One common thread among high achievers? They own their mornings.

Whether it’s 30 minutes of quiet time, goal-setting, or personal development, they begin with purpose.

Success doesn’t start at the meeting – it starts before you log in.

Do not carry secondary school mentality into university, it won’t help you, it will disgrace you.

Secondary school and university are two different worlds. In secondary school, you're spoon-fed. You're reminded to do your assignments.

You’re threatened with punishment just to study. You have teachers monitoring your every move. But once you enter university, especially a Nigerian university, it becomes survival of the fittest. Nobody will chase you. If you don’t adjust fast, you’ll be lost before you even realise it.

Here are 10 habits you must drop before entering university if you truly want to survive and succeed:

1. Waiting for someone to remind you to read: In secondary school, your teachers push you. But in university, no one will beg you to pick up your books. In fact, some lecturers won’t even take attendance. If you don’t take responsibility, you’ll wake up one day and see an “E” staring at you after exams.

2. Studying only during exam period: That cramming style you used to pass WAEC and NECO will betray you in uni. If you don’t build the habit of consistent reading early, you’ll break down mentally when tests start flying unannounced.

3. Underestimating the importance of planning: In secondary school, your day is structured. In university, you create your own timetable. If you don't learn how to plan your time, you’ll find yourself skipping lectures, missing deadlines, and rushing through everything last minute.

4. Depending on others to survive academically: In secondary school, you can whisper during exams or ‘combine brain’ during group assignments. In university, it’s every man for himself. Even your “bestie” will leave you stranded when it’s time to hustle for grades.

5. Avoiding responsibility: You can't keep living like a child. In university, maturity is key. From handling stress, to managing money, to resolving roommate wahala, you'll need to take responsibility without running to mummy or daddy for every small thing.

6. Believing you must be told what to do: Nobody will tell you when to start looking for scholarships, apply for internships, or join productive clubs. If you’re waiting to be told, you'll miss out on opportunities that could shape your future.

7. Copying your classmates blindly: In secondary school, if one person picks science, the whole class follows. In university, copying someone’s course choice or life path is a recipe for disaster. Know yourself and stay true to your journey.

8. Sleeping on personal development: Back then, you might think “book” is everything. In university, “book” is just part of the equation. Soft skills, digital skills, networking, and exposure are what give students an edge. If you’re only chasing grades, you’re already behind.

9. Wasting free time on nothing: In secondary school, your free time is limited. In uni, you’ll have stretches of free time, and that’s where most people mess up. Netflix, social media, and gist will swallow your time if you don’t set boundaries.

10. Thinking you have to please everyone: You’re not going to university to be liked. You’re going to build your life. Stop trying to impress everyone. Focus on your growth, your goals, and your peace.

University is not secondary school with freedom. It’s life on another level. Drop these habits now before they drop you later.

If you're still in secondary school, read this twice. If you’re already in uni, did I lie?

Joshua King

Can this happen in Nigeria?

Since 2012, Brazil has implemented a program known as "Remission for Reading," which allows prisoners to reduce their sentences by reading books and writing reports.

For each approved book report, inmates can have four days deducted from their sentence, with a maximum of 12 books per year, totaling up to 48 days annually.

The program aims to promote literacy, critical thinking, and personal development among inmates, facilitating their rehabilitation and reintegration into society.

Participants select books from the prison library, which includes materials in Braille, audiobooks, and foreign languages to accommodate diverse needs.

After reading, inmates have 10 days to write a review demonstrating their understanding of the text.

These reviews are evaluated by a commission comprising educators, librarians, and civil society representatives.

This initiative has been recognized for its positive impact on inmates' lives, offering them a constructive way to reduce their sentences while fostering personal growth and reducing recidivism.

Me: This is what is called correctional or reformational or rehabilitation center.

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DEFINITION OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI)

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to perceive, understand, manage, and regulate one’s own emotions as well as recognize and influence the emotions of others. It involves self-awareness, self-control, motivation, empathy, and social skills.

Daniel Goleman popularized EI and identified five core components:

1. Self-awareness

2. Self-regulation

3. Motivation

4. Empathy

5. Social skills

High emotional intelligence helps individuals build better relationships, reduce stress, defuse conflict, and improve job performance.

50 KEY ISSUES ABOUT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EXPLAINED)

1. Self-Awareness – Knowing your emotions, strengths, weaknesses, and drives.

2. Self-Regulation – Controlling or redirecting disruptive impulses and moods.

3. Internal Motivation – Being driven to achieve beyond external rewards.

4. Empathy – Recognizing and understanding others’ emotions.

5. Social Skills – Managing relationships and building networks effectively.

6. Emotional Recognition – Ability to identify emotions in oneself and others.

7. Emotional Expression – Expressing emotions clearly and appropriately.

8. Emotional Management – Keeping emotional reactions in check.

9. Impulse Control – Resisting or delaying an emotional or behavioral reaction.

10. Self-Confidence – A strong sense of self-worth and capabilities.

11. Adaptability – Flexibility in dealing with change or unexpected obstacles.

12. Stress Management – Handling stress without becoming overwhelmed.

13. Optimism – A positive outlook that helps overcome obstacles.

14. Emotional Resilience – Recovering from setbacks and emotional distress.

15. Conflict Resolution – Managing and resolving disputes constructively.

16. Active Listening – Fully concentrating and understanding before responding.

17. Non-Verbal Communication – Reading body language and emotional cues.

18. Building Rapport – Creating a positive connection with others.

19. Trustworthiness – Being reliable and maintaining integrity.

20. Self-Motivation – Initiating tasks and pursuing goals persistently.

21. Managing Feedback – Giving and receiving feedback positively.

22. Empathetic Listening – Understanding emotions behind the words.

23. Handling Criticism – Receiving negative feedback constructively.

24. Patience – Tolerating delays or problems calmly.

25. Influence – Persuading others while respecting their viewpoints.

26. Teamwork – Collaborating with others toward a common goal.

27. Leadership – Inspiring and guiding others with emotional sensitivity.

28. Emotional Detachment – Knowing when to detach emotionally for objectivity.

29. Personal Responsibility – Owning one’s emotions and actions.

30. Awareness of Others – Sensitivity to others' emotional states and needs.

31. Mindfulness – Being present and aware of emotions in real-time.

32. Emotional Triggers – Recognizing what provokes strong emotional responses.

33. Emotional Vocabulary – Using precise language to describe feelings.

34. Perspective-Taking – Seeing situations from others’ emotional viewpoints.

35. Emotional Contagion – Understanding how emotions spread in groups.

36. Mood Management – Maintaining a healthy and productive emotional state.

37. Cultural Sensitivity – Respecting emotional expressions in diverse cultures.

38. Boundary Setting – Knowing emotional limits and asserting them respectfully.

39. Dealing with Rejection – Handling emotional pain without collapse.

40. Balancing Emotion and Logic – Making decisions that respect both.

41. Compassion – Responding to suffering with understanding and care.

42. Apologizing Sincerely – Recognizing wrongs and expressing remorse.

43. Appreciating Others – Showing gratitude and valuing emotional contributions.

44. Emotional Coaching – Helping others manage their emotions effectively.

45. Emotional Maturity – Consistently behaving in emotionally appropriate ways.

46. Regulating Emotional Climate – Shaping group emotional tone positively.

47. Dealing with Toxic People – Navigating manipulative or overly emotional individuals wisely.

48. Encouragement – Offering emotional support to boost morale.

49. Handling Uncertainty – Coping emotionally with ambiguity and change.

50. Personal Development – Constantly working to improve emotional capabilities.

THEY CALLED HIM A FAILURE. BUT GOD HAD OTHER PLANS

In 1991, he was fired from his job at a petrol station.

In 1995, he failed in business and was deep in debt.

In 1996, he lost his father.

In 1997, his girlfriend dumped him because he was broke.

In 1998, he applied for a police job, was rejected.

He tried to get into the military,they turned him down.

He applied to KFC with 24 others. 23 were accepted.

He was the only one rejected.

But today, that same man is one of the richest people in China.

His name? Jack Ma, Founder of Alibaba Group.

The man they said “no” to became a global inspiration.

Who told you it’s too late?

Who said you’re not qualified?

Who decided that your failure is final?

God writes the best stories with the worst beginnings.

So pick yourself up.

You’re not done. You’re just under construction.

And when God is done building you, even those who rejected you will recommend you.

Your story is not over.

Stay in the game.

Immanuela Nwaigwe FIMC, CMC
Women Development Coach/Management Consultant.
I teach women personal development and how to build 7 figure online brands with their knowledge, skills,experiences and expertise.z

If your appetite for entertainment is greater than your hunger for transformation start crying for your future self.

If you can spend 3 hours on movies, But can't do 1 hour of personal development?

You are already telling your destiny “I’m not ready.”

Entertainment gives you temporary excitement. Transformation through relevant knowledge gives you permanent elevation.

The movie ends. The hype fades. But knowledge & skill? It pays… forever.

Yes, I do watch movies. But I follow a personal code:
My movie time cannot exceed 10% of my total learning time.

For example, If I set a goal to study a minimum of 60 hours monthly, that is 2 hours daily.

That means my total movie time shouldn’t exceed 6 hours per month.

Learning > Leisure.
That’s my formula.
And I don’t break it.

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Now, if you are in the entertainment industry, like an actor, musician, or video producer, watching music videos is learning.

But if you are not, you are just overdosing on distraction.

Remember this:
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WHAT ARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES THAT COMES WITH YOUR RIGHTS AS A NIGERIAN

As a Nigerian, along with your rights, you also have responsibilities that help maintain a harmonious and functioning society. Here are some key responsibilities that complement your rights:

Civic Responsibilities
1. *Obey the Law*: Respect and obey the laws of Nigeria, including those related to taxation, traffic, and public order.
2. *Pay Taxes*: Contribute to the development of Nigeria by paying your taxes and duties promptly.
3. *Participate in the Democratic Process*: Exercise your right to vote, participate in public debates, and engage with your elected representatives.
4. *Respect Public Institutions*: Treat public institutions, such as courts, schools, and hospitals, with respect and dignity.

Social Responsibilities
1. *Respect the Rights of Others*: Recognize and respect the rights and freedoms of fellow Nigerians, including those from different ethnic, religious, or cultural backgrounds.
2. *Promote National Unity*: Foster a sense of national unity and cohesion by embracing Nigeria's diversity and promoting peaceful coexistence.
3. *Protect the Environment*: Contribute to the preservation and protection of Nigeria's natural resources and environment.
4. *Support Vulnerable Groups*: Show compassion and support for vulnerable groups, such as children, women, and people with disabilities.

Personal Responsibilities
1. *Be a Good Neighbor*: Maintain good relationships with your neighbors and contribute to the well-being of your community.
2. *Take Care of Your Health*: Prioritize your physical and mental health by adopting healthy habits and seeking medical attention when necessary.
3. *Pursue Personal Development*: Continuously seek knowledge, skills, and personal growth to enhance your contributions to society.
4. *Be Accountable*: Take responsibility for your actions, apologize when necessary, and make amends for any harm caused.

Community Responsibilities
1. *Participate in Community Development*: Contribute to the development of your community through volunteer work, community service, or participation in local initiatives.
2. *Support Local Institutions*: Strengthen local institutions, such as schools, hospitals, and community centers, by providing resources, expertise, or volunteer services.
3. *Foster Community Cohesion*: Promote social cohesion and inclusivity within your community by organizing or participating in community events and activities.
4. *Protect Community Resources*: Help protect community resources, such as public facilities, parks, and natural resources, for future generations.

By embracing these responsibilities, you'll not only exercise your rights but also contribute to the well-being and prosperity of Nigeria.

A Father's Psychological Advice:

1- Life won’t always match your plans. Learn to go with the flow.

2- Holding onto resentment only delays your blessings.

3- Dating a woman who supports you is invaluable.

4- Success requires one rule, never lie to yourself.

5- If your parents count on you, don’t repeat that with others who rely on theirs.

6- Focus on achieving your ambitions, not chasing after people.

7- This is your time to be a bit selfish; prioritize building yourself.

8- Let go of anything that doesn’t bring you peace.

9- Only share words that are more beautiful than silence.

10- Take care of your appearance for your own sake. When you look good, you feel good.

11- Some people wish to see you fail because they aren’t succeeding themselves.

12- Kindness can sometimes lead to being taken for granted.

13- Don’t compromise who you are just to please everyone around you.

14- Don’t announce your moves until they’re finalized. Premature sharing attracts negativity.

15- Don’t love too deeply to the point of suffering; be cautious in relationships.

16- Your mindset shapes your reality.

17- It can create envy for lives that may deserve pity instead.

18- Nobody owes you gifts; learn to treat yourself.

19- That scary move you dread could be the one that transforms everything. Just do it.

20- Don’t sabotage your journey by trying to speed it up.

21- Some people shouldn’t be asked for help, no matter how desperate you feel.

22- Learn new skills and focus on personal development.

23- Don’t allow someone’s actions to hurt you beyond what you’re willing to accept.

24- Always lift yourself up instead of tearing yourself down.

25- Sometimes, people return just to see if you’re still vulnerable.

26- Identify who doesn’t belong in your life for more peace.

27- Big dreams begin with small steps. Stay consistent and watch your efforts grow.

28- Before spending on others, ensure your family is taken care of.

29- Easy gains often don’t last; lasting success requires hard work.

30- Normalize being selective about what you share.

31- Forgiving unfaithful partners can lead to painful consequences.

32- Success doesn’t change the past; leaving was the right choice.

33- Don’t let others dictate your choices.

34- Never abuse or harm others.

35- Not everyone at your work place is your friend.

36- ~ Do your job.

37- ~ Get paid.

36- ~ Go home.

Thanks for reflecting on this advice.

"Live Purposefully"A Father's Psychological Advice:

1- Life won’t always match your plans. Learn to go with the flow.

2- Holding onto resentment only delays your blessings.

3- Dating a woman who supports you is invaluable.

4- Success requires one rule, never lie to yourself.

5- If your parents count on you, don’t repeat that with others who rely on theirs.

6- Focus on achieving your ambitions, not chasing after people.

7- This is your time to be a bit selfish; prioritize building yourself.

8- Let go of anything that doesn’t bring you peace.

9- Only share words that are more beautiful than silence.

10- Take care of your appearance for your own sake. When you look good, you feel good.

11- Some people wish to see you fail because they aren’t succeeding themselves.

12- Kindness can sometimes lead to being taken for granted.

13- Don’t compromise who you are just to please everyone around you.

14- Don’t announce your moves until they’re finalized. Premature sharing attracts negativity.

15- Don’t love too deeply to the point of suffering; be cautious in relationships.

16- Your mindset shapes your reality.

17- It can create envy for lives that may deserve pity instead.

18- Nobody owes you gifts; learn to treat yourself.

19- That scary move you dread could be the one that transforms everything. Just do it.

20- Don’t sabotage your journey by trying to speed it up.

21- Some people shouldn’t be asked for help, no matter how desperate you feel.

22- Learn new skills and focus on personal development.

23- Don’t allow someone’s actions to hurt you beyond what you’re willing to accept.

24- Always lift yourself up instead of tearing yourself down.

25- Sometimes, people return just to see if you’re still vulnerable.

26- Identify who doesn’t belong in your life for more peace.

27- Big dreams begin with small steps. Stay consistent and watch your efforts grow.

28- Before spending on others, ensure your family is taken care of.

29- Easy gains often don’t last; lasting success requires hard work.

30- Normalize being selective about what you share.

31- Forgiving unfaithful partners can lead to painful consequences.

32- Success doesn’t change the past; leaving was the right choice.

33- Don’t let others dictate your choices.

34- Never abuse or harm others.

35- Not everyone at your work place is your friend.

36- ~ Do your job.

37- ~ Get paid.

36- ~ Go home.

Thanks for reflecting on this advice.

"Live Purposefully"

SEVEN TYPES OF PEOPLE TO AVOID!

1. WHEELBARROW PEOPLE: This category of people are energy drainers and time wasters. Such people would always want you to do everything for them. They don’t care about your own good but only theirs. They believe it’s your problem to solve their problems. One terrible thing about “wheelbarrow” is that, after you have laboured to load it up, you will still have to labour to push before it moves.

Note: Wheelbarrow people are consumers of energy, time and resources.

2. MOSQUITO PEOPLE: This set of people are only interested in sucking goodies out of your life and injected poison in replacement. They are benefits seekers but will never add values to others. Mosquito people have nothing good to offer but always want to derive goodness from others. Here is one terrible thing about “Mosquitos”, they only sing around you whenever they want to suck your blood and give you malaria.

Note: Mosquito people only sing your praises when they have something to benefit from you, while they backbite and backstab you thereafter.

3. SCAFFOLDING PEOPLE: This category of people are glory seekers and takers. Just because they have helped you at one time or another, they would want to be god over your life. They want to always control you and dictate the directions of your life. They won’t want you to be free and shine on your own but to always be under them.

One good thing about “Scaffolding” is that it’s useful but it’s usefulness is for short-term purpose. It is dangerous to be kept for permanent purpose.

Note: You must know when the relevances of scaffolding people have started constituting nuisance to your personal development and progress. And at such a time, all you must do is to discard them without delay, if not, your star will never shine.

4. CROCODILE PEOPLE: This category of people are nothing but pretenders. They don't have good reasons or godly intentions for getting closer to you. They only get close to know your secrets and will possibly use whatever personal information they know about you against you at any slightest provocation or disagreement. Crocodile people are not pretenders, they are liars, backstabbers, gossipers and twaddlers.

Note: Crocodile people would pretend to gain your empathy and make you vulnerable to their attack thereafter.

5. CHAMELEON PEOPLE: This set of people are envious and full of jealousy. They are always in unhealthy competition with you. They pretend as if they are going the same direction with you but only to silently monitor your life's progress with evil and negative intentions. They are envious of your success and as a result enter into competitive jealousy with you. Chameleon people are friends that will neither support you nor celebrate your progress, but would always amplify your downfall and mistakes.

Note: A jealous and envious friend can go any length to sabotage your efforts, frustrate your plans and destroy your dreams.

6. NAYSAYER PEOPLE: This set of people are dream killers. They won't appreciate your dreams and they will never support it. They will tell you 1001 reasons why your dream is impossible. They won't see your efforts but will always capitalise on your failed attempts. They will always see your cup half-empty and not half-full. When you are working on solutions, they would be busy creating more problems for you. They are passion killers and hope drainers.

Note: Naysayer People don't have dreams, so they will neither appreciate your dream nor support it.

7. GARBAGE PUSHER PEOPLE: This category of people are the worst of them all. They don't have anything good to offer. Their lives are full of debris, dirtiness and trashes. They are carriers of bad and negative news. They are carriers and disseminators discouraging and demoralizing information. Anytime they surface, it means they have something negative to talk about. They a peddlers of unfortunate events and negative development.

Note: Garbage Pusher People are always the first set of people to twit, post and broadcast ungodly, unfortunate, unprofitable and heartbreaking information.

You know them on your list as I also have them on my list too.

NOTE:

It is your sole responsibility to examine your life to really understand what categories of people you are surrounded with. Your life can only move in right directions the moment you associate with positive people and disconnect from negative people. Am I communicating?

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