if she’s gonna date him then he better be ready to marry her and I said I promise you he will(He told me he wanted to marry her on day 1)

Like a joke we started planning the wedding on this call. This was August 2024. It was so funny because they had just become official bf & gf and here we were speaking the actual details of a wedding into existence. Iyabo was saying they must come to Nigeria to take her and then we can do one in their country too. I was laughing at first because of how detailed she was being but then I quickly got serious because anyone who truly knows Iyabo knows how prophetic she is. Whatever she speaks with her mouth comes to pass just as she says it.

Fast forward barely 3 months later we started planning an actual wedding- the #JP2025 you’ve all come To be a part of.
@iyaboojofespris I want to also honour you today for the incredible human that you are. This wedding has truly proved how loved you are and I’m happy that nations are calling you blessed.

Thank you for handing over Priscilla to me as my little sister the way you have taken me as your own little sister.
Contd ..

Embrace progress over perfection, view challenges as opportunities for growth, and remember that your journey is a marathon, not a sprint.

YOU DON’T HAVE A S*X PROBLEM — YOU HAVE A SELF-CONTROL PROBLEM

It’s not about women… It’s about the war in your own mind

Let’s settle this once and for all:

S*x is not your enemy. Women are not your downfall.
Your real problem is you can’t tell yourself “NO” — and mean it.

You don’t have a lust problem.
You don’t have a girlfriend problem.
You have a discipline problem.

And here’s how it’s destroying your life quietly — while you think it’s just “normal behavior”…

1. You chase women, but you don’t chase purpose.
You know how to text her non-stop…
But you can’t stay focused on your goals for 3 straight hours.
You have energy for sweet words…
But no energy for self-improvement, study, or money-making.

That’s not a s*x issue.
That’s weak self-leadership.

2. You can delay pleasure with money — but not with women.
You’ll save up to buy a phone.
You’ll wait 3 months to get a new sneaker.
But you can’t even say “no” to your body when it starts calling.
You’re financially wise… but sexually foolish.
And that imbalance is killing your power.

3. You know it’s wrong — but you do it anyway.
You feel guilty after sleeping with her.
You regret it after you masturbate.
You swear it won’t happen again…
But two nights later, you’re back at it.
That’s not just habit — that’s a lack of control.

4. You’re ruled by urges, not purpose.
You wake up with ideas…
But by noon, you’re back in her DMs.
You had plans…
But her body made you forget all of them.
You can’t dominate the world if you can’t even dominate yourself.

5. You call it love — but you’re just addicted to lust.
You don’t love her. You love what she makes you feel.
You love the ego boost. The fantasy. The temporary escape.
And because you can’t detach,
You stay stuck in toxic cycles that waste your time and kill your growth.

6. You ask God for help — but you never say no to temptation.
You pray. You cry. You fast.
But when she texts “come over,”
You forget all your anointing.
It’s not about prayers — it’s about principle.
Until you discipline your body, you’ll keep falling in the same trap.

7. Your energy is leaking through your cravings.
Every time you chase s*x instead of your calling,
You give away your power, your time, your strength.
And it’s why your dreams feel dry.
Because you keep watering women, not your goals.

8. You can't sit in silence without craving pleasure.
You get bored, you want s*x.
You get stressed, you want s*x.
You get lonely, you want s*x.
You’ve made s*x your medicine — and now you’re hooked.
You don’t need more s*x. You need more purpose.

9. You train your brain to give up easily.
Every climax without discipline tells your mind:
“Instant reward is better than long-term success.”
So you stop grinding. You stop building. You start cutting corners.
All because you trained yourself to quit when things get hard — and chase what feels easy.

10. You’re not addicted to her — you’re addicted to escaping yourself.
S*x is your way of avoiding the uncomfortable truth:
That you’re not where you want to be in life…
So you hide in a woman’s body instead of fixing your own journey.

Bro, hear this clearly:

You don’t need more women.
You don’t need another round.
You don’t need late-night texts or temporary highs.

You need control. You need mastery. You need silence, structure, and standards.

Because a man who can’t say no to his urges
Will say yes to every distraction — and miss his destiny.


Danny CEO

LAUGH WITH ME

1. When your child starts explaining with “I was just on my own...” forget it, He’s the guïlty one, kids are never on their own
2. Are you tirëd of this Nïgeria and you want to travel abroad ?
Put your phone on flïght mode‚ ständ on it and shøut vooom !
Safe journey !!!
3. Why do we change position when it’s actually the same hole. I don’t understand golf at all
Bros it’s not what you think
4. If our gïrlfriend know how many gïrls we ignorë in a day just becausë of them‚ they’ll be payïng us sälary.
5. Some gïrls are wiçked‚ I collected a gïrl number today‚ just to reach house and realize it was today’s date: O7O 11 01 2O24.
Can you imaginë.
6. 1O years in çultism no car‚ no house, no investment
Na only märk full your bødy
Bros wetin you gaïn??
7. Who is a rïsk taker ?
A rïsk taker is someone who has a rünning stomach and still want to mëss
8. I tell you... The ability to control teärs when food don’t get to you in an occasiôn is the highëst form of maturïty
9. “To those people complaining that fast food looks better in advertisements than it does in realïty...
Hmm aunty, look at your profile picture & then look in the mirror
Is it the same? No answer me na
10. Dear Sisters, don’t let any guy deçeive you that you look like “Angel”
Angel no dey bleaçh
11. Before I go, Do you know that???...
90% of rubber bands on ladies hair are from stock fish, plantains and takeaway packs
12. Dearie, If nobody cares to talk to you, Just know that you have Me, just appreciate your Favourite, by liking His Post and adding me as your Friend, Love you All

Hope I have Made your Blessed Söul Brightened

You wanna be My Best Friend right?
Follow Mas Ter

Journey mercy to those coming or going from their Easter break.

VISION

INTRODUCTION

Vision is the revelation of God’s purpose and plan for a person, a people, a generation, or even an entire nation. It is not ambition. It is not wishful thinking. It is not mere goal-setting. Vision is divine direction birthed by divine encounter. According to Habakkuk 2:2-3 (NKJV): “Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” This reveals a key truth: NO TRUE VISION SPEAKS AT THE BEGINNING; IT ONLY SPEAKS AT THE END.

WHAT IS VISION?

Vision is the spiritual insight into God’s intended outcome for a life. It is not self-initiated but God-initiated. It is the mental and spiritual picture of your future that propels you with energy, courage, and resilience. Vision is what gives life direction, focus, and purpose. Without it, people live by reaction instead of intention. Proverbs 29:18 (KJV) says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

True vision is born out of divine fellowship. It is not created in the boardroom but received in the secret place. Vision is not what you want to do for God, but what God wants to do through you. It is the blueprint of heaven deposited in your spirit, commanding your alignment and action.

KEY FACTS ABOUT VISION

1. TRUE VISION SPEAKS AT THE END, NOT AT THE BEGINNING

When vision first arrives, it often looks ordinary, confusing, or even unrealistic. It rarely comes with applause or clarity. In fact, it often invites criticism, mockery, and rejection. Just like Joseph’s dreams, vision is usually ridiculed before it is respected. In the beginning, it may appear dormant or unachievable. But in the end, it speaks loudly and clearly. Vision is validated by manifestation, not excitement.

2. VISION REQUIRES PROCESSING

Before vision speaks, it processes. The one who receives vision must be processed to match the weight of what God has revealed. Moses had the vision to deliver Israel, but spent 40 years in the wilderness being prepared. Paul encountered Jesus and then spent years in Arabia being equipped. God will never place a heavy vision on an unprocessed vessel. Between revelation and manifestation is preparation.

3. VISION THRIVES ON CHARACTER, NOT JUST CHARISMA

It is not enough to carry power gifts like prophecy, tongues, healing, or discernment. These are important but not sufficient for the fulfillment of vision. The gifts may attract attention, but it is the fruit of the Spirit that sustains destiny. According to Galatians 5:22-23, the fruits of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control are the attributes that preserve the vessel and stabilize the journey.

Many have received genuine visions from God but failed in character and collapsed in the process. Patience and long-suffering are especially critical because vision is a marathon, not a sprint. Without endurance, discouragement will abort destiny.

4. VISION REQUIRES TIME AND SEASONAL DISCERNMENT

Vision is time-sensitive. No matter how accurate a vision is, if you try to manifest it outside of divine timing, it will fail. The power of vision lies in alignment with God’s schedule. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” Misjudging seasons leads to premature exposure and failure.

Vision must be walked out step by step, stage by stage. Just as a baby must crawl before walking, vision must mature before manifestation. Each season comes with its test. There is a season of silence, of rejection, of formation, and of visibility. You must discern them all.

5. VISION ATTRACTS ADVERSITY

Every true vision will face opposition. In fact, opposition is one of the strongest validations that your vision is divine. Satan will not fight what is not a threat. Nehemiah’s vision to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem was opposed from every side. Jesus' mission was challenged from infancy to the cross. If your vision is truly of God, expect resistance—but also expect divine backing.

Opposition is not a sign of failure but a test of commitment. Many faint in the day of adversity because their strength is small. Visionaries must be battle-tested, able to withstand storms, delays, betrayals, and discouragement.

6. VISION REQUIRES DISCIPLINE AND FOCUS

Distraction is one of the deadliest enemies of vision. Many start strong but lose focus. Like Peter walking on water, they allow the winds of life to shift their eyes from the Master to the mess. Vision demands saying no to many good things to stay with the God-thing.

It also requires the discipline of time, resources, and relationships. Not every opportunity is a divine instruction. You must guard your heart, your circle, and your energy. Vision flourishes in environments of purity and clarity.

7. VISION REQUIRES COURAGE AND RESILIENCE

Vision will often demand that you walk alone. The early stages of vision may require loneliness, rejection, and misunderstanding. Noah built an ark with no rain in sight. Abraham walked to an unknown land. These men were sustained by vision, not applause.

If you cannot endure the loneliness of vision, you will never enjoy the reward of vision. You must believe what God told you even when no one else sees it. Hebrews 10:36 says, “You have need of patience, that, after you have done the will of God, you might receive the promise.”

8. VISION SEEKS TRANSFORMATION, NOT JUST ATTRACTION

A true vision will not just aim to make you popular or successful; it will aim to make others better, to improve society, and to advance God’s kingdom. Vision is bigger than self. It is redemptive. It serves others. It adds value. If your vision doesn’t stretch beyond you, it is ambition, not vision.

STAGES OF A VISION

1. REVELATION – God reveals His purpose.

2. INSTRUCTION – Specific steps are given.

3. SEPARATION – You are separated from what limits you.

4. PREPARATION – You are trained and refined.

5. OPPOSITION – You are tested and resisted.

6. MANIFESTATION – Vision begins to produce fruit.

7. MULTIPLICATION – Vision spreads and multiplies in others.

QUALITIES OF A VISIONARY

Sensitive to divine instructions

Emotionally stable and spiritually rooted

Bold in the face of opposition

Willing to endure delays and rejections

Able to discern seasons and transitions

Passionate about impact, not applause

Willing to submit to process and authority

Consistent in faith, regardless of results

CONCLUSION

Vision is not a one-time encounter—it is a lifelong journey. It is God's plan being worked out through your life in stages. Vision is fragile in the beginning but becomes powerful at the end. The end speaks, not the beginning. It is not how it looks now, but how it will be when God is done.

Don’t abort your vision because of delay. Don’t discard it because of opposition. Don’t disobey because of pressure. What God has shown you will come to pass—if you stay faithful.

Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NIV) says, “The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.” Vision is not about speed, but about staying in sync with God. Those who wait on the Lord will not be ashamed. The vision will speak—at the end.