VISION

INTRODUCTION

Vision is the revelation of God’s purpose and plan for a person, a people, a generation, or even an entire nation. It is not ambition. It is not wishful thinking. It is not mere goal-setting. Vision is divine direction birthed by divine encounter. According to Habakkuk 2:2-3 (NKJV): “Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” This reveals a key truth: NO TRUE VISION SPEAKS AT THE BEGINNING; IT ONLY SPEAKS AT THE END.

WHAT IS VISION?

Vision is the spiritual insight into God’s intended outcome for a life. It is not self-initiated but God-initiated. It is the mental and spiritual picture of your future that propels you with energy, courage, and resilience. Vision is what gives life direction, focus, and purpose. Without it, people live by reaction instead of intention. Proverbs 29:18 (KJV) says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

True vision is born out of divine fellowship. It is not created in the boardroom but received in the secret place. Vision is not what you want to do for God, but what God wants to do through you. It is the blueprint of heaven deposited in your spirit, commanding your alignment and action.

KEY FACTS ABOUT VISION

1. TRUE VISION SPEAKS AT THE END, NOT AT THE BEGINNING

When vision first arrives, it often looks ordinary, confusing, or even unrealistic. It rarely comes with applause or clarity. In fact, it often invites criticism, mockery, and rejection. Just like Joseph’s dreams, vision is usually ridiculed before it is respected. In the beginning, it may appear dormant or unachievable. But in the end, it speaks loudly and clearly. Vision is validated by manifestation, not excitement.

2. VISION REQUIRES PROCESSING

Before vision speaks, it processes. The one who receives vision must be processed to match the weight of what God has revealed. Moses had the vision to deliver Israel, but spent 40 years in the wilderness being prepared. Paul encountered Jesus and then spent years in Arabia being equipped. God will never place a heavy vision on an unprocessed vessel. Between revelation and manifestation is preparation.

3. VISION THRIVES ON CHARACTER, NOT JUST CHARISMA

It is not enough to carry power gifts like prophecy, tongues, healing, or discernment. These are important but not sufficient for the fulfillment of vision. The gifts may attract attention, but it is the fruit of the Spirit that sustains destiny. According to Galatians 5:22-23, the fruits of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control are the attributes that preserve the vessel and stabilize the journey.

Many have received genuine visions from God but failed in character and collapsed in the process. Patience and long-suffering are especially critical because vision is a marathon, not a sprint. Without endurance, discouragement will abort destiny.

4. VISION REQUIRES TIME AND SEASONAL DISCERNMENT

Vision is time-sensitive. No matter how accurate a vision is, if you try to manifest it outside of divine timing, it will fail. The power of vision lies in alignment with God’s schedule. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” Misjudging seasons leads to premature exposure and failure.

Vision must be walked out step by step, stage by stage. Just as a baby must crawl before walking, vision must mature before manifestation. Each season comes with its test. There is a season of silence, of rejection, of formation, and of visibility. You must discern them all.

5. VISION ATTRACTS ADVERSITY

Every true vision will face opposition. In fact, opposition is one of the strongest validations that your vision is divine. Satan will not fight what is not a threat. Nehemiah’s vision to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem was opposed from every side. Jesus' mission was challenged from infancy to the cross. If your vision is truly of God, expect resistance—but also expect divine backing.

Opposition is not a sign of failure but a test of commitment. Many faint in the day of adversity because their strength is small. Visionaries must be battle-tested, able to withstand storms, delays, betrayals, and discouragement.

6. VISION REQUIRES DISCIPLINE AND FOCUS

Distraction is one of the deadliest enemies of vision. Many start strong but lose focus. Like Peter walking on water, they allow the winds of life to shift their eyes from the Master to the mess. Vision demands saying no to many good things to stay with the God-thing.

It also requires the discipline of time, resources, and relationships. Not every opportunity is a divine instruction. You must guard your heart, your circle, and your energy. Vision flourishes in environments of purity and clarity.

7. VISION REQUIRES COURAGE AND RESILIENCE

Vision will often demand that you walk alone. The early stages of vision may require loneliness, rejection, and misunderstanding. Noah built an ark with no rain in sight. Abraham walked to an unknown land. These men were sustained by vision, not applause.

If you cannot endure the loneliness of vision, you will never enjoy the reward of vision. You must believe what God told you even when no one else sees it. Hebrews 10:36 says, “You have need of patience, that, after you have done the will of God, you might receive the promise.”

8. VISION SEEKS TRANSFORMATION, NOT JUST ATTRACTION

A true vision will not just aim to make you popular or successful; it will aim to make others better, to improve society, and to advance God’s kingdom. Vision is bigger than self. It is redemptive. It serves others. It adds value. If your vision doesn’t stretch beyond you, it is ambition, not vision.

STAGES OF A VISION

1. REVELATION – God reveals His purpose.

2. INSTRUCTION – Specific steps are given.

3. SEPARATION – You are separated from what limits you.

4. PREPARATION – You are trained and refined.

5. OPPOSITION – You are tested and resisted.

6. MANIFESTATION – Vision begins to produce fruit.

7. MULTIPLICATION – Vision spreads and multiplies in others.

QUALITIES OF A VISIONARY

Sensitive to divine instructions

Emotionally stable and spiritually rooted

Bold in the face of opposition

Willing to endure delays and rejections

Able to discern seasons and transitions

Passionate about impact, not applause

Willing to submit to process and authority

Consistent in faith, regardless of results

CONCLUSION

Vision is not a one-time encounter—it is a lifelong journey. It is God's plan being worked out through your life in stages. Vision is fragile in the beginning but becomes powerful at the end. The end speaks, not the beginning. It is not how it looks now, but how it will be when God is done.

Don’t abort your vision because of delay. Don’t discard it because of opposition. Don’t disobey because of pressure. What God has shown you will come to pass—if you stay faithful.

Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NIV) says, “The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.” Vision is not about speed, but about staying in sync with God. Those who wait on the Lord will not be ashamed. The vision will speak—at the end.

GREAT WISDOM FOR VICTORIOUS LIVING.

1. The less you say, the more your words will matter.
Choose your words wisely. In a noisy world full of opinions, wisdom is often found in silence and thoughtful speech. Be known for words that uplift, not for words that merely fill the air.

2. Don't take everything personally.
People have their own battles and burdens. Most aren’t thinking about you as much as you think. Learn to let things go, and choose peace over unnecessary offense.

3. Focus on possibilities, not problems.
Your mindset shapes your destiny. A problem-focused life creates fear and limits, but a possibility-driven mind sees open doors in every difficulty. Be solution-oriented.

4. Your struggle is shaping you.
Pain is a part of growth. What you’re going through today might be the very thing that prepares you for what you prayed for tomorrow. Keep moving forward.

5. There’s a reason behind every connection.
Some people come to teach you, some to test you, and others to build you. And sometimes, you are sent into someone’s life for those same reasons. Learn to discern the difference.

6. Dare to try new things.
Staying in your comfort zone is easy, but greatness lives outside it. Explore, learn, and experience life beyond the familiar. Every risk carries a reward, even if it’s a lesson.

7. Emotional pain is real.
Being ignored by those you care about hurts. Acknowledge it, but don't let it control you. Build emotional resilience. Know your worth doesn't depend on anyone's attention.

8. Appreciate moments while you have them.
Today’s ordinary moments will become tomorrow’s treasured memories. Be fully present in your relationships, conversations, and experiences.

9. Gratitude shifts your focus.
When you start counting your blessings, your heart finds peace, and your eyes open to new opportunities. A grateful heart makes room for more.

10. Control your words, control your life.
Your future is shaped by what you speak. Speak life, hope, and purpose over yourself and others. Don’t let careless words ruin what discipline could have preserved.

11. Life reflects your thoughts.
Your mindset determines your outcome. If you see the world as hostile, you’ll live in fear. If you see it as filled with opportunities, you’ll find them.

12. It's not what happens to you, but how you respond.
Life is unpredictable. You can’t control everything, but you can control your attitude. A positive, faith-driven response will always position you for growth.

13. You wake up to yourself every day.
Be someone you respect when no one’s watching. Integrity and self-respect matter more than public approval.

14. Acts from the heart bring the deepest joy.
When you help, love, or serve with sincerity, the fulfillment you gain is priceless. Pursue what adds value to others.

15. Your circle shapes your destiny.
Surround yourself with people who inspire, challenge, and uplift you. If you walk with wise people, you’ll grow wiser. Choose relationships intentionally.

16. Knowing yourself unlocks your potential.
Self-awareness is a superpower. Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and passions. When you know who you are, you stop living for approval and start living with purpose.

Final Thought for the Youth:
You are living in a time of endless distractions and options. Wisdom is knowing what to hold on to, what to let go of, and what to reach for. Choose God, choose growth, and choose to live intentionally.

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” — Proverbs 4:7

May God bless you, guide you, and cause you to thrive.

WHERE YOU STAND TOMORROW IS A FUNCTION OF HOW DILIGENT YOU ARE IN YOUR BUSINESS TODAY. - Bishop David Oyedepo

During the 3rd Word Session at the Hour of Visitation (Day 3) of the Easter Faith Convention 2025, Bishop David Oyedepo while admonishing believers on the need to run with revelation stated that where you stand today is a function of how diligent you are in your business today. He also stated as he quoted from Proverbs 22:29 that he has been able to stand in very high places in the World today by reason of the application of revelation at his disposal.

He further explained that it is not enough to know the truth, believers must take a step further to engage with the truth. "The food you know does not satisfy you, it is the food you eat that does."

IPOB Slams Sultan of Sokoto: You Ignore Killer Herdsmen but Fear Social Media for Exposing Them

The Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) has strongly condemned the recent statement by the Sultan of Sokoto, Alhaji Sa’ad Abubakar, in which he described social media in Nigeria as a "terrorist organisation" and called for its criminalisation.

In a statement released by IPOB's Media and Publicity Secretary, Comrade Emma Powerful, the group labelled the Sultan’s remarks as absurd and a clear sign of fear among the northern elite, who are allegedly panicking over the continued exposure of atrocities committed by killer herdsmen.

Referencing proverbs like “a clear conscience fears no accusation” and “the wicked flee when no one pursues,” IPOB accused the Sultan — a key Fulani leader and Islamic spiritual figure — of trying to silence victims and whistleblowers who rely on social media to expose acts of terror, kidnappings, and land grabs allegedly carried out by Fulani militants.

“Instead of condemning the widespread violence and displacement caused by Fulani terrorists, the Sultan is more concerned with silencing the platforms revealing these crimes,” the statement said.

IPOB also criticised both the Sultan and the Nigerian government for consistently failing to acknowledge the true scale of Fulani-linked violence, accusing them of using mainstream media to distort the facts, labeling these attacks as mere “banditry” or “farmer-herder clashes.”

The group praised social media as a powerful tool for Nigerian youth, a source of economic empowerment, and a platform for the oppressed. They believe any attempt to silence social media is a move to suppress the truth and restrict freedom of speech.

“The Sultan can ignore the truth all he wants, but Nigerians and the international community are becoming increasingly aware of the threats posed by Fulani terrorist groups. Social media is helping to unmask these dangers,” Powerful said.

IPOB concluded by warning that any attempt to shut down social media would ultimately fail.

“If the Sultan is afraid of exposure, then he should tell the terrorists to drop their weapons. IPOB and other indigenous groups will continue to use every legal means — including social media — to resist oppression and shine light on the real causes of insecurity in Nigeria.”

The backlash comes after the Sultan made the controversial remarks during a meeting of Northern Traditional Rulers in Maiduguri, Borno State, where he described social media as a “terrorist organisation” used to spread falsehood and unrest.

His comments have since sparked outrage among Nigerians.

DOES GOD HATE POVERTY OR PROSPER

Look At What The Bible Says About Prosperity:

1. JOSHUA 1:8
“This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.”
Explanation:
God ties prosperity and success to obedience and meditation on His Word. When a person lives by God's principles, they align with His divine laws that produce fruitfulness in all aspects of life.

2. PSALM 1:2-3
“But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.”
Explanation:
A person who delights in and meditates on God’s Word will be stable, fruitful, and prosperous in all they do—just like a well-watered tree.

3. DEUTERONOMY 8:18
“But thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth, that he may establish his covenant which he sware unto thy fathers, as it is this day.”
Explanation:
Wealth and prosperity are not self-earned; they are gifts from God given to fulfill His covenant. Remembering this keeps us humble and aligned with His purpose.

4. 3 JOHN 1:2
“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”
Explanation:
This verse highlights that true prosperity includes physical, financial, and spiritual well-being. God desires complete prosperity for His children.

5. PROVERBS 10:22
“The blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.”
Explanation:
When God blesses someone with wealth, it comes with peace and joy—not with the sorrow and stress that often accompanies worldly riches.

6. MALACHI 3:10
“Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.”
Explanation:
Tithing opens the door to divine abundance. God invites us to test His faithfulness by giving, and He promises overflowing blessings in return.

7. PROVERBS 3:9-10
“Honour the Lord with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase: So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine.”
Explanation:
When we honor God with our wealth—especially the first part of it—He promises to bless us with more than enough in return.

8. LUKE 6:38
“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.”
Explanation:
Generosity activates prosperity. God multiplies what we give and causes it to return in abundance, often through others.

9. PSALM 35:27
“Let them shout for joy, and be glad, that favour my righteous cause: yea, let them say continually, Let the Lord be magnified, which hath pleasure in the prosperity of his servant.”
Explanation:
God delights in the prosperity of His people, especially those who support and promote His righteous cause. Prosperity brings Him glory.

10. PHILIPPIANS 4:19
“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”
Explanation:
God promises to meet every need—not just financially but in all aspects—based on His abundant and unlimited resources in Christ.

11. GENESIS 26:12-13
“Then Isaac sowed in that land, and received in the same year an hundredfold: and the Lord blessed him. And the man waxed great, and went forward, and grew until he became very great.”
Explanation:
This shows how God can cause supernatural increase even in difficult environments when we act in obedience and faith.

12. JOB 36:11
“If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures.”
Explanation:
Obedience to God is clearly linked to a life filled with abundance and joy, not just in eternity but in our present lives.

13. 2 CORINTHIANS 9:8
“And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work.”
Explanation:
God not only provides for our needs but empowers us to be generous and abundant in doing good for others.

14. ZECHARIAH 8:12
“For the seed shall be prosperous; the vine shall give her fruit, and the ground shall give her increase, and the heavens shall give their dew.”
Explanation:
God speaks of prosperity in every sector—seed, vine, ground, and heavens—pointing to fruitfulness in all areas of life.

15. ECCLESIASTES 5:19
“Every man also to whom God hath given riches and wealth, and hath given him power to eat thereof, and to take his portion, and to rejoice in his labour; this is the gift of God.”
Explanation:
True prosperity includes both the ability to gain wealth and the joy of enjoying it—it is a divine gift, not just a human accomplishment.

God Indeed Loves Prosperity Of His People And Hates Poverty.

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meetings

5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly

10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves

15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

Greetings to all submissive Women

A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN MARRIAGE - Proverbs 31:10 - 31

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Who told you that you can’t abstain from s3x before marriage

By God’s Grace, I and my wife courted for 4 years and never had s3x until after our wedding.

The notion that once you’re in a committed relationship SEX IS NORMAL is totally erroneous

Let’s be clear : Sex before marriage is not FUN but FORNICATION.

You can love someone deeply, be strongly attracted to them, and still honour God with your body. Purity is possible, even in this generation.

Here are 6 biblical and practical ways to abstain from sex before marriage:

1. Set Clear Boundaries from Day One

Don’t leave things to chance. Define what’s acceptable and what’s not. Avoid places, times, and behaviors that fuel temptation.
“Flee the evil desires of youth…” — 2 Timothy 2:22

2. Choose a Partner Who Shares Your Values

It’s easier to stay pure when your partner also desires purity. If they’re pressuring you, they’re not protecting you. A brother or sister who sees nothing wrong in fornication will definitely pressure you into it.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” — Amos 3:3

3. Avoid Private and Compromising Situations

Being alone behind closed doors is a setup for sin. Meet in public places or around trusted people.
“Make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” — Romans 13:14

4. Make the Relationship Spiritual, Not Just Emotional

Pray together, study the Word together, and talk about purpose—not just feelings. This keeps your connection rooted in God.
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” — Psalm 119:9

5. Seek Accountability and Counseling When Needed

Don’t walk the journey alone. Be accountable to a godly mentor or couple who will check in and support your commitment to purity.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” — Proverbs 15:22

6. What if you have fallen before?

“My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.”
‭‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭1‬ ‭

In the occasion of sin, quickly repent and run to Jesus. He will forgive you and ensure you follow the first 5 principles, so you don’t return back to your vomit.
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Who told you that you can’t abstain from s3x before marriage

By God’s Grace, I and my wife courted for 4 years and never had s3x until after our wedding.

The notion that once you’re in a committed relationship SEX IS NORMAL is totally erroneous

Let’s be clear : Sex before marriage is not FUN but FORNICATION.

You can love someone deeply, be strongly attracted to them, and still honour God with your body. Purity is possible, even in this generation.

Here are 6 biblical and practical ways to abstain from sex before marriage:

1. Set Clear Boundaries from Day One

Don’t leave things to chance. Define what’s acceptable and what’s not. Avoid places, times, and behaviors that fuel temptation.
“Flee the evil desires of youth…” — 2 Timothy 2:22

2. Choose a Partner Who Shares Your Values

It’s easier to stay pure when your partner also desires purity. If they’re pressuring you, they’re not protecting you. A brother or sister who sees nothing wrong in fornication will definitely pressure you into it.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” — Amos 3:3

3. Avoid Private and Compromising Situations

Being alone behind closed doors is a setup for sin. Meet in public places or around trusted people.
“Make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” — Romans 13:14

4. Make the Relationship Spiritual, Not Just Emotional

Pray together, study the Word together, and talk about purpose—not just feelings. This keeps your connection rooted in God.
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” — Psalm 119:9

5. Seek Accountability and Counseling When Needed

Don’t walk the journey alone. Be accountable to a godly mentor or couple who will check in and support your commitment to purity.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” — Proverbs 15:22

6. What if you have fallen before?

“My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.”
‭‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭1‬ ‭

In the occasion of sin, quickly repent and run to Jesus. He will forgive you and ensure you follow the first 5 principles, so you don’t return back to your vomit.

I am Nicholas Michael Oriarewo
Your #relationshipcoach
#marriagecounselor
#lovebankers
#nNicholas Michael Oriarewo

7 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE (PART 1)

The short story in between should teach you a lesson.

Trust is the backbone of any strong relationship.

It’s what makes love safe, secure, and long-lasting. But trust isn’t automatic—it is built through consistent actions, honesty, and reliability.

Here are seven powerful ways to build trust in your relationship or marriage:

1. BE HONEST, EVEN ABOUT THE SMALL THINGS

Let me tell you a short story

Chijioke and Ada had been married for three years when Chijioke suddenly started acting restless. He was distant, easily irritated, and always on his phone. Ada noticed but assumed it was work stress.

One evening, a strange number called his phone while he was in the shower. Out of curiosity, Ada answered.

“Mr. Chijioke, this is our final warning. Pay back the ₦2 million loan or face legal action.”

Ada’s heart dropped. A loan? For ₦2 million? She had no idea her husband had borrowed money.

When he came out, she confronted him. He sighed and said, “I didn’t want to stress you, so I didn’t tell you.”

Ada felt betrayed. Not because of the debt, but because he had kept it a secret.

That night, she lay awake thinking, “If he can hide this, what else is he hiding?”

And that was the foundation of distrust she developed towards her husband. She started doubting most of the things he says

Here’s the truth:

Hiding the truth, even with good intentions, damages trust. Ada wasn’t upset about the loan itself—she was upset about the secrecy.

When you are honest, even about small things, your partner feels safe and secure. When you start keeping secrets, doubt creeps in.

How do you achieve this?

Speak the truth, even if it’s uncomfortable.
If you make a mistake, own up to it instead of covering it up.
Never assume small lies won’t matter—they always do in the long run.

Biblical Wisdom: “The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy.” — Proverbs 12:22

To be continued……..


Your #relationshipcoach
#marriagecounselor
#lovebankers

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meetings

5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly

10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves

15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

Greetings to all submissive Women

A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN MARRIAGE - Proverbs 31:10 - 31

WHETHER YOU ARE MARRIED OR NOT,
READ THIS AND LEARN.

"Dad, can you loan me Five Hundred Thousand Naira?" Kola asked his father.

"What for son?", his father asked.

"For my wedding. By our calculations, we're falling short meeting the cost".

Kola had come to meet his parents with his fiancé.

"Your wedding? How much is the total cost of the wedding?", his father asked.

"N3.6 million. We're thinking of starting the committee next week. We can together give about eight hundred thousand and expect our friends to help us raise about two million. I remember you told me if ever I need help I can come to you" Kola answered.

His father held him by the shoulder and said
"Go get your wife and come meet me at my study room".
"Yes dad", Kola obliged.
Minutes later, Kola and his fiancé,Tomilayo walked into his father's study room.
"Having a good time my daughter?" Kola's
father asked.
"Yes I am. You and your wife are so hospitable. I pray that Kola and I can emulate your marriage. You are an admirable couple" answered Kola's fiance.
"Thank you. I am delighted to have you as my daughter. This is your home, you're welcome anytime", said father.
They sat down.
"Thank you dad"
"So, I hear you want to spend N3.6 million for your wedding and you need me to help with five hundred thousand?", asked father.
"Yes, we will greatly appreciate" said the fiancé.
"The wedding will be at the Total Garden Ibadan in about six months time", said Kola.
"Why do you want to have a big wedding?",
father asked.

"Well, it's our big day. She's always dreamt of a big wedding", Kola replied.
"Have you dreamt of a big wedding or a strong marriage?", The father asked the fiancé.
"When you put it that way, it's more of a strong marriage" said the fiancé.
"Good. You've answered wisely. So who do you expect to come for your wedding?", asked the father.
"Friends and relatives. About seven hundred people", answered Kola.

"How many true friends do you really have?",
I mean friends who have been tried and tested to be there for you through thick and thin?, asked the father.
Kola and Tomilayo looked at each other.
"Countable", the fiancé answered.
"So who are these other people who will come to your wedding?", asked the father.
Silence.
"OK. Let's go to the relatives. I know you love your relatives, but how many are really close to you? You barely talk with the many relatives you have", said the father.

"What are you trying to say dad?" asked Kola.
"My son, my daughter; why do you want to spend N3.6 million on a wedding, a one day event yet you need the money in your marriage? Look, you are actually coming to ask me for money, you will form a
committee to ask people for money; all to show off and please people who will not even matter in your marriage"
Silence.

The father continued, "Let me share with you my experience. When I married your mother, we spent about a million for the wedding. That was a lot of money then. We fed people, got stressed by service providers, just so that we put up a wedding that will win the applause of a crowd. But as soon as we got married, the crowd disappeared. All the issues that your mother and I went through, no one cared, even family couldn't do much. Every one is busy living their life. When things got tough, the crowd gossiped about us, some even seemed happy that our marriage was in trouble" Silence.

"I have seen this script repeated over and over. Brides get stressed on their wedding day, they can't even enjoy, couples being angry at friends who don't support them financially, the worst part is starting marriage in debt or struggling financially. Do you know a wedding doesn't have to cost so much, it doesn't have to be stressful, it doesn't have to be full of people who perhaps will never talk to you again?" added the father.
"But dad, what will people think if we do a small wedding or we don't invite them?"asked the fiancé.
"Are you getting married for people? If you have a small wedding with only the witnesses who matter, will you two not be married? What is all this competition of who has a grand wedding for?

People are competing on Facebook, in weddings; why this need to show off? You know that money you are about to blow in one day, you can use it to invest in your marriage, you can start the process of buying or building a home, you can save up for the needs of the children you will have because you need money to raise a family. Why not start your marriage financially healthy and not in debt?
Marriage is what is more important than a
wedding", continued the father.
"Dad, if you don't want to support us it's
okay", said Kola. The fiancé stopped him saying, "No my love, dad has a point. I actually find the idea of a small wedding not just wise and economical, but also intimate. Marriage is
just you and me, not people".

The father spoke, "My son, in all the years
you have been a man, you have never come
to me asking for money, but now you are
asking for money to put up a show? I look
further, I look at your marriage. I admire
how people come together in a wedding
committee to raise money and I wonder,
what if couples and people use that same
energy to put up a business that will uplift
families. Those members who will be part of
your wedding committee, imagine if they
become your investors, imagine if you build
a company where you can make profit and
feed your homes. Something sustainable."
Kola and his fiancé nodded.
"My son, I have longed for the day you
would come and ask me to invest in your
business idea. But today I will make the first
move", the father said taking his cheque
book from his drawer. He wrote on the cheque then gave it to the fiancé.

"Here my son, this is a cheque of five million
naira, not for your wedding but as start up
capital for a business of your choice. I am
giving the cheque to your wife because as
the Proverbs 31 woman said, she is to walk
with you in building an empire for your
family. Focus on your family, give your family
the best; forget about the public and
opinions of people who don't matter. Build
a future for your family. Build your family on
a foundation of surplus not debt".
"Thank you so much" said the fiancé.
Kola stood up with tears in his eyes. His
father stood up too. The father and son hugged.

"Thank you dad for being a great figure and
your counsel. I don't know what to say. You
have challenged me not to merely get
married but to have a vision, a vision for my
family. I don't know what to say" he spoke.
The father held his shoulder, "You will make
a great husband and father. I wish I had the
same counsel when I was getting married,
all those people I fed on my wedding day
didn't add value to my marriage. In fact, if I
was to organize an event and feed
multitudes, I would do so for the less
fortunate and those in need.

Marriage is not for show.
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1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meetings

5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly

10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves

15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

Greetings to all submissive Women

A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN MARRIAGE - Proverbs 31:10 - 31

Happy mother's day to all our Amazing mothers.