IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS.


Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices.

These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.”

1. YOUR EMOTIONS

The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him.

If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies.

Your emotions are good and what makes you human but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners.

2. UNMET NEEDS

Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup.
Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water.

When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered and you will confuse so many things for love.

3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE

A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies…

But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope.

So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later.

4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM

Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart, and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation….

But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”.

Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future.

5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF)

When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace.

You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline.
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For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice?

Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you?

How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?

Title: My Arranged Marriage
Episode 1: The Day My Bride Brought Her Ex to Our Wedding

I always knew my family was chaotic, but I didn’t know they were diabolical until the day I walked into my own wedding and nearly fainted. Not because of cold feet — but because the bride, the woman I was supposed to marry, was sitting on the stage laughing with her ex-boyfriend, whom she brought along like a plus-one.

Yes, her ex. To our wedding.

Let me start from the beginning.

It began two months ago when Mama burst into my room like a hurricane dressed in Ankara and holy anointing.
"Obinna, your bachelorhood is a spiritual attack!"
She clutched her Bible and her phone, scrolling through WhatsApp pictures of potential wives like it was Tinder for African mothers.

I was 29, a civil engineer in Lagos, and deeply single—not because I couldn't find love, but because the last girl I loved used my rent money to buy a Brazilian wig and disappeared with a sugar daddy who sold building materials.

So, when Mama insisted on arranging a marriage, I laughed. Until Papa added his voice.
“If you don’t marry before July, forget your inheritance. We will donate your land to the church!”

July was two months away.

That was how I met Amaka.
Photos first. Then video calls. She was pretty. Soft-spoken. From Enugu. A nurse. And, according to her mother, a virgin. (My cousin Ugochi whispered, “Aunty, check that thing well. These days, even calculators reset.”)

I agreed to meet her. She smiled, giggled, and spoke gently. But something felt... rehearsed. Like she was playing a role.

Still, the wedding date was fixed. Invitations printed. Cow bought. Church booked. DJ paid. Mama danced every night to Flavour’s songs as if the wedding was her own.

And then the big day came.

The hall glittered with decorations. Guests arrived in gele and agbada. My friends teased me “Obinna, you go finally chop life!”

Then I saw her. Amaka. Dressed in white. Gorgeous. Smiling. Until I noticed the man sitting beside her, whispering in her ear and holding her hand.

I frowned.
“Who is that?” I asked my brother.

My brother squinted. “I think he came with the bride.”

“Came with the"

Before I could finish, Mama appeared beside me, all smiles and sweat. “You look handsome, my son. Now go and smile at your bride.”

“I will smile after I know who that guy is.”

Mama hissed and walked off.

So, I marched up to Amaka, heart racing. “Who is this?”

She blinked, calm. “Oh! Meet Chuka. My best friend. He’s like… family.”

Chuka stood, extended his hand, smiling like a goat that just chewed your exam script. “Nice to meet you, bro.”

Bro?

I ignored his hand. “Can we talk privately?”

Amaka sighed, dragged me aside, and said the thing that nearly made me remove my agbada and run home in boxers.

“I invited him because... well... he’s important to me. We dated for six years. He’s the one who taught me how to love. But my parents didn’t approve. So I had to settle for this... arrangement.”

I stood still, blinking.
“Settle?”

“Yes,” she said. “But you’re kind. You’ll understand.”

Ladies and gentlemen, I did not understand.

My uncle, who saw me shaking like a leaf, whispered, “Is it heartbreak or hunger? Should we bring you small jollof rice to calm your nerves?”

I wanted to run, but the hall was full, the gifts were stacked, and the caterers were serving. A pastor was waiting. A crowd was watching.

Then I remembered what my grandmother once said:
“If you must embarrass the devil, do it with boldness.”

So, I climbed the stage, grabbed the mic, and said:
“Ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you all for coming. But I just found out that I am not the main actor in this wedding. I am an extra.”

Gasps.

Chuka choked on his zobo. Amaka’s face turned pale. Mama tried to grab the mic, but I raised my hand dramatically.

“This wedding is cancelled. But don’t worry there’s plenty of food. Eat, drink, and take selfies. Just know that Obinna has left the chat!”

I walked out, head high, heart free. That night, I ate the wedding jollof alone in my boxers and watched Nollywood movies till 2 a.m.

A week later, I met Adaeze, my neighbor who had always lent me pepper without asking for it back. She knocked on my door with a plate of hot rice and a smile.

And guess what?

HOW TO SERVE YOUR HUSBAND'S MEAL.


Some wives are used to buying fanciful bowls, plates and serving dishes all to decorate their store/kitchens.

They serve their husband with just any meal dish but when a visitor is around, they go into the store, to get a nice dish plate to serve a visitor.

Listen to me, NOBODY IS SUPERIOR TO YOUR HUSBAND!!!

To have the best of marriage, you must serve your husband's meal as a king!... If you haven't been to a palace to dine with a king before, watch movies to see it.
? Don't just put rice and stew in one dirty flat plate for your husband. Serve his stew separately, if possible, meat/fish separately.

Get a beautiful cup for his water/juice.

Don't let your kids, siblings, housemaid or anyone else serve your husband's meal (except for reasons).. Serve your king by yourself!
*When you want to serve his meal, serve with honour and respect. Don't just dump his food on the table.*

*You need to eat together with your husband sometimes and if by any reason, you have eaten before him, sometimes, ensure you sit with him, ask if he is okay with the meal*.

Then pack the plates when he is done*.The only place most men experience excellent meal service is at the eatery or when they go to watch movies. When you serve /treat your husband like a King, then he sees you and treats you like a queen!

*And when you serve/treat him as a slave,.. He might go out to get a better service..* Then you must not complain. I know some ladies would be like this teaching is odd.. Yes it would be odd to some but for those who seek a peaceful and longlasting marriage.. IT IS A SUCCESS DOSE.
*Men's heart move to where they are treated with respect.*

*Take note of this! Little things that we do ignore go a very long way keeping our home happy and successful*.

*Husband and wife who eats together, prays together conquers all marital obstacles.👌🏾*

"50 Cent is quite frugal. He ended our two-year relationship after I asked him for $10,000," Jamira, the rapper’s ex-girlfriend, recently shared in an emotional statement.

She continued, "Ladies, think twice before dating someone like 50 Cent. In fact, if your partner follows him on social media, it might even be a red flag. During the two years we were together, he never gave me a single dollar. The only gift I ever received was a wig, which he actually asked me to return the day we broke up. It wasn’t even worth $100."

Jamira explained that she had never asked him for money during the entire course of their relationship. But the one time she did—requesting $10,000—his response surprised her:
"'Jamira, you're a strong, independent woman. You don’t need a man to take care of your bills. Here’s $50,'" she recalled.

Feeling disappointed and hurt, Jamira ended the relationship. His final words, she claimed, were:
"'I’ve been waiting to hear that for a long time. Please leave the wig on the table before you go.'"

She concluded by saying, "I truly regret falling for him. Loving 50 Cent was the biggest mistake of my life. He’s just extremely tight with money."

Fans have reacted with mixed opinions, while others point out 50 Cent once famously rapped, “I don’t care what you heard about me, but a woman’s not getting a dollar outta me.”
It seems he meant every word.

IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS.


Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices.

These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.”

1. YOUR EMOTIONS

The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him.

If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies.

Your emotions are good and what makes you human, but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners.

2. UNMET NEEDS

Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup.
Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water.

When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered, and you will confuse so many things for love.

3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE

A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies…

But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope.

So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later.

4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM

Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation….

But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”.

Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future.

5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF)

When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace.

You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline.
=========

For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice?

Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you?

How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?

Beautiful ladies

*Health Education*

*Cockroaches*

Can survive a week without its head.
Can survive 2weeks without water.
Can survive one month without food
Can live in your house for 3½years (maximum life span) without been detected!!

Defecates on human food.
Can trigger severe asthma attack.
Spreads bacteria that can cause food poisoning and typhoid.

A cockroach can kill you.
If you don’t kill it first.

These things are capable of the worst things you can imagine.

They eat almost anything even fellow insects. Hair, books, sweets, meat anything- they will eat.

They are attracted to human food.
They vomit on the food.
They defecate on the food.

Absolutely disgusting animals.

Some young cockroaches have been documented to crawl over sleeping human beings and crawl inside the ears, noses, and even open mouths.

So if you have cockroaches in your house and you sleep sometimes with your mouth open and drooling, a cockroach can scroll in for a kiss.

Cockroaches have been known to spread at least 33 kinds of bacteria, including E. coli and Salmonella, six parasitic worms and more than seven other types of human pathogens.

E. coli and Salmonella for example are classic causes of serious food poisoning, typhoid and diarrhea.

So what to do?
Prevent the environment that helps them thrive. That’s the main answer.

Keep your cupboards, sinks, tables and floors clean and free of dirty plates, unused utensils and old newspapers.

Clean your dishes, food crumbs and oil spills right away once you cook.

*Always store your food in airtight containers, and never leave your food out (even if it is pet food!).*

*Storing up food in nylon bags and sacks like garri and rice is NOT the best for you. These idiots can eat through the sack and ruin that food for you.*

*Don’t risk it at all.*

Seal cracks and gaps in walls, floors and openings around or inside cabinets.

Also make sure that you seal gaps around pipes, plumbing, wall outlets, and spaces under the doors to your house and kitchen.

From time to time, run hot water in spare bathrooms and little used sinks.

Always check your bag and your children's school bags when they return home, as well as your shopping items before storing them.

If despite all these measures, you still have a cockroach problem at home, contact a pest professional for assistance with elimination and prevention.

Smack with a broom.
Squash with slippers.
Boil in hot water.
Spray with an insecticide.
Kill with a gun.

Use whatever means you can.
But don’t ever ignore.

One cockroach can produce up to 1,000 new ones in a year to torment your life.

Kill cockroaches now
Before they kill you.

So ladies and gentlemen.
Do the world a favour:
Kill a cockroach today.

When you go to your friends house, as a show of goodwill, kill a cockroach.

When you go to your partner’s house, as a show of love, kill a cockroach.

Wherever you go, and you find one-
kill it. Just do it.

*HOW TO SERVE YOUR HUSBAND'S MEAL.*


Some wives are used to buying fanciful bowls, plates and serving dishes all to decorate their store/kitchens.

They serve their husband with just any meal dish but when a visitor is around, they go into the store, to get a nice dish plate to serve a visitor.

Listen to me, NOBODY IS SUPERIOR TO YOUR HUSBAND!!!

To have the best of marriage, you must serve your husband's meal as a king!... If you haven't been to a palace to dine with a king before, watch movies to see it.
? Don't just put rice and stew in one dirty flat plate for your husband. Serve his stew separately, if possible, meat/fish separately.

Get a beautiful cup for his water/juice.

Don't let your kids, siblings, housemaid or anyone else serve your husband's meal (except for reasons).. Serve your king by yourself!
*When you want to serve his meal, serve with honour and respect. Don't just dump his food on the table.*

*You need to eat together with your husband sometimes and if by any reason, you have eaten before him, sometimes, ensure you sit with him, ask if he is okay with the meal*.

Then pack the plates when he is done*.The only place most men experience excellent meal service is at the eatery or when they go to watch movies. When you serve /treat your husband like a King, then he sees you and treats you like a queen!

*And when you serve/treat him as a slave,.. He might go out to get a better service..* Then you must not complain. I know some ladies would be like this teaching is odd.. Yes it would be odd to some but for those who seek a peaceful and longlasting marriage.. IT IS A SUCCESS DOSE.
*Men's heart move to where they are treated with respect.*

*Take note of this! Little things that we do ignore go a very long way keeping our home happy and successful*.

*Husband and wife who eats together, prays together conquers all marital obstacles.👌🏾*

*BREAKING NEWS: SHOCKING*
*Man shortage all over the world*

UN publishes 1st quarter Demography Report 2025.
There are 7.8Billion people on planet . (earth).
The report shows:-

Women = 5.6Billion,
Men = 2.2Billion.

So, they advised women to be careful in showing attitudes to any man because out of the 2.2 Billion men:

• One billion are married already.
• 130 million are in prison.
• 70 million are mentally ill.

That means that we have just about 1 billion men available for marriage and out of the
1billion:

• 50% are jobless
• 3% are gay
• 5% are Catholic Priests
• 10% are your relatives
• 32% are above 66years.

So, ladies both the married and singles should handle men with respect.
Cause. *Man shortage all over the world*

LADIES, CHERISH THIS KIND OF MAN:

1. Cherish the man who loves his mum. He has been brought up well.

2. Cherish the man who loves you deeply.

3. Cherish the man who is funny. You will never be bored.

4. Cherish the man who treats strangers and the less privileged with dignity. He has a kind heart.

5. Cherish the man who listens. You will be understood.

6. Cherish the man whose idea of fun is constructive, not endless drinking and clubbing. He is mature.

7. Cherish the man who is a family man ready for the responsibility and clear about what he wants with you. Your time will not be wasted.

8. Cherish the man who respects his father no matter how his dad is. He has learned true manhood.

9. Cherish the man who doesn't insult his ex or your ex even if the breakup was messy. He is someone who enters into love for the right reasons.

10. Cherish the man who needs you. He will hold on to you.

11. Cherish the man who lets you love him, who lets you see the nakedness of his weaknesses and strengths. He trusts you.

12. Cherish the man who accepts correction and changes his ways if he offends you. He will make himself better to love you.

13. Cherish the man who prays for you. He knows you are a gift from God.

14. Cherish the man who treats other women with respect. He will show you even more respect.

15. Cherish the man who loves the children you and also is a father figure to those not his. That man will have an honorable legacy.

16. Cherish the man with a vision. He will challenge and build you, he knows where he is going.

17. Cherish the man who has a good set of friends. You can tell the character of a man by the friends he keeps.

18. Cherish the man who values intimacy above sex. He will be faithful to you.

19. Cherish the man who is interested in your dreams. He cares about your future.

20. Cherish the man who respects your decisions and doesn't rush you. He sees you as a life partner, not someone to dominate.

21. Cherish the man who corrects you when you are wrong and inspires and pushes you to do better. He sees your potential and will not rest until your potential is lived out. That man is a keeper.

22. Cherish the man who has been consistent in his focus. You can depend on him.

23. Cherish the man who works hard, is self-motivated, and is diligent even when he has little. That man is going places and one day he will make you proud

24. Cherish the man who is not intimidated by other men when they notice your beauty. He is a secure man

➥𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐤𝐮𝐦𝐛𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐰𝐨 𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐰𝐞𝐲𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐌𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐢 𝐮𝐧𝐠𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐲𝐚𝐰𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐳𝐯𝐚𝐫𝐨❤‍🩹

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