If you’re married or not married yet but you want to be a good husband and a great dad someday read this.
This isn’t hearsay. It’s my personal experience talking
1. Don’t keep late nights.
One of the things that earned me serious respect in my house is simple: I come home by 7pm.
I learned it from my dad.
No late-night hanging around. You avoid a lot of unnecessary wahala that way.
If you must stay late. Let your wife know who you are with where you are.
2. Listen to your wife.
I told a newly married friend:
If your wife is a good woman—listen to her.
Women have strong instincts. From experience, 99% of what my wife says turns out right.
Two old men in their 80s even told me the same thing peace starts from listening. Her opinion really matters bro. Don’t take it for granted.
3. Don’t be an absent father.
My kids no dey joke with me.
I bath them. I play with them. I take them out.
And guess what? Children don’t forget.
The little things hold big memory when they grow up. Make out time to always be presents.
This is very important ooo. So you won’t come to say your kids love your wife more than you.
4. Do house chores.
Yes. As a man.
I sweep, I clean, I help. It doesn’t make you less of a man.
It teaches your sons that housework isn’t “woman work.”
It creates bonding with your wife. If I can do it and still have peace-you can too. My kids know I can cook because I do it sometimes. They don’t see it as a big deal anymore.
5. Stick with one woman your wife.
Let me tell you the plain truth:
There is no trophy for sleeping with everything in skirt.
Mekwe is mekwe.
If you want to spice things, spice it with your wife.
Men who stay faithful grow faster mentally, spiritually, and financially. Real men have one woman while boys sleep with anything under skirt anyways choose where you belong.
6. Say “I love you” to your wife and kids.
Even if you’re showing it, still say it.
Some of us never heard it growing up.
Now I say it to my wife and kids daily.
And they say it back.
It makes them expressive, open, and confident.
Teach them to your kids early.
7. Don’t take advice from everybody.
Only learn from people whose homes you respect.
People can advise you how to run your home
but they won’t let you advise them.
If washing your wife’s bra brings peace, my brother wash it well.
At the end of the day, what you need is peace, not public opinion.
8. Never raise your hand on your wife.
No matter what. Don’t do it.
The day you raise your hand even once you’ve damaged something in that home.
Even if you stop, the scar remains.
Your kids will see it and think it’s normal.
The best punishment is silence or just leave the house when you feel like you’re losing control.
9. Last but not the least:
It is your duty as a man to provide for your home.
Do it with pride, no matter the hustle.
Whether you’re pushing wheelbarrow or sitting in office own it.
But also share responsibility, so you don’t break down early trying to carry everything alone.
And as you build yourself, build your wife too.
Nobody knows tomorrow.
How you treat your wife and kids today will determine how they treat you in old age.
What I just wrote is for intentional men
Men who want to be present. Men who want to build.
Men who are called simps or finished men just because they love and lead their homes with sense.
If you’re not one of them, skip the post.
No need to argue or feel triggered.
Those I’m speaking to already know themselves.
Because at the end of the day The kind of man you are at home matters more than the one you act like outside.
Copied.
If you’re married or not married yet but you want to be a good husband and a great dad someday read this.
This isn’t hearsay. It’s my personal experience talking
1. Don’t keep late nights.
One of the things that earned me serious respect in my house is simple: I come home by 7pm.
I learned it from my dad.
No late-night hanging around. You avoid a lot of unnecessary wahala that way.
If you must stay late. Let your wife know who you are with where you are.
2. Listen to your wife.
I told a newly married friend:
If your wife is a good woman—listen to her.
Women have strong instincts. From experience, 99% of what my wife says turns out right.
Two old men in their 80s even told me the same thing peace starts from listening. Her opinion really matters bro. Don’t take it for granted.
3. Don’t be an absent father.
My kids no dey joke with me.
I bath them. I play with them. I take them out.
And guess what? Children don’t forget.
The little things hold big memory when they grow up. Make out time to always be presents.
This is very important ooo. So you won’t come to say your kids love your wife more than you.
4. Do house chores.
Yes. As a man.
I sweep, I clean, I help. It doesn’t make you less of a man.
It teaches your sons that housework isn’t “woman work.”
It creates bonding with your wife. If I can do it and still have peace-you can too. My kids know I can cook because I do it sometimes. They don’t see it as a big deal anymore.
5. Stick with one woman your wife.
Let me tell you the plain truth:
There is no trophy for sleeping with everything in skirt.
Mekwe is mekwe.
If you want to spice things, spice it with your wife.
Men who stay faithful grow faster mentally, spiritually, and financially. Real men have one woman while boys sleep with anything under skirt anyways choose where you belong.
6. Say “I love you” to your wife and kids.
Even if you’re showing it, still say it.
Some of us never heard it growing up.
Now I say it to my wife and kids daily.
And they say it back.
It makes them expressive, open, and confident.
Teach them to your kids early.
7. Don’t take advice from everybody.
Only learn from people whose homes you respect.
People can advise you how to run your home
but they won’t let you advise them.
If washing your wife’s bra brings peace, my brother wash it well.
At the end of the day, what you need is peace, not public opinion.
8. Never raise your hand on your wife.
No matter what. Don’t do it.
The day you raise your hand even once you’ve damaged something in that home.
Even if you stop, the scar remains.
Your kids will see it and think it’s normal.
The best punishment is silence or just leave the house when you feel like you’re losing control.
9. Last but not the least:
It is your duty as a man to provide for your home.
Do it with pride, no matter the hustle.
Whether you’re pushing wheelbarrow or sitting in office own it.
But also share responsibility, so you don’t break down early trying to carry everything alone.
And as you build yourself, build your wife too.
Nobody knows tomorrow.
How you treat your wife and kids today will determine how they treat you in old age.
What I just wrote is for intentional men
Men who want to be present. Men who want to build.
Men who are called simps or finished men just because they love and lead their homes with sense.
If you’re not one of them, skip the post.
No need to argue or feel triggered.
Those I’m speaking to already know themselves.
Because at the end of the day The kind of man you are at home matters more than the one you act like outside.
Copied.
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