INTROSPECTION

Connecting life to a classroom is essential for learning and growth through every season. Learning involves behaviour change; without change, you haven’t learned the lesson. You can use introspection to examine how the mind works, and through serious conscious participation, you can explore your biases, self-justifications, and reasoning in various situations. Consider how you respond when alone versus in social settings and what values guide your decisions. Which ideas originate from culture? Which comes from a conscious awareness of God in the present moment instead of drifting through life. Capturing every thought in obedience to Christ requires a strategic approach to thinking, which includes establishing boundaries.
How do you think about the things you dislike? What do you try to avoid? Where does your mind wander when you're idle? Noticing these different patterns involves harnessing the power of introspection by examining yourself and looking inward. What is your weakness, and what is your strength? Often, they lie at opposite ends of the spectrum; one counters the other, revealing the range of behaviour created by thought. How do thought and feeling relate? What brings you joy, and what makes you feel less than good? While emotions shouldn't dictate our lives, we should be guided by intention. However, the way we are wired is connected to our emotions.
Observing emotional states, what mental state makes you unresourceful, or when you are the most resourceful, what triggers different responses? This can only be discovered through introspection. Many people are not conscious of themselves. What concepts are you using in your thinking? What questions is the mind asking? What questions are not being asked? Why did you choose to do that over another thing? Why does that person elicit a specific response from you? It is something the mind has perceived. Different people carry different energy, and being able to discern what it is in them creates an attitude of heart.

Connecting how the energy of two people creates a certain ambience, studying this and how it changes. Like water has two components, oxygen and hydrogen, it is similar to the chemical effects of different people. Certain attitudes of the heart may create defensiveness or encourage openness. Why is that? Do you observe what effects that has? What subjects change from person to person? What is the range of ideas? Who sparks inspiration or a willingness to rise? The company you keep is vital; hanging out with people who have no regard for time affects your life. You must create a life such that when you go to bed at night, you can honestly say the day was good. What kind of day would that look like? Is it disciplined without any time wasted? People want to put you in their prison, where all your time is taken up by their values. When we are not living in line with our own values, it creates disorder and does not bring joy. You need to observe this. Because people value different things than you do, this is where clashes can arise
We can observe this in various aspects of life, from work ethic and money to relationships. We all have different perceptions of reality; if one views it solely through a materialistic lens, one won't recognise the spiritual dimension. Since our world is physical, some may believe that this is all there is, while others shape their understanding of reality based on diverse concepts of God — from believing there is no God to viewing God as Jesus Christ, Buddha, the self, or various deities. This belief system influences how people design their lives and shapes their distinct values. A purely materialistic outlook limits individuals to what they can see with the physical eye, leading them to perceive anyone with opposing values as peculiar. Observe how they respond to life; it tends to be centered around carnal desires, lacking any consideration for how the spirit influences our existence. Yet, this is the mindset that keeps them deceived.
On the other hand, you might encounter those who are deeply spiritual; they perceive the material world as secondary, believing that everything relies on a spiritual dimension and that all occurrences are tied to a spiritual connection. This represents one end of the spectrum, while I believe that spiritual and material aspects must be balanced. God created the material world from the spiritual, as everything visible originated from the invisible—trees, sky, planets, and people all had a beginning with God’s creation. Our purpose in life is to live from the spirit and transform it into substance. This is how we can lead a full and happy life, which is how we are all designed to function.

Not from physical things; first, we are designed to live by faith. That’s when you see with your spiritual eyes things that are not yet tangible and work to produce them. Living this way is a superimposing lifestyle. Living from a materialistic paradigm, or a spiritual one, if it is not converted, is dead. We want to make these observations using introspection to see how much is being converted. Love can be converted into a tangible product in everything you do when you function from the spirit and convert it to benefit others. That is living the highest life and making Jesus tangible, for it is from Him we move and have our being, and for His purpose, we were created. By using the power of introspection to study all your motivations—your whys and ways of thinking—you can progress through the classroom of life’s levels.

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AUTONOMY

Everyone possesses individual autonomy. However, unless we recognise this in ourselves and others, we risk being subjected to or dominating individuals who have the right to govern themselves as made in God's exact image and likeness. Because we carry His image, nothing in all creation should dominate us. While some are given honourable roles like government officials, police, teachers, pastors, leaders, and apostles, this does not mean they rule us or our voices don't matter. While we honour those in leadership, we shouldn't break the law; we listen to our teachers and are guided by our pastors who shepherd our souls. Yet, we maintain our autonomy as we are submitted to our leaders. If we do not heed God's voice above all others, we risk being led astray by the wrong influences.

Everyone has opinions, and even leaders can be drastically wrong, much like pastors who attempt to control those entrusted to them by God. They are not there to dictate what you can or cannot do, and you don’t need their permission to act. We were created, whether Jew or Greek, male or female; we are one in Christ, who is the CEO of our lives. If Christianity hasn't institutionalised you and God has raised you uniquely, it means there’s a reason for that. We were never meant to sit in a church for the rest of our lives. Sometimes, the reason is that we have a different theology. We’ve been exposed to other information, and God has shaped us for His purpose, not to make us conform.

Only one gospel, the gospel of the kingdom, will send people outside the church's four walls. It is not inward-focused, and God has given every person, whether a pastor or a street cleaner, a purpose for existence. This does not make one better than another. Each of us has a different responsibility before God to steward whatever is in our hands. If God has given you something, no one can tell you to lay that down. It’s interesting to see people’s perceptions when they do not know your heart or the purpose behind your actions. I cannot tell Michael Jordan to put down his basketball, tell Celine Dion not to sing, or tell Bill Gates to stop his climate initiatives to resolve a global issue. I have no right to tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t be doing because I am not God over that person.

This can be a problem in Christian circles; it’s as though we have a theology that people should be doing certain things, even when it’s not what God has told them. We may have a different concept of time and how it should be used. The issue arises because people judge from their own perspective. They don’t consider that we have all been shaped differently. Mary's path differed from that of Joseph, John the Baptist, or Paul. God used them for His purpose. A perfect example of this is the contrast between Mary and Martha. Martha went about her work, resentful that Mary wasn’t helping her in the kitchen. Martha had a different heart attitude than Mary, but Mary chose the better thing and wasn’t consumed by mundane thoughts. She did not prioritise trivial matters. She opted for the greater purpose. We can’t know someone else's relationship or heart with God; we can only see external things.

Never put religion in a box where we have expectations that it should be this way; God is far greater than that. We must allow God to be sovereign in people’s lives, and He will show them the way to go. We must be critical thinkers, dissecting what someone is saying and observing where they have made a human judgment or whether it is bad theology. The gospel of the kingdom sends and doesn’t enslave people to traditions. While we need to be connected, as God said, do not forsake the assembling of the brethren; this is not just about meeting on Sundays at a church building; it’s about fellowship. More importantly, if God has given you a gift that may not fit into institutionalised Christianity, we cannot instruct them to lay it down when God hasn’t. We can’t dictate how others should live; we are not them.

We do not know how God communicates differently with each person. If God has given someone a passion for swimming long distances, there may be a greater purpose behind it, and they could even use it as a tool for the kingdom by reaching out to a similar community. They possess an individual sovereignty that a scientist does not have. Ronald Reagan, Margaret Thatcher, and John Key dominated the political sphere. Albert Einstein, John Locke, and Isaac Newton are remembered for their groundbreaking discoveries. If traditional Christianity had institutionalised them and we had not recognised their autonomy, much wealth would not have benefited this world. They are not singular individuals. We are all created for a purpose: to be a small god over a terrain. One focused on science and philosophy, while the other focused on politics. This is how we were designed to function: to discover that gift within us and use it for God's purpose.

It’s not about self-importance. If the honeybee didn't function as God designed it to, this earth would suffer if people allowed others to dominate their society in the name of religion. There would be parts of the earth that would endure hardship as a result. We were made from material for a reason, and it’s not to be subdued by the ideas of others that stem from a theology that has kept the church inward rather than outward, serving the community. Sometimes, we repeat dogma because these ideas have been ingrained in us, and we accept them as doctrine. For example, using pulpit ministry as their church model, which is merely an equipping centre, aligns with God’s strategy to raise industrial giants across every industry as kingdom bearers of truth who illuminate every domain. God can use anyone. No one is more special than another. All are equal in His eyes. We should recognise that all individuals are created to be kings and priests, from the weakest to the strongest. Always question theology if it doesn't send.

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YOUR MOM MAKES ME ME HAPPY

*Episode 3: A Deeper Connection*

As the days turned into weeks, Omar and Sarah's relationship blossomed. They spent countless hours exploring the city, trying new restaurants, and laughing together. Omar felt like he was getting to know Sarah on a deeper level, and he was amazed by their connection.

One evening, as they sat on the couch, watching a movie, Omar turned to Sarah and asked, "What makes you happy?"

Sarah thought for a moment before responding, "I find happiness in the little things – a beautiful sunset, a good book, or a warm cup of coffee on a chilly morning. But most of all, I find happiness in the people I love and who love me back."

Omar's heart swelled with emotion. He felt like he had found someone who understood the importance of love and connection. He leaned in and kissed her, feeling a spark of electricity run through his body.

As they pulled back, Sarah smiled and said, "I love the way you make me feel. You have a way of calming my nerves and making me feel like everything will be okay."

Omar's heart skipped a beat. He knew that he felt the same way about her. He took her hand and said, "I love the way you make me feel too. You bring light and joy into my life."

As they sat there, wrapped in each other's arms, Omar knew that he was falling deeply in love with Sarah. He couldn't wait to see what the future held for them...

(Do you know what might happen next?)

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YOUR MOM MAKES ME HAPPY


*Episode 1: A Father's Wisdom*

Ahmed sat on the porch, sipping his morning tea, watching the sun rise over the horizon. His son, Omar, joined him, looking troubled. Ahmed put down his cup and asked, "What's on your mind, son?"

Omar sighed. "Dad, I'm thinking about marriage. I've met someone, but I'm not sure if she's the one."

Ahmed's eyes lit up. "Tell me about her. What's she like?"

Omar hesitated. "She's amazing, Dad. She's kind, smart, and beautiful. But I'm not sure if I'm ready."

Ahmed nodded thoughtfully. "Omar, when I met your mom, I knew she was special. She brought peace and happiness into my life. Your mom makes me happy, son. She calms my storms and brightens my days."

Omar looked curious. "What do you mean?"

Ahmed smiled. "Your mom has a way of making me feel seen and heard. She understands me like no one else. When we're together, everything feels right. That's what I want for you, son – someone who brings you peace and happiness."

Omar thought about his parents' relationship. They had their ups and downs, but his mom's presence seemed to soothe his dad's worries. He realized that his dad was right; he wanted someone who made him feel the same way.

"But how did you know Mom was the one?" Omar asked.

Ahmed's eyes sparkled. "I knew when I felt at peace with her. When I was with her, I felt like I could be myself without fear of judgment. Your mom makes me happy, Omar. She loves me for who I am, and I love her for who she is."

Omar nodded, taking in his father's words. He thought about his girlfriend and how she made him feel. Was she the one who could bring him peace and happiness?

As they sat in silence, watching the sun rise higher in the sky, Ahmed put his hand on Omar's shoulder. "Son, I want you to find someone who makes you happy, someone who brings you peace. Don't settle for anything less."

Omar looked at his dad, feeling a sense of determination. He was going to take his father's advice and see where it led him...

To be continued...

WHEN GETTING MARRIED: WHOSE CHURCH SHOULD YOU ATTEND?



A Guide for Christian Singles"

When two people are preparing to become one, it's not just their lives and families that are joining—their spiritual journey is merging too. Among the many decisions an engaged couple must make, choosing where to worship as a married couple is one that is often overlooked, but deeply important.

So let’s talk about this with wisdom, grace, and clarity.



1. First, Know That This Is a Spiritual Decision

Choosing a church home isn’t about preferences or aesthetics. It’s a spiritual agreement that affects your growth, unity, and even the environment your future children will be raised in. Before discussing logistics or location, ask God for guidance. This isn’t a casual choice—it’s a covenant-level decision.



2. If You’re Already in the Same Church, Rejoice!

If both of you already attend the same Bible-believing church with sound doctrine and vibrant community, congratulations—you’ve just dodged a potential conflict. Stay planted and keep growing together there, unless the Lord redirects you.



3. If One Church Preaches Truth and the Other Doesn’t—Don’t Compromise

Let’s be honest: not all churches are healthy.
If your fiancé’s church is filled with false doctrine, manipulation, or a twisted gospel, love yourself enough to speak up.
Sound doctrine isn’t a side issue—it shapes how your spouse leads, gives, loves, and even parents.
If he insists on staying in error and refuses accountability, don’t just reconsider the church—reconsider the relationship.



4. Look for These Qualities in a Church You’ll Call Home

Whether you’re choosing from two churches or searching afresh, prioritize:

Biblical preaching that points to Jesus and the Gospel.

Authentic worship that leads people to the presence of God.

Solid theology—truth, not trends.

Spiritual community that encourages accountability and love.

Gospel-centered children's ministry (if you plan to raise a family).

A place to serve and grow together, not just attend.



5. When Both Churches Are Solid, Consider Unity and Leadership

This is where things get tricky. You both love your churches. Both are doctrinally sound. Both communities are like family. Now what?

Here’s my gentle advice, especially for my sisters:

6. Consider Attending Your Husband’s Church

If you believe the Bible’s design in Ephesians 5:22-23, where the husband is called to be the spiritual head of the home and the wife called to support his leadership, then it makes spiritual sense to:

Follow his lead.

Join him in his church.

Trust him to spiritually nurture the family.

This isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It doesn’t mean your voice disappears—it means you both agree to grow under the same covering.



7. Unity Is More Important Than Personal Preference

Whatever church you choose, the goal is not individual satisfaction but
marital unity. The enemy loves divided homes, and separate spiritual homes can lead to divided hearts.
Don’t let stubbornness or sentimentality rob you of marital peace.

Final Words:

You’re not just marrying a person—you’re joining a mission.

Let your church choice reflect your desire to:

Walk together.

Grow together.

Worship together.

Raise a godly family together.

Choose the church that fuels your faith, strengthens your covenant, and prepares you both for eternity.

Which of these points spoke to you most? Have you discussed this with your partner? Drop your thoughts in the comments.

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