Who told you that you can’t abstain from s3x before marriage 🤔 By God’s Grace, I and my wife courted for 4 years and never had s3x until after our wedding. The notion that once you’re in a committed relationship SEX IS NORMAL is totally erroneous Let’s be clear : Sex before marriage is not FUN but FORNICATION. You can love someone deeply, be strongly attracted to them, and still honour God with your body. Purity is possible, even in this generation. Here are 6 biblical and practical ways to abstain from sex before marriage: 1. Set Clear Boundaries from Day One Don’t leave things to chance. Define what’s acceptable and what’s not. Avoid places, times, and behaviors that fuel temptation. “Flee the evil desires of youth…” — 2 Timothy 2:22 2. Choose a Partner Who Shares Your Values It’s easier to stay pure when your partner also desires purity. If they’re pressuring you, they’re not protecting you. A brother or sister who sees nothing wrong in fornication will definitely pressure you into it. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” — Amos 3:3 3. Avoid Private and Compromising Situations Being alone behind closed doors is a setup for sin. Meet in public places or around trusted people. “Make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” — Romans 13:14 4. Make the Relationship Spiritual, Not Just Emotional Pray together, study the Word together, and talk about purpose—not just feelings. This keeps your connection rooted in God. “How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” — Psalm 119:9 5. Seek Accountability and Counseling When Needed Don’t walk the journey alone. Be accountable to a godly mentor or couple who will check in and support your commitment to purity. “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” — Proverbs 15:22 6. What if you have fallen before? “My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.” ‭‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭1‬ ‭ In the occasion of sin, quickly repent and run to Jesus. He will forgive you and ensure you follow the first 5 principles, so you don’t return back to your vomit. ©️ I am Nicholas Michael Oriarewo Your #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers #nNicholas Michael Oriarewo

CAMPUS FIRE vs REAL LIFE SITUATION The fact that you were on fire while in higher institution or NYSC doesn’t mean you will continue to be on fire afterwards. There are so many then campus papas, mamas, uncles, aunties, prayer secretaries, Bible study leaders, music ministers, fellowship workers and regular fellowship members who have graduated and are a shadow of who they were. They use to pray, fast, lead bible study, slay people under the anointing and do so many mighty things on campus but are no where to be found in God’s current program and move. The fact is: the firewood you kindled yesterday cannot cook today’s meal. You need fresh fire for today’s challenges. If you don’t intentionally work on your Spiritual growth after graduation, I bet you satan will make a mess of who you used to be. You need to be able to balance spirituality with busy work schedules, harsh economic conditions, relationship and family demands and still be sane and purpose driven. So my question for you is: are you still on fire or you’ve gone cold. If you need some help or support, feel free to send a DM Your #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers

This Wedding was called off in Jos about a week back. Some persons are blaming the bride for her actions after allowing guests to come and allowing everything to be planned out. Others are blaming the mother in-law for being domineering on her son and influencing every of his decisions. It’s a long story but the battle intensified when the lady insisted on attending her native church after wedding and the guy insisted on both of them attending his church (during their final counseling session) The misconceptions about what really transpired clearly indicates that they were preparing for wedding and forgot to prepare or pay attention to their marriage. The right questions were not asked or sweep under the carpet, proper deliberations and agreements were not reached on key matters, red flags were ignored and assumptions instead of facts were embraced. Marriage is too serious to embark upon casually and unprepared. That is why you need to attend RMT 4.0, where we shall be discussing “Purpose-Driven Relationships and Marriages”. You need the right information, layered from scriptures and proven truths. You can’t afford to miss it. It’s happening by 7:30pm this Friday on our Telegram channel. Check the comment section for more details Your #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers

7 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE (PART 2) The short story in between should teach you a lesson. In Part 1, I spoke about “Being honest, Even about the small things” and in Part 2, it will be: 2. FOLLOW THROUGH, ON YOUR PROMISES Esther had learned to lower her expectations. Phil, her husband, had a pattern—big words, little follow-through or zero action. He promised to visit her parents. Months passed. Nothing. He said they’d attend their son’s graduation together. He went to watch football match that day. So, when he promised to pick her up from Abuja airport after her trip, she was cautiously hopeful. “Don’t worry, babe. I’ve set a reminder,” he assured her. But as she wheeled her luggage out at 7 p.m., there was no sign of him. No call. No message. Just silence. She waited. Tried his lines severally, to no avail. After an hour, she got a cab and went home. When she walked in, he said with a laugh, “Ah! Esther, I completely forgot. Something came up.” She smiled faintly, but inside, something broke. It wasn’t about the airport—it was everything else. One forgotten promise after another. Let’s be factual here👇 Trust erodes over time when words stop matching actions. It’s not just about one event—it’s the accumulation of disappointments that makes a partner feel unseen, unvalued, and emotionally unsafe. It is totally wrong to consistently break your promise to people (especially your partner) Simple guide on how to keep your promise: ✅ Don’t promise what you know will be impossible or hard for you to deliver. ✅ If your plans change or you sense you cannot meet up, communicate clearly and respectfully to your partner. ✅ Consistency over time is what builds real trust, so be consistent. Scripture puts it this way: “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘or Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’.” — Matthew 5:37 Your #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers

SHOULD YOU DO A COURT WEDDING? (PART 1) Dear Anonymous Brother, There are three recognized types of marriages in Nigeria: 1. Statutory Marriage (or marriage Under the Act) • Conducted under the Marriage Act in a government-approved registry (not court) or church licensed for statutory weddings. (Some churches have government licenses to conduct this however, most churches don’t have license for this). 2. Customary Marriage • Conducted according to the traditions and customs of the ethnic groups involved. • Typically includes the payment of bride price and traditional rites. 3. Islamic Marriage • Performed according to Islamic (Sharia) law. • Requires a bride price (Sadaq) and a Nikah (marriage contract). I want to believe that the reason you’re having reservations about statutory wedding or marriage under the act (not court wedding as people call it) is because of the consequences and rigors of divorce. Most men are scared of statutory wedding because, in the case of divorce, properties are bound to be split, child custody laws may not favour them, and the consequence of polygamy (because the law prohibits that). If this is the case, I can boldly tell you that you’re entering marriage with the wrong mentality. You’re most likely going to end in divorce when conflict arises because you created room for it before entering the marriage. (Don’t forget that conflict must arise whether you like it or not). Note: Statutory weddings are not legally called court weddings. They are conducted in a marriage registry, a place of worship or any place of your choice by an authorized marriage registrar or licensed minister of a church. However, divorce can only take place in a high court or court with a higher jurisdiction. To be continued……… #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers

7 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE (PART 1) The short story in between should teach you a lesson. Trust is the backbone of any strong relationship. It’s what makes love safe, secure, and long-lasting. But trust isn’t automatic—it is built through consistent actions, honesty, and reliability. Here are seven powerful ways to build trust in your relationship or marriage: 1. BE HONEST, EVEN ABOUT THE SMALL THINGS Let me tell you a short story🤔 Chijioke and Ada had been married for three years when Chijioke suddenly started acting restless. He was distant, easily irritated, and always on his phone. Ada noticed but assumed it was work stress. One evening, a strange number called his phone while he was in the shower. Out of curiosity, Ada answered. “Mr. Chijioke, this is our final warning. Pay back the ₦2 million loan or face legal action.” Ada’s heart dropped. A loan? For ₦2 million? She had no idea her husband had borrowed money. When he came out, she confronted him. He sighed and said, “I didn’t want to stress you, so I didn’t tell you.” Ada felt betrayed. Not because of the debt, but because he had kept it a secret. That night, she lay awake thinking, “If he can hide this, what else is he hiding?” And that was the foundation of distrust she developed towards her husband. She started doubting most of the things he says☹️ Here’s the truth: Hiding the truth, even with good intentions, damages trust. Ada wasn’t upset about the loan itself—she was upset about the secrecy. When you are honest, even about small things, your partner feels safe and secure. When you start keeping secrets, doubt creeps in. How do you achieve this? ✅ Speak the truth, even if it’s uncomfortable. ✅ If you make a mistake, own up to it instead of covering it up. ✅ Never assume small lies won’t matter—they always do in the long run. Biblical Wisdom: “The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy.” — Proverbs 12:22 To be continued……..🤩 Your #relationshipcoach #marriagecounselor #lovebankers