The Marriage Advice .

1. **Choose Love, Always:** Even in moments when you find it hard to like each other, choose to love. Love is a commitment, not just a feeling.

2. **Be Present:** Always answer the phone when your spouse calls. When you're together, try to keep your phone off, giving each other your full attention.

3. **Prioritize Time Together:** Make time with your spouse a top priority. Budget for regular date nights because time is the currency of relationships, and investing in your marriage is key.

4. **Surround Yourself with Support:** Keep company with friends who strengthen your marriage. Distance yourself from those who might tempt you to compromise your character.

5. **Laugh Together:** Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share joyful moments, and even in tough times, find reasons to laugh together.

6. **Team Up in Arguments:** In every disagreement, remember that you’re on the same team. There’s no winner or loser; you either win together or lose together. Work as partners to find solutions.

7. **Be Each Other’s Strength:** A strong marriage isn’t about both being strong at the same time. It’s about taking turns being strong for each other when one of you feels weak.

8. **Value Intimacy:** Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. While a strong marriage takes more than s=x, it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. **Give 100%, Not 50/50:** Marriage isn’t about splitting everything down the middle. Divorce is 50/50; marriage is 100/100, with both partners giving their all.

10. **Give Your Best:** Offer your best self to each other, not just the leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

11. **Embrace Uniqueness:** Learn from others, but resist comparing your marriage to anyone else’s. Your life is uniquely yours.

12. **Don’t Put Marriage on Hold:** Don’t neglect your marriage while raising your kids, or you might end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

13. **Be Transparent:** Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

14. **Build Trust:** Never lie to each other. Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage, and lies will break it.

15. **Admit Mistakes:** When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and seek forgiveness humbly. Be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

16. **Forgive Quickly:** When trust is broken, be quick to forgive. This promotes healing and opens the door for trust to be rebuilt. Say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

17. **Practice Patience:** Your spouse is more important than your schedule. Be patient with each other.

18. **Model Love for Your Children:** Live the kind of marriage that inspires your sons to be good husbands and your daughters to be good wives.

19. **Protect Your Spouse:** Never speak badly about your spouse to others or vent about them online. Always protect them, in all places and at all times.

20. **Wear Your Ring:** Your wedding ring is a constant reminder that you’re connected to your spouse and that you’re off-limits to the rest of the world.

21. **Connect to Faith:** Being part of a faith community can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

22. **Pray Together:** A marriage is stronger with God at its center. Pray together regularly.

23. **Choose Kindness:** If you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, choose to say nothing every time.

24. **Stay Committed:** Never consider annulment as an option. A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

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What no one told me about marriage before I enter that I want to tell you.

This is for those planning to marry or those who just got married.
If you are open-minded, you can still read.
Nobody knows it all.

1. Immediately you get married, even before having a baby, go and register your family for health insurance.
NHIS is one of the common ones and the most available in hospitals.
It will save you a lot.
There are some things the rich won’t tell you.
With NHIS, you can walk into any hospital and get treated cheap depending on the package.
A friend of mine once did an operation and all he paid was ₦10k something that would have cost ₦400k.

2. Have a family doctor very very important.
See, no church will tell you this.
Even if you don’t have money for a family doctor, have someone you can call in case of emergency.
Especially a pediatrician when you start having kids.

3. Also, have a family lawyer.
Recently, our family lawyer saved us over ₦500k in rent that I wanted to forfeit.
But because she stepped in and did her job, money was refunded seamlessly.

4. If you can afford it, have at least one domestic staff.
Someone that can at least help ease the work in the house for you and madam.
My brother, ejiro kwa afufu anya isi.
Get help if you can.

5. Buy things in bulk.
The reason I live like a wealthy man today is because I buy everything I need down to toothpaste in bulk.
You spend more buying in bits than when you buy in bulk.
That’s one of the reasons I created my sharing platform to enable family men and women with common goals.
There is nothing we don’t share. Some of you reading this are in that group.

6. Pay your children’s school fees before school resumes.
As I’m talking to you now, I’ve already sent SGM the kids’ school fees that’ll be paid in September.
I don’t have to worry about it again.
It helps me plan myself.
Do everything possible to pay school fees before resumption. You won’t know what you’re doing until money goes on leave from your side.

7. Strive to have passive income.
Something that can generate at least ₦3-5k every day.
No matter what try and get something like that.
It will save you from a lot of stress.

8. See the friends and circle your kids will have tomorrow everything depends on the school they attend.
This one is very, very important.
Even if you don’t have money, find a way to send your children to one of the best schools.
You won’t realise what you’re doing until they come of age.

9.I learnt this one from my dad always have family meetings.
You, your wife, and your kids no matter how small they are.
Discuss problems, solutions, and way forward.
Allow the kids air their opinions.

Ask the kids:
Is there something mummy and daddy are doing that they don’t like?

Same thing with your wife.
Talk about what you both can do to have a stable and loving family.
This helps in uniting the family.

Every month is fine or even every 6 months.
Just make it a habit and a culture.
It’ll become a memory that sticks for the kids, and for you and madam too.

Everyone’s opinion in the family matters.
And as the man, it’s your job to hear everybody’s opinion and choose the best way to run the family.

This isn’t just for the man alone madam can initiate it too. There’s no perfect formula, yes. But this one I listed? It works every time.
I repeat if you try it, you’ll save yourself a lot of unnecessary headache and stress.
You can add yours... enjoy your weekend.

At a university, a professor asked his students: "If there are four birds on a tree and three of them decided to fly away, how many are left on the tree?"

Everyone answered, "One."

They were surprised when one student disagreed and said, "Four birds remain." This caught everyone's attention.

The professor asked him: "How so?"

He replied: "You said they decided to fly, but you didn't say they actually flew. Making a decision doesn't mean taking action."

And indeed, that was the correct answer.

This story reflects the lives of some people — they have many slogans and catchy words, and they shine in gatherings and among friends, but in reality, their lives don’t reflect those words.

Many people talk, but only a few act..!

Making a (decision) is one thing...

Taking (action) is something else entirely.

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