GADA.CHAT OLD SCHOOL DAY.

*WHEN LOVE CORRECTS YOU, IT'S A GIFT — NOT AN ATTACK*



In every relationship, there comes a moment when your partner sees something you might not — a habit, an attitude, or a silence that’s hurting you both.

Love isn’t just about sweet words or happy moments. Sometimes love shows up as correction — a wake-up call, a mirror reflecting what you need to see, even if it’s hard.

A caring partner might say:
“You’ve changed — what’s really going on?”
“That friend isn’t good for your peace.”
“You’re working too much and missing us.”
“This silence between us is growing — we need to talk.”

It’s natural to feel hurt or defensive when corrected. But ask yourself:
If your partner can’t tell you the truth, who will?
If you always defend your pride, how can love grow?

Healthy relationships aren’t about control or criticism — they’re about accountability and care.
Being corrected doesn’t mean you’re less loved. It means your partner wants the best for you — and for the life you’re building together.

If you only accept comfort and avoid correction, you risk staying stuck in patterns that quietly destroy love.
If you always want to be right, you might end up alone.

So next time your partner points out something hard, listen with your heart, not just your ears.
They aren’t trying to change you — they’re trying to protect what you both cherish.

Remember: Let love guide you. Let pride rest. Let growth begin together.. God bless us all. Please don't go without reacting

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Always have the power to make your own decisions

Always have the power to make your own decisions

Always have the power to make your own decisions

Always have the power to make your own decisions

My love for you runs so deep
that sometimes it overwhelms me.
I get jealous, not because I don’t trust you,
but because I care so much.
I worry about losing you,
not because you’ve given me a reason to,
but because the thought of life without you is unbearable.
I get angry,
not out of frustration,
but because my heart feels everything so intensely when it comes to you.
Every emotion I feel is rooted in how much
I love you, how much I need you.
You are my everything,
and I can’t imagine a world where we’re not together.
Losing you is not an option,
because my heart belongs to you,
now and always.
➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑐𝑡 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒⇅
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#youaremylife

HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?

One of the top questions I receive from singles preparing for marriage is this:

👉🏽 “How long should a courtship last?”

Let’s talk about it—honestly, practically, and spiritually.

FIRST: What is Courtship?

Courtship is not casual dating or emotional experimenting.
It begins when a mature single man, after prayer and divine conviction, proposes marriage to a woman—not for fun or trial—but with the clear intention to marry.

Likewise, the lady must also have her own personal conviction before accepting his proposal. Courtship is not built on pressure, fantasy, or romance alone—it must be rooted in spiritual clarity and maturity.

SEVEN AREAS TO PREPARE BEFORE YOU START COURTSHIP

Before you even say “yes” or “let’s start a relationship,” you must be prepared.

❗️Here are 7 non-negotiable areas of personal readiness:

1. Spiritual Preparation
Give your life to Christ. If Jesus is not at the center of your life, He cannot be the foundation of your marriage. Without Christ, the storm will sweep your home away.

2. Physical Preparation
Marriage is not for teenagers or people still hiding under their parents’ roof. Be ready to leave and cleave—physically and emotionally. You need your own space.

3. Financial Preparation
Don’t enter courtship jobless or financially irresponsible. Learn how to make, manage, and multiply money. Love without money quickly turns sour.

4. Emotional Preparation
Heal from past wounds. Stop carrying baggage into your future. If you’re easily jealous, insecure, moody, or manipulative, work on yourself first.

5. Mental Preparation
Educate your mind for marriage. Read books, attend seminars, and gain godly knowledge about family life. Ignorance will c0st you.

6. Social Preparation
Can you relate well with people? Do you know how to communicate, resolve conflicts, and build community? You will need all of these in marriage.

7. Moral Preparation
Live a life of integrity and $exual purity. Self-control before marriage prepares you for faithfulness within it.

A WARNING TO SINGLES: COURTSHIP IS NOT A SECRET AFFAIR

If your partner says:
“Don’t tell your pastor.”
“Keep this from your parents.”
“Let’s hide our relationship for now…”

That is a red flag. Run.

Healthy courtships are accountable, not hidden. Your pastor or mentor should be aware, and both sets of parents should bless your journey. Secrecy invites danger. Courtship is not a game. It’s a sacred preparation.

SO, HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?

Minimum: 6 Months
Maximum: 2 Years
(Exceptions: financial delay, parental objection, or health challenges.)

Here’s why:

Less than 6 months is too short to truly know someone. It’s risky.

More than 2 years can breed temptation, compromise, boredom, or unnecessary emotional strain.

Courtship should not be rushed, but it also should not be dragged endlessly.

What Should Happen During Courtship?

❗️Deep and honest conversations about life, vision, and expectations.

❗️Pre-marital counseling with a trusted mentor or pastor.

❗️Family visits and open discussions about background, values, and boundaries.

❗️Prayer, fasting, and studying God’s Word together.

❗️Agreement on issues like finances, $ex, children, ministry, and more.

Courtship is not a time to cuddle and go on endless dates.

It is a time to discern, discover, discuss, and decide.

Final Thoughts for Singles:

Don’t chase a fast wedding; pursue a solid foundation.

A one-month courtship can c0st you a lifetime of regret.

A 10-year relationship doesn’t guarantee success either. It’s not just about time—it’s about truth, trust, and preparation.

Spend more time praying, learning, and growing—before and during courtship.

Marriage is not for the unprepared.
Courtship is for the mature.

🙏🏽 May God grant you wisdom, clarity, and success in your marital journey

HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?

One of the top questions I receive from singles preparing for marriage is this:

👉🏽 “How long should a courtship last?”

Let’s talk about it—honestly, practically, and spiritually.

FIRST: What is Courtship?

Courtship is not casual dating or emotional experimenting.
It begins when a mature single man, after prayer and divine conviction, proposes marriage to a woman—not for fun or trial—but with the clear intention to marry.

Likewise, the lady must also have her own personal conviction before accepting his proposal. Courtship is not built on pressure, fantasy, or romance alone—it must be rooted in spiritual clarity and maturity.

SEVEN AREAS TO PREPARE BEFORE YOU START COURTSHIP

Before you even say “yes” or “let’s start a relationship,” you must be prepared.

❗️Here are 7 non-negotiable areas of personal readiness:

1. Spiritual Preparation
Give your life to Christ. If Jesus is not at the center of your life, He cannot be the foundation of your marriage. Without Christ, the storm will sweep your home away.

2. Physical Preparation
Marriage is not for teenagers or people still hiding under their parents’ roof. Be ready to leave and cleave—physically and emotionally. You need your own space.

3. Financial Preparation
Don’t enter courtship jobless or financially irresponsible. Learn how to make, manage, and multiply money. Love without money quickly turns sour.

4. Emotional Preparation
Heal from past wounds. Stop carrying baggage into your future. If you’re easily jealous, insecure, moody, or manipulative, work on yourself first.

5. Mental Preparation
Educate your mind for marriage. Read books, attend seminars, and gain godly knowledge about family life. Ignorance will c0st you.

6. Social Preparation
Can you relate well with people? Do you know how to communicate, resolve conflicts, and build community? You will need all of these in marriage.

7. Moral Preparation
Live a life of integrity and $exual purity. Self-control before marriage prepares you for faithfulness within it.

A WARNING TO SINGLES: COURTSHIP IS NOT A SECRET AFFAIR

If your partner says:
“Don’t tell your pastor.”
“Keep this from your parents.”
“Let’s hide our relationship for now…”

That is a red flag. Run.

Healthy courtships are accountable, not hidden. Your pastor or mentor should be aware, and both sets of parents should bless your journey. Secrecy invites danger. Courtship is not a game. It’s a sacred preparation.

SO, HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?

Minimum: 6 Months
Maximum: 2 Years
(Exceptions: financial delay, parental objection, or health challenges.)

Here’s why:

Less than 6 months is too short to truly know someone. It’s risky.

More than 2 years can breed temptation, compromise, boredom, or unnecessary emotional strain.

Courtship should not be rushed, but it also should not be dragged endlessly.

What Should Happen During Courtship?

❗️Deep and honest conversations about life, vision, and expectations.

❗️Pre-marital counseling with a trusted mentor or pastor.

❗️Family visits and open discussions about background, values, and boundaries.

❗️Prayer, fasting, and studying God’s Word together.

❗️Agreement on issues like finances, $ex, children, ministry, and more.

Courtship is not a time to cuddle and go on endless dates.

It is a time to discern, discover, discuss, and decide.

Final Thoughts for Singles:

Don’t chase a fast wedding; pursue a solid foundation.

A one-month courtship can c0st you a lifetime of regret.

A 10-year relationship doesn’t guarantee success either. It’s not just about time—it’s about truth, trust, and preparation.

Spend more time praying, learning, and growing—before and during courtship.

Marriage is not for the unprepared.
Courtship is for the mature.

🙏🏽 May God grant you wisdom, clarity, and success in your marital journey

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Good morning everyone

*Why Do People Who Care a lot get hurt the most*

Get answered today, and know where to change and where to improve on during your association with people!!!

*Part 1 .*

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Caring individuals might get hurt due to their vulnerability, empathy, high expectations, and selflessness. These traits can make them more sensitive to others' emotions and experiences.

Let's dive deeper into why caring people might get hurt:

*Vulnerability*:

1. *Openness*: Caring people tend to be open and receptive to others, which can make them more vulnerable to emotional pain.
2. *Trust*: They often trust others easily, which can lead to hurt when that trust is broken.
3. *Emotional investment*: Caring individuals invest emotionally in relationships, making them more susceptible to emotional hurt.

*Empathy*:

1. *Feeling others' pain*: Caring people can deeply feel others' emotions, including pain and suffering.
2. *Compassion fatigue*: Constantly empathizing with others can lead to emotional exhaustion.
3. *Blurred boundaries*: Empathetic individuals might struggle to set boundaries, leading to emotional overload.

*High expectations*:

1. *Idealism*: Caring people often have high ideals about relationships and people.
2. *Disappointment*: When reality doesn't meet these expectations, they might feel disappointed or hurt.
3. *Self-blame*: They might blame themselves for not meeting their own expectations.

*Selflessness*:

1. *Prioritizing others*: Caring individuals often prioritize others' needs over their own.
2. *Burnout*: Constantly putting others first can lead to emotional burnout.
3. *Lack of self-care*: Neglecting their own needs can make them more vulnerable to hurt.

These factors can contribute to caring people getting hurt. However, it's essential to remember that being caring and empathetic are valuable traits that can also bring great rewards and connections.

*Part 2*

*Why do good People marry "bad" ones:*

1. *Attraction to confidence*: Good men or women might be drawn to confident, outgoing partners, even if they have a "bad" reputation.
2. *Desire to help or fix*: Some good men may feel a strong desire to help or fix someone they perceive as needing care or support.
3. *Unconscious patterns*: Unconscious patterns or past experiences might lead good men to seek out relationships with women who fit a certain pattern, even if it's not healthy.
4. *Complexity of human relationships*: Relationships involve many factors, and individuals can be complex and multifaceted.

*Part 3*

Here are some strategies for caring people to minimize hurt and disappointment:

*Set boundaries*:

1. *Learn to say no*: Establish healthy limits to protect your emotional energy.
2. *Prioritize self-care*: Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul.
3. *Communicate needs*: Express your expectations and needs clearly to others.

*Practice self-awareness*:

1. *Recognize patterns*: Identify situations or people that consistently lead to hurt or disappointment.
2. *Understand your emotions*: Develop emotional intelligence to better navigate complex feelings.
3. *Develop self-compassion*: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding when faced with challenges.

*Cultivate healthy relationships*:

1. *Surround yourself with positivity*: Spend time with people who support and uplift you.
2. *Foster mutual respect*: Build relationships based on mutual understanding, trust, and respect.
3. *Let go of toxic relationships*: Distance yourself from people who consistently cause harm or stress.

*Manage expectations*:

1. *Be realistic*: Understand that people and relationships are imperfect.
2. *Focus on the present*: Appreciate the current moment and don't overemphasize future expectations.
3. *Practice gratitude*: Focus on the positive aspects of your relationships and life.

*Develop emotional resilience*:

1. *Learn from experiences*: Grow from challenges and use them as opportunities for personal growth.
2. *Practice mindfulness*: Stay present and focused on the current moment.
3. *Seek support*: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or professionals when needed.

By implementing these strategies, caring people can reduce their risk of getting hurt and cultivate more fulfilling relationships.

Hope now you understand where to work on dear and create your own peace.


Thank you for reading but learn!🙏🏽

*CHILD DISCIPLINE*

There is a big lie going around today.Some parents say, “I don’t want my child to suffer like I did.”They say it with pride.They think it sounds like love.But they don’t know they are slowly destroying that child.

Because of that mindset, they refuse to correct the child.They don’t give the child chores.They don’t say “No.”They don’t allow the child to face consequences.
They say, “Let him rest, he’s just a child.”They say, “Let her enjoy life, she’s still young.”But they are not helping that child.
They are damaging the child.

If your child cannot sweep the house, how will they keep their own home clean tomorrow?If your child cannot wash plate, how will they survive when they leave your house?If your child cannot say “Good morning” to elders, how will they work with people in the office?
If your child cannot accept correction, how will they handle marriage or leadership?

The world is tough.Life is not always sweet.You will not always get what you want.
There will be days of pain.
There will be days of rejection.There will be moments of “No.”

So if your child cannot hear “No” now, what will happen when life says “No” to them tomorrow?They will break.They will fall.They will run away.Some will even commit suicide because they were never taught how to handle pressure.

Discipline is not wickedness.Correction is not hate.Chores are not punishment.They are training.They are tools.
They are preparation for life.

Your child must know how to clean, how to greet, how to wait, how to apologize, how to handle anger, how to respect people, and how to do hard things without complaining.

Don't make your child soft in the name of love.
Don't make your child lazy in the name of protection.
Don't remove discipline and expect them to succeed.
Don't raise them like kings and queens with no wisdom.

One day, you will grow old.
You will need your child to stand strong.
But if you didn’t train them, they will fall.
And both of you will suffer for it.

So stop saying, “I don’t want my child to suffer like I did.”
Let your new statement be, “I want my child to be stronger than I was.”
And that strength must start with discipline.
It must start with training.
It must start with responsibility.
It must start with you.