Stop chasing this.
There comes a point in life where you need to stop chasing toxic people and start seeking a mentally stable person who reciprocates back your efforts and consistency .
Here are some important things to remember....
Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.
Date nights are mandatory.
Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.
Learn each others love languages.
We all don’t perceive love the same way.
Never go to bed angry.
When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.
It will get boring sometimes.
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal and it will eventually subside.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.
Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.
It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.
It’s perfectly okay to go to couples counselling.
Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.
Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and have genuine heartfelt conversations with each other.
Ask questions like
“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”
And most importantly, be kind to each other.
Love each other.
Fight for each other.
Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.
But at the end of the day when the dust settles...it's definitely worth it.

How to Avoid Common Relationship Mistakes

Relationships don’t fall apart overnight; they crumble slowly under the weight of repeated mistakes. The good news? Most of these mistakes are avoidable if you’re aware of them.

1. Poor Communication Silence and assumption are silent killers. Be open, honest, and willing to listen without judgment.

2. Neglecting Quality Time Love needs nurturing. Regularly spend intentional time together without distractions, phones down, hearts open.

3. Losing Your Individuality Don’t abandon your hobbies, goals, or friends. A healthy relationship thrives when both partners maintain their independence.

4. Avoiding Conflict Sweeping problems under the rug only builds resentment. Address issues calmly and respectfully before they grow into bigger battles.

5. Taking Each Other for Granted Appreciate your partner daily. Small acts of kindness and gratitude keep love alive.

The healthiest relationships balance love and self-respect. Never give so much that you lose yourself, and never expect your partner to meet every need you have. When two whole individuals choose each other daily not out of dependency, but genuine connection love lasts.

Strong relationships aren’t built on perfection, but on consistent effort and mutual respect.

Stop chasing this.

There comes a point in life where you need to stop chasing toxic people and start seeking a mentally stable person who reciprocates back your efforts and consistency.

Here are some important things to remember....

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are mandatory.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each other's love languages.
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Never go to bed angry.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes.
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal and it will eventually subside.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s perfectly okay to go to couples counselling.
Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and have genuine heartfelt conversations with each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”

“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other.

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But at the end of the day when the dust settles...it's definitely worth it.

10 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Strong

A strong relationship isn’t built overnight it’s nurtured daily with intentional actions, love, and respect. Here are 10 proven ways to keep your relationship healthy and thriving:

1. Communicate Openly Share your thoughts, dreams, and even concerns honestly. Communication is the heartbeat of any relationship.

2. Show Appreciation Never take each other for granted. A simple “thank you” or “I appreciate you” can strengthen emotional bonds.

3. Spend Quality Time Together It’s not about quantity but the quality of moments you share. Plan date nights, weekend walks, or quiet evenings at home.

4. Support Each Other’s Goals Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader. Encourage them in their ambitions and celebrate their wins.

5. Practice Forgiveness Disagreements will happen. Forgiving quickly prevents resentment from taking root.

6. Keep the Romance Alive Surprise each other, write love notes, or revisit places where you first met. Little gestures keep the spark burning.

7. Respect Each Other’s Space Love doesn’t mean losing individuality. Give each other room to grow independently.

8. Resolve Conflicts Maturely Avoid shouting matches. Listen, stay calm, and focus on solutions rather than blame.

9. Build Trust Daily Keep promises, be honest, and show reliability. Trust is the foundation that keeps love stable.

10. Laugh Together Shared laughter strengthens connection and makes life’s challenges easier to face.


A strong relationship thrives on consistency. When both partners commit to these simple but powerful habits, love not only survives, it flourishes. Remember, relationships aren’t perfect, but with care, they can be beautifully lasting.

Politics as a case study kum the challenges overing our state

Sunday, August 3, 2025
My one term vow is sacrosanct .Peter Obi replies Gov Soludo after casting aspersions on him
My One-Term, Four-Year Vow Is Sacrosanct





One of the greatest American Presidents, Abraham Lincoln, served only four years, yet his legacy endures as a model of principled leadership. Another iconic figure, John F. Kennedy, did not even complete a full term, yet his vision and ideals continue to inspire generations. In Africa, Nelson Mandela, revered globally as a symbol of justice and reconciliation, chose to serve only one term as President of South Africa, despite immense public pressure to stay longer. His decision was a deliberate act of leadership, a statement that power must serve the people, not the self. Indeed, history shows that the longer many African leaders remain in power, the more likely they are to be corrupted by it. Longevity in office is not a mark of success; rather, it is purposeful, accountable service - however brief - that defines true statesmanship.



It is within this context that I reiterate my vow: I will serve only one term of four years if elected President. And that vow is sacrosanct.



I am fully aware that the decay in our society has made trust one of the scarcest and most sceptically viewed commodities. Many Nigerians, understandably, no longer take politicians at their word. But even in this climate of cynicism, there are still a few whose actions have matched their words - whose integrity is built on verifiable precedent.



Recently, I became aware of two statements aimed, albeit indirectly, at my vow to serve only a single four-year term. One person remarked that even if I swore by a shrine, I still wouldn’t be believed. Another suggested that anyone talking about doing only one term should undergo psychiatric evaluation.



I understand the basis of their scepticism. They are judging me by their own standards - where political promises are made to be broken. But they forget, or perhaps choose to ignore, that Peter Obi is not cut from that cloth. I have a verifiable track record that speaks louder than speculation.



In my political life, my word is my bond. When I entered politics in Anambra State, I made clear and measurable promises to the people: to improve education and healthcare, to open up rural areas through road construction, and to manage public funds with prudence. I fulfilled each of those promises without deviation. I did not swear by a shrine, nor have I been certified mentally unstable as a result of honouring my word.



My vow to serve only one term of four years is a solemn commitment, rooted in my conviction that purposeful, transparent leadership does not require an eternity.



If making such a promise qualifies me for psychiatric evaluation, then we may as well question the mental fitness of those who framed our Constitution, which clearly stipulates a four-year renewable tenure.



I maintain without equivocation: if elected, I will not spend a day longer than four years in office. In fact, I believe that service should be impactful, not eternal.



We must rebuild trust in our country. I have dedicated my public life to demonstrating that leadership with integrity is not a myth. I have done it before, and I do not intend to betray that trust under any circumstances.



Forty-eight months is enough for any leader who is focused and prepared to make a meaningful difference. In that time, I intend not merely to make an impression, but to deliver on concrete promises to:



sanitise our governance system;

tackle insecurity through effective and accountable use of national resources; prioritise education, healthcare, and poverty alleviation;

catalyse small businesses as engines of growth ; and combat corruption with unflinching resolve.



Above all, I will dedicate myself to transforming Nigeria from a consuming nation into a productive one, where agriculture, technology, and manufacturing replace rent-seeking and waste as our national anchors.



These are not utopian dreams. They are realistic, actionable goals that are achievable within four years.



A new Nigeria is POssible.

Politics as a case study kum the challenges overing our state

Sunday, August 3, 2025
My one term vow is sacrosanct .Peter Obi replies Gov Soludo after casting aspersions on him
My One-Term, Four-Year Vow Is Sacrosanct





One of the greatest American Presidents, Abraham Lincoln, served only four years, yet his legacy endures as a model of principled leadership. Another iconic figure, John F. Kennedy, did not even complete a full term, yet his vision and ideals continue to inspire generations. In Africa, Nelson Mandela, revered globally as a symbol of justice and reconciliation, chose to serve only one term as President of South Africa, despite immense public pressure to stay longer. His decision was a deliberate act of leadership, a statement that power must serve the people, not the self. Indeed, history shows that the longer many African leaders remain in power, the more likely they are to be corrupted by it. Longevity in office is not a mark of success; rather, it is purposeful, accountable service - however brief - that defines true statesmanship.



It is within this context that I reiterate my vow: I will serve only one term of four years if elected President. And that vow is sacrosanct.



I am fully aware that the decay in our society has made trust one of the scarcest and most sceptically viewed commodities. Many Nigerians, understandably, no longer take politicians at their word. But even in this climate of cynicism, there are still a few whose actions have matched their words - whose integrity is built on verifiable precedent.



Recently, I became aware of two statements aimed, albeit indirectly, at my vow to serve only a single four-year term. One person remarked that even if I swore by a shrine, I still wouldn’t be believed. Another suggested that anyone talking about doing only one term should undergo psychiatric evaluation.



I understand the basis of their scepticism. They are judging me by their own standards - where political promises are made to be broken. But they forget, or perhaps choose to ignore, that Peter Obi is not cut from that cloth. I have a verifiable track record that speaks louder than speculation.



In my political life, my word is my bond. When I entered politics in Anambra State, I made clear and measurable promises to the people: to improve education and healthcare, to open up rural areas through road construction, and to manage public funds with prudence. I fulfilled each of those promises without deviation. I did not swear by a shrine, nor have I been certified mentally unstable as a result of honouring my word.



My vow to serve only one term of four years is a solemn commitment, rooted in my conviction that purposeful, transparent leadership does not require an eternity.



If making such a promise qualifies me for psychiatric evaluation, then we may as well question the mental fitness of those who framed our Constitution, which clearly stipulates a four-year renewable tenure.



I maintain without equivocation: if elected, I will not spend a day longer than four years in office. In fact, I believe that service should be impactful, not eternal.



We must rebuild trust in our country. I have dedicated my public life to demonstrating that leadership with integrity is not a myth. I have done it before, and I do not intend to betray that trust under any circumstances.



Forty-eight months is enough for any leader who is focused and prepared to make a meaningful difference. In that time, I intend not merely to make an impression, but to deliver on concrete promises to:



sanitise our governance system;

tackle insecurity through effective and accountable use of national resources; prioritise education, healthcare, and poverty alleviation;

catalyse small businesses as engines of growth ; and combat corruption with unflinching resolve.



Above all, I will dedicate myself to transforming Nigeria from a consuming nation into a productive one, where agriculture, technology, and manufacturing replace rent-seeking and waste as our national anchors.



These are not utopian dreams. They are realistic, actionable goals that are achievable within four years.



A new Nigeria is POssible.

The famous Italian referee Collina, when asked about the greatest moment in his refereeing career, said:

"It was the last two minutes. I saw Bayern’s players on the bench getting ready to celebrate the title, and the fans in the stadium were already rejoicing in their team’s Champions League victory.

Suddenly, Manchester United scored two goals in two minutes and turned the game around. I will never forget how the English stands erupted with an incredible roar, like lions roaring, while there was a funeral-like silence in Bayern’s stands.

United’s players were celebrating their second goal hysterically when I noticed one of Bayern’s players collapsed on the ground, utterly devastated and feeling immense disappointment. I approached him, and I couldn’t find anything to say except, 'Get up and fight! You still have twenty seconds!'

At that moment, I saw the true face of football, life and death on the same pitch. Some were celebrating like crazy, while others were drowning in despair!"

Peter Obi Speaks :

My One-Term, Four-Year Vow Is SACROSANCT

One of the greatest American Presidents, Abraham Lincoln, served only four years, yet his legacy endures as a model of principled leadership. Another iconic figure, John F. Kennedy, did not even complete a full term, yet his vision and ideals continue to inspire generations. In Africa, Nelson Mandela, revered globally as a symbol of justice and reconciliation, chose to serve only one term as President of South Africa, despite immense public pressure to stay longer. His decision was a deliberate act of leadership, a statement that power must serve the people, not the self. Indeed, history shows that the longer many African leaders remain in power, the more likely they are to be corrupted by it. Longevity in office is not a mark of success; rather, it is purposeful, accountable service - however brief - that defines true statesmanship.

It is within this context that I reiterate my vow: I will serve only one term of four years if elected President. And that vow is sacrosanct.

I am fully aware that the decay in our society has made trust one of the scarcest and most sceptically viewed commodities. Many Nigerians, understandably, no longer take politicians at their word. But even in this climate of cynicism, there are still a few whose actions have matched their words - whose integrity is built on verifiable precedent.

Recently, I became aware of two statements aimed, albeit indirectly, at my vow to serve only a single four-year term. One person remarked that even if I swore by a shrine, I still wouldn’t be believed. Another suggested that anyone talking about doing only one term should undergo psychiatric evaluation.

I understand the basis of their scepticism. They are judging me by their own standards - where political promises are made to be broken. But they forget, or perhaps choose to ignore, that Peter Obi is not cut from that cloth. I have a verifiable track record that speaks louder than speculation.

In my political life, my word is my bond. When I entered politics in Anambra State, I made clear and measurable promises to the people: to improve education and healthcare, to open up rural areas through road construction, and to manage public funds with prudence. I fulfilled each of those promises without deviation. I did not swear by a shrine, nor have I been certified mentally unstable as a result of honouring my word.

My vow to serve only one term of four years is a solemn commitment, rooted in my conviction that purposeful, transparent leadership does not require an eternity.

If making such a promise qualifies me for psychiatric evaluation, then we may as well question the mental fitness of those who framed our Constitution, which clearly stipulates a four-year renewable tenure.

I maintain without equivocation: if elected, I will not spend a day longer than four years in office. In fact, I believe that service should be impactful, not eternal.

We must rebuild trust in our country. I have dedicated my public life to demonstrating that leadership with integrity is not a myth. I have done it before, and I do not intend to betray that trust under any circumstances.

Forty-eight months is enough for any leader who is focused and prepared to make a meaningful difference. In that time, I intend not merely to make an impression, but to deliver on concrete promises to:

sanitise our governance system;
tackle insecurity through effective and accountable use of national resources; prioritise education, healthcare, and poverty alleviation;
catalyse small businesses as engines of growth ; and combat corruption with unflinching resolve.

Above all, I will dedicate myself to transforming Nigeria from a consuming nation into a productive one, where agriculture, technology, and manufacturing replace rent-seeking and waste as our national anchors.

These are not utopian dreams. They are realistic, actionable goals that are achievable within four years.

A new Nigeria is POssible. -PO

*DREAMS Become Reality When Thoughts Become ACTIONS *

Everyone has dreams, but only the disciplined turn those dreams into reality.
Wishing is easy. Planning is smart. But action is *what makes it real.*

> *FACT:* 92% of people never achieve their goals—not because they don’t dream big, but because they never take *consistent* steps toward them.

Your ideas mean nothing without execution.
Your goals remain fiction until you put in the *work.*

*Here’s what separates dreamers from doers:*

- *Clarity of vision* – Know what you want, and why it matters.
- *Daily action* – Small, steady steps are better than random sprints.
- *Resilience* – Action invites failure—but it also breeds strength.
- *Accountability* – Track your progress, adjust, and keep moving forward.

The gap between “someday” and “success” is *action.*
Don’t just visualize your dream, *build it.*

Start now. Start small. Just start.