IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS. 🧠💔 Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices. These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.” 📌 1. YOUR EMOTIONS The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him. If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies. Your emotions are good and what makes you human, but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners. 📌 2. UNMET NEEDS Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup. Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water. When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered, and you will confuse so many things for love. 📌 3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies… But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope. So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later. 📌 4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation…. But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”. Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future. 📌 5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF) When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace. You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline. ========= For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice? Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you? How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?

DONT BE QUICK TO JUDGE At a wedding ceremony the Pastor​ asked if there was anyone who had any reason why the marriage shouldn't go on; it was time to stand up and speak, or forever let them hold their peace. The moment of utter silence was interrupted by a young beautiful woman carrying a child. She started walking slowly toward the Pastor​. Everything quickly turned to chaos. The bride slapped the groom. The groom's mother fainted. The bridal trail scooted towards the door. The groom's men huddled together like a bereaved flock, wondering how best to help save the situation. The Pastor asked the woman, "Can you tell us why you came forward? What do you have to say?" The woman replied, "I can't hear from the back."😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 *LESSON*: Hold judgment until you've had all the facts. However, many times we Jump Into Conclusion quickly and beautiful relationships are ruined. Don't Be Quick To Judge Anyone😥🙏 🗣Hope I Am Communicating?

Maturity is maintaining relationships whether it favors you or not

FOUR ZONES TO LEAVE IN THIS 2025 Will you shock and surprise yourself by leaving these four zones? 1. COMFORT ZONE. You must take calculated risks if you want to achieve any meaningful goals. Stop folding hands and wasting time. Go out and get busy 2. BLAME ZONE. Blaming the government, your parents, ancestors, friends and other family members for not helping you is a waste of time. Work hard and take full responsibility of your failures and non achievements. 3. PITY ZONE. Stop being dramatic by using emotional tactics to fence off your inability to succeed. OK, you are unemployed for 5 years after graduation and you think the whole world is unfair to you? There is no fair world. Create and innovate with your skills and vow never to depend on anyone again. Employ yourself 4. HOSTAGE ZONE. Never allow others to treat you as a doormat in your relationships. Stop the hostage situation whereby you are forced to be unloved in return when you are sacrificing so much but recieving nothing. Draw the lines for a reciprocal rewarding relationship or quit. Make this month your month of self regulation, self realization and self discovery. STAY BLESSED 🙏❤️

*WHEN LOVE CORRECTS YOU, IT'S A GIFT — NOT AN ATTACK* In every relationship, there comes a moment when your partner sees something you might not — a habit, an attitude, or a silence that’s hurting you both. Love isn’t just about sweet words or happy moments. Sometimes love shows up as correction — a wake-up call, a mirror reflecting what you need to see, even if it’s hard. A caring partner might say: “You’ve changed — what’s really going on?” “That friend isn’t good for your peace.” “You’re working too much and missing us.” “This silence between us is growing — we need to talk.” It’s natural to feel hurt or defensive when corrected. But ask yourself: If your partner can’t tell you the truth, who will? If you always defend your pride, how can love grow? Healthy relationships aren’t about control or criticism — they’re about accountability and care. Being corrected doesn’t mean you’re less loved. It means your partner wants the best for you — and for the life you’re building together. If you only accept comfort and avoid correction, you risk staying stuck in patterns that quietly destroy love. If you always want to be right, you might end up alone. So next time your partner points out something hard, listen with your heart, not just your ears. They aren’t trying to change you — they’re trying to protect what you both cherish. Remember: Let love guide you. Let pride rest. Let growth begin together.. God bless us all. Please don't go without reacting 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

*WHEN LOVE CORRECTS YOU, IT'S A GIFT — NOT AN ATTACK* https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VaGhjo07tkjCfXdy322U In every relationship, there comes a moment when your partner sees something you might not — a habit, an attitude, or a silence that’s hurting you both. Love isn’t just about sweet words or happy moments. Sometimes love shows up as correction — a wake-up call, a mirror reflecting what you need to see, even if it’s hard. A caring partner might say: “You’ve changed — what’s really going on?” “That friend isn’t good for your peace.” “You’re working too much and missing us.” “This silence between us is growing — we need to talk.” It’s natural to feel hurt or defensive when corrected. But ask yourself: If your partner can’t tell you the truth, who will? If you always defend your pride, how can love grow? Healthy relationships aren’t about control or criticism — they’re about accountability and care. Being corrected doesn’t mean you’re less loved. It means your partner wants the best for you — and for the life you’re building together. If you only accept comfort and avoid correction, you risk staying stuck in patterns that quietly destroy love. If you always want to be right, you might end up alone. So next time your partner points out something hard, listen with your heart, not just your ears. They aren’t trying to change you — they’re trying to protect what you both cherish. Remember: Let love guide you. Let pride rest. Let growth begin together.. God bless us all. Please don't go without reacting 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

DONT BE QUICK TO JUDGE At a wedding ceremony the Pastor​ asked if there was anyone who had any reason why the marriage shouldn't go on; it was time to stand up and speak, or forever let them hold their peace. The moment of utter silence was interrupted by a young beautiful woman carrying a child. She started walking slowly toward the Pastor​. Everything quickly turned to chaos. The bride slapped the groom. The groom's mother fainted. The bridal trail scooted towards the door. The groom's men huddled together like a bereaved flock, wondering how best to help save the situation. The Pastor asked the woman, "Can you tell us why you came forward? What do you have to say?" The woman replied, "I can't hear from the back."😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 *LESSON*: Hold judgment until you've had all the facts. However, many times we Jump Into Conclusion quickly and beautiful relationships are ruined. Don't Be Quick To Judge Anyone😥🙏 🗣Hope I Am Communicating?

I need some help here Me and my partner have been married going on 5 years. We have a kid and children from previous relationships, we both have sacrificed alot for our kids and that includes our free time. We dont go out, drink, party anymore between either of us....its just the kids We never have date nights as we dont have any family, we usually always do things together. I have been for the past year in school to where i go away for three days out of the week sometimes twice a month, its paid through my work. Its not a holiday and includes studying the entire time. It created alot of resentment because "I" got to go out and be free, my partner works from home and made me going to school doable and i thank them for that. I am also at this time done with school and will not be doing this in the near future in any way But again, outside of that i dont go anywhere or do anything for myself Well since about March my partner dicided that they were going to work on themself, but it essentially meant im going out when you get home to go to the gym,friends, just out etc Im just home the kids, ive made past complaints about the frequency, NOT what shes doing.....just that i didn't feel like it needed to be everyday I got pushback and was accused of being controlling, but it seemed like she would atleast stay home a night or two atleast. But here we are again, its everyday the gym, and free time is spent elsewhere and "its because you dont work from home and you dont understand" Am i being unreasonable? Is it normal for yall's partners to just go out every night and tell you to deal with it? Why am i default for just being home every night alone? And why do i have to give a headsup if i ever need to do anything, or maybe something for myself? Im starting to get to the point of being resentful/lonely and dont want to do this anymore because i feel like there cant be a middle ground. I just get told that this is what im doing, and your going to have to deal with it, why cant we do things that are all inclusive as a family or try and figure out date nights? And just to add something, we both are hands on with the kids, they do morning routines and i help get them ready. I pick the kids up at night and do night time routine with the partner OCASSIONALLY helping, we both do cooking cleaning etc. One more edit we both get off at 5 im home by 530 after picking kids up They'll be gone from 6-11 8-10 7-10 530-12 It varries from whatever they say they're going out doing, but i honestly feel like they jusy dont want to be home with me or the kids

*WHEN LOVE CORRECTS YOU, IT'S A GIFT — NOT AN ATTACK* In every relationship, there comes a moment when your partner sees something you might not — a habit, an attitude, or a silence that’s hurting you both. Love isn’t just about sweet words or happy moments. Sometimes love shows up as correction — a wake-up call, a mirror reflecting what you need to see, even if it’s hard. A caring partner might say: “You’ve changed — what’s really going on?” “That friend isn’t good for your peace.” “You’re working too much and missing us.” “This silence between us is growing — we need to talk.” It’s natural to feel hurt or defensive when corrected. But ask yourself: If your partner can’t tell you the truth, who will? If you always defend your pride, how can love grow? Healthy relationships aren’t about control or criticism — they’re about accountability and care. Being corrected doesn’t mean you’re less loved. It means your partner wants the best for you — and for the life you’re building together. If you only accept comfort and avoid correction, you risk staying stuck in patterns that quietly destroy love. If you always want to be right, you might end up alone. So next time your partner points out something hard, listen with your heart, not just your ears. They aren’t trying to change you — they’re trying to protect what you both cherish. Remember: Let love guide you. Let pride rest. Let growth begin together.. God bless us all. Please don't go without reacting 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

1: DATE SOMEONE WHO IS MATURED ENOUGH TO SAY...✍🏾 "Hey babe, this what you have done and I honestly do not like it, I would appreciate if u stop this type of behaviour cause it hurts me". Cool right?... Instead of someone who'd go out of their way acting childish and ignoring you, while venting to social media with posts. 2: If you're matured enough you'll realize that nowadays, its not about dating someone beautiful, handsome or your type but a loving person who really cares about you. 3: You can never build a relationship with a partner who is living to impress friends... Never!! 4: You don't owe anyone a lasting relationship... You owe yourself happiness... If it gets toxic, leave.. 5: Relationships don't need cute voices & lovely faces, relationships need beautiful hearts & unbreakable trust. I don't look at faces. My happiness is my priority. #TakeResponsibility

*LEAVE YOUR FEMALE STUDENTS ALONE!* This is not just a warn!ng—this is a cry. A cry for the girl child. A cry for our schools. A cry for sanity. Dear young male teacher, You are gifted. You are admired. Your presence alone makes the girls sit up, eager to learn. You speak with passion, you dress smart, you explain well—and you may not know this—but many of those girls in your class are secretly cru$h!ng on you. But listen carefully: Their admiration is not permission. Their smiles are not an invitation. Their boldness is not maturity. They are still children. Tender. VulnerabI3. Still figuring out their emotions. What they feel is not love—it is confusion dressed in admiration. They trust you. They believe in you. And when you cross that sacred line… you k!II something in them. You kiIIher confidence. You kiII her future. You kiII her right to grow up whole and safe. Let me tell you what many don’t talk about. There are girls walking around today—empty, br0ken, hiding pa!n under their makeup—because a teacher who was supposed to protect them u$ed them. Some dropped out of school with swollen bellies. Some ended up in danger0u$ relationships they didn’t deserve. Some can no longer focus in class. Some lost their voice. Some have never healed. And what’s worse? Many of them still blame themselves. You were supposed to be her mentor. Her light. Her guide. Instead, you became her first heartbreak£ her first betrayal, her first $hame. Let me say this loud and clear: If a girl student ever gets bold enough to come close, it is because you have already given her the signal. Yes—you may not have touched her yet, but your boundary is already weak. And weak boundaries are a silent invitation to destruct!on. Don’t tell yourself “it’s love.” It’s not. Don’t say “she started it.” She didn’t. Don’t say “others have done it.” That’s no excuse. The truth is: many male teachers have ru!ned the destiny of the girl child in the name of love. And nobody talks about it enough. Be different. Don’t become another reason why a girl can’t look a male teacher in the eye without f£ar. Don’t become the face she remembers every time the word “trust” is mentioned. Don’t destr0y a child to satisfy your weakness. You are not just teaching a subject—you are shaping a soul. So protect her. Guard your role. Be disciplined. Be a real man. Be the teacher she’ll write about with pride—not pa!n. Let this be the end of this madn€$$. Let the classroom be a place of growth, not trau.ma. If this message touched your heart, share it like fire. We must shout it louder until every teacher hears it: Leave the girl child alone. Let her grow. Let her breathe. Let her be safe.

If you’re constantly guessing how someone feels about you that’s your answer. Healthy relationships bring clarity, not confusion. Consistency, communication, and mutual effort are key. If you’re always the one overthinking or over-giving, take a step back and ask yourself: Am I being loved the way I deserve?