• *BRAIN EXERCISES*

    If you can read this OUT LOUD, you have a strong mind. And better than that: Alzheimer’s is a long, long, way down the road before it ever gets anywhere near you.

    If you can read the following paragraph, forward it to your friends. Only very good minds can read this. This is weird, but interesting!

    *I cdnuolt blveiee that I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd what I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in what oerdr the ltteres in a word are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is that the frsit and last ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can still raed it whotuit a pboerlm. This is bcuseaethe huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the word as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? Yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! If you can raed this forwrad it*

    FORWARD ONLY IF YOU CAN READ IT
    This is a TEST. Good Luck!!!

    I don't know about the wishes, but we can all use some brain exercise!!
    Do send this message on. It is fun and good for the brain!!!
    *BRAIN EXERCISES* If you can read this OUT LOUD, you have a strong mind. And better than that: Alzheimer’s is a long, long, way down the road before it ever gets anywhere near you. If you can read the following paragraph, forward it to your friends. Only very good minds can read this. This is weird, but interesting! *I cdnuolt blveiee that I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd what I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in what oerdr the ltteres in a word are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is that the frsit and last ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can still raed it whotuit a pboerlm. This is bcuseaethe huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the word as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? Yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! If you can raed this forwrad it* FORWARD ONLY IF YOU CAN READ IT This is a TEST. Good Luck!!! I don't know about the wishes, but we can all use some brain exercise!! Do send this message on. It is fun and good for the brain!!!
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    Dance is good to , it's a part of exercise you need it
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  • *BRAIN EXERCISES*

    If you can read this OUT LOUD, you have a strong mind. And better than that: Alzheimer’s is a long, long, way down the road before it ever gets anywhere near you.

    If you can read the following paragraph, forward it to your friends. Only very good minds can read this. This is weird, but interesting!

    *I cdnuolt blveiee that I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd what I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in what oerdr the ltteres in a word are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is that the frsit and last ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can still raed it whotuit a pboerlm. This is bcuseaethe huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the word as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? Yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! If you can raed this forwrad it*

    I don't know about the wishes, but we can all use some brain exercise!!
    Do send this message on. It is fun and good for the brain!!!
    *BRAIN EXERCISES* If you can read this OUT LOUD, you have a strong mind. And better than that: Alzheimer’s is a long, long, way down the road before it ever gets anywhere near you. If you can read the following paragraph, forward it to your friends. Only very good minds can read this. This is weird, but interesting! *I cdnuolt blveiee that I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd what I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in what oerdr the ltteres in a word are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is that the frsit and last ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can still raed it whotuit a pboerlm. This is bcuseaethe huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the word as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? Yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! If you can raed this forwrad it* I don't know about the wishes, but we can all use some brain exercise!! Do send this message on. It is fun and good for the brain!!!
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  • Hello friends, good morning,ths morning after doing my exercises I took one coup of water,can u do it.
    Hello friends, good morning,ths morning after doing my exercises I took one coup of water,can u do it.
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  • HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

    We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

    WATCH YOUR TONE
    When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

    TIMING
    Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

    WATCH YOUR EYES
    Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

    DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
    If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

    DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
    Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

    DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
    Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

    DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
    A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

    SOOTHE HIM
    If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

    BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
    If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

    NO INSULTS
    Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

    DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
    Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

    BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
    Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

    DON'T BOY HIM
    Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

    DON'T TALK AT HIM
    Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

    TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
    You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

    TAKE HIM ON A DATE
    Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

    DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
    Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

    DON'T PUSH HIM
    Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

    BE FLEXIBLE
    Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
    Read less.

    Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

    Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

    Date nights are a must.
    Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

    Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

    Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
    We all don’t perceive love the same way.

    Go to bed mad sometimes.
    Don’t force a resolution.
    Sleeping on it does help.

    When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

    It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
    Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
    It’s normal.
    It will fade.
    This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

    Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

    It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

    It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
    It helps.
    It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

    Talk about money.
    Talk about your financial goals.
    Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

    Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

    Ask questions like

    “What do you need to see more of from me?”
    “How can we understand each other better?”

    And most importantly, be kind to each other.

    Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

    Fight for each other.

    Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

    But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
    ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
    HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help.. WATCH YOUR TONE When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace TIMING Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time WATCH YOUR EYES Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN) Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask. DON'T CAUSE A SCENE A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends SOOTHE HIM If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause. NO INSULTS Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;) Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones DON'T BOY HIM Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him DON'T TALK AT HIM Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones TAKE HIM ON A DATE Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat DON'T PUSH HIM Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him BE FLEXIBLE Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience Read less. Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽 Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones Every couple goes through the “boring” stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like “What do you need to see more of from me?” “How can we understand each other better?” And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.. ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
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  • HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

    We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

    WATCH YOUR TONE
    When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

    TIMING
    Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

    WATCH YOUR EYES
    Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

    DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
    If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

    DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
    Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

    DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
    Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

    DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
    A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

    SOOTHE HIM
    If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

    BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
    If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

    NO INSULTS
    Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

    DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
    Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

    BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
    Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

    DON'T BOY HIM
    Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

    DON'T TALK AT HIM
    Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

    TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
    You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

    TAKE HIM ON A DATE
    Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

    DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
    Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

    DON'T PUSH HIM
    Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

    BE FLEXIBLE
    Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
    Read less.

    Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

    Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

    Date nights are a must.
    Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

    Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

    Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
    We all don’t perceive love the same way.

    Go to bed mad sometimes.
    Don’t force a resolution.
    Sleeping on it does help.

    When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

    It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
    Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
    It’s normal.
    It will fade.
    This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

    Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

    It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

    It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
    It helps.
    It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

    Talk about money.
    Talk about your financial goals.
    Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

    Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

    Ask questions like

    “What do you need to see more of from me?”
    “How can we understand each other better?”

    And most importantly, be kind to each other.

    Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

    Fight for each other.

    Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

    But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
    ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
    HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help.. WATCH YOUR TONE When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace TIMING Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time WATCH YOUR EYES Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN) Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask. DON'T CAUSE A SCENE A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends SOOTHE HIM If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause. NO INSULTS Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;) Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones DON'T BOY HIM Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him DON'T TALK AT HIM Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones TAKE HIM ON A DATE Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat DON'T PUSH HIM Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him BE FLEXIBLE Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience Read less. Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽 Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones Every couple goes through the “boring” stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like “What do you need to see more of from me?” “How can we understand each other better?” And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.. ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
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  • HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

    We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

    WATCH YOUR TONE
    When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

    TIMING
    Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

    WATCH YOUR EYES
    Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

    DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
    If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

    DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
    Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

    DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
    Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

    DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
    A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

    SOOTHE HIM
    If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

    BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
    If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

    NO INSULTS
    Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

    DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
    Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

    BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
    Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

    DON'T BOY HIM
    Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

    DON'T TALK AT HIM
    Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

    TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
    You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

    TAKE HIM ON A DATE
    Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

    DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
    Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

    DON'T PUSH HIM
    Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

    BE FLEXIBLE
    Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
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    Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

    Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

    Date nights are a must.
    Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

    Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

    Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
    We all don’t perceive love the same way.

    Go to bed mad sometimes.
    Don’t force a resolution.
    Sleeping on it does help.

    When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

    It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
    Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
    It’s normal.
    It will fade.
    This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

    Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

    It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

    It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
    It helps.
    It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

    Talk about money.
    Talk about your financial goals.
    Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

    Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

    Ask questions like

    “What do you need to see more of from me?”
    “How can we understand each other better?”

    And most importantly, be kind to each other.

    Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

    Fight for each other.

    Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

    But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
    ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
    HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help.. WATCH YOUR TONE When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace TIMING Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time WATCH YOUR EYES Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN) Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask. DON'T CAUSE A SCENE A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends SOOTHE HIM If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause. NO INSULTS Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;) Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones DON'T BOY HIM Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him DON'T TALK AT HIM Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones TAKE HIM ON A DATE Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat DON'T PUSH HIM Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him BE FLEXIBLE Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience Read less. Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽 Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones Every couple goes through the “boring” stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like “What do you need to see more of from me?” “How can we understand each other better?” And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.. ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
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  • Let’s talk about s3x Mekwe today.
    A lot of people are shying away from this topic, but it’s affecting real marriages and relationships.

    In my counselling group, I’ve noticed a pattern:
    Men complain that their wives never initiate Mekwe.
    Women complain that their fantasies are ignored. Some say their man has never even tried to explore anything beyond the basics.

    One major reason for all this?
    Many people are married to someone they’re not s3xually attracted to.

    Let me be honest:
    One thing I love about SGM is the ability to turn me on without even doing anything.
    It’s not just love I’m s3xually attracted to her.

    Another problem is that couples don’t talk about s3x.
    No honest conversation. Just complaints, assumptions, and unrealistic expectations.

    Ask yourselves:
    Men: Have you ever asked your wife, “What turns you on?”
    Women: Have you ever asked your husband, “Am I satisfying you?”
    Is there anything I am not doing right.

    A lot of men’s weak point is their n!pples you’ll be surprised.
    Some want you to initiate Mekwe, sometimes not always receiving it.
    A lot of women, on the other hand, have never even had an 0rgaşm.
    Some have never experienced foreplay, no head, and no stimulation, just straight in-and-out.

    Oga, you need to care about your partner, not just yourself.

    Here’s something real:
    When you stop having s3x or enjoying it, the emotional bond starts to fade.
    Mekwe real, passionate Mekwe brings couples closer.

    Don’t assume. Ask.
    “Babe, do you enjoy sex with me?”
    “What can I do better?”
    “What’s your love language in bed?”

    Some women just want cuddling to set the mood.
    Some want dirty talk.
    Some want time.

    And let me say this if her own love language is money or gifts, that’s not s3x talk.
    That’s transactional. That’s OS. Don’t mix it up.

    Women, too, ask your man:
    “Do I smell okay?” (Hygiene matters).
    “Does how I dress turn you on?”
    “What should I wear to get you in the mood?”

    It’s not always about style or technique.
    Sometimes, it’s just honest communication.

    Too many people are expecting their current partner to perform like their ex.
    That mindset alone will ruin your home.

    Try new things together.
    D0ggy works for most women. Don’t ignore it.
    Missionary is not the only style.
    Giving head won’t k!ll you.
    Spice it up.

    Do you want a good s3x life? Talk. Try. Learn. Respect each other.
    Mekwe, without communication, is just exercise
    Good morning, people of God.

    And it's funmi
    Let’s talk about s3x Mekwe today. A lot of people are shying away from this topic, but it’s affecting real marriages and relationships. In my counselling group, I’ve noticed a pattern: Men complain that their wives never initiate Mekwe. Women complain that their fantasies are ignored. Some say their man has never even tried to explore anything beyond the basics. One major reason for all this? Many people are married to someone they’re not s3xually attracted to. Let me be honest: One thing I love about SGM is the ability to turn me on without even doing anything. It’s not just love I’m s3xually attracted to her. Another problem is that couples don’t talk about s3x. No honest conversation. Just complaints, assumptions, and unrealistic expectations. Ask yourselves: 🔹Men: Have you ever asked your wife, “What turns you on?” 🔹Women: Have you ever asked your husband, “Am I satisfying you?” 🔹 Is there anything I am not doing right. A lot of men’s weak point is their n!pples you’ll be surprised. Some want you to initiate Mekwe, sometimes not always receiving it. A lot of women, on the other hand, have never even had an 0rgaşm. Some have never experienced foreplay, no head, and no stimulation, just straight in-and-out. Oga, you need to care about your partner, not just yourself. Here’s something real: When you stop having s3x or enjoying it, the emotional bond starts to fade. Mekwe real, passionate Mekwe brings couples closer. Don’t assume. Ask. 🔹“Babe, do you enjoy sex with me?” 🔹“What can I do better?” 🔹“What’s your love language in bed?” Some women just want cuddling to set the mood. Some want dirty talk. Some want time. And let me say this if her own love language is money or gifts, that’s not s3x talk. That’s transactional. That’s OS. Don’t mix it up. Women, too, ask your man: 🔹“Do I smell okay?” (Hygiene matters). 🔹“Does how I dress turn you on?” 🔹“What should I wear to get you in the mood?” It’s not always about style or technique. Sometimes, it’s just honest communication. Too many people are expecting their current partner to perform like their ex. That mindset alone will ruin your home. Try new things together. 🔹D0ggy works for most women. Don’t ignore it. 🔹Missionary is not the only style. 🔹Giving head won’t k!ll you. Spice it up. Do you want a good s3x life? Talk. Try. Learn. Respect each other. Mekwe, without communication, is just exercise Good morning, people of God. And it's funmi❤️ 😍 💖 ❣️ 💕 💘
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  • THE ELEMENTS OF THOUGHT

    In all academic disciplines, and in thinking, they share one universal truth that whenever you reason, you are trying to accomplish a purpose within a point of view using concepts and ideas, you are focused on some question, issue or problem, using information to come to some conclusion based on assumptions, all of which have implications. Thinking then generates purposes, raises questions, uses information, uses concepts, makes inferences, makes assumptions, generates implications, and embodies a point of view. It does not matter who you are; whenever you engage in thinking, you will find all these parts.

    By pulling apart anyone’s narrative, we will uncover the logic behind their thought. Let's start from the point of view; as soon as the perspective changes, there will be a different combination of the elements of thought. The perspective may be political, relationships, money, religion, gender, family, or education. When we start from a point of view, e.g. religion, we ask what the person is looking at, and how they are developing the argument. One could make three different inferences following the information given to them on the Abrahamic Covenant from the Koran, Bible, or Tanaka; the inferences change based on the information, which also changes other elements of thought, like concepts, assumptions, implications and questions. One inference coming from the Koran is that Jesus was a prophet. Another inference coming from the Tanaka is that Jesus is not the Messiah.

    The inference coming from the Bible is that Jesus is the son of God, the seed of Abraham. The concepts differ for Christians: salvation through Jesus, the cross, the Trinity, grace and truth, prophecy fulfilment, and a New Covenant. For Jews: the Torah, the Messiah is a future/political leader, a covenant made with Israel through Issac and Jacob. For Muslims: prophethood, lineage through Abraham and Ishmael. A Muslim assumption is that Jesus was a prophet and not divine. A Jewish assumption is that the Messiah has not yet come. A Christian assumption is that the Abrahamic covenant pointed forward to Christ. A question in the elements of thought would differ, such as the Jew would ask what it means to be God’s chosen people. Is the messiah divine or human? The Muslim may ask who the true heir of Abraham’s covenant was, Issac or Ishmael? The Christian may ask what it means for Jesus to be the seed of Abraham. The implications of thought for the Jew are that when the Messiah is coming, the New Testament is not authoritative. The implications of thinking for Muslims are that Jesus is honoured but not worshipped. The implications for Christians are that salvation is available through Jesus, not the law.

    Let’s change to another point of view on money. Inferences will follow the information one has about money. The possible inference is that money is to be spent, money is to be multiplied, or money is to pay bills. Although money can do all those things, it will have different consequences. The difference in understanding creates the end outcome. Ideas associated with money can differ based on social class, culture, family upbringing, and life experiences; however, attached to all those contexts is a narrative, yet money operates by laws.

    Another point of view we could use to model thinking is politics in an American context, in the present generation. A possible inference is that Trump is a dictator. Trump is making good decisions for America. Trump is an absolute nightmare as a president. For all these conclusions, there would need to be some premises on which the argument is built. Therefore, the inferences are coming from a source of information. We must also consider the social location of the person making an inference if you were a man coming from a patriarchal society where women are expected to serve the man and engage in unpaid domestic duties just because she is a woman. However, the ideas associated with gender may differ significantly if we change cultures; people’s differing understanding of religious texts can impact their conclusions based on how they interpret meanings. Therefore, we must consider the one making that assessment when weighing up differing opinions. We can also find the logic of a thinking pattern by observing those different conclusions based on the information.

    They all involve some concepts, principles, and rules. It is always important to identify these; if we want to take command of thinking, we must accurately define the concepts being used, implicitly/explicitly, consciously/unconsciously. You wouldn’t just make the statement that Trump is a dictator. When we label someone, something, or a place, further investigation is needed to understand how that conclusion is made. Some will disagree, maybe because Trump is their president and they believe that he is doing well for the country. The person saying he is a dictator may have come from one of the 12 nations Trump has banned and have family members in America that they can no longer visit. The concepts in this person’s thought may be equality, human rights, democracy, authoritarianism, and discrimination, e.g. inclusion/exclusion, as it is targeting Muslim nations; therefore, Trump's far-right nationalism is also using the discourse strategy of us and them. If we were to develop our thinking by taking command of the concepts concealed within a narrative, we would get an accurate understanding of a concept by finding descriptions of its meaning. So often, we only have a shallow understanding of a concept, or it could be inaccurate.

    Let’s explore the concept of democracy as an illustration. According to the Webster dictionary, democracy is government by the people, a form of government in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised directly by them or by their elected agents under a free electoral system. On the other hand, according to the Webster dictionary, authoritarianism favours complete obedience or subjection to authority as opposed to individual freedom. To be critical of someone’s perspective, we must find the definitions of the concepts they may be using. This is why, critically, not emotionally, getting to the logic of an argument is crucial if we come from a different viewpoint. There will be other concepts that someone from America may have based on a negative experience, maybe they were caught up in the Twin Towers on September 11th and have developed a negative view of a religious minority.

    Yet to say that all people from one nation are going to display a terrorist character trait is a heresy. To further develop our understanding of the parts of thinking, we need to ask what information they are using. Perhaps a good example of this is that Trump is a radical right nationalist, where to be American, you must qualify by ethnicity and race, as some of the other terms that he uses in discourse are “Build the wall nice and tall.” His thinking shows that he has an us and them narrative; he is analogising using sentiment of American nationalism.

    We need to identify the information source from which anyone is drawing inferences. Here, we look for the facts, experiences, or data the person uses to draw conclusions. Inferences are the conclusions people draw from the information. For example, Trump is an authoritarian, but there must be some connecting premise that logically connects. Sometimes people make an inference but do not have enough evidence to support that claim, or their reasons do not connect logically. In the bible, the chief priest and the elders devised a plan and gave the soldiers a large sum of money, telling them, “You are to say 'Jesus' disciples came during the night and stole him away while we were asleep.” And this story has been widely circulated to this day. That is why the Jews draw the inference that Jesus did not resurrect from the grave. Hidden in that inference are untested assumptions made by a whole people group as one of the premises that they believe support this argument that Jesus is not God. That is a serious assumption that could determine the whole trajectory of someone’s belief system, which is why we must always test our assumptions.

    Assumptions are the information we have taken for granted; they underlie the reason for someone's argument. Assumptions can usually be unstated or not made explicit, but they are always an element in the parts of thinking. What is the key question someone is asking whenever they think? For example, this article is trying to settle a question: Can we understand the logic behind anyone's thought, even if they are different from our own? Questions always drive our thinking; we must clarify what question directs our thinking. What is Trump's question about tariffs? How can he make America the financial superpower of the world? There are strategic reasons behind his decisions. Our goal is to figure out the question behind someone’s reasoning.

    What is the main purpose of someone’s reasoning? There is always a purpose that drives thought. This is universal and will be in everyone's thinking, depending on the subject. Take a mundane activity like grocery shopping, you take out a pen and paper because you don’t want to forget what you need at the grocery store. There are clear purposes in your thinking. I may write on a subject that particularly matters to me because I have seen the injustice a problem may cause; therefore, my reasoning has a clear purpose. Here, we try to discover the intent of reasoning. What is someone trying to accomplish through thinking? If we accept some line of reasoning, what are some important implications of that reasoning?

    What likely consequences follow, such as believing in your heart and confessing with your mouth that Jesus is God? According to the bible, the implications of thinking spiritually lead to life and peace, and the consequences lead to eternal life with God. All thinking has implications. Another way of thinking is that if we fail to accept this line of reasoning, some important implications are. Then you could ask what important consequences are likely to follow if you ignore the information. I have covered all the elements of thought that you can start implementing into your reasoning. This is an extensive subject. Still, it needs to be practically applied for it to have long-lasting benefits and to understand how thinking arranges itself just by adjusting or changing some of the assumptions that have not been tested, checking for other information sources and thinking through the logic of other people’s points of view. Practice critical thinking every day.

    Picture taken from Nike Art Gallery a place of creative arts plus and displays in Nigeria.
    THE ELEMENTS OF THOUGHT In all academic disciplines, and in thinking, they share one universal truth that whenever you reason, you are trying to accomplish a purpose within a point of view using concepts and ideas, you are focused on some question, issue or problem, using information to come to some conclusion based on assumptions, all of which have implications. Thinking then generates purposes, raises questions, uses information, uses concepts, makes inferences, makes assumptions, generates implications, and embodies a point of view. It does not matter who you are; whenever you engage in thinking, you will find all these parts. By pulling apart anyone’s narrative, we will uncover the logic behind their thought. Let's start from the point of view; as soon as the perspective changes, there will be a different combination of the elements of thought. The perspective may be political, relationships, money, religion, gender, family, or education. When we start from a point of view, e.g. religion, we ask what the person is looking at, and how they are developing the argument. One could make three different inferences following the information given to them on the Abrahamic Covenant from the Koran, Bible, or Tanaka; the inferences change based on the information, which also changes other elements of thought, like concepts, assumptions, implications and questions. One inference coming from the Koran is that Jesus was a prophet. Another inference coming from the Tanaka is that Jesus is not the Messiah. The inference coming from the Bible is that Jesus is the son of God, the seed of Abraham. The concepts differ for Christians: salvation through Jesus, the cross, the Trinity, grace and truth, prophecy fulfilment, and a New Covenant. For Jews: the Torah, the Messiah is a future/political leader, a covenant made with Israel through Issac and Jacob. For Muslims: prophethood, lineage through Abraham and Ishmael. A Muslim assumption is that Jesus was a prophet and not divine. A Jewish assumption is that the Messiah has not yet come. A Christian assumption is that the Abrahamic covenant pointed forward to Christ. A question in the elements of thought would differ, such as the Jew would ask what it means to be God’s chosen people. Is the messiah divine or human? The Muslim may ask who the true heir of Abraham’s covenant was, Issac or Ishmael? The Christian may ask what it means for Jesus to be the seed of Abraham. The implications of thought for the Jew are that when the Messiah is coming, the New Testament is not authoritative. The implications of thinking for Muslims are that Jesus is honoured but not worshipped. The implications for Christians are that salvation is available through Jesus, not the law. Let’s change to another point of view on money. Inferences will follow the information one has about money. The possible inference is that money is to be spent, money is to be multiplied, or money is to pay bills. Although money can do all those things, it will have different consequences. The difference in understanding creates the end outcome. Ideas associated with money can differ based on social class, culture, family upbringing, and life experiences; however, attached to all those contexts is a narrative, yet money operates by laws. Another point of view we could use to model thinking is politics in an American context, in the present generation. A possible inference is that Trump is a dictator. Trump is making good decisions for America. Trump is an absolute nightmare as a president. For all these conclusions, there would need to be some premises on which the argument is built. Therefore, the inferences are coming from a source of information. We must also consider the social location of the person making an inference if you were a man coming from a patriarchal society where women are expected to serve the man and engage in unpaid domestic duties just because she is a woman. However, the ideas associated with gender may differ significantly if we change cultures; people’s differing understanding of religious texts can impact their conclusions based on how they interpret meanings. Therefore, we must consider the one making that assessment when weighing up differing opinions. We can also find the logic of a thinking pattern by observing those different conclusions based on the information. They all involve some concepts, principles, and rules. It is always important to identify these; if we want to take command of thinking, we must accurately define the concepts being used, implicitly/explicitly, consciously/unconsciously. You wouldn’t just make the statement that Trump is a dictator. When we label someone, something, or a place, further investigation is needed to understand how that conclusion is made. Some will disagree, maybe because Trump is their president and they believe that he is doing well for the country. The person saying he is a dictator may have come from one of the 12 nations Trump has banned and have family members in America that they can no longer visit. The concepts in this person’s thought may be equality, human rights, democracy, authoritarianism, and discrimination, e.g. inclusion/exclusion, as it is targeting Muslim nations; therefore, Trump's far-right nationalism is also using the discourse strategy of us and them. If we were to develop our thinking by taking command of the concepts concealed within a narrative, we would get an accurate understanding of a concept by finding descriptions of its meaning. So often, we only have a shallow understanding of a concept, or it could be inaccurate. Let’s explore the concept of democracy as an illustration. According to the Webster dictionary, democracy is government by the people, a form of government in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised directly by them or by their elected agents under a free electoral system. On the other hand, according to the Webster dictionary, authoritarianism favours complete obedience or subjection to authority as opposed to individual freedom. To be critical of someone’s perspective, we must find the definitions of the concepts they may be using. This is why, critically, not emotionally, getting to the logic of an argument is crucial if we come from a different viewpoint. There will be other concepts that someone from America may have based on a negative experience, maybe they were caught up in the Twin Towers on September 11th and have developed a negative view of a religious minority. Yet to say that all people from one nation are going to display a terrorist character trait is a heresy. To further develop our understanding of the parts of thinking, we need to ask what information they are using. Perhaps a good example of this is that Trump is a radical right nationalist, where to be American, you must qualify by ethnicity and race, as some of the other terms that he uses in discourse are “Build the wall nice and tall.” His thinking shows that he has an us and them narrative; he is analogising using sentiment of American nationalism. We need to identify the information source from which anyone is drawing inferences. Here, we look for the facts, experiences, or data the person uses to draw conclusions. Inferences are the conclusions people draw from the information. For example, Trump is an authoritarian, but there must be some connecting premise that logically connects. Sometimes people make an inference but do not have enough evidence to support that claim, or their reasons do not connect logically. In the bible, the chief priest and the elders devised a plan and gave the soldiers a large sum of money, telling them, “You are to say 'Jesus' disciples came during the night and stole him away while we were asleep.” And this story has been widely circulated to this day. That is why the Jews draw the inference that Jesus did not resurrect from the grave. Hidden in that inference are untested assumptions made by a whole people group as one of the premises that they believe support this argument that Jesus is not God. That is a serious assumption that could determine the whole trajectory of someone’s belief system, which is why we must always test our assumptions. Assumptions are the information we have taken for granted; they underlie the reason for someone's argument. Assumptions can usually be unstated or not made explicit, but they are always an element in the parts of thinking. What is the key question someone is asking whenever they think? For example, this article is trying to settle a question: Can we understand the logic behind anyone's thought, even if they are different from our own? Questions always drive our thinking; we must clarify what question directs our thinking. What is Trump's question about tariffs? How can he make America the financial superpower of the world? There are strategic reasons behind his decisions. Our goal is to figure out the question behind someone’s reasoning. What is the main purpose of someone’s reasoning? There is always a purpose that drives thought. This is universal and will be in everyone's thinking, depending on the subject. Take a mundane activity like grocery shopping, you take out a pen and paper because you don’t want to forget what you need at the grocery store. There are clear purposes in your thinking. I may write on a subject that particularly matters to me because I have seen the injustice a problem may cause; therefore, my reasoning has a clear purpose. Here, we try to discover the intent of reasoning. What is someone trying to accomplish through thinking? If we accept some line of reasoning, what are some important implications of that reasoning? What likely consequences follow, such as believing in your heart and confessing with your mouth that Jesus is God? According to the bible, the implications of thinking spiritually lead to life and peace, and the consequences lead to eternal life with God. All thinking has implications. Another way of thinking is that if we fail to accept this line of reasoning, some important implications are. Then you could ask what important consequences are likely to follow if you ignore the information. I have covered all the elements of thought that you can start implementing into your reasoning. This is an extensive subject. Still, it needs to be practically applied for it to have long-lasting benefits and to understand how thinking arranges itself just by adjusting or changing some of the assumptions that have not been tested, checking for other information sources and thinking through the logic of other people’s points of view. Practice critical thinking every day. Picture taken from Nike Art Gallery a place of creative arts plus and displays in Nigeria.
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  • A COMPOSITE OF AWARENESS, CONCENTRATION AND WILLPOWER

    Just as a palette of colours is to an artist, a vast array of words and their syntax is to a writer. By blending and combining words, a writer weaves a rich tapestry of meaning. Meaning is the ultimate goal of writing, even though the process of sending and receiving messages can be complex. It is fascinating that all of humanity shares in language, even though the dialect spoken may differ. For example, the word used to stand in for a dog may be different in another language, but that word can often be translated so that we understand they refer to the same object in the world.

    Words are like cutting patterns in paper; although they are abstractions of the real world, they serve to stand in for and represent something. That's why, when we share terms and definitions, it’s often important to clarify what we mean by those terms so that everyone starts with a shared understanding of a word. Currently, I’m working on taking three words that serve as the active ingredients influencing my behaviour daily. The goal is for the words not just to be abstract ideas, but to be converted into tangible actions, so that the words benefit me physically in the material world.

    The three words I want to focus on are awareness, concentration, and willpower. Right away, you might think you understand what I mean from those words, but to avoid the different connotations that can vary in people's minds, let's start by defining what I mean when I mention these terms. Sometimes, creating a picture is the most effective way to convey understanding.

    Think of awareness as a glowing ball of light that moves around the vast areas of the mind, so to speak. For example, when you're running a race to win, your awareness is in a competitive part of the mind, compared to when you're listening or watching a movie. The movie producer can take your awareness and direct it to various parts of the mind, such as turning something funny into a happy feeling, or something suspenseful into fear, or something that may make you angry. This is influenced by an external source created by your environment, over which you have no physical control. Awareness is triggered by the money you paid to a producer to evoke emotions in you, which is determined by the pictures, words, and storyline associated with the movie. In everyday life, many people are not in charge of their awareness. Something upsets you, and you keep thinking about those ideas; therefore, they have taken control of your awareness as it shifts to a worried state of mind. Then it is rehearsed, and by doing this, we are practising distraction in allowing our awareness to be focused on an external or internal conflict. This is why we need to be conscious in the present moment, so that we know exactly which part of the mind our awareness is focused on.

    The practice of meditating on quality information, such as scripture or complex problems we aim to solve, should be a more productive time using our awareness. Today, there is an epidemic of distraction caused by many factors, like social media, messages, news stories, or emails that pop up. The longer we let our environment dictate where our awareness goes, the more we practice distraction. Every second in our lives is wasted if we haven't set an intention or purpose to focus on one thing. External influences govern our focus if we allow others to decide where our attention goes.

    Next, I want to define concentration: the ability to hold our attention on something for a set period until the mind chooses to shift focus. Looking at some of the great inventors and discoverers of universal truths like Isaac Newton, Einstein, or Shakespeare—who spent ten years writing one book studied across generations—we see people who developed new inventions, such as rockets that go to space, or achieved anything beyond instant gratification through commitment to concentration. Edison is a clear example; after his 1000 attempts to build a light bulb, he finally cracked the code. If he had given up, it may have taken many more years for such a discovery to happen. We can't finish anything we start unless we develop the skill to concentrate.

    The next concept we need to understand is willpower. We can think of willpower as a muscle we all possess, though to different degrees. For example, you might decide you want to exercise, but you have a habit of not following through with that commitment. It’s not that you lack integrity with your word; it may be that you need to develop the skill of willpower. We can incorporate this into our daily routines; it involves completing tasks until they are finished. If you get out of bed but don’t make your bed until later in the day, your sleep cycle remains incomplete. If you say you’ll leave the dishes until the morning, you’re not taking advantage of the opportunity to build willpower by finishing a task. This isn’t laziness; it’s the inability to sustain willpower until everything you set your hand to is complete. If we commit to finishing every task, such as eating, washing up, and putting things away, without compromise, and practise this as a routine in our daily life, we’ll strengthen our willpower muscle. The more you resist the temptation to leave things until later and complete the task, the better your results will be over time.

    Imagine our world if half-finished buildings were inhabitable, children didn’t have to finish the school year once they decided to stay home, ingredients for a cake were put together but not baked, dishes piled up, rubbish was not taken out for weeks, and a bridge was left incomplete. This is the foundation of disorder. In Genesis 1, at the beginning of the world, at the end of each day, God had a protocol where He performed quality checks — using the principle of evaluation — when the Bible states that God saw that it was good, not only did He complete His work, but He also gave it a quality mark. Everything we undertake must be finished, and not only finished but also pushed a little further, doing a bit more than is comfortable. This builds your willpower to be a finisher. There are mundane tasks we all must do, like washing dishes, cooking, cleaning, and making the bed, and often we don’t see why completing these tasks is so important. It’s not just about the satisfaction of having done them; it is about developing your willpower to complete everything you start. If this principle hasn’t been embedded in your consciousness, you might look back over the last five years and notice projects left undone. There could be valid reasons for this, but the real key is cultivating the willpower of a finisher.

    Over the last 7 to 10 years, I have been dedicated to academic and self-education, making it a lifestyle culture. To dismiss this for trivial pursuits is not an option because the amount of willpower I have built to pursue this has become second nature, often going against the cultural norm. People are motivated by different things; it depends on our values and what we consider priorities. However, willpower, concentration, and awareness are fundamental. If we do not prioritise these skills in areas where we are weak, we cannot effectively use them as tools that benefit us. We have a lawn mower for cutting grass, a dishwasher for cleaning and drying dishes, and a computer is essential for many tasks. It is as important to understand and practise conscious awareness—being aware of what part of the mind our focus is in—or concentration to uncover new solutions that may resolve problems. Willpower is like a muscle that sustains lasting change. I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to develop these skills.

    Written by Rochelle White
    A COMPOSITE OF AWARENESS, CONCENTRATION AND WILLPOWER Just as a palette of colours is to an artist, a vast array of words and their syntax is to a writer. By blending and combining words, a writer weaves a rich tapestry of meaning. Meaning is the ultimate goal of writing, even though the process of sending and receiving messages can be complex. It is fascinating that all of humanity shares in language, even though the dialect spoken may differ. For example, the word used to stand in for a dog may be different in another language, but that word can often be translated so that we understand they refer to the same object in the world. Words are like cutting patterns in paper; although they are abstractions of the real world, they serve to stand in for and represent something. That's why, when we share terms and definitions, it’s often important to clarify what we mean by those terms so that everyone starts with a shared understanding of a word. Currently, I’m working on taking three words that serve as the active ingredients influencing my behaviour daily. The goal is for the words not just to be abstract ideas, but to be converted into tangible actions, so that the words benefit me physically in the material world. The three words I want to focus on are awareness, concentration, and willpower. Right away, you might think you understand what I mean from those words, but to avoid the different connotations that can vary in people's minds, let's start by defining what I mean when I mention these terms. Sometimes, creating a picture is the most effective way to convey understanding. Think of awareness as a glowing ball of light that moves around the vast areas of the mind, so to speak. For example, when you're running a race to win, your awareness is in a competitive part of the mind, compared to when you're listening or watching a movie. The movie producer can take your awareness and direct it to various parts of the mind, such as turning something funny into a happy feeling, or something suspenseful into fear, or something that may make you angry. This is influenced by an external source created by your environment, over which you have no physical control. Awareness is triggered by the money you paid to a producer to evoke emotions in you, which is determined by the pictures, words, and storyline associated with the movie. In everyday life, many people are not in charge of their awareness. Something upsets you, and you keep thinking about those ideas; therefore, they have taken control of your awareness as it shifts to a worried state of mind. Then it is rehearsed, and by doing this, we are practising distraction in allowing our awareness to be focused on an external or internal conflict. This is why we need to be conscious in the present moment, so that we know exactly which part of the mind our awareness is focused on. The practice of meditating on quality information, such as scripture or complex problems we aim to solve, should be a more productive time using our awareness. Today, there is an epidemic of distraction caused by many factors, like social media, messages, news stories, or emails that pop up. The longer we let our environment dictate where our awareness goes, the more we practice distraction. Every second in our lives is wasted if we haven't set an intention or purpose to focus on one thing. External influences govern our focus if we allow others to decide where our attention goes. Next, I want to define concentration: the ability to hold our attention on something for a set period until the mind chooses to shift focus. Looking at some of the great inventors and discoverers of universal truths like Isaac Newton, Einstein, or Shakespeare—who spent ten years writing one book studied across generations—we see people who developed new inventions, such as rockets that go to space, or achieved anything beyond instant gratification through commitment to concentration. Edison is a clear example; after his 1000 attempts to build a light bulb, he finally cracked the code. If he had given up, it may have taken many more years for such a discovery to happen. We can't finish anything we start unless we develop the skill to concentrate. The next concept we need to understand is willpower. We can think of willpower as a muscle we all possess, though to different degrees. For example, you might decide you want to exercise, but you have a habit of not following through with that commitment. It’s not that you lack integrity with your word; it may be that you need to develop the skill of willpower. We can incorporate this into our daily routines; it involves completing tasks until they are finished. If you get out of bed but don’t make your bed until later in the day, your sleep cycle remains incomplete. If you say you’ll leave the dishes until the morning, you’re not taking advantage of the opportunity to build willpower by finishing a task. This isn’t laziness; it’s the inability to sustain willpower until everything you set your hand to is complete. If we commit to finishing every task, such as eating, washing up, and putting things away, without compromise, and practise this as a routine in our daily life, we’ll strengthen our willpower muscle. The more you resist the temptation to leave things until later and complete the task, the better your results will be over time. Imagine our world if half-finished buildings were inhabitable, children didn’t have to finish the school year once they decided to stay home, ingredients for a cake were put together but not baked, dishes piled up, rubbish was not taken out for weeks, and a bridge was left incomplete. This is the foundation of disorder. In Genesis 1, at the beginning of the world, at the end of each day, God had a protocol where He performed quality checks — using the principle of evaluation — when the Bible states that God saw that it was good, not only did He complete His work, but He also gave it a quality mark. Everything we undertake must be finished, and not only finished but also pushed a little further, doing a bit more than is comfortable. This builds your willpower to be a finisher. There are mundane tasks we all must do, like washing dishes, cooking, cleaning, and making the bed, and often we don’t see why completing these tasks is so important. It’s not just about the satisfaction of having done them; it is about developing your willpower to complete everything you start. If this principle hasn’t been embedded in your consciousness, you might look back over the last five years and notice projects left undone. There could be valid reasons for this, but the real key is cultivating the willpower of a finisher. Over the last 7 to 10 years, I have been dedicated to academic and self-education, making it a lifestyle culture. To dismiss this for trivial pursuits is not an option because the amount of willpower I have built to pursue this has become second nature, often going against the cultural norm. People are motivated by different things; it depends on our values and what we consider priorities. However, willpower, concentration, and awareness are fundamental. If we do not prioritise these skills in areas where we are weak, we cannot effectively use them as tools that benefit us. We have a lawn mower for cutting grass, a dishwasher for cleaning and drying dishes, and a computer is essential for many tasks. It is as important to understand and practise conscious awareness—being aware of what part of the mind our focus is in—or concentration to uncover new solutions that may resolve problems. Willpower is like a muscle that sustains lasting change. I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to develop these skills. Written by Rochelle White
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  • “Those who do not find time for exercise will have to find time for illness.” – Edward Smith Stanley
    “Those who do not find time for exercise will have to find time for illness.” – Edward Smith Stanley
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  • HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

    We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

    WATCH YOUR TONE
    When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

    TIMING
    Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

    WATCH YOUR EYES
    Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

    DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
    If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

    DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
    Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

    DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
    Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

    DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
    A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

    SOOTHE HIM
    If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

    BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
    If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

    NO INSULTS
    Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

    DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
    Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

    BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
    Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

    DON'T BOY HIM
    Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

    DON'T TALK AT HIM
    Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

    TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
    You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

    TAKE HIM ON A DATE
    Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

    DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
    Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

    DON'T PUSH HIM
    Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

    BE FLEXIBLE
    Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
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    Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

    Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

    Date nights are a must.
    Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

    Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

    Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
    We all don’t perceive love the same way.

    Go to bed mad sometimes.
    Don’t force a resolution.
    Sleeping on it does help.

    When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

    It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
    Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
    It’s normal.
    It will fade.
    This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

    Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

    It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

    It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
    It helps.
    It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

    Talk about money.
    Talk about your financial goals.
    Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

    Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

    Ask questions like

    “What do you need to see more of from me?”
    “How can we understand each other better?”

    And most importantly, be kind to each other.

    Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

    Fight for each other.

    Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

    But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
    ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
    HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help.. WATCH YOUR TONE When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace TIMING Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time WATCH YOUR EYES Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN) Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask. DON'T CAUSE A SCENE A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends SOOTHE HIM If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause. NO INSULTS Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;) Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones DON'T BOY HIM Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him DON'T TALK AT HIM Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones TAKE HIM ON A DATE Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat DON'T PUSH HIM Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him BE FLEXIBLE Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience Read less. Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽 Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones Every couple goes through the “boring” stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like “What do you need to see more of from me?” “How can we understand each other better?” And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.. ➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>
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