10 THINGS EVERY WOMAN MUST LEARN BEFORE BECOMING A WIFE”


Dear sister,
Marriage is not for girls — it's for women who are ready in mind, spirit, and attitude. You don’t just wish your way into a happy marriage; you prepare for it. If you want to be a blessing in your husband’s life, not a burden, then take these to heart:

1. Learn How to Speak to a Man

A man is not your younger brother, houseboy, or classmate. Learn respectful communication. If you talk down on a man, mock his efforts, or constantly challenge his leadership — don’t expect peace.

Do this: Practice respect now in your words, tone, and timing. If you can’t honor him, don’t marry him.

2. Define Your Life Vision

You were not born just to cook, clean, and bear children. You have a calling! Without a personal sense of purpose, you’ll lose your identity in marriage.

Ask yourself: What are my goals? What’s my assignment on earth? Marriage should complement your purpose, not replace it.

3. Don’t Be Financially Idle

If you’re waiting for a man to carry all your financial responsibilities while you do nothing, you’re not preparing to be a wife — you’re preparing to be a burden.

Start now: Learn a trade, pursue a career, run a business. Be an asset, not a liability.

4. Become a Woman of Prayer

Marriage is not a luxury cruise — it’s a battlefield of destinies. A prayerless woman is a powerless woman.

Strengthen your altar: Build a lifestyle of prayer now. Intercede for your future home, children, and husband even before they arrive.

5. Take Care of Your Health and Appearance

Looking unkempt in your 20s is not cute — it’s careless. Beauty isn’t everything, but looking fresh, neat, and healthy shows that you value yourself.

Practical tip: Eat clean, exercise, rest well, dress well, smell good. A wife should be spiritually deep and physically attractive.

6. Learn the Art of Cooking

Your husband doesn’t expect restaurant-level meals, but cooking well is a basic life skill that helps keep the home joyful and united.

Start experimenting: Learn new recipes, local dishes, and healthy meals. Be creative in the kitchen — it’s a love language.

7. Understand Your Body and $exuality

No, don’t experiment with sin. But ignorance is not purity — it’s a setup for frustration.

Get educated: Read about your anatomy, menstrual cycle, $exual expectations in marriage. Books like Every Woman can guide you. Knowledge will help you confidently meet your husband's needs and enjoy the experience too.

8. Build Emotional Maturity

Can you handle conflict without shouting? Do you know how to manage jealousy, anger, and pressure? Marriage exposes every hidden character flaw.

Work on this: Learn emotional intelligence, forgiveness, and patience. A wise woman builds her home with grace.

9. Break Dependency on External Validation

If you need constant attention, praise, or social media likes to feel good, marriage won’t fix that. Your husband is not your happiness factory.

Start within: Find your confidence in God, grow your self-worth, and enter marriage as a whole person.

10. Understand That Marriage Is Service, Not Just Status

Marriage is not a crown to flaunt — it's a commitment to serve. If you’re focused only on the wedding day and not the lifelong journey, you’re not ready.

Shift your mindset: Learn humility, submission, teamwork, and responsibility. Prepare to give, not just receive.

Final Words:

Marriage is a garden — what you sow into it is what you’ll harvest. Prepare intentionally, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. Don’t just wish for a happy home — build yourself to be a pillar in one.

May you enter marriage as a prepared woman, not just a pretty bride.

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*Hebrews 13:5*
Don’t be controlled by love for money. Be happy with what you have. God has said, “I will never leave you. I will never desert you.”

*Mark 12: 30*
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.

*I Peter 5:6 *
“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time,”
🙌🏻 🙏🏻

INTROSPECTION

Connecting life to a classroom is essential for learning and growth through every season. Learning involves behaviour change; without change, you haven’t learned the lesson. You can use introspection to examine how the mind works, and through serious conscious participation, you can explore your biases, self-justifications, and reasoning in various situations. Consider how you respond when alone versus in social settings and what values guide your decisions. Which ideas originate from culture? Which comes from a conscious awareness of God in the present moment instead of drifting through life. Capturing every thought in obedience to Christ requires a strategic approach to thinking, which includes establishing boundaries.
How do you think about the things you dislike? What do you try to avoid? Where does your mind wander when you're idle? Noticing these different patterns involves harnessing the power of introspection by examining yourself and looking inward. What is your weakness, and what is your strength? Often, they lie at opposite ends of the spectrum; one counters the other, revealing the range of behaviour created by thought. How do thought and feeling relate? What brings you joy, and what makes you feel less than good? While emotions shouldn't dictate our lives, we should be guided by intention. However, the way we are wired is connected to our emotions.
Observing emotional states, what mental state makes you unresourceful, or when you are the most resourceful, what triggers different responses? This can only be discovered through introspection. Many people are not conscious of themselves. What concepts are you using in your thinking? What questions is the mind asking? What questions are not being asked? Why did you choose to do that over another thing? Why does that person elicit a specific response from you? It is something the mind has perceived. Different people carry different energy, and being able to discern what it is in them creates an attitude of heart.

Connecting how the energy of two people creates a certain ambience, studying this and how it changes. Like water has two components, oxygen and hydrogen, it is similar to the chemical effects of different people. Certain attitudes of the heart may create defensiveness or encourage openness. Why is that? Do you observe what effects that has? What subjects change from person to person? What is the range of ideas? Who sparks inspiration or a willingness to rise? The company you keep is vital; hanging out with people who have no regard for time affects your life. You must create a life such that when you go to bed at night, you can honestly say the day was good. What kind of day would that look like? Is it disciplined without any time wasted? People want to put you in their prison, where all your time is taken up by their values. When we are not living in line with our own values, it creates disorder and does not bring joy. You need to observe this. Because people value different things than you do, this is where clashes can arise
We can observe this in various aspects of life, from work ethic and money to relationships. We all have different perceptions of reality; if one views it solely through a materialistic lens, one won't recognise the spiritual dimension. Since our world is physical, some may believe that this is all there is, while others shape their understanding of reality based on diverse concepts of God — from believing there is no God to viewing God as Jesus Christ, Buddha, the self, or various deities. This belief system influences how people design their lives and shapes their distinct values. A purely materialistic outlook limits individuals to what they can see with the physical eye, leading them to perceive anyone with opposing values as peculiar. Observe how they respond to life; it tends to be centered around carnal desires, lacking any consideration for how the spirit influences our existence. Yet, this is the mindset that keeps them deceived.
On the other hand, you might encounter those who are deeply spiritual; they perceive the material world as secondary, believing that everything relies on a spiritual dimension and that all occurrences are tied to a spiritual connection. This represents one end of the spectrum, while I believe that spiritual and material aspects must be balanced. God created the material world from the spiritual, as everything visible originated from the invisible—trees, sky, planets, and people all had a beginning with God’s creation. Our purpose in life is to live from the spirit and transform it into substance. This is how we can lead a full and happy life, which is how we are all designed to function.

Not from physical things; first, we are designed to live by faith. That’s when you see with your spiritual eyes things that are not yet tangible and work to produce them. Living this way is a superimposing lifestyle. Living from a materialistic paradigm, or a spiritual one, if it is not converted, is dead. We want to make these observations using introspection to see how much is being converted. Love can be converted into a tangible product in everything you do when you function from the spirit and convert it to benefit others. That is living the highest life and making Jesus tangible, for it is from Him we move and have our being, and for His purpose, we were created. By using the power of introspection to study all your motivations—your whys and ways of thinking—you can progress through the classroom of life’s levels.

COLD UNTIL AUGUST - TAKE NOTE:

Starting tomorrow at 5:00 AM: for 27 hours we will experience the APHELION PHENOMENON.

The Earth will be very far from the Sun .

We cannot see the phenomenon, but we CAN feel its impact. It will last until the month of August.

We will have colder weather than ever before, which can lead to flu, coughing, difficulty breathing, etc.

We must boost our immunity by using plenty of vitamins and supplements to strengthen our health.

The distance from the Earth to the Sun is normally 5 light-minutes or 90 million km.

During the Aphelion phenomenon, we are 152 million km away from the Sun — that’s 66% further.

The air will become colder, and our bodies are not used to this temperature — it is a significant difference.

We must maintain our health as best we can. Whether it is cloudy or sunny, the cold will increase just the same!!!

Please share this information with all your family and friends, as many people as possible, so they too can take precautions.

LET'S TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES!!

Díviɳҽ 卄ealtɧ Declaration;

I will never walk in sickness or defeat! The victorious and glorious life is mine now. I live in the ageless zone. Daily, my strength and youth are renewed like the eagle. Like the cedar of Lebanon, I flourish in health and vitality, bearing fruits of righteousness.

*Amen!

*Díviɳҽ 卄ealtɧ Cσnfҽssiσɳ

I function with supernatural strength and ability always. Nothing and no one can hurt or harm me, for my sufficiency is of God. My body was fashioned for the Lord’s presence; it is the temple of the Holy Spirit. Therefore, sickness and disease have no place in me.

*Ups and downs*

Life gives wings and kicks. Both options allow you to fly, but the prospects are different. Wings give strength and freedom, and kicks teach you to adapt and grow. It is important to accept life as it is and use its lessons for self-development.

*WE DON'T FIGHT FOR VICTORY, BUT FROM ITWe Don’t Fight*

Scripture Focus:
*“And raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus.”*
— Ephesians 2:6 (ESV)

* Reading*:
Many believers walk around defeated—not because Satan is so powerful, but because they are *unaware of their spiritual position in Christ*.

According to *Ephesians 1:20–21*, Christ is seated at the right hand of God, far above all principality, power, dominion, and every name that can be named. But it doesn’t stop there.

*Ephesians 2:6* tells us that we were raised with Him and seated with Him. That’s not poetic exaggeration—it’s spiritual reality. When you gave your life to Jesus, you were repositioned. You are no longer under. You are above—in Him.
So we don’t fight *for victory*, as though we are trying to win what Christ hasn’t already secured.

We fight *from victory*—from a place of spiritual authority, identity, and security in Christ.

*When Confronted by the Enemy...*
You must remember: *Your authority is based on where you’re seated, not what you’re feeling*.

• You're not a helpless Christian hoping for deliverance.
• You’re a kingdom agent enforcing victory already won at the cross.

When the enemy shows up—through temptation, oppression, fear, or manipulation—*you don’t panic*.

*You stand. You resist. You enforce Christ’s triumph*.

“The weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God…”
— 2 Corinthians 10:4–6

You don’t negotiate with darkness. You don’t flee in fear. You *cast down lies, bind arguments, and declare truth*.

*Don't Glorify Satan*

Satan is not all-powerful. He is not God’s rival. He is a *defeated foe*.

Yes, *1 Peter 5:8* says he roams like a lion—but he is only effective when he finds someone who is:

• *Ignorant* of their identity
• *Careless* with their walk
• *Stubborn* against God’s Word
He’s looking for the one who's spiritually asleep. That’s why *Ephesians 5:14* calls out:
“Awake, O sleeper, rise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you!”

Wake up. Rise up. *Know who you are*.

🧗🏾 *Why Trials Shouldn't Break You*

James 1:2–3 says:
“Count it all joy… when you face trials.”

Why? Because trials are not always attacks. Sometimes they are *training.*
They produce endurance, depth, spiritual strength, and *reveal what you’re standing on*.
So don’t panic in hardship—*rejoice in it*, knowing that God is building in you the capacity to carry glory.

✊🏾*The Right Response*
Here’s what the Word says to do when the battle intensifies:
1. *Submit to God* – Surrender to the authority of His Word (James 4:7)
2. *Take up your weapons* – Shield of faith, Word of God, helmet of salvation (Ephesians 6:16–17)
3. *Resist the devil* – Stand your ground in truth, and he will flee
4. *Take Christ’s yoke* – His yoke is knowledge, and knowledge of Him is found in His Word (John 1:1–5)

*”The more you feed on the Word, the harder it is for the enemy to deceive or defeat you”*.

*Live from Where You're Seated*
You’re not fighting from below, trying to ascend. You’re already seated with Christ—above every opposition. That’s your vantage point. That’s your identity.

+Live from that seat.
+Fight from that seat.
+Speak from that seat.
+Pray from that seat.
+Rebuke from that seat. +Serve God from that seat [and not from fear or to manipulate God to bless you].


*Prayer*

Father, thank You for seating me with Christ in heavenly places. I repent for every time I have forgotten who I am in You. Today, I rise up in truth. I reject fear and I resist the devil. I embrace trials as tools for growth, and I stand on Your Word. Help me to live from victory and not struggle for it. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

*Declaration*

Now, demonstrate like the true Lion that you are and ROAR BY declaring:

I am seated with Christ.
I don’t fight for victory—I fight from it.
The enemy is beneath my feet.
I am not afraid, not confused, and not defeated.
I walk in authority.
I rejoice in trials.
I resist the devil and he flees.
I am victorious—*because I am in Christ.*

*SEE YOU AT THE TOP…………………………………………….*

WHEN GETTING MARRIED: WHOSE CHURCH SHOULD YOU ATTEND?



A Guide for Christian Singles"

When two people are preparing to become one, it's not just their lives and families that are joining—their spiritual journey is merging too. Among the many decisions an engaged couple must make, choosing where to worship as a married couple is one that is often overlooked, but deeply important.

So let’s talk about this with wisdom, grace, and clarity.



1. First, Know That This Is a Spiritual Decision

Choosing a church home isn’t about preferences or aesthetics. It’s a spiritual agreement that affects your growth, unity, and even the environment your future children will be raised in. Before discussing logistics or location, ask God for guidance. This isn’t a casual choice—it’s a covenant-level decision.



2. If You’re Already in the Same Church, Rejoice!

If both of you already attend the same Bible-believing church with sound doctrine and vibrant community, congratulations—you’ve just dodged a potential conflict. Stay planted and keep growing together there, unless the Lord redirects you.



3. If One Church Preaches Truth and the Other Doesn’t—Don’t Compromise

Let’s be honest: not all churches are healthy.
If your fiancé’s church is filled with false doctrine, manipulation, or a twisted gospel, love yourself enough to speak up.
Sound doctrine isn’t a side issue—it shapes how your spouse leads, gives, loves, and even parents.
If he insists on staying in error and refuses accountability, don’t just reconsider the church—reconsider the relationship.



4. Look for These Qualities in a Church You’ll Call Home

Whether you’re choosing from two churches or searching afresh, prioritize:

Biblical preaching that points to Jesus and the Gospel.

Authentic worship that leads people to the presence of God.

Solid theology—truth, not trends.

Spiritual community that encourages accountability and love.

Gospel-centered children's ministry (if you plan to raise a family).

A place to serve and grow together, not just attend.



5. When Both Churches Are Solid, Consider Unity and Leadership

This is where things get tricky. You both love your churches. Both are doctrinally sound. Both communities are like family. Now what?

Here’s my gentle advice, especially for my sisters:

6. Consider Attending Your Husband’s Church

If you believe the Bible’s design in Ephesians 5:22-23, where the husband is called to be the spiritual head of the home and the wife called to support his leadership, then it makes spiritual sense to:

Follow his lead.

Join him in his church.

Trust him to spiritually nurture the family.

This isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It doesn’t mean your voice disappears—it means you both agree to grow under the same covering.



7. Unity Is More Important Than Personal Preference

Whatever church you choose, the goal is not individual satisfaction but
marital unity. The enemy loves divided homes, and separate spiritual homes can lead to divided hearts.
Don’t let stubbornness or sentimentality rob you of marital peace.

Final Words:

You’re not just marrying a person—you’re joining a mission.

Let your church choice reflect your desire to:

Walk together.

Grow together.

Worship together.

Raise a godly family together.

Choose the church that fuels your faith, strengthens your covenant, and prepares you both for eternity.

Which of these points spoke to you most? Have you discussed this with your partner? Drop your thoughts in the comments.

Tag someone preparing for marriage!

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

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