HOW YOUR FAMILY SEES YOUR PARTNER DEPENDS ON YOU!
In every relationship, family plays a crucial role in shaping perceptions. This perception may hold for years helping to mould the marriage or shatter it. A man is the determinate factor of how his wife-to-be is seen by his family. If he speaks highly of her, treats her with respect, and positions her well, his family will follow his lead. If he allows negativity, disrespect, or unnecessary interference, they may never truly accept her. Many battles some wives are having with their in-laws started way back during their courtship. He projected her in bad light so they (his family) took it up from there.
Likewise, a woman is the determinate factor of how her husband-to-be is seen by her family. If she honours him in her words and actions, her family will learn to do the same. But if she constantly complains, belittles him, or shares his weaknesses, she gives them reasons to disregard him.
So you hold the brush that will paint your parents' perception of your intended spouse. What picture are you painting? One of love, respect, and partnership? Or one of doubt, conflict, and mistrust? Be intentional about how you present your partner to your family because first impressions often last a lifetime.
If you project him or her to your family as one you hold in high esteem, your family will also do same (if not now later).
No matter what happens, never position yourself as the one instigating your partner against their parents.
Even if their family is difficult, don’t become the source of division. Instead, encourage unity, patience, and wisdom in handling family matters.
You see, nobody loves to be told that their family is bad (or receive a negative report or evaluation) even if they personal know that. Once you vocalize it and your partner is not mature enough to absorb it then you might start hearing statements like "you hate my parents" etc. Any of your actions is judged from the impression of "it's because you don't like my family".
Make yourself a system that helps protect your partner.
Be their shield in the face of misunderstandings. Stand up for them when necessary, but do so with wisdom and diplomacy. Families may not always understand your relationship at first, but consistency and honour will win their trust.
Build a system that protects your partner’s image and projects them as good.
People will see your partner through the lens you provide. If you present them as irresponsible, difficult, or unworthy, that’s exactly how your family will see them. If you highlight their strengths and virtues, your family will learn to appreciate them as you do.
Again, don't speak bad of your own family to your partner.
If you tell your partner that your family is bad, he/she will not regard them as part of her family.
He/she won't have respect for your parents and siblings. There will be no peace and respect among them.
HOW YOUR FAMILY SEES YOUR PARTNER DEPENDS ON YOU!
In every relationship, family plays a crucial role in shaping perceptions. This perception may hold for years helping to mould the marriage or shatter it. A man is the determinate factor of how his wife-to-be is seen by his family. If he speaks highly of her, treats her with respect, and positions her well, his family will follow his lead. If he allows negativity, disrespect, or unnecessary interference, they may never truly accept her. Many battles some wives are having with their in-laws started way back during their courtship. He projected her in bad light so they (his family) took it up from there.
Likewise, a woman is the determinate factor of how her husband-to-be is seen by her family. If she honours him in her words and actions, her family will learn to do the same. But if she constantly complains, belittles him, or shares his weaknesses, she gives them reasons to disregard him.
So you hold the brush that will paint your parents' perception of your intended spouse. What picture are you painting? One of love, respect, and partnership? Or one of doubt, conflict, and mistrust? Be intentional about how you present your partner to your family because first impressions often last a lifetime.
If you project him or her to your family as one you hold in high esteem, your family will also do same (if not now later).
No matter what happens, never position yourself as the one instigating your partner against their parents.
Even if their family is difficult, don’t become the source of division. Instead, encourage unity, patience, and wisdom in handling family matters.
You see, nobody loves to be told that their family is bad (or receive a negative report or evaluation) even if they personal know that. Once you vocalize it and your partner is not mature enough to absorb it then you might start hearing statements like "you hate my parents" etc. Any of your actions is judged from the impression of "it's because you don't like my family".
Make yourself a system that helps protect your partner.
Be their shield in the face of misunderstandings. Stand up for them when necessary, but do so with wisdom and diplomacy. Families may not always understand your relationship at first, but consistency and honour will win their trust.
Build a system that protects your partner’s image and projects them as good.
People will see your partner through the lens you provide. If you present them as irresponsible, difficult, or unworthy, that’s exactly how your family will see them. If you highlight their strengths and virtues, your family will learn to appreciate them as you do.
Again, don't speak bad of your own family to your partner.
If you tell your partner that your family is bad, he/she will not regard them as part of her family.
He/she won't have respect for your parents and siblings. There will be no peace and respect among them.