IF YOU KEEP PICKING WRONG, READ THIS.


Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. But many good women are making bad decisions because something deeper is influencing their choices.

These are 5 things that can cause you to choose the wrong partner even when you’re praying, fasting, and “doing everything.”

1. YOUR EMOTIONS

The moment you feel something strong, you stop seeing clearly. You start making excuses to cover up red flags because you don't want to lose this thing you feel for him.

If emotions are driving the car, wisdom is probably tied up in the boot. And that is exactly the case for many ladies.

Your emotions are good and what makes you human but you need to gain mastery over it else it will keep making you choose the wrong partners.

2. UNMET NEEDS

Some of the worst relationships you’ll ever enter are the ones you walk into with an empty cup.
Because when you’re thirsty, even p0ison can look like water.

When you have unmet needs, your definition and perception of love are altered and you will confuse so many things for love.

3. YOU’RE STILL IN YOUR FANTASY STAGE

A lot of women fall in love with the idea of a man, not the reality of who he is. You picture a wedding with him, future kids, matching Ankara, and couple selfies…

But you never stopped to ask: Is this man truly ready for what I’m praying for? Sometimes, you’re not choosing him - you’re choosing your hope.

So as long as he matches the idea of the man you fantasize about, you intentionally close your eyes to other important things and hope that helps changes later.

4. TRAUMA YOU HAVEN’T HEALED FROM

Unhealed trauma can distort a lot. You’ll think you’re following your heart, and even feel “peace” and use it as a confirmation….

But it’s your w0unds that are choosing for you because it has seen something “familiar”.

Your nervous system isn’t looking for love… it’s looking for what it knows. And until you do the healing work, your past will keep hijacking your future.

5. PRESSURE (FROM SOCIETY, FRIENDS, FAMILY OR EVEN YOURSELF)

When you’re close to your 30s and people keep asking “when are you getting married?”, it messes with your peace.

You start feeling like you’re behind. You lower your standards. You rush, settle, and pick out of fear. And the worst part? You start seeing the wrong person as “good enough” After all no one is perfect, right? All because you’re trying to meet a deadline.
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For how long will you keep allowing your emotions to affect your relationship choices? What unmet need is influencing your choice?

Is something from the past making you reject what is safe, good, and real? Then making you choose what isn't good for you?

How about pressure to be married? Are you giving in already?

*LESSONS FOR WOMEN IN MARRIAGE! +18*
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Most women complain of sexual dissatisfaction but the question you should be asking yourself is: Are you playing your part as a woman? Do you know the things that turn your man on? Do you know that a man needs to be caressed and complimented in order to feel like making love to you?

May You Try This It May Help:

1. Be romantic, playful, and spontaneous. Touch your man play with his body flirt with him on the phone compliment him always tell him you love him send him dirty suggestive messages.


2. Please do not be afraid: Ashamed or irritated to take him into your mouth it's exciting once you get the hang of it.

3. Allow him unlimited access to your body: Allow him to go down on you. Do not hide your sensitive areas: surely why do hide your breasts ears and womanhood then claim he can't turn me on.

4. Show him you like sex too: It kills a man's ego when he struggles to get it by the time he starts doing it he will be tired from wrestling with you and talking to you to convince you to have it please please if you can convince your man that you also like it and enjoy it it's very important.

Your man thrives to bring you the latest album of your favorite musician which will stop him from bringing you a new style of sex if he knows you like it.

5. Respond to his lovemaking: Do not lie there like you are dead run your hands on his back and spread out those legs for him and move up to meet him, moan and groan, hiss like a snake.

6. If he hits the right spot say it and show it: Urge him on and hold him tight there, speak in tongues.

7. Suggest positions: And fully participate in your favorite position do not be afraid to go on top.

8. Satisfy him first he will eventually satisfy you: Make him happy and allow him to enjoy you he will return the compliment.

9. Do everything he likes and enjoy pleasing him: You think most men leave you because they got what they wanted: No they would have discovered that you are not enjoying what they are offering you so enjoy what is offered first!

Listen up, son.

There’s no story more emotional, more dramatic, or more manipulative than that of a broke woman looking to fleece you.

A broke woman is a walking crisis. Today it’s her gas. Tomorrow it’s her mother’s surgery. Next week it’s her little brother’s school fees. After that, her auntie’s dog was kidnapped by boko haram.

Real problems. Fake problems. Imaginary ones too. All on your small, struggling head. You will age quickly.

Why? Because she doesn’t work. She doesn’t build. She’s lazy, entitled, and broke but she still has needs. She still wants to eat, dress up, take selfies, and live soft. And since she can’t provide, she survives by lying, crying, and seducing men.

The worst part is you’re not the only one she’s running this game on. You’re just one of many. No company runs and survives on just one customer. Una many!

She targets men with soft hearts. Men with a savior complex. Men who feel guilty saying “no.” and in return, she offers her body because in her mind, that’s her only currency.

Let me be blunt: A broke girl doesn’t love you, she loves what you can do for her and the moment you stop doing it or can’t provide anymore, she vanishes and finds another man who can.

Don’t build with a liability. Choose a woman who’s financially responsible. I didn’t say rich; I said responsible for her own good. A woman who can feed herself, transport herself, recharge her phone, buy her own toiletries and fill her own gas, all without turning her needs into prayer points or a pity party.

That’s the barest minimum because the truth is this, a broke woman will always monetize love. She'll turn her body into an office to survive.

You were not born to be an emergency fund for irresponsible women. Build with value. Love a woman with dignity, not desperation. Leave broke women alone!

Clear?

HOW TO LOVE AND HELP YOUR HUSBAND 👱‍♀

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband." - Proverbs 12:4

1. **Respect Him Unconditionally.**

Listen to him and ask for his opinion. Value his advice and follow his guidance. Men have a deep need for respect, so show it in your tone of voice during conversations and how you approach him, especially when you disagree. Ensure your children respect their dad in the same way. Prioritize him over the children and teach them to do the same. Let him know his thoughts matter and that you truly value his input.

2. **Accept Your Husband as Your Spiritual Leader.**

Men are created to lead the family, which doesn’t imply that women are any less significant. It means God has equipped men with certain skills to effectively guide their families. As stated in Ephesians 5:22-23, “the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church.”

Accepting your husband as your spiritual leader involves recognizing and supporting his role in guiding the family’s spiritual life. Allow him to lead in prayer, Bible study, and spiritual decisions while also contributing your own insights to enrich your family’s faith journey. If he’s struggling in this area, offer your support and encourage him to seek guidance from trusted sources or professional help if necessary.

3. **Listen More.**

Engage and listen when he speaks. While you might want to make him smile, your willingness to listen can be even more impactful.

4. **Be the Best Version of Yourself.**

Show love by striving to become the best person you can be. Your happiness will positively affect your husband’s well-being too.

5. **Contribute Financially.**

Marriage is teamwork; be willing to share your financial resources to help pay the bills. Avoid being stingy with your money.

6. **Be Caring and Compassionate.**

Support him when he has a bad day or celebrate with him on a good day. Show your love and care without waiting for him to get sick or need assistance. Simple gestures like a cup of coffee in bed or a cuddle can mean a lot.

7. **Support His Dreams.**

Be flexible and willing to sacrifice for your husband’s goals. A supportive wife allows a man to push his limits and achieve success. Stand by him as a team, working together toward daily routines and long-term ambitions.

8. **Love Him Unconditionally.**

Be there for him through good times and bad, demonstrating unwavering love.

9. **Give Small Gifts.**

Make your husband feel special every day, not just on special occasions.

10. **Maintain His Wardrobe.**

Wash and iron his clothes, including underwear.

11. **Celebrate His Achievements.**

Recognize and celebrate his successes, no matter how small.

12. **Discipline Your Children Together.**

Avoid saying, “I will report you to your daddy.” Work as a team in parenting.

13. **Spend Money Wisely.**

Utilize any money he gives you judiciously, showing you value his contributions.

14. **Submit to Him** as your lord and king.

15. **Pray for Him Regularly.**

Let him know you’re praying for his well-being, demonstrating care for his spiritual life.

16. **Comfort and Console Him.**

Be there to provide strength and support whenever he needs it.

17. **Be Intimate.**

Prioritize your physical relationship and do not neglect your s€xual intimacy.

18. **Keep a Clean Home.**

Maintain a tidy and organized living space.

19. **Prepare Timely Meals.**

Ensure he is fed and nourished regularly.

20. **Show Appreciation.**

Praise him and express gratitude. Encouragement can motivate him to go the extra mile for you.

21. **Make Him Laugh.**

Lighten the mood by making him laugh daily.

**COUPLES WHO HELP EACH OTHER CAN NEVER BE HELPLESS**

You will not fail in marriage, in Jesus' name.

Please share this message with your loved ones.

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

WATCH YOUR TONE
When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

TIMING
Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

WATCH YOUR EYES
Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

SOOTHE HIM
If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

NO INSULTS
Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

DON'T BOY HIM
Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

DON'T TALK AT HIM
Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

TAKE HIM ON A DATE
Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

DON'T PUSH HIM
Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

BE FLEXIBLE
Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
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Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>

Yelewata community in Guma LGA of Benue state was attacked yesterday. Over 200 kids & women burned beyond recognition. You won’t hear any of this in the media, it’s total media blackout. The governor is campaigning for Asiwaju. The people of Benue are on their own.

Women with absent fathers often become beggars for love, safety, and security.
It’s heartbreaking how deeply they invest themselves in others, hoping that their love will be returned, hoping to finally feel chosen, protected, and seen.

They carry a silent ache—an invisible wound that whispers....Maybe if I give more, they’ll stay. Maybe if I’m good enough, they’ll love me.

This voice doesn’t come from who they are today, but from the little girl inside them who kept looking out the window, waiting for someone who never came.

Their love becomes a currency—they trade affection, loyalty, and even their own boundaries just to feel held.

They over-give, over-function, and over-apologize, hoping that one day, someone will finally choose to stay without conditions.

The absence of a father doesn’t just leave a physical void—it creates emotional gaps that women often try to fill with partners, friends, or even strangers.

But what’s missing isn’t just a person—it’s the early belief that they are inherently worthy of love without having to earn it.

She often becomes hyper-independent, saying she doesn’t need anyone.

But behind that strength is exhaustion—from carrying her own pain, from pretending she’s okay, from surviving in a world that never taught her how to receive.

When she finally does meet love, she may not know how to trust it.

Her nervous system doesn’t recognize consistency. It feels foreign. Unsafe even. She might push it away before it has a chance to hold her.

This woman is not broken.
She is someone who has been asked to mother herself before she was ever truly mothered. She’s someone who has built a heart out of scars and silence.

Healing for her doesn’t come from finding the perfect partner. It comes from finding herself. From meeting the little girl within and telling her, “You don’t have to beg anymore. You are already enough.”

When a woman with an absent father begins to reclaim her worth, she stops performing for love and starts attracting it from a place of truth.

Her healing isn’t just hers—it becomes a ripple that touches every generation after her.

And maybe for the first time, she finally breathes deeply… not because someone stayed, but because she stopped abandoning herself.

If you belong to this story, know that healing is possible. I’m here to help you on this journey—just reach out to me.

- Abhikesh

They say Edo girls are hard to handle, it’s a very big lie. We are some of the most loving, loyal, and emotionally intelligent women you’ll ever meet. Yes, we’re bold and we don’t take nonsense. But that doesn’t mean we’re difficult. It just means we know our worth.

If you ever win the heart of an Edo girl, you’ll know what true love and support feels like. She’ll go above and beyond to make sure you’re happy, cared for, and constantly encouraged. Whether it’s through her words, actions, or sacrifices, you’ll feel it every day.

People often mistake confidence for pride, and strength for arrogance. But deep down, we are soft lovers with golden hearts. We love hard, we stay loyal, and we protect what’s ours. So next time you hear someone say “Edo girls are tough, smile and say, You’ve clearly never been loved by one.

- Nancy Isime

“Because of my success in business, many men were intimidated. Before marriage, I have dated men that were intimidated by my success.

Any small thing they will say is because of what I think I have, and this is what happens to most successful women.

The way I started fashion, I never imagined I would be a fashion designer because my mom was a tailor and each time she's working, we usually go by to help, not until I discovered it was more of a talent.
I have always thought I would go to school, become educated, and become a career woman. Today, I'm an owner of a very big fashion brand.

I never regret dropping out from school to pursue my dream. If I didn't, I'm not sure I would have been where I am today. If you have the opportunity to study, do it. The best decision for me might not be the best decision for you.

If you're a successful woman, there's a way people will always be looking at you. If you don't get married early, they will say it's because you have too much influence or too much money, so men can't come after you. But don't limit yourself. Any man that can't be with you is not man enough.”
— Veekee James

“Because of my success in business, many men were intimidated. Before marriage, I have dated men that were intimidated by my success.

Any small thing they will say is because of what I think I have, and this is what happens to most successful women.

The way I started fashion, I never imagined I would be a fashion designer because my mom was a tailor and each time she's working, we usually go by to help, not until I discovered it was more of a talent.
I have always thought I would go to school, become educated, and become a career woman. Today, I'm an owner of a very big fashion brand.

I never regret dropping out from school to pursue my dream. If I didn't, I'm not sure I would have been where I am today. If you have the opportunity to study, do it. The best decision for me might not be the best decision for you.

If you're a successful woman, there's a way people will always be looking at you. If you don't get married early, they will say it's because you have too much influence or too much money, so men can't come after you. But don't limit yourself. Any man that can't be with you is not man enough.”
— Veekee James

They say Edo girls are hard to handle, it’s a very big lie. We are some of the most loving, loyal, and emotionally intelligent women you’ll ever meet. Yes, we’re bold and we don’t take nonsense. But that doesn’t mean we’re difficult. It just means we know our worth.

If you ever win the heart of an Edo girl, you’ll know what true love and support feels like. She’ll go above and beyond to make sure you’re happy, cared for, and constantly encouraged. Whether it’s through her words, actions, or sacrifices, you’ll feel it every day.

People often mistake confidence for pride, and strength for arrogance. But deep down, we are soft lovers with golden hearts. We love hard, we stay loyal, and we protect what’s ours. So next time you hear someone say “Edo girls are tough, smile and say, You’ve clearly never been loved by one.

- Nancy Isime

They say Edo girls are hard to handle, it’s a very big lie. We are some of the most loving, loyal, and emotionally intelligent women you’ll ever meet. Yes, we’re bold and we don’t take nonsense. But that doesn’t mean we’re difficult. It just means we know our worth.

If you ever win the heart of an Edo girl, you’ll know what true love and support feels like. She’ll go above and beyond to make sure you’re happy, cared for, and constantly encouraged. Whether it’s through her words, actions, or sacrifices, you’ll feel it every day.

People often mistake confidence for pride, and strength for arrogance. But deep down, we are soft lovers with golden hearts. We love hard, we stay loyal, and we protect what’s ours. So next time you hear someone say “Edo girls are tough, smile and say, You’ve clearly never been loved by one.

- Nancy Isime