He Wasn’t Perfect, But He Tried — A Father’s Day Reflection

Not every father knows how to say “I love you” out loud. Some don’t attend every school event or express affection in obvious ways. But often, their love shows up in quieter moments — fixing broken toys without being asked, saving the last piece of meat for someone else at dinner, or waiting in the car during a storm to make sure everyone gets inside safely. Their love may not always be loud, but it’s steady — expressed through presence, sacrifice, and small, consistent acts of care.

Fatherhood doesn’t come with a manual, and many men were raised in homes where emotional expression was mistaken for weakness. Yet, they tried. They built love through action when words failed them. They carried pressures in silence, wore pride like armor, and often battled private storms we may never fully understand. Some fathers showed up through presence, others through provision — both forms matter.

And for those whose fathers didn’t show up at all, or caused more harm than good — this day is still yours, too. Healing from a fractured father-child bond is a journey of reclaiming your own voice, learning to father yourself, and perhaps, rewriting the story with your own children. You may not have had the model you deserved, but you can become one.

So today, we honor the trying fathers. The healing fathers. The present fathers. And those who are learning how to be better. This Father's Day, may we extend grace — and where needed, draw boundaries — with love. Because fatherhood isn’t about perfection; it’s about presence, growth, and legacy.

I have decided to follow Jesus..... No turning back ...
No matter what turns up in the journey

It's too late to turn back!!

Life has a peculiar way of surprising us. One moment, everything seems to go as planned, while the next moment, an unexpected change hits us from the left field. It is understandable to feel disappointed or frustrated when faced with difficult situations that life throws at us.

However, by understanding a few inevitable complex rules of life, we can develop resilience and adaptive capacities, not get by and thrive beautifully.

Hard work, good virtue, discipline, or being in the right do not automatically ensure fair rewards. We were told that hard work begets success. But you can work as hard as you want and still struggle like someone who never did. The complexity of earth creation is beyond human intelligence.

Life’s circumstances and events can be beyond individual control, regardless of merit. A major health crisis, painful divorce, painful death, all kinds of setbacks, natural disasters, or freak accidents and so forth can unfairly destroy years of labor in a minute.

It is important that we understand that life is unpredictable and unjustifiable. That is why people question certain things that happen to them as undeserving. This world is intentionally created to evade the intelligence of man,no matter how we tried regarding its complexities. It is deep seated in mystery.

Your current bad situation doesn't necessarily mean you are a bad person, even though you don't deserve what you are going through. You are only dealing with the way the world is intentionally wired beyond human understanding. The thing is, situation happens when it is time to happen. Your goodness or badness can not stop it. The only break we enjoy is the mercy of God when it pleases Him.

The difference between your inputs and outcomes highlights life’s fundamental injustice. The world is intentionally created in this fashion to limit our knowledge about certain divine secrets so we have room to think and believe someone who is somewhere is in charge of this earth and what happens to us.

Everyone is going through monumental difficulties. Bar none. Whether deserving or not. The only solution is to fight your problems with an open mind.

The world is tough. This time is tougher. Fight back with toughness. Life is quite a journey

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Today is a great day, a achievable start, and an opportunity to make a difference.
Let's draw inspiration from our collective strength, resilience, and passion for creating positive change.

As we navigate our individual journeys, remember that every small act of kindness, every generous gesture, and every selfless act has the power to impact lives and shape the world around us.

To our seasoned members, your dedication and leadership are the driving force behind our community's success.
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Our greatest strength doesn't lie in our wins or success stories... but in not QUITTING when we have every reason to! Just because you took longer than others, Doesn’t mean you FAILED.

Be so busy improving yourself that you don’t have time to focus on other people’s Journey.

Focus on yourself.
YOUR TIME WILL COME

Good morning FAFORLIFE FAMILY , your new week is blessed. Remember to take care of your health .

HOW TO LOVE AND HELP YOUR HUSBAND 👱‍♀

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband." - Proverbs 12:4

1. **Respect Him Unconditionally.**

Listen to him and ask for his opinion. Value his advice and follow his guidance. Men have a deep need for respect, so show it in your tone of voice during conversations and how you approach him, especially when you disagree. Ensure your children respect their dad in the same way. Prioritize him over the children and teach them to do the same. Let him know his thoughts matter and that you truly value his input.

2. **Accept Your Husband as Your Spiritual Leader.**

Men are created to lead the family, which doesn’t imply that women are any less significant. It means God has equipped men with certain skills to effectively guide their families. As stated in Ephesians 5:22-23, “the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church.”

Accepting your husband as your spiritual leader involves recognizing and supporting his role in guiding the family’s spiritual life. Allow him to lead in prayer, Bible study, and spiritual decisions while also contributing your own insights to enrich your family’s faith journey. If he’s struggling in this area, offer your support and encourage him to seek guidance from trusted sources or professional help if necessary.

3. **Listen More.**

Engage and listen when he speaks. While you might want to make him smile, your willingness to listen can be even more impactful.

4. **Be the Best Version of Yourself.**

Show love by striving to become the best person you can be. Your happiness will positively affect your husband’s well-being too.

5. **Contribute Financially.**

Marriage is teamwork; be willing to share your financial resources to help pay the bills. Avoid being stingy with your money.

6. **Be Caring and Compassionate.**

Support him when he has a bad day or celebrate with him on a good day. Show your love and care without waiting for him to get sick or need assistance. Simple gestures like a cup of coffee in bed or a cuddle can mean a lot.

7. **Support His Dreams.**

Be flexible and willing to sacrifice for your husband’s goals. A supportive wife allows a man to push his limits and achieve success. Stand by him as a team, working together toward daily routines and long-term ambitions.

8. **Love Him Unconditionally.**

Be there for him through good times and bad, demonstrating unwavering love.

9. **Give Small Gifts.**

Make your husband feel special every day, not just on special occasions.

10. **Maintain His Wardrobe.**

Wash and iron his clothes, including underwear.

11. **Celebrate His Achievements.**

Recognize and celebrate his successes, no matter how small.

12. **Discipline Your Children Together.**

Avoid saying, “I will report you to your daddy.” Work as a team in parenting.

13. **Spend Money Wisely.**

Utilize any money he gives you judiciously, showing you value his contributions.

14. **Submit to Him** as your lord and king.

15. **Pray for Him Regularly.**

Let him know you’re praying for his well-being, demonstrating care for his spiritual life.

16. **Comfort and Console Him.**

Be there to provide strength and support whenever he needs it.

17. **Be Intimate.**

Prioritize your physical relationship and do not neglect your s€xual intimacy.

18. **Keep a Clean Home.**

Maintain a tidy and organized living space.

19. **Prepare Timely Meals.**

Ensure he is fed and nourished regularly.

20. **Show Appreciation.**

Praise him and express gratitude. Encouragement can motivate him to go the extra mile for you.

21. **Make Him Laugh.**

Lighten the mood by making him laugh daily.

**COUPLES WHO HELP EACH OTHER CAN NEVER BE HELPLESS**

You will not fail in marriage, in Jesus' name.

Please share this message with your loved ones.

*THE RESTORER'S DAILY GUIDE*

DATE: SUNDAY 15TH JUNE 2025

THEME: *PRAY FOR ISRAEL*

MEMORIZE
Psalms 122:6
Pray for the peace of Jerusalem: they shall prosper that love thee.

READ
Isaiah 62:1-7 For Zion's sake will I not hold my peace, and for Jerusalem's sake I will not rest, until the righteousness thereof go forth as brightness, and the salvation thereof as a lamp that burneth.
And the Gentiles shall see thy righteousness, and all kings thy glory: and thou shalt be called by a new name, which the mouth of the LORD shall name.
Thou shalt also be a crown of glory in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of thy God.
Thou shalt no more be termed Forsaken; neither shall thy land any more be termed Desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzibah, and thy land Beulah: for the LORD delighteth in thee, and thy land shall be married.
For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.
I have set watchmen upon thy walls, O Jerusalem, which shall never hold their peace day nor night: ye that make mention of the LORD, keep not silence,
And give him no rest, till he establish, and till he make Jerusalem a praise in the earth.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
*Whatever happens to Israel affects the whole world.*

MESSAGE
God's own people; the Israelites are undoubtedly and arguably the most embattled people in all of human history.

They have fought battles from the beginning of their existence as a nation since their exit from their iron masters in Egypt.

They never truly had peace in their supposed promise land.

All through to the genocidal holocaust by the nazis. In it all, they have managed by God's mercy and word of oath to emerge as a strong and enviable democratic nation in the Middle East and around the world.

Today, much more than any other time, they face the greatest threats of annihilation by their avowed enemies.

We need to pray for Israel. If you are reading this devotional guide, then God is calling you to stand with Israel as an intercessor.

There are at least five reasons why we should stand with Israel in prayers.

1. They gave us the Bible; God's Holy Book that has brought restoration and great changes to the whole world. All the inspired writers of the Bible are Jewish people. And more than eighty percent of Bible scenes are Jewish.
2. They gave us the Saviour. Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour came to the earth as a Jew and through the Jewish people.
3. They gave us some of the best technologies in the world. More than ninety percent of the technologies and innovation in today's world are products of the Jewish people.
4. Those who love them prosper. God promised to bless those who bless them and to curse those who curse them. And in today's memory verse, it says; they shall prosper that love her.
5. Israel has produced more men that have shaped and changed the world than probably any other nations on earth. Apart from Bible figures like Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, Moses, Joseph, Daniel, King David, The Lord Jesus Christ and His disciples, Paul the Apostle, we also have the likes of Albert Einstein, Mike Zuckerberg, and many others who positively impacted the world with their innovations.

Beloved, we cannot ignore a people so vitally consequential like the Jewish people.

One of the smallest nations on earth yet so powerful that the whole world shakes when they speak, because of God's covenant with them through their fathers; Father Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

Israel is a land that enjoys divine attention perpetually. The Bible describes the land of Israel with these words;
Deuteronomy 11:12 "A land which the LORD thy God careth for: the eyes of the LORD thy God are always upon it, from the beginning of the year even unto the end of the year."

*We cannot ignore a people that God is so passionately concerned about...*

*Whatever happens to Israel affects the whole world.*

ACTION STEPS
1. Pray for Israel today, Pray for her peace.
2. Pray for peace in the entire middle east.
3. Pray that you will be ready at all times for the rapture of the church in Christ Jesus.

REMEMBER
*Whatever happens to Israel affects the whole world.*

PRAYERS
Dear heavenly Father, Thank you for today's devotional guide. We ask today for your mercy upon Israel as you remember your sacred covenant with Father Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. We decree peace and tranquility in Israel and in the entire middle east in Jesus name. Amen.

AUTHOR: JEDIDIAH DAVID

DAILY READING: Deuteronomy 28-29; Psalms 122-123; Matthew 24-25;

HYMN
1
Guide me, O Thou great Jehovah,
Pilgrim through this barren land;
I am weak, but Thou art mighty;
Hold me with Thy powerful hand
Bread of heaven,
Feed me till I want no more.

2
Open now the crystal fountain,
Whence the healing waters flow;
Let the fiery, cloudy pillar,
Lead me all my journey through:
Strong Deliverer,
Be Thou still my strength and shield.

3
When I tread the verge of Jordan,
Bid my anxious fears subside;
Bear me through the swelling current,
Land me safe on Canaan’s side:
Songs of praises
I will ever give to Thee!

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Good morning, Gada.Chat Members!

Today is a great day, a achievable start, and an opportunity to make a difference.
Let's draw inspiration from our collective strength, resilience, and passion for creating positive change.

As we navigate our individual journeys, remember that every small act of kindness, every generous gesture, and every selfless act has the power to impact lives and shape the world around us.

To our seasoned members, your dedication and leadership are the driving force behind our community's success.
Your stories, experiences, and wisdom inspire us all to strive for more.

To our new members, welcome! We're thrilled to have you join our community of Gada.Chat, which we help each other attend success.
Your unique perspectives and talents will enrich our collective efforts.

Let's continue to uplift, support, and empower one another. Let's celebrate our achievements, learn from our setbacks, and keep pushing boundaries.

Together, we can achieve greatness, create lasting impact, and leave a legacy of love, kindness, and compassion.

Have an amazing day, Members of Brando Group of Companies.

Warm Regards!

THE FISHERMAN AND THE SKYFATHER
(a tribute to fatherhood )
A father’s Day Tale from the Creeks
by
Linda Somiari-Stewart
in the voice of Kombare, Keeper of the Tide-Songs.

In time before timepieces , when the tide carried secrets instead of plastic, there was a village called Opu-Toru-Piri,nestled in the belly of the Delta where the Lufafa River split into seven winding tongues.
The people of this village were born with salt in their blood and paddle-strokes in their hearts.
They spoke to the spirits with drums and fetched fish with prayers.
In this famed village of fishermen lived a young man named Biebuma- sharp-eyed, hot-blooded, and full of questions.
His father, AyibaTonye, was once the most respected fisherman on the Lufafa River.
His canoe, Ebiegberi, had once sliced through the waters like a blade of light.
His nets returned with fish so fat,
you could hear the fat sing while melting on the kitchen altar.

But time, as it does even to crocodiles, bent AyibaTonye’s back.
It drained the fire from his bones.
His boat groaned with every journey.
His nets came up empty.
His hands, once sure, trembled like leaves in Harmattan.
Biebuma watched in silence.
Then in anger.
“You say the river blessed you,” he spat one night,
“but all I see is a weak old man who sits in the dark, clinging to ghosts of old conquests, past glories “
AyibaTonye did not raise his voice.
He only looked into the boy’s eyes and said:
“The day you understand the cost of keeping a household afloat,
you will speak with softer lips.”
Biebuma turned away.
That night, when even the moon slept
and only the fireflies kept watch,
he paddled silently into the outer river
and called upon Opu-ama-so—the Skyfather, the Spirit of winds. The father of the firmament, whose voice shakes palm trees and whose eyes see the beginning and the end.

“Skyfather!” Biebuma cried, standing in his canoe.
“I am the son of a broken man. It is shameful.
Grant me the strength he never gave me!”
The river stilled. The stars blinked once.
Then came the Skyfather’s reply, low and vast:
“You ask for strength.
But do you know the shape of sacrifice?
Here, carry this little burden for one tide.”
A calabash rose from the river, sealed with threads of lightning and marked with ancestral art, than it looked.
Skyfather warned:
“Do not spill even one drop.”
Biebuma took it, laughing.
What weight could break the arms of a youth
who paddled against the tides?
He paddled home and carried the calabash on his shoulder.
But as he walked the narrow footpath to his father’s compound,the calabash grew heavier.
It whispered. It wept.
It spoke in the voices of many distraught of fathers.
His arms ached. His legs trembled.
The trees watched in silence. He staggered and fell!
The calabash shattered into several pieces.
From it poured a vapor of visions - not water, not smoke, but a vapor of remembrances.
As the vapor rose skyward, Biebuma saw his father - young, fierce, strong;
*trading his only canoe to pay for Biebuma’s medicine during the Great Fever.

*Selling the sacred necklace from his grandmother to buy books for Biebuma.

*Wrestling the river god Owoi-Tuburu at midnight, so Biebuma would not drown during his naming rites by the river.

And finally;

*AyibaTonye declining an invitation the Council of Elders feast just to stay home and sing his son to sleep so his wife could rest.

Biebuma fell on his face on the footpath, breathless.
“I did not know,” he whispered.
The Skyfather’s voice returned, gentle now- like rain on old roofs:
“Fathers do not always explain.
Some carry the world in silence.
Some love with backs bent, not with words spoken but with their stoic presence ”

Biebuma became a changed man.
When he got home he didn’t find his father in their house .
He found him at the riverbank,mending a net with cracked fingers.
His father did not look up.
But when Biebuma knelt, AyibaTonye’s hands paused just for a moment. Then he smiled.
From that day forward ,Biebuma fished with the soul of his father in his heart.
His nets filled not only with fish, but with understanding.
He built a new canoe for AyibaTonye but the old man never used it.
He only smiled and said,
“The river gives…
when the son learns to paddle with both arms.”

And the griots still say today in the creeks of Lufafa:
“To know the weight of a present father’s love,
you must carry what he carried…
and listen for the silence he bore.

Women with absent fathers often become beggars for love, safety, and security.
It’s heartbreaking how deeply they invest themselves in others, hoping that their love will be returned, hoping to finally feel chosen, protected, and seen.

They carry a silent ache—an invisible wound that whispers....Maybe if I give more, they’ll stay. Maybe if I’m good enough, they’ll love me.

This voice doesn’t come from who they are today, but from the little girl inside them who kept looking out the window, waiting for someone who never came.

Their love becomes a currency—they trade affection, loyalty, and even their own boundaries just to feel held.

They over-give, over-function, and over-apologize, hoping that one day, someone will finally choose to stay without conditions.

The absence of a father doesn’t just leave a physical void—it creates emotional gaps that women often try to fill with partners, friends, or even strangers.

But what’s missing isn’t just a person—it’s the early belief that they are inherently worthy of love without having to earn it.

She often becomes hyper-independent, saying she doesn’t need anyone.

But behind that strength is exhaustion—from carrying her own pain, from pretending she’s okay, from surviving in a world that never taught her how to receive.

When she finally does meet love, she may not know how to trust it.

Her nervous system doesn’t recognize consistency. It feels foreign. Unsafe even. She might push it away before it has a chance to hold her.

This woman is not broken.
She is someone who has been asked to mother herself before she was ever truly mothered. She’s someone who has built a heart out of scars and silence.

Healing for her doesn’t come from finding the perfect partner. It comes from finding herself. From meeting the little girl within and telling her, “You don’t have to beg anymore. You are already enough.”

When a woman with an absent father begins to reclaim her worth, she stops performing for love and starts attracting it from a place of truth.

Her healing isn’t just hers—it becomes a ripple that touches every generation after her.

And maybe for the first time, she finally breathes deeply… not because someone stayed, but because she stopped abandoning herself.

If you belong to this story, know that healing is possible. I’m here to help you on this journey—just reach out to me.

- Abhikesh