12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE. HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1. 📌Never say a word you may later regret. Never let your emotions control you. No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue. Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues. Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight. 2. 📌Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry. One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful. Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage- There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home. Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage. 3. 📌Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce. Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there. So fight for your marriage. 4. 📌Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away. 5. 📌Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue. Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret. 6. 📌NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage 7. 📌Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath. 8. 📌Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things 9. 📌NEVER raise your hand on your spouse. Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse. 10. 📌Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue 11. 📌Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength. Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses. Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them. Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s. Invest in your marriage, 12. 📌NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue. Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

🌿🌿🍍🍎🍒🌿🌿🌿🥦🍇🍊🌮🎁🥬🥦🍉🍍 *MORNING** *ADHKAR* Shaykh Uthaymeen said, “The morning and evening adhkar are a stronger fortress than the wall of Ya’jooj and Ma’jooj,for the one who says it while his heart is present. And Ibn Salah said, “Whoever maintains the morning and evening adhkar, the adhkar after the prayers, and the adhkar before sleeping will be written among those “who remember Allah much.”” 🌹أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ. اللَّهُ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ هُوَ الْحَيُّ الْقَيُّومُ لاَ تَأْخُذُهُ سِنَةٌ وَلاَ نَوْمٌ لَّهُ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الأَرْضِ مَن ذَا الَّذِي يَشْفَعُ عِنْدَهُ إِلاَّ بِإِذْنِهِ يَعْلَمُ مَا بَيْنَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَمَا خَلْفَهُمْ وَلاَ يُحِيطُونَ بِشَىْءٍ مِّنْ عِلْمِهِ إِلاَّ بِمَا شَاءَ وَسِعَ كُرْسِيُّهُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضَ وَلاَ يَؤُودُهُ حِفْظُهُمَا وَهُوَ الْعَلِيُّ الْعَظِيمُ 🎍TRANSLITERATION. 🎯'A 'oothu billaahi minash-Shaytaanir-rajeem. Allaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwal-Hayyul-Qayyoom, laa ta'khuthuhu sinatun wa laa nawm, lahu maa fis-samaawaati wa maa fil-'ardh, man thai-lathee yashfa'u 'indahu 'illaa bi'ithnih, ya'lamu maa bayna 'aydeehim wa maa khalfahum, wa laa yuheetoona bishay'im-min 'ilmihi 'illaa bimaa shaa'a, wasi'a kursiyyuhus samaawaati wal'ardh, wa laa ya'ooduhu hifdhuhumaa, wa Huwal- 'Aliyyul- 'Adheem. I 🎆Recite suratul ikhlas thrice, suratul falaq thrice and suratul nas thrice each. 🌄أَصْبَحْنَا وَأَصْبَحَ الْمُلْكُ لِلَّهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ، لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ، رَبِّ أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَ مَا فِيْ هَذَا الْيَوْمِ وَخَيْرَ مَا بَعْدَهُ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا فِي هَذَا الْيَوْمِ وَشَرِّ مَا بَعْدَهُ، رَبِّ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْكَسَلِ، وَسُوءِ الْكِبَرِ، رَبِّ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابٍ فِيْ النَّارِ وَعَذَابٍ فِيْ الْقَبْرِ 🎍TRANSLITERATION 🌊'Asbahnaa wa 'asbahal-mulku lillaahi walhamdu lillaahi, laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer. Rabbi 'as'aluka khayra maa fee haathal-yawmi wa khayra maa ba'dahu wa 'a'oothu bika min sharri maa fee haathal-yawmi wa sharri maa ba'dahu, Rabbi 'a'oothu bika minal-kasali, wa soo'il-kibari, Rabbi 'a'oothu bika min 'athaabin fin-naari wa 'athaabin fil-qabri. 💡TRANSLATION We have reached the morning and at this time unto Allah belongs all sovereignty, and all praise is for Allah. None has the right to be worshiped except Allah alone, without partner, to Him belongs all sovereignty and praise. He is over all things omnipotent. My Lord, I ask You for the good of this morning and the good of what follows it and I seek refuge in You from the evil of this morning and the evil of what follows it. My Lord, I seek refuge in You from laziness and senility. My Lord, I seek refuge in You from the torment of the fire and the punishment of the grave. 🌈اللَّهُمَّ بِكَ أَصْبَحْنَا، وَبِكَ أَمْسَيْنَا وَبِكَ نَحْيَا، وَبِكَ نَمُوتُ، وَإِلَيْكَ النُّشُورُ 🎍TRANSLITERATION Allaahumma bika 'asbahnaa, wa bika 'amsaynaa, wa bika nahyaa, wa bika namootu wa 'ilaykan-nushoor. 🧭TRANSLATION O Allah! By Your leave we have reached the morning and by Your leave we have reached the evening, by Your leave we live and die. Unto You is our resurrection. 🏝اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لَّا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ، وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ، أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ، وَأَبُوءُ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِر لِي فَإِنَّهُ لَا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ 🎍Transliteration 💛Allaahumma 'Anta Rabbee laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta, khalaqtanee wa 'anaa 'abduka, wa 'anaa 'alaa 'ahdika wa wa'dika mas-tata'tu, 'a'oothu bika min sharri maa sana'tu, 'aboo'u laka bini'matika 'alayya, wa 'aboo'u bithanbee faghfir lee fa'innahu laa yaghfiruth-thunooba 'illaa 'Anta. 🎁TRANSLATION O Allah! You are my Lord. None has the right to be worshiped except You. You created me and I am Your servant and I abide by Your covenant and promise as best I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil, which I have committed. I acknowledge Your favour upon me and I acknowledge my sins, so forgive me, for verily none can forgive sin except You. 🔮اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَصْبَحْتُ أُشْهِدُكَ وَأُشْهِدُ حَمَلَةَ عَرْشِكَ، وَمَلَائِكَتَكَ وَجَمِيعَ خَلْقِكَ، أَنَّكَ أَنْتَ اللَّهُ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ وَحْدَكَ لَا شَرِيكَ لَكَ، وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّداً عَبْدُكَ وَرَسُولُك (×4) 🎍Transliteration 🍃Allaahumma 'innee 'asbahtu 'ush-hiduka wa 'ush-hidu hamalata 'arshika, wa malaa'ikataka wajamee'a khalqika, 'annaka 'Antallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta wahdaka laa shareeka laka, wa 'anna Muhammadan 'abduka wa Rasooluka. ( Four times ) 💎TRANSLATION O Allah! Verily I have reached the morning and call on You, the bearers of Your throne, Your angels and all of Your creation to witness that You are Allah, None has the right to be worshiped except You alone, without partner. And I bear witness that Muhammad is Your servant and Messenger 🌳اللَّهُمَّ مَا أَصْبَحَ بِي مِنْ نِعْمَةٍ أَوْ بِأَحَدٍ مِنْ خَلْقِكَ فَمِنْكَ وَحْدَكَ لَا شَرِيكَ لَكَ، فَلَكَ الْحَمْدُ وَلَكَ الشُّكْرُ Transliteration 🔹Allaahumma maa 'asbaha bee min ni'matin 'aw bi'ahadin min khalqika faminka wahdaka laa shareeka laka, falakal-hamdu wa lakash-shukru. ✏TRANSLATION O Allah! What blessings I or any of Your creation have risen upon, is from You alone, without partner, so for You is all praise and unto You is all thanks. 💝اللَّهُمَّ عَافِـني فِي بَدَنِي، اللَّهُمَّ عَافِـنِي فِي سَمْعِي، اللَّهُمَّ عَافِنِي فِي بَصَرِي، لَا إِلَهَ إلاَّ أَنْتَ. اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُبِكَ مِنَ الْكُفْر، وَالفَقْرِ، وَأَعُوذُبِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ ، لَا إلَهَ إلاَّ أَنْت َ(×3 ) 🎍Transliteration 🔸Allaahumma 'aafinee fee badanee, Allaahumma 'aafinee fee sam'ee, Allaahumma 'aafinee fee basaree, laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta (three times). Allaahumma 'innee 'a'oothu bika minal-kufri, walfaqri, wa 'a'oothu bika min 'athaabil-qabri, laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta. (Three times) 🏉TRANSLATION O Allah! grant my body health. O Allah! grant my hearing health. O Allah! grant my sight health. None has right to be worshiped except You. O Allah! I seek refuge with You from disbelief and poverty, and I seek refuge with You from the punishment of the grave. None has the right to be worshiped except You. 💎حَسْبِيَ اللَّهُ لَآ إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ (×7) 🎍Transliteration Hasbiyallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwa 'alayhi tawakkaltu wa Huwa Rabbul-'Arshil-'Adheem . (Seven times) 🍊TRANSLATION Allah is sufficient for me. None has the right to be worshiped except Him, upon Him I rely and He is Lord of the exalted throne 🍒اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي دِينِي، وَدُنْيَايَ، وَأَهْلِي، وَمَالِي، اللَّهُمَّ اسْتُرْ عَوْرَاتِي، وَآمِنْ رَوْعَاتِي، اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنِي مِنْ بَيْنِ يَدَيَّ، وَمِنْ خَلْفِي، وَعَنْ يَمِينِي، وَعَنْ شِمَالِي، وَمِنْ فَوْقِي، وَأَعُوذُ بِعَظَمَتِكَ أَنْ أُغْتَالَ مِنْ تَحْتِيَ 🎍Transliteration Allaahumma 'innee 'as'alukal-'afwa wal'aafiyata fid-dunyaa wal'aakhirati, Allaahumma 'innee 'as'alukal-'afwa wal'aafiyata fee deenee wa dunyaaya wa 'ahlee, wa maalee , Allaahum-mastur 'awraatee, wa 'aamin raw'aatee, Allaahum-mahfadhnee min bayni yadayya, wa min khalfee, wa 'an yameenee, wa 'an shimaalee, wa min fawqee, wa 'a'oothu bi'adhamatika 'an 'ughtaala min tahtee. 🍎TRANSLATION O Allah! I ask You for pardon and well-being in this life and the next. O Allah! I ask for pardon and well-being in my religious and worldly affairs, and my family and my wealth. O Allah! Ilaah, cover my weakness and set at ease my dismay. O Allah! Preserve me from the front and from behind and on my right and on my left and from above, and I seek refuge with You lest I be swallowed up by the earth. 🏺اللَّهُمَّ عَالِمَ الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ فَاطِرَ السَّماوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ، رَبَّ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ وَمَلِيكَهُ، أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ نَفْسِي، وَمِنْ شَرِّ الشَّيْطَانِ وَشِرْكِهِ، وَأَنْ أَقْتَرِفَ عَلَى نَفْسِي سُوءاً أَوْ أَجُرَّهُ إِلَى مُسْلِمٍ 🎍Transliteration 🍂Allaahumma 'Aalimal-ghaybi wash-shahaadati faatiras-samaawaati wal'ardhi, Rabba kulli shay'in wa maleekahu, 'ash-hadu 'an laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta, 'a'oothu bika min sharri nafsee, wa min sharrish-shaytaani wa shirkihi, wa 'an 'aqtarifa 'alaa nafsee soo'an, 'aw 'ajurrahu 'ilaa Muslimin. 🍊TRANSLATION O Allah! Knower of the seen and the unseen. Creator of the heavens and the earth, Lord and sovereign of all things. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshiped except You. I take refuge in You from the evil of my soul and from the evil and shirk of the devil, and from committing wrong against my soul or bringing such upon another Muslim. 󒈨ِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لَا يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَيْءٌ فِي الَْأرْضِ وَلَا فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ (×3) 🎍Transliteration 🕸Bismillaahil-lathee laa yadhurru ma'as-mihi shay'un fil-'ardhi wa laa fis-samaa'i wa Huwas-Samee 'ul- 'Aleem. (Three times) 🍠TRANSLATION In the name of Allah in whose name nothing is harmed on earth nor in the heaven and He is the All-Seeing, The All-Knowing 💞رَضِيتُ باللَّهِ رَبًّا، وَبِالْإِسْلَامِ دِيناً، وَبِمُحَمَّدٍ صَلَى اللَّهُ عَلِيهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَبِيَّاً (×3) 🎍Transliteration 🌹Radheetu billaahi Rabban, wa bil-'Islaami deenan, wa bi-Muhammadin (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallama) Nabiyyan. (Three times) 🍉TRANSLATION I am pleased with Allah as my Lord, and Islam as my religion and Muhammad as His Prophet. 🏆يَاحَيُّ، يَا قَيُّومُ، بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيثُ، أَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ، وَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ 🎍Transliteration 🕌Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoomu birahmatika 'astagheethu 'aslih lee sha'nee kullahu wa laa takilnee 'ilaa nafsee tarfata 'aynin. 🥑TRANSLATION O Ever Living, O Self-Subsisting and Supporter of all, by Your mercy I seek assistance. Rectify for me all my affairs and do not leave me to myself, even for the twinkling of an eye. ☕أَصْبَحْنَا وَأَصْبَحَ الْمُلْكُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّـي أَسْأَلُكَ خَـيْرَ هَذَا الْـيَوْمِ ، فَتْحَهُ، وَنَصْرَهُ، وَنُورَهُ وَبَرَكَتَهُ، وَهُدَاهُ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا فِيهِ وَشَرِّ مَا بَعْدَهُ 🎍Transliteration 🌄Asbahnaa wa 'asbahal-mulku lillaahi Rabbil-'aalameen, Allaahumma 'innee 'as'aluka khayra haathal-yawmi , Fathahu wa nasrahu wa noorahu, wa barakatahu, wa hudaahu, wa'a'oothu bika min sharri maafeehi wa sharri maa ba'dahu. 🍒TRANSLATION We have reached the morning and at this very time all sovereignty belongs to Allah, Lord of the worlds. O Allah! I ask You for the good of this day, its triumphs and its victories, its fight and its blessings and its guidance, and I seek refuge in You from the evil of this day and the evil that follows it. 🌅أَصْبَحْنَا عَلَى فِطْرَةِ الْإِسْلَامِ، وَعَلَى كَلِمَةِ الإِخْلَاصِ، وَعَلَى دِينِ نَبِـيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ، وَعَاـَى مِلَّـةِ أَبِينَا إِبْـرَاهِيـمَ، حَنِيفاً مُسْلِماً وَمَا كَانَ مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ 🎍Transliteration 🌅'Asbahnaa 'alaa fitratil-'Islaami wa 'alaa kalimatil-'ikhlaasi, wa 'alaa deeni Nabiyyinaa Muhammadin, wa 'alaa millati 'abeenaa 'Ibraaheema, haneefan Musliman wa maa kaana minal-mushrikeen. 🥦TRANSLATION We rise upon the fitrah of Islam and the word of pure faith and upon the religion of our forefather IBRAHEEM, who was a Muslim having true faith and was not of those who associate others with Allah. ⚱سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ (×100 ) 🎍Transliteration 📿Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi. (hundred times) 🥬TRANSLATION How perfect Allah is and I praise Him 🕳لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ، وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ ( 10 , or 100 times ) 🎍Transliteration 📿Laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu, wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer. (10 times or 100 times ) 🌮TRANSLATION None has the right to be worshiped except Allah alone, without partner, to Him belongs all sovereignty and praise, He is over all things omnipotent 🎗سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ عَدَدَ خَلْقِهِ، وَرِضَا نَفْسِهِ، وَزِنَةَ عَرْشِهِ وَمِدَادَ كَلِمَاتِهِ ( ×3 ) 🎍Transliteration 🛢Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi: 'Adada khalqihi, wa ridhaa nafsihi, wa zinata 'arshihi wa midaada kalimaatihi. (Three times ) 🍑TRANSLATION How perfect Allah is and I praise Him by the amount of His creation and His pleasure, and by the weight of His throne, and the ink of His words. 🎀اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ عِلْماً نَافِعاً، وَ رِزْقاً طَيِّباً، وَ عَمَلاً مُتَقَبَّلاً 🎍Transliteration 🔹Allaahumma 'innee 'as'aluka 'ilman naafi'an, wa rizqan tayyiban, wa 'amalan mutaqabbalan. 🍇TRANSLATION O Allah! I ask You for knowledge that is beneficial, good provision and deeds that will be accepted أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْهِ ( ×100 ) 🎍Transliteration 👏'Astaghfirullaaha wa 'atoobu 'ilayhi. (100 times during the day.) 🍑TRANSLATION I seek forgiveness from Allah and repent to Him اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلَّمْ عَلَى نَبِيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ ( ×10 ) 🎍Transliteration 🖼Allahumma salli wa sallim 'alaa nabiyyinaa Muhammadin (Ten times ) 🍍O Allah! We seek for your peace and blessings upon our prophet Muhammad

🌿🌿🍍🍎🍒🌿🌿🌿🥦🍇🍊🌮🎁🥬🥦🍉🍍 *MORNING** *ADHKAR* Shaykh Uthaymeen said, “The morning and evening adhkar are a stronger fortress than the wall of Ya’jooj and Ma’jooj,for the one who says it while his heart is present. And Ibn Salah said, “Whoever maintains the morning and evening adhkar, the adhkar after the prayers, and the adhkar before sleeping will be written among those “who remember Allah much.”” 🌹أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ. اللَّهُ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ هُوَ الْحَيُّ الْقَيُّومُ لاَ تَأْخُذُهُ سِنَةٌ وَلاَ نَوْمٌ لَّهُ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الأَرْضِ مَن ذَا الَّذِي يَشْفَعُ عِنْدَهُ إِلاَّ بِإِذْنِهِ يَعْلَمُ مَا بَيْنَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَمَا خَلْفَهُمْ وَلاَ يُحِيطُونَ بِشَىْءٍ مِّنْ عِلْمِهِ إِلاَّ بِمَا شَاءَ وَسِعَ كُرْسِيُّهُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضَ وَلاَ يَؤُودُهُ حِفْظُهُمَا وَهُوَ الْعَلِيُّ الْعَظِيمُ 🎍TRANSLITERATION. 🎯'A 'oothu billaahi minash-Shaytaanir-rajeem. Allaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwal-Hayyul-Qayyoom, laa ta'khuthuhu sinatun wa laa nawm, lahu maa fis-samaawaati wa maa fil-'ardh, man thai-lathee yashfa'u 'indahu 'illaa bi'ithnih, ya'lamu maa bayna 'aydeehim wa maa khalfahum, wa laa yuheetoona bishay'im-min 'ilmihi 'illaa bimaa shaa'a, wasi'a kursiyyuhus samaawaati wal'ardh, wa laa ya'ooduhu hifdhuhumaa, wa Huwal- 'Aliyyul- 'Adheem. I 🎆Recite suratul ikhlas thrice, suratul falaq thrice and suratul nas thrice each. 🌄أَصْبَحْنَا وَأَصْبَحَ الْمُلْكُ لِلَّهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ، لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ، رَبِّ أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَ مَا فِيْ هَذَا الْيَوْمِ وَخَيْرَ مَا بَعْدَهُ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا فِي هَذَا الْيَوْمِ وَشَرِّ مَا بَعْدَهُ، رَبِّ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْكَسَلِ، وَسُوءِ الْكِبَرِ، رَبِّ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابٍ فِيْ النَّارِ وَعَذَابٍ فِيْ الْقَبْرِ 🎍TRANSLITERATION 🌊'Asbahnaa wa 'asbahal-mulku lillaahi walhamdu lillaahi, laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer. Rabbi 'as'aluka khayra maa fee haathal-yawmi wa khayra maa ba'dahu wa 'a'oothu bika min sharri maa fee haathal-yawmi wa sharri maa ba'dahu, Rabbi 'a'oothu bika minal-kasali, wa soo'il-kibari, Rabbi 'a'oothu bika min 'athaabin fin-naari wa 'athaabin fil-qabri. 💡TRANSLATION We have reached the morning and at this time unto Allah belongs all sovereignty, and all praise is for Allah. None has the right to be worshiped except Allah alone, without partner, to Him belongs all sovereignty and praise. He is over all things omnipotent. My Lord, I ask You for the good of this morning and the good of what follows it and I seek refuge in You from the evil of this morning and the evil of what follows it. My Lord, I seek refuge in You from laziness and senility. My Lord, I seek refuge in You from the torment of the fire and the punishment of the grave. 🌈اللَّهُمَّ بِكَ أَصْبَحْنَا، وَبِكَ أَمْسَيْنَا وَبِكَ نَحْيَا، وَبِكَ نَمُوتُ، وَإِلَيْكَ النُّشُورُ 🎍TRANSLITERATION Allaahumma bika 'asbahnaa, wa bika 'amsaynaa, wa bika nahyaa, wa bika namootu wa 'ilaykan-nushoor. 🧭TRANSLATION O Allah! By Your leave we have reached the morning and by Your leave we have reached the evening, by Your leave we live and die. Unto You is our resurrection. 🏝اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لَّا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ، وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ، أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ، وَأَبُوءُ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِر لِي فَإِنَّهُ لَا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ 🎍Transliteration 💛Allaahumma 'Anta Rabbee laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta, khalaqtanee wa 'anaa 'abduka, wa 'anaa 'alaa 'ahdika wa wa'dika mas-tata'tu, 'a'oothu bika min sharri maa sana'tu, 'aboo'u laka bini'matika 'alayya, wa 'aboo'u bithanbee faghfir lee fa'innahu laa yaghfiruth-thunooba 'illaa 'Anta. 🎁TRANSLATION O Allah! You are my Lord. None has the right to be worshiped except You. You created me and I am Your servant and I abide by Your covenant and promise as best I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil, which I have committed. I acknowledge Your favour upon me and I acknowledge my sins, so forgive me, for verily none can forgive sin except You. 🔮اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَصْبَحْتُ أُشْهِدُكَ وَأُشْهِدُ حَمَلَةَ عَرْشِكَ، وَمَلَائِكَتَكَ وَجَمِيعَ خَلْقِكَ، أَنَّكَ أَنْتَ اللَّهُ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ وَحْدَكَ لَا شَرِيكَ لَكَ، وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّداً عَبْدُكَ وَرَسُولُك (×4) 🎍Transliteration 🍃Allaahumma 'innee 'asbahtu 'ush-hiduka wa 'ush-hidu hamalata 'arshika, wa malaa'ikataka wajamee'a khalqika, 'annaka 'Antallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta wahdaka laa shareeka laka, wa 'anna Muhammadan 'abduka wa Rasooluka. ( Four times ) 💎TRANSLATION O Allah! Verily I have reached the morning and call on You, the bearers of Your throne, Your angels and all of Your creation to witness that You are Allah, None has the right to be worshiped except You alone, without partner. And I bear witness that Muhammad is Your servant and Messenger 🌳اللَّهُمَّ مَا أَصْبَحَ بِي مِنْ نِعْمَةٍ أَوْ بِأَحَدٍ مِنْ خَلْقِكَ فَمِنْكَ وَحْدَكَ لَا شَرِيكَ لَكَ، فَلَكَ الْحَمْدُ وَلَكَ الشُّكْرُ Transliteration 🔹Allaahumma maa 'asbaha bee min ni'matin 'aw bi'ahadin min khalqika faminka wahdaka laa shareeka laka, falakal-hamdu wa lakash-shukru. ✏TRANSLATION O Allah! What blessings I or any of Your creation have risen upon, is from You alone, without partner, so for You is all praise and unto You is all thanks. 💝اللَّهُمَّ عَافِـني فِي بَدَنِي، اللَّهُمَّ عَافِـنِي فِي سَمْعِي، اللَّهُمَّ عَافِنِي فِي بَصَرِي، لَا إِلَهَ إلاَّ أَنْتَ. اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُبِكَ مِنَ الْكُفْر، وَالفَقْرِ، وَأَعُوذُبِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ ، لَا إلَهَ إلاَّ أَنْت َ(×3 ) 🎍Transliteration 🔸Allaahumma 'aafinee fee badanee, Allaahumma 'aafinee fee sam'ee, Allaahumma 'aafinee fee basaree, laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta (three times). Allaahumma 'innee 'a'oothu bika minal-kufri, walfaqri, wa 'a'oothu bika min 'athaabil-qabri, laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta. (Three times) 🏉TRANSLATION O Allah! grant my body health. O Allah! grant my hearing health. O Allah! grant my sight health. None has right to be worshiped except You. O Allah! I seek refuge with You from disbelief and poverty, and I seek refuge with You from the punishment of the grave. None has the right to be worshiped except You. 💎حَسْبِيَ اللَّهُ لَآ إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ (×7) 🎍Transliteration Hasbiyallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwa 'alayhi tawakkaltu wa Huwa Rabbul-'Arshil-'Adheem . (Seven times) 🍊TRANSLATION Allah is sufficient for me. None has the right to be worshiped except Him, upon Him I rely and He is Lord of the exalted throne 🍒اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي دِينِي، وَدُنْيَايَ، وَأَهْلِي، وَمَالِي، اللَّهُمَّ اسْتُرْ عَوْرَاتِي، وَآمِنْ رَوْعَاتِي، اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنِي مِنْ بَيْنِ يَدَيَّ، وَمِنْ خَلْفِي، وَعَنْ يَمِينِي، وَعَنْ شِمَالِي، وَمِنْ فَوْقِي، وَأَعُوذُ بِعَظَمَتِكَ أَنْ أُغْتَالَ مِنْ تَحْتِيَ 🎍Transliteration Allaahumma 'innee 'as'alukal-'afwa wal'aafiyata fid-dunyaa wal'aakhirati, Allaahumma 'innee 'as'alukal-'afwa wal'aafiyata fee deenee wa dunyaaya wa 'ahlee, wa maalee , Allaahum-mastur 'awraatee, wa 'aamin raw'aatee, Allaahum-mahfadhnee min bayni yadayya, wa min khalfee, wa 'an yameenee, wa 'an shimaalee, wa min fawqee, wa 'a'oothu bi'adhamatika 'an 'ughtaala min tahtee. 🍎TRANSLATION O Allah! I ask You for pardon and well-being in this life and the next. O Allah! I ask for pardon and well-being in my religious and worldly affairs, and my family and my wealth. O Allah! Ilaah, cover my weakness and set at ease my dismay. O Allah! Preserve me from the front and from behind and on my right and on my left and from above, and I seek refuge with You lest I be swallowed up by the earth. 🏺اللَّهُمَّ عَالِمَ الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ فَاطِرَ السَّماوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ، رَبَّ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ وَمَلِيكَهُ، أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ نَفْسِي، وَمِنْ شَرِّ الشَّيْطَانِ وَشِرْكِهِ، وَأَنْ أَقْتَرِفَ عَلَى نَفْسِي سُوءاً أَوْ أَجُرَّهُ إِلَى مُسْلِمٍ 🎍Transliteration 🍂Allaahumma 'Aalimal-ghaybi wash-shahaadati faatiras-samaawaati wal'ardhi, Rabba kulli shay'in wa maleekahu, 'ash-hadu 'an laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta, 'a'oothu bika min sharri nafsee, wa min sharrish-shaytaani wa shirkihi, wa 'an 'aqtarifa 'alaa nafsee soo'an, 'aw 'ajurrahu 'ilaa Muslimin. 🍊TRANSLATION O Allah! Knower of the seen and the unseen. Creator of the heavens and the earth, Lord and sovereign of all things. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshiped except You. I take refuge in You from the evil of my soul and from the evil and shirk of the devil, and from committing wrong against my soul or bringing such upon another Muslim. 󒈨ِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لَا يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَيْءٌ فِي الَْأرْضِ وَلَا فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ (×3) 🎍Transliteration 🕸Bismillaahil-lathee laa yadhurru ma'as-mihi shay'un fil-'ardhi wa laa fis-samaa'i wa Huwas-Samee 'ul- 'Aleem. (Three times) 🍠TRANSLATION In the name of Allah in whose name nothing is harmed on earth nor in the heaven and He is the All-Seeing, The All-Knowing 💞رَضِيتُ باللَّهِ رَبًّا، وَبِالْإِسْلَامِ دِيناً، وَبِمُحَمَّدٍ صَلَى اللَّهُ عَلِيهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَبِيَّاً (×3) 🎍Transliteration 🌹Radheetu billaahi Rabban, wa bil-'Islaami deenan, wa bi-Muhammadin (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallama) Nabiyyan. (Three times) 🍉TRANSLATION I am pleased with Allah as my Lord, and Islam as my religion and Muhammad as His Prophet. 🏆يَاحَيُّ، يَا قَيُّومُ، بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيثُ، أَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ، وَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ 🎍Transliteration 🕌Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoomu birahmatika 'astagheethu 'aslih lee sha'nee kullahu wa laa takilnee 'ilaa nafsee tarfata 'aynin. 🥑TRANSLATION O Ever Living, O Self-Subsisting and Supporter of all, by Your mercy I seek assistance. Rectify for me all my affairs and do not leave me to myself, even for the twinkling of an eye. ☕أَصْبَحْنَا وَأَصْبَحَ الْمُلْكُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّـي أَسْأَلُكَ خَـيْرَ هَذَا الْـيَوْمِ ، فَتْحَهُ، وَنَصْرَهُ، وَنُورَهُ وَبَرَكَتَهُ، وَهُدَاهُ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا فِيهِ وَشَرِّ مَا بَعْدَهُ 🎍Transliteration 🌄Asbahnaa wa 'asbahal-mulku lillaahi Rabbil-'aalameen, Allaahumma 'innee 'as'aluka khayra haathal-yawmi , Fathahu wa nasrahu wa noorahu, wa barakatahu, wa hudaahu, wa'a'oothu bika min sharri maafeehi wa sharri maa ba'dahu. 🍒TRANSLATION We have reached the morning and at this very time all sovereignty belongs to Allah, Lord of the worlds. O Allah! I ask You for the good of this day, its triumphs and its victories, its fight and its blessings and its guidance, and I seek refuge in You from the evil of this day and the evil that follows it. 🌅أَصْبَحْنَا عَلَى فِطْرَةِ الْإِسْلَامِ، وَعَلَى كَلِمَةِ الإِخْلَاصِ، وَعَلَى دِينِ نَبِـيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ، وَعَاـَى مِلَّـةِ أَبِينَا إِبْـرَاهِيـمَ، حَنِيفاً مُسْلِماً وَمَا كَانَ مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ 🎍Transliteration 🌅'Asbahnaa 'alaa fitratil-'Islaami wa 'alaa kalimatil-'ikhlaasi, wa 'alaa deeni Nabiyyinaa Muhammadin, wa 'alaa millati 'abeenaa 'Ibraaheema, haneefan Musliman wa maa kaana minal-mushrikeen. 🥦TRANSLATION We rise upon the fitrah of Islam and the word of pure faith and upon the religion of our forefather IBRAHEEM, who was a Muslim having true faith and was not of those who associate others with Allah. ⚱سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ (×100 ) 🎍Transliteration 📿Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi. (hundred times) 🥬TRANSLATION How perfect Allah is and I praise Him 🕳لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ، وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ ( 10 , or 100 times ) 🎍Transliteration 📿Laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu, wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer. (10 times or 100 times ) 🌮TRANSLATION None has the right to be worshiped except Allah alone, without partner, to Him belongs all sovereignty and praise, He is over all things omnipotent 🎗سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ عَدَدَ خَلْقِهِ، وَرِضَا نَفْسِهِ، وَزِنَةَ عَرْشِهِ وَمِدَادَ كَلِمَاتِهِ ( ×3 ) 🎍Transliteration 🛢Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi: 'Adada khalqihi, wa ridhaa nafsihi, wa zinata 'arshihi wa midaada kalimaatihi. (Three times ) 🍑TRANSLATION How perfect Allah is and I praise Him by the amount of His creation and His pleasure, and by the weight of His throne, and the ink of His words. 🎀اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ عِلْماً نَافِعاً، وَ رِزْقاً طَيِّباً، وَ عَمَلاً مُتَقَبَّلاً 🎍Transliteration 🔹Allaahumma 'innee 'as'aluka 'ilman naafi'an, wa rizqan tayyiban, wa 'amalan mutaqabbalan. 🍇TRANSLATION O Allah! I ask You for knowledge that is beneficial, good provision and deeds that will be accepted أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْهِ ( ×100 ) 🎍Transliteration 👏'Astaghfirullaaha wa 'atoobu 'ilayhi. (100 times during the day.) 🍑TRANSLATION I seek forgiveness from Allah and repent to Him اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلَّمْ عَلَى نَبِيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ ( ×10 ) 🎍Transliteration 🖼Allahumma salli wa sallim 'alaa nabiyyinaa Muhammadin (Ten times ) 🍍O Allah! We seek for your peace and blessings upon our prophet Muhammad

*SHARED AS RCVD* *Translation of what Dr. Rayyan says in Arabic in respect of TEACHERS.* "When the teacher becomes the poorest of government employees, don't ask about the future. In every nation, there is a standard that never fails to measure its future: look at the state of its teachers, and you will know where it is headed. If the teacher is honored, the nation is heading towards prosperity, and if they are marginalized, then know that the society is heading towards the abyss of ignorance and decline. The teacher is not just an employee who performs a daily duty, but rather the foundation upon which generations are built, and the basis upon which civilizations are established. So, what if this foundation is fragile, struggling to make ends meet, and fighting harsh conditions that show no mercy? What if the profession of shaping minds becomes synonymous with poverty and deprivation? When you see a teacher suffering, know that the nation has abandoned its glory, and the society has begun to lose its way. The teacher is not just an individual in society, but rather the builder of civilizations, the guardian of identity, and the bearer of the torch of knowledge in the paths of ignorance. A state that ignores its teachers is destroying its own foundation with its own hands, and digging the grave of its future in deadly silence. The strength of nations is not in their high walls, nor in their treasure troves filled with gold, nor in their equipment, but in the minds of their children, which are shaped by the teacher. When states neglect their teachers, they are compromising their true security, because knowledge alone is the weapon that does not rust, and the power that is not defeated. Schools are not just buildings made of brick and mortar, but factories for minds, and laboratories for revival. What is the use of walls if there is no thought that illuminates, and no knowledge that changes? A nation that makes the teacher just a marginalized employee is destroying the pillars of its future with its own hands, and condemning itself to remain in the shadows. When the teacher's salary is the lowest on the state's salary scale, barely enough to last two or three days, know that the state has chosen ignorance over knowledge, and decline over progress. The teacher is not just an employee who performs daily tasks, but rather a leader who shapes minds, and an engineer who builds the future. What if the state neglects its teachers, and thereby destroys the future of its people with its own hands? How can a nation prosper when its teachers are begging for respect before rights? How can a society progress when its role model is crushed under the weight of poverty and neglect? When the teacher is unable to secure their most basic needs, education becomes a trade, and schools turn into centers for grades rather than minds. The teacher is the torch that lights the way for generations, and if the state extinguishes this torch, it will plunge into the darkness of ignorance and backwardness. And when the dignity of the teacher is broken, it is not just an individual who collapses, but an entire nation. We have two choices, and there is no third option: either we make the teacher the foundation for progress, or we continue to fall into the swamp of backwardness. Nations that respected their teachers built their civilizations, and nations that neglected them became a thing of the past. There is no revival without education, and no education without a noble teacher. If we want to build a future that is worthy of pride, let us start by preserving the dignity of those who shape minds. The true homeland is not just land and borders... The homeland is a mind that thinks, a child who reads, and a teacher who burns to illuminate the path of generations..."

🌿🌿🍍🍎🍒🌿🌿🌿🥦🍇🍊🌮🎁🥬🥦🍉🍍 *MORNING** *ADHKAR* Shaykh Uthaymeen said, “The morning and evening adhkar are a stronger fortress than the wall of Ya’jooj and Ma’jooj,for the one who says it while his heart is present. And Ibn Salah said, “Whoever maintains the morning and evening adhkar, the adhkar after the prayers, and the adhkar before sleeping will be written among those “who remember Allah much.”” 🌹أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ. اللَّهُ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ هُوَ الْحَيُّ الْقَيُّومُ لاَ تَأْخُذُهُ سِنَةٌ وَلاَ نَوْمٌ لَّهُ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الأَرْضِ مَن ذَا الَّذِي يَشْفَعُ عِنْدَهُ إِلاَّ بِإِذْنِهِ يَعْلَمُ مَا بَيْنَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَمَا خَلْفَهُمْ وَلاَ يُحِيطُونَ بِشَىْءٍ مِّنْ عِلْمِهِ إِلاَّ بِمَا شَاءَ وَسِعَ كُرْسِيُّهُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضَ وَلاَ يَؤُودُهُ حِفْظُهُمَا وَهُوَ الْعَلِيُّ الْعَظِيمُ 🎍TRANSLITERATION. 🎯'A 'oothu billaahi minash-Shaytaanir-rajeem. Allaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwal-Hayyul-Qayyoom, laa ta'khuthuhu sinatun wa laa nawm, lahu maa fis-samaawaati wa maa fil-'ardh, man thai-lathee yashfa'u 'indahu 'illaa bi'ithnih, ya'lamu maa bayna 'aydeehim wa maa khalfahum, wa laa yuheetoona bishay'im-min 'ilmihi 'illaa bimaa shaa'a, wasi'a kursiyyuhus samaawaati wal'ardh, wa laa ya'ooduhu hifdhuhumaa, wa Huwal- 'Aliyyul- 'Adheem. I 🎆Recite suratul ikhlas thrice, suratul falaq thrice and suratul nas thrice each. 🌄أَصْبَحْنَا وَأَصْبَحَ الْمُلْكُ لِلَّهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ، لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ، رَبِّ أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَ مَا فِيْ هَذَا الْيَوْمِ وَخَيْرَ مَا بَعْدَهُ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا فِي هَذَا الْيَوْمِ وَشَرِّ مَا بَعْدَهُ، رَبِّ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْكَسَلِ، وَسُوءِ الْكِبَرِ، رَبِّ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابٍ فِيْ النَّارِ وَعَذَابٍ فِيْ الْقَبْرِ 🎍TRANSLITERATION 🌊'Asbahnaa wa 'asbahal-mulku lillaahi walhamdu lillaahi, laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer. Rabbi 'as'aluka khayra maa fee haathal-yawmi wa khayra maa ba'dahu wa 'a'oothu bika min sharri maa fee haathal-yawmi wa sharri maa ba'dahu, Rabbi 'a'oothu bika minal-kasali, wa soo'il-kibari, Rabbi 'a'oothu bika min 'athaabin fin-naari wa 'athaabin fil-qabri. 💡TRANSLATION We have reached the morning and at this time unto Allah belongs all sovereignty, and all praise is for Allah. None has the right to be worshiped except Allah alone, without partner, to Him belongs all sovereignty and praise. He is over all things omnipotent. My Lord, I ask You for the good of this morning and the good of what follows it and I seek refuge in You from the evil of this morning and the evil of what follows it. My Lord, I seek refuge in You from laziness and senility. My Lord, I seek refuge in You from the torment of the fire and the punishment of the grave. 🌈اللَّهُمَّ بِكَ أَصْبَحْنَا، وَبِكَ أَمْسَيْنَا وَبِكَ نَحْيَا، وَبِكَ نَمُوتُ، وَإِلَيْكَ النُّشُورُ 🎍TRANSLITERATION Allaahumma bika 'asbahnaa, wa bika 'amsaynaa, wa bika nahyaa, wa bika namootu wa 'ilaykan-nushoor. 🧭TRANSLATION O Allah! By Your leave we have reached the morning and by Your leave we have reached the evening, by Your leave we live and die. Unto You is our resurrection. 🏝اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لَّا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ، وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ، أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ، وَأَبُوءُ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِر لِي فَإِنَّهُ لَا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ 🎍Transliteration 💛Allaahumma 'Anta Rabbee laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta, khalaqtanee wa 'anaa 'abduka, wa 'anaa 'alaa 'ahdika wa wa'dika mas-tata'tu, 'a'oothu bika min sharri maa sana'tu, 'aboo'u laka bini'matika 'alayya, wa 'aboo'u bithanbee faghfir lee fa'innahu laa yaghfiruth-thunooba 'illaa 'Anta. 🎁TRANSLATION O Allah! You are my Lord. None has the right to be worshiped except You. You created me and I am Your servant and I abide by Your covenant and promise as best I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil, which I have committed. I acknowledge Your favour upon me and I acknowledge my sins, so forgive me, for verily none can forgive sin except You. 🔮اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَصْبَحْتُ أُشْهِدُكَ وَأُشْهِدُ حَمَلَةَ عَرْشِكَ، وَمَلَائِكَتَكَ وَجَمِيعَ خَلْقِكَ، أَنَّكَ أَنْتَ اللَّهُ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ وَحْدَكَ لَا شَرِيكَ لَكَ، وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّداً عَبْدُكَ وَرَسُولُك (×4) 🎍Transliteration 🍃Allaahumma 'innee 'asbahtu 'ush-hiduka wa 'ush-hidu hamalata 'arshika, wa malaa'ikataka wajamee'a khalqika, 'annaka 'Antallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta wahdaka laa shareeka laka, wa 'anna Muhammadan 'abduka wa Rasooluka. ( Four times ) 💎TRANSLATION O Allah! Verily I have reached the morning and call on You, the bearers of Your throne, Your angels and all of Your creation to witness that You are Allah, None has the right to be worshiped except You alone, without partner. And I bear witness that Muhammad is Your servant and Messenger 🌳اللَّهُمَّ مَا أَصْبَحَ بِي مِنْ نِعْمَةٍ أَوْ بِأَحَدٍ مِنْ خَلْقِكَ فَمِنْكَ وَحْدَكَ لَا شَرِيكَ لَكَ، فَلَكَ الْحَمْدُ وَلَكَ الشُّكْرُ Transliteration 🔹Allaahumma maa 'asbaha bee min ni'matin 'aw bi'ahadin min khalqika faminka wahdaka laa shareeka laka, falakal-hamdu wa lakash-shukru. ✏TRANSLATION O Allah! What blessings I or any of Your creation have risen upon, is from You alone, without partner, so for You is all praise and unto You is all thanks. 💝اللَّهُمَّ عَافِـني فِي بَدَنِي، اللَّهُمَّ عَافِـنِي فِي سَمْعِي، اللَّهُمَّ عَافِنِي فِي بَصَرِي، لَا إِلَهَ إلاَّ أَنْتَ. اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُبِكَ مِنَ الْكُفْر، وَالفَقْرِ، وَأَعُوذُبِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ ، لَا إلَهَ إلاَّ أَنْت َ(×3 ) 🎍Transliteration 🔸Allaahumma 'aafinee fee badanee, Allaahumma 'aafinee fee sam'ee, Allaahumma 'aafinee fee basaree, laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta (three times). Allaahumma 'innee 'a'oothu bika minal-kufri, walfaqri, wa 'a'oothu bika min 'athaabil-qabri, laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta. (Three times) 🏉TRANSLATION O Allah! grant my body health. O Allah! grant my hearing health. O Allah! grant my sight health. None has right to be worshiped except You. O Allah! I seek refuge with You from disbelief and poverty, and I seek refuge with You from the punishment of the grave. None has the right to be worshiped except You. 💎حَسْبِيَ اللَّهُ لَآ إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ (×7) 🎍Transliteration Hasbiyallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwa 'alayhi tawakkaltu wa Huwa Rabbul-'Arshil-'Adheem . (Seven times) 🍊TRANSLATION Allah is sufficient for me. None has the right to be worshiped except Him, upon Him I rely and He is Lord of the exalted throne 🍒اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي دِينِي، وَدُنْيَايَ، وَأَهْلِي، وَمَالِي، اللَّهُمَّ اسْتُرْ عَوْرَاتِي، وَآمِنْ رَوْعَاتِي، اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنِي مِنْ بَيْنِ يَدَيَّ، وَمِنْ خَلْفِي، وَعَنْ يَمِينِي، وَعَنْ شِمَالِي، وَمِنْ فَوْقِي، وَأَعُوذُ بِعَظَمَتِكَ أَنْ أُغْتَالَ مِنْ تَحْتِيَ 🎍Transliteration Allaahumma 'innee 'as'alukal-'afwa wal'aafiyata fid-dunyaa wal'aakhirati, Allaahumma 'innee 'as'alukal-'afwa wal'aafiyata fee deenee wa dunyaaya wa 'ahlee, wa maalee , Allaahum-mastur 'awraatee, wa 'aamin raw'aatee, Allaahum-mahfadhnee min bayni yadayya, wa min khalfee, wa 'an yameenee, wa 'an shimaalee, wa min fawqee, wa 'a'oothu bi'adhamatika 'an 'ughtaala min tahtee. 🍎TRANSLATION O Allah! I ask You for pardon and well-being in this life and the next. O Allah! I ask for pardon and well-being in my religious and worldly affairs, and my family and my wealth. O Allah! Ilaah, cover my weakness and set at ease my dismay. O Allah! Preserve me from the front and from behind and on my right and on my left and from above, and I seek refuge with You lest I be swallowed up by the earth. 🏺اللَّهُمَّ عَالِمَ الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ فَاطِرَ السَّماوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ، رَبَّ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ وَمَلِيكَهُ، أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ نَفْسِي، وَمِنْ شَرِّ الشَّيْطَانِ وَشِرْكِهِ، وَأَنْ أَقْتَرِفَ عَلَى نَفْسِي سُوءاً أَوْ أَجُرَّهُ إِلَى مُسْلِمٍ 🎍Transliteration 🍂Allaahumma 'Aalimal-ghaybi wash-shahaadati faatiras-samaawaati wal'ardhi, Rabba kulli shay'in wa maleekahu, 'ash-hadu 'an laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta, 'a'oothu bika min sharri nafsee, wa min sharrish-shaytaani wa shirkihi, wa 'an 'aqtarifa 'alaa nafsee soo'an, 'aw 'ajurrahu 'ilaa Muslimin. 🍊TRANSLATION O Allah! Knower of the seen and the unseen. Creator of the heavens and the earth, Lord and sovereign of all things. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshiped except You. I take refuge in You from the evil of my soul and from the evil and shirk of the devil, and from committing wrong against my soul or bringing such upon another Muslim. 󒈨ِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لَا يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَيْءٌ فِي الَْأرْضِ وَلَا فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ (×3) 🎍Transliteration 🕸Bismillaahil-lathee laa yadhurru ma'as-mihi shay'un fil-'ardhi wa laa fis-samaa'i wa Huwas-Samee 'ul- 'Aleem. (Three times) 🍠TRANSLATION In the name of Allah in whose name nothing is harmed on earth nor in the heaven and He is the All-Seeing, The All-Knowing 💞رَضِيتُ باللَّهِ رَبًّا، وَبِالْإِسْلَامِ دِيناً، وَبِمُحَمَّدٍ صَلَى اللَّهُ عَلِيهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَبِيَّاً (×3) 🎍Transliteration 🌹Radheetu billaahi Rabban, wa bil-'Islaami deenan, wa bi-Muhammadin (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallama) Nabiyyan. (Three times) 🍉TRANSLATION I am pleased with Allah as my Lord, and Islam as my religion and Muhammad as His Prophet. 🏆يَاحَيُّ، يَا قَيُّومُ، بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيثُ، أَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ، وَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ 🎍Transliteration 🕌Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoomu birahmatika 'astagheethu 'aslih lee sha'nee kullahu wa laa takilnee 'ilaa nafsee tarfata 'aynin. 🥑TRANSLATION O Ever Living, O Self-Subsisting and Supporter of all, by Your mercy I seek assistance. Rectify for me all my affairs and do not leave me to myself, even for the twinkling of an eye. ☕أَصْبَحْنَا وَأَصْبَحَ الْمُلْكُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّـي أَسْأَلُكَ خَـيْرَ هَذَا الْـيَوْمِ ، فَتْحَهُ، وَنَصْرَهُ، وَنُورَهُ وَبَرَكَتَهُ، وَهُدَاهُ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا فِيهِ وَشَرِّ مَا بَعْدَهُ 🎍Transliteration 🌄Asbahnaa wa 'asbahal-mulku lillaahi Rabbil-'aalameen, Allaahumma 'innee 'as'aluka khayra haathal-yawmi , Fathahu wa nasrahu wa noorahu, wa barakatahu, wa hudaahu, wa'a'oothu bika min sharri maafeehi wa sharri maa ba'dahu. 🍒TRANSLATION We have reached the morning and at this very time all sovereignty belongs to Allah, Lord of the worlds. O Allah! I ask You for the good of this day, its triumphs and its victories, its fight and its blessings and its guidance, and I seek refuge in You from the evil of this day and the evil that follows it. 🌅أَصْبَحْنَا عَلَى فِطْرَةِ الْإِسْلَامِ، وَعَلَى كَلِمَةِ الإِخْلَاصِ، وَعَلَى دِينِ نَبِـيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ، وَعَاـَى مِلَّـةِ أَبِينَا إِبْـرَاهِيـمَ، حَنِيفاً مُسْلِماً وَمَا كَانَ مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ 🎍Transliteration 🌅'Asbahnaa 'alaa fitratil-'Islaami wa 'alaa kalimatil-'ikhlaasi, wa 'alaa deeni Nabiyyinaa Muhammadin, wa 'alaa millati 'abeenaa 'Ibraaheema, haneefan Musliman wa maa kaana minal-mushrikeen. 🥦TRANSLATION We rise upon the fitrah of Islam and the word of pure faith and upon the religion of our forefather IBRAHEEM, who was a Muslim having true faith and was not of those who associate others with Allah. ⚱سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ (×100 ) 🎍Transliteration 📿Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi. (hundred times) 🥬TRANSLATION How perfect Allah is and I praise Him 🕳لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ، وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ ( 10 , or 100 times ) 🎍Transliteration 📿Laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu, wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer. (10 times or 100 times ) 🌮TRANSLATION None has the right to be worshiped except Allah alone, without partner, to Him belongs all sovereignty and praise, He is over all things omnipotent 🎗سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ عَدَدَ خَلْقِهِ، وَرِضَا نَفْسِهِ، وَزِنَةَ عَرْشِهِ وَمِدَادَ كَلِمَاتِهِ ( ×3 ) 🎍Transliteration 🛢Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi: 'Adada khalqihi, wa ridhaa nafsihi, wa zinata 'arshihi wa midaada kalimaatihi. (Three times ) 🍑TRANSLATION How perfect Allah is and I praise Him by the amount of His creation and His pleasure, and by the weight of His throne, and the ink of His words. 🎀اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ عِلْماً نَافِعاً، وَ رِزْقاً طَيِّباً، وَ عَمَلاً مُتَقَبَّلاً 🎍Transliteration 🔹Allaahumma 'innee 'as'aluka 'ilman naafi'an, wa rizqan tayyiban, wa 'amalan mutaqabbalan. 🍇TRANSLATION O Allah! I ask You for knowledge that is beneficial, good provision and deeds that will be accepted أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْهِ ( ×100 ) 🎍Transliteration 👏'Astaghfirullaaha wa 'atoobu 'ilayhi. (100 times during the day.) 🍑TRANSLATION I seek forgiveness from Allah and repent to Him اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلَّمْ عَلَى نَبِيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ ( ×10 ) 🎍Transliteration 🖼Allahumma salli wa sallim 'alaa nabiyyinaa Muhammadin (Ten times ) 🍍O Allah! We seek for your peace and blessings upon our prophet Muhammad

Good morning my beloved brethren. I trust you are doing great 👍, Praise God! TODAY'S WORD OF GOD: "But of that day and hour knoweth no man, no, not the angels of heaven, but my Father only. Matthew 24:36" God Almighty is a good Father. He is truly the Father of all creation. Absolutely nothing happens without His knowledge. He has a keen eye on all the events that happen in heaven, on earth, and under the earth. When Jesus Christ walked this earth, the disciples knew He would depart to heaven, but they wanted to know the time of His return or second coming. He made them understand that He didn't have the answer for them. Dear beloved, this should inform you that certain information is only available with the Father, and that makes Him God; He knows what to share and what to keep so that we can depend on Him. If He had given the time, people would live a corrupt or sinful life, waiting to repent when they saw the time approaching. Now that we know not the time of the second coming, we should take salvation seriously and prepare ahead of time, awaiting His coming or the hour of our departure. May the Lord Jesus Christ give us grace to take advantage of the gift of salvation before the end of our lives on Earth, in Jesus Christ name. Hallelujah! Be an overcomer! SHALOM!

12 NEGATIVE THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO OR SAY DURING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 Disagreements in marriage are normal. Offense must come, no matter how holy and anointed you are. But we must learn to handle disputes with God's wisdom so that they won’t lead to MARITAL CRISIS AND DIVORCE. HERE ARE 12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO DURING AN ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1. 📌Never say a word you may later regret. Never let your emotions control you. No matter how angry you are, never speak a word you will regret later. Avoid negative arguments. If you must argue, do it with love. Control your anger. Don’t abuse your tongue. Some couples are divorced today because they cannot control their tongues. Words spoken in anger can destroy a blissful marriage overnight. 2. 📌Never Be Too Proud To I Am Sorry. One thing that helped me and my wife and is still helping us is the ability to say I am sorry. This five-letter word (Sorry) is powerful. Learn to say I am sorry if you desire a peaceful and long-lasting marriage- There are two times you should say I am sorry. When you are right and when you are wrong. Why? So that peace can reign in your marriage. It’s better to be wrong and have a peaceful home than to be right and have a broken home. Don't be too arrogant to say “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”. These are some of the most powerful words you will need to learn to use in your marriage. 3. 📌Never thr€aten your spouse with Divorce. There is no dignity in divorce. No thr€at of divorce or separation. Avoid mentioning divorce. Don’t even think of it because Love never fails. Decide to build a long-lasting marriage. God hates divorce. Every marriage has its challenges. True love is known in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there. So fight for your marriage. 4. 📌Never refer to the past offenses of your spouse. Forgive and move on. Don’t say, last year you did this and that. Old issues should pass away. 5. 📌Never forget the goodness of your spouse when there is an issue. Don't turn your spouse into an enemy because of one single argument. Never turn your spouse into a devil because of one single argument. That’s why it is not good to make a decision when there is an argument. You may make a decision you may later regret. 6. 📌NEVER Raise your voice whenever there is an argument. DON’T SHOUT AT YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER THE OFFENCE. Never shout at your spouse no matter what happen. The only time you are permitted to shout in marriage is when the house is on fire. God forbid. You should Talk as lovers and friends in marriage 7. 📌Never place a curse on your spouse no matter the offence. I read a story about a woman who told her husband never to come back home, and he never returned. He had an accident and d!ed on the spot. The tongue has the power of life and d€ath. 8. 📌Avoid trying to win every argument in your marriage. YOUR HOME IS NOT A LAW COURT. Don’t be Defensive. If you discover you are wrong, acknowledge it. Don't try to "win" the argument. So many fights or marital crises can be ended once you admit you are wrong instead of trying to defend yourself. You must Choose happiness over being right. Also, you don't have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things 9. 📌NEVER raise your hand on your spouse. Never start destr0ying your property because you are angry. Domestic vi0lence is unacceptable. No matter how angry you are, never beat your spouse. 10. 📌Never Stop Caring When You Are Having Issues With Your Spouse. Don't stop cooking and serving your spouse, never stop calling to know how your spouse's day is going, never stop praying for your spouse, and never stop dropping money at home because there is a misunderstanding. Don't stop eating at home. Never suspend all the good things you have always done for your spouse because there is an issue 11. 📌Never Compare Your Spouse With Anybody No perfect marriage. Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength. Focus on what your spouse is doing right in marriage. Focus on his/her strengths, not his/her weaknesses. Stop focusing on the mistakes or weaknesses of your spouse. Be patient with your spouse. Try to understand and accept your differences and celebrate them. Never compare your husband to old boyfriends, your brother, father, pastor, or anyone else. Never compare your wife to your ex, mother, sisters, or pastor’s wife Stop comparing your marriage with someone else’s. Invest in your marriage, 12. 📌NEVER STOP TO PRAYING TOGETHER Don't let conflict, anger, or offense destroy your prayer life. Many Married couples slowly stop praying together the moment they have an issue in marriage. You see, the best time to pray with your spouse is when there is an issue. Once you stop praying because of any offense, you have allowed the devil to take a place in your home. Fight for your marriage by praying without ceasing. Your spouse is not your enemy. The devil is your enemy. You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name Kindly share this message with your loved ones 🙏

A LONG READ How do we choose the people we fall in love with? The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us. Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives. In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage. Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy. The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories. Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet. So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy. The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth. We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes. How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned. We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play. Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds. Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances. However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone. Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on. To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off. Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening. And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches. We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment. Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone. We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work. For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following: • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will… • When someone tells me they really need me, I… • If someone can’t cope, I… • When someone tells me to get my act together, I … • If I were to be frank about my anxieties … • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d… • When someone blames me unfairly, I … Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness. Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples. We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar. Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from. ©️The Counsellor

Knowledge has no colour, wisdom has no continent and truth belongs to all humanity. If you don't sing your songs no one would. Always be bold to tell your story and that of your people; Don't allow any one to define you.✍️

He who knows and does not act on their knowledge is the same as he who does not know. Act on what you know, and you will see amazing results.

Despite the weight of your errors, do not succumb to regret. Rather, lift yourself up and proceed with the knowledge of God's benevolence and compassion, and have faith that the Lord will guide you through. God's purpose for you remains a work in progress

*Life is a circle of* *CONTRIBUTIONS:* *I* Contribute. *You* Contribute. *We* Contribute. *They* Contribute When any party ceases to Contribute, the circle will be broken and leakages will be discovered. *Whatever you are enjoying today, is someone else's Contribution.* Whatever you are lacking today, is because someone who supposed to Contribute didn't. Don't be that person, who because he refuses to Contribute, causes leakages to the circle. *Every person on earth is here to Contribute to make the world a better place.* Contribution is the essence of living. You can Contribute anything useful. *You can Contribute in* ▪️knowledge, ▪️in understanding, ▪️in wisdom, ▪️in love, ▪️in peace, ▪️in resources, and ▪️in finances. *Also, you can Contribute* ▪️physically, ▪️spiritually, ▪️intellectually, ▪️financially, ▪️morally etc. When you Contribute, people will eat, *when people Contribute, you will eat*. *ASK YOURSELF*: What is my Contribution in that place that I am? *What have you Contributed to make progress?* What is lacking as a result of your refusal to Contribute? What is the way forward? *The answer explains the scarcity or abundance in that place.*