*SHARED AS RCVD* *Translation of what Dr. Rayyan says in Arabic in respect of TEACHERS.* "When the teacher becomes the poorest of government employees, don't ask about the future. In every nation, there is a standard that never fails to measure its future: look at the state of its teachers, and you will know where it is headed. If the teacher is honored, the nation is heading towards prosperity, and if they are marginalized, then know that the society is heading towards the abyss of ignorance and decline. The teacher is not just an employee who performs a daily duty, but rather the foundation upon which generations are built, and the basis upon which civilizations are established. So, what if this foundation is fragile, struggling to make ends meet, and fighting harsh conditions that show no mercy? What if the profession of shaping minds becomes synonymous with poverty and deprivation? When you see a teacher suffering, know that the nation has abandoned its glory, and the society has begun to lose its way. The teacher is not just an individual in society, but rather the builder of civilizations, the guardian of identity, and the bearer of the torch of knowledge in the paths of ignorance. A state that ignores its teachers is destroying its own foundation with its own hands, and digging the grave of its future in deadly silence. The strength of nations is not in their high walls, nor in their treasure troves filled with gold, nor in their equipment, but in the minds of their children, which are shaped by the teacher. When states neglect their teachers, they are compromising their true security, because knowledge alone is the weapon that does not rust, and the power that is not defeated. Schools are not just buildings made of brick and mortar, but factories for minds, and laboratories for revival. What is the use of walls if there is no thought that illuminates, and no knowledge that changes? A nation that makes the teacher just a marginalized employee is destroying the pillars of its future with its own hands, and condemning itself to remain in the shadows. When the teacher's salary is the lowest on the state's salary scale, barely enough to last two or three days, know that the state has chosen ignorance over knowledge, and decline over progress. The teacher is not just an employee who performs daily tasks, but rather a leader who shapes minds, and an engineer who builds the future. What if the state neglects its teachers, and thereby destroys the future of its people with its own hands? How can a nation prosper when its teachers are begging for respect before rights? How can a society progress when its role model is crushed under the weight of poverty and neglect? When the teacher is unable to secure their most basic needs, education becomes a trade, and schools turn into centers for grades rather than minds. The teacher is the torch that lights the way for generations, and if the state extinguishes this torch, it will plunge into the darkness of ignorance and backwardness. And when the dignity of the teacher is broken, it is not just an individual who collapses, but an entire nation. We have two choices, and there is no third option: either we make the teacher the foundation for progress, or we continue to fall into the swamp of backwardness. Nations that respected their teachers built their civilizations, and nations that neglected them became a thing of the past. There is no revival without education, and no education without a noble teacher. If we want to build a future that is worthy of pride, let us start by preserving the dignity of those who shape minds. The true homeland is not just land and borders... The homeland is a mind that thinks, a child who reads, and a teacher who burns to illuminate the path of generations..."

Dearest Lord, who commands the morning and sets the boundaries of the seas, let Your perfect love envelop us, that we might be lifted above the tides of fear. In the sanctuary of Your love, may we find the strength to offer ourselves to others, to serve, to love, and to live fully in the reflection of Your grace. When the path is obscured by the mists of uncertainty and we stand at the crossroads of fear and obedience, anchor us in Your truth. Gird our hearts with holy resolve, that we may walk unwaveringly on the path of faith. For it is in Your embrace, under the shelter of Your wings, that we find the courage to fulfill the works You have prepared for us. Through the matchless name of Jesus Christ, we offer this prayer. Amen.

WHY IT IS MORE EXPENSIVE TO BE POOR THAN TO BE RICH Many people don’t realize just how costly it is to be poor… Very, very expensive! Being poor is not just a lack of money—it’s a lifestyle filled with penalties, mark-ups, and quiet suffering. Let’s break it down: Imagine someone struggling financially buying 5 cups of rice every two days for ₦2,000. Meanwhile, another person buys a whole bag for ₦80,000. Now, do the math: Over time, that first person ends up spending over ₦100,000 for the same quantity of rice! The rich buy in bulk while the poor pay in pieces. Poverty forces people to spend more for less, just to survive day-to-day. It's not just about money—it's a cycle that punishes the most vulnerable for not having enough in the first place. Here are some examples to illustrate this: 1. A low-income earner may buy a cheap dress for ₦4,000. It’s poorly stitched with low-quality fabric. After 2–3 washes, it fades, and the seams tear, forcing them to return to the market. They may end up purchasing the same type of dress 5 times in a year, totaling ₦20,000. In contrast, someone else may invest in a custom-made, high-quality outfit for ₦18,000 once—a durable, classic piece that lasts, allowing them to still wear it confidently the following year. 2. The same goes for shoes: A person might buy “affordable” flats for ₦3,500 every two months because they wear out easily. That’s over ₦20,000 a year. A better-made pair for ₦12,000 could last an entire year or more! 3. A mother working two minimum-wage jobs can’t afford a car, so she spends hours waiting for public transport in rain, snow, and sun—time that could be spent resting, upskilling, or with her children. She can’t afford to buy groceries in bulk, leading to higher costs per meal. She can't afford quality healthcare, so a small untreated illness becomes a major emergency. Needing to support her family, she goes to work sick, delaying her recovery and worsening her condition.😭 4. When it comes to wigs, if someone buys ₦5,000 synthetic wigs 6 times a year, that amounts to ₦30,000. Investing once in a ₦25,000 quality wig can last much longer. 5. Nutrition is another aspect to consider. Eating cheap can be double-edged: Every morning, quick, cheap options like akara and puff puff may seem convenient, but by age 40, diabetes or cancer may set in, leading to thousands spent on treatments, medications, and hospital bills. 😭 This cycle of poor nutrition, high stress, and lack of preventive care results in higher long-term medical costs, often paid out-of-pocket. 6. Sadly, there are tragic stories too: Parents who lost a child because they couldn't afford ₦5,000 for needed medications; a man who lost his pregnant wife due to an inability to pay for a necessary operation; or Mrs. Jose, who had to live in a hazardous environment due to limited finances, leading to her daughters being abducted and assaulted.😭 7. Poor individuals often spend more time commuting on unreliable public transportation and have to juggle multiple jobs or gigs, increasing stress and reducing opportunities for rest or personal growth. 8. A low-income family might take payday loans with sky-high interest just to keep their lights on, spending months paying it back. On the other hand, a wealthy person borrows at lower interest rates to invest in opportunities that increase their wealth. This is why a corrupt government may prefer its citizens to remain poor—because they profit more from poverty than prosperity. Cheap choices today can ultimately cost you your life tomorrow. The moral of the story? Poverty is expensive. It forces people to “get by” until they end up spending more for less. This is why empowerment and financial access matter; true savings lie in quality, not constant replacements. Being poor limits your choices, and those limitations create a cycle of additional costs—often making day-to-day living more expensive than it is for someone who has the means to plan, invest, and save. Don’t give up. Don’t count yourself out. There’s strength in perseverance. Learn to make money, manage your money, and grow your money. Pray for financial abundance, and it shall be well with you. The same God who turned water into wine can turn your nothing into something. May God help us all to find the right empowerment and finances that elevate us from poverty. 🙏

12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE. HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1. 📌Never say a word you may later regret. Never let your emotions control you. No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue. Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues. Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight. 2. 📌Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry. One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful. Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage- There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home. Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage. 3. 📌Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce. Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there. So fight for your marriage. 4. 📌Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away. 5. 📌Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue. Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret. 6. 📌NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage 7. 📌Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath. 8. 📌Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things 9. 📌NEVER raise your hand on your spouse. Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse. 10. 📌Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue 11. 📌Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength. Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses. Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them. Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s. Invest in your marriage, 12. 📌NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue. Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name Kindly share this message with your loved ones 🙏

A LONG READ How do we choose the people we fall in love with? The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us. Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives. In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage. Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy. The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories. Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet. So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy. The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth. We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes. How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned. We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play. Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds. Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances. However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone. Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on. To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off. Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening. And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches. We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment. Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone. We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work. For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following: • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will… • When someone tells me they really need me, I… • If someone can’t cope, I… • When someone tells me to get my act together, I … • If I were to be frank about my anxieties … • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d… • When someone blames me unfairly, I … Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness. Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples. We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar. Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from. ©️The Counsellor

How to Show Love Without Words Actions Speak Louder Than Words Love is a language that goes beyond words. While verbal expressions are important, the most profound ways of showing love often lie in our actions. Sometimes, your gestures, attention, and thoughtfulness can speak volumes about your feelings, building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s how you can express love without saying a single word. 1. Be Present and Attentive One of the greatest gifts you can give your partner is your undivided attention. In a world filled with distractions, being present in the moment is a powerful act of love. Put down your phone, look into their eyes, and truly listen. When you show that you value their thoughts and emotions, it communicates care and respect more effectively than words ever could. 2. Perform Small Acts of Kindness It’s the little things that count. Bringing them their favourite coffee, cooking a meal, or simply doing a chore they dislike can brighten their day. These acts of kindness show that you pay attention to their needs and want to make their life easier. 3. Physical Touch Non-verbal communication through physical touch is a cornerstone of expressing love. A warm hug, holding hands, or a gentle pat on the back can convey comfort, security, and affection. These simple gestures remind your partner that you are there for them, offering support and love. 4. Quality Time Spending quality time together strengthens the bond between you and your partner. Plan activities they enjoy, go for a walk or watch a movie together. By dedicating time to shared experiences, you show that their presence is a priority in your life. 5. Thoughtful Surprises Surprises, big or small, are wonderful ways to express love. It could be as simple as leaving a handwritten note or as elaborate as planning a surprise date. These thoughtful gestures show that you’ve been thinking about them and want to make them feel special. 6. Body Language Your body language speaks volumes. A loving glance, a soft smile, or even sitting close during a quiet moment can express feelings of love and comfort. Non-verbal cues are subtle but powerful ways to show how much you care. 7. Support Their Dreams Encourage your partner’s passions and goals. Being their cheerleader and offering your support, whether it’s attending their events, helping them prepare, or simply showing interest, is a profound way to demonstrate your love. Your belief in their abilities can inspire confidence and strengthen your connection. 8. Be Thoughtful and Observant Noticing the little things about your partner shows how much you care. Remember their preferences, pay attention to their mood, and anticipate their needs. For example, offering comfort when they’re stressed or celebrating their small achievements shows that you’re attuned to their life. 9. Acts of Service Actions often speak louder than words, especially when it comes to love. Help them with a task, run an errand, or fix something around the house. These acts of service show your partner that you’re willing to put in the effort to make their life easier and happier. 10. Respect Their Space Sometimes, love means giving space. Respect their boundaries and allow them time to recharge when needed. This shows that you value their individuality and understand their need for balance in the relationship. 11. Express Gratitude Showing appreciation is a beautiful way to convey love. A genuine smile, a nod of acknowledgment, or a small token of gratitude can mean the world to your partner. Gratitude fosters positivity and strengthens emotional intimacy. 12. Be Consistent Love is not just about grand gestures but also about consistent efforts. Small, daily acts of love build a foundation of trust and affection. Whether it’s making them a morning coffee or simply being there when they need you, consistency reassures your partner of your unwavering love. Final Thoughts Love is an art that doesn’t always require words. Through actions, attentiveness, and thoughtfulness, you can create a relationship that thrives on mutual respect and understanding. At the end of the day, love is about making your partner feel cherished, secure, and valued. Speak through your actions, and you’ll discover that the language of love is truly universal.

There is grief in accepting someone won’t change!" (Nedra Tawwab) In the quiet depths of the heart, there lies a profound sorrow in the realization that someone may never change. It is a poignant acknowledgment, a tender letting go of hopes for transformation or growth in another. This grief is not loud or dramatic but a subtle ache, a gentle mourning for the possibilities that may never come to fruition. Accepting this truth requires a deep well of strength and resilience, a willingness to release expectations and embrace the reality before you. It is a bittersweet journey of acceptance but within it lies the opportunity to learn the art of detachment. Detachment does not mean indifference or lack of love; rather, it is the gentle practice of releasing the need to control or fix others, allowing us to embrace reality as it is. By cultivating detachment, we free ourselves from the weight of expectations and the pain of disappointment, creating space for acceptance and peace. It teaches us to love without attachment to outcomes, to honor our own well-being while holding compassion for others. In learning this art, we transform grief into wisdom, finding strength in surrender and serenity in embracing life’s impermanence

𝑱𝒆𝒔𝒖𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌! 🙌🏼 𝗠𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘄 𝟮𝟴:𝟮𝟬 ✞ “I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Jesus, thank You for standing with us through every storm. When we are weary, You lift us. When we are surrounded, You shield us. When we feel unseen, You call us by name. Strengthen every heart reading this, remind them You’ve got their back and You’re not done writing their story. In Your mighty name, Amen ✞ 𝗝𝗲𝘀𝘂𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸! 𝗔𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘀! 𝗔𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹! 🙏🏼♥️🥹

✊David didn't defeat Goliath because he was a better warrior. 💆‍♂️Moses didn't split the sea with a strategy. . ✊Daniel didn't survive the lion's den because he was brave 🤲Shadrach,Meshach and Abednego didn't survive the fire because of a tough skin ✊None of them overcome through strength, 💬They over come through surrendered faith. 📌In the same way, your victory won't come from your strength but from your surrender.( *Jesus Christ* )

LADIES, CHERISH THIS KIND OF MAN: 1. Cherish the man who loves his mum. He has been brought up well. 2. Cherish the man who loves you deeply. 3. Cherish the man who is funny. You will never be bored. 4. Cherish the man who treats strangers and the less privileged with dignity. He has a kind heart. 5. Cherish the man who listens. You will be understood. 6. Cherish the man whose idea of fun is constructive, not endless drinking and clubbing. He is mature. 7. Cherish the man who is a family man ready for the responsibility and clear about what he wants with you. Your time will not be wasted. 8. Cherish the man who respects his father no matter how his dad is. He has learned true manhood. 9. Cherish the man who doesn't insult his ex or your ex even if the breakup was messy. He is someone who enters into love for the right reasons. 10. Cherish the man who needs you. He will hold on to you. 11. Cherish the man who lets you love him, who lets you see the nakedness of his weaknesses and strengths. He trusts you. 12. Cherish the man who accepts correction and changes his ways if he offends you. He will make himself better to love you. 13. Cherish the man who prays for you. He knows you are a gift from God. 14. Cherish the man who treats other women with respect. He will show you even more respect. 15. Cherish the man who loves the children you and also is a father figure to those not his. That man will have an honorable legacy. 16. Cherish the man with a vision. He will challenge and build you, he knows where he is going. 17. Cherish the man who has a good set of friends. You can tell the character of a man by the friends he keeps. 18. Cherish the man who values intimacy above sex. He will be faithful to you. 19. Cherish the man who is interested in your dreams. He cares about your future. 20. Cherish the man who respects your decisions and doesn't rush you. He sees you as a life partner, not someone to dominate. 21. Cherish the man who corrects you when you are wrong and inspires and pushes you to do better. He sees your potential and will not rest until your potential is lived out. That man is a keeper. 22. Cherish the man who has been consistent in his focus. You can depend on him. 23. Cherish the man who works hard, is self-motivated, and is diligent even when he has little. That man is going places and one day he will make you proud 24. Cherish the man who is not intimidated by other men when they notice your beauty. He is a secure man ➥𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐤𝐮𝐦𝐛𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐰𝐨 𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐰𝐞𝐲𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐌𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐢 𝐮𝐧𝐠𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐲𝐚𝐰𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐳𝐯𝐚𝐫𝐨😭🙏❤‍🩹

"You’re not responsible for anyone else’s healing, and you can’t walk their path for them. You can love them, but you can’t save them, no matter how much your heart aches for their pain." (Tiny Buddha) In the journey of life, each soul carries their own trials and triumphs, walking a path uniquely their own. While you can extend love and support, you cannot carry the weight of another's healing process. Despite the ache in your heart for their struggles, genuine healing is a personal voyage that each must undertake independently. Your role is one of empathy and companionship, offering comfort and understanding, yet you cannot be the sole source of their salvation. Embrace the strength in simply being there, in lending an ear and a heart, recognizing that granting them the space to find their own inner light is often the most profound gift you can give.

The woman you were when you had to survive was a force of nature. She did what needed to be done—no matter the cost. She built walls, armored her heart, and carried burdens no one even guessed she was holding. She learned how to hide her pain behind a smile, how to steady her voice when the world tried to shake her, and how to keep putting one foot in front of the other when the ground felt like it was crumbling. You were the storm and the shelter at the same time. You found strength in places you didn’t know existed. You became tough, sharp, unbreakable—because you had to be. No one else saw the battles you fought in the dark, the times you cried in silence, the nights you wondered if you could keep going. That woman was a survivor, and she deserves your deepest respect. She is the reason you’re here today. She is the reason you made it through. But survival is not the same as living. Those days required a certain kind of grit, a toughness that got you through the worst, but also left you exhausted, wary, and always bracing for the next blow. You were always on guard, scanning every room for danger, expecting every kindness to disappear, and believing peace was just a pause before the next storm. Your heart became a fortress, your mind a battlefield, your soul a soldier. You survived because you had no other choice. But hear this truth: you are not in that place anymore. You have crossed the rough seas and made it to new shores. The air is different now, the sky is clearer, the world is not as cold and hostile as it once felt. You are not the hunted anymore. You are the leader, the creator, the woman who owns her story. You don’t have to live in survival mode any longer. You don’t have to flinch at every sound, tense up at every touch, or question every moment of peace. You are allowed to let your shoulders drop, to unclench your fists, to breathe deeply and freely, and to believe in safety. You have earned the right to rest. Rest is not weakness. Gentleness is not surrender. You can let your heart soften now. You can let your guard down—not because the world has stopped spinning, but because you have become wise enough to choose who gets close, strong enough to walk away from what hurts, and brave enough to trust yourself. You are smarter now, not just because you survived, but because you learned. Survival taught you resilience, but healing will teach you joy. You are allowed to step out of the armor that once saved you, and into the light that now calls you forward. You are not that scared girl anymore. You are a woman who knows her power. You are a woman who can stand in a room and hold her own, not out of fear, but out of confidence. You are a woman who leads with both heart and mind, who knows when to be fierce and when to be gentle. You are allowed to love again, to trust again, to hope again. The world may never be perfect, but you are not here to be small or afraid. You are here to live fiercely, to love boldly, and to lead without apology. Let go of the need to control every outcome. Let go of the belief that you always have to be tough. Let the world see your softness, your laughter, your vulnerability. These are not weaknesses—they are the marks of a woman who has survived and chosen to thrive. The version of you that survived was a masterpiece of strength. But the version of you that leads is a masterpiece of wisdom. She knows when to fight and when to rest, when to speak and when to listen, when to hold on and when to let go. You are allowed to change. You are allowed to become more than what your past demanded. You are allowed to shape your life, not out of fear, but out of possibility. You are allowed to rise. Do not be afraid of your own growth. Do not apologize for your healing. Do not shrink to fit an old story. The world is waiting for the woman who is not just a survivor, but a creator, a leader, a light for others still finding their way. It’s time to step into your new power. It’s time to lead with the lessons you’ve earned, to love with the depth you’ve discovered, and to live with the freedom you’ve fought for. You are not bound to the woman who only knew how to survive. She is part of your story, but she is not the whole story. You are allowed to outgrow her, to thank her, and to let her rest. This is your season to live. To lead. To become the woman, you always dreamed you could be—not just a survivor, but a force. Not just a fighter, but a builder. Not just a protector, but a creator of a life worth living. You are not just here; you are fully alive. And that, after everything, is your greatest victory." ✍️Deep Feelings 🎨credit to the artist via Pinterest