"My wife aband0ned me when I was bãnned from football and l0st my Fame. She was only there for the Money and Fame." Paul Pogba "I realized how empty and meaningless when I was bãnned from football for 4-years. Immediately I stopped being Pogba the rich famous player, people started avoiding me. The w0rst thing which still breaks my heart today was even my own wife abandoned me. Everyone who used to invite me to their fashion events and stuff like that said: «Pogba is of no use now.» That was a good sit back for me to see my true friends. And my wife proved she never loved me. But I'm very happy now because my phone doesn't ring with fãke friends again. I now know I'm on my own in life." ~ Paul Pogba Most times, people are just drawn to you because of your success. Don't live your life trying to please others because no one actually cares 🎯

THE BETRAYAL © Grace O.O Part 9 "What audacity!!! She should be grateful that you granted her audience". Titi spat angrily. "I feel sorry for her child. She needs to be loved". Serena said sadly. "Let her mother worry about that! We've got other important things to think about here". Serena just stared into space, letting her mind wander. She felt sorry for Linda but a part of her gloated at her ordeals. She deserved what she was going through, after all she didn't think twice before stabbing her in the back. She decided to give Tony a piece of her mind the next time they cross each other's path. *** Linda walked out of Serena's compound dejectedly. She kept stealing glances at the house, wishing that Serena would call her back. Her mind wandered to the days when she used to be Serena's best friend. Serena had been there for her through thick and thin. She remembered an incident during their university days. She had been acting gloomy for days because her parents couldn't afford to pay her tuition fees. When Serena noticed the change in her mood, she asked her what the problem was. Reluctantly, she had narrated her ordeals to Serena. To her surprise, Serena asked for her account number and sent her money. "Use it to pay for your tuition". She had said with a sweet smile. Linda remembered how she thanked her profusely for her kind gesture. But at the end, how had she repaid Serena's goodness? I'm sorry Serena, I don't know what came over me. She cried in her mind while she looked well on the outside. "Where are you coming from and what are you doing in this estate?". Linda spun round in shock as she stared back at the angry face of Tony who stood beside his car. She started to stammer incoherently. "Get into the car now!". He commanded. She followed his orders dumbly and sat in the car, shivering with trepidation. Tony got into the car and drove her home. When they got home, she alighted and quickly scurried inside her bedroom, clutching her baby close to her. The child as if she sensed her mother's fear, began to cry. Tony tried to open the door but it was locked. "Linda, open the door now!". "Please I'm sorry. Tony please don't hurt me!". "If I break this door open, you would be sorry for yourself!". Linda kept pleading with Tony but her pleas fell on deaf ears. He broke down the door and lurched at her, a whip in his hands. When Linda tried to scream, he silenced her with a dazzling slap. When he was satisfied, he left her alone where she laid on the floor, writing in pains. Days later, Linda decided to leave Tony's house. She had had enough of the torture. She packed her things and travelled out of the country after stealing a large amount of money from Tony's account. She already called some of her friends who stayed abroad for help and they were willing to support her. ** Serena stood outside the apartment, waiting for James arrival. They were going to hang out as usual. When he finally arrived, she found herself running into his arms. "What took you so long?". She said, pouting her mouth like a child. "I'm sorry angel, I got trapped in the traffic but I'm here now. Are we good to go?". He asked her with a charming smile. Before she could reply, she heard someone calling her in the distance. Turning round, she found Tony storming towards them. "Serena, where's Linda?". He bellowed. Serena looked at him in confusion. "I don't understand, why would you be asking me about your wife?". "Don't tell me that trash! Tell me where she is right now". "You must be out of your mind, Tony". She turned to James. "Please let's leave". "Where do you think you're going, you this slut?". Serena spun round immediately but was restrained by James. "Let me handle him". He said. She tried to wriggle free from his hold but he gave her an assuring smile. Reluctantly, she got into the car. "I think it's time I know you, mister. Who are you?". James inquired. "Why don't you ask your bed toy?". A punch hit him on the jaw. Before he could retaliate, another hit him in the belly. He fell on his knees in pain and looked up at James who had a dark look on his face. "Don't ever call her that name again if you love your life". James threatened and got into the car, leaving a wounded Tony behind. Tony spat out blood and cursed Serena and James. "By the time I lay my hands on you, you will regret coming for my girl!". *** Serena was quiet all through the ride. James only stopped to purchase roasted plantains and groundnut. When they got to the park, James found a quiet spot where they could sit down. "Is that the guy you told me about?". He asked her. She nodded in response. He saw that she had been sobbing quietly and drew her into his arms. "You're not a slut, Serena. You're a decent woman. I think he just wants to hurt you with words since he lost you". He said trying to console her while cursed Tony in his heart for ruining her mood. "Thank you James". She whispered and rested her head on his chest, eyes closed. James watched as she slept soundly and admired her. "I want to make you mine. I wish I could tell you how much I still love you. I love you so much that it hurts". He said quietly. "I love you James". He looked at her in shock, seeing those lovely eyes stare at him. "You weren't asleep?". "No. I actually heard what you said even though you said it so quietly. Now that I'm fully awake, I'm listening". She replied him. James suddenly felt nervous as he felt his heart race. "Serena, from the days of our youth have I fallen for you. You held a special place in my heart since then. I admire everything about you and now ". He went on one knee and held her hands tenderly. "Will you accept my offer of love? Will you please give me a chance to be your man? Will you marry me?". Serena had never felt so nervous, not even when Tony proposed to her. Despite her fears, her heart yearned for the love of the man before her. "Yes I will marry you!". He swept her off her feet and twirled her round in his arms. When he dropped her, he hugged her so tight. "Thank you so much Serena. I promise you that I will do all within my capacity and as God helps me, that I will love you the way He wants me to love you". Serena held his face in her hands. "May God help us to love each other just as Christ loves the church. I promise to be a good companion till death do us apart". ______________ To be continued... She said yes o!!! Where are the wedding planners? 😁😁 Would the lovers be safe from Tony's wrath? Watch out for the next part! #_pen_of_grace

*From House Help To Hospital Hero* 1998. Victoria Island, Lagos. My name is Chinaza, and I grew up in a mansion. Marble floors. Private drivers. Nannies. My father was a respected surgeon. My mother ran a fashion boutique in Lekki. We had everything….Except empathy. Right outside our back kitchen was a tiny servant’s quarters — where our gate man, Papa Sunday, lived with his wife and son. His son’s name? Ebuka. He was quiet. Always barefoot. Always polite. He’d sweep the compound, wash my father’s car, then disappear behind the small zinc wall that divided our world from his. My mother hated him. > “Tell him not to sit on our veranda. He smells like hardship.” I never understood it. Because every time I saw him, he was helping someone. Carrying groceries. Fetching water. Smiling with gratitude. But I never really noticed Ebuka — not until that Saturday. 2002. I was 17. He was 19. I was sitting outside reading a novel when I suddenly started gasping. My throat tightened. I couldn’t breathe. I was having an asthma attack — my worst ever. I fell to the floor. Everyone was screaming. And then… Ebuka ran in. Carried me on his back. Rushed me into the car. Drove me — with no license — to the nearest hospital. I survived. That night, my father yelled at him: > “How dare you take my car? Are you mad?” Ebuka bowed his head and said: > “I’m sorry sir. But she would’ve died.” My mother slapped him. I watched silently. The next week, his father was fired. They packed in the night. No goodbyes. No forwarding address. Just silence. 20 years passed. I became a banker. Moved to Port Harcourt. Married. Had one child. But life happened. My marriage collapsed. I lost my job. Developed fibroids. Struggled with depression. I returned to Lagos — not to a mansion — but to my mother’s old house. She had passed. The place was dusty and hollow. I decided to do surgery for the fibroids. Everyone recommended one place: > “Hopewell Specialist Clinic.” They said the CEO was a mystery. Young. Brilliant. Private. I booked the procedure. The nurse asked: > “Would you like to meet the consultant before your surgery?” I said yes. The door opened… And Ebuka walked in. But not in rags. Not in slippers. In a fitted suit. Clean shoes. A golden lapel pin with the initials: E.A.O. — Ebuka Anozie Okafor. He stopped. Stared at me. > “Chinaza?” I covered my mouth. > “Ebuka?” We both froze. Years of silence collapsed in seconds. He sat down. Tears filled my eyes. > “I thought you disappeared.” He smiled. > “I didn’t disappear. I just… built.” He told me his story. After they were fired, they moved to a church compound in Mushin. He continued washing cars. Then started teaching neighbourhood kids math. A pastor’s wife noticed him. Paid his WAEC fees. He passed. Won a scholarship to UNN. Studied Medicine. Graduated top of his class. Won another scholarship — to study in South Africa. Then returned. Opened his clinic in Ajah with ₦50,000 and one mattress. Now? He owns four clinics. Employs over 120 medical staff. I wept. > “You saved me again.” He smiled. > “This time, I have a license.” After the surgery, he refused to charge me. I insisted. He said: > “You once gave me books when everyone else gave me insults.” I didn’t remember. But he did. He said: > “You gave me your old copy of ‘Purple Hibiscus’ and said, ‘Your brain is too big to waste sweeping.’ That sentence stayed with me forever.” Today, we are friends. Real friends. He sponsors my NGO for underprivileged women. And last month, at a business conference, someone asked him: > “Who inspired you the most?” He pointed at me. > “The girl who gave me a book instead of a broom.” From gate boy… To gate opener. From house help… To hospital hero. From insulted… To influential. Sometimes, the people the world throws away… Are the ones God raises to save those who once looked down on them. *by Rosyworld CRN*

First thing I don’t have much experience in dating and starting new relationships i am divorcing my partner of 28 years and i am in my 40’s. I met a guy a month or so ago, he’s been nothing but amazing and we are so similar it’s scary. We both told eachother we weren’t ready for a full commitment yet but was willing to take things slow and build a friendship. He tells me he adores me. He would text me often and we would neveree wanna sleep at night to talk, not a lot at work but that’s expected. He’s going through some things with his co parent and has been in a slump and is having a hard time. I have reassured him I’m here when he needs me. I have a bit of an anxious attachment and I’ve told him this and that i am attached more than i should be. He said he doesn’t wanna hurt me and it’s not his intentions he’s just struggling….he def has distanced himself and doesn’t text me as often and doesn’t seem as happy with me as he once was. It went from 10 to like 3. What do I do? I’m hurting but at the same time realistically i know he’s hurting too. Now i just send random texts letting him know im here and asking if he’s ok….he won’t text me back all the time. Please some guidance and please be gentle this dating stuff is foreign to me and dating back in the late 90’s is so different compared to now. What would u all do?

First thing I don’t have much experience in dating and starting new relationships i am divorcing my partner of 28 years and i am in my 40’s. I met a guy a month or so ago, he’s been nothing but amazing and we are so similar it’s scary. We both told eachother we weren’t ready for a full commitment yet but was willing to take things slow and build a friendship. He tells me he adores me. He would text me often and we would neveree wanna sleep at night to talk, not a lot at work but that’s expected. He’s going through some things with his co parent and has been in a slump and is having a hard time. I have reassured him I’m here when he needs me. I have a bit of an anxious attachment and I’ve told him this and that i am attached more than i should be. He said he doesn’t wanna hurt me and it’s not his intentions he’s just struggling….he def has distanced himself and doesn’t text me as often and doesn’t seem as happy with me as he once was. It went from 10 to like 3. What do I do? I’m hurting but at the same time realistically i know he’s hurting too. Now i just send random texts letting him know im here and asking if he’s ok….he won’t text me back all the time. Please some guidance and please be gentle this dating stuff is foreign to me and dating back in the late 90’s is so different compared to now. What would u all do?

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help.. WATCH YOUR TONE When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace TIMING Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time WATCH YOUR EYES Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN) Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask. DON'T CAUSE A SCENE A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends SOOTHE HIM If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause. NO INSULTS Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;) Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones DON'T BOY HIM Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him DON'T TALK AT HIM Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones TAKE HIM ON A DATE Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat DON'T PUSH HIM Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him BE FLEXIBLE Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience Read less. Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽 Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones Every couple goes through the “boring” stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like “What do you need to see more of from me?” “How can we understand each other better?” And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.. ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>

*EVERYONE WHO LIVES ALONE MUST READ THIS …..* San Francisco Mayor Edwin M. Lee passed away at the San Francisco General Hospital due to a heart attack at 1:11 a.m. on the 12th. He was 65 years old. Please take a few minutes to read this article: 1. Suppose it is 7:25 pm and you are returning home (alone) after an unusually busy day at work. 2. You really feel very tired, Annoyed and frustrated. 3. Suddenly, you feel a sharp pain in your chest, which then extends to your arms and even your chin. The nearest hospital to your home is about five kilometers away. 4. Unfortunately, you don’t know if you can make it that far. 5. You took CPR training, but the guy teaching it didn’t tell you how to do it on yourself. 6. How to save yourself from a heart attack while alone? Many people suffer heart attacks when they are alone, with no one available to save them. The irregular heartbeat and onset of dizziness leave the patient unconscious for only about 10 seconds. 7. In fact, these victims can save themselves by coughing repeatedly and vigorously. You must take a deep breath before each cough. And each cough must be deep and long, just like coughing up phlegm from deep in the chest. The victim must take deep breaths and coughs repeatedly about every two seconds without letting up for a moment until help arrives or until they feel their heart beating returns to normal. 8. Deep breathing allows oxygen to enter the lungs, while coughing squeezes the heart and keeps blood circulating. The pressure of the squeeze also helps the heart return to its normal rhythm. This way, the heart attack victim has a chance of reaching the hospital. 9. Communicate this information to as many people as possible , this will save their lives! 10. The cardiologist said, If you can forward this email to 10 people after receiving it, you can bet that We will save at least one life. 11. Instead of sending jokes, Please help forward this email which could save one life. 12. If this message is sent to your mailbox more than once, don’t be angry...you should be happy because there are so many classmates and friends who care about you and constantly remind you how to deal with a heart attack. . From: *Dr. N Siva* (Senior Cardiologist) USA Kindly circulate as it may help someone….

THE LAST PROMISE PART 3 .Six months had passed since Kelvin left, but for Mary, it felt like yesterday. She still woke up reaching for him in the middle of the night. She still set two plates on the table out of habit before remembering. The house was too quiet, too empty, too full of memories that haunted her like ghosts. Friends and family had stopped checking in as often. "Time will heal," they said. But time didn’t heal. It just made the pain duller, heavier—like a stone settled deep in her chest. And then came the memorial service. The church was filled with people dressed in white—Kelvin’s favorite color. His photo stood at the front, smiling that warm, familiar smile that made Mary’s throat tighten. She sat in the front row, clutching a folded handkerchief, her eyes dry only because she had no tears left. People spoke about him—his kindness, his laughter, his courage during his illness. Mary listened, but their words felt distant, like they were talking about a man she used to know, not the one who had held her every night. Then, a man she had never seen before stood up to speak. Tall, well-dressed, with a quiet confidence that made people turn their heads. His voice was deep, steady. "Kelvin was my closest friend," he said. Mary stiffened. Closest friend? She had known Kelvin since they were teenagers. She knew every friend, every story, every secret. But she had never—never—heard of this man. After the service, people gathered outside, sharing stories and condolences. Mary watched as the stranger—Andre—moved through the crowd with ease, shaking hands, smiling softly at memories she wasn’t part of. Her heart pounded. Who was he? She waited until most people had left before approaching him. "Excuse me," she said, her voice firmer than she expected. "I don’t think we’ve met." He turned, his dark eyes meeting hers. For a second, something flickered in his gaze—something like guilt? Sadness? "Mary," he said, as if he already knew her. "I’m Andre. Kelvin… he spoke about you all the time." A cold knot formed in her stomach. "I’ve never heard of you." Andre hesitated, then sighed. "We weren’t… public friends. But we were close. Very close." Mary’s hands clenched. "How close?" He looked away, then back at her, his expression unreadable. "Close enough that he asked me to check on you after…" He trailed off. Mary’s breath caught. Kelvin had sent him? Andre reached into his pocket and pulled out a small envelope. "He asked me to give you this. Six months after." Mary took it, her fingers trembling. Her name was written in Kelvin’s handwriting. She looked up at Andre, her voice barely a whisper. "Who are you really?" He held her gaze, his own filled with something she couldn’t name. "Someone who made a promise to a dying man." And before she could ask anything else, he walked away, leaving her standing there with a letter that suddenly felt too heavy to open. TO BE CONTINUED...

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help.. WATCH YOUR TONE When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace TIMING Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time WATCH YOUR EYES Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN) Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask. DON'T CAUSE A SCENE A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends SOOTHE HIM If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause. NO INSULTS Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;) Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones DON'T BOY HIM Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him DON'T TALK AT HIM Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones TAKE HIM ON A DATE Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat DON'T PUSH HIM Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him BE FLEXIBLE Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience Read less. Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽 Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones Every couple goes through the “boring” stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like “What do you need to see more of from me?” “How can we understand each other better?” And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.. ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>

THE BETRAYAL © Grace O.O Part 8 "Who sent it?". "I don't know ma'am. However there's a note that's says it's from James". He replied. Something wasn't right about the delivery man but Titi couldn't pinpoint what it was. "Alright then. Hand it over". She took the package from him and closed the door behind her. However she watched the man through the door's peephole till he left the compound. "What's that package?". Serena asked. "The delivery man said it's from James but somehow I don't believe him". Titi replied, bringing the package to the table and unwrapped it. Then she stood some distance away, afraid it could be a bomb and opened it. "Flowers and a letter? This has Tony written all over it!!". Serena exclaimed. She took out the letter and read it aloud. "I know you are making up with that rich kid, James. Just wanted you to know that I'm watching you. Love you". "This must get to the authorities! For crying out loud, what's all this madness about?". Titi said. Serena pressed her lips together to form a thin line. "Just a little more patience, I'd deal with him". ** James came over the next weekend. In his hands was a bouquet of flowers and a package. "What's this?". Serena asked when he handed it to her. "Why don't you check it out?". He said smugly. Serena gasped when she untied the package. In it was a sunset yellow gown; from the brand label, she already guessed how expensive it was. "Oh my God! James, James, this is too much". She said. "Don't worry Serena. I liked it when I saw it so I decided to get it for you. Do you like it?". "Like is an understatement! I love it. It's so beautiful". She replied grinning from ear to ear. "I'm glad you love it". James smiled. She embraced him tightly. "Thank you for this gift, James. I really appreciate it". She said softly. "You don't have to thank me, what are friends for?". James replied and tickled her. Serena guffawed while she moved away from him. They played video games then watched movies on TV. James left early in the evening because of some sudden engagements. "I'll miss you Serena". He said as he held her hand fondly. Serena had escorted him to his car. "I will miss you too". "Take care of yourself and don't hesitate to reach out to me if there's any problem". He told her. "I will. Don't worry about me too much". She watched him as he drove off and she felt sad. She was already having feelings for him. "Missing him already?". Serena spun round to see Tony standing some distance from her. So he was stalking her? "What are you doing here?". Tony walked up to her and reached for her chins but she slapped off his hand. "Can't I touch your chins again?". He asked with a mischievous smile on his face. "You haven't answered my questions yet Anthony!". Serena's eyes blazed angrily. "Calm it baby, I just came to check up on my girl". He replied. Furious, Serena dealt him a slap. "What?!". He stared at her in horror. "You slapped me?". "I regretted not doing that earlier. What guts do you have to come to my home and harass me? How dare you stalk me, huh? Can't you talk?". Serena yelled. "It's fine. You can yell for all I care but I want you to know one fact and it is that if I don't have you, no man will do". He threatened. "What do you mean by that statement?". Serena asked. "You will soon find out". He replied and left her. *** "I'm glad that the fool has backed off. He's such a devil". Titi said. "I never knew he was capable of such attitude. To think that I thought so highly of him then". Serena said sadly. A knock on the door interrupted their discussion. Serena went to get the door and froze. "Hi Serena. Long time no see!". "What are you doing here, Linda?". Serena said calmly. "Wow, no pleasantries for an old friend. That's so harsh". Linda sneered. "You should know you're not welcome here. So if you have anything to say, then go straight to the point". "Can I come in please?". Serena sized her up and down before allowing her into the apartment. Titi watched Linda in amusement while looking at Serena for answers to the curiosity of her mind. Serena served her a bottle of chilled water along with a glass cup and settled down beside Titi. "So, to what do we owe this visit?". "Serena, I'm sorry for what I did to you. I admit that I was wrong". She started. "Okay?". "I need your help. I need you to talk to Tony for me, please". She pleaded. Serena looked at her strangely and let out a mocking laughter. "If there's anyone who's capable of subduing Tony, it should be you. Wasn't there a way you applied in cajoling him to cheating on me? Can't that same trick help you now?". "I'm so sorry Serena. I know we shouldn't be having this conversation now but consider my baby. Ever since we got married, Tony hadn't touched me. I thought he would change after the birth of our daughter but he only got worse. After I got discharged, he never bothered about her welfare. He left me to fend for her. Everyday, he would stare at your pictures and call your name. He would act like you were there with him, discussing with him". She paused to wipe the tears on her face. "He said he never wanted to marry me in the first place. He threatened to throw me out when he gets married to you. Serena, please talk to him. Please". "Well, I'm sorry but there's nothing I can do. My life is also in danger too. Besides, you wanted him. Now that you have him, you have to endure whatever consequences that comes. That's the end of this conversation, do have a good day". Serena stood up and left the room, leaving Linda transfixed on the spot with Titi grinning. "You heard her now, please leave my house! Get out!". Titi said pointing to the door. Linda glared at her angrily and stormed out, slamming the door shut. _______________ To be continued... Can you imagine the audacity of Linda? Like she could have the guts to ask for Serena's help? What would you have done if you were in Serena's place? #_pen_of_grace

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