Long-distance relationships are emotional traps for untrained men. You sit there texting, calling, promising her forever, While she’s out there collecting attention like it’s oxygen. You think she’s yours because of “love”? No, bro. She’s loyal to her options. Her environment. Her emotions. And when the right guy shows up and touches the right nerve, Your long-distance promise means nothing. Let me burn the fantasy: You’re in bed dreaming of her. Some other man is in her bed, giving her what you only type. You send good morning texts. He sends dopamine with eye contact and masculine presence. You plan FaceTime dates. He plans real ones, with his hands around her waist, not emojis on a screen. Women don’t stay loyal to absence. They stay loyal to presence, pressure, and power. And a man who lets distance test loyalty Is a man who's gambling with a loaded gun pointed at his pride. You think you're “building trust”? You’re just feeding her attention-starved ego while she's busy entertaining "just friends." You think love will carry the weight? No. Only masculine presence, real-world imprinting, and boundaries keep her in check. At Girls Approach, we teach men how to dominate the room, not text their worth across borders. If you can’t show up in person, you better show up in power. Otherwise? You're just emotionally funding her connection with the next bold guy in her city. Let the truth be told: A woman’s loyalty is as stable as the attention she receives. Distance doesn’t protect your bond. It exposes the illusion of one. If you disappoint, you must appear before the council of brotherhood, and explain why you've decided to disgrace everybody. No whining. This is Girls Approach energy. This is dominance without desperation. If you’re not in her world physically, someone else will be. Step up or step aside. This is warfare. Get hard or go home. #girlsapproach ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑐𝑡 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒⇅

When we first met, he told me he was living with his parents. His father's house had many rooms, so he didn’t need to rent. The girl I was five years ago would have said, "Thank you, but I don’t date a man who lives with his parents." But there’s one thing that comes with maturing or experiencing different shades of life: it makes you understand that the same situations can bring different stories. I said yes, hoping our story wouldn’t be like that failed relationship story I read on Silent Beads. He would come to my place bearing gifts and smiles. He would help around while telling me stories of how it feels to live with your parents at thirty. "They don’t respect your age ooo. They can send you to go and buy charcoal when you’ve just returned from buying pepper from the street." After three months of dating, I realized he’d met my friends and my mom, but I hadn’t met anyone from his side. He told me he didn’t have friends. I said fine. He told me he would take me home to say hi to his parents one day. I said okay. It didn’t sit well with me that I would date a man for three months and not know where he lived, so I started pressing him to take me home. He gave me excuses. He said his father hates to see him with a woman and that once he takes me home, his father might think he’s going to sleep with me and won’t respect me or our relationship again. I said, "That’s fine, but I want to see the brick-and-mortar you live in. I want to know the area, the color of your building, the color of the gate. Do you have a dog in there? I want to hear how it barks." Six months later, he decided to take me home. Not only to see the color of the building but to visit his room and spend the night. The Uber stopped right in front of his gate. He said, "You see, it’s a brown gate and a yellow house. Easy to see." He walked in as I followed. It was around 8 p.m. Immediately, we stepped into the compound, his demeanor changed. He murmured something loud enough for me to hear: "Why’s the light in my parents’ room on?" He asked me to wait while he went in to check. I was standing in the compound when a man walked up to me from behind the house. He asked who I was looking for. You look at his face and the way he walks, and you realize it’s the father. I answered respectfully, "I came with Kojo, but he’s inside." He changed from nonchalant to concerned. He asked, "Kojo is in the house?" I nodded. He asked again, "Who are you? Who are you to him?" I answered while bowing, "He’s my friend." I said friend, but he got angry. Then he shouted Kojo’s name. When Kojo was coming out, his mom followed, and then a boy, and later a girl. His face didn’t look cheerful—like he had encountered a ghost and wanted to run. His father said, "So you thought we hadn’t returned, so you were sneaking in your new victim, right?" His mom asked who I was, and I said a friend. She asked, "A friend, and you’re being sneaked in at this time? What kind of friends are you?" I stood there watching while those two kids kept calling him Daddy and asking him a series of questions, like children always do. I was getting the message. All was not well. His mom said, "These two kids are his. I hope you know that already?" His dad added, "He had them with two different women. I hope you also know that? He impregnated the women in the same month, so these two kids were born days apart. Do you know all that?" I started smiling shyly. His dad wasn’t having it. His mom kept smiling. She said, "If you know all that and you’re still happy, then welcome home." I took two steps backward. I looked at Kojo’s face, but he avoided my gaze. I thanked his parents and told them I didn’t know all that because he hadn’t told me. I mentioned his name and said goodbye to him. I walked out of the gate with a heavy head and a heart that was falling apart. When I got home, I texted him, "Thank you for letting me know your house. At least, I now know which house to avoid the next time I’m in the vicinity." He said sorry. He said he was going to tell me the truth but slowly. He said he didn’t want to lose me and that he was serious when he said he was going to marry me. My response was, "Do me a favor. Please lose my number and miss your way to my place. I can’t be your third baby mama." End.

Long-distance relationships are emotional traps for untrained men. You sit there texting, calling, promising her forever, While she’s out there collecting attention like it’s oxygen. You think she’s yours because of “love”? No, bro. She’s loyal to her options. Her environment. Her emotions. And when the right guy shows up and touches the right nerve, Your long-distance promise means nothing. Let me burn the fantasy: You’re in bed dreaming of her. Some other man is in her bed, giving her what you only type. You send good morning texts. He sends dopamine with eye contact and masculine presence. You plan FaceTime dates. He plans real ones, with his hands around her waist, not emojis on a screen. Women don’t stay loyal to absence. They stay loyal to presence, pressure, and power. And a man who lets distance test loyalty Is a man who's gambling with a loaded gun pointed at his pride. You think you're “building trust”? You’re just feeding her attention-starved ego while she's busy entertaining "just friends." You think love will carry the weight? No. Only masculine presence, real-world imprinting, and boundaries keep her in check. At Girls Approach, we teach men how to dominate the room, not text their worth across borders. If you can’t show up in person, you better show up in power. Otherwise? You're just emotionally funding her connection with the next bold guy in her city. Let the truth be told: A woman’s loyalty is as stable as the attention she receives. Distance doesn’t protect your bond. It exposes the illusion of one. If you disappoint, you must appear before the council of brotherhood, and explain why you've decided to disgrace everybody. No whining. This is Girls Approach energy. This is dominance without desperation. If you’re not in her world physically, someone else will be. Step up or step aside. This is warfare. Get hard or go home. #girlsapproach ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑐𝑡 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒⇅

What is the difference between dating and courtship? The courtship definition is: the process of prospective marriage partners getting to know each other. Dating is similar, but not the same. Dating also refers to prospective partners getting to know each other, but dating is not necessarily always done in pursuit of marriage. However, dating is commonly used as a form of courtship. What are examples of courtship? Courtship is the period of time where couples spend time together and get to know each other before deciding whether or not to take the relationship to a more serious level, such as marriage. Some examples of common courtship activities include: going on dates, having conversations, texting or interacting on social media, giving gifts, physical affection, and dancing. What is the meaning of courting someone? Courting is the process of getting to know someone to decide whether or not to pursue a more serious relationship with them. Courting may also involve convincing the other person why a serious relationship would be a good idea.

Friendship: True friendship involves a strong bond built on trust, loyalty, and mutual respect, where individuals accept each other unconditionally, offer unwavering support, and prioritize each other's well-being. It's a relationship where individuals can confide in each other without fear of judgment, and where honesty and kindness are the hallmarks of communication. True friends are present through thick and thin, cheering each other's successes and offering a shoulder to cry on during difficult times.

“I reached out to Javis last month. I wanted her to be the main vixen in my music video. She responded, and we had a conversation, I was ready to pay her 20 million naira. But when I sent her the script detailing the role she’d be playing, she declined, saying it was inappropriate because she’s in a relationship. Well, that’s her loss now. I dropped the video, and it already has 15 million views in just 24 hours. Imagine the kind of exposure she would’ve gotten. She turned it all down because of a relationship that probably won’t even last. So pathetic.” ~~BlizzyDice If Jarvis were your younger sister what would be your advice for her?

Apart from sex, you'll discover many have nothing to offer in relationships

*27 WAYS TO BUILD A HAPPY AND LONG LASTING MARRIAGE 👩🧑💖* Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship that requires commitment, love, and sacrifice. No matter what culture you belong to, what religion you believe, what society, level of wealth, or era you live in – one thing common to all people is that they want to be "happy", especially in their marriages. What Should you do? 1. Love the person you married, not the person you hoped you married. Accept your spouse totally. You cannot love a man/woman you do not accept. Stop comparing your spouse with anyone, he or she can never be somebody else. Until you accept your spouse, you can't get the best out of your marriage 2. Understand each other. No marriage succeeds without understanding. Learn to know one another as best as you can. Understand you are not the same and may never be. Respect that you are both individuals. Get to know each other strengths and weaknesses. Strengthen each other's weaknesses. 3. Be quick to forgive and quicker to apologize. Love forgives. Learn to accept apology. Freely forgive your spouse’s past, present and future offenses. Never refer to his/her past mistakes. Never go to bed with anger or unsettled quarrel. Marriage is two forgivers living together. 4. Ask your spouse, "What can I do for you today?" every single day. 5. Never talk bad about your spouse to other people. Protect him or her and always keep his or her name safe. Fight for each other, not with each other. 6. Have lots of s*x. Enjoy S*x with your spouse. Never withhold s*x as a punishment. 7. Keep the word "divorce" out of your vocabulary. Remember your vows. Review them on a regular basis. 8. Provide for the needs of your spouse and children. Never be stingy to your spouse. Care for his/her needs. Be generous to him/her. Pay your children’s school fees promptly and regularly. Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. Give yourself entirely, and don't hold back. Men, Be sensitive to your wife’s needs. Spend money to beautify her. 9. Be faithful to your spouse. Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills. 10. Understand and learn each other's love language. Either it can be words, gifts, touch, actions, etc. If it is words, then frequently tell your spouse you love and appreciate him/ her. If it is action: regularly do things that they appreciate: either take the garbage out, wash the dishes, cook the food, wash the car, etc Spoil each other. Keep track of the things your spouse loves and buy them for him or her. 11. Communication is the key to a relationship. Talk like friends and lovers. Don’t make your spouse guess what you are thinking or feeling. Don't expect him/her to read your mind. You should feel free to discuss all things without fear. 12. Always listen attentively to your spouse. Switch off your phone or television, shut down your computer or iPad and newspapers, books and magazine should be closed. The greatest communication skill you can develop is the listening skill. Be quiet and patient while he/she is speaking, when he/she is done, you can express your opinion. Look straight into his/her eyes when he is talking to you or when you’re talking to him. This will make him/her feel that you are interested in what he/she wants to say. 13. Love, respect and courtesy are basic ingredients of happy married life. Give them generously to your spouse. Show your spouse how much you love, care and appreciate him/her regularly. Say, "I love you," every single day. 14. Be honest and show sincere appreciation. Appreciate each other. Show your spouse appreciation for the little things. Be thankful and say so!!! Find something that you appreciate about your spouse and say thank you. 15. Surprise each other with lovely gifts, kiss and s*x. Kiss passionately. Hold hands. Cuddle. Make physical affection a priority in your marriage. 16. Make quality time for each other. Keep dating each other. Put your marriage and spouse before your children. Play together. Never lose your sense of humor. Make your spouse your best friend. 17. Share everything...no secrets between you. Be open with your spouse. 18. Be polite and courteous to each other. Saying thank you, please and I am sorry. 19. Get rid of bad habits. Don’t do those things your spouse hates. Don’t do things that hurt him/her. Develop a godly character. Don’t create a hostile environment for your spouse. Focus on making your spouse happy. The best way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself. 20. Always be honest to your partner. Lying never gets you anywhere 21. Aim to do something at least once per week together. It does not matter what, even if it is to eat together, bath together, watch movies together, read books together and share light conversation 22. Do NOT look at other marriages and covet. No marriage is prefect. Remember, the grass is not greener on the other side. You will still have to maintain, mow and weed that side too! 23. Work at your marriage. If you ever lack motivation for your marriage and feel like the flame has gone dead. Just try to imagine yourself without your spouse. Talk to anyone who has lost their soul mate and they'll tell you that they will give anything to have back that special someone. Remember, it is your marriage and you have come this far. Make the best of it. Pledge to yourself that you will do your part and try your best. Remember that you chose your spouse for forever. 24. All issues need to have a solution and be resolved at the time of the conversation. Finish what you start otherwise things just hang in the balance,which leads to future problems. 25. Don't make mountains out of mole hills. Don't waste your time fighting over little things. It's not worth it. Let small things go. 26. Don't broadcast your problems to everyone else. If you need to talk to someone about it, other than your spouse, get a therapist. 27. Above all: Serve God together, Pray together & Pray for one another. Pray for your spouse daily in your personal prayers. Be specific. Talk to God about his or her challenges and trials, and ask Him what you can do to be a better spouse. You will not fail in your marriage in Jesus name Kindly share..

*What to Have Before You Become a Wife📌 👇* Dear Single Lady, i know you're Preparing for a beautiful future, and marriage is one of those beautiful journey of life you desire. But before stepping into it, it's important you prepare— not just with wedding plans, but with the right mindset, habits, and heart. Wedding is not marriage, and marriage is not a day experience. So before you become a wife; Have 1. A Strong Relationship with Yourself Know who you are. Understand your values, your dreams, and your emotions. Self-love and self-respect lay the foundation for a healthy relationship with someone else. Don't expect a man to fully love and respect you when you don't love and respect yourself or you're still confused about yourself. Know what you can do and what you can't do. The flaws you can manage in a man, and the toxic habits you can't endure. 2. Emotional Maturity Can you handle disagreements without losing control? Can you forgive, communicate, and listen to your man with love? In as much as you're willing to be a submissive wife, understand that You won't always agree with your husband. There will be days of misunderstanding. There will days where you don't feel like talking to him. And there will be days when you'll look at him with a bombastic side eyes and feel like shouting ontop of your voice— at him. So start learning Conflict Resolution Skills. Learn Good Communication Skills too. Marriage requires honest, gentle, and respectful conversations. So you must Learn how to address a man. Start Practicing how to express yourself clearly and calmly, even when things get tough. Develop good manner of approach and speech. Learn how to resolve issues with calmness and respect instead of anger or silence. A peaceful home is not a home without problems, it's a home where problems are handled with wisdom. 3. Financial Wisdom You don't need to be rich, but it's wise you learn how to manage money, budget, save, and spend wisely. Marriage involves sharing responsibilities, and finances are a big part of that. You may not have money in your pocket now, but have a brain that can generate millions. Don't be empty physically and mentally. Imagine you meet a man who's ready to help you grow, what do you have that he can use to establish you❓ Don't wait for a man to come into your life and start building your from scratch. Have something— physically or mentally, or both. Don't sit down lazying around— believing you'll get any man or thing you want because you're beautiful. Your power doesn't lie in your beauty/body— it lies in your BRAIN. Feed your brain! • 4. A Clear Vision and Purpose for Life What kind of life do you want to build? What are your priorities— faith, career, children, purpose? Do you want to raise worldly children or Godly children? Do you want a marriage centered in Christ or Crisis? Do you want to be a career wife or a house wife? It's very important to know where you're headed in life so you can choose a man who shares and supports that vision. Don't be the type of lady who just want to want to birth kid, eat and sleep. If all you're concerned about as a lady is trending things and fashion, you may get frustrated when you enter marriage and your expectations are not been met. Luxuries are good, but have a vision and a purpose that can birth impacts. Impacts generates money, and money brings comfort. 5. Sound Marital Knowledge You want to get married without knowing anything about marriage? In as much as there will be some shocking discoveries you'll experience inside marriage, you still have to equip yourself well to some extent. You don't prepare for battle in the battlefield, you prepare ahead of it. You want marriage. You want to answer a 'wife' . You want to be a mother. But you haven't read upto 5 positive books that teaches about healthy marriage, becoming a wife of value, and a fulfilled mother. You don't even study God's standard for marriage— your bible. All you do is to go on dates, then come back home and watch movies. Keep playing 🙄 Even when you prepare yourself, the practical aspect of marriage will still give you some shocks. Now imagine what will happen if you don't equip yourself at all ? Show me a man who is going for war without arming himself, and I'll show you a man who has made up his mind to be k!!led even before he gets to the warfront. Marriage is not a play. Get the right Knowledge as much as you can. 6. Healing from Past Wounds Unresolved pain from your past relationships or childhood can cause problems later in your marriage. Please Take time to heal, forgive, and let go of your past relationship hurts before planning of getting married. Don't carry what your Ex did to you into marriage and start pun!shing your husband with it. You may de$tɍoy your marriage. Find peace first. A peaceful heart makes room for love to grow. 7. The Right Community Surround yourself with wise women— married, single, and older— who can guide you, pray with you, and give sound advice. You'll need them before and after marriage. Stay away from feminist if you truly want to enjoy your marriage. Anyone who advises you to equal yourself to your man doesn't mean well for you. Avoid them. 8. A Lifestyle of Responsibility Can you take care of your home, your health, your work, and your spiritual life without being pushed? Marriage doesn't magically make people responsible, you carry your habits into it and it amplifies them. Start building them now— the right habits. Start learning how to cook, keep the home neat, take care of kids. 9. Hobbies and Passions In preparing to become a wife, You have to learn to trust God's timing. But while you wait, grow. Don't lose yourself because you're waiting for marriage. Explore your talents, pursue passions, build a meaningful life outside of your relationship. Work on yourself, build your dreams, and enjoy your season. When you're a well-rounded woman, you'll bring joy, depth, and beauty into your home. 10. A Prayer Life Marriage will challenge your emotions, your faith, your patience, and your strength— and that's why you must start now to build your relationship with God. A praying woman builds her home in wisdom. So Start now! Make prayer your anchor, not your backup plan. A kneeling woman is a winning woman! Dear unmarried lady, Marriage won't fix your life, it will add to it. So build a life you love— then share it with a man who truly values it. Building yourself means you don't expect your man to complete you— you're already whole. So as a single lady, you must understand that becoming a wife is not just about finding the right man, it's about becoming the right woman. A wife is not just a title, it's a calling, and preparation is key. Don't just sit and be waiting to be chosen— Prepare yourself too to choose wisely, to love deeply, and to thrive in your marriage, not just survive in it. Marriage is meant to be ENJOYED ✅, not to be ENDURED ❌. You are worth the wait. PEACE!🕊️

When a man gives you attention but never communicates his intention you are not in a relationship madam! I am pA.

12 SECRETS TO HAVING A STRONG RELATIONSHIP If you desire a loving and lasting relationship with your partner, you and your partner need to adopt the following habits below: 1. COMMITMENT: Commitment is very important if you desire to have a strong relationship with your partner. You have to decide to stick with your partner and make the relationship work irrespective of the flaws your partner might have. Couples who renew their commitments everyday, in words and deed, are on their way to having a strong relationship. 2. KEEP YOUR PRIVATE LIFE PRIVATE When you put your relationship on social media, you invite the public to your relationship. Keep your private matters private. It’s a relationship between you and your partner and not between you, your partner and the public. You can share your fun dates with your partner or some nice photos together on your Facebook or Instagram app but make sure you draw the line where necessary. 3. KNOW WHEN TO LET THINGS SLIDE AND LEARN HOW TO MANAGE CONFLICTS Finding ways to reduce the frequency of conflict in your relationship by letting go of the little things will help you build a strong relationship with your partner. Arguments are normal in a relationship but you should make sure you never insult your partner during an argument. Always listen to what your partner has to say during an argument. 4. LEARN TO LISTEN Speaking less and listening more is important if you want to build a strong relationship with your partner. It’s important you always pay close attention to what your partner has to say. Ask your partner how his/her day went and listen to him/her talk about their day. 12 Secrets Of Having A Strong Relationship 12 Secrets Of Having A Strong Relationship 5. MAKE TIME TO DATE Spending quality time with your partner is important if you desire to build a strong relationship. Nothing substitutes for time together. No matter how busy you are, always create time to go out on dates with your partner. 6. BE TOTALLY TRANSPARENT Partners in strong relationships have no secrets. If you desire to build a strong relationship with your partner, you have to be completely transparent with your partner. You don’t need privacy in your relationship if you want a strong relationship. 7. TRY NEW THINGS TOGETHER Whether it be something as simple as watching a movie neither of you has seen, or something as extreme as skydiving, trying new things together as a couple is important if you want to have a strong relationship. Trying new things together keeps the excitement and passion going in your relationship. 8. COMPLIMENT YOUR PARTNER You shouldn’t save the compliments for big events alone, make complimenting your partner a regular occurrence. You make your partner feel special and noticed when you compliment him/her and this helps build a strong relationship 9. NEVER PUT EACH OTHER DOWN IN PUBLIC How you treat your partner in front of others matter if you desire to build a strong relationship with your partner. Never ever put each other down or say anything negative about your partner in public. Only say supportive and kind things to each other in public and save disagreements for when you both are alone. 10. NEVER GET TIRED OF SAYING “I LOVE YOU” These three little words “I love you” are important if you want to build a strong relationship with your partner. No matter how long or hard your day was, always end your day by telling your partner how much you love him/her. End your day with the words “I love you”. 11. LEARN HOW TO COMPROMISE You have to understand the value of compromise if you want to build a strong relationship. You may not always want to do what your partner wants but if it’s important to your partner, do it with a smile on your face. Lastly..... 12. Pray and Play Together: Couples that pray and play together stay together. Hand in hand each morning before you face the vicissitude of life, read a devotional and pray together. Take turns to pray for your marriage, your challenges &your children. If its your turn to pray, lift your spouse's burdens to The Lord and thank God for the wonderful spouse He gave you. Never miss an opportunity to celebrate life's milestones together. Celebrate anniversaries and birthdays. Make it simple and sweet. Play and laugh together. Be merry with the person you married and watch your love for each other grow from strength to strength. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name. Admin Marital Success Academy! Receive Jesus Christ today and go to church for spiritual fellowship

💞❣️The most successful 💋relationships 🦋 are the one where the🌹woman chases the man and the man chases his goals❤️💕