Ten ways to respect your self
1)stop looking for Who is not looking for u
2) stop being an attention, love and support seeker
3)stop saying more than necessary, silent Is powerful
4)set clear boundaries and stick to them even when it's hard
5) trust your instincts instead of constantly seeking others approval
6)walk away from anything that doesn't bring u peace
7) value ur time and energy, don't waste them on people or situations that drain you
8) forgive urself for the past mistakes and allow urself to grow
9) listen first, then speak
10) surrounds urself with people who uplift and inspire you .
Be wise best advice is
the one which you meditate
and give to urself

At a mechanic’s workshop, I noticed a particular car that had been parked there for nearly four years. It was quite expensive and still looked in good shape the first time I saw it. But with time, it began to deteriorate. One of the windows got broken, the tyres deflated and wore out completely, and rust slowly crept over what was once a beautiful machine.

Curious, I asked the mechanic why such an expensive vehicle had been left to rot.

He confirmed that the car had indeed been in perfect condition when I first saw it. But even he had become helpless as to what to do. The vehicle belonged to someone from the Republic of Tchad. The man’s driver had been the one bringing it into Nigeria for repairs. On that last occasion, the driver dropped it off, paid for the repairs, and returned to Tchad, saying he would come back to collect the car once the required part being sourced from Lagos was fixed.

The mechanic bought the part, fixed the car, and waited. He had already been paid. But the driver never came back. It turned out he had been on his way to pick up the car when he was attacked by insurgents and killed. The mechanic didn’t know much about him, only his name, and had no idea where exactly in Tchad he was from. So the car remained there, abandoned. The owner likely has no idea where it is or how to recover it.

At a certain car wash, there was another case. Another expensive vehicle. This one had been brought in by a customer who patronised them occasionally. They didn’t know much about him either. He lived in another city but always came for business, and each time, he brought the car to be washed.

On his last visit, he dropped it off as usual and said he was going into town and would return later that evening. He never did. That was three years ago. Still, no sign of him. The car wash owner continues to wash and maintain the vehicle daily, keeping it spotless. But no one has come for it. They didn’t even know his name, and a search of the vehicle turned up no documents that could trace it to anyone. So, it remains abandoned.

Just last week, a friend of mine died after a brief illness. Before falling sick, he had taken some clothes to the laundry. He never returned to collect them. Thankfully, the laundryman knew his family and brought the clothes to his wife last night. She had no idea he had even taken anything to be laundered.

These situations made me think deeply.

Do our families and friends know the people we deal with, our mechanics, our laundrymen, or the businesses we patronise? Do we tell them about the errands we run or the transactions we make? Or do we go about our lives with no one aware of the little details that might matter in the end?

Shouldn’t someone at least know?

One day, you will take your car to the mechanic but you will not be the one to bring it back.
Your clothes will be at the laundry but you will not return to pick them up.
Do you have some pieces or parcels of land? Does your family know about them?
Do you have house or houses any where? Does your family know about it or them?
How many banks do you
have accounts in?
Does your family know about all of them?

Sometimes, the things you worked hard for, the things you loved and valued, will be left lying somewhere, useless and out of reach, because no one knew where you kept them or how to find them. That should be enough to give one the creeps and make one think deeply. Today, tomorrow, it shall come for you.

One day......

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"Across the world, most people focus on attacking radical Islamist groups themselves, but they often ignore a critical question: Who is funding and creating these extremists?

According to multiple reports—including those by the Financial Action Task Force (FATF), U.S. Department of the Treasury, and EU Terrorism Situation & Trend Report (TESAT)—a significant amount of terror financing comes through charities, NGOs, and religious institutions that operate from countries that project a secular, peaceful, and modern image internationally.

For example:

• Investigations have highlighted flows of money from wealthy Gulf states into madrassas and radical networks in Pakistan, Bangladesh, and other poorer Muslim-majority countries.

• According to FATF greylist and blacklist reports, countries like Pakistan have been repeatedly flagged for failing to curb such financing. Yet, the original funding sources often come from donors based in far richer, politically stable countries.

• A Carnegie Endowment study also showed how some Gulf-based charitable networks indirectly supported extremist ideology abroad while maintaining a respectable face at home.

These sponsoring nations keep their global reputation clean, attract billions from tourism and foreign investment, and yet part of that wealth quietly sustains radicalization in economically weaker states like Pakistan, Bangladesh, Iran, Iraq, and beyond.

Suppose the international community truly wants to end extremist violence. In that case, it must cut the root—the financial and ideological sponsors—rather than just trimming the branches and leaves by going after foot soldiers alone."

- Ashu Bhardwaj
@jaihind1624

I started sleeping with D0GS at the age of 16. My name is Amanda, and this is my story. A story I wish I never told anyone, but I can’t keep hiding. Everyone needs to learn from my story.

If anyone told me that I would be sleeeping with dogs, just to make money. At the age of 16 I would not believe that, but it happened to me, and this was how I found myself in this situation.

I was born into a very poor family in lagos. when I say poor I mean very poor, my parents were struggling to eat including me, I was the only daughter and child.

My father was a security, he was paid a small amount. And my mother stayed at home with me. I stopped going to school because they couldn’t continue to pay me school fees.

Hunger was our fourth person in the family, it dealt with us like an army. But sadly my father died.

He died right at his work post, he could not bear it anymore. My mom cried and cried. I cried even more.

After my father was buried, my mother was not the same anymore. She felt sick and died too.

I became an orphan, my uncle took our small property, claiming he was the rightful owner. And I was left in the street of Lagos. Sleeping under the bridge, inside the gutter, just to survive.

Life was dealing with me. I suffer, in fact I did all kind of quick jobs like breaking firewood and many more. it couldn’t help me. Sometimes I pray for late parents to come and take me.

But all this things changed one evening. I was selling my last orange, ready to got back to sleep under the bridge again.

A black car came and parked in my front. It was raining that evening. A lady came out of the car. Her name was Cynthia, I thought she was coming to buy orange.

“Why are you sitting alone under the rain. It late already” she says politely.

I told her I have no where to go, I told her that sleep under the bridge. Then she offered to take me to her place, but I rejected, because Lagos was a scary place, you can’t trust nobody.

“Do not be afraid, come with me, am not a bad person” Cynthia says to me.

Then I followed her, she gave me food at the house, she bought new clothes for me. For ones I felt like paradise.

I was enjoying the good things of life now. But after a week. Cynthia came with a total different topic.

She sat me down and told me. “I have been good to you, but you need to starting making money just like I do, can you work ?” Cynthia says.

“Yes, i answered, “I can do anything for you”

Then Cynthia told me about the job. “They are going to pay you plenty money. You will become rich. They are my clients. They don’t like women, but they need the woman to play with their pet” Cynthia says.

“I didn’t understand at first. “Play with their pets? I asked.

“Yes play with their dogs, like satisfy their D0gs” Cynthia says clearly.

Immediately I dropped the juice I was drinking, pouring on the ground. Immediately I felt like I was sitting with the devil.

“Never ! Never Cynthia ! So this is how you make your money. I would never Sle-p with dogs just to make money” I scream at her.

To be continued.

Based on a true l¡fe story.

‎I know you've find it difficult to change that situations of yours.

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.

*OPEN HEAVENS DAILY DEVOTIONAL*

*DATE: SUNDAY, JULY 13TH, 2025*

*THEME: HELPMEET INDEED 1*

*MEMORISE:*
*“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” - (Proverbs 31:11)*

*READ: Proverbs 31:10-31 (KJV)*

10. Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

11. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.

12. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

13. She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands.

14. She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar.

15. She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.

16. She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard.

17. She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms.

18. She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night.

19. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle.

20. She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.

21. She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet.

22. She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.

23. Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.

24. She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants.

25. Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.

26. She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

27. She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.

28. Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:

29. "Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all."

30. Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

31. Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.

*MESSAGE:*

A helpmeet is a wife who complements and supports her husband to fulfil God's purpose for their lives even when it is not convenient.

God ordained marriage as an institution where a wife helps her husband instead of competing with him, as the world paints it today. Just as the individuals in a team cannot compete against their teammates and expect to win, couples who compete against each other should not expect a successful marriage. A house divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:25). A husband and his wife are one and should work together as a team to achieve success in their marriage and in life (Mark 10:7-8)

Some highly successful women have allowed pride into their hearts such that they stop submitting to their husbands. Up until today, my wife cooks my meals. When the situation permits, she irons my clothes, and I iron hers too. When I was a teacher, and we were living in a remote location, she used to cut my hair. Just like the virtuous woman's husband in today's Bible reading, my heart safely trusts in her. She is never too busy to help me, and she upholds anything I uphold.

I remember when we were building the Mount Carmel Prayer Village. It was a massive project, but I went there only thrice - the day the foundation laying ceremony was done, the day I decided to take my grandchildren there, and the day the completed project was dedicated. Throughout the duration of the construction, my wife supervised the project diligently - that is a helpmeet indeed! She is always willing to go through the necessary rigours to see that I achieve my goal. She has stood by me through thick and thin, which is why she has full access to everything God blesses me with. When a responsible man has a true helpmeet as a wife, he'll go the extra mile to protect her and make her comfortable and happy. I often say that a fellow can slap me, and I'll turn the other cheek, but if anyone touches my wife, such a fellow will have my God, the Consuming Fire, to contend with.

As a wife, can your husband rely on you? You must be able to make up for his weaknesses, celebrate his successes, and be his number one cheerleader. If you are a man that has a helpmeet indeed by his side, you must nourish and cherish her. She is a priceless gem and must be treated as one.

*PRAYER POINT:*
Today is my wife's birthday, please join me to pray that the Lord will continue to strengthen and uphold her.

*BIBLE IN ONE YEAR:*
Song of Solomon 1-4

*AUTHOR: PASTOR E.A ADEBOYE*

*HYMN 24 - I WANT TO BE LIKE JESUS*

1. I want to be like Jesus,
So lowly and so meek;
For no one mark'd an angry word,
That ever heard Him speak.

2. I want to be like Jesus,
So frequently in prayer;
Alone upon the mountain top,
He met his Father there.

3. I want to be like Jesus,
I never, never find
That He, though persecuted was
To any one unkind.

4. I want to be like Jesus,
Engaged in doing good;
So that of me it may be said
"He hath done what he could."

5. I want to be like Jesus,
Who sweetly said to all,
"Let little children come to Me;"
I would obey the call.

6. But oh I'm not like Jesus,
As any one may see;
O gentle Saviour, send Thy grace,
And make me like to Thee.

THE BREAD BOY

A Short Story With Morals.

On a certain day, a young boy who sold sweet bread was having a really bad sales. He had walked several hours under the scorching heat of the sun without anyone stopping him to buy a bread. He became frustrated, exhausted and angry.

Then he said to himself.
"I think I will take a little rest under a shade, and then I'll continue. I might get lucky and sell some bread"

He deliberately tried to ignore the situation to keep his hopes up.

As he wandered the streets, looking for a place to rest, an elderly woman stopped him. She uttered.

"You look so tired and weary. And it looks like you haven't sold a bread yet. Oh, poor child struggling under the burning sun"

The boy whispered.
"What do you suggest I do now, ma'am?"

The elderly woman said.
"You should give up already. As it stands now, it doesn't look like you'll sell a bread today. Just go home already. Or would you rather spend all day roaming around unnecessarily on the streets?..."

The boy remained speechless as he watched the elderly woman walk away. At that very instant, a young man who was standing nearby and had overheard the short conversation, walked up to the bread boy and said.

"I think she's right. You should quit already. Don't you see how exhausted you are? It's already a bad sales day for you and there's nothing you can do about it. Just go home now, otherwise you'll fall sick from excessive stress"

The boy suddenly felt discouraged and bewildered. With little or no hope of selling his bread, he decided to give up for the day. So, he turned and left immediately.

But no sooner had he left, than a man drove his car down the street, asking some group of people.

"Have you seen the kid who sells bread around the streets? I want to buy all his bread to feed the children in our orphanage"

Someone replied.
"I think he has already retired for the day"

Morals Of The Story:

Believe what your heart tells you, not what others say. And also, don't give up too fast just because you don't see it working. Sometimes, all it needs is a little bit more time. Exercise patience.

THE BREAD BOY

A Short Story With Morals.

On a certain day, a young boy who sold sweet bread was having a really bad sales. He had walked several hours under the scorching heat of the sun without anyone stopping him to buy a bread. He became frustrated, exhausted and angry.

Then he said to himself.
"I think I will take a little rest under a shade, and then I'll continue. I might get lucky and sell some bread"

He deliberately tried to ignore the situation to keep his hopes up.

As he wandered the streets, looking for a place to rest, an elderly woman stopped him. She uttered.

"You look so tired and weary. And it looks like you haven't sold a bread yet. Oh, poor child struggling under the burning sun"

The boy whispered.
"What do you suggest I do now, ma'am?"

The elderly woman said.
"You should give up already. As it stands now, it doesn't look like you'll sell a bread today. Just go home already. Or would you rather spend all day roaming around unnecessarily on the streets?..."

The boy remained speechless as he watched the elderly woman walk away. At that very instant, a young man who was standing nearby and had overheard the short conversation, walked up to the bread boy and said.

"I think she's right. You should quit already. Don't you see how exhausted you are? It's already a bad sales day for you and there's nothing you can do about it. Just go home now, otherwise you'll fall sick from excessive stress"

The boy suddenly felt discouraged and bewildered. With little or no hope of selling his bread, he decided to give up for the day. So, he turned and left immediately.

But no sooner had he left, than a man drove his car down the street, asking some group of people.

"Have you seen the kid who sells bread around the streets? I want to buy all his bread to feed the children in our orphanage"

Someone replied.
"I think he has already retired for the day"

Morals Of The Story:

Believe what your heart tells you, not what others say. And also, don't give up too fast just because you don't see it working. Sometimes, all it needs is a little bit more time. Exercise patience.

Let's imagine you find yourself in this situation.
What will happen to this Delicious meal?
Your answer on the comment section.

Title: Straw: A single mother navigates a series of unfortunate events, leading her down an unforeseen path where she becomes embroiled in a situation she never envisioned. Starring: Taraji P. Henson, Sherri Shepherd