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TYPES OF WOMEN.

By Mr VIDAMBU Sam.

So many men see a Lady, like her, love and want to marry her without trying to find out what type of Lady she is and if she's the type they want to go down the high with. Beauty doesn't make a Lady, personality does and Ladies have so amazing personalities if only you can get to understand your Lady and she's the perfect match for your person, not a perfect Lady. There is no perfect human being.

There are different types of Ladies out there. We encounter them every day but pay little or no attention to their persons because we get carried away with their beauty, shapes, accents and worth. Sir, stop being distracted, stay focused.

In this article, I'm going to share with us, the types of women we encounter now and then so that we can have a better understanding of whom we are dealing with at the time.

Please, note that the level of religion your Lady operates in doesn't change or affect her personality. Men change spiritually, women don't because they are spiritually made and can operate simultaneously both spiritually and physically unlike men who are physically made.

1.FAMILY LADY.
This kind of woman is very emotional. She is very attached to every member of her family. You will come to identify her if she keeps on telling you about her cousins or relatives people you never met; on your date nights. They take a firm stand on political and equality issues. Pick your discussion topics very wisely.

2.MOMMY LADY.
You will not recognize her instantly. This kind of woman possesses motherly instincts that come out during the delicate or sensitive stages of your life. They are genuinely caring in nature. If you miss texting or calling her after reaching home, expect a minimum of Ten missed calls waiting for you. If you get a minor paper cut, she’ll appear with substantial first aid. A sneeze can end up with a thermometer in your mouth and at least three days of rest!

3.HUSTLER.
This kind of woman is very hard-working by nature. Her priority will always be her dreams. Don’t misjudge/doubt or condemn her if she cancels the date for any assignment/work. You may raise your expectations, but in reality, be mentally prepared to support her career decisions. You may wish to help her in any way possible, but this kind of woman prefers playing their game independently.

4.GOSSIP LADY.
This type of lady is Google in human skin. They usually have a record of everyone and everything including you. You may find it difficult at times when you want to have some deep, meaningful conversation, but on days when you want something to cheer up your mood, her enthusiastic voice would be enough.

5.THE LISTENER.
This is the favourite type for the majority of men in the world. She’ll always be there to listen to you without any judgment or interruption. She is the silent observer kind. These kinds of women are introverts or ambiverts. She takes her own time to open up to you. Once found, she’ll be your first go-to person whenever you are feeling low and just need someone to listen to you.

6.SUPER LADY.
These women are an upgraded version of the hustler types. They do work hard and no matter what they are going through physically, emotionally, mentally or financially they will never let you know. They are emotionally convincing. They hardly lose their calm during the emergency. They are experts in multi-tasking and hiding their emotions. If you have found someone of this kind, then you need to be very careful about your actions because no matter how strong they are, they also need someone to look after them.

7.Ms PERFECTIONIST.
A woman with all positive habits. Disciplined life, clean home, hygienic environment, healthy eating habits and, focused on goals. You are making the wrong choice if you are exactly opposite to her. Compatibility is going to be a significant issue. But if you are looking to improve your current lifestyle, then this kind of woman is your best choice.

8.PANDA LADY.
She is a cute, lazy, sloth bear who can be your great partner in crime to hang out with. Your weekends will never be the same after you have found her. Get ready for disappeared hoodies, unlimited pizza deliveries, and binge-watching during the weekends. If you are too lucky, then she will also be your video game and watching a football match partner.

9.BOSS LADY.
The dominating ones. The Ms. Always Right. If you are in a relationship with her, be ready to change your schedules, according to her. And of course! Never dare to end up with any kind of disagreement with her. However, if you are someone who has lost track in life, nobody is better than her to help you get back to find yourself. She may appear like the most aggressive one but stick to her till the end, and you may discover amazing facts about her that nobody else knows.

10. DRAMA QUEEN.
This type of lady is the one who will exaggerate the given situation. Be sure that you won’t be allowed to spend much of your time with friends or relatives. Forget about talking to other girls. Most of your time is spent in shopping malls or wiping her tears. No matter how much possessive she is for you, this action will make you adore her even more.

11. PARTY LADY.
This is the type of woman who can make you feel insecure if your personality is not understanding types, then she is the one. She spends most of her weekends at the disco parties. She’s the kind who will make time for you according to her mood. Be prepared for cancelled date nights. You can try to get involved in her inner circle of friends, which may take time, and you may not feel comfortable too. Anyways, stay safe.

12. FAIRYTALE LADY.
This is a Daydreamer Queen. For her, logical thinking is of the least priority. She’s the emotional kind who breaks down quickly. If she says Unicorns exist, just say yes. She still has a touch of innocence in her nature. Be there to take care of her, and she’ll treat you the same.

13.DIFFICULT LADY.
These women are ambitious and bold, adventurous and emotional, brainy and defiant, incorrigible and outlandish, determined and badass. They are about pleasing themselves as much as those around them. They don't say yes simply because it is expected of them.

14.STRONG MINDED LADY.
This is a courageous Lady, one who doesn't depend on anyone else. She knows who she is. She build herself and builds others up. She doesn't see showing emotion as a weakness. She follows her intuition and doesn't overthink everything. She is truly happy and knows what it takes to make her own happiness.

15.ELEGANT LADY.
This lady displays self-respect, class, appreciation, and etiquette. She does not allow her mood to affect her manners. She is wise to know that being an elegant lady doesn’t mean that one should be snobby or stuck up, but that one should have dignity, consideration, and moderation in one's daily actions.

No matter which kind of woman you may come across, just respect the way they are, and you will get the same treatment. And make sure, whoever you end up with, you won’t force her to change her current self.

Changing a Lady is indirectly creating a monster. You will not like the result. Your best bet is to leave her to herself. Accept her for who she is and find a means to manage her person. That is the only way you can have the best of her.

Marrying a good mother to your kids is better than marrying a good wife for yourself.

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You Are Blessed.

I have a question for you guys pls i am desperately in need of ur help and advice and i want ur answers to be sincere,honest and truthful pls.there is this guy that i knw ,he had a girlfriend that he dated and loved Dearly,but they broke up due to circumstances beyond his powers.and now he is asking me out,he told me that he likes me a whole lot,and through his actions and words i can tell that he truly cares about me.and i do love him and would love love to dare him.
So pls guys i am afriad of accepting him or acknowledging my own feelings toward me ,because a part of me thinks that he want to use me to get over his ex,now the question is
1.do u guys think that he likes me or was it just a camouflage?
2.do u guys think its sensible for me to overlook and stop thinking for a while and take the risk and date him?
3.do u guys think that indeed he want to use me to get over his ex,or do he really love me?
4.Lastly do u guys think that he just want a lady to have a fling with,and have nothing serious to do with her.
Pls guys i need ur advice desperately.

If You Make It Too Comfortable for Her to Love You—You’ll Never Know If She Does.

Because comfort hides character. And ease erases effort.

Let’s stop acting naive.

She didn’t love you.
She loved how easy it was to be with you.

You brought the car.
You picked the bills.
You paid the rent.
You moved her into the good life.

And now you’re surprised she vanished when things got hard?

She didn’t change.
You just never made her prove anything to begin with.

Because if you make it too comfortable for her to love you,
you’ll never know if she actually does.

1. You Should Have Hidden Your Hand—Not Played It All at Once

You showed her your wallet before you saw her heart.
You revealed your status before you saw her substance.

You led with lifestyle, not leadership.
You were busy trying to win her… while she was watching if someone better was coming.

You didn’t date her.
You sponsored her.

And when the lifestyle paused,
so did the affection.

2. Every Woman Is Sweet in Soft Life—Wait Until the Pressure Hits

She cooked.
She cleaned.
She moaned like a lovebird.
But that was before rent was due, and your business dipped.

Now she sighs every time you talk.
Now “you’ve changed.”
Now she “needs space.”

She didn’t lose feelings.
She lost benefits.

She was never tested, never strained, never asked to choose you without comfort.
So when real life entered—she exited.

3. If You Want Loyalty, Create Conditions That Reveal It

Say no.
Delay gratification.
Hold back your resources.
Slow down the rewards.

Let her meet the man—not the gifts.
Let her see the work—not just the wins.

If she only claps when you’re balling,
she’s not your wife.
She’s your fan.

And fans don’t stay when the performance ends.

4. You’re Playing by the Heart—She’s Learning from the Pros

You’re out here thinking,
“If I love her enough, she’ll stay.”

But she’s studying the algorithm.
Learning from TikTok therapists, divorced aunties, and girls who say:
“Never settle.”
“If he slips—dip.”
“Upgrade, don’t wait.”

You’re loving from the chest.
She’s planning with her checklist.

You’re thinking about forever.
She’s thinking about her next option.

You’re loyal.
She’s strategic.

And if you pause, she’ll replace you—before you even finish explaining yourself.

5. The Substitute Strategy Works Because Every New Man Overperforms

She knows:
Every new man starts with his best self.
New man = new effort = new benefits.

So why should she struggle with a man in “grind mode”
when a fresh suitor is flying her out by Thursday?

Why endure…
when substitution brings faster results?

She’s not in it for the process.
She’s in it for the payoff.

6. Her Circle Is the Whispering Wind Behind the Exit

You think she’s just “overthinking.”
No, she’s being influenced.

By friends who already left.
By single mothers who want her free.
By social media stars who preach quitting over building.

“Girl, you too fine to be suffering.”
“He’s not your only option.”
“You deserve soft life.”

Now your hard-working hands look like punishment.
Your discipline looks like control.
Your vision feels like a burden.

She’s no longer yours—
she’s theirs.

7. Her Loyalty Is Built on Lifestyle, Not Love

You gave her the best.
Now she can’t even manage the average.

You brought her up from struggle—
Now she calls that struggle “toxic.”

You turned her life around—
Now she sees you as the bare minimum.

She never wanted to grow with you.
She just wanted to benefit from your elevation.

And once the stream dries up,
so does the “I love you.”

8. She Doesn’t Want the Builder—She Wants the Finished Product

She’s not waiting for the house to be complete.
She wants the mansion, furnished, scented, and photo-ready.

If your money isn’t loud,
if your life isn’t soft,
if your timing isn’t perfect—

She’s gone.

And when you finally make it,
she’ll return as a “changed woman.”

But brother, don’t fall for the remix of what already failed the first audition.

Final Truth: You Thought You Were Her Blessing—She Saw You as a Bridge

You gave her ease.
She gave you attitude.
You gave her stability.
She gave you silence.

Because you made it too easy.
Too sweet.
Too convenient.

And in a world where options are endless,
easy love is easily replaced.

Final Word to Men:

Discipline yourself.
Slow down your yes.
Don’t offer the palace before you test the peasant.

Make her show up when the lights are off.
Make her prove herself when there’s nothing to post.
Make her stay when the world says she should leave.

Because if she can’t endure pressure,
she doesn’t deserve the palace.

And if she’s only sweet when it’s easy,
she’s a luxury guest—not a life partner.

Let the comments fly.
We’ve all got a story.

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#SacrificeVsSubstitute
#ModernWomen
#BuildSmart

A Child is Gone—Because of a Phone.

I saw on CNN, A boy left home in anger because his parents seized his phone. He never returned. He died.

Pause and let that sink in.

A life is lost, a family is shattered, and all of us as parents are left asking—where do we draw the line?

Smartphones have become the heartbeat of this generation. To our children, a phone is more than just a device; it’s their connection to the world, their friendships, their entertainment, and even their safe space. But what happens when that connection is cut off abruptly? When they feel unheard? When the device they hold so dear is suddenly taken away, leaving them feeling powerless?

We grew up in a different time. No phones, no social media, no constant digital stimulation. But our children are growing up in an era where their entire world revolves around a screen. We may not always understand it, but we cannot ignore it.

So, What Do We Do?

1️⃣ Start with Conversations, Not Confiscation
Before you snatch that phone in frustration, pause. Talk. Help them understand why limits are necessary. Explain with love, not just authority.

2️⃣ Set Boundaries Early
Let phone use come with clear rules—when, how, and for what purpose. It should never be an all-access pass to addiction.

3️⃣ Build Emotional Intelligence
A child who understands emotions can manage disappointment better. Let’s raise children who can handle “no” without breaking.

4️⃣ Stay Connected Beyond the Screen
If the only thing keeping your child engaged is a phone, then we have work to do. Let’s be intentional about bonding beyond technology.

5️⃣ Teach Them That a Phone is a Tool, Not Their Identity
We must help our children understand that their worth is not tied to a device. Their voice matters with or without Wi-Fi.

This is More Than Just About Phones…

This is about our children’s mental health. About the fragile emotions they don’t always know how to express. About making sure they feel seen, heard, and valued—not just when they have a phone in hand, but always.

A child is gone, and we cannot afford to look away.

Parents, #GADA let’s talk.
What age did you or will give your kids a little hone and for those who have, How do you handle phone conflicts in your home? Let’s learn from each other.

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25 THINGS A WOMAN SHOULD SAY TO HER HUSBAND WITHOUT FEELING SHY.

1. Honey, let's make love...
2. Here are my free days...ovulation days...We can have r@w sex as much as possible on days I'm free without getting pregnant (if you are using natural family planning method).
3. I need more money...
4. I don't like the way you chat with your ex...
5. I just sent some money to your account for you to enjoy yourself this weekend...
6. Pray for me...
7. Send more money to your mum...
8. I'm not comfortable with the way you touch ladies/give them too much attention...
9. Let's pray over this...
10. Kiss me...
11. I love how you make love to me....
12. I love your p£nis...
13. You are so handsome...
14. Thanks for working hard to take care if us...
15. Your sacrifice for our well being is beyond measure...you always amaze me...
16. Your sexy body turns me on...
17. You are such a man of wisdom! The Solomon of my life...
18. I love you...
19. Can you please, help me wash my panties...(when you are sick, tired, stressed and has no one else to help)
20. Thank you for asking me to marry you...
21. No man can ever catch my attention as you do...
22. You are the best of all male species the good Lord ever created...
23. You rock my world...
24. God bless your mother for giving birth to such a great man like you...
25. I love your mum...

And many more!

Why do some women find it difficult saying these to their husband's?

"So, there's this neighbor of mine, a single mom of a little boy of 4 years. She moved in about 2 months ago when our former tenant moved out.

A very tall, slim, brown-skinned girl, very beautiful. But Most times, I sit & wonder why I haven't seen her with a man since she moved in, which has made me conclude that she's single. Which is exactly the problem I'm having with this lady - I see her more like a threat to my loving marriage.

I'm a housewife & currently a breastfeeding mother. My husband & i been married for 9 yrs now. We have 4 beautiful daughters, aged 8, 6, 4, and 6 months old. Even though my husband loves his girls so much, but deep down, I feel like he wants a son & regrets having only girls. Coz most often, I see the way he plays with our neighbor's 4-year-old son, & honestly it annoys me.

I've never seen my husband so happy & excited when playing with our daughters, especially the way he looks when playing football in the compound with the little boy. My husband also started a new habit of buying gifts alongside the boy's when buying for my daughters. At times, he'll even carry the boy along with my daughters to drop them off for school on his way to work.

I feel like there's more to it than us just being neighbors. Come to think of it, why would a woman of about 30 with a good job still be single? I got married at just 23, but at her age, she's already too old for marriage, yet she's still single, doing nothing about it, & worse, not even seeming worried. Is this normal!?

This makes me feel like there's something going on between her & my man, though I haven't caught them yet. But I feel uncomfortable with her presence in the compound. All these have made me generate so much hatred for her 4-year-old son.

Can you imagine, she wanted to get a driver for her son since she's often busy at work, but my husband refused & asked her not to bother. He offered to help her always pick up the boy together with our children from school since they attend the same school, coincidentally, it's also the time he closes from work.

Most times, the boy has to stay at my place while waiting for her mom to return, as she always does about an hour after my husband brings them home. So each time, I give my children food, when they return from school. I sit back & watch how the boy is swallowing saliva looking hungry & watching them eat. I always warn my kids not to share anything with him. And any of them who tries it always gets flogged, so now they're used to it & have learned not to share anything with the little boy.

The other day, my husband noticed the boy hadn't eaten & asked me why I hadn't given him food. I told him I didn't have enough food to fit an extra mouth, & he got angry, took the boy out, & bought him food. We even had issues over the matter, & my own husband started giving me the silent treatment for almost 2 days because of the same little boy. Even though I apologized, it also made me develop even more hatred for the boy. Because he has started causing problems in my marriage already barley 2 months in the compound.

Now, even when I give him food, I make sure that I mix it with my 6-month-old daughter's pøøp & watch him eat. This is the only way that I feel relieved & calm when he's eating food that I've sweated in the kitchen to prepare. All 3 of our other tenants are married, except for the single mom who moved in only with her 4-year-old son. I'm disturbed, & I'm no longer happy in my home. Any woman in my shoes will feel the same way..

For the past 9 years since we got married, my husband has been a sweet, loving, & gentle man. He takes good care of me & my family & even sponsors 3 of my siblings to school. i just can't afford to loose him. Honestly, i never knew a time would come when I'll be feeling this worried over the stability of my marriage"

Who told you that you can’t abstain from s3x before marriage

By God’s Grace, I and my wife courted for 4 years and never had s3x until after our wedding.

The notion that once you’re in a committed relationship SEX IS NORMAL is totally erroneous

Let’s be clear : Sex before marriage is not FUN but FORNICATION.

You can love someone deeply, be strongly attracted to them, and still honour God with your body. Purity is possible, even in this generation.

Here are 6 biblical and practical ways to abstain from sex before marriage:

1. Set Clear Boundaries from Day One

Don’t leave things to chance. Define what’s acceptable and what’s not. Avoid places, times, and behaviors that fuel temptation.
“Flee the evil desires of youth…” — 2 Timothy 2:22

2. Choose a Partner Who Shares Your Values

It’s easier to stay pure when your partner also desires purity. If they’re pressuring you, they’re not protecting you. A brother or sister who sees nothing wrong in fornication will definitely pressure you into it.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” — Amos 3:3

3. Avoid Private and Compromising Situations

Being alone behind closed doors is a setup for sin. Meet in public places or around trusted people.
“Make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” — Romans 13:14

4. Make the Relationship Spiritual, Not Just Emotional

Pray together, study the Word together, and talk about purpose—not just feelings. This keeps your connection rooted in God.
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” — Psalm 119:9

5. Seek Accountability and Counseling When Needed

Don’t walk the journey alone. Be accountable to a godly mentor or couple who will check in and support your commitment to purity.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” — Proverbs 15:22

6. What if you have fallen before?

“My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.”
‭‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭1‬ ‭

In the occasion of sin, quickly repent and run to Jesus. He will forgive you and ensure you follow the first 5 principles, so you don’t return back to your vomit.
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Who told you that you can’t abstain from s3x before marriage

By God’s Grace, I and my wife courted for 4 years and never had s3x until after our wedding.

The notion that once you’re in a committed relationship SEX IS NORMAL is totally erroneous

Let’s be clear : Sex before marriage is not FUN but FORNICATION.

You can love someone deeply, be strongly attracted to them, and still honour God with your body. Purity is possible, even in this generation.

Here are 6 biblical and practical ways to abstain from sex before marriage:

1. Set Clear Boundaries from Day One

Don’t leave things to chance. Define what’s acceptable and what’s not. Avoid places, times, and behaviors that fuel temptation.
“Flee the evil desires of youth…” — 2 Timothy 2:22

2. Choose a Partner Who Shares Your Values

It’s easier to stay pure when your partner also desires purity. If they’re pressuring you, they’re not protecting you. A brother or sister who sees nothing wrong in fornication will definitely pressure you into it.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” — Amos 3:3

3. Avoid Private and Compromising Situations

Being alone behind closed doors is a setup for sin. Meet in public places or around trusted people.
“Make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” — Romans 13:14

4. Make the Relationship Spiritual, Not Just Emotional

Pray together, study the Word together, and talk about purpose—not just feelings. This keeps your connection rooted in God.
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” — Psalm 119:9

5. Seek Accountability and Counseling When Needed

Don’t walk the journey alone. Be accountable to a godly mentor or couple who will check in and support your commitment to purity.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” — Proverbs 15:22

6. What if you have fallen before?

“My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.”
‭‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭1‬ ‭

In the occasion of sin, quickly repent and run to Jesus. He will forgive you and ensure you follow the first 5 principles, so you don’t return back to your vomit.

I am Nicholas Michael Oriarewo
Your #relationshipcoach
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Some women will go their entire lifetime and never experience the meaning of actual true love.
It's even slightly depressing to think that most people will never understand how powerful this picture actually is.
This gentleman is a prime example of how men should be treating their partner with every day that passes.
We unfortunately live in a generation with men who have no idea what it takes to be a real man.
Let me give you a couple examples of a real man ......
A real man asks about your day and genuinely cares about the answer.
A real man respects your boundaries and never forces you to anything you're not ready to do.
He makes time for you and takes that time to learn and understand who you are as a person.
A real man consistently shows you the definition of effort with every day that passes.
He will call you randomly throughout the day just to check on you and your mental health.
A real man is undeniably committed to you and looks for new ways to fall in love with you with every day that passes.
He makes protecting your heart a number one priority.
A real man never makes permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.
He never confuses you on where you stand in his life.
A real man apologizes when he is wrong and stays true to his character.
He doesn't mind hurting other people's feeling to protect yours.
A real man gives you affection without sexual expectation.
A real man refuses to entertain any women that isn't you.
He has genuine intentions with you from day one and shows you how it truly feels to be a priority rather an option.
A real man will help you heal from the trauma that nobody apologized for.
A real man values you and would never put themselves in a position to lose you.
Take my advice and wait for the man that never let's you fall asleep at night questioning your own self-worth.
~ Cody Bret

TYPES OF MEN WOMEN NEVER LEAVES

1. A man who doesn’t give a f*ck

When you’re unbothered, she’s obsessed.

The second she realizes your world doesn’t revolve around her,

She’ll do everything to stay in your orbit.

2. A man who walks away without a second thought.

Most men beg when she pulls away.

You? You pack your sh*t and move on like she never mattered.

That’s when she comes running back, crying about “missing you.”

3. A man who treats her like an option.

The guys who act like kings never chase.

You text her back when you feel like it, take her out when you want,

And she starts trying harder to “prove herself” to you.

4. A man who keeps other women in her face.

She’ll cry, throw fits, and call you a “player,

But if she knows other women want you,

She’ll never let you go—she’ll just fight harder for your attention.

5. A man who checks her disloyalty the moment it happens.

She flirts with some dude at the bar? You walk out without a word.

She hides her phone? You cut her off for 3 days.

She fears losing you more than she loves testing you.

6. A man who treats her feelings like a suggestion, not a command.

She cries about something dumb, and you say, “That’s life, babe.”

She throws a tantrum, and you shrug.

She stays because women love men who won’t bend to their bullsh*t.

7. A man who never makes her the center of his world.

You’ve got a grind, a mission, a life that doesn’t revolve around her.

She sees your ambition and knows she’ll never find another man like you.

She clings harder because she knows you’re going places: with or without her.

8. A man who keeps her guessing.

You’re unpredictable, and she never knows what you’ll say, do, or feel next.

Women don’t leave excitement, they leave routine.

Stay ahead of her mind games by keeping her on her toes.

9. A man who doesn’t tolerate her fcking bullsht.

She tries to guilt trip you? You laugh and say, “Not happening.”

She threatens to leave? You open the door.

Women crave boundaries from men who won’t fold.

10. A man who’s always ready to replace her.

You know your worth, so if she steps out of line,

You’re already mentally moving on to the next girl.

That unshakable confidence keeps her locked in and terrified of losing you.

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