• YOU CANNOT OFFEND A MAN WHO IS FILLED BY THE HOLY SPIRIT BECAUSE HE IS NOT LED BY HIS EMOTIONS HE IS LED BY GOD
    YOU CANNOT OFFEND A MAN WHO IS FILLED BY THE HOLY SPIRIT BECAUSE HE IS NOT LED BY HIS EMOTIONS HE IS LED BY GOD
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  • This is for my sisters

    As tough as it is you need to put yourself first in everything,you need to know your value,how much you worth,you need to protect your feelings,your emotions and you need to protect yourself from crying over and over again about the same thing in your relationships.❤

    Try to build yourself first before you build a man,sei ndirikudaro because you will build a man for another womanyou will build a man for someone to come and eat zvawakadyara
    Dzimwe nguva varume vane mari tend to treat vakadzi sema objects,dont be objectified varume vakaziva kuti iwewe semukadzi hauna chauinacho worse your family kwawakabva they rely on your marriage or relationship vanokuita chikorobhoakaziva kuti your family is as low as your life anokuita saga.
    You will never have a say in your relationship kana your boyfriend asinga kuremekedza as an equal
    Some women are fortunate kuti vakawana varume vanonzwisisa kuti marriage is partnership/ friendship...ko ukasava fortunate?

    As a woman you have to build yourself first so that zvikazodhakwa mu relationship you will leave and find peace
    Don't be a woman who is afraid of losing a man because you fear being alone dont be afraid to move on because you feel no one will take care of youdont be afraid to call it quit when love isn't there anymore.Usatye kubuda mu marriage nekutya kuti vanhu vanozoti chii ndopakuzouraiwa nemurumene GBV.
    It's only you who suffers that's why you have to build yourself before a man comes to build you,build yourself first❤before you build a man
    Vamwe vakadzi are in abusive relationships because of money,material things hanzi because ndine mwana...that's rubbish when it comes to your life...taneta nema suicidal thoughts

    Don't accept to be treated like nothing because you have nothing ❤It's not too late kudzokera ku chikoro,it's not too late kuita course ye dressmaking or hair dressing or any other course so you empower yourself. Don't let pride get in your way kuti vanhu vanoziva ndichi Slayer saka ndikaramba murume who will maintain my life style....if the relationship is toxic leave uchiri mupenyu 🙏🏽
    This is for my sisters🙏😓 As tough as it is you need to put yourself first in everything,you need to know your value,how much you worth,you need to protect your feelings,your emotions and you need to protect yourself from crying over and over again about the same thing in your relationships😭.❤🙏 Try to build yourself first before you build a man,sei ndirikudaro because you will build a man for another woman💔🤞you will build a man for someone to come and eat zvawakadyara💔 Dzimwe nguva varume vane mari tend to treat vakadzi sema objects,dont be objectified 🤞🙏varume vakaziva kuti iwewe semukadzi hauna chauinacho worse your family kwawakabva they rely on your marriage or relationship vanokuita chikorobho💔akaziva kuti your family is as low as your life anokuita saga.💔 You will never have a say in your relationship kana your boyfriend asinga kuremekedza as an equal💔 Some women are fortunate kuti vakawana varume vanonzwisisa kuti marriage is partnership/ friendship...ko ukasava fortunate? As a woman you have to build yourself first so that zvikazodhakwa mu relationship you will leave and find peace😫💔😭 Don't be a woman who is afraid of losing a man because you fear being alone 💔dont be afraid to move on because you feel no one will take care of you💔😭dont be afraid to call it quit when love isn't there anymore.Usatye kubuda mu marriage nekutya kuti vanhu vanozoti chii ndopakuzouraiwa nemurume💔ne GBV. It's only you who suffers that's why you have to build yourself before a man comes to build you,build yourself first❤before you build a man🙏 Vamwe vakadzi are in abusive relationships because of money,material things hanzi because ndine mwana...that's rubbish when it comes to your life...taneta nema suicidal thoughts 💔 Don't accept to be treated like nothing because you have nothing ❤🙏It's not too late kudzokera ku chikoro,it's not too late kuita course ye dressmaking or hair dressing or any other course so you empower yourself. Don't let pride get in your way kuti vanhu vanoziva ndichi Slayer saka ndikaramba murume who will maintain my life style....if the relationship is toxic leave uchiri mupenyu 🙏🏽
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  • IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS.


    Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices.

    These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.”

    1. YOUR EMOTIONS

    The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him.

    If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies.

    Your emotions are good and what makes you human but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners.

    2. UNMET NEEDS

    Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup.
    Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water.

    When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered and you will confuse so many things for love.

    3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE

    A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies…

    But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope.

    So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later.

    4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM

    Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart, and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation….

    But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”.

    Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future.

    5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF)

    When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace.

    You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline.
    =========

    For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice?

    Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you?

    How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?
    IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS. Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices. These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.” 📌 1. YOUR EMOTIONS The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him. If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies. Your emotions are good and what makes you human but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners. 📌 2. UNMET NEEDS Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup. Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water. When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered and you will confuse so many things for love. 📌 3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies… But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope. So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later. 📌 4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart, and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation…. But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”. Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future. 📌 5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF) When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace. You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline. ========= For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice? Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you? How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?
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  • HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

    We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

    WATCH YOUR TONE
    When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

    TIMING
    Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

    WATCH YOUR EYES
    Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

    DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
    If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

    DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
    Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

    DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
    Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

    DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
    A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

    SOOTHE HIM
    If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

    BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
    If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

    NO INSULTS
    Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

    DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
    Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

    BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
    Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

    DON'T BOY HIM
    Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

    DON'T TALK AT HIM
    Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

    TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
    You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

    TAKE HIM ON A DATE
    Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

    DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
    Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

    DON'T PUSH HIM
    Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

    BE FLEXIBLE
    Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
    Read less.

    Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

    Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

    Date nights are a must.
    Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

    Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

    Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
    We all don’t perceive love the same way.

    Go to bed mad sometimes.
    Don’t force a resolution.
    Sleeping on it does help.

    When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

    It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
    Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
    It’s normal.
    It will fade.
    This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

    Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

    It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

    It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
    It helps.
    It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

    Talk about money.
    Talk about your financial goals.
    Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

    Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

    Ask questions like

    “What do you need to see more of from me?”
    “How can we understand each other better?”

    And most importantly, be kind to each other.

    Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

    Fight for each other.

    Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

    But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
    ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
    HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help.. WATCH YOUR TONE When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace TIMING Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time WATCH YOUR EYES Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN) Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask. DON'T CAUSE A SCENE A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends SOOTHE HIM If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause. NO INSULTS Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;) Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones DON'T BOY HIM Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him DON'T TALK AT HIM Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones TAKE HIM ON A DATE Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat DON'T PUSH HIM Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him BE FLEXIBLE Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience Read less. Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽 Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones Every couple goes through the “boring” stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like “What do you need to see more of from me?” “How can we understand each other better?” And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.. ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
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  • THEME OF SPEECHLESS BY MICHEAL JACKSON

    Speechless" by Michael Jackson centers around the overwhelming power of love that defies articulation. The lyrics explore how intense and magical love can render words inadequate, leaving the speaker in a state of genuine, wordless awe. In essence, it's an ode to a love so all-encompassing that it bypasses the need for verbal communication, conveying deep emotions through silence rather than structured language
    The song also hints at a certain vulnerability—the idea that being completely exposed to such strong feelings can be both beautiful and disarming. This vulnerability is intertwined with the transformative nature of love, suggesting that when love reaches its fullest form, it elevates one beyond the ordinary constraints of expression. The result is a reflective, almost spiritual contemplation of how love can leave us utterly "speechless" in its profound impact

    THEME OF SPEECHLESS BY MICHEAL JACKSON Speechless" by Michael Jackson centers around the overwhelming power of love that defies articulation. The lyrics explore how intense and magical love can render words inadequate, leaving the speaker in a state of genuine, wordless awe. In essence, it's an ode to a love so all-encompassing that it bypasses the need for verbal communication, conveying deep emotions through silence rather than structured language The song also hints at a certain vulnerability—the idea that being completely exposed to such strong feelings can be both beautiful and disarming. This vulnerability is intertwined with the transformative nature of love, suggesting that when love reaches its fullest form, it elevates one beyond the ordinary constraints of expression. The result is a reflective, almost spiritual contemplation of how love can leave us utterly "speechless" in its profound impact
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  • IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS.


    Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices.

    These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.”

    1. YOUR EMOTIONS

    The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him.

    If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies.

    Your emotions are good and what makes you human, but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners.

    2. UNMET NEEDS

    Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup.
    Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water.

    When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered, and you will confuse so many things for love.

    3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE

    A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies…

    But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope.

    So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later.

    4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM

    Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation….

    But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”.

    Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future.

    5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF)

    When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace.

    You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline.
    =========

    For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice?

    Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you?

    How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?
    IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS. 🧠💔 Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices. These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.” 📌 1. YOUR EMOTIONS The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him. If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies. Your emotions are good and what makes you human, but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners. 📌 2. UNMET NEEDS Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup. Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water. When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered, and you will confuse so many things for love. 📌 3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies… But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope. So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later. 📌 4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation…. But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”. Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future. 📌 5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF) When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace. You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline. ========= For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice? Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you? How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?
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  • I was at the fueling station earlier today. While on the queue, the Napep man beside me also on queue to the same pump was on call with his wife.

    His phone had rang twice before he eventually picked. His wife mentioned that he didn’t drop any money for the children to eat, and in response, he said reminded her that he already told her he wanted to use the money left with him to buy fuel into his Keke so that he can work and send money. The call was audible as it was on speaker.

    The worried wife kept mentioning that the children were already crying. But he kept telling his wife that he would send money immediately he works.

    After the call, he was speaking with himself and talking how people weren’t going out as the normal days. With his eyes fixed at a particular spot of the keke.

    I was so bothered for him, his wife and the hungry children.

    When we got to the pump, the attendant could either sell to me or him as we were beside each other due to the position of our fuel tanks.

    And he told the pump attendant to sell for me. I immediately told the attendant to sell for him.

    “Oya, sell One thousand two hundred own”

    While he stretched his hand to give the attendant the money.

    Then I said young lady, Pls fill the tank of his keke”

    He looked at me like, No, she shouldn’t as he doesn’t have that money to pay.

    I told him not to worry, and that I will pay.

    And he said, since I started driving this keke, I have never bought full tank.

    With tears on his eyes, he went down and I carried him up.

    After I bought mine and as I was driving out of the staton, I didn’t know he was waiting for me just outside the gate.

    When I saw him, I stopped he couldn’t stop thanking me.

    I simply told him, I overheard the call with his wife wish caught my emotions.

    My parents taught me how to be kind to people. My dad would say, a help you render today is coming for you tomorrow.

    One thousand two hundred can not feed husband and wife, let alone with the children.

    I requested for his account details and sent him money. I equally asked him to call his wife and I spoke with her. When she sent her details, I sent her money to buy some food stuffs.

    He was literally in tears as I drove off, and I prayed for them that God eases their affairs.

    And the one reason why I share this— If life is kind to you, Pls extend it and be kind to people.

    Oluwanishola Akeju
    I was at the fueling station earlier today. While on the queue, the Napep man beside me also on queue to the same pump was on call with his wife. His phone had rang twice before he eventually picked. His wife mentioned that he didn’t drop any money for the children to eat, and in response, he said reminded her that he already told her he wanted to use the money left with him to buy fuel into his Keke so that he can work and send money. The call was audible as it was on speaker. The worried wife kept mentioning that the children were already crying. But he kept telling his wife that he would send money immediately he works. After the call, he was speaking with himself and talking how people weren’t going out as the normal days. With his eyes fixed at a particular spot of the keke. I was so bothered for him, his wife and the hungry children. When we got to the pump, the attendant could either sell to me or him as we were beside each other due to the position of our fuel tanks. And he told the pump attendant to sell for me. I immediately told the attendant to sell for him. “Oya, sell One thousand two hundred own” While he stretched his hand to give the attendant the money. Then I said young lady, Pls fill the tank of his keke” He looked at me like, No, she shouldn’t as he doesn’t have that money to pay. I told him not to worry, and that I will pay. And he said, since I started driving this keke, I have never bought full tank. With tears on his eyes, he went down and I carried him up. After I bought mine and as I was driving out of the staton, I didn’t know he was waiting for me just outside the gate. When I saw him, I stopped he couldn’t stop thanking me. I simply told him, I overheard the call with his wife wish caught my emotions. My parents taught me how to be kind to people. My dad would say, a help you render today is coming for you tomorrow. One thousand two hundred can not feed husband and wife, let alone with the children. I requested for his account details and sent him money. I equally asked him to call his wife and I spoke with her. When she sent her details, I sent her money to buy some food stuffs. He was literally in tears as I drove off, and I prayed for them that God eases their affairs. And the one reason why I share this— If life is kind to you, Pls extend it and be kind to people. Oluwanishola Akeju
    Love
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  • 12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE



    Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE.

    HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

    1. Never say a word you may later regret.
    Never let your emotions control you.
    No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue.
    Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues.

    Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight.

    2. Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry.
    One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful.

    Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage-

    There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home.

    Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage.

    3. Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce.

    Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

    So fight for your marriage.

    4. Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away.

    5. Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue.

    Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret.

    6. NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage

    7. Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath.

    8. Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things

    9. NEVER raise your hand on your spouse.

    Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse.

    10. Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue

    11. Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody

    No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

    Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses.

    Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them.

    Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife

    Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s.

    Invest in your marriage,

    12. NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER

    Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue.

    Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy.

    You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name
    12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE. HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1. 📌Never say a word you may later regret. Never let your emotions control you. No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue. Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues. Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight. 2. 📌Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry. One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful. Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage- There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home. Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage. 3. 📌Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce. Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there. So fight for your marriage. 4. 📌Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away. 5. 📌Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue. Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret. 6. 📌NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage 7. 📌Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath. 8. 📌Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things 9. 📌NEVER raise your hand on your spouse. Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse. 10. 📌Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue 11. 📌Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength. Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses. Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them. Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s. Invest in your marriage, 12. 📌NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue. Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name
    Love
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  • *LEAVE YOUR FEMALE STUDENTS ALONE!*

    This is not just a warn!ng—this is a cry. A cry for the girl child. A cry for our schools. A cry for sanity.

    Dear young male teacher,

    You are gifted. You are admired. Your presence alone makes the girls sit up, eager to learn. You speak with passion, you dress smart, you explain well—and you may not know this—but many of those girls in your class are secretly cru$h!ng on you.

    But listen carefully: Their admiration is not permission. Their smiles are not an invitation. Their boldness is not maturity.

    They are still children. Tender. VulnerabI3. Still figuring out their emotions. What they feel is not love—it is confusion dressed in admiration. They trust you. They believe in you. And when you cross that sacred line… you k!II something in them.

    You kiIIher confidence.
    You kiII her future.
    You kiII her right to grow up whole and safe.

    Let me tell you what many don’t talk about.

    There are girls walking around today—empty, br0ken, hiding pa!n under their makeup—because a teacher who was supposed to protect them u$ed them.

    Some dropped out of school with swollen bellies.
    Some ended up in danger0u$ relationships they didn’t deserve.
    Some can no longer focus in class.
    Some lost their voice.
    Some have never healed.

    And what’s worse? Many of them still blame themselves.

    You were supposed to be her mentor. Her light. Her guide. Instead, you became her first heartbreak£ her first betrayal, her first $hame.

    Let me say this loud and clear: If a girl student ever gets bold enough to come close, it is because you have already given her the signal.
    Yes—you may not have touched her yet, but your boundary is already weak. And weak boundaries are a silent invitation to destruct!on.

    Don’t tell yourself “it’s love.” It’s not.
    Don’t say “she started it.” She didn’t.
    Don’t say “others have done it.” That’s no excuse.

    The truth is: many male teachers have ru!ned the destiny of the girl child in the name of love. And nobody talks about it enough.

    Be different.

    Don’t become another reason why a girl can’t look a male teacher in the eye without f£ar. Don’t become the face she remembers every time the word “trust” is mentioned. Don’t destr0y a child to satisfy your weakness.

    You are not just teaching a subject—you are shaping a soul.

    So protect her.
    Guard your role.
    Be disciplined.
    Be a real man.
    Be the teacher she’ll write about with pride—not pa!n.

    Let this be the end of this madn€$$.
    Let the classroom be a place of growth, not trau.ma.

    If this message touched your heart, share it like fire.
    We must shout it louder until every teacher hears it:

    Leave the girl child alone. Let her grow. Let her breathe. Let her be safe.
    *LEAVE YOUR FEMALE STUDENTS ALONE!* This is not just a warn!ng—this is a cry. A cry for the girl child. A cry for our schools. A cry for sanity. Dear young male teacher, You are gifted. You are admired. Your presence alone makes the girls sit up, eager to learn. You speak with passion, you dress smart, you explain well—and you may not know this—but many of those girls in your class are secretly cru$h!ng on you. But listen carefully: Their admiration is not permission. Their smiles are not an invitation. Their boldness is not maturity. They are still children. Tender. VulnerabI3. Still figuring out their emotions. What they feel is not love—it is confusion dressed in admiration. They trust you. They believe in you. And when you cross that sacred line… you k!II something in them. You kiIIher confidence. You kiII her future. You kiII her right to grow up whole and safe. Let me tell you what many don’t talk about. There are girls walking around today—empty, br0ken, hiding pa!n under their makeup—because a teacher who was supposed to protect them u$ed them. Some dropped out of school with swollen bellies. Some ended up in danger0u$ relationships they didn’t deserve. Some can no longer focus in class. Some lost their voice. Some have never healed. And what’s worse? Many of them still blame themselves. You were supposed to be her mentor. Her light. Her guide. Instead, you became her first heartbreak£ her first betrayal, her first $hame. Let me say this loud and clear: If a girl student ever gets bold enough to come close, it is because you have already given her the signal. Yes—you may not have touched her yet, but your boundary is already weak. And weak boundaries are a silent invitation to destruct!on. Don’t tell yourself “it’s love.” It’s not. Don’t say “she started it.” She didn’t. Don’t say “others have done it.” That’s no excuse. The truth is: many male teachers have ru!ned the destiny of the girl child in the name of love. And nobody talks about it enough. Be different. Don’t become another reason why a girl can’t look a male teacher in the eye without f£ar. Don’t become the face she remembers every time the word “trust” is mentioned. Don’t destr0y a child to satisfy your weakness. You are not just teaching a subject—you are shaping a soul. So protect her. Guard your role. Be disciplined. Be a real man. Be the teacher she’ll write about with pride—not pa!n. Let this be the end of this madn€$$. Let the classroom be a place of growth, not trau.ma. If this message touched your heart, share it like fire. We must shout it louder until every teacher hears it: Leave the girl child alone. Let her grow. Let her breathe. Let her be safe.
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  • Keeping yourself occupied with positive activities can help to mitigate painful emotions
    Keeping yourself occupied with positive activities can help to mitigate painful emotions
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  • 12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE



    Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE.

    HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

    1. Never say a word you may later regret.
    Never let your emotions control you.
    No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue.
    Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues.

    Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight.

    2. Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry.
    One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful.

    Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage-

    There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home.

    Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage.

    3. Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce.

    Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

    So fight for your marriage.

    4. Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away.

    5. Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue.

    Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret.

    6. NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage

    7. Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath.

    8. Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things

    9. NEVER raise your hand on your spouse.

    Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse.

    10. Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue

    11. Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody

    No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

    Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses.

    Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them.

    Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife

    Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s.

    Invest in your marriage,

    12. NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER

    Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue.

    Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy.

    You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

    Kindly share this message with your loved ones
    12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE. HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1. 📌Never say a word you may later regret. Never let your emotions control you. No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue. Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues. Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight. 2. 📌Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry. One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful. Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage- There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home. Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage. 3. 📌Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce. Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there. So fight for your marriage. 4. 📌Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away. 5. 📌Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue. Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret. 6. 📌NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage 7. 📌Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath. 8. 📌Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things 9. 📌NEVER raise your hand on your spouse. Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse. 10. 📌Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue 11. 📌Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength. Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses. Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them. Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s. Invest in your marriage, 12. 📌NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue. Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name Kindly share this message with your loved ones 🙏
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  • How to Show Love Without Words

    Actions Speak Louder Than Words

    Love is a language that goes beyond words. While verbal expressions are important, the most profound ways of showing love often lie in our actions. Sometimes, your gestures, attention, and thoughtfulness can speak volumes about your feelings, building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s how you can express love without saying a single word.

    1. Be Present and Attentive

    One of the greatest gifts you can give your partner is your undivided attention. In a world filled with distractions, being present in the moment is a powerful act of love. Put down your phone, look into their eyes, and truly listen. When you show that you value their thoughts and emotions, it communicates care and respect more effectively than words ever could.

    2. Perform Small Acts of Kindness

    It’s the little things that count. Bringing them their favourite coffee, cooking a meal, or simply doing a chore they dislike can brighten their day. These acts of kindness show that you pay attention to their needs and want to make their life easier.

    3. Physical Touch

    Non-verbal communication through physical touch is a cornerstone of expressing love. A warm hug, holding hands, or a gentle pat on the back can convey comfort, security, and affection. These simple gestures remind your partner that you are there for them, offering support and love.

    4. Quality Time

    Spending quality time together strengthens the bond between you and your partner. Plan activities they enjoy, go for a walk or watch a movie together. By dedicating time to shared experiences, you show that their presence is a priority in your life.

    5. Thoughtful Surprises

    Surprises, big or small, are wonderful ways to express love. It could be as simple as leaving a handwritten note or as elaborate as planning a surprise date. These thoughtful gestures show that you’ve been thinking about them and want to make them feel special.

    6. Body Language

    Your body language speaks volumes. A loving glance, a soft smile, or even sitting close during a quiet moment can express feelings of love and comfort. Non-verbal cues are subtle but powerful ways to show how much you care.

    7. Support Their Dreams

    Encourage your partner’s passions and goals. Being their cheerleader and offering your support, whether it’s attending their events, helping them prepare, or simply showing interest, is a profound way to demonstrate your love. Your belief in their abilities can inspire confidence and strengthen your connection.

    8. Be Thoughtful and Observant

    Noticing the little things about your partner shows how much you care. Remember their preferences, pay attention to their mood, and anticipate their needs. For example, offering comfort when they’re stressed or celebrating their small achievements shows that you’re attuned to their life.

    9. Acts of Service

    Actions often speak louder than words, especially when it comes to love. Help them with a task, run an errand, or fix something around the house. These acts of service show your partner that you’re willing to put in the effort to make their life easier and happier.

    10. Respect Their Space

    Sometimes, love means giving space. Respect their boundaries and allow them time to recharge when needed. This shows that you value their individuality and understand their need for balance in the relationship.

    11. Express Gratitude

    Showing appreciation is a beautiful way to convey love. A genuine smile, a nod of acknowledgment, or a small token of gratitude can mean the world to your partner. Gratitude fosters positivity and strengthens emotional intimacy.

    12. Be Consistent

    Love is not just about grand gestures but also about consistent efforts. Small, daily acts of love build a foundation of trust and affection. Whether it’s making them a morning coffee or simply being there when they need you, consistency reassures your partner of your unwavering love.

    Final Thoughts

    Love is an art that doesn’t always require words. Through actions, attentiveness, and thoughtfulness, you can create a relationship that thrives on mutual respect and understanding.

    At the end of the day, love is about making your partner feel cherished, secure, and valued. Speak through your actions, and you’ll discover that the language of love is truly universal.
    How to Show Love Without Words Actions Speak Louder Than Words Love is a language that goes beyond words. While verbal expressions are important, the most profound ways of showing love often lie in our actions. Sometimes, your gestures, attention, and thoughtfulness can speak volumes about your feelings, building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s how you can express love without saying a single word. 1. Be Present and Attentive One of the greatest gifts you can give your partner is your undivided attention. In a world filled with distractions, being present in the moment is a powerful act of love. Put down your phone, look into their eyes, and truly listen. When you show that you value their thoughts and emotions, it communicates care and respect more effectively than words ever could. 2. Perform Small Acts of Kindness It’s the little things that count. Bringing them their favourite coffee, cooking a meal, or simply doing a chore they dislike can brighten their day. These acts of kindness show that you pay attention to their needs and want to make their life easier. 3. Physical Touch Non-verbal communication through physical touch is a cornerstone of expressing love. A warm hug, holding hands, or a gentle pat on the back can convey comfort, security, and affection. These simple gestures remind your partner that you are there for them, offering support and love. 4. Quality Time Spending quality time together strengthens the bond between you and your partner. Plan activities they enjoy, go for a walk or watch a movie together. By dedicating time to shared experiences, you show that their presence is a priority in your life. 5. Thoughtful Surprises Surprises, big or small, are wonderful ways to express love. It could be as simple as leaving a handwritten note or as elaborate as planning a surprise date. These thoughtful gestures show that you’ve been thinking about them and want to make them feel special. 6. Body Language Your body language speaks volumes. A loving glance, a soft smile, or even sitting close during a quiet moment can express feelings of love and comfort. Non-verbal cues are subtle but powerful ways to show how much you care. 7. Support Their Dreams Encourage your partner’s passions and goals. Being their cheerleader and offering your support, whether it’s attending their events, helping them prepare, or simply showing interest, is a profound way to demonstrate your love. Your belief in their abilities can inspire confidence and strengthen your connection. 8. Be Thoughtful and Observant Noticing the little things about your partner shows how much you care. Remember their preferences, pay attention to their mood, and anticipate their needs. For example, offering comfort when they’re stressed or celebrating their small achievements shows that you’re attuned to their life. 9. Acts of Service Actions often speak louder than words, especially when it comes to love. Help them with a task, run an errand, or fix something around the house. These acts of service show your partner that you’re willing to put in the effort to make their life easier and happier. 10. Respect Their Space Sometimes, love means giving space. Respect their boundaries and allow them time to recharge when needed. This shows that you value their individuality and understand their need for balance in the relationship. 11. Express Gratitude Showing appreciation is a beautiful way to convey love. A genuine smile, a nod of acknowledgment, or a small token of gratitude can mean the world to your partner. Gratitude fosters positivity and strengthens emotional intimacy. 12. Be Consistent Love is not just about grand gestures but also about consistent efforts. Small, daily acts of love build a foundation of trust and affection. Whether it’s making them a morning coffee or simply being there when they need you, consistency reassures your partner of your unwavering love. Final Thoughts Love is an art that doesn’t always require words. Through actions, attentiveness, and thoughtfulness, you can create a relationship that thrives on mutual respect and understanding. At the end of the day, love is about making your partner feel cherished, secure, and valued. Speak through your actions, and you’ll discover that the language of love is truly universal.
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