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HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.

By the constitution, I had to inaugurate or prorogue the National Assembly on June 4 1999. The most important officer in the National Assembly is the Senate President and that office had been zoned to the South East. And here was where Atiku Abubakar, my Vice President, first showed his hand and his character.

Without seeking my view or approval, he started planning the installation of Chuba Okadigbo as the Senate President. I did a background check on Chuba including his past as a student and made enquiries about hin in the National Party of Nigeria (NPN) under Shagari and no one would recommend him for the post of Senate President.

I left Atiku to go on his chase while I carried out a meticulous and detailed investigation and background check on each Senator from the South East. The one that appeared most appointable was Evan Enwerem.

I canvassed the Senate across the board for his election and he was elected. Atiku did not expect it and he felt sore. He bagan to strategise for Enwerem to be removed and Chuba Okadigbo to be installed.

His strategy worked because I was at Abuja airport to receive a visiting Head of State when news reached me that the Senate had mpeached Enwerem and elected Okadigbo.

I was not perturbed. I came to understand from some Senators including Florence Ita Giwa, who later became my Special Adviser/Liaison Officer to the National Assembly, that Atiku distributed US$5,000 each to some Senators to carry out the "coup".

That was the beginning of bribing the legislature to carry out a particular line of action to suit or satisfy the purpose or desire of an individual or group. The National Assembly had tasted blood and they would continue to want more.

From the day I nominated Atiku to be my Vice; he set his mind not for any good, benefit or service of the country, but on furiously planning to upstage, supplant or remove me at all costs and to take my place. That was what I brought him for, but he was impatient and over ambitious. He was not ready to learn and to wait. Pity!

His marabout, who predicted that despite being elected as Governor, he would not be sworn in as a Governor, which happened, also assured him that he would take over from me in a matter of months rather than years.

All his plans, appointments of people and his actions were towards actualusation of his marabout's prediction. Once, I realised his intention and programme, I watched him like a hawk without giving any indication of what I knew and letting down my guard.

I could not succumb to the distraction, diversion and malevolence of an ambitious but unwise deputy.

SOURCE : MY WATCH, VOLUME 2 BY EX PRESIDENT OLUSEGUN OBASANJO

B. R. E A. K. I. N. G. N.E.W.S

SENATOR SERIAKE DICKSON THROWS HIS WEIGHT BEHIND SENATOR NATASHA AKPOTI-UDUAGHAN'S REINSTATEMENT.

The Senator representing Bayelsa West, Senator Seriake Dickson, has thrown his weight behind the return of Senator Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan (Kogi Central) to the Senate following a court judgment that nullified her six-month suspension.

Dickson gave his position while addressing journalists in Abuja on Saturday.

The former Bayelsa State governor said he had never supported prolonged suspensions of lawmakers, stressing that such actions run contrary to constitutional principles and legislative ethics.

Dickson said, “I sympathize with Natasha. I have never been in support of any parliamentary body suspending members for long periods.

“The Senate leadership and my colleagues know my position on this, anchored on the law, the constitution, and my conviction.

“Senators are here to agree and disagree in the national interest. So, we have to tolerate and respect one another, even when we differ in opinion.”

Dickson emphasized the need for Akpoti-Uduaghan to resume her duties without further delay, insisting that her voice and representation are vital to the legislative process.

“I was not present when her suspension was announced, but that is not my concern. My interest is that she resumes her seat and continues to perform her constitutional responsibilities.

“I understand the court has already made a decision on the matter,” he added.

Two weeks ago, the Federal High Court in Abuja declared Senator Akpoti-Uduaghan’s suspension by the Senate as unconstitutional, excessive, and a violation of the rights of her constituents.

Justice Binta Nyako, in a ruling, ordered her immediate reinstatement and awarded a ₦5m fine against her for contempt, relating to a satirical Facebook post that breached a court order issued on March 4, 2025.

The post, which appeared to mock Senate President Godswill Akpabio, was ruled to have violated an interim injunction.

Nonetheless, the court ruled that the Senate’s action in suspending her for six months was beyond its constitutional powers.

COPIED FROM: THE PUNCH NEWSPAPERS.
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Senator Dickson is a truthful leader. Other leaders should as a matter of fact emulate him. More power to your elbow sir.

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Unpaid Allowances Concerns Revealed As Super Falcons’ Continue WAFCON Campaign

The Super Falcons have qualified for their final group match at the 2024 Women’s Africa Cup of Nations with maximum points, but once again, unpaid bonuses and allowances have raised concerns and affected preparations.

Despite their strong performance on the pitch, reports show that the Nigeria Football Federation (NFF) is yet to settle outstanding payments owed to the players. These include match bonuses, training camp allowances, and other entitlements dating as far back as 2021.

During a press session in Casablanca on Saturday, journalist Osasu Obayiuwana asked NFF President, Ibrahim Musa Gusau, if the players were receiving their payments during the tournament. Gusau replied:

“We are in talks with the federal government of Nigeria. I’m confident that all money due to the players will be released soon. For now, we are giving daily allowances while we wait for funds. I can assure you that all payments will be made before the end of the tournament.”

However, when asked if debts from earlier years had been cleared, Gusau said only a small amount remained unpaid and denied that the issue went back to 2021.

But documents obtained by Obayiuwana from sources close to the team reveal a different story. The breakdown shows that each player is owed over $13,600 and ₦10,000, covering various tournaments from 2021 to 2023.


“Same Promises Every Time”

When asked if the NFF’s promise to settle all WAFCON payments before the tournament ends could be trusted, Super Falcons midfielder Jennifer Echegini remained calm, saying the team was focused on winning, not the money.

Still, fans and analysts recall how the Falcons boycotted training ahead of the third-place match against Zambia in the 2022 WAFCON, also held in Morocco, due to similar unpaid entitlements

The Super Falcons will play Algeria tonight in Casablanca in a top-of-the-table clash in Group B, hoping to keep their winning momentum despite the growing financial concerns behind the scenes.
Wish the super falcons luck today.

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12th July 2025

Temperatures are forecast to increase across the UK over the next few days - reaching above the official heatwave threshold in some places for the third time this year

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Temperatures are forecast to increase across the UK over the next few days - reaching above the official heatwave threshold in some places for the third time this year

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