When I get married an hour before my husband gets home i will shower + put on something cute while i pray for him to get home safely.

Thirty minutes before he’s home i'll make sure his food is cooking and making the house smell good. I'll also turn on a candle (if i have one)

fifteen mins before he’s home i vacuum, and tidy up. i also lay out his pajamas so he can shower and get dressed. I'll also start playing worship music or just worship myself.

it is small details but his reaction when he comes home is everything 🥹

now pray for me to get a husband first

*16 Texts Every Man Wishes His Lady Would Send Him*


1. "You are looking good today"

Yes, lady, men need compliments too

2. "Yesterday was amazing"

Tell him how much you enjoyed spending time with him yesterday. If you two made love, tell your husband how great he was in bed last night. It boosts his ego


3. "I am blessed to have you"

Show him you appreciate how fortunate you are to have him. It makes him feel valued

4. "Please pray for me"

This shows you need him and his prayers. Involving God in your love shows how serious and sacred your love is

5. "What do I cook for you tonight?"

Men love to eat. That you would ask him what he wants, makes him excited

6. "I love you"

No matter how macho men try to be, they love being told this by the woman they love

7. "Can I take you out?"

Surprise him. Treat him. A Queen can also plan a date for her King. Men love women who take charge sometimes. It's not every time things should be left to him

8. "I am so wet"

Men love it when the woman they are faithful to reveals she is sexually aroused. Lady, show him that when you think of sex you think of him and are not shy about it. A man who loves you enjoys receiving breaking news of your sexuality

9. "Thank you for the phone call"

The moment after he gives you a phone-call that makes you laugh, smile, or shows care; send him a text that demonstrates your gratitude

10. "I will be late, I'll make it up to you"

Some women tend to delay when going on a date or event. Don't keep him waiting and expect him to undersrand because he is your man. Inform him you will be late

11. "I am wearing your favourite underwear"

Tell him when you are wearing his favourite underwear, that black thong that he likes, that bra he likes to unstrap. Let him know when you are not wearing any underwear, no bra, when your nipples get hard. This playful and intimate info makes his blood run

12. "Are you OK?"

Many women want the man to care and ask how she is but don't do the same for the man. Find out how your man is, how his day has gone. Many men are stresssed in need of their woman/wife to show concern. So many men have issues and need a safe place to vent

13. "You are a good man"

In a world where women talk badly about men and have given up on men, this is the greatest compliment. If you have a good man, appreciate him. Him being a good man doesn't mean he is perfect, but the more you praise him, the better he will become, and the more effort he will put

14. "I can't wait for us to leave this place and be alone with you"

When you are both in the same venue full of people, send him this text. He will read it, smile, look at you and your eyes meet with intense passion. Show him you look forward to private moments with him

15. "God bless your day, you are blessed"

As his woman/wife, even without him asking; bless his day. Send him a message when he is at work; blessing him, calling him blessed. Your words are powerful and shape him

16. "You are an amazing father"

He is there, doing the best he can for your child/children; thank him and constantly recognize his greatness, and greatness will never leave him

Have a wonderful and blessed day!

*ALL COUPLES SHOULD BE PATIENT TO READ THIS WRITEUP TO THE END*

Susan attended a funeral service of her friend who lost her husband at Langata Cemetery.

Susan held her wailing friend strongly as the casket was lowered into the freshly dug grave.

Susan's friend was screaming "My husband don't leave me, please, don't leave me!" as people looked on feeling sad for her.

The children were screaming too. Losing a father is not an easy thing.

If not for Susan, the friend would have thrown herself into the grave to be buried with her husband who died of suicide. Because, the husband found no meaning in life and he killed himself.

Susan remembered the many times the friend would say she is tired of her good for nothing husband and here she is screaming and feeling lost because the husband is no more.

The friend cried till she fainted. Susan and others there carried the devasted woman to an ambulance for first aid.

As Susan watched the spectacle of broken hearts crying for a man who will never ever come back, Susan remembered her husband.

Susan remembered how much she takes her husband for granted.

How she talks to him however she pleases.

How she gives him prolonged silent treatment over issues they can easily resolve.

How she denied him sex many times. And she asked herself "What if it my husband that is buried today how would I feel?" Susan thought.

Susan remembered that she argued with her husband and he left the house with tension between them just because after all these years, he still leaves his plate in the living room instead of taking it to the sink after eating.

"God forbid that my husband die, but what if as my husband went out in anger and never returns and passes on, is this the last memory I would like my husband and I to have?" She thought again.

Susan began to remember all the wonderful things her husband has done in the past, which she never taught of before except complaining.

Now, in her heart, she began to appreciate him for all his efforts no matter how small it was.

At that moment, she realise her areas of improvement, and said to herself "there is no other man I would rather share my life with than my loving husband."

She thought of life without him and it scared her. And said, "I would rather have disagreements with my loving husband than to lose him to death. I prefer his sense of humour and laughter than to cry for losing him."

That evening, after Susan took her widowed friend to a safe place, she passed by at the supermarket and bought her husband a card saying "Thank you for being in my life"

And when she got home, she cooked her husband's favourite meal and asked her children to join her in celebrating her husband.

That night, her husband came home expecting a fight from Susan, but instead, he got greeting and hugs from Susan and the children.

He was welcomed with songs, dancing and laughter, cute drawings of him with warm messages from the children, a home cooked meal, pleasant conversations. And Susan's husband bust into tears when Susan and the children told him how much they love him and then surrounded him to pray for him.

A grown man cried like a baby because of love. He felt needed and he asked them "Is today father's day?"

Susan looked into his eyes and said, "No, it is lovers day. Because, everyday is special with you around me from now on, we will do nothing but love each other.

I don't know how long we have to live together, but it will not be wasted by fights, misunderstanding, complains and lack of appreciation.

In case you have forgotten, "I love you"

"I love you too" said Susan's husband as he kissed and hugged Susan, the children dancing and cheering on.

Children long for a home where mom and dad give each other warmth.

Since then, both Susan and her husband have been a stronger and more loving couple after realizing that tomorrow is not guaranteed.


~ Sometimes the death of someone wakes us up to the reality of life.

~ Don't let the death of your spouse wake you up to the reality of life, it will be too late.

~ God forbid, if your spouse die today, will you regret how you have been treating him/her?

~ Do you think living alone without your spouse will be joyful to you?

~ Will you be able to transfer your children to another man or woman whom they have not grown to know?

~ If you decide to be a single father or mother, will you be able to do the job alone?

~ Can you stand the pain of your kids asking why they don't have a father or mother like others?

~ What is it that you cannot mend in your marriage?

~ No doubt its not easy, but prayerfully love your spouse while he/she lives. It rubs on the children as well.

So mend your home, don't destroy it.

*A Cry for Our Children: A Wake-Up Call to Parents and a Return to Godly Parenting*

With a heavy heart, I watched a video making rounds - the SS3 students, young minds who just concluded their WAEC exams, engaging in shameful and immoral displays in the name of celebration. What should have been a moment of reflection has been turned into a festival of indecency and mockery of values.

This is not the generation our forefathers prayed for.

We are raising a generation that seems to have lost its way—where vulgarity is called expression, and shame is dismissed as old-fashioned. These are not just "children having fun." These are warning signs of a decaying moral foundation.

To every parent out there: do not assume your child knows better. Do not assume they are safe just because you provide, clothe, and send them to school. School can never ever do everything. The school can never be successful if a family foundation and culture are not already there. Cultivate moral principles at ages 1 and 12, then the school will build from there. Be close to your children. Talk to them. Know their friends. Know their struggles. Monitor their online habits. Most importantly—pray for them, and pray with them.

The truth is painful: many parents are present in the home but absent in the lives of their children.

We must return to the way of our grandparents—a way built on discipline, respect, fear of God, and community accountability. They didn’t need the internet to teach values. They taught it at dawn prayers, at family meals, with the rod of correction wrapped in deep love and concern.

"Spare the rod and spoil the child." This is not just a saying—it’s a divine imperative as well as principle. A generation not corrected will surely correct itself in the street, behind bars, or on a viral video for the world to scorn.

Dear parent, wake up. You are not just raising a child. You are shaping a future husband, a future wife, a future leader. Don’t leave that to chance. The enemy is not sleeping—why should you?

We must return to God. We must return to prayer. We must return to values, a return to character moulding. It takes time, it needs time. It is cumbersome, it is not an easy job as many modern day parents think. It is painstaking. May God have mercy on this generation. May He open our eyes before it is too late.

*Let this video not just make us shake our heads. Let it shake us back to responsibility.*

Rev. Fr. Francis UNEGBU (PhD)
Noble Mentor

Hypertension Is Not a Salt Problem.
It’s a metabolic warning shot.
Let me say it loud and clear:
Salt is not your enemy.
Your metabolism is.
Here’s what they won’t tell you in the hospital:
Stress raises cortisol.
Cortisol raises insulin.
Insulin tells your kidneys to hold onto sodium.
Sodium holds water.
Water raises blood volume.
And boom—your blood pressure climbs.
It’s not just the salt on your stew.
It’s the sugar in your bread.
The fake food on your plate.
The chronic stress in your life.
The insulin resistance in your cells.
The weak mitochondria that can’t regulate inflammation.
You’re not salty.
You’re inflamed.
You’re insulin resistant.
You’re overstressed, overfed, undernourished.
And no, skipping table salt won’t fix that.
What actually helps?
Rebuilding mineral balance
Supporting mitochondrial energy
💪🏽 Resetting insulin sensitivity
🫗 Helping your kidneys let go of what they’re hoarding
Eating food that whispers “you’re safe” to your nervous system
This is why some people eat salty soups and live long…
And others eat “clean” with bread and juice and still end up in dialysis at 40.


-DOF

Dear Parents

One of the best gifts you can give to your children is a good home. Creating a positive environment involves supporting their physical, emotional, and psychological development. Nothing stresses a child more than a home where parents are in turmoil.

Provide your child with a safe haven.
Ensure the home is safe and free from hazards, addressing both physical safety (like childproofing) and emotional safety (offering a non-judgmental space for self-expression).

Parent together as a couple to model teamwork. Children learn by observing, so demonstrate values you want them to adopt, such as honesty, kindness, and responsibility.

This got me emotional and deep in thought when I heard it…

At a school’s end-of-year party, the hall was filled with excitement as the children gave their presentations. Among them was a little boy of class 5 named Nathan.

Several children had already taken the stage with clear and straight voices, full of confidence. Everyone had concluded it was a day full of beautiful talent displace and that the kids were amazing.

Then came Nathan’s turn.

“But why did the teacher allow Nathan to present, knowing how he struggles to speak in front of people?”

Nathan stood frozen. His words barely came out. His eyes searched the crowd, hoping to see a safe face but all he saw were expectant eyes. His mother forced a small smile to encourage him, but inside, her heart sank. She felt sad and embarrassed. She wondered, why her son couldn't shine like the others.

Nathan was gently cheered back to his seat. He wasn't able to present though he tried.
He went to his mother looked at her and whispered, “I tried.” She smiled, hugged him tightly, and said, “It’s okay.”

Now, let me ask you:
What do you think was wrong with Nathan?
How many ‘Nathans’ do you know?
Are you facing the same dilemma, wondering how to help your child grow in boldness and confidence?

Let us help.

BHF Community Kids Learning Club is where your child needs to be. We don’t just teach the things we teach, we transform.
We help children to also build confidence, express themselves, and grow in character, values, and purpose.

Should I mention Brian, Charis, Valentina, Denis, or Armstrong? The list is long. Every one of them has a story of growth and transformation.

Check us out Belie Health Foundation
Contact: 6 72 43 95 48 for more information and leave them to us.
Myself and our trained, passionate facilitators will walk them through tailored, one-on-one lessons.

We begin effectively TOMORROW 11/06/25

Meanwhile if you have challenges helping your children or your family contact Abigail Abamukong
She offers excellent family coaching and guidance to get you and your family on the right path.

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*16 Texts Every Man Wishes His Lady Would Send Him*

https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VaGhjo07tkjCfXdy322U

1. "You are looking good today"

Yes, lady, men need compliments too

2. "Yesterday was amazing"

Tell him how much you enjoyed spending time with him yesterday. If you two made love, tell your husband how great he was in bed last night. It boosts his ego


3. "I am blessed to have you"

Show him you appreciate how fortunate you are to have him. It makes him feel valued

4. "Please pray for me"

This shows you need him and his prayers. Involving God in your love shows how serious and sacred your love is

5. "What do I cook for you tonight?"

Men love to eat. That you would ask him what he wants, makes him excited

6. "I love you"

No matter how macho men try to be, they love being told this by the woman they love

7. "Can I take you out?"

Surprise him. Treat him. A Queen can also plan a date for her King. Men love women who take charge sometimes. It's not every time things should be left to him

8. "I am so wet"

Men love it when the woman they are faithful to reveals she is sexually aroused. Lady, show him that when you think of sex you think of him and are not shy about it. A man who loves you enjoys receiving breaking news of your sexuality

9. "Thank you for the phone call"

The moment after he gives you a phone-call that makes you laugh, smile, or shows care; send him a text that demonstrates your gratitude

10. "I will be late, I'll make it up to you"

Some women tend to delay when going on a date or event. Don't keep him waiting and expect him to undersrand because he is your man. Inform him you will be late

11. "I am wearing your favourite underwear"

Tell him when you are wearing his favourite underwear, that black thong that he likes, that bra he likes to unstrap. Let him know when you are not wearing any underwear, no bra, when your nipples get hard. This playful and intimate info makes his blood run

12. "Are you OK?"

Many women want the man to care and ask how she is but don't do the same for the man. Find out how your man is, how his day has gone. Many men are stresssed in need of their woman/wife to show concern. So many men have issues and need a safe place to vent

13. "You are a good man"

In a world where women talk badly about men and have given up on men, this is the greatest compliment. If you have a good man, appreciate him. Him being a good man doesn't mean he is perfect, but the more you praise him, the better he will become, and the more effort he will put

14. "I can't wait for us to leave this place and be alone with you"

When you are both in the same venue full of people, send him this text. He will read it, smile, look at you and your eyes meet with intense passion. Show him you look forward to private moments with him

15. "God bless your day, you are blessed"

As his woman/wife, even without him asking; bless his day. Send him a message when he is at work; blessing him, calling him blessed. Your words are powerful and shape him

16. "You are an amazing father"

He is there, doing the best he can for your child/children; thank him and constantly recognize his greatness, and greatness will never leave him

Have a wonderful and blessed day!

The woman you were when you had to survive was a force of nature. She did what needed to be done—no matter the cost. She built walls, armored her heart, and carried burdens no one even guessed she was holding. She learned how to hide her pain behind a smile, how to steady her voice when the world tried to shake her, and how to keep putting one foot in front of the other when the ground felt like it was crumbling.

You were the storm and the shelter at the same time. You found strength in places you didn’t know existed. You became tough, sharp, unbreakable—because you had to be. No one else saw the battles you fought in the dark, the times you cried in silence, the nights you wondered if you could keep going.

That woman was a survivor, and she deserves your deepest respect. She is the reason you’re here today. She is the reason you made it through. But survival is not the same as living. Those days required a certain kind of grit, a toughness that got you through the worst, but also left you exhausted, wary, and always bracing for the next blow.

You were always on guard, scanning every room for danger, expecting every kindness to disappear, and believing peace was just a pause before the next storm. Your heart became a fortress, your mind a battlefield, your soul a soldier. You survived because you had no other choice.

But hear this truth: you are not in that place anymore. You have crossed the rough seas and made it to new shores. The air is different now, the sky is clearer, the world is not as cold and hostile as it once felt. You are not the hunted anymore. You are the leader, the creator, the woman who owns her story.

You don’t have to live in survival mode any longer. You don’t have to flinch at every sound, tense up at every touch, or question every moment of peace. You are allowed to let your shoulders drop, to unclench your fists, to breathe deeply and freely, and to believe in safety.

You have earned the right to rest. Rest is not weakness. Gentleness is not surrender. You can let your heart soften now. You can let your guard down—not because the world has stopped spinning, but because you have become wise enough to choose who gets close, strong enough to walk away from what hurts, and brave enough to trust yourself.

You are smarter now, not just because you survived, but because you learned. Survival taught you resilience, but healing will teach you joy. You are allowed to step out of the armor that once saved you, and into the light that now calls you forward.

You are not that scared girl anymore. You are a woman who knows her power. You are a woman who can stand in a room and hold her own, not out of fear, but out of confidence. You are a woman who leads with both heart and mind, who knows when to be fierce and when to be gentle.

You are allowed to love again, to trust again, to hope again. The world may never be perfect, but you are not here to be small or afraid. You are here to live fiercely, to love boldly, and to lead without apology.

Let go of the need to control every outcome. Let go of the belief that you always have to be tough. Let the world see your softness, your laughter, your vulnerability. These are not weaknesses—they are the marks of a woman who has survived and chosen to thrive.

The version of you that survived was a masterpiece of strength. But the version of you that leads is a masterpiece of wisdom. She knows when to fight and when to rest, when to speak and when to listen, when to hold on and when to let go.

You are allowed to change. You are allowed to become more than what your past demanded. You are allowed to shape your life, not out of fear, but out of possibility. You are allowed to rise.

Do not be afraid of your own growth. Do not apologize for your healing. Do not shrink to fit an old story. The world is waiting for the woman who is not just a survivor, but a creator, a leader, a light for others still finding their way.

It’s time to step into your new power. It’s time to lead with the lessons you’ve earned, to love with the depth you’ve discovered, and to live with the freedom you’ve fought for.

You are not bound to the woman who only knew how to survive. She is part of your story, but she is not the whole story. You are allowed to outgrow her, to thank her, and to let her rest.

This is your season to live. To lead. To become the woman, you always dreamed you could be—not just a survivor, but a force. Not just a fighter, but a builder. Not just a protector, but a creator of a life worth living.

You are not just here; you are fully alive. And that, after everything, is your greatest victory."

Deep Feelings
credit to the artist via Pinterest

LEAVE YOUR FEMALE STUDENTS ALONE!

This is not just a warn!ng—this is a cr¥. A cr¥ for the girl child. A cr¥ for our schools. A cr¥ for sanity.

Dear young male teacher,

You are gifted. You are admired. Your presence alone makes the girls sit up, eager to learn. You speak with passion, you dress smart, you explain well—and you may not know this—but many of those girls in your class are secretly cru$h!ng on you.

But listen carefully: Their admiration is not permission. Their smiles are not an invitation. Their boldness is not maturity.

They are still children. Tender. VulnerabI3. Still figuring out their emotions. What they feel is not love—it is confusion dressed in admiration. They trust you. They believe in you. And when you cross that sacred line… you k!II something in them.

You kiIIher confidence.
You kiII her future.
You kiII her right to grow up whole and safe.

Let me tell you what many don’t talk about.

There are girls walking around today—empty, br0ken, hiding pa!n under their makeup—because a teacher who was supposed to protect them u$ed them.

Some dropped out of school with swollen bellies.
Some ended up in danger0u$ relationships they didn’t deserve.
Some can no longer focus in class.
Some lost their voice.
Some have never healed.

And what’s worse? Many of them still blame themselves.

You were supposed to be her mentor. Her light. Her guide. Instead, you became her first heartbr£ak, her first betrayaal, her first $hame.

Let me say this loud and clear: If a girl student ever gets bold enough to come close, it is because you have already given her the signal.
Yes—you may not have touched her yet, but your boundary is already weak. And weak boundaries are a silent invitation to destruct!on.

Don’t tell yourself “it’s love.” It’s not.
Don’t say “she started it.” She didn’t.
Don’t say “others have done it.” That’s no excuse.

The truth is: many male teachers have ru!ned the destiny of the girl child in the name of love. And nobody talks about it enough.

Be different.

Don’t become another reason why a girl can’t look a male teacher in the eye without f£ar. Don’t become the face she remembers every time the word “trust” is mentioned. Don’t destr0y a child to satisfy your weakness.

You are not just teaching a subject—you are shaping a soul.

So protect her.
Guard your role.
Be disciplined.
Be a real man.
Be the teacher she’ll write about with pride—not pa!n.

Let this be the end of this madn€$$.
Let the classroom be a place of growth, not trau.ma.

If this message touched your heart, share it like fire.
We must shout it louder until every teacher hears it:

Leave the girl child alone. Let her grow. Let her breathe. Let her be safe.